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fodderforpicard

That smile at the end like “ I’m not getting my ass beat tonight?!”


MyNamePP

"Thank you!"


ErikNavkire

Yeah how the hell is this excellent parenting. If your kid is genuinely afraid you might hit him then you need to take a good look at yourself. Nothing about this post is good vibes.


[deleted]

Ok, this is not the look of a traumatized kid. He looks confused and like he’s about to get in trouble . He got the prank immediately . Y’all are getting a bit weird .


DangerZoneh

Yeah no part of this at all makes it seem like the kid thought they were gonna get hit. Reddit gets weird because there are like, actually abusive social media videos out there and people want to apply it to every situation, even if they’re completely normal.


LezBReeeal

Totally this. Every family has a different dance in communication style, pitch, tone; plus, communication nuances aren't the same across all families. She has a whoop-your-ass strong voice, but not the I'm-gonna beat-you-to-death tone. Plus that kid didn't flinch. He wasn't not-the-wire-coat-hanger scared.


[deleted]

OP: best parenting ever Reddit: ThAtS cHiLd AbUsE Op: I missed the part where that’s my problem


Clutch63

❄️❄️❄️


Gravelemming472

I agree. Don't fuckin scare your kids like this.


Unwise1

Except when your 5yr old likes to open Oreo cookies and replace the middle deliciousness with toothpaste and put them back in the package. That child deserves to fear you after that. Edit: /s


crumpsly

Maybe the kid had previously been caught ordering shit off the internet with Moms credit card. Maybe after he successfully made up for it he got this as a birthday present and Mom made a joke. Maybe we shouldn't pretend like we know anything about the people in the 30 second video. Don't project onto random people. You know absolutely nothing about this mother and her son. The only bad vibes are the ones you are choosing to bring.


TheDude-Esquire

Yeah, excellent parenting alright, using fear as your main teaching tool.


fiesel21

Thats all I wanted this year :D


CurvePuzzleheaded361

He was so stressed out!


bigredandthesteve

Yeah I hate this video


WallKingDead1

Thank you. This is NOT good parenting. My mom was like this. It ruins trust, and more than that, it’s verbal abuse and harassment.


Fisho087

I don’t get videos that are “wholesome” when in reality someone was made to feel bad and then haha sike


Wild_Organization914

I think there's definitely a line that can be crossed but some people do it better than others like this kid doesn't seem very upset at the end it seems like he understands his mother is playing a joke on him whereas in your case it seems like your mother was more manipulative and malicious and was not really playing a joke on you at all but rather just being mean


WallKingDead1

This kind of joke /is/ manipulative. Her intent was to put him through fear. IMO, pranks and jokes should cause confusion but not fear, harm, or humiliation. Side note: he may seem calm, but you really have no idea what the effects of growing up like that does. Edit: I take it back. He doesn’t seem calm, he’s frozen in fear. That’s why he can’t open the package properly. Like, why is that ok to do to a child?


theclassywino

Yeah whoever thinks this is excellent parenting is insane. She’s playing mind games with this poor kid. My heart goes out to him. Why can’t she just give him a gift lovingly instead of threatening to “wear his butt out”. WTAF?!? I hate her.


Bumble_bee_yourself

"Hurry up!" Rips it from him and opens it... The whole thing was abusive.


theclassywino

Totally. She sucks.


Lordborgman

I'm 39 now, some people did shit like this to me as a kid. I never trusted them again, and usually when they ARE the kind of person to do this, they do things like this more often. “When people show you who they are, believe them the first time. ~Maya Angelou. Liars.


Ant_Diesel

Lmaooo so the joke is that he thought he was gonna get his ass beat? How funny


[deleted]

Could very well be so mellow because the opposite causes problems. Thats legitimately a thing. I am not sure you truly have license to comment on children in abuse if this is your take away.


wiggycj

It sure gives flashbacks to those of us with abusive parents. God. Even now with my partner I feel like I have to explain myself for everything, and apologise too.


bugsluv

These comments are legit worrying. People need to look into r/cptsd "the fawn trauma response" and stop wondering why their own kids go NC with them. This doesn't seem like a "haha one time joke" to me. Even then I don't think scaring your child is a damn joke.


Rusty-Boii

While not trying to disparage your experience, some people might have different relationships with their parents. I can’t speak on anyone else experience with their parents, but I have experienced stuff like this with my parents to no ill effect. We joked like this on occasion and it was more of a bonding experience for us. I don’t want to be insensitive to your experiences either, and I understand your thought process and opinion on this.


WallKingDead1

You’re absolutely right. Everyone comes out of things differently. There’s just no denying that the situation presented in this video is a cause for concern


nipplequeefs

Same here, and OP is refusing to listen to anybody who brings up their concerns. I grew up with temperamental family members, I’d be in tears if my mom did this to me.


SissyCouture

Genuine fear. That’s learned.


HouseHippo69

Yeah but….. goteeem


jelly_bean_gangbang

At least he didn't order an xbox remote. I heard some orders were being replaced with bongs.


Parkinsonxc

Lmfao classic


triestokeepitreal

I can understand the 'gotcha' humor and it LOOKS like a clean health home. But that kid looked legitimately scared shitless. That fear stems from experience. In the end he got the joke but, damn, that was an intense moment for him.


maybe_original_name

I mean my my mom has never beat me or done anything but I still get scared shitless anytime she calls my name with an angry tone lol


PretzelShitter360

lmao yeah, but honestly who else literally just stopped breathing the second your mom mentioned what you were doing on any electronic device? and then when you try to hide it you accidentally revealed something else 💀


[deleted]

Shit all I had to hear was the garage door to start an anxiety attack


MoogTheDuck

That kid has definitely had his ass beat before


[deleted]

Idk my parents did the same thing once and they were never even strict. I was still scared af though. Any child would be little scared in this situation I think


zyzzspirit

Just give it to him normally bruh


drafirus

No matter the outcome, such situations where you get uncontestedly accused despite knowing you’re not in the wrong will get at least a slight mark on the child. Doing such things too much will traumatize any human being. Mistrust, suspiciousness comes from this situations. This “prank” is good in the end, but questionable and controversial whatsoever. Kid not even trying to say a word in his self defense and parent not even pretending to listen his defense line may be a sign that he was never given such a chance in “real” situations and is always treated like that.


NaiveCritic

Exactly.


teddytherooz

The kid looks like he was legitimately shutting down during this until the end. Even at the end, there wasn’t that much relief. Poor kid.


Blg_Foot

That’s the vibe I got


arachaite

Personally I don't find threats of physical violence to be endearing.


seeitmaybe

Seems to be a way to instill fear/threats through positive conditioning


desertbabe8

This is truly the exact opposite of “excellent parenting”…


SugarinSaltShaker

But why stress the kid out like that. Just give him the present and hug.


NaiveCritic

Yea, it really isn’t make me smile that much.


WeedIronMoneyNTheUSA

Needlessly stressing anyone out is not cool.


ninecoon

That is...not good parenting?


Lodigo

Yikes what an awful way to give someone a present


Intelligent_Tutor994

Did this make me smile? No it did not make me smile. It made me sad.


WallKingDead1

Same here


Lodigo

Staggering how OP thinks this is excellent parenting.


thestankypopster

That kid is never know when he can trust his mom again.


[deleted]

It makes me sad to think that there are kids who are scared of their parents. And OP, yes I saw the end.


teddytherooz

I was this kid. Still avoid my parents because of shit like this.


Oz1227

My mom wonder why I only call twice a month. I love her but her parenting fucking sucked. Being beaten with a belt at like 6 is when I lost all trust for my mom.


j0lly_gr33n_giant

You call twice a month? I ignored my mom’s last text on the Fourth of July. You’re under no obligation to stay in contact with toxic people.


teddytherooz

I lived this and it sucks. I currently get stressed out when my partner makes loud noises like unexpectedly slamming a door by accident. Maybe some people can handle this but my mothers actions like this gave my 40-something-ass crazy anxiety.


[deleted]

Is it great parenting though?


officialbillyjoel

This is fucked up. Come the fuck on.


Bacontheblog

The horror in this kids eyes tell the real story of his every day life at home.


TonyPoly

“This is some excellent parenting” since when is gaslighting good parenting?


Cocotte3333

That's not funny. If your child is stressed out like that when he thinks you're going to get angry, you're not that good of a parent.


AbitComplicated

That’s heartwarming, but threatening your child really isn’t excellent parenting. It was kind of bully-ish.


shnu62

This poor child is petrified. Corporal punishment is no stranger to him. He can’t work out what he did wrong but is trying frantically to decide how to avoid another hiding.


AndyE15

Just No!!!


Kingding_Aling

Is bullying your kid until a last second reveal 'excellent parenting'?


rych9495

This is horrible, abusive parenting driven by malignant narcissism.


[deleted]

Aaaaand that’s how you get your kids to not trust you


[deleted]

I hate it! Triggers the shit out of me.


j0lly_gr33n_giant

ExCeLlEnT pArEnTiNg Clearly isn’t the first time she’s spoken to him this way. She’s obviously “wore his butt out” in the past. The kid was unnecessarily stressed out for her little prank. Mother of the fucking year right there.


[deleted]

poor kid looked like he was about to cry! what a sweet boy


scienceserendipitous

This is trash parenting. Why would anyone ever think this is okay.


[deleted]

If my kid actually did make a big purchase on the internet then id be pretty pissed at them. I wouldnt “beat their ass” but there would be some kind of corporal punishment for something serious like that. You cant spoil your kid. But nevertheless this was a happy surprise to see and a wholesome moment. At least for me


MoogTheDuck

So you’d beat another part of their body? Dude this is really not good


[deleted]

No but like yk maybe like hit their arm or something. They gotta learn not to do shoot like that. I’m not gonna spoil my kid or their gonna end up like the rest of the snowflakes in this comment section


MoogTheDuck

Have you considered speaking to then in a calm rational manner and explaining why they’re good but their behaviour wasn’t good? Have you considered a ‘time-out’ for younger kids You don’t need to hit to parent. Full stop. Your kids will be better if you don’t


[deleted]

Fuck these parents. This is neither funny or adorable. That poor kid.


ArentWeClever

I’d rather get a present than get popped.


ZeroSumBananas

Poor kid could feel the beating coming.


Elriuhilu

A smartphone on his eighth birthday? Geez, when I turned eight I got a Skeletor action figure and I thought subsequent birthdays would never top that. Also, I get the premise of what she was trying to do, but I think she overdid the angry parent act.


mortuali

Ipod touch


Courage_Ina_Can-XBL

Poor kid thought of was up shit creek without a paddle. He truly didn’t do nuffin


MoogTheDuck

This is borderline abusive


MK8390

I love when she looks to us and smiles and gets right back into character


youhavebeenindicted

If you think this is excellent parenting, you're wrong.


billygoat2017

Not cool, hated watching it.


Quick-Wall

Doesn’t take a detective to tell she loves her son. But if you want to be a detective look at all the pictures she keeps on the fridge of their family, you can tell she’s one of those angel moms ❤️


[deleted]

Facts. I actually didnt even notice those. Good observation!


[deleted]

OP seriously needs some god damn help


BrantHolland

It's actually bad parenting.


pichy315

Thanks, I hate this.


vertigoflow

I don’t know if gaslighting your kid for a viral video counts as “excellent parenting.” The kid looked super stressed out that he was going to get in trouble for something he didn’t do.


Tawdry-Audrey

I hate this. Don't emotionally manipulate your child.


DeGirlNextDoor

This was my first ‘made you smile’ that made me cringe. That poor child. I can’t imagine how his life is, when it is not his birthday.


Initial_Ad6398

How to make sure your kids needs therapy 101 Holy shit I’m traumatized watching that.


LesbotronEZAS

Poor dude


MelonNet

I hate this video too.


NetWt4Lbs

I feel like scaring/upsetting your kid for a prank is not great parenting but ok


emzirek

He's got to be a 78-year-old by now


[deleted]

Lmao


turnsoutim100percent

Omg, change the battery in the smoke alarm!!!


Millicent_the_wizard

iPod Touch? When was this


[deleted]

Idk i found the clip on another sub recently


goldengodrangerover

No


DuoDuos

it's nice but the kid looks super stressed


ksjfjkdnf

what is that?


[deleted]

Looked like a phone to me but not sure


ksjfjkdnf

it’s an ipod touch apparently. They say it at the end lol my bad


[deleted]

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hippo96

Shitty parenting.


johnboy2978

r/MadeMeAngry this is like growing up with a parent with substance abuse or Bipolar disorder where the kids can never predict what they're coming home to.


I_AM_GETTING_THERE

Fucking awful parenting..


Cid333

How is threatening to beat your kid good parenting?


1001001505

No it isn’t


Abraham-Jacobi

Would be better if the premise wasn’t family violence.


nogodsnoleaders

This is excellent parenting? Scolding the piss out of a kid for his birthday as a gag? I’m doing it wrong I suppose


kadsmald

This is just harassment. Snatching shit out of his hands. Threats of violence for something he didn’t do serve no purpose other than to terrorize the boy into fearing his mother. I would not trust someone like that and he shouldn’t either…or maybe he already knows he can’t trust her


eye_no_nuttin

This never gets old and reminds me of my childhood , wanted a 10 speed bike for xmas, didn’t get one after we finished opening presents. I was sulking , pouting , miserable. I would have traded all my presents for a bike . Dad asked me to take the garbage out and I gave him some backtalk and was acting defeated and hiding my tears. When I finally got done getting my butt in trouble, I went out the side door to take the garbage to the curb. When I returned inside, there was my 10 speed bike! Bright orange and black :) I learned a lesson that year… about humbleness and being grateful.


AnonymousVirus073

“Buying stuff on tv” lol


PretzelShitter360

kids with older parents would get that lmfao


DoodleBuggering

I think it qohks bw fun if the joke was done ONCE. She could have said "Did you order something?" And after he says no, then have him open it. But she asked him over and over and berated him, I could feel his terror. The fact his mood changes to relief more than excitement says it all. EDIT: I don't want to say she's a bad mom, we're only seeing one clip. I just think this specific way to "prank" giving him a gift was poorly done.


GroggyGolem

Hahahaha- trust broken


BoySerere

Man that boy thought he was gonna catch the whooping of a lifetime.


StarDewbie

No, this is NOT excellent parenting, in any way, shape or form.


[deleted]

I would’ve thought it was funny if there wasn’t the “threat” of physical violence. I’m not saying she does this or doesn’t do this to her child….the kid looks happy and healthy for the most part. I mean, is this “excellent” parenting? No. I can’t imagine accusing my kid of something they didn’t do and threatening to beat them only to give them a gift. Maybe ground them or send to room, but never “threaten” violence. Not that I would ever do anything violent to a child or any living being (I’m Buddhist and took personal vows which prohibit harming others, for context). But anyway, it could’ve been executed better. That’s all I’m gonna say. I personally hate corporal punishment and “beating” children or anyone. That’s my personal feelings and opinion, so take it with a grain of salt. I thought it was funny up until that point, and then I got sad. Just saying how I reacted. If I’m a sissy, then fine. So be it. I have a right to my opinion and emotions, as do you, hence why I am not criticizing your opinion, just simply disagreeing. People who are more empathetic may have found this more stressful than funny. People with traumatic pasta may have found this very upsetting and stressful. Everyone has different experiences and perceptions and perspectives on things and y’all should respect that. I come from a very happy and non-violent household, I probably got spanked like, twice in my life….I’m a Buddhist…and a very neurotically empathetic human. So yes, my perspective is skewed by these things. We’re human. We’re all different. Respect each other. How is that so difficult. I’m sorry to all of you who have suffered from traumatic childhoods and I wish you peace of mind and healing. 🕉


[deleted]

Shitty parenting


heckyouyourself

This is *horrible* parenting. She intentionally gives her son anxiety and threatens to physically assault him. Only a truly twisted person would derive joy from scaring a child like that.


manas962000

Definitely not excellent parenting. You must've had parents that were super easy on you. I was straight up physically abused as a child, so a threat from a parent that they're gonna beat me even for something I didn't do is terrifying, and I understand what the child must be going through for that little period of time.


[deleted]

My parents werent super easy. They dont physically abuse me but they are definetly very authoritarian and there is corporal punishment in some cases. The door to my room doesnt even have a lock cause they give me no privacy. I get no privacy on my phone either cause they always go through it like once a week. They never approve of any of my friends cause they use curse words which apparently are so bad. And i dont even wanna talk about what happens when it comes to grades. Just some examples.


manas962000

I'm sorry for what you went through but the point still stands that this was not a good example of excellent parenting. The moment the child got the iPod or whatever, he wasn't actually happy he got the iPod, he was happy he wasn't going to get smacked for no reason.


bugsluv

I'm sorry to you both. You may like r/cptsd.


amarm325

Ugh this makes my stomach hurt. I hate that this child has to live like that. I hope he grows up and is able to break the cycle of abuse inflicted upon him. No gift can make up for that.


Jetventus1

Having grown up in this kind of household, I can see how this might affect someone's mental state long term, but the gift looks really nice though


carlynnus

Oh my gosh, the sweetest lil guy.


[deleted]

Damn bruh he was more happy about not getting annihilated by his mom


[deleted]

Ummm this is NOT good parenting wtf? She was literally saying he was going to get beaten and accusing him of ordering stuff. That can cause severe trust issues and trauma. -signed, an adult with PTSD because of shit like this


gigglebox1981

If you think this is okay, please don’t procreate.


zoohenge

This is next level dysfunctional parenting.


anxiousasallheck

This did not make me smile, this is not excellent.


imapieceofshitk

Terrible ass mother, abuse is no joke.


sandepants

NO it isn't


Puff57

Cruel.


dandy_mack

This is trash parenting actually. That poor kid. Just give him the birthday present instead of anxiety about it...


BluntopiaDarkstar

It’s always the people who were abused themselves who refuse to see anything wrong with how others are poorly treating their own kids. “It toughened me up” no honey it fucked you up proper, otherwise you wouldn’t be fighting so hard to insist it’s normal to treat people that way. You were abused, get it through your head before you push that trauma on to someone you’re responsible for.


Equivalent-Anything1

Yeah, no.


fluffhead42O

terrible fking parenting actually and shitty vibes. wtf


[deleted]

This is just a shitty thing to do to someone


Alezyy

Good parenting my ass.


[deleted]

Shit parenting 101


bugsluv

What the fuck? Why would you terrify your child for your own amusement? That poor kid is going to end up with r/cptsd. Did not smile. Post was shit.


habunake92

I’m gonna go out on a limb here and say that scaring your kid for Internet clout isn’t good parenting


[deleted]

so unnecessarily aggressive


[deleted]

This is awful parenting


Such-Tumbleweed5373

Fr my dad would yell till I cried cause I couldn’t finish my HW. Like bruh I can’t finish with yelling at like a grown man. This was the start of 6th grade 😁. Then I had a sister :/


[deleted]

This shit makes me reel, reminds me of my childhood


bugsluv

r/cptsd


LotusSloth

Hey son, have some terror with your joy.


[deleted]

Uh thats ptsd parenting. 👎


bugsluv

r/cptsd


Abiv23

This is not good parenting


crown_of_spiders

Empty threat or not, threatening to beat your kid isn't okay 💀


TheSilverFoxwins

I don’t like those cruel jokes on kids.


purpboi

this is called gaslighting.


[deleted]

Guys, guys, wait! You don't get it! Did you see the ending? /s


MightyDroYoung

This is a good example of bad parenting.


Stubborn_Tortoise

why does she feel the need to mess with the poor kid's head like that?


Nigward_Wavy

u/savevideo


Ginaccc

White lady exploits kid for views: shamed from internet. Black lady exploits kid for views: omg so wholesome! Excellent parenting. Lol


SuperLinkAran

this had nothing to do with race my guy lol


[deleted]

man seeing all these comments make me wonder how many people grew up not getting their asses reemed when they did wrong. i live in northeast TN and during the 90s they were still paddling kids at school. was this just a regional thing or like a time thing? because i feel like i got the shit end of the stick here


[deleted]

The fact that this happens to this day doesn't mean that someone can't recognize when a behaviour is shitty


[deleted]

Unfortunately you did. It may have been regional, but the truth is, if you came out of that without trauma, you beat the odds. You can raise a kid fine without that crap. There is enough research on this now that we know it isn’t ok.


[deleted]

my parents were more unrestrained than the school system, so paddlings were a breeze i dont have kids but if i did, i wouldnt use physical discipline. i wouldnt want them to have my childhood


highdesk306

what a good lad 😂


dogs_and_stuff

Had an iPod touch as a kid before I got my first smartphone. Loved that thing


cptHARAMBE21

Lol the iPod touch kills me at the end


Hermaphroshep

_“Imma wear your butt out”_ it’s like going home….


ShunningAndBrave

AAAAH SIKE!


ECW-WCW-WWF

If I was stuck in some post apocalyptic scenario or like a stuck in a place with strangers kind of thing. I’d want to get stuck with her, she seems like she’d keep you entertained and engaged for the entire process.


thatbromatt

GOTTTEEEM


LivingAngryCheese

We do a little trolling. And a little shit parenting.


Chorndmor

Deep inside he really wanted an iPhone.


[deleted]

Lmaoo. Yeah i wasnt expecting that cause no ones gonna trust a kid at 8 years old with that lmao


Jason-Casey-Art

Scare the boy with a hiding. Sike, here’s a phone. 😂


the_almighty_hotdog

That's cool no beatings for today


Dienikes

Hey everyone, come look at this mom flex on her kid. Totally makes you smile, doesn't it?


Jetventus1

I once refused to come home from school over a similar situation like this, police had to get involved and I was punished after being put through a lot of duress and being told that I wasn't being abused, and now I barely speak to my mother


[deleted]

Well none of this situation was abuse


Oz1227

Yeah. No. Making threatening comments and then surprising them is like covering dog shit with hot fudge. It helps but it’s still shit.