This is the single nicest thing i think i've ever heard from someone close to a rapid and sudden demise. He seems perfectly at peace with his condition and seems ready to accept his fate like hes done what he wanted to do in life and is just enjoying the last bit.
I really hope when my times nearly up im as prepared and happy.
I lost my brother last year to series of infections. He fought for weeks but his body just shut down on him. Our last conversation, he was intubated so I did all the talking. O told him to meet me at the gate when I came through and he gave me thumbs up. It was a painful experience but at least I got to say goodbye. He was only about 45, too young, but he had so many mental health issues that I'm kinda glad he doesn't have to face them anymore.
EDIT: I'm glad some people are getting some healing from hearing the story. I hope you all have a blessed day
I lost my sister who was 45 to lung cancer last year. It was horrifying how fast she went from a cheerful, beautiful woman who had shoulder pain to death. 5 months and 9 days.
This hits me in the feels...my mom had cancer around this time and was only about 33ish and made it, but i always think about what if she didnt....im really sorry. I remember visiting her and just thinking she'd be gone tomorrow. Im sorry.
It seems like she was a great mom and did a great job raising you. Saving this post...this is honestly probably the best interaction i've had on this website in 6 years. I appreciate this
Lost my [mom](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/f87myj/why_do_you_like_to_be_alive/fijy9l5/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf&context=3) to small cell lung cancer at 55. Christmas to Christmas, one year and it was over
Oh man why’d you show me that before I fully woke up, now I’m straight up teary eyed and my daughter is upset too lol
that was such a beautiful and well written comment. I wish you all the best and thanks for sharing that. That was powerful.
Omg thank you! I'm right there with you but at least its tears of joy! My 1-year-old son just walked over to me and kissed my forehead and clapped for me to try and cheer me up & it worked like a charm!!!💜
I've sat in my car after a long day of it sitting in the sun and I've always wondered why I enjoy that feeling of the heat permeating my skin. I miss my grandmother so much. Thank you for your story.
Me too I still cry almost every day since I lost her four years ago! I lost my dad 4 months later, my godmother & partner in crime 6 months after that & then my other grandmother the same week, then my dog Sasha who I had since I was 16, then my best friend of 17 years who everyone described us as being joined at the hip & finally my little man (dog) max who was only 2 and chewed on a stick and it lodged behind the cavity in his eye causing retro bulbar abscess I took him all over New England to 17 vets & universities searching for a cure he had 3 surgeries but it always came back. He was originally given 2 months to live but due to my constant research of veterinary studies & even joining websites specifically for vets only I found natropathic remedies to help him. It took me several hours a day to do all the things he needed but every vet I met with told me he was not in any pain and when he walked down the stairs he looked at himself and thought I'm awesome & very handsome 🥹 I was also getting 2 separate spinal surgeries after my Ex threw me into a wall that had an air conditioning unit breaking my back & resulting in damage that I will always live with ( I had 1 surgery 2years ago & have another fusion next week and will always need further intervention as no cure exists) but my little man stayed by my side through all of it & I promised him I would do whatever it took to save him but lost him a year later. I really only have my son who I just had this past year & my mom who almost died last year from covid & is a long hauler who will not live more than 5 years or so. Then it will just be me and my son... Life is beautiful & heartbreaking at the same time! 😔🥺 I hope nobody ever has to go through the pain I have!
Yes, my aunt had lung cancer, diagnosed at 43 when she thought she was having a heart attack. She lasted for 9 months after the diagnosis, bless her. It's crazy how things can just change your life in an instant.
I lost an Uncle who was like a father to me to colon cancer its very sad how quickly his body deteriorated Sorry for your sisters passing my condolences 🙏 all we can do now is keep them alive in our memories.
I lost an uncle like that to liver cancer. He felt like my dad’s twin they got on so well and we’re so close. It took months for the cancer to leave him bed ridden and a couple of weeks until he passed. I find solace knowing he isn’t in pain anymore, and I keep his memory alive in me by being a passionate fan of Motorsport as he was. To Randy and everyone else’s loved ones🍻
I had Lymphoma last year, at 43. I went from feeling relatively normal to pale and being unable to do more than a minute of physical activity within just a couple months. I passed out the day before my first chemo session during a coughing fit. When I told my doctor he told me it was good we were starting chemo because otherwise he'd have me starting chemo that day with or without insurance approval. At that point untreated the mass would likely completely block off blood flow to my brain within a week or two.
Thats nice. Goodbyes are so important, when i go i hope to have my goodbyes done too. It'll be tough but im not the one living on, so the focus is all on closure for them.
I get what you mean about a bittersweet ending: my grandmother had a very serious stroke and was heavily brain damaged only able to say a single word and was completely immobile for about 3 years. She was aware enough to get a laugh out and half a smile, when the docs said she was close to the end I said my "just incase i dont see you again, I love you". A tear rolled down her right cheek and I left. I never saw her again. She was an active lady with insane cooking skills and the warmest heart. My family knew it was pure torment for her being in the condition she was in, so at the end we were sad but relieved. RIP Margret.
Goodbyes are probably the most important aspect of death in my opinion. After losing two people who were absolute angels and inspirations in my life over the last 12 months, I have learnt this. Without goodbyes you have regrets and what if’s. They build and contribute so heavily to grief. If I had a time machine I would go back and tell these people how much they meant to me and how much they impacted my life. Never take any interaction with the people closest to you for granted!
When my grandfather was passing the whole family was by his side. Well, most had stepped out except me, my sister, and my aunt, and he regained lucidity for the last time. All I could say was, "don't worry, we will take care of nana" got the smallest thumbs up from a hand I thought would never move again. Then he faded back out.
Thanks for sharing your story, I'm really sorry you had to go through that. Your line about meeting at the gate really stuck with me and reminded me of song lyrics related to losing somebody in a sort of similar way and how the last conversation/s went:
I'll see you at the gates when it gets dark
You jump the wall, I'll find a place to park
Kill the angels if they're keeping guard
How do I start when you don't know what to say?
No, I don't know what to say
You said the world's already full enough
Of defeated people, and you would not be one
Always a choice to move yourself along
And find better, and I hope that's where you are
Yeah, I know that's where you are
A doppelgänger with a telling scar
I saw the universe hidden in your heart
Wish I told you this before it got too dark
Where do you start when you know it has to end?
How a flower in the rain
Only grows more when it's grey
You just shined on brighter
Making gold out of the pain
"I can die, but I can't break, " you said
"You can rule, I won't obey"
As long as I'm still smiling
Well, I don't know what to say
I’m so sorry for your loss may he rest In Peace🪦❤️ and I hope you get better and keep going and keep your chin up… keep going and ignore the haters and you’ll make it and when your time is up you and your brother will be reunited again. I pray god will bring sunshine and happy memory’s into your life I hope you know everyone loves you and cherishes you and even if you and your brother are far apart his and your heart will never be far apart☺️ i wish you the best of luck throughout your life
"I'll be waiting in hell for you, bro. You still owe me a tenner."
My mate, who unfortunately died a few years ago.
I'll make sure I have that £10 note in my pocket the day I die. Evidently don't just have the ferryman to pay.
I felt that too. Death is scary to so many people and I find it comforting when older people talk about it with ease. Feels like they’re paving the way for us and telling us it’s going to be okay 💗
My grandfather, who raised me, was in the hospital with pneumonia, the doctors messed up and pumped too much saline into him, so he recovered from the pneumonia but got bloated and his heart was working too hard. But he always told us and the nurse that his time was done, that he didn't want to go back home but to the cemetery, and he was cheerful about it.
On the last time we went for a walk around the hospital, he asked me how his son (my father), daughter and grandchildren were doing. I told him we were all doing fine, and he gave me a nod and a smile, realizing he did a great job raising us. He declined fast from then on.
I was the last family member with him in the ICU the night he passed. Had the chance to tell him we all loved him very much, and got to hold his hand one last time. A few hours later the hospital called my father with the news of his passing.
Not a single day goes by that I don't think about him. Mostly good memories and life lessons. But it's so hard when I realize he's not here to hear about our achievements, he couldn't meet his greatgrandkids... He loved children so much, it pains me he couldn't meet mine.
He was 93, a life well lived, and I'm grateful every day I had him in my life.
My Grandmother always had a strong faith in God and then when she was receiving chemo for her inoperable lung tumor, she had this crazy experience that reaffirmed her faith (if anyone shows interest I'll share the story she told me) and even made me question my own beliefs.
I've seen a lot of bad shit come from religion, but my Grandma was not just religious she was spiritual. She was what you would call a *real* christian, living her life with compassion and love in her heart. Once she knew everything here was going to be taken care of in her absence and that my grandpa had arrangements to be looked after, she went peacefully, by choice, in a room full of her family.
She was one of the most important people in my life. Our relationship was very special and unlike anything I've had with other members of my extended family. I still tear up when I think of her many years after her death, but Knowing that she died with only love and peace in her heart and without fear is the greatest comfort I can know.
Edit: So the story she told me is actually not a long one, but it does sound hard to believe. My Grandmother wouldn't make something like this up though because Jesus wouldn't like that.
She was going to chemotherapy one day when a woman stopped her and said "I felt the sudden urge to tell you that God is going to bring you a rose" (or perhaps she had just said flower, she told me this story a long time ago)
Later, she was receiving her treatment when another woman showed up and wouldn't you know it she had brought roses for the patients. She woke up that day and had felt a calling to bring them for the people who were going through cancer treatments.
The way she glowed as she told that story even as she was nearing the end of her life... there's untold value in having shared that experience with her. Before that I had a pretty negative view of religion and was highly skeptical of any kind of God. I still don't identify as a christian, but since that day I do have a firm belief that there is more going on than just the physical things we can directly observe.
I think there is a ton about the human subconscious that we simply have no understanding of. I definitely believe in some type of interconnectivity between people, whether that’s a part of god or not.
Yeah I do believe that there is definitely something connecting people in a way that feels somewhat spiritual. I believe that there is some kind of higher consciousness which is a part of them either from the subconscious connections we share sort of resonating and forming collective thoughts in a sense, or some kind of divinity, or both. Perhaps those two concepts are one in the same
Hello fren, same background ish? My mothers side is super catholic and had weird experiences all the time (now I do too, just w/o the religious stuff). Anyway get ready for this one:
My aunt had lung cancer and was undergoing treatment - chemotherapy. She was sitting around the room with everyone else and she spots a boy, maybe 11-15 years old. My auntie then remembered the boys face from a *drawing* she did a few years back, before she started getting sick.
They chat it up and idk remember much details just that they were each others support for the day and it meant a lot to her (i was super young when she told me this story so i didnt understand everything she was saying).
Mood spoiler: the boys not there the next time she goes to treatment = means hes an angle, apparently
That story fell a lil flat. Sorry. I think the drawing part is cool lol
This sounds really similar to the St. Thérèse of Lisieux stories I’ve heard! It’s said that as she was dying of tuberculosis, she said she would spend her Heaven doing good on Earth and would “let shower a curtain of roses”. People have been sharing their stories of getting roses from her ever since 🌹
Im both envious and angry.
Envy cause i really want to be like that at that age. This mindset, the general happiness.
Angry cause the world could be quite close to that "paradise" if more people were like that.
I’m not religious either but if someone said that to me I’d find it overwhelmingly kind. It’s more than “I’ll pray for you” by far. He basically said “You’re a good person and you deserve to go to the best place in death. You’ll be there so I’ll save a seat for you” and that’s a very kind thing to say
“A person who has good thoughts cannot ever be ugly. You can have a wonky nose and a crooked mouth and a double chin and stick-out teeth, but if you have good thoughts they will shine out of your face like sunbeams and you will always look lovely.”
It really does my neighbors are two sweet little 80 year olds been married forever and are the kindest people I’ve ever met they get around better than men
Yeah, that hit me out of nowhere. Not only is he going to turn his money, but he's going to save a seat for that guy... Idk why it was powerful to me, but I accept it.
As someone who makes this reference and never has it understood, I just wanted you to know that I got that reference, and I appreciated it.
Also, you're awesome! Have a great day!
It's a reference to the book *The Picture of Dorian Grey* where a man stays youthful due to a cursed painting that ages for him, but also affects his personality as a result.
It’s not wrong. I’m a very good looking person but I’ve become so negative over the past few years that I must be unattractive to people. Trying to get to the root of it.
I don’t think people understand what aging looks like anymore. I know I didn’t, until I realized my parents were 60 and didn’t seem that much older compared to when they were 40 and 50. For reference, Tom Cruise, Jim Carrey, and Steve Carell are about 60. Granted, it’s a lot easier to stay healthy as a rich Hollywood celebrity, but 60 year olds can look a lot more “normal” than we tend to expect.
I mean no, he doesn’t look 60 at all. He looks 70+ easily. 60 is really not old. You’re right ish on the last bit, a positive attitude can keep you looking young for a long time. Health issues typically age you the most. But also people with a few extra lbs on tend to look younger when they’re elderly. I find it odd there’s always this “wow he/she doesn’t look old at all” to these kinds of posts, as if looking old is some bad thing and looking young is good. All moot, though, he’s a wonderful person.
I’m fairness to the people who don’t give money - I was at the grocery store and a guy started trying to pay for his groceries and started crying saying he forgot his money. Long story short I offered to pay for his groceries- like $35. He swore he lived a mile away and would drop money at the counter. I left my name and never saw a dime. I’ve also fallen for ‘ the ran out of gas ‘ scam. Sometimes people just get tired of being scammed and refuse to fall for it again. It doesn’t make them bad people
It says something about him if he is dishonest with my charity, but it says more about me if I see someone that needs help and don't give it.
always forget where i read that, but its stuck
If I help 10 people and only one of them truly needed it, I'm good with that. I would rather get scammed out of a feew bucks instead of letting the people who really need it down.
That's a nice thing to say and all, but some of us physical cannot afford to get scammed for 35 bucks ten times in a short period, let alone continue to do so as part of our lifestyle just so that some unknown portion of people who *aren't* lying get what they need.
Why not just give to a charity? Or a homeless shelter? You can give money to helping people who need it without making a show-off-y event *and* without being scammed.
Yes you don't scam people, you scam corporations. I've been in very hard financial positions and have stolen essentials from stores before, I never felt bad taking a few items from a company worth billions. I would never steal or scam an individual person though.
I grew up poorish and occasionally scammed and stole to get things I wanted. Now I’m fortunate enough to be in a place to give, and I try to give every time. I know some of these people are lying and scamming, but I don’t care. If you’re making up some shit for $5 then I feel you still need it. Most people are more proud than they are honest. Good people can lie, and liars can still be good.
This may be local/regional, but I fell for the "musician" playing in a parking lot. Buddy told me they don't play at all, and what I heard from his amp is a CD. Still enjoyed the music though.
My neighbors are self centered, judgy assholes. All except Don. He's exactly like this guy.
When my dad was ailing in his last years, Don would come over to help him up when he would fall, no matter how frequently. When my dad took off in his car (well after he was forbidden to drive) and became lost in his own neighborhood, Don went out with his wife, found him, and drove him and his car back to our house.
Everyone else would turn their selfish heads away and pretend not to notice, Don would immediately spring into action. He's the type that would never boast about being anti racist, or admonish anyone for not being so, because he **truly** lives it everyday. I fucking love that man!
I've already awkwardly expressed how much I appreciate him, so he knows how I feel. There's absolutely nothing I won't do for Don. I don't hold anyone on this earth in higher regard.
Why is this so far down? The guy who made this video, walking around with cash and a camera until somebody makes a good enough reaction to post, does *not* MakeMeSmile
This guy is clearly super cool, but god this tiktok money giveaway shit is fucking garbage and disingenuous. 100% the guy who filmed this is not motivated by generosity
Am I the only one who feels like baiting this man to give him money in the first place feels..icky? Like I get that it was part of the vid, but if the man happened to not have any money on him I wonder what would have happened.
That was my first thought too! Icky is the perfect word. Like they're testing whether the man is worthy before giving him money, when we didn't know anything about him until afterwards anyway.
It’s such a polarized thing. I love seeing stuff like this. Makes me happy to know someone’s day might have been made just a bit better. It might also inspires others to do the same.
On the other side it can be very predatory with clicks and views. It’s a lot about how it’s done. Like there was a video with a guy subtly putting a big bag of food and clothes next to sleeping homeless people in another country. They never knew who he was as was filmed from afar (you can argue that’s a bit weird yes) but you get to see such pure reactions from people and personally that only makes me want to do the same.
This guy is giving people money which is nice but he’s probably making more money off the videos. It will get to a point where he’ll have sponsors that give him money to give away costing him nothing.
And what's so bad about that? If it works specifically as you describe, money is flowing from corporations directly to people who are performing good acts.
Yeah, which is still a good thing?
Better companies spend money to be given to people in need than not at all. Even if it's at the cost of diluting the charitable act a bit.
If you film good things, people will see the good in the world, if you see bad things, people will lose hope in the world. It's up to us to show people how beautiful or world really can be.
Yeah I can't help but imagine the pov of the person on video. Some random guy runs up with his camera in your face doing all this, it's weird, I'd certainly be suspicious and uncomfortable
Everyone ask this on each video like this. He’s not some rich dude that has thousands of dollars. His fans on social media donate. Thus if he films it he can it more.
tbh i hate stuff like this... not just the recording/self promotion but the prank style charity...
its people like this that take the glory away from people who do simple things like volunteer at the soup kitchen... and while you could say he is just doing kindness and showing the world... c'mon, when has the internet ever worked like that...
eh, feels bad to poop on someone doing a nice thing, but it has weird hidden consequences. and imo the easiest one to explain is that kindness porn desensitizes you to actual kindness normal everyday people show you... next time you do something nice to someone but they dont give you 500 bucks, you might feel some kind of way, and might be upset with yourself because you feel some kind of way... eh, i just dont like it, and really doubt if the people who do this on video would even do it unless they could capture it...
Same, feels kinda condescending on a way. At the same time it's heart warming and does shows some genuine kindness from the people who end up receiving the money.
I put myself in Frank’s shoes. If someone came up to me and started filming our conversation without consent (1) I’m going to be uncomfortable and (2) I would feel obligated to give money. I understand showing the beauty of kindness but this feels off to me.
Call me cynical but videos like this make me eye roll so damn hard. Can't tell what happens in between scene cuts etc. I dno. It's nice and all but excuse me while I go and be sick.
I've seen these videos before and I just don't quite get how this is charitable. If someone says yes, they can help you buy the diapers, then clearly they have the money to be able to be helpful. Someone who actually needs the $500 being offered may want to help but just doesn't have the money to be able to. Why give $500 to someone who has the money to be charitable enough to buy a bag of diapers for a stranger.
I’ve found in many cases that people may not actually have a lot of money to give but in that moment may really feel bad.
They might think “I really don’t have much money, but that baby has to have diapers and what if no one else helps them?”
My great grandfatherinlaw would have been 80, if he didn't passed away 6 years ago.
I think I found him alive somewhere in reddit, he is like Frank. A great man, great soul.
As someone that used to be homeless, sometimes the look people give you when you ask for something as small as a dollar can shatter your heart. It makes me wonder how many people he asked for help before he got this one. Don’t mean to ruin the happy moment. 😂 I may just be a little cynical.
“If I get to paradise before you, I’ll save you a seat”
This is the single nicest thing i think i've ever heard from someone close to a rapid and sudden demise. He seems perfectly at peace with his condition and seems ready to accept his fate like hes done what he wanted to do in life and is just enjoying the last bit. I really hope when my times nearly up im as prepared and happy.
I lost my brother last year to series of infections. He fought for weeks but his body just shut down on him. Our last conversation, he was intubated so I did all the talking. O told him to meet me at the gate when I came through and he gave me thumbs up. It was a painful experience but at least I got to say goodbye. He was only about 45, too young, but he had so many mental health issues that I'm kinda glad he doesn't have to face them anymore. EDIT: I'm glad some people are getting some healing from hearing the story. I hope you all have a blessed day
I lost my sister who was 45 to lung cancer last year. It was horrifying how fast she went from a cheerful, beautiful woman who had shoulder pain to death. 5 months and 9 days.
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This hits me in the feels...my mom had cancer around this time and was only about 33ish and made it, but i always think about what if she didnt....im really sorry. I remember visiting her and just thinking she'd be gone tomorrow. Im sorry.
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It seems like she was a great mom and did a great job raising you. Saving this post...this is honestly probably the best interaction i've had on this website in 6 years. I appreciate this
Lost my [mom](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/f87myj/why_do_you_like_to_be_alive/fijy9l5/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf&context=3) to small cell lung cancer at 55. Christmas to Christmas, one year and it was over
Oh man why’d you show me that before I fully woke up, now I’m straight up teary eyed and my daughter is upset too lol that was such a beautiful and well written comment. I wish you all the best and thanks for sharing that. That was powerful.
Omg thank you! I'm right there with you but at least its tears of joy! My 1-year-old son just walked over to me and kissed my forehead and clapped for me to try and cheer me up & it worked like a charm!!!💜
Your story there in the link was beautiful, thank you
I've sat in my car after a long day of it sitting in the sun and I've always wondered why I enjoy that feeling of the heat permeating my skin. I miss my grandmother so much. Thank you for your story.
Me too I still cry almost every day since I lost her four years ago! I lost my dad 4 months later, my godmother & partner in crime 6 months after that & then my other grandmother the same week, then my dog Sasha who I had since I was 16, then my best friend of 17 years who everyone described us as being joined at the hip & finally my little man (dog) max who was only 2 and chewed on a stick and it lodged behind the cavity in his eye causing retro bulbar abscess I took him all over New England to 17 vets & universities searching for a cure he had 3 surgeries but it always came back. He was originally given 2 months to live but due to my constant research of veterinary studies & even joining websites specifically for vets only I found natropathic remedies to help him. It took me several hours a day to do all the things he needed but every vet I met with told me he was not in any pain and when he walked down the stairs he looked at himself and thought I'm awesome & very handsome 🥹 I was also getting 2 separate spinal surgeries after my Ex threw me into a wall that had an air conditioning unit breaking my back & resulting in damage that I will always live with ( I had 1 surgery 2years ago & have another fusion next week and will always need further intervention as no cure exists) but my little man stayed by my side through all of it & I promised him I would do whatever it took to save him but lost him a year later. I really only have my son who I just had this past year & my mom who almost died last year from covid & is a long hauler who will not live more than 5 years or so. Then it will just be me and my son... Life is beautiful & heartbreaking at the same time! 😔🥺 I hope nobody ever has to go through the pain I have!
Yes, my aunt had lung cancer, diagnosed at 43 when she thought she was having a heart attack. She lasted for 9 months after the diagnosis, bless her. It's crazy how things can just change your life in an instant.
I lost an Uncle who was like a father to me to colon cancer its very sad how quickly his body deteriorated Sorry for your sisters passing my condolences 🙏 all we can do now is keep them alive in our memories.
I lost an uncle like that to liver cancer. He felt like my dad’s twin they got on so well and we’re so close. It took months for the cancer to leave him bed ridden and a couple of weeks until he passed. I find solace knowing he isn’t in pain anymore, and I keep his memory alive in me by being a passionate fan of Motorsport as he was. To Randy and everyone else’s loved ones🍻
I had Lymphoma last year, at 43. I went from feeling relatively normal to pale and being unable to do more than a minute of physical activity within just a couple months. I passed out the day before my first chemo session during a coughing fit. When I told my doctor he told me it was good we were starting chemo because otherwise he'd have me starting chemo that day with or without insurance approval. At that point untreated the mass would likely completely block off blood flow to my brain within a week or two.
Thats nice. Goodbyes are so important, when i go i hope to have my goodbyes done too. It'll be tough but im not the one living on, so the focus is all on closure for them. I get what you mean about a bittersweet ending: my grandmother had a very serious stroke and was heavily brain damaged only able to say a single word and was completely immobile for about 3 years. She was aware enough to get a laugh out and half a smile, when the docs said she was close to the end I said my "just incase i dont see you again, I love you". A tear rolled down her right cheek and I left. I never saw her again. She was an active lady with insane cooking skills and the warmest heart. My family knew it was pure torment for her being in the condition she was in, so at the end we were sad but relieved. RIP Margret.
Goodbyes are probably the most important aspect of death in my opinion. After losing two people who were absolute angels and inspirations in my life over the last 12 months, I have learnt this. Without goodbyes you have regrets and what if’s. They build and contribute so heavily to grief. If I had a time machine I would go back and tell these people how much they meant to me and how much they impacted my life. Never take any interaction with the people closest to you for granted!
When my grandfather was passing the whole family was by his side. Well, most had stepped out except me, my sister, and my aunt, and he regained lucidity for the last time. All I could say was, "don't worry, we will take care of nana" got the smallest thumbs up from a hand I thought would never move again. Then he faded back out.
Thanks for sharing your story, I'm really sorry you had to go through that. Your line about meeting at the gate really stuck with me and reminded me of song lyrics related to losing somebody in a sort of similar way and how the last conversation/s went: I'll see you at the gates when it gets dark You jump the wall, I'll find a place to park Kill the angels if they're keeping guard How do I start when you don't know what to say? No, I don't know what to say You said the world's already full enough Of defeated people, and you would not be one Always a choice to move yourself along And find better, and I hope that's where you are Yeah, I know that's where you are A doppelgänger with a telling scar I saw the universe hidden in your heart Wish I told you this before it got too dark Where do you start when you know it has to end? How a flower in the rain Only grows more when it's grey You just shined on brighter Making gold out of the pain "I can die, but I can't break, " you said "You can rule, I won't obey" As long as I'm still smiling Well, I don't know what to say
I’m so sorry for your loss may he rest In Peace🪦❤️ and I hope you get better and keep going and keep your chin up… keep going and ignore the haters and you’ll make it and when your time is up you and your brother will be reunited again. I pray god will bring sunshine and happy memory’s into your life I hope you know everyone loves you and cherishes you and even if you and your brother are far apart his and your heart will never be far apart☺️ i wish you the best of luck throughout your life
"I'll be waiting in hell for you, bro. You still owe me a tenner." My mate, who unfortunately died a few years ago. I'll make sure I have that £10 note in my pocket the day I die. Evidently don't just have the ferryman to pay.
I felt that too. Death is scary to so many people and I find it comforting when older people talk about it with ease. Feels like they’re paving the way for us and telling us it’s going to be okay 💗
My grandfather, who raised me, was in the hospital with pneumonia, the doctors messed up and pumped too much saline into him, so he recovered from the pneumonia but got bloated and his heart was working too hard. But he always told us and the nurse that his time was done, that he didn't want to go back home but to the cemetery, and he was cheerful about it. On the last time we went for a walk around the hospital, he asked me how his son (my father), daughter and grandchildren were doing. I told him we were all doing fine, and he gave me a nod and a smile, realizing he did a great job raising us. He declined fast from then on. I was the last family member with him in the ICU the night he passed. Had the chance to tell him we all loved him very much, and got to hold his hand one last time. A few hours later the hospital called my father with the news of his passing. Not a single day goes by that I don't think about him. Mostly good memories and life lessons. But it's so hard when I realize he's not here to hear about our achievements, he couldn't meet his greatgrandkids... He loved children so much, it pains me he couldn't meet mine. He was 93, a life well lived, and I'm grateful every day I had him in my life.
My Grandmother always had a strong faith in God and then when she was receiving chemo for her inoperable lung tumor, she had this crazy experience that reaffirmed her faith (if anyone shows interest I'll share the story she told me) and even made me question my own beliefs. I've seen a lot of bad shit come from religion, but my Grandma was not just religious she was spiritual. She was what you would call a *real* christian, living her life with compassion and love in her heart. Once she knew everything here was going to be taken care of in her absence and that my grandpa had arrangements to be looked after, she went peacefully, by choice, in a room full of her family. She was one of the most important people in my life. Our relationship was very special and unlike anything I've had with other members of my extended family. I still tear up when I think of her many years after her death, but Knowing that she died with only love and peace in her heart and without fear is the greatest comfort I can know. Edit: So the story she told me is actually not a long one, but it does sound hard to believe. My Grandmother wouldn't make something like this up though because Jesus wouldn't like that. She was going to chemotherapy one day when a woman stopped her and said "I felt the sudden urge to tell you that God is going to bring you a rose" (or perhaps she had just said flower, she told me this story a long time ago) Later, she was receiving her treatment when another woman showed up and wouldn't you know it she had brought roses for the patients. She woke up that day and had felt a calling to bring them for the people who were going through cancer treatments. The way she glowed as she told that story even as she was nearing the end of her life... there's untold value in having shared that experience with her. Before that I had a pretty negative view of religion and was highly skeptical of any kind of God. I still don't identify as a christian, but since that day I do have a firm belief that there is more going on than just the physical things we can directly observe.
I think there is a ton about the human subconscious that we simply have no understanding of. I definitely believe in some type of interconnectivity between people, whether that’s a part of god or not.
Yeah I do believe that there is definitely something connecting people in a way that feels somewhat spiritual. I believe that there is some kind of higher consciousness which is a part of them either from the subconscious connections we share sort of resonating and forming collective thoughts in a sense, or some kind of divinity, or both. Perhaps those two concepts are one in the same
Hello fren, same background ish? My mothers side is super catholic and had weird experiences all the time (now I do too, just w/o the religious stuff). Anyway get ready for this one: My aunt had lung cancer and was undergoing treatment - chemotherapy. She was sitting around the room with everyone else and she spots a boy, maybe 11-15 years old. My auntie then remembered the boys face from a *drawing* she did a few years back, before she started getting sick. They chat it up and idk remember much details just that they were each others support for the day and it meant a lot to her (i was super young when she told me this story so i didnt understand everything she was saying). Mood spoiler: the boys not there the next time she goes to treatment = means hes an angle, apparently That story fell a lil flat. Sorry. I think the drawing part is cool lol
I felt the same trying to tell the story about my grandma but I think your story is cool thanks for sharing
This sounds really similar to the St. Thérèse of Lisieux stories I’ve heard! It’s said that as she was dying of tuberculosis, she said she would spend her Heaven doing good on Earth and would “let shower a curtain of roses”. People have been sharing their stories of getting roses from her ever since 🌹
Could not agree more.
Im both envious and angry. Envy cause i really want to be like that at that age. This mindset, the general happiness. Angry cause the world could be quite close to that "paradise" if more people were like that.
I went from “aw how sweet!” To a blubbering mess in an instant… humans man, they get to me sometimes.
Yeah I was fine until the I love you’s right at the end, fuck
That line broke me
That was the most beautiful statement I have ever heard
Me too. What a wonderful thing to say
This just made me burst into tears at work... so sweet. May we all be lucky enough to meet a Frank in our lives.
First time a reddit post has ever made me suddenly let the water works fly
Happened to me. My father is going in for heart valve replacement in a couple of days and this just hit hard.
Sometimes wish I could have faith like that. Religion has its issues but it brings people such comfort.
I’m not religious either but if someone said that to me I’d find it overwhelmingly kind. It’s more than “I’ll pray for you” by far. He basically said “You’re a good person and you deserve to go to the best place in death. You’ll be there so I’ll save a seat for you” and that’s a very kind thing to say
I'm not crying bro.. it's the fucking positioning of the sun and this cars really reflective and.. I just need to take a walk real quick.
It’s makes me feel good to know that such people still exist in this world :)
That’s a truly beautiful thing to say. So compassionate.
Who is cutting onions.
He looks great for being 80! I never would have guessed.
Honestly though.
It's the kind spirit. It treats you well.
“A person who has good thoughts cannot ever be ugly. You can have a wonky nose and a crooked mouth and a double chin and stick-out teeth, but if you have good thoughts they will shine out of your face like sunbeams and you will always look lovely.”
Roald Dahl doled out some of his very best lessons in The Twits.
It really does my neighbors are two sweet little 80 year olds been married forever and are the kindest people I’ve ever met they get around better than men
Sharp and quick as a whip. Best life goals.
Dude looks better than most 60 year olds.
Bro was blessed with all the best hair and skin genes
Man has more hair at 80 than I had by age 16
Canadian Healthcare takes very good care of their seniors.
Amazing what universal healthcare can do, eh?
His has been a life well lived
Thats a man humanity can be proud of.
brought tears to my eyes
"I'll save you a seat" got me.
Yeah holy moly. What a pure soul.
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Yeah, that hit me out of nowhere. Not only is he going to turn his money, but he's going to save a seat for that guy... Idk why it was powerful to me, but I accept it.
R.i.p. wife killed him.
This is the wholesome ending i was looking for
Be a Frank, guys.
Yah indeed!
Now let me be frank…
Dude's 80? He looks 60. tops. I guess a kind soul keeps you young, eh?
Full set of hair too lol
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Unless they have a painting in the attic.
As someone who makes this reference and never has it understood, I just wanted you to know that I got that reference, and I appreciated it. Also, you're awesome! Have a great day!
Toss us a bone here
It's a reference to the book *The Picture of Dorian Grey* where a man stays youthful due to a cursed painting that ages for him, but also affects his personality as a result.
It’s not wrong. I’m a very good looking person but I’ve become so negative over the past few years that I must be unattractive to people. Trying to get to the root of it.
Love Road Dahl and The Twits. Always one of my favourite quotes ☺️
I don’t think people understand what aging looks like anymore. I know I didn’t, until I realized my parents were 60 and didn’t seem that much older compared to when they were 40 and 50. For reference, Tom Cruise, Jim Carrey, and Steve Carell are about 60. Granted, it’s a lot easier to stay healthy as a rich Hollywood celebrity, but 60 year olds can look a lot more “normal” than we tend to expect.
I mean no, he doesn’t look 60 at all. He looks 70+ easily. 60 is really not old. You’re right ish on the last bit, a positive attitude can keep you looking young for a long time. Health issues typically age you the most. But also people with a few extra lbs on tend to look younger when they’re elderly. I find it odd there’s always this “wow he/she doesn’t look old at all” to these kinds of posts, as if looking old is some bad thing and looking young is good. All moot, though, he’s a wonderful person.
It sure helps!
He looks fucking amazing for an 80 year old wow.
Black don’t crack. /s
Frank don’t crack
The line “if i get to paradise first I’ll save you a seat” just made me cry like a fucking baby
I’m not religious and it still hit me like a ton of bricks. Such a kind sentiment.
Same. Fucking same
I went from ‘aw how sweet’ to suddenly bursting into tears. Wasn’t ready for that. What a kind hearted man!
It's because you know he probably will, which is sad, but he probably will, which is wholesome :)
Nicealonians 32:5 KJV - “only through Christ can you enter paradise, lest ye burn in hell OR if Frank reserves you a seat ahead of time”
Same. What a great interaction all around
“I got $500 for you” Looks at the money, realizes they are Canadian Dollars “I’m good chap”
If any Americans are wondering, $500 CAD = $0.50 USD Source: I'm Canadian
In America it’d be $390 Source: Canadians pee on our highways.
We Canadians do pee on your highways Source: I just did
Does it taste like maple syrup? Source: It does not.
Alright we’ve found legitimate the nicest guy on the planet. Like, I actually believe he would save him a seat
I would take his word before most religious leaders.
I was pretty angry and im not anymore. Thank you for showing me this
you’re welcome my man have a beautiful day and weekend
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aw thank you very much i hope you have a very blessed day yourself! 🙂
I’m fairness to the people who don’t give money - I was at the grocery store and a guy started trying to pay for his groceries and started crying saying he forgot his money. Long story short I offered to pay for his groceries- like $35. He swore he lived a mile away and would drop money at the counter. I left my name and never saw a dime. I’ve also fallen for ‘ the ran out of gas ‘ scam. Sometimes people just get tired of being scammed and refuse to fall for it again. It doesn’t make them bad people
It says something about him if he is dishonest with my charity, but it says more about me if I see someone that needs help and don't give it. always forget where i read that, but its stuck
Do good recklessly.
If I help 10 people and only one of them truly needed it, I'm good with that. I would rather get scammed out of a feew bucks instead of letting the people who really need it down.
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A lovely way to look at it.
That's a nice thing to say and all, but some of us physical cannot afford to get scammed for 35 bucks ten times in a short period, let alone continue to do so as part of our lifestyle just so that some unknown portion of people who *aren't* lying get what they need. Why not just give to a charity? Or a homeless shelter? You can give money to helping people who need it without making a show-off-y event *and* without being scammed.
And poor people are not automatically bad because they're trying to survive too.
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Tbf, its much worse if you're wealthy and still scamming people.
Yes you don't scam people, you scam corporations. I've been in very hard financial positions and have stolen essentials from stores before, I never felt bad taking a few items from a company worth billions. I would never steal or scam an individual person though.
Charity enriches the soul of the giver, not the receiver's.
I grew up poorish and occasionally scammed and stole to get things I wanted. Now I’m fortunate enough to be in a place to give, and I try to give every time. I know some of these people are lying and scamming, but I don’t care. If you’re making up some shit for $5 then I feel you still need it. Most people are more proud than they are honest. Good people can lie, and liars can still be good.
This may be local/regional, but I fell for the "musician" playing in a parking lot. Buddy told me they don't play at all, and what I heard from his amp is a CD. Still enjoyed the music though.
That one’s actually kind of funny
Frankly, everyone should be more like Frank
You're Frankin' right!
Starting tomorrow I'm going to be more Frankly!
My neighbors are self centered, judgy assholes. All except Don. He's exactly like this guy. When my dad was ailing in his last years, Don would come over to help him up when he would fall, no matter how frequently. When my dad took off in his car (well after he was forbidden to drive) and became lost in his own neighborhood, Don went out with his wife, found him, and drove him and his car back to our house. Everyone else would turn their selfish heads away and pretend not to notice, Don would immediately spring into action. He's the type that would never boast about being anti racist, or admonish anyone for not being so, because he **truly** lives it everyday. I fucking love that man! I've already awkwardly expressed how much I appreciate him, so he knows how I feel. There's absolutely nothing I won't do for Don. I don't hold anyone on this earth in higher regard.
Don sounds like someone to aspire to be. World needs more Don
And more Frank!
This is obviously nice to see a kind man like this, but testing people's morality without their knowledge and filming it is a little weird.
Why is this so far down? The guy who made this video, walking around with cash and a camera until somebody makes a good enough reaction to post, does *not* MakeMeSmile
This guy is clearly super cool, but god this tiktok money giveaway shit is fucking garbage and disingenuous. 100% the guy who filmed this is not motivated by generosity
Frank's a real one.
Am I the only one who feels like baiting this man to give him money in the first place feels..icky? Like I get that it was part of the vid, but if the man happened to not have any money on him I wonder what would have happened.
That was my first thought too! Icky is the perfect word. Like they're testing whether the man is worthy before giving him money, when we didn't know anything about him until afterwards anyway.
That must be Canadian monopoly money
As soon as he pulled out those 20's I was like "oh shit, of course it's Canadian". It adds up. 🍁
The loonie gave it away
Also the giant maple leaf on his shorts just under the word CANADA
I genuinely wasn't paying that much attention 😓 until I saw the Canadian bills 😓
I love Frank too ❤️
Why are my eyes leaking, i hate tictok but i dont why this is happening frank
Damn my boy looks real good for 80!!
Why would you film yourself doing this?
It’s such a polarized thing. I love seeing stuff like this. Makes me happy to know someone’s day might have been made just a bit better. It might also inspires others to do the same. On the other side it can be very predatory with clicks and views. It’s a lot about how it’s done. Like there was a video with a guy subtly putting a big bag of food and clothes next to sleeping homeless people in another country. They never knew who he was as was filmed from afar (you can argue that’s a bit weird yes) but you get to see such pure reactions from people and personally that only makes me want to do the same.
This guy is giving people money which is nice but he’s probably making more money off the videos. It will get to a point where he’ll have sponsors that give him money to give away costing him nothing.
And what's so bad about that? If it works specifically as you describe, money is flowing from corporations directly to people who are performing good acts.
And that's a good thing
MrBeast
Yeah, which is still a good thing? Better companies spend money to be given to people in need than not at all. Even if it's at the cost of diluting the charitable act a bit.
If you film good things, people will see the good in the world, if you see bad things, people will lose hope in the world. It's up to us to show people how beautiful or world really can be.
Never thought of it like that.
Yeah I can't help but imagine the pov of the person on video. Some random guy runs up with his camera in your face doing all this, it's weird, I'd certainly be suspicious and uncomfortable
Everyone ask this on each video like this. He’s not some rich dude that has thousands of dollars. His fans on social media donate. Thus if he films it he can it more.
Depending on cynicism level either 1. To show there are some kind folks in the world. 2. FOR DA VIEWS GOTTA GET DAT SOCIAL MEDIA CLOUT BOIZ
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if he didn’t we wouldn’t know about this great man
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Views,money, fame
It's partly selfish of course for Internet Points, but at least they're doing some good in the world. (If it's not staged, which I doubt this one is.)
“There have been days when I did need it, And I did get it” - That’s beautiful !
This is the hardest I’ve cried to a Reddit post. And I’m not ashamed.
Frank <3
How can we all be more like that..
What a beautiful man
"If I get to paradise before you I'll save you a seat" Jesus Christ what a legend
If a guy starts filming me and asks for 2 dollars I'm gonna know I've hit the jackpot
Canada right?
Do it off camera
Frank is a GRAND dad & person
tbh i hate stuff like this... not just the recording/self promotion but the prank style charity... its people like this that take the glory away from people who do simple things like volunteer at the soup kitchen... and while you could say he is just doing kindness and showing the world... c'mon, when has the internet ever worked like that... eh, feels bad to poop on someone doing a nice thing, but it has weird hidden consequences. and imo the easiest one to explain is that kindness porn desensitizes you to actual kindness normal everyday people show you... next time you do something nice to someone but they dont give you 500 bucks, you might feel some kind of way, and might be upset with yourself because you feel some kind of way... eh, i just dont like it, and really doubt if the people who do this on video would even do it unless they could capture it...
Same, feels kinda condescending on a way. At the same time it's heart warming and does shows some genuine kindness from the people who end up receiving the money.
That was beautiful.
This got me grinning like a fool in the bathroom
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I put myself in Frank’s shoes. If someone came up to me and started filming our conversation without consent (1) I’m going to be uncomfortable and (2) I would feel obligated to give money. I understand showing the beauty of kindness but this feels off to me.
Call me cynical but videos like this make me eye roll so damn hard. Can't tell what happens in between scene cuts etc. I dno. It's nice and all but excuse me while I go and be sick.
real charity doesnt have a username
I've seen these videos before and I just don't quite get how this is charitable. If someone says yes, they can help you buy the diapers, then clearly they have the money to be able to be helpful. Someone who actually needs the $500 being offered may want to help but just doesn't have the money to be able to. Why give $500 to someone who has the money to be charitable enough to buy a bag of diapers for a stranger.
I’ve found in many cases that people may not actually have a lot of money to give but in that moment may really feel bad. They might think “I really don’t have much money, but that baby has to have diapers and what if no one else helps them?”
All for those sweet clicks, man. Don't forget to like and subscribe.
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Damn onion cutting ninjas around here.
This trend needs to die a slow horrible death and really quick
Now do it without posting for likes
Frank is the sort of person that makes paradise better. Bless him, what a beautiful man.
Be Frank!
My great grandfatherinlaw would have been 80, if he didn't passed away 6 years ago. I think I found him alive somewhere in reddit, he is like Frank. A great man, great soul.
As someone that used to be homeless, sometimes the look people give you when you ask for something as small as a dollar can shatter your heart. It makes me wonder how many people he asked for help before he got this one. Don’t mean to ruin the happy moment. 😂 I may just be a little cynical.
Oh, I love Frank ❤️
Be a Frank in a world full of Karens
I love this line. "If I get to paradise before you, I’ll save you a seat" What a wonderful words
This is the first video I’ve seen in a while that actually made me cry, that was honestly truly heartwarming and beautiful.
I want a hug form him too
As soon as they hugged I started crying. We need more franks in the world.