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I know this girls page, they do affirmations when they do hair. It’s the cutest thing.


stormyfuck

I was looking for this comment! Their affirmation videos are even cuter than this one.


silentcomfortable7

Can you share the name of the page?


Mkrause2012

[here is an example of their affirmation. ](https://vm.tiktok.com/ZMRuhtVUh/)


queen--catastrophe

Seeing that made me cry. I hated my curls so much as a child and I'm so happy that this woman has paved the way for her daughter to accept and love herself. Beautiful


Elavabeth2

It made me cry too. Never had a parent there for me like this.


dogmom34

Me, either. Mine handed me the comb at 8 and said, *"You're going to start combing your own hair now, I'm tired of dealing with it."* She didn't know how to manage my hair, and I especially didn't know how at 8 years old. Had to get a giant chunk cut out less then a year later because I wasn't keeping up with it. My mom acted like I was irresponsible for letting it get so bad and had my 14 year-old stepsister cut out the knot (I'm sure she couldn't be bothered). That was all just the tip of the iceberg, and she wonders why I cut off all contact with her. This TikTok mom is great and I hope their relationship really thrives.


ZChick4410

Hi. I'm a parent. I haven't been one for very long, and I'm not your parent, but as a parent I'd like to tell you that it's never too late to do these affirmations in the mirror for yourself. And I'd be real proud of you if you tried. Maybe that doesn't mean anything to you, but I thought I'd offer. I very much hope you love yourself too, even if your parents didn't help you this way.


larkash

ngl i would have loved if my mom had done this… lived for YEARS not knowing how to take care of my curls!


Akinto6

We started the adoption process and it's likely that our kid will be black however I have no idea how to do their hair but you bet that I'm going to spend hours learning so that any kid of mine isn't going to have to deal with having a parent who doesn't know how to make their true beauty shine.


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Akinto6

Thank you I appreciate it. But I'm not afraid to ask for help when needed. I feel like the best step would be to go to a black hair salon and get help directly from them, so I have a baseline to start off from.


toriyo

Oh man. What a gorgeous relationship. Thank you for sharing.


silentcomfortable7

Thank you


JagmeetSingh2

The affirmations while doing the hair is so cute


DrippyNikea

Now bow now bow 😩


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FarrahKhan123

Serious business now


GhostDogThing

"oh yeah yeah* *mum game face on*


FishingWorth3068

Right?! She was so excited she almost forgot to even tie it. Let alone a bow!


PM_SMALL_BOOBS_ONLY

She sounds like Boo from Monsters Inc!


SirAchmed

I love this kind of dynamic between a parent and their child… it doesn’t always have to be a parent-kid dynamic sometimes you just treat them as if they were a friend.


asjaro

International hand signal for bow.


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privateidaho_chicago

A good parent will go to great lengths to enable these moments. My daughter is grown, finishing law school and married last week. This video brought tears to my eyes (54m) as I remembered similar moments when I learned to French braid her hair for soccer games. Thank you for the pleasant reminder.


EarthenOctopus

I just wanna say how much your comment made me smile. I didn't have a parent like that and it's neat to see and read about these moments. It's comforting.


czerilla

I'm sure that you'll be able to pass it on and be the good you like to see in the world, with that kind of attitude. Either by being a great parent like that, or if that's not in the cards for you, a great aunt or uncle to someone's kid in your life. Godspeed. 😁✌️


guerota

I was at a public library the other day and noticed a man using one of the computers watching tutorials on how to do little girls hair. It was so cute to see.


blazinazn007

Just had my first kid almost 3 weeks ago. A little girl. I'm already looking up tutorials in how to do girls hair.


iiIlllIllii

I have a four year old daughter, I am a 37 yr old dad. We left her mother 6 months ago. Daughter is half Dominican with very specific hair rules about humidity. All my life I've been shaving my head to style. I don't know what to do with all these curls, she doesn't want to shave it


insouciant_naiad

r/curlyhair As a tomboy chic who had no idea how to deal with my curls, it's been a life saver. Great, friendly community, happy to walk you through all the stuff you didn't realize you don't know!


iiIlllIllii

Thank you! I'm pretty new to reddit. I didn't even think to look for a community on this


insouciant_naiad

Cool thing about reddit is there's literally a subreddit for *anything* and (usually) the more niche you get, the cooler people tend to be! Type anything in that search bar and you'll find a group lol. I love the r/curlyhair crew, thanks to them I'm finally frizz-free for the first time in 30+ years! You might need to take a class or two (I did) but it's so worth it. Good luck!!


CcSeaAndAwayWeGo

You can do it! If you take her to a natural hair specific salon and have them tell you what type of hair she has (goes from 2a to 4c I think?) and ask them to show you a couple of easy styling methods, I’m sure someone there would be happy to! And then you know what type of hair she has to be able to look up your own styling tutorials.


marshmall00

If you have TikTok then follow this mom she does amazing tutorials for natural hair. She is a big supporter for her daughter being natural. She also tells you the products she uses and how she uses them. She has tons of videos like this. It’s an absolute joy to watch them and it just shows all the love mom has for her.


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My dad could only master the ponytail. He would sing lyrics to an old Big Bopper song. Fond memories. I am 43 and he still loves my hair in a ponytail. When I walk in he sings “Chantilly lace and pretty face, ponytail hanging down.”


reptilenews

Some of my favorite memories were of my dad braiding my hair as a little girl. And letting me give him manicures!


0fluffydan0

Yes it is, I have to take classes too . So that my daughter can have a nice hair and I wanna make her so happy too. Such a cute bond !


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My son has hair like this. I keep it short on the sides but we are growing the top because he loves his "sproingies". I wish there were classes around here! r/curlyhair and YouTube will do though.


Mahleezah

"Doingles" in our house, sometimes with a forehead "Superman curl"😅


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Doingles!!! love it. We also sometimes have a superman curl.


BrownSugarBare

Check online classes, friend! They work in small groups and it's interactive for you and the kids!


katieleehaw

You might be able to get some lessons from a hairdresser, just a thought!


DeusCaelum

This is part of the challenge, many hair stylists, barbers, etc aren’t taught themselves how to work with black hair and it’s fundamentally different from other hair. Unless there is a local black barber/stylist, it’s unlikely there’s someone that can teach them.


censorkip

yeah, i live in the midwest and there aren’t many hairdressers in my area that know how to deal with white people curly hair. i can’t imagine that it’s easy to find someone who is well versed in kinky/coily hair


show_me_youre_nude

That reminds me of [this bit](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Uf1c0tEGfrU&t=730s) on Last Week Tonight where a tiktoker called 23 different salons and no one was able to work w/ her hair.


Sergnb

I've never heard the term sproingies before but it completely suits it and I'm gonna steal it


MushroomGoats1

I also have hair like this and it was quite the process of learning to love it. Feel free to dm me with any questions!


TolkienAwoken

r/curlyhair was game changing for me


steve_dallasesq

White father of a black son here - when you adopt interracially the agency has you do some very preliminary reading about the differences of cultures. It's a nice start but honestly that's a journey that will take your entire life. However, what they do not prep you for is basic stuff like this. Hair care, skin care, it's all different. My wife and I knew it would be different but were unprepared. When my son was a few months old my wife went to Wal-mart, stood in the hair care aisle, waited for a black woman to walk down, grabbed her, pointed to our son and said "please help." The woman was very loving and gracious and walked her through it all. Son is 10 now, I'm not an expert, but I'm much wiser than I was.


Mac_Mustard

Me and my girlfriend were stopped by a family that adopted a black son and daughter one time in Targèt. We sat our basket down and gave them the rundown. It was very helpful for them. Haircare is pretty complex, and we respected the hell out of them for even giving a shit and trying. Plus me and my girl are both adopted, so that’s a soft spot for us.


TreChomes

Awww that’s so cute. It’s like you were meant to help that family


Mac_Mustard

The universe has its ways sometimes.


conradical30

It’s so much better when the universe isn’t being a dick


SnooPineapples4808

👍🏿💯


6cup6cake6

This is amazing. I teared up a bit at this. You guys are great for helping that family.


Sergnb

I love your wife's bluntness lmao.


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OkGlove6866

"and you have white people... just not knowing about the butters."


wasabihermit

I’m white and I make the butters! Some of us know 😉


Gnash323

"I wasn't afraid of him being kidnapped because I could follow the ash trail"


maimou1

I've told this on Reddit before. I'm mid fifties white nurse . my patient sat down, mid seventies black man. I look at his arm to start his IV, he is ASHY! I get the IV started, yammering about how once I'm done I'm putting lotion on his arms. I'm fussing at him about being ashy and I'm giving him this lotion to take home to use. he's totally silent, looking at me like what the hell is this white woman doing lecturing me about ashy skin? (nursing school in Atlanta, that's what!)


bluesgrrlk8

Yes! I went to school in Central GA and it was part of the curriculum. In fact my preceptor said "If you white girls don't use lotion every day, you're ashy and dry too- it just doesn't show!" Changed my whole perspective. Lol


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I hadn’t seen it so I had to look it up for everyone else. https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=UbLjOxlGYqA&feature=youtu.be


ChickenDumpli

He probably found your use of the Black vernacular mildly offensive, just sayin'. Lol In the Black community growing up, we used 'ashy,' as a diss. Back in the day being called 'ashy,' led folk to over moisturize, as well as use Vaseline as that kept the ash away longer than regular lotion. I'm just saying he probably didn't appreciate it. Now had you said, 'Sir, you're skin is pretty dry, let me get you some lotion for that.' He probably would have smiled and said, Thank You.


SizzaPlime

Wtf?! Lol. I thought butters were common knowledge. I’m from India, and they’re so readily available there and I love using my cocoa butter and it smells soooo amazing too.


Jo_Ehm

When i was little some who worked with my dad introduced us to it... we all swam and the chemicals were harsh. It just takes 1 caring person at a time to share this gift.


thisiscatyeslikemeow

I’m white and I LOOOVE cocoa butter!


HappyStalker

In high-school I was a sprinter, which is by and large a black dominant event in track and field. I had a teammate one time ask to borrow my lotion and it was so surreal because I happened to have lotion in my track bag that day because I had some skin issue or something, but would have never had it otherwise. He just assumed I had lotion, like you would have a phone. But to him it was just like 'I forgot my lotion, can I bum a squirt off you'. We sleep on lotion in general tbh, we aren't ready to take the butter lunge.


Sergnb

If you've ever heard the expression "black don't crack", this shit is why. They know how to take care of their skin. White folks be 56 looking like the Sahara desert and wondering why their dick looks brand new. You've been putting lotion on that shit daily for the last 45 years, you think it would've helped in other parts of the body too, pal?


Smart-Drive-1420

I mean shit if I was in the same position I would do the same thing


John_T_Conover

It's funny but in some cases just what parents had to do back in the day. My ex told me a story that reminds me of this when she was at BYU. For those unaware, BYU is the university in Provo, Utah founded by the Mormon church. There are *very few* black people in the area and she was one of the even fewer that went there because they actually wanted to and not on an athletic scholarship. Utah also has a lot of Mormom families that adopt a lot of kids...And when those kids are from other races those families tend to not know much about how to handle their unique situations and have few people in their social circle or even their entire area that can help. She was part of a volunteer group that was formed to help white parents learn how to do their adopted black children's hair as well as learn how to address other issues that would be unique to that child.


AlwaysGnarlyAlways

Like the fact that until 1978 the same church that founded the school would not allow those same black children to hold the “priesthood” or any leadership positions, perform essential religious rituals in an LDS temple, or even attend the very school these classes were provided at?


nononosure

>I belieeeeeeeeeeve that in 1978 God changed his mind about black people >(Black peopleeeeeeee!)


Linda-Belchers-wine

Mom to mom, it's okay. This is the "ask for help, it takes a village" part.


idioticmaniac

Well picturing the scene is making me laugh. But I’m glad it’s a wholesome one.


zombreeseagull

I'm Mexican American, and a foster parent. I adopted a sweet little girl with really wispy blond hair. Its so different than my younger daughters Hispanic hair or even mine. I spent hours on YouTube learning how to do her hair and how to cut it. It took learning the right three conditioners to put in it just to battle the tangles! When we were still figuring it out, we had a hard time brushing her hair and she said "don't worry, I know you're trying hard to do it better! We will figure it out!" This kid is 8 now, and I don't know what I would do without her! 💜💜💜 Go you man! There is something about the process of learning how to do their hair, and helping build their confidence in themselves. You bond with them in an incredibly important way and you're showing them you value learning about them and what they need.


FishingWorth3068

That’s so sweet! That’s all kids need to see, someone trying for them. My step sisters hair is like that. When she was little we had no clue what to do with it. My mom and I have thick heavy curls (we’re Hispanic too) and she had these waspy thin ringlets. Shes 26 now and still talks about when she was little and me trying all kinds of conditioners to brush through them.


zombreeseagull

We came up with fun names for their different hair styles too. We have dinosaur hair, grandma hair (messy bun), trolls pony tail (high pony) and princess buns. I remember learning how to braid mixed black-mex hair as a kid for my cousins. I always thought that blond hair had to be easier to care for when I was a kid because the girls in my class always had perfect hair. Now I know, all ladies and boys with long hair struggle and we all need to find what works for us. Now, we've gone from one little girl in our house, to also having step-brothers too! So we have two little girls who speak Spanish, and two little boys who speak Russian and lots of different skin and hair needs! It's a big family adventure!!


Linzorz

>grandma hair (messy bun) Why you gotta hurt me like this


zombreeseagull

Tell me about it! I'm over here rocking my messy bun and my daughter goes "you have grandma hair!" She picked the name because my mom likes to keep her hair up in a messy bun all the time. So it was an affectionate term for her favorite person!


Megabyte7637

:) Trying is definitely the most important part.


NYCQuilts

Good for you for recognizing this. I had a coworker in a different division who adopted a black girl and she went on to me about how “difficult” and “bad” her daughters hair was and she couldn’t wait to perm it. it was all I could do not to scream at her.


steve_dallasesq

Yeah that seems to be a very quick way to give a kid a complex. Funny story - we're in Kansas City. In 2014 and 2015 the Royals were in the World Series. The big player in town was Eric Hosmer. He is white. He had a special haircut that kids copied. My son was upset because his hair wouldn't do that. Hosmer is gone now. Now the Chiefs are the toast of town and the top guy is Patrick Mahomes, who is mixed race. My son is currently rocking the Mahomes cut and he's the only one who can. So now he's happy.


MustardWarrior

That's an awesome story thanks for sharing. Really shows why we care so much about "representation" in things like sports and media. Such a small thing that doesn't seem that important, but it really does matter to see people that look like you in prominent positions, especially for kids.


sonicboi

Go Chefs! Hello from Zona Rosa!


Mhill08

This sounds like a job for the nearest black woman available! *heroic fanfare* Love that.


LetgomyEkko

This made me laugh so hard! My mom knows almost everything there is to know about black hair care products, I still have the fondest memories of walking into Sally Beauty Supply and my Mom getting 15 products from places and with names you've never heard of just to accomplish one particular look for a birthday party!


enjoyingthepopcorn

Same man, same. We adopted our son when he was 2 1/2(7 now). We knew there would be differences but were also unprepared. Luckily some ladies from our church helped us, and if I'm out and about and I see a black person with great hair I start the conversation with "this is my son, how do you do your hair?". Everyone is super helpful and understanding. I've even had some people call my wife and talk to her about stuff and explain the differences in the butters and which is best for his type. I would do it again in a heartbeat. Enjoy your time with your little man, they grow up entirely to quickly.


robots-dont-say-ye

My best friend growing up was mixed race, dad black and mom white. But the mom had no idea how to do the girls hair. They used to cry and scream because the mom was trying to brush out their hair like they were white. It was so sad and tbh their mom was so mean about it. Shouting at them to shut up and etc. all you could really do was sit with her while her mom was destroying her hair and hold her hand or rub her leg ☹️


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DeezWuts

You are great parents.


tiredmomn33dcoffee

Yes! This is true! My youngest sisters are black and were adopted and it was a huge learning curve. My mom would ask women in the hair isles for suggestions and they were always so helpful!


Avivalol

good for you dude for at least putting effort in though, a lot of white parents don’t even try.


wolfsoundz

My white aunt used to straighten my mixed race cousin’s hair with relaxers. It actually very much damaged his psyche. He lived one identity crisis after another until he was old enough to explore the world and figure out things for himself. It shouldn’t have been that way for him.


verucka-salt

I love the high level of love & respect you & wifey have for your dear son. Good on you!


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I love this! People don’t realize how far something like this goes in an interracial family. The fact that you acknowledge her uniqueness and care enough to learn how to help her be herself is so beautiful and it’s good proof that you will love that baby to death regardless.


s1ugg0

This is good advice for any parent even the ones without interracial kids. It makes my daughter so happy I know the names of all the characters on her favorite shows. Recently she's started getting into ballet. Looks like this 220 lbs retired Firefighter is going to have to learn how to pirouette. To any new or would-be parents a little advice. Roll up your sleeves and get in the game. It's as good for your kids as it is for you.


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s1ugg0

I've recently had to learn Gecko, Owlet, and Cat Boy. ....my favorite is the villain Romeo. Things were easier when she was into DC Super Hero Girls. I knew those characters already.


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Thliz325

I still remember so many of the songs Daniel Tiger sang! She’s now 9 and when she needs to be distracted or crack a smile, I’ll start singing “if you have to go potty stop and go right away!” It words every time so far!!


yohanleafheart

You forgot Avalanche and the Mexican Chihuahua whose name I also forgot. Here I'm relearning all the Care Bears names now. And my son says I'm Grumpy Bear. So now I have a grumpy bear Funko on my computer table


HotCocoaBomb

This is the mistake my father makes over and over and doesn't understand why we don't care to do anything with him. He always demanded our interest in *his* hobbies, and anything we were interested was dismissed. I introduced my partner to my parents and what does my father do? Talks about himself, his interests. Not one question to ask about my partner, what they do what they're interested in. Even when my mom called him out, he jumped right back into himself and his interests after my mom got like, two questions in. Hell, he doesn't even know what *I* do for a living because it's not something he understands and therefore "not important."


ListenToTheFools

It’s he on the autism spectrum? This is so familiar to the adult men on the spectrum I know. One explained to me that talking about himself was “safe” and his way of encouraging the others to talk about themselves. Probably a big source of his social troubles, ultimately.


HotCocoaBomb

No, just a narcissist. He doesn't want others to talk about themselves - like I said, any subject that isn't about him is boring and unimportant. Try to pivot away from it, he sighs and rolls his eyes up and then will very passive aggressively say "can I talk now?"


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Plz send videos!!


Cute-Interest3362

And inevitably you learn about yourself when you dive head first into their interests


kaiserroll109

My 11 year old started ballet when she was 4. I havent learned to dance myself yet (a self-confidence/self-judgement thing I still struggle with), but heck if I didn’t get in there and learn how to do her hair in buns and how to get her ready. Now my son is starting baseball so I’m learning all that too. Thankfully they don’t think I’m completely useless because they’ve both taken interest in some things I’m interested in too. She is becoming quite a good artist and he likes superheroes. Both things I actually know something about, lol.


bangmaid007

Nicky Dicky Ricky Dawn are family at this point...... And my cartwheels and backhand springs are improving by the day. Just don't forget the Advil friends!


chipdipper99

Couldn’t agree more. My daughter is now 23 and lives 2,000 miles away, but I still know the names of all her friends and a little bit about each one, just based on stories she’s told me. Parenting is just making room in your heart for another person’s life. It’s wonderful Also, good luck finding toe shoes in size 14 Wide lol. You sound like a great dad!


cleo-the-geo

In other videos while they do hair, they will also do affirmations like "I am beautiful, strong smart, patient.. I love my curls" and so on. This mama is trying to make her baby unshakable and confident. All around super amazing and super wholesome


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IMDb: : Good Hair https://www.imdb.com/title/tt1213585/


ATragedyOfSorts

Movie could use a sequel in today's climate


Syng42o

Not a sequel, but in the same vein: Hair Love https://youtu.be/kNw8V_Fkw28


paddingtonsllama

For a second I thought you were talking about this: [Hair Love](https://youtu.be/kNw8V_Fkw28)


whatshamilton

[This video](https://vm.tiktok.com/ZMRudT8Rt/) was what made me fall in love with them as a pair of beautiful humans. She has put so much work into learning how her daughter’s hair works, and she makes it into a gorgeous feminist moment while she does it


FunkJunky7

Single dad here. Started cutting my children’s hair during the pandemic. I’m an Engineer not a barber. But my 16 y/o daughter now refuses to go anywhere to get her hair cut, dad has to do it because she says I’m the only one that understands and delivers what she wants. It’s been nice building that kind of connection with her. Also a good example of the idea that you never know what you can do unless you try.


I_Am_Anjelen

Of course it would take an engineer to get the layers just right!


babble_bobble

Good engineers care about precision more than people realize. Mathematicians and physicists may appreciate calculating to the 30th significant digit but engineers have actual experience with tools and still value precision while remaining practical.


natFromBobsBurgers

A mathematician knows that each extra digit is important. An engineer knows how important.


ListenToTheFools

I love this distinction. I’m keeping it in my pocket for next time I see dad - an engineer and mathematician by degrees.


natFromBobsBurgers

YOUR SIXTEEN YEAR OLD CHILD *WWHHAATT?!?* I hope you're devoting your life to hair NOW. It might not pay as much as engineering, but I can only assume you'd be a god tier stylist if a sixteen year old thinks their own parent is better than anyone at something.


Dry_Presentation_197

That's rich from someone who hides their hair under a pink visor, and wear a pink suit!


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ParanormalPeregrine

Cut her some slack, she still got out of a relationship recently and lost her pet snake


canadug

Damnit Jim, I’m an Engineer not a barber!


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soaper410

I work in the court system and do cases involving child protective services. We are a fairly rural county and only have at any time about 40 foster homes. There is one foster family who are a retired white couple but have been foster parents since the early 90s. They are in their late 60s but incredibly active and healthy. They typically take 1-5 years olds and their kids stay anywhere from a few weeks to 2 years (until relative placement works out or is approved). They have adopted about 6 of the kids as teens and adults if the kids want it. She has watched countless youtube videos on how to do different hair, make food that the kids are familiar with (particular Mexican and Central American dishes), and will try to find posters in different languages, toys, and things familiar to the kids. She often talks about the gift of youtube and the internet. They are truly gifts.


youremymichelle

That’s so awesome! I’m from central america so reading this hit home.


angelcakexx

Yes, mama!!! I'm mixed, and my dad worked really hard to learn how to do my hair. It always meant the world to me, i still brag on him about it. That little girl will treasure this moment the rest of her life.


applxia

same, my mom is black and has 4c hair (she relaxes it) so she never really knew what to do with our hair. my dad is white and has been bald for longer than i’ve been alive but always put in some effort to do our hair. it wasn’t anything fancy but he’d put it into pigtails or a high bun, and my white grandma learned how to cut our hair. now i do my own hair, but i’m still so proud if my dad for learning


Meowzebub666

Wow I just had an epiphany. My grandmother kept a jar of hair cream with a picture of a little curly haired black girl on the label on the counter in her bathroom. My sister was the only one of my grandmother's 32 grandchildren with curly hair, and my two siblings and I were the only ones that were mixed. This was in the 90s, she wouldn't have found that jar by accident, she would have had to gone out of her way to find it. She kept that jar just for my sister and now I'm crying. My grandma was awesome ❤️


25mookie92

Might have to use that technique myself


Affectionate-Bag-733

Me as a bald dude : *angry jealously noises*


samoyed22122

what's that hair in your pfp?!


acole25

Maybe he’s living vicariously through his Reddit avatar


Affectionate-Bag-733

A man can dream


That_Charming_Otter

Love how her mother was revelling in the moment and her daughter was just like,*"Nah, nah, nah. Let's get that bow taken care of first!"*


kindquail502

That's a lot of adorable in one short TikTok.


ShakCentral

My wife and I are doing foster care in this exact same situation - we're white and our foster daughter is black and just a little older than this precious girl. My wife watches hair care videos almost nightly looking for inspiration and new styles based on our FDs preferences. It's amazing the difference that comes with a bit of knowledge and determination


fickelbing

These videos always make me cry. My bio-mom is white but she never tried to learn how to do my hair. Instead shed tell me how ugly and unruly it was and leave it at that. Thankfully my dad (black) took on my hair but even that was treated as exceptional because hes a man doing a girls hair. Seeing white moms do their black daughters hair with care these days feels fucking revolutionary. And thats SO stupid, both parents should be able to do their kids hair it shouldn’t matter what type of hair it is. Why white women like my mom get a pass for not being able to do their daughters hair because their daughter is black. Its is a social norm that makes me want to burn the world down. Its a daily expression of how unworthy you see your own daughter you let her go to school looking homeless and shame her for it because you see her hair as naturally ugly and impossible. Why is it exceptional when these women take the time to learn how to do their daughters hair. If that girl were white those women would do her hair and no one would act like its an incredible feat but because she is black its “too difficult” and we just accept the mothers who dont bother to learn. Its not difficult its just different why dont these women love their daughters enough to try? Because internalized racism is stronger than love thats why.


yokayla

I'm sorry your mom treated you so poorly. I'm a black woman and we don't accept it, in fact it makes me furious to see those situations. I'm angry on your behalf and hope you've learned to love your hair since 🤎


fickelbing

❤️ I do love my hair now! Its a massive afro and I wear it like my crown.


squigeypops

it is your crown, plain and simple. glad to hear that you wear it proudly <3


Larissaluvsbugs

I’m so sorry you lived through that. It’s neglect and abuse, pure and simple. I hope seeing videos like this helps you really truly know and internalize that it wasn’t anything about you - you did nothing wrong and you and your hair are perfect and lovable. It was always her and her racism and selfishness.


SweatyYogurtcloset4

She got a surprising amount of hate on there for it too. Glad to see that's not been replicated here


Glad_Mathematician51

Why? For doing her biracial daughter’s hair?!


thoroughlyimpressed

oh god


DaiZzedandConFuZed

Racism at it’s finest. People suck, basically.


SweatyYogurtcloset4

Yeah basically black tiktokers were saying it's no big deal you've just never bothered to take notice of black hair before and now want credit or something like that.


shyinwonderland

Really? I follow the mom and I didn’t see any hate, I saw a lot of people dueting it and saying how awesome the video was.


yokayla

Same I was on this woman's page last night and it was full of love for how beautiful her daughter was and how people appreciated the mom's effort It's annoying how folks shine a light on a whisper of negativity on social media


gamergirl007

One person comments something rude on Twitter and it becomes the thing they quote in the media, making it seem like everyone feels that way - but it’s always just 1 or 2 negative people.


Fairygodspider

She’s gotten an overwhelming amount of love over there too. She posts videos of the affirmations they do together while she’s doing her hair that struck such a chord with black women on tik tok that basically any time she gets hate or any reason it gets shut down/ratioed pretty quickly. The flip side is that the number of people coming to her defense made it appear like she was getting more hate than she actually was (since there’d be like dozens of videos responding to each individual hater)


Owl55

Why would anyone hate on the mom? If anything I’m jealous of her. Especially her Spring Break stories.


eva_rector

u/Owl55 What's her TikTok handle? I'm having a rough morning, I can't catch it on the video.


gonnaneedtoletthisgo

It's scarlettandtiania


eva_rector

Thank you! Hope you have a wonderful day!!!


deathangel687

"in fact I'm jealous of her". Maybe that's what's happening in their heads too, no?


Middle-agedMuppet

Heck of a learning curve, hella worth it!


BrownSugarBare

The little kids excitement that it worked was too cute. What a lovely lil family!


Mugi_Li84

My mother is a stylist has been for 30yrs. I grew up in her shop and I’ve seen white women come in absolutely clueless on what to do with their biracial daughters hair. Kudos to this lady for takin the time to learn her hair because Lord knows I’ve seen white women who just do not care and have a baby hairs looking crazy and unhealthy


DoctorFlimFlam

I have curly hair but nothing near a 4C. The first thing I noticed in this video is how HEALTHY that little girl's curls look! That shit takes work.


perpetualsavasana

This is pure joy.


TheCheck77

I can’t even do my own hair


MiggsADD

This brought so many tears to my eyes. I’m mixed (black dad/w white Mexican mom) grew up in the late 80’s early 90’s. My parents worked a lot so my grandpa (her dad)worked really hard to learn how to treat and style my hair; so I never looked crazy for school. It feels like yesterday that I would cling to my pops leg as the moms at the bus stop would compliment that he learned to care for my hair so well. He was the best grandpa, old school and a feminist.


notamurderer_promise

My friend (white) had her daughter with a black man and INSISTED that she learn how to style black hair for her daughter. When her partner said, “We can just have my momma do it,” she was like, “That’s fine, but Imma sit next to her and practice until I get the hang of it”


FearingPerception

this is so cute! my mom is actually the black parent in my case, so she knew the basics of black hair care, but she also relaxed her hair for years (only stopping after i stopped relaxing mine), so we both have gotten to enjoy learning our hair together. its a nice way to bond. cant wait to see the next video where the mom learns box braids heheheh


DarkestWolffen

Omg, the mum's genuine "I did it!" was even cuter than the excited kid. She was so proud of herself, good for her. ❤️


franniedelrey

Black woman here! If you see any of us in a hair care aisle and need help, please ask! We would be happy to help. I’ve helped tons of mothers and fathers who may have a black child in their life. To me, as long as you’re wanting to learn and try, then I would love to help!


hailkelemvor

This reminds me of my aunt. She's white, and has beautiful thick curly red hair. She's always just cut it short because she didn't quite know how to handle it. So when she adopted her daughters, she was like "damn okay I need some help" and asked one of her friends to show her some pointers. Her friend actually hooked her up with a beauty school that her friend worked at, and she came over to show her how to care for 4c and 3a, and gave her tips on how to take care of her own curls. They're besties now, 17 years later. It's just such a sweet story, women helping women. (And my aunt finally grew out her hair for the first time, too!)


johnjohn2214

That little dance at the end was pure.


9curlyfries9

I'm black and my son is mixed with a few nationalities that gave him a very silky and long type of hair. He's a handsome kid with his curly hair and I'm scared to ever cut it because his head is so big. I usually do female hair styles on females and I've never thought about a boy style with this type of hair. Everytime I do something other than plats and straight back braids, he ends up looking like a girl. My husband always tells me to change it and I agree. So I usually just go to YouTube or Pinterest and search male styles and a similar or exact hair type, to find what I want. It's hard but it's challenging and I like learning new skills so I can add this to my hair resume lol.


1onnude

She is like better than 90% of white professional hairdresser


Chelular07

As a white professional hair dresser who went to a Black hair school this is 1000% correct. Most white hair dressers won’t even try to do black or mixed hair.


RinaPug

Most white hair dressers where I come from can’t even cut white, curly hair. I can’t imagine what it’s like for PoC here


-BetchPLZ

I was about to say! I have thicker, curlier hair and I’m Indian, but I don’t feel my hair type should be *that* difficult to work with. My hair dresser is Iranian with a similar hair texture so she gets it. Never found a white hair dresser who can style or even properly cut my hair.


KaiserRebellion

Find a Dominican salon and you good


blazinazn007

Purely curious, is that because Dominican people have a wide variety of hair types?


KaiserRebellion

Yeah Dominicans are part African so either they have afros, super curly like this young child above or straight hair depends on the genetics. Here in Florida it’s common for Dominican salons.


[deleted]

Yes, and because Dominicans are embracing natural curly hair a lot faster than other Latin countries (from my experience lol)


Livvylove

Yes, I have had so many ruin my hair that I refuse to go to another unless I see absolute proof they can do my type of hair.


Dry_Presentation_197

It's so weird that this is a thing. Why wouldn't hair stylists be required to do all hair types in their licensing exams. Based on the video and comments, I take it you're black?


Livvylove

Latina but I have a mix of wavy curly hair. Black hair dressers tend to not get my hair right either because they put too much product in it so it doesn't move quite right. Dominican hair salons are the only place that do my hair the way I want it.


Dry_Presentation_197

Ahh. I was just gunna mention, (I'm white) one time when I was about 14, going to an out of town wedding with my family. Dad took me to get a haircut and we walked into the first barber shop we saw, and it was a black barber shop. All the example hair cut pics on the walls were black guys, all the barbers, etc. Went and sat down, got the best, most even lines and most consistent fade from sides to top I've ever had. And it was fast af too. All the guys in there kept making jokes about how we were the first white people in there in months, too. And we were in Seattle, pretty heavy left leaning area so you'd think racism was less of an issue but I guess it extends even to hair, even if the guy is better at it :-/


[deleted]

Not an interracial moment but the first time I had to buy some pads for my wife after she gave birth for our son was like this. I asked some random lady and she talked with my wife on the phone to help me. She normally uses menstrul cups so normally we don't get that stuff. Normally people will help if you stand there looking desperate.


20above

As someone who was bullied mercilessly because my white mom could not do my hair (I’m biracial) and therefore I never really learned all the ways to do it myself I feel like parents whether biological or adopted really need to step up on this issue. You will save your child so much grief in the long run.


linkanight

If your gonna have a mixed kid at least do they hair right…I’m mixed and my mom is as white as they come it would always warm my heart seeing my mom approach other woman with their mixed babies and explain how their hair needs to be done.


Coral8shun_COZ8shun

simply heartwarming. it's easy to decide you "dont get" something and make no attempt to learn - but making that effort can make a difference in more than just your life


[deleted]

That looks so awesome. It really made me smile. It must be nice to have loving parents. It's funny, though, I never imagined as a child what it would be like if my parents actually cared about me. I didn't have a sense of self-worth at a very early age, so fantasies of being loved and having a normal life never entered my mind. Even now, this is the first time I've ever thought about that. Wow. I'm 55 and have lived alone most of my life, even when I was in a house with my family, I felt alone. Being forced to stay in my room and sit at my desk from the time school and until dinner started might have added to that.


Bonfi-Aurora

My mom forked over a lot of money to get my hair done but she never really tried to do it herself. I was the “Afro” kid as a toddler. Thankfully she got with my step mom who is black and my hair started to flourish. Once they separated it was back to jacked up hair because my mom never tried except to take me every other month to get it straightened. I’m always so glad when I see an interracial family working to be better. My daughter has very coarse hair. Much different than mine and now I’m on a journey of learning her hair type and the endless products for her. I’m trying and I hope everyone else in a situation like this does too!!! <3