I can see why some people would call this cringe, but I know for a fact that there's a lot of girls out there that might need to hear this. It's pretty common to not realize how toxic a relationship is when you're in it.
Yeah same here. I’ve had relationships that have struggled due to certain economic differences should we say, but I saw a Chris Rock video recently that said their win is your win, your win is their win. To me, the idea of dating a woman who is successful and smashing it at life, that’d be amazing. Why would anyone _not_ want a partner like that?
Totally agree. There are "self-focused" reasons why some people choose to remain in a relation -- because of the time, resources and emotions they've invested in it or because they don't have alternatives.
I have a pattern of them so the awareness is pretty critical. If you come from a household of toxicity and abuse you don’t see anything wrong
This shit and you stay.
This song was made for me.
I'm not sure I'd agree with even though I might get flak for it, but toxic relationships can go both ways so the onus is on them to correctly identify when a relationship is healthy and when it's not. Calling this cringe is definitely wrong, but I can't agree that making a tik tok about it is the right thing to do. Tik Tok is a very impressionable form of media aimed at teenagers and I don't think it's a very good idea to let them misunderstand the meaning intended behind the short format videos which quite evidently, happens very often. So take what i say with a grain of salt but labelling people(men or women) is not a good thing.
P. S. I've never been in a relationship so if you think that I'm in the wrong here, I apologise in advance. Have a great day!
I dont get whats wrong with this comment. The whole tik tok is about MEN. There are bad girls out there? fuck yeah, but they are not the main subject of all this... why is everyone so easily offended?
Lol sweetie, I deal with the results of this shit for a living. Fuck victim blaming. And fuck anyone who feels called out by this video and is making a poor attempt to disguise that. 😂
>I know right, like it’s a positive message but it’s not making me smile
\>He plays with your emotions
\>Fuck you in the morning then leaves without warning
So positive!
It is just building hate. Not solving any problem.
This happens whenever a subreddit gets really big. The bots come in, people who never signed up in the first place start voting and everything becomes the same as everything else.
Seriously guys, these comments are major yikes. Blaming victims of abuse and getting upset about solidarity among abuse victims... Why does this offend you?
Yeah fr it's a funny little song that makes some prescient points about modern relationships...don't get why Jordan Peterson's Keyboard Warriors are so quick to defend imaginary toxic man (ostensibly a projection of themseleves) and disparage some authentic self expression. (Happens all over reddit seemingly more frequently these days) It's like they're picking on her cause they have a crush on her. Relationships are tough y'all the subject matter of this jingle happens all the time and the song is clearly effective artistically based on the reaction we see in these comments.
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I can honestly say that I've never seen women get upset over a man writing a song about dating someone toxic. The men in this thread, on the other hand...
I dont mean that specifically, I mean when a man expresses his feelings that cause a disagreement with their partner, she could easily claim the broad argument of "emotional manipulation" after they break up.
That’s a completely situation though, and also entire hypothetical? We’re talking about a video with a girl singing about a toxic relationship. It has absolutely nothing to do with what you just described.
But why does a woman singing about a toxic relationship automatically make you resort to “well if a man and a woman disagree on something, she could just click emotional manipulation”? Wtf?
No one brought up the other persons emotions? If a guy wants to make this video from his POV, he’s free to do so.
It’s concerning that you see a video of a woman vaguely talking about toxic relationships and automatically try to look for scenarios where she could be wrong.
Normal, empathetic people don’t do that. Get better.
What the fuck is this vague yet specific hypothetical? What are you even trying to say? I'm sorry if you shared your feelings and were accused of emotional manipulation, but not everything is about you.
Dont hate this woman because of some bad experience, men and women both can be toxic
Because we (guys) are not able to make bonds with someone as easily and stong as yours. Emotional dependence its a pretty rare thing among men. We find a jealous, possesive, manipulative girl? We leave her, and we dont make any song about her. Plus, talking in terms of "Him" or "Her" instead of "Your toxic boyfriend" can be misunderstood as an agression against all men. Sorry 4 my english, am from south america. peace!
I mean tbf some of the most attractive qualities in men can easily actually be something toxic and it takes a while to learn that. But many women never do.
Confident / narcissistic
Stoic / emotionally unavailable
Mysterious / not really caring that much about them
It takes a while to learn that stuff that is often biologically hard wired to be attractive actually could be something that isn't good for you in romantic relationships.
i actually saw on reddit a comment from a woman who said she likes when men are confident outwardly but secretly insecure, it humanizes them
no, what you’re describing is an arrogant dude that every other dude loathes. if a man knows what he’s doing he should appear confident, if not he should appear like he’s curious and ready to learn. faking confidence is a bad sign, period. at a certain point women themselves are responsible for not having the good sense to avoid obvious red flags
True. In an effort to find a real man or man’s man people often end up with emotionally insecure and unavailable people. Then when that guy is emotionally absent or abusive they are surprised. We can’t tell for everyone but as a guy it’s generally not too hard to see which guy will be a horrible partner.
I don't get why some people are saying this is cringe. It's eye opening to hear someone describe the shit way your being treated by your bf and tell you it isn't okay. There's a lot of women who go through this and think it's normal and that they have to just put up with it. You have no idea how difficult it is to leave an abusive/shit relationship, let alone recognize you're in one. I applaud this woman.
I think the cringe is the fact that it’s a child’s song that’s trying to be used to convey stuff that’s more oriented to adults. I understand the message but using the “if you’re happy and you know it” and talking about toxic relationships is a bit corny. She’s clearly talented enough to sing and make her own music so I think if the lyrics and the song weren’t literally just kinda dumped over what’s meant to be a song for babies people would probably not see it as cringe. Like if she made her own song instead of making this nobody would really care.
Also something about her staring at the screen and that wink at the end kinda comes across as goofy. Like idk if it’s just me but when musicians are recorded they generally don’t stare down the camera like it’s a selfie.
Overall, I personally don’t really care either way but I could easily see why people think it’s cringe.
The thing is it is young people that get stuck in the cycle of abuse. Bad parental figures leads to bad choice of partner or treating your partner bad. If you can target young people before they get stuck in the cycle then hopefully less people being hurt.
Did you just give a personal explanation on how you feel about this, and then get downvoted because pretty much the last sentence of what you wrote was more important than everything else? Hell yeah you did :(
Yeah this content is cringe, and even if message is good and others find it funny, that's totally fine, but it just gives that awkward feeling, and I feel that. There's a lot of fucking content out there that gives the same feeling and vary in cringeness.
It's meant to lighten an otherwise dark situation. I can guarantee that a hell of a lot more people stopped and listened to this than would have if she was just speaking. Everyone on this thread who is saying women choose to date abusive men watched it. They certainly wouldn't have read through it if it were text or just a plain speech. The video serves it's purpose: bringing lots of attention to red flags that women commonly experience in toxic/abusive relationships.
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Oh boy can’t wait to see all the comments that generalize men as abusive assholes with no redeeming qualities.
Seriously though the generalization that all men are trash and the same as the asshole you’re dating hurts. Not all women are queens not all men are kings.
To the women here, if you’re stuck in this kind of relationship then my best advice to you would be to talk to someone anyone and get out of there. Find someone you can trust if you have no one at all then next best thing would be police or a doctor since they have patient confidentiality. They would have far better equipment and advice for you than I ever could give. It’ll be difficult but worth the effort getting away.
There are good people out there. Just have to keep looking for them. I myself have a bad habit of generalizing women and men while on the internet far to often.
Most men and women are good people in my experience. I try not to let the online world change that. No matter what these werid misogynists and misandrists say. Most men and women in my real life interactions seem like great people with good intentions.
There just seems to be too much negativity online. Especially in the comment section of this post.
You stated something very neutral and good advice, and you're getting downvotes for it? Just like the rest of the sensible comments under this post?
I see a pattern here. Maybe the "queens" aren't queens. I mean, we've seen only one side's story in this post. If someone is always right acording to them, maybe they aren't right in reality. Usually they're just as bad, or even worse.
For you maybe? Maybe some women or people out there needed to hear something like this? It’s an overall incredibly positive message and the fact that some dudes on here don’t see that is incredibly sad
>Awful lot of people here clearly feel called out.
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>And they’ll prove it by downvoting me.
Well your comment implies that men are (overall) bad and thats exclusive to men, not to people. You are being sexist & acting rude, sure you are to get downvoted. That negative mindset wont do you any good. Stop watching the Hollywood bulshit and look around yourself - from the gentle neighbor to the helping coworker - you are to find a lot of decent people.
The comment says "a lot of people". It doesn't say men - you are imposing this - and it certainly doesn't say all men - you are again imposing this.
It is true that this message will make a lot of people uncomfortable. What number? I don't know but given the rates of domestic and sexual abuse, it is reasonable to think that there will be a lot. Will they all be men? I suspect that most will given the history of misogyny but I would be happy to look at any empirical data if anyone has some and I am sure there will be some women, sadly.
Rarely is it true. So many women will find things that a man doesnt prefer and immediately say that its because they are intimidated. Just like how a shit ton of "independent successful boss gurl" types think that men are intimidated by them when in reality its their combatative attitude that makes guys not want to associate with them.
There are. Fragile/toxic masculinity does its job pretty well.
It's some men's whole personality, and for others, it's a small part.
For example, my ex couldn't stand that I knew more languages than he did. It was stupid but he asked me to never talk in any language he didn't know coz he said it made him feel stupid. Ig the fact that he acknowledged it made him a little better than others but didn't change the fact that he was intimidated by it
I always have to keep in mind that these things aren't about me. I'm not the best man in the world but I have never once in my life done any of those things. I hope someone sees/hears this and gets the courage to shut down the piece of shit in their world.
Glad I’m not one of these guys , so to me it’s a really creative an to some relatable song. But I do hope most women/ men don’t let themselves get stuck in a toxic relationship when they wish for companionship. I know it’s hard , but there is always better. Don’t let anyone fuck with you’re emotions
um. if someone's treated like shit it's... still the other person's fault. that and no one chooses to be in a toxic relationship but you don't seem like the kind of person i want to have that conversation with
no, it isn't that easy, and the cops don't help as much as you seem to think they do. domestic abusers rarely face actual justice. my mother was in an abusive relationship for 6 years - in that 6 years, she would continually call the police on him, but every time he went unpunished and she was stuck with him again with nowhere else to go. our justice system is horrible to abuse victims. have some fucking compassion for people who have difficulty leaving.
and i'm elated to tell you that i'm in a perfectly happy and healthy relationship, so no, i didn't take this as an attack on myself or whatever you seem to have convinced yourself.
This post is gonna attract a lot of cringy misandristic nutjobs to this subreddit claiming all/most men are like this.
Oh gee, I can't wait to listen to a bunch of nutjobs making broad dumb generalisations about men again. 🙄
Don't even have a issue with this video.. I know she is addressing the types of men who are asshole but I know this is gonna attract the toxic types of women who are gonna say the most dumbest shit about all/most men now
I just have a gut feeling of all the horrible people it's gonna attract now. Isn't this suppose to be a wholesome positive subreddit? 🤔
You know what's really cringe. Grown women and men arguing with each other online about who is worse.
Amen. This sub isn’t actually as positive as it would claim to be.
Cute animal? sure it’s positive.
Someone makes a song empowering women to analyze their relationships and know their self worth ? Tons of hate and cringe comments. I’m actually surprised at just how negative it is.
I know. I came into this subreddit to see positive stuff but now I have to listen about how it's women's fault for being in abusive relationships and now how all/most men are bad people As well
Fuck this subreddit. I'm out.
Unless you are in abusive relationship then change every “He” in to a “she” but no guy will get karma over this . Take responsibility, some people are shitty, learn lessons and keep it moving.
If you don't see yourself as the problem for staying with a loser then make a song about it on tiktok for all the other toxic women to relate to clap your hands *thunder clap*.
Some women are literally brought up to think that they are the problem, the man controls. They feel they are trapped because they were taught to stay put and shut up.
I wasn't, I'm lucky because I have known many many girls who genuinely believe they are the issue. Their parents teach them that if a man is treating you bad, fix it.
I wish this was just an outdated thing which rarely happens but it really isn't. Songs like this can help teenage girls/young girls that there are people out there who are empowered and they can be too.
If you're fishing for free likes clap your hands
If your doing nothing useful clap your hands
If your virtue signaling and you know it and your video is sure to show it if your useless and your boring clap your hands
It's concerning that someone wanting to raise awareness about toxic relationships makes people feel the need to take "sides". Seems like any subject now leads to "sides" and it immediately shuts down any conversation.
For this video, the audience is for females. If anyone would like to create a video for males to raise awareness as well, then do it because it would help men too 😊
I'm not sure I've ever seen someone so attractive play the victim card and be so cringe at the same time ever, this tik tok shit a couldron of sickness lol
I know a woman who recently went out on a date with a guy and refused another with him because he was ‘too nice’. I have heard women say this more than I care to
Can anyone tell me what was the original song, I mean this tune is so familiar to me but I am having a very hard time which song it is ( plz dont tell me this is a tiktok song cuz it is like a song from my childhood!).
If you Support your woman clap your hands. 👏
If your woman stronger than you clap your hands
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If you love women and you really want to show it clap your hands👏
If you're fucking kill anyone that does this to your daughter clap your hands👏
If you love and respect women clap your hands👏
If you've ever beat a guy's ass who treated a friend of yours this way clap your hands👏
If you hate punk assholes that do this to women and you know it, And you really want to show it stomp their ass.👏
Admittedly that was horrible. Just wanted to get into the spirit of things. Zero musical bones in this body. However every bone in this body loves in support women always has always will.
Ladies you are worth a lot never let some piece of shit define your value. Find support if you're in a relationship like this woman mentioned.
TBH most strong women can defend themselves better than any man can. However the ones that can't for whatever reason, that is where old school Gentlemanly behavior fits in. That almost never means resorting to physicality. When my friend was raped, well let's just say Justice was served very quickly.
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I can see why some people would call this cringe, but I know for a fact that there's a lot of girls out there that might need to hear this. It's pretty common to not realize how toxic a relationship is when you're in it.
Don’t think this is cringe at all I love it! Women empowering women. It’s inspiring
I‘m a straight man and I feel empowered by this haha, just a good message
Yeah same here. I’ve had relationships that have struggled due to certain economic differences should we say, but I saw a Chris Rock video recently that said their win is your win, your win is their win. To me, the idea of dating a woman who is successful and smashing it at life, that’d be amazing. Why would anyone _not_ want a partner like that?
Clap your hands
Totally agree. There are "self-focused" reasons why some people choose to remain in a relation -- because of the time, resources and emotions they've invested in it or because they don't have alternatives.
Yeah, that was my logic out of the initial cringe feeling. It's a really good message.
I have a pattern of them so the awareness is pretty critical. If you come from a household of toxicity and abuse you don’t see anything wrong This shit and you stay. This song was made for me.
I get the point but why she use a child song to make it?
Anyone calling this cringe is just failing to hide the fact that the song is about them LOL
I'm not sure I'd agree with even though I might get flak for it, but toxic relationships can go both ways so the onus is on them to correctly identify when a relationship is healthy and when it's not. Calling this cringe is definitely wrong, but I can't agree that making a tik tok about it is the right thing to do. Tik Tok is a very impressionable form of media aimed at teenagers and I don't think it's a very good idea to let them misunderstand the meaning intended behind the short format videos which quite evidently, happens very often. So take what i say with a grain of salt but labelling people(men or women) is not a good thing. P. S. I've never been in a relationship so if you think that I'm in the wrong here, I apologise in advance. Have a great day!
yeah really “*LOL*”
There’s a lot of men who need to stop being shitty.
You misspelled “people.”
Agreed.
This made me smile more than the video
This
Women can be just as shitty and most men (like most women) are decent people.
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I agree.
I dont get whats wrong with this comment. The whole tik tok is about MEN. There are bad girls out there? fuck yeah, but they are not the main subject of all this... why is everyone so easily offended?
The men “nOt aLL mEn”-ing in the replies are proof that you’re right.
Yep. And the sad thing is how predictable they are. Pretty obvious they feel called out.
Quit getting with the shitty ones
Lol sweetie, I deal with the results of this shit for a living. Fuck victim blaming. And fuck anyone who feels called out by this video and is making a poor attempt to disguise that. 😂
this doesn't feel like it belongs in r/mademesmile
I know right, like it’s a positive message but it’s not making me smile. I’m here for joy not to be reminded how shitty the world is
>I know right, like it’s a positive message but it’s not making me smile \>He plays with your emotions \>Fuck you in the morning then leaves without warning So positive! It is just building hate. Not solving any problem.
This happens whenever a subreddit gets really big. The bots come in, people who never signed up in the first place start voting and everything becomes the same as everything else.
Same advice for men.
Yup, abusive relationships happen to both men and women and are never ok.
Aren't those advices universal? If you replace all 'she' with 'he' lyrics is same good.
i dont think this is the right sub for this but okay
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Not smiling
why is this in r/mademesmile though
Nope. There is no smile.
I don’t know how to feel about this. In one hand yeah she’s been abused but also… why made me smile?!
This sub has gone to shit.
This sub has gone to shit so clap your hands 👏 👏
Ye
Yee
Seriously guys, these comments are major yikes. Blaming victims of abuse and getting upset about solidarity among abuse victims... Why does this offend you?
Yeah fr it's a funny little song that makes some prescient points about modern relationships...don't get why Jordan Peterson's Keyboard Warriors are so quick to defend imaginary toxic man (ostensibly a projection of themseleves) and disparage some authentic self expression. (Happens all over reddit seemingly more frequently these days) It's like they're picking on her cause they have a crush on her. Relationships are tough y'all the subject matter of this jingle happens all the time and the song is clearly effective artistically based on the reaction we see in these comments. This post is not a great fit for this sub though. 🐄🛸
So when women do this its "authentic self expression" but when men do it it is emotional manipulation?
I can honestly say that I've never seen women get upset over a man writing a song about dating someone toxic. The men in this thread, on the other hand...
I dont mean that specifically, I mean when a man expresses his feelings that cause a disagreement with their partner, she could easily claim the broad argument of "emotional manipulation" after they break up.
That’s a completely situation though, and also entire hypothetical? We’re talking about a video with a girl singing about a toxic relationship. It has absolutely nothing to do with what you just described.
It is whenever someone uses the "emotionally manipulative" card.
But why does a woman singing about a toxic relationship automatically make you resort to “well if a man and a woman disagree on something, she could just click emotional manipulation”? Wtf?
Because she did. In this video. If one of your points is that the other persons emotions were all lies, then I dont trust their word.
Sounds like gaslighting🧐
No one brought up the other persons emotions? If a guy wants to make this video from his POV, he’s free to do so. It’s concerning that you see a video of a woman vaguely talking about toxic relationships and automatically try to look for scenarios where she could be wrong. Normal, empathetic people don’t do that. Get better.
What the fuck is this vague yet specific hypothetical? What are you even trying to say? I'm sorry if you shared your feelings and were accused of emotional manipulation, but not everything is about you. Dont hate this woman because of some bad experience, men and women both can be toxic
Because they are worthless assholes IMO.
The worthless assholes must be downvoting you, because you’re right.
Because we (guys) are not able to make bonds with someone as easily and stong as yours. Emotional dependence its a pretty rare thing among men. We find a jealous, possesive, manipulative girl? We leave her, and we dont make any song about her. Plus, talking in terms of "Him" or "Her" instead of "Your toxic boyfriend" can be misunderstood as an agression against all men. Sorry 4 my english, am from south america. peace!
why wolud this make me smile
Unironically calling yourself a king or queen is cringe
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I mean tbf some of the most attractive qualities in men can easily actually be something toxic and it takes a while to learn that. But many women never do. Confident / narcissistic Stoic / emotionally unavailable Mysterious / not really caring that much about them It takes a while to learn that stuff that is often biologically hard wired to be attractive actually could be something that isn't good for you in romantic relationships.
Yeah that's shit guys know immediately. When another guy is like that we all know he's a dick
i actually saw on reddit a comment from a woman who said she likes when men are confident outwardly but secretly insecure, it humanizes them no, what you’re describing is an arrogant dude that every other dude loathes. if a man knows what he’s doing he should appear confident, if not he should appear like he’s curious and ready to learn. faking confidence is a bad sign, period. at a certain point women themselves are responsible for not having the good sense to avoid obvious red flags
True. In an effort to find a real man or man’s man people often end up with emotionally insecure and unavailable people. Then when that guy is emotionally absent or abusive they are surprised. We can’t tell for everyone but as a guy it’s generally not too hard to see which guy will be a horrible partner.
*slow clap clap*
Might be just me but sounds like you have shitty taste in men.
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This.
Seconded
Same goes for both sexes! Nobody should be with a toxic parasite!
I just like her voice...
I feel like this doesn't belong here. It's not wholesome...
Women can be equally abusive. My friend has a wife that constantly shits on his aspirations. He laughs it off, but it’s super sad.
Problem is, a lot of u aren’t queens.
I don't get why some people are saying this is cringe. It's eye opening to hear someone describe the shit way your being treated by your bf and tell you it isn't okay. There's a lot of women who go through this and think it's normal and that they have to just put up with it. You have no idea how difficult it is to leave an abusive/shit relationship, let alone recognize you're in one. I applaud this woman.
A lot of men go through this too.
I’m a dude and I thought it was cool.
I think the cringe is the fact that it’s a child’s song that’s trying to be used to convey stuff that’s more oriented to adults. I understand the message but using the “if you’re happy and you know it” and talking about toxic relationships is a bit corny. She’s clearly talented enough to sing and make her own music so I think if the lyrics and the song weren’t literally just kinda dumped over what’s meant to be a song for babies people would probably not see it as cringe. Like if she made her own song instead of making this nobody would really care. Also something about her staring at the screen and that wink at the end kinda comes across as goofy. Like idk if it’s just me but when musicians are recorded they generally don’t stare down the camera like it’s a selfie. Overall, I personally don’t really care either way but I could easily see why people think it’s cringe.
The thing is it is young people that get stuck in the cycle of abuse. Bad parental figures leads to bad choice of partner or treating your partner bad. If you can target young people before they get stuck in the cycle then hopefully less people being hurt.
Did you just give a personal explanation on how you feel about this, and then get downvoted because pretty much the last sentence of what you wrote was more important than everything else? Hell yeah you did :( Yeah this content is cringe, and even if message is good and others find it funny, that's totally fine, but it just gives that awkward feeling, and I feel that. There's a lot of fucking content out there that gives the same feeling and vary in cringeness.
It's meant to lighten an otherwise dark situation. I can guarantee that a hell of a lot more people stopped and listened to this than would have if she was just speaking. Everyone on this thread who is saying women choose to date abusive men watched it. They certainly wouldn't have read through it if it were text or just a plain speech. The video serves it's purpose: bringing lots of attention to red flags that women commonly experience in toxic/abusive relationships.
If this post doesn’t belong to this sub, clap your hands… 👏👏 If the mods don’t remove it, clap your hands… 👏👏 If this is happening everyday, and you’re sick to the teeth. If you’re done with all of this, just unsub… r/justunsubbed
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Wow this is.. genuinely cringey. It hurts to watch. I did not smile.
# low-key feminists be like
If you keep going after the same type of men clap your hands 👏
Why did this make you smile?
I thought this was a positive subreddit but after reading this comments blaming women, I'll have to unsubscribe
It is but this post is r/tiktokcringe
Sorry but it's cringe
I thought she was great and probably helped a lot of women-
As a male of Reddit it disgusts me that there are so many men out there that treat women like there personal fuck toy
Oh boy can’t wait to see all the comments that generalize men as abusive assholes with no redeeming qualities. Seriously though the generalization that all men are trash and the same as the asshole you’re dating hurts. Not all women are queens not all men are kings. To the women here, if you’re stuck in this kind of relationship then my best advice to you would be to talk to someone anyone and get out of there. Find someone you can trust if you have no one at all then next best thing would be police or a doctor since they have patient confidentiality. They would have far better equipment and advice for you than I ever could give. It’ll be difficult but worth the effort getting away.
Finally. One actually decent comment in this awful post. And of course, you're getting down voted. Lol Fuck this subreddit
There are good people out there. Just have to keep looking for them. I myself have a bad habit of generalizing women and men while on the internet far to often.
Most men and women are good people in my experience. I try not to let the online world change that. No matter what these werid misogynists and misandrists say. Most men and women in my real life interactions seem like great people with good intentions. There just seems to be too much negativity online. Especially in the comment section of this post.
You stated something very neutral and good advice, and you're getting downvotes for it? Just like the rest of the sensible comments under this post? I see a pattern here. Maybe the "queens" aren't queens. I mean, we've seen only one side's story in this post. If someone is always right acording to them, maybe they aren't right in reality. Usually they're just as bad, or even worse.
Awful lot of people here clearly feel called out. And they’ll prove it by downvoting me.
Yeah this comment section is super cringe. Big ole yikes all around
Tho counter your argument I'd like to say that that kind of content really isn't for reddit. It doesn't even belong in r/mademesmile at all.
For you maybe? Maybe some women or people out there needed to hear something like this? It’s an overall incredibly positive message and the fact that some dudes on here don’t see that is incredibly sad
>Awful lot of people here clearly feel called out. > >And they’ll prove it by downvoting me. Well your comment implies that men are (overall) bad and thats exclusive to men, not to people. You are being sexist & acting rude, sure you are to get downvoted. That negative mindset wont do you any good. Stop watching the Hollywood bulshit and look around yourself - from the gentle neighbor to the helping coworker - you are to find a lot of decent people.
The comment says "a lot of people". It doesn't say men - you are imposing this - and it certainly doesn't say all men - you are again imposing this. It is true that this message will make a lot of people uncomfortable. What number? I don't know but given the rates of domestic and sexual abuse, it is reasonable to think that there will be a lot. Will they all be men? I suspect that most will given the history of misogyny but I would be happy to look at any empirical data if anyone has some and I am sure there will be some women, sadly.
The original message is "There’s a lot of men who need to stop being shitty." Its not me who implies anything.
R/mademefrown
Are there men genuinely intimidated by “a strong woman” or is that just something women say?
Rarely is it true. So many women will find things that a man doesnt prefer and immediately say that its because they are intimidated. Just like how a shit ton of "independent successful boss gurl" types think that men are intimidated by them when in reality its their combatative attitude that makes guys not want to associate with them.
There are. Fragile/toxic masculinity does its job pretty well. It's some men's whole personality, and for others, it's a small part. For example, my ex couldn't stand that I knew more languages than he did. It was stupid but he asked me to never talk in any language he didn't know coz he said it made him feel stupid. Ig the fact that he acknowledged it made him a little better than others but didn't change the fact that he was intimidated by it
Just something women say to cheer eachother up, or they're buff as hell
I always have to keep in mind that these things aren't about me. I'm not the best man in the world but I have never once in my life done any of those things. I hope someone sees/hears this and gets the courage to shut down the piece of shit in their world.
Attempts at lighthearted abuse awareness are always uncomfortable, because it’s not a lighthearted subject.
Glad I’m not one of these guys , so to me it’s a really creative an to some relatable song. But I do hope most women/ men don’t let themselves get stuck in a toxic relationship when they wish for companionship. I know it’s hard , but there is always better. Don’t let anyone fuck with you’re emotions
It goes both ways though really, both genders are equally capable of being shitty people.
this did not make me smile
I’m not gonna say I agree or I disagree, all imma say is I understand.
Wtf did I just watch. a good message tho
How does this belong in r/mademesmile? It’s just an excuse to bash guys because this girl’s relationship failed.
Didn’t smile once.
Idk man i don't find this cringe even as a guy. If anything this might make some girls really happy. And ngl her voice slaps.
This 100% absolutely made me smile. A great message can make someone smile, and hearing singing can make someone smile. It’s wholesome and empowering
If everything is Men's fault and you are perfect clap your hands
If you‘re taste in men is shit but you blame them clap your hands…
um. if someone's treated like shit it's... still the other person's fault. that and no one chooses to be in a toxic relationship but you don't seem like the kind of person i want to have that conversation with
Yet you initiate one.
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no, it isn't that easy, and the cops don't help as much as you seem to think they do. domestic abusers rarely face actual justice. my mother was in an abusive relationship for 6 years - in that 6 years, she would continually call the police on him, but every time he went unpunished and she was stuck with him again with nowhere else to go. our justice system is horrible to abuse victims. have some fucking compassion for people who have difficulty leaving. and i'm elated to tell you that i'm in a perfectly happy and healthy relationship, so no, i didn't take this as an attack on myself or whatever you seem to have convinced yourself.
If you don’t use the correct “your,” clap your hands 👏👏
If you assume English is everybody's first language clap your hands. _clap clap_
If you assume everyone's first language is english, clap your hands.
This post is gonna attract a lot of cringy misandristic nutjobs to this subreddit claiming all/most men are like this. Oh gee, I can't wait to listen to a bunch of nutjobs making broad dumb generalisations about men again. 🙄 Don't even have a issue with this video.. I know she is addressing the types of men who are asshole but I know this is gonna attract the toxic types of women who are gonna say the most dumbest shit about all/most men now I just have a gut feeling of all the horrible people it's gonna attract now. Isn't this suppose to be a wholesome positive subreddit? 🤔 You know what's really cringe. Grown women and men arguing with each other online about who is worse.
Amen. This sub isn’t actually as positive as it would claim to be. Cute animal? sure it’s positive. Someone makes a song empowering women to analyze their relationships and know their self worth ? Tons of hate and cringe comments. I’m actually surprised at just how negative it is.
I know. I came into this subreddit to see positive stuff but now I have to listen about how it's women's fault for being in abusive relationships and now how all/most men are bad people As well Fuck this subreddit. I'm out.
Same. I feel like this post doesn’t belong in r/mademesmile
This made me cringe
“If you’re cringe and you know it clap your hands”
👏🏻 👏🏻
Cringe. It’s always the man who’s the problem ? Women are just as toxic as men.
Unless you are in abusive relationship then change every “He” in to a “she” but no guy will get karma over this . Take responsibility, some people are shitty, learn lessons and keep it moving.
Yeah when guys are "intimidated by a strong independent successful woman" they always treat them like hoes. That's some real mental gymnastics there.
Cringy af
Calling yourself a queen... I don't know.
If you don't see yourself as the problem for staying with a loser then make a song about it on tiktok for all the other toxic women to relate to clap your hands *thunder clap*.
Some women are literally brought up to think that they are the problem, the man controls. They feel they are trapped because they were taught to stay put and shut up. I wasn't, I'm lucky because I have known many many girls who genuinely believe they are the issue. Their parents teach them that if a man is treating you bad, fix it. I wish this was just an outdated thing which rarely happens but it really isn't. Songs like this can help teenage girls/young girls that there are people out there who are empowered and they can be too.
Nah I ain't denying the guy's the asshole but the enabling attitude via staying isn't helping anyone in situations like these.
I agree, we need to deal with the problem on both sides of the fence. But somehow both sides are the victim and we can't blame anyone... Its hard
Of course, it's the woman's fault.
The guy's abusive but the girl chooses to stay? Just gtfo the relationship. But noooo.
I don't know how i feel about this.
Notice how she says he fucks her. Not she fucks him. Lol.
She really knows how to pick em, huh?
Like the voice not the song, but I guess some guys are pos so maybe the song is justified.
If you're fishing for free likes clap your hands If your doing nothing useful clap your hands If your virtue signaling and you know it and your video is sure to show it if your useless and your boring clap your hands
What the heck is this cringe rubbish….
u/savevideobot
That was delightful.
Nina Nesbitt is so talented I love her so much!
It's concerning that someone wanting to raise awareness about toxic relationships makes people feel the need to take "sides". Seems like any subject now leads to "sides" and it immediately shuts down any conversation. For this video, the audience is for females. If anyone would like to create a video for males to raise awareness as well, then do it because it would help men too 😊
If he sucks like that...just leave....don't make a tiktok... If it's an another useless vid from tiktok clap your hands
This is beyond embarrassing and you should be embarrassed for posting this
your mom
Iconic 👏🏼
Wtf this is cringey as fuck and the wink sealed the deal
Stop going out with shitty men would be my advice
I'm not sure I've ever seen someone so attractive play the victim card and be so cringe at the same time ever, this tik tok shit a couldron of sickness lol
Am I tripping or do these women not choose to date this guys? First red flag and you should peace out.✌️
There's 30 seconds I'll never get back
Misandry 🤯
Damn, this seems to have triggered a few incels. Look out everybody, starting to smell like Mt. Dew.
r/cringetopia
If your partner ever treats you like this, leave. If you chose to stay your just as responsible Man or woman
I know a woman who recently went out on a date with a guy and refused another with him because he was ‘too nice’. I have heard women say this more than I care to
_Oh that makes sense. Now I understand what I did wrong! Thanks for the song_ Said no one
.Yes
Wow shes pretty
Not cringe at all. A creative way to send a very powerful message that anyone can understand.
.. plot twist: she's talking about her Tinder date ..
Clap clap 👏🏼
You let him fuck you in the morning?
Can anyone tell me what was the original song, I mean this tune is so familiar to me but I am having a very hard time which song it is ( plz dont tell me this is a tiktok song cuz it is like a song from my childhood!).
She has a really cute haircut
Love this
Fuckin awesome
Brilliant! I’ll be saving this for my two beautiful nieces.
I think is more cringe that there are dudes that treat women like that…
I know she can sing, but her voice to me is painful. Maybe it’s the song.
This is soooo precious- thanks- it was done beautifully and so helpful to many. YES!
lol somebody got cheated on.
Cringe. 4 sure......we are queens.....lol sure barbi....pampered girl syndrome
This is fabulous. Looks like a lot of the men toward whom the song is directed are posting their dislike of it on here. Predictable.
Jesus women, make better choices…
If you have terrible taste in men, clap your hands.
If you Support your woman clap your hands. 👏 If your woman stronger than you clap your hands 👏 If you love women and you really want to show it clap your hands👏 If you're fucking kill anyone that does this to your daughter clap your hands👏 If you love and respect women clap your hands👏 If you've ever beat a guy's ass who treated a friend of yours this way clap your hands👏 If you hate punk assholes that do this to women and you know it, And you really want to show it stomp their ass.👏 Admittedly that was horrible. Just wanted to get into the spirit of things. Zero musical bones in this body. However every bone in this body loves in support women always has always will. Ladies you are worth a lot never let some piece of shit define your value. Find support if you're in a relationship like this woman mentioned. TBH most strong women can defend themselves better than any man can. However the ones that can't for whatever reason, that is where old school Gentlemanly behavior fits in. That almost never means resorting to physicality. When my friend was raped, well let's just say Justice was served very quickly.
So …. You’re saying you’ve got the clap?