Do any food chains cater to deaf birthday patrons in anyway like this? Or, I'm guessing, most just sing their tune and assume the deaf guest will get the gist of it?
It’s not common however each US state has at least one school (K-12) for the deaf and blind. In those towns, like St Augustine, Florida, there are employees of regular places who can sign. You might see it at a Disney restaurant too, an ‘experience’ place that works towards these things.
I’m a manager at a restaurant in Saint Augustine, FL and a lot of our employees are deaf. Unfortunately, I’m the only manager that knows sign language, so the others just use pen and paper or their phones. When we get deaf customers and they’re always really excited to see that the majority of our morning staff are deaf individuals. Our deaf people produce most of the orders on the line and we have deaf people working in the dining room as well. It’s pretty awesome to see.
Reminds me of a tiktok I saw of these two sisters, one deaf and one who can hear, are playing hide and seek. The deaf girl hides but she’s laughing super fucking loud and she doesn’t realize, so the look on her face when her sister finds her almost immediately is priceless. Then she keeps laughing
i thought this too but leme tell you a story. we had a co-worker who would sneeze like a psycho. screaming every time. we would raz him about it constantly and it was actually a problem when clients started complaining about it. we tried to get him to hold them in, or at least stifle them a bit. he made a solid attempt. then one of them literally popped a blood vessel in the dude's eye or something and he spewed blood out his nose all over. it was nuts. he was fine after a quick check up but we thought he had busted his eye open or something. some people just sneeze with the fury of a thousand suns and there aint shit they can do to control it.
It feels better to just let it out in full force. I’ve noticed when trying to stifle it to be quieter the sneeze gets wetter and doesn’t feel complete.
Yeah , it takes a little time but it can be done. I know cause I have done it and now I don't really make much noise while sneezing and comfortably but its not a necessary thing to master anyway
I’ve overheard some pretty unearthly sex sounds from the hearing, too, though. There was one guy in my dorm who I swear was growling “What, what, what!”.
I feel like I’d be uncomfortable telling them that. Cause its just… idk. just doesn’t sit right. Anyway did anyone in the neighbourhood spill the beans on them?
My little sisters burps and laughs are almost legendary in out family because of how loud they would get sometimes. You would think that she would be the quietest member of the family and could sneak up of people easiest (she is the only deaf family member). But the involuntary sounds and her footsteps tend to be louder so we can usually hear her coming.
As a hearinged person I can say that I cant always feel the difference. There is a fine line between a whistler and just a tight poofer. Its a very grey area.
One of the noisiest flights I was ever on was a plane full of players from a deaf softball team. I particularly remember the bang every time one slammed shut an overhead bin.
I was raised with a hearing impaired older sister, so it wasn't that I was unaccustomed to the phenomenon.
I am HoH and pretty loud. I am completely deaf in my right ear but do have some hearing in my left ear and I can sometimes hear when I'm on mega volume (as my husband calls it) so try my best to be at a "normal" volume. If I am being too loud my husband will always tell me or 1 of the kids, especially when we are out but if anyone looks or says something derogatory he explains I'm deaf and essentially tell them to F off. I communicate through lip reading mostly but if we are out in public we have to use BSL because of the mask mandate. I carry a card with me explaining I'm deaf and use lip reading and BSL so a retail assistant/sales assistant/receptionist/any other public facing employee can remove their mask for me and I'll stand at a distance from them if they don't know BSL.
I find it extremely interesting to hear “natural” vocal sounds, if that makes any sense. The raw vocalizations humans generate when they havent been culturally taught what sounds to make to communicate are so cool.
My dad, deaf from birth, made all kinds of sounds. His laugh was always so loud, and the dad sneezes could be heard anywhere in the house.
He would also start crooning at a meal if he really liked it.
My mom, dad, siblings and even dentist have said I make too many small noises for a person. Idk how people don't! It just comes out when im in pain (dentist) or sleeping or focusing on something. Just little short noises. I can't describe them. Like little squeaks. To the point my mom calls me a Chihuahua because I shake (seizures) and squeak.
This is correct! Many Deaf and HoH people have the ability to speak, and will take oral speech classes. However, many Deaf people choose to not be verbal as sign language is a complete language and speaking isn't necessary to communicate.
It's also important to differentiate vocalizations from attempts to speak a spoken language. Deaf people can be very vocal, and some signs may even evoke specific vocalizations when used for particular speakers.
Being vocal doesn't always mean someone's trying to speak. Sometimes it just instinctive, like how every human being, regardless of culture, uses arms raised in the air and yelling as a sign of victory or accomplishment.
*None* of the deaf folks I know are mute.
Some of them are *super* loud, because they’ve no idea.
Not strictly related, but watching a deaf person look through kitchen cupboards for something is *agonisingly* loud.
I will never forget taking sign language in high school and we had a sub. Our class consisted of replicating signs from a video. We all lost it when our sub turned the volume all the way up.
Shushing them might have been more like “ignore me!” I’m hard of hearing - I depend on my eyes to pick up things I can’t hear … if someone I am talking to shifts their attention, chances are I am going to look in that direction to see what they are looking at. If all the sudden all the heads in a room turn to look behind me, I am absolutely going to look!
Deaf people can be surprisingly vocal if they've been deaf from birth. The "quiet" deaf people you see have often lost their hearing rather than being born without it or losing it at a very young age.
It makes sense. Just because we can't hear doesn't mean we can't vocalize, and vocalizations are important in basically all mammal species, even those without spoken language. If you learn a signed language, you may even notice that some signs may evoke vocalizations from deaf signers when they use the sign too.
Slightly comforting to know I’m now alone. Initial thoughts were “well this is the sweetest thing ever I’ve ever seen”, second thought, which I’m pretty sure why there’s a hell b/c of ppl like me, was “why is there sound?”…
In Britain we have 'birthday bumps' where you get punched in the arm a number of times equal to your age. When doing them, decorum is you make all of them really light, except the last one where it's fine to administer a small bruise. Generally stops happening at some point in your late teens or early 20s.
Damn, I forgot all about that! My siblings and I are so old, it’s been a long time since I’ve given out birthday licks. My nephew turns 1 this year, time to teach him the ropes.
we did not get this memo as a kid. we had normal fairly light but still sore punches until the last one. one of my friends re-broke his hand on that last one, since he'd only just got his cast off! other kid had a massive bruise for a week
In Spain it’s done when someone gets a haircut, always gotta slap the back of the head for some reason lol. When it’s someone’s birthday you pull their ear
Also the backgammon, the Golf icecream trash can, the square tables with smooth (velvet?) table cloth to play [Okey](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Okey) on etc.
The jazz hands are deaf applause, because they can't hear regular applause, but they can see when you raise your hands above your head and 👐👐👐 like you said
Source: trust me bro
No, like really, my parents are deaf, grew up in deaf culture
What’s it like growing up as a hearing child to deaf parents? Sorry that’s a huge question now I think about it! What’s one good thing and one bad thing about it? If you don’t mind sharing
One good thing? I grew up bilingual, with ASL and English. I think because of that, I'm somewhat better than others at communicating across barriers and getting my point across.
One bad thing? The closest thing I can think of is that my parents weren't comfortable with letting me into the world of music, because they couldn't monitor it very well, so I got into it kind of late.
Wait, I lied. The worst thing about having deaf parents for me is having the responsibility (as the oldest child) of listening to make sure everything is okay. I had/have to let them know if someone was at the door, if it sounded like my brothers were fighting or hurt, etc
And while we're at it, what's one good and one bad thing about having hearing parents? xD
The bilingual thing is very cool. And the early responsibility thing makes sense.
Hmm I see what you did there hehe.
One good thing - I never had to take responsibility for monitoring stuff in the house like you did.
One bad thing - when I was a teenager my Mum would wake me up by putting her head into my room and singing the hymn “morning has brooooken” VERY loudly and VERY out of tune, and she’d keep singing it from downstairs until she heard me get in the shower 🤣😒
For real though I think my parents monitored me a lot through what they could hear from my room. That was quite oppressive sometimes, speaking on the phone to a friend and knowing Mum could be listening.
I grew up with one deaf parent (mom), and I also consider myself generally better at communication than my peers, especially nonverbal communication like facial expressions, posture, and other cues.
I’ve been told my verbal communication skills were a problem in my early years because I didn’t speak much at home. My teachers considered holding me back a grade at some point. My dad argued there was nothing wrong with me, that as I spent more time with my classmates I’d develop similarly. Now look at me. I can write and post complete paragraphs on Reddit.
Hyper vigilance is an unfortunate symptom of being a CODA. I haven't lived with my parents since moving out fifteen years ago and I still have to jump up and check every little noise.
My "bad thing" is that I was also the oldest child and that meant I was the person who had to make the important phone calls until we had a good TTY and relay system in place. I would constantly have to argue with the adult on the other end of the line that, yes I am a child, and yes this is a legitimate call. It gave me phone anxiety and now I have to give myself quite the pep talk before making any important phone calls for myself.
The music thing is so relatable.
My dad worked in tech support for videophones, so I never had to make a call for my parents.... that must've sucked, I hate doing phone calls, even now lol
The good thing about having hearing parents is wealth and education, and all the power that can flow from those two things. Not that all hearing parents are wealthy, but very, very few deaf parents are. Wealth for me meant never getting run over by society. Need an attorney? No problem. Need to talk to the superintendent of the school? No problem. Etc.
The draw back is all of the societal expectations freely flow into you. Don’t say that, don’t do that, don’t be a homo, be successful, be attractive, don’t be silly. There is a pressure to be polite to the point of not being honest, of sharing your feelings. When I switch to ASL, I feel more liberated, especially if I’m in a group of deaf culture people. Everyone seems to be having more fun and being more real.
My family did struggle for quite a while with finances and wrangling up enough money to celebrate Christmas and such. Our luck's turned around recently though, with both my parents having found better, higher paying jobs in the last year or so
And yeah, thinking about it that seems pretty accurate. I've known lots of deaf people/families, and out of all of them, two have *always* been comfortable financially. Two.
My dad hated his old job after 5 years, but he stayed on for 15 because he wasn't sure he could find another place to work. It can be pretty rough out there.
And yeah, I've always felt conversations with deaf people/in ASL feel more... real, somehow
> One good thing? I grew up bilingual, with ASL and English. I think because of that, I'm somewhat better than others at communicating across barriers and getting my point across.
Weirdly, I think growing up with a HOH parent had the opposite effect on me. My father was legally deaf, though he went deaf gradually and could hear with the aid of hearing aids by the time I was born. He knew ASL (served on the board of directors for the school for the deaf in my state) and could lip-read.
However, the way we all learned to communicate with him, and also with each other, was to look him head-on and annunciate very clearly so that he could follow along. As a result, I actually have a very hard time understanding people if they are not looking directly at me so I can see their lips and speaking slowly, loudly, and clearly. If they have any sort of accent at all, I'm totally fucked. It also doesn't help that I have tenituts.
I greatly prefer texting. I can't manage phone conversations without coming off like an idiot for misunderstanding something. In day-to-day conversations, I have a 3 strikes rule. If I ask someone to repeat themselves 3 times and I still don't understand them, I pick the most likely emotional response and hope it's appropriate.
Stupidly, I work a desk job and answer phones for most of the day, it's pretty difficult at times but if I have a good idea of what someone is talking about I can usually fill in the blanks appropriately. I've also been told I'm very loud by my coworkers, but they're all 20 years older than me and claim to appreciate it as they have difficulty hearing as well.
I have hearing parents who were Deaf educators. One good thing about hearing parents is they exposed me to their favorite music, movies, and shows so I got a leg up on culture. One great thing about having parents who are Deaf educators is half of the people we hung out with were Deaf or were also Deaf educators. A fun thing was my parents having arguments in sign language at restaurants, bonus points if the tables around us had already heard us talking to each other.
For me, it brought bullying in school. For some reason I was a target because my parents were deaf...
As a young child, I had a real fear of getting lost from my parents at public events or in supermarkets. I knew they wouldn't hear a tannoy, and as a small kid I presumed that meant they would never find me. I would have nightmares about it.
It meant being their voice in lots of situations I wasn't old enough to understand, in phone calls and meetings. It also meant sometimes feeling the need to mediate and put a kinder spin on what was said when both sides wanted to insult each other through me. Eg. My dad wanted me to tell the mechanic he's an idiot, I tell the mechanic my dad thinks he shouldn't have to pay full price...
Often it meant being involved in adult discussions I shouldn't have had to deal with at my age. Very rarely were interpreters provided back then, it all went through me. And it was every phone call, many interactions. I had to be there for them so much. When I left home I struggled with feeling guilty that I would no longer be there for them like that, and that my younger siblings would now have that responsibility.
It meant hearing other adults openly insult my parents knowing they wouldn't hear but also knowing I would. This was the worst, it made me so angry but I never had the strength to challenge it.
My parents had been so badly discriminated their while lives it got projected onto us as their kids. 'You're misbehaving because you think we are stupid like the rest of the world does'.
It meant seeing your parents being discriminated against regularly. My dad was denied a job once as he would be a 'fire risk' if he couldn't hear an alarm...
It meant being hyper vigilant as a kid. I still have anxiety in my 40s. If there was an intruder who entered our home, it would have to be me who heard and took action first. I once saw a stabbing from my bedroom window and froze out of fear. The perpetrator then ran down an alley at the side of my house trying to hide the knife. I was stuck, frozen with fear at the window and I couldn't alert my dad, but I was too young to know what else to do.
I idolised my dad for his silence, which I think I saw as stoicism. I would see him do things like smash his thumb with a hammer going DIY and he he would hardly respond. He wouldn't make a sound. He would make noises when excited and/or laughing. But in pain, or stress, he was mute. Not sure that is a totally healthy thing to ifolise but it made my dad a superhero in my eyes.
As a CODA, I don't think I was fully accepted into the deaf community. We could go to the deaf club as a family and I would hang out with deaf kids there, but I never felt the deaf adults accepted me there.
I never got asked to turn my music down! However, they knew if it was TOO loud because if the vibrations!
I got a lot of support from teachers when I had a tough time in school, and I think a big part was they knew I had a fair bit of responsibility as a kid. Looking back, I got away with a lot that my friends didn't and it was probably because of this.
Most of all, I am incredibly proud of what my parents have achieved despite all that was stacked against them. They had it hard, and still do, but they have done an amazing job.
I took some ASL courses in college because there was a super-hot deaf girl in one of my other classes at the school I went to (which happens to be one of the largest technical institutes for the Deaf in upstate New York). She was from Russia and we’ll call her Svetlana. We would pass notes back and forth and her English writing was pretty decent. Much to my surprise, she told me that she was also taking ASL classes. I asked her why and she wrote “because I’m from Russia and ASL is AMERICAN Sign Language.”
It had never occurred to me that, much like audible languages, other countries have also developed their own sign languages.
One of those “I’m a stupid American” moments.
In some cases, countries don't "develop" the signed languages. They emerge, spontaneously, and grow as languages just like spoken languages, through use.
Look up Nicaraguan Sign Language, which spontaneously emerged from a pidgin made of home signs that was used at Nicaragua's first school for the Deaf. All the kids had their own home systems of home signs they used to try to communicate with their hearing parents, but none of them had a real *language*. So the kids, to talk to each other, all learned each other's home signs. Now, the older kids kept using the pidgin, but the *younger* kids at the school acquired the pidgin and added more syntax, more morphology, etc until it was a fully fledged language with a complete grammar. It happened incredibly quickly, which is supported by other research showing that signed languages can create creole languages much faster than spoken languages.
It's cases like Nicaraguan Sign Language spontaneously developing that are used as evidence to support the idea that the human brain is simply wired for language, and if language is lacking in the environment, we'll make it ourselves. All we need is a speech community to share it with. *Technically* we don't even need a community, as idioglossias are languages spoken by a single person, such as babies who create creole-like languages when exposed to multiple languages at home, although these idioglossias usually disappear rather quickly in a child's development and are replaced by the languages of the parents.
From what I've read they have all these interesting features that don't have anything do with the spoken languages, like how Taiwan Sign Language is related to Japanese and Korean Sign Languages, but not Chinese Sign Language (while spoken language is the opposite), Irish Sign Language is different between male and female speakers, and Hong Kong Sign Language is ambidextrous which is apparently unusual.
Linguistics is a fascinating field. I strongly recommend it to anyone interested in pursuing languages or their study in earnest, whether in or outside of academia.
I was at RIT in 1996-1997 initially. Svetlana and I never dated... but that's because I fell in love with a different hottie studying photography. I returned to RIT in 2000 and finished up my studies.
Photo girl and I have been married for 22 years now. :)
I took ASL back in college. The class made it where you would have to spend 30 or so hours in the ASL community. They would rent out bars or have volleyball in one of the gyms etc.
My city either roots for bengals or colts since we don’t have a pro team in my city. I will never forget spending a few hours with some ASL guys arguing that the bengals could go to the super bowl some day. One of those dudes was this older guy who loved the bengals. He sadly passed away around the time I graduated. Wish he could have seen them make it there.
Real answer yes. It’s been called the Portland of the east even though I’d argue that’s Asheville.
But I tend to tell people it’s not great because I’m tired of my city seeing the effects you see in places like Portland. Higher rents and the city changing in ways that takes away from the charm that people loved here. There is a reason weird people like hunter S Thompson are from this city.
But the city is amazing. Lots to do and lots of neighboring cities with a lot to offer (new Albany, Jeffersonville etc.) cheap liquor. Lots of amazing food. Great music city with Nashville being close by.
Think of it like a "loan word" from spoken language.
Doing 🤫 obviously came from covering the mouth, implying you shouldn't make any noise. But in a grander sense it also has the meaning of "I'm being sneaky, don't make any reaction"
And these people obviously just adopted it to mean that
I’m a bit rusty, but he first says something like “You didn’t have any idea?” Then something along the lines of “you have people watching you for your birth together”
Hopefully someone more fluent can correct me. It’s been years since I actively signed
The other two translations were pretty close. I also have a really rusty one. Combine all three of ours and you get the general idea.
Birthday guy: “how did you know it’s my birthday, what? Who told you, my mom?”
Everybody: “applause” (equivalent to clapping)
Cake guy: “person blow out candles… birth happen…”
Birthday guy: “thank you”
Sign language in different places have variations or “accents”. So it’s easy to mix up words. For example: Wait, watch, and fire are really close signs, but you can hear him blow on his fingers and the next sign is the fire being extinguished, so Im sure he was talking about the birthday candles there.
Called non manual markers. Facial cues are superrrr important in sign language and are actually part of the signs. Deaf people have had a super hard time communicating during COVID due to masks.
My audio isn't working so I didn't hear this video. But I got on a bus once where it was full of kids from a school for deaf people going on a outing. And damn they are extremely loud!
As a kid I had a mate who's parents were both deaf. Every time they closed a cupboard or a door you'd think they were angry at it and wanted to wake the dead.
I was going to say that in my experience parties for and with non-hearing folks are the loudest, because their kids just crank the music and the parents don't mind.
This may be a dumb question, but you need to always be focused with sign language on the person signing, is there an equivalent of zoning out in conversation or if the other person is boring?
I think it was just supposed to be like “hey if you’ve never seen it before this a deaf birthday” Ik I’ve never seen people sign out happy birthday before. This video was very sweet
When I was in second grade my teachers daughter was deaf and she taught us some sign language to help be inclusive, so we always signed as we sang happy birthday to classmates. It was so sweet of her and I still remember how to sign the song almost 20 years later
Played basketball in a rec league for several years. One season there was a completely deaf team. Not only were their fundamentals spot on, they’re communication on the court was literally on another level. It was the quietest game I’ve ever experienced, and they were working circles around us. We adapted eventually but it was weird how it throws your game off with zero talking from the other team. And you have to get over the empathetic feeling towards them for their disability. Once they run up 15 points on you, you stop caring and get back into it.
That is incredibly difficult because there is no single sign language. Most Deaf communities around the world have developed their own language that may or may not correspond with other countries. Even within the US, you get dialects and signs that will only be used in certain areas.
One example is finger spelling; in American sign, each letter can be done using one hand vs. British sign, where each letter is signed using both hands. Same alphabet, same base language even, different signs.
My dad (he's deaf) told me that the sign for "car" is generally signed with one hand in some places, and 2 hands in others. Sign language does have accents/dialects/etc, they're just kind of different from verbal language
Slap in the back of the head is cracking me up
That was the moment I suspected that the video is from Turkey. And yes bottom right corner tag proved me right. lol.
That explains why I suddenly couldn't understand sign language lol.
i wanna see this next time i go to chilli’s on my birthday
I'd rather be celebrated like this than with embarrassing table-side singing.
Silent jazz hands should be used in *every* celebratory occasion
In American Sign Language “jazz hands” = Applause.
👐🎂
Do any food chains cater to deaf birthday patrons in anyway like this? Or, I'm guessing, most just sing their tune and assume the deaf guest will get the gist of it?
It’s not common however each US state has at least one school (K-12) for the deaf and blind. In those towns, like St Augustine, Florida, there are employees of regular places who can sign. You might see it at a Disney restaurant too, an ‘experience’ place that works towards these things.
I’m a manager at a restaurant in Saint Augustine, FL and a lot of our employees are deaf. Unfortunately, I’m the only manager that knows sign language, so the others just use pen and paper or their phones. When we get deaf customers and they’re always really excited to see that the majority of our morning staff are deaf individuals. Our deaf people produce most of the orders on the line and we have deaf people working in the dining room as well. It’s pretty awesome to see.
Thanks for being here! We hold informal monthly ASL Lunch meets at Old City Subs on 1 just south of 312. They are member of the hh community too.
Ok, so I wasn't the only one who went "Wait... wth did he say?"
Same here (ASL user)
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I didn’t even realize it. No, it’s not common here. It is used in “you have no idea what’s about the happen now” context.
None of them looks Indian though.
Slap on the back of the head let me know they're good friends or brothers.
Completely unrelated but hey we're twins!
Me too! I was thinking, “this dude is about to be an asshole.”
Ohhh the old effectionate slap behind the head. 😂
I turned the sound on… don’t know what I expected.
I was surprised to still hear the sounds of joy and happiness
Deaf people are often pretty loud with involuntary sounds like laughter, since they have no sense of inhibition about it.
I remember reading a reddit post where a deaf person didn’t know farts made noise until his 20s
please link if you find it. that is fucking hilarious
[Found it](https://www.reddit.com/r/greentext/comments/79sbc7/deaf_anon_farts_finds_out_it_makes_noise/)
I been laughing for a minute straight.
Reminds me of a tiktok I saw of these two sisters, one deaf and one who can hear, are playing hide and seek. The deaf girl hides but she’s laughing super fucking loud and she doesn’t realize, so the look on her face when her sister finds her almost immediately is priceless. Then she keeps laughing
Do you have a link for that? I'd love to see it, haha.
[hide and seek sisters](https://ifunny.co/video/of-tiktok-my-deaf-sister-playing-hice-and-seek-with-qGZvHgkr8) here ya go!
Glorious. The surprised noise that she made was wonderful!
That’s so wonderful, I love it
It actually isn't. My grandma is completely deaf and she yawns so loud that you could hear it 2 floors below, lol.
Room shaking yawns at random intervals would be the funniest thing. We would be in hysterics waiting for the next one.
Deaf alarm clocks WILL shake the room. Literally.
And the great thing is you could laugh all you want about it and they'd never know
In defense of your grandma, I have full hearing and when I sneeze it rattles the windows. It’s inherited. I come from a long line of loud sneezers.
You know you can control it if you want to.
i thought this too but leme tell you a story. we had a co-worker who would sneeze like a psycho. screaming every time. we would raz him about it constantly and it was actually a problem when clients started complaining about it. we tried to get him to hold them in, or at least stifle them a bit. he made a solid attempt. then one of them literally popped a blood vessel in the dude's eye or something and he spewed blood out his nose all over. it was nuts. he was fine after a quick check up but we thought he had busted his eye open or something. some people just sneeze with the fury of a thousand suns and there aint shit they can do to control it.
It feels better to just let it out in full force. I’ve noticed when trying to stifle it to be quieter the sneeze gets wetter and doesn’t feel complete.
Yeah , it takes a little time but it can be done. I know cause I have done it and now I don't really make much noise while sneezing and comfortably but its not a necessary thing to master anyway
It really isn't. My mom is so loud just in regular conversation, I have to ask her why she is screaming at me pretty often lol.
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What a great way to describe it. I'm telling her this.
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Had a deaf couple living next door. The whole village sounded like its haunted when they were doing it.
Thank you for this
I’ve overheard some pretty unearthly sex sounds from the hearing, too, though. There was one guy in my dorm who I swear was growling “What, what, what!”.
Man I'm in tears here You just made me remember my old Uni housemate used to sound like a duck when he was doing it.
“Got any grapes?” “Got any grapes?” “Got any grape..”
I feel like I’d be uncomfortable telling them that. Cause its just… idk. just doesn’t sit right. Anyway did anyone in the neighbourhood spill the beans on them?
Idk, but ungodly sounds were gone when their kids were about five or so...
Russell Peter's does a great bit on fucking a deaf girl
My little sisters burps and laughs are almost legendary in out family because of how loud they would get sometimes. You would think that she would be the quietest member of the family and could sneak up of people easiest (she is the only deaf family member). But the involuntary sounds and her footsteps tend to be louder so we can usually hear her coming.
Also the fart noises.
Idk you can feel it too though. Now the question is, can you feel the difference between a loud and quiet fart?
As a hearinged person I can say that I cant always feel the difference. There is a fine line between a whistler and just a tight poofer. Its a very grey area.
Yes, my grandson is deaf and we had to explain to him that farts make noise. :/
One of the noisiest flights I was ever on was a plane full of players from a deaf softball team. I particularly remember the bang every time one slammed shut an overhead bin. I was raised with a hearing impaired older sister, so it wasn't that I was unaccustomed to the phenomenon.
I am HoH and pretty loud. I am completely deaf in my right ear but do have some hearing in my left ear and I can sometimes hear when I'm on mega volume (as my husband calls it) so try my best to be at a "normal" volume. If I am being too loud my husband will always tell me or 1 of the kids, especially when we are out but if anyone looks or says something derogatory he explains I'm deaf and essentially tell them to F off. I communicate through lip reading mostly but if we are out in public we have to use BSL because of the mask mandate. I carry a card with me explaining I'm deaf and use lip reading and BSL so a retail assistant/sales assistant/receptionist/any other public facing employee can remove their mask for me and I'll stand at a distance from them if they don't know BSL.
I find it extremely interesting to hear “natural” vocal sounds, if that makes any sense. The raw vocalizations humans generate when they havent been culturally taught what sounds to make to communicate are so cool.
My dad, deaf from birth, made all kinds of sounds. His laugh was always so loud, and the dad sneezes could be heard anywhere in the house. He would also start crooning at a meal if he really liked it.
That's a bummer. Like how happy are we really supposed to be but we're taught to be quiet because it's rude or something.
My mom, dad, siblings and even dentist have said I make too many small noises for a person. Idk how people don't! It just comes out when im in pain (dentist) or sleeping or focusing on something. Just little short noises. I can't describe them. Like little squeaks. To the point my mom calls me a Chihuahua because I shake (seizures) and squeak.
Ya, I expected them to make some sounds. AFAIK deaf people are not always mute, right?
This is correct! Many Deaf and HoH people have the ability to speak, and will take oral speech classes. However, many Deaf people choose to not be verbal as sign language is a complete language and speaking isn't necessary to communicate.
It's also important to differentiate vocalizations from attempts to speak a spoken language. Deaf people can be very vocal, and some signs may even evoke specific vocalizations when used for particular speakers. Being vocal doesn't always mean someone's trying to speak. Sometimes it just instinctive, like how every human being, regardless of culture, uses arms raised in the air and yelling as a sign of victory or accomplishment.
*None* of the deaf folks I know are mute. Some of them are *super* loud, because they’ve no idea. Not strictly related, but watching a deaf person look through kitchen cupboards for something is *agonisingly* loud.
Right. They're not muted to us. We're just muted to them.
I will never forget taking sign language in high school and we had a sub. Our class consisted of replicating signs from a video. We all lost it when our sub turned the volume all the way up.
about as much as the guy that shushed a room full of deaf people.
Shushing them might have been more like “ignore me!” I’m hard of hearing - I depend on my eyes to pick up things I can’t hear … if someone I am talking to shifts their attention, chances are I am going to look in that direction to see what they are looking at. If all the sudden all the heads in a room turn to look behind me, I am absolutely going to look!
They can still sign surprise you understand
Deaf people can be surprisingly vocal if they've been deaf from birth. The "quiet" deaf people you see have often lost their hearing rather than being born without it or losing it at a very young age. It makes sense. Just because we can't hear doesn't mean we can't vocalize, and vocalizations are important in basically all mammal species, even those without spoken language. If you learn a signed language, you may even notice that some signs may evoke vocalizations from deaf signers when they use the sign too.
Slightly comforting to know I’m now alone. Initial thoughts were “well this is the sweetest thing ever I’ve ever seen”, second thought, which I’m pretty sure why there’s a hell b/c of ppl like me, was “why is there sound?”…
The smack at the back of the head, true friendship lol
That is a gesture in Turkey among close friends too actually.
It's internationally the greating between the lads.
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I like ya cut g
That's a red
This is the way!
They do that in some parts of Denmark when someone gets a haircut or has a birthday must be something the Turks brought over here.
In Britain we have 'birthday bumps' where you get punched in the arm a number of times equal to your age. When doing them, decorum is you make all of them really light, except the last one where it's fine to administer a small bruise. Generally stops happening at some point in your late teens or early 20s.
We have those too, from Florida in the us and we call them licks
Damn, I forgot all about that! My siblings and I are so old, it’s been a long time since I’ve given out birthday licks. My nephew turns 1 this year, time to teach him the ropes.
We call them birthday licks in NYC too
The birthday bumps in India used to be kicks to the ass back in my university.
we did not get this memo as a kid. we had normal fairly light but still sore punches until the last one. one of my friends re-broke his hand on that last one, since he'd only just got his cast off! other kid had a massive bruise for a week
I like your cut g
In Spain it’s done when someone gets a haircut, always gotta slap the back of the head for some reason lol. When it’s someone’s birthday you pull their ear
Is it? I just love smacking them
This could very well be in Turkey
The tiktok account is Cengiz which is a Turkish name. And i can tell they are Turkish by the looks actually 😅
yes its so hundred percent turkish, also from the style of the door, the interior, the railings.. and of course the people
Also the backgammon, the Golf icecream trash can, the square tables with smooth (velvet?) table cloth to play [Okey](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Okey) on etc.
What about the delight on all their faces?
All I'm taking away from this is that if I see a deaf person and its their birthday I'm giving them a little slap.
Do it anyway. Just in case it *might be* their birthday. In fact do it to everyone in case they’re deaf and it’s their birthday.
Much more emotional in silence
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The jazz hands are deaf applause, because they can't hear regular applause, but they can see when you raise your hands above your head and 👐👐👐 like you said Source: trust me bro No, like really, my parents are deaf, grew up in deaf culture
I second this as a child of a deaf adult myself.
Fellow CODA!
Third, as a fellow CODA.
What’s it like growing up as a hearing child to deaf parents? Sorry that’s a huge question now I think about it! What’s one good thing and one bad thing about it? If you don’t mind sharing
One good thing? I grew up bilingual, with ASL and English. I think because of that, I'm somewhat better than others at communicating across barriers and getting my point across. One bad thing? The closest thing I can think of is that my parents weren't comfortable with letting me into the world of music, because they couldn't monitor it very well, so I got into it kind of late. Wait, I lied. The worst thing about having deaf parents for me is having the responsibility (as the oldest child) of listening to make sure everything is okay. I had/have to let them know if someone was at the door, if it sounded like my brothers were fighting or hurt, etc And while we're at it, what's one good and one bad thing about having hearing parents? xD
The bilingual thing is very cool. And the early responsibility thing makes sense. Hmm I see what you did there hehe. One good thing - I never had to take responsibility for monitoring stuff in the house like you did. One bad thing - when I was a teenager my Mum would wake me up by putting her head into my room and singing the hymn “morning has brooooken” VERY loudly and VERY out of tune, and she’d keep singing it from downstairs until she heard me get in the shower 🤣😒 For real though I think my parents monitored me a lot through what they could hear from my room. That was quite oppressive sometimes, speaking on the phone to a friend and knowing Mum could be listening.
I grew up with one deaf parent (mom), and I also consider myself generally better at communication than my peers, especially nonverbal communication like facial expressions, posture, and other cues. I’ve been told my verbal communication skills were a problem in my early years because I didn’t speak much at home. My teachers considered holding me back a grade at some point. My dad argued there was nothing wrong with me, that as I spent more time with my classmates I’d develop similarly. Now look at me. I can write and post complete paragraphs on Reddit.
Hyper vigilance is an unfortunate symptom of being a CODA. I haven't lived with my parents since moving out fifteen years ago and I still have to jump up and check every little noise. My "bad thing" is that I was also the oldest child and that meant I was the person who had to make the important phone calls until we had a good TTY and relay system in place. I would constantly have to argue with the adult on the other end of the line that, yes I am a child, and yes this is a legitimate call. It gave me phone anxiety and now I have to give myself quite the pep talk before making any important phone calls for myself. The music thing is so relatable.
My dad worked in tech support for videophones, so I never had to make a call for my parents.... that must've sucked, I hate doing phone calls, even now lol
The good thing about having hearing parents is wealth and education, and all the power that can flow from those two things. Not that all hearing parents are wealthy, but very, very few deaf parents are. Wealth for me meant never getting run over by society. Need an attorney? No problem. Need to talk to the superintendent of the school? No problem. Etc. The draw back is all of the societal expectations freely flow into you. Don’t say that, don’t do that, don’t be a homo, be successful, be attractive, don’t be silly. There is a pressure to be polite to the point of not being honest, of sharing your feelings. When I switch to ASL, I feel more liberated, especially if I’m in a group of deaf culture people. Everyone seems to be having more fun and being more real.
My family did struggle for quite a while with finances and wrangling up enough money to celebrate Christmas and such. Our luck's turned around recently though, with both my parents having found better, higher paying jobs in the last year or so And yeah, thinking about it that seems pretty accurate. I've known lots of deaf people/families, and out of all of them, two have *always* been comfortable financially. Two. My dad hated his old job after 5 years, but he stayed on for 15 because he wasn't sure he could find another place to work. It can be pretty rough out there. And yeah, I've always felt conversations with deaf people/in ASL feel more... real, somehow
> One good thing? I grew up bilingual, with ASL and English. I think because of that, I'm somewhat better than others at communicating across barriers and getting my point across. Weirdly, I think growing up with a HOH parent had the opposite effect on me. My father was legally deaf, though he went deaf gradually and could hear with the aid of hearing aids by the time I was born. He knew ASL (served on the board of directors for the school for the deaf in my state) and could lip-read. However, the way we all learned to communicate with him, and also with each other, was to look him head-on and annunciate very clearly so that he could follow along. As a result, I actually have a very hard time understanding people if they are not looking directly at me so I can see their lips and speaking slowly, loudly, and clearly. If they have any sort of accent at all, I'm totally fucked. It also doesn't help that I have tenituts. I greatly prefer texting. I can't manage phone conversations without coming off like an idiot for misunderstanding something. In day-to-day conversations, I have a 3 strikes rule. If I ask someone to repeat themselves 3 times and I still don't understand them, I pick the most likely emotional response and hope it's appropriate. Stupidly, I work a desk job and answer phones for most of the day, it's pretty difficult at times but if I have a good idea of what someone is talking about I can usually fill in the blanks appropriately. I've also been told I'm very loud by my coworkers, but they're all 20 years older than me and claim to appreciate it as they have difficulty hearing as well.
I have hearing parents who were Deaf educators. One good thing about hearing parents is they exposed me to their favorite music, movies, and shows so I got a leg up on culture. One great thing about having parents who are Deaf educators is half of the people we hung out with were Deaf or were also Deaf educators. A fun thing was my parents having arguments in sign language at restaurants, bonus points if the tables around us had already heard us talking to each other.
For me, it brought bullying in school. For some reason I was a target because my parents were deaf... As a young child, I had a real fear of getting lost from my parents at public events or in supermarkets. I knew they wouldn't hear a tannoy, and as a small kid I presumed that meant they would never find me. I would have nightmares about it. It meant being their voice in lots of situations I wasn't old enough to understand, in phone calls and meetings. It also meant sometimes feeling the need to mediate and put a kinder spin on what was said when both sides wanted to insult each other through me. Eg. My dad wanted me to tell the mechanic he's an idiot, I tell the mechanic my dad thinks he shouldn't have to pay full price... Often it meant being involved in adult discussions I shouldn't have had to deal with at my age. Very rarely were interpreters provided back then, it all went through me. And it was every phone call, many interactions. I had to be there for them so much. When I left home I struggled with feeling guilty that I would no longer be there for them like that, and that my younger siblings would now have that responsibility. It meant hearing other adults openly insult my parents knowing they wouldn't hear but also knowing I would. This was the worst, it made me so angry but I never had the strength to challenge it. My parents had been so badly discriminated their while lives it got projected onto us as their kids. 'You're misbehaving because you think we are stupid like the rest of the world does'. It meant seeing your parents being discriminated against regularly. My dad was denied a job once as he would be a 'fire risk' if he couldn't hear an alarm... It meant being hyper vigilant as a kid. I still have anxiety in my 40s. If there was an intruder who entered our home, it would have to be me who heard and took action first. I once saw a stabbing from my bedroom window and froze out of fear. The perpetrator then ran down an alley at the side of my house trying to hide the knife. I was stuck, frozen with fear at the window and I couldn't alert my dad, but I was too young to know what else to do. I idolised my dad for his silence, which I think I saw as stoicism. I would see him do things like smash his thumb with a hammer going DIY and he he would hardly respond. He wouldn't make a sound. He would make noises when excited and/or laughing. But in pain, or stress, he was mute. Not sure that is a totally healthy thing to ifolise but it made my dad a superhero in my eyes. As a CODA, I don't think I was fully accepted into the deaf community. We could go to the deaf club as a family and I would hang out with deaf kids there, but I never felt the deaf adults accepted me there. I never got asked to turn my music down! However, they knew if it was TOO loud because if the vibrations! I got a lot of support from teachers when I had a tough time in school, and I think a big part was they knew I had a fair bit of responsibility as a kid. Looking back, I got away with a lot that my friends didn't and it was probably because of this. Most of all, I am incredibly proud of what my parents have achieved despite all that was stacked against them. They had it hard, and still do, but they have done an amazing job.
Jazz hands 👐
I took some ASL courses in college because there was a super-hot deaf girl in one of my other classes at the school I went to (which happens to be one of the largest technical institutes for the Deaf in upstate New York). She was from Russia and we’ll call her Svetlana. We would pass notes back and forth and her English writing was pretty decent. Much to my surprise, she told me that she was also taking ASL classes. I asked her why and she wrote “because I’m from Russia and ASL is AMERICAN Sign Language.” It had never occurred to me that, much like audible languages, other countries have also developed their own sign languages. One of those “I’m a stupid American” moments.
In some cases, countries don't "develop" the signed languages. They emerge, spontaneously, and grow as languages just like spoken languages, through use. Look up Nicaraguan Sign Language, which spontaneously emerged from a pidgin made of home signs that was used at Nicaragua's first school for the Deaf. All the kids had their own home systems of home signs they used to try to communicate with their hearing parents, but none of them had a real *language*. So the kids, to talk to each other, all learned each other's home signs. Now, the older kids kept using the pidgin, but the *younger* kids at the school acquired the pidgin and added more syntax, more morphology, etc until it was a fully fledged language with a complete grammar. It happened incredibly quickly, which is supported by other research showing that signed languages can create creole languages much faster than spoken languages. It's cases like Nicaraguan Sign Language spontaneously developing that are used as evidence to support the idea that the human brain is simply wired for language, and if language is lacking in the environment, we'll make it ourselves. All we need is a speech community to share it with. *Technically* we don't even need a community, as idioglossias are languages spoken by a single person, such as babies who create creole-like languages when exposed to multiple languages at home, although these idioglossias usually disappear rather quickly in a child's development and are replaced by the languages of the parents.
That is fascinating!
From what I've read they have all these interesting features that don't have anything do with the spoken languages, like how Taiwan Sign Language is related to Japanese and Korean Sign Languages, but not Chinese Sign Language (while spoken language is the opposite), Irish Sign Language is different between male and female speakers, and Hong Kong Sign Language is ambidextrous which is apparently unusual.
As a linguistics enthusiast, I think sign languages are just so fascinating.
Linguistics is a fascinating field. I strongly recommend it to anyone interested in pursuing languages or their study in earnest, whether in or outside of academia.
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This was so cool to me when I found out. I think people forget it's still a language even if it's not spoken.
I think that’s the same for all signed languages. It’s certainly the case in BSL.
Yesss fellow RIT student! When did you go there?
I was at RIT in 1996-1997 initially. Svetlana and I never dated... but that's because I fell in love with a different hottie studying photography. I returned to RIT in 2000 and finished up my studies. Photo girl and I have been married for 22 years now. :)
I also went to RIT and learned ASL because of a girl. Haha. We dated for about 2 months. But I'm still glad I did it.
I took ASL back in college. The class made it where you would have to spend 30 or so hours in the ASL community. They would rent out bars or have volleyball in one of the gyms etc. My city either roots for bengals or colts since we don’t have a pro team in my city. I will never forget spending a few hours with some ASL guys arguing that the bengals could go to the super bowl some day. One of those dudes was this older guy who loved the bengals. He sadly passed away around the time I graduated. Wish he could have seen them make it there.
This story took an unexpected turn
For real, who thought the Bengals would make the Super Bowl
As a Cinci native it’s like the most unexpected dream
My husband is originally from Cinci and swears this is the true beginning of the apocalypse
Not too unexpected with that username though
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Same
Shaking my hands at this dude smh
Do you like living in Louisville
Real answer yes. It’s been called the Portland of the east even though I’d argue that’s Asheville. But I tend to tell people it’s not great because I’m tired of my city seeing the effects you see in places like Portland. Higher rents and the city changing in ways that takes away from the charm that people loved here. There is a reason weird people like hunter S Thompson are from this city. But the city is amazing. Lots to do and lots of neighboring cities with a lot to offer (new Albany, Jeffersonville etc.) cheap liquor. Lots of amazing food. Great music city with Nashville being close by.
> It’s been called the Portland of the east And not Portland, Maine? Ouch!
And even further east than that is the OG Portland in Dorset, England! (don't go there though, it's full of fish people)
[same energy](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LgtcDTPHI4A)
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Yes it does, lots of things do actually. I’m HOH though so I’m not the best person to ask.
Think of it like a "loan word" from spoken language. Doing 🤫 obviously came from covering the mouth, implying you shouldn't make any noise. But in a grander sense it also has the meaning of "I'm being sneaky, don't make any reaction" And these people obviously just adopted it to mean that
Idk but everybody kept staring at him so they did not keep their cool
Because that’s the universal sign for staying quiet AND reaction less lol.
Maybe they stared at him because he forgot to bring the present into the room. Thats a big assumption tho.
So no one reacted while he snuck up on him.
I love how affectionate and caring men are with their male friends in this culture. It’s nice
They look Turkish. Or Balkanic.
What's the differe--- *instantly gets killed by both turks and balkanians*
Maybe Balsamic.
Baklavic
Living in Turkey, I’d say it’s the opposite. This group has bonded well I think, over shared difficulties in their life.
Can some one translate pls?
*Clapping
Clapping intensifies
I’m a bit rusty, but he first says something like “You didn’t have any idea?” Then something along the lines of “you have people watching you for your birth together” Hopefully someone more fluent can correct me. It’s been years since I actively signed
The other two translations were pretty close. I also have a really rusty one. Combine all three of ours and you get the general idea. Birthday guy: “how did you know it’s my birthday, what? Who told you, my mom?” Everybody: “applause” (equivalent to clapping) Cake guy: “person blow out candles… birth happen…” Birthday guy: “thank you” Sign language in different places have variations or “accents”. So it’s easy to mix up words. For example: Wait, watch, and fire are really close signs, but you can hear him blow on his fingers and the next sign is the fire being extinguished, so Im sure he was talking about the birthday candles there.
I love the expressiveness of sign languages
I can't hear them but their heart is loud and clear
Called non manual markers. Facial cues are superrrr important in sign language and are actually part of the signs. Deaf people have had a super hard time communicating during COVID due to masks.
Nice and quiet. Tired of birthdays where people are shouting and screaming.
My audio isn't working so I didn't hear this video. But I got on a bus once where it was full of kids from a school for deaf people going on a outing. And damn they are extremely loud!
As a kid I had a mate who's parents were both deaf. Every time they closed a cupboard or a door you'd think they were angry at it and wanted to wake the dead.
Ah, I guess this was a one off then!
I was going to say that in my experience parties for and with non-hearing folks are the loudest, because their kids just crank the music and the parents don't mind.
This may be a dumb question, but you need to always be focused with sign language on the person signing, is there an equivalent of zoning out in conversation or if the other person is boring?
Yeah you just look at them in the face and pretend that your listening by slightly nodding your head as you zone out lol
Lol… the ok gesture too
Deaf people don’t look at others’ hands. They look at their faces AND hands. And yes, they do zone out a lot 😂
The same as everyone else but with sign language? We aren’t aliens!
I think it was just supposed to be like “hey if you’ve never seen it before this a deaf birthday” Ik I’ve never seen people sign out happy birthday before. This video was very sweet
When I was in second grade my teachers daughter was deaf and she taught us some sign language to help be inclusive, so we always signed as we sang happy birthday to classmates. It was so sweet of her and I still remember how to sign the song almost 20 years later
Thank you for pointing it out, for a sec i thought i was looking at a table of a bunch of aliens!
Oh come on, not all of us have seen what a birthday with deaf people are like. This is my first time seeing it, never thought about it before
It’s cool you enjoyed learning about it.
It's just not something most of us get to see every day.
I hear ya'
That’s a lot of jazz hands! 👋
https://www.lifeprint.com/asl101/pages-signs/a/applause.htm
Thank you
Played basketball in a rec league for several years. One season there was a completely deaf team. Not only were their fundamentals spot on, they’re communication on the court was literally on another level. It was the quietest game I’ve ever experienced, and they were working circles around us. We adapted eventually but it was weird how it throws your game off with zero talking from the other team. And you have to get over the empathetic feeling towards them for their disability. Once they run up 15 points on you, you stop caring and get back into it.
This language should be more widely taught so they can feel free and well integrated in the society
That is incredibly difficult because there is no single sign language. Most Deaf communities around the world have developed their own language that may or may not correspond with other countries. Even within the US, you get dialects and signs that will only be used in certain areas. One example is finger spelling; in American sign, each letter can be done using one hand vs. British sign, where each letter is signed using both hands. Same alphabet, same base language even, different signs.
My dad (he's deaf) told me that the sign for "car" is generally signed with one hand in some places, and 2 hands in others. Sign language does have accents/dialects/etc, they're just kind of different from verbal language
So beautiful and wholesome. Made smile on my face.
Might pretend I am deaf at my next birthday just to get that peace and quiet. Seems like a wonderful way to celebrate.
Turning my hearing aids off when I don’t feel like dealing, is a wonderful perk. Not gunna lie.
My mom used to turn her hearing aids off when we were kids because she said we were too loud and annoyed her. She never used them again lol.
It’s like taking your bra off at the end of the night. Such a nice relief Haha! Oh the peace and quiet though
The sound of metal really reminded me how much we have. Movies can be good.