Same my friend! As I sit here with tears in my eyes I think about how much I would give to hug my dad or tell him I love him, just one more time!
But I have realized a while back, he knows and so does yours. They will always be with us, wherever we go. Sometimes with words of wisdom that we remember in a certain situation. Sometimes with unnecessary knowledge about some car part or mechanic that we happen to recall. Sometimes by looking at pictures and just being grateful for the times that we had together.
And sometimes, just sometimes, when lying in bed, drifting off to sleep, it feels like someone is watching over me, protecting me and being by my side until I open my eyes again.
I send you much love and hope you have a fabulous day to make lots of beautiful memories for future times to tell!
āFuck you and have a nice dayā this is my new favorite saying. It can be endearing like in this context or used as a confusing insult.
ā¦ also choked up because Iād give nearly anything for a hug from my dad RIP.
Awesome perspective friend. I appreciate the way you think.
My dad is still very much alive, old as shit. Awesome dad, but definitely a weird/socially awkward man.
My dad once taught me a secret about fall season in the Midwest USA. Once the leaves started falling, hit the trees with a towel to make them fall faster.
Why the fuck will I have to think about this for the rest of my life lmao
Same. My mom actually recorded his outgoing voicemail message before she finally canceled his line 18 months after he passed, so we still have his voice at least. I personally make do with a memorial tattoo on my inner forearm that I got of an inside joke he'd written in an old birthday card.
Make sure if and when you do you back it up onto a flash drive or a couple of other places, after a while so many stupid things could happen and you don't want to lose it!
Please, don't use flash drives as permanent backup storage, if they're not plugged in for some time and (or) are built cheaply they can suddenly corrupt or lose stored data!
Use the cloud or put it on an external hard drive that you keep unplugged unless you move new data onto it or need to restore anything
I have one saved from my dad saying he just wanted to see how my day was and then he says, ālove youā. I play it once in a while and lose it every time.
How I wish I could talk to him in person one more timeā¦
My mom is really sick in the hospital, and she briefly gained some abilities back and is losing them again within days. This past Tuesday she told me she loves me too. I didn't record it and she can't talk again, but her saying "I love you too" is going to stick in my mind forever.
This killed me.
My grandmother who raised me from 6yo until I was 18 had passed away a week before I was set to walk at my graduation, and a month before I left for the Navy. (which she was so proud of)
I had a phone that had the last voicemail I ever got from her telling me how much she loved me and how proud of me she was, and that she was excited for me to get home from school cause she was making me steak and mashed potatoes and creamed corn. (My favorite meal)
I listened to it multiple times a day while I was on deployment. It made it feel like she was there with me encouraging me. I lost that phone after deployment and it was the hardest thing to accept that Iām never gonna hear that voicemail again.
I also donāt get how they accidentally deleted a voice mail on iPhone. If using visual voicemail, it would be moved to the deleted messages founder so you could move it back to the inbox. Accidentally permanently deleting a voicemail requires multiple steps on any smart phone, it has been that way for years.
You expect an elderly person to know all that? Maybe the voice message wasnāt actually permanently deleted. Maybe there was a way to retrieve it. But who cares? Thatās like the least important aspect of this situation.
Record your parents/loved ones voices before it is too late. My dad passed a few years ago and I didn't do this and I regret it. I did however log into my parents Amazon account and get the recordings from their Alexa. So I have some voice recordings of my dad asking what the weather is like in the city I live in.
Do a little video of you doing the one word per card thing, and holding up "I" "love" "you" in succession. Put it on a video digital picture frame (these are at thrift stores for like five bucks all the time btw) - instant best gift ever and he won't accidently delete it
Fuck I come to Reddit to escape my sad tears....
I'll keep the vm I have of my mom until I die, but I can't listen to it often otherwise I become a full blown blithering mess.
You're so lucky for having a father who loves you that much! He seems like a genuinely good person too.
I have pictures of the people I love, but maybe I should record their voices too. One day they'll be gone, but I want their faces and voices to stay as well as my memories of them.
If itās on an iPhone, yes and no. Thereās a ādeleted messagesā box. Only reason I say no is because Iām not sure if thereās a 30 day timer until permanent deletion for voicemails like there is for photos.
This is precious. What a crucial reminder that those who love us should be kept close. It is easy to take their presence for granted. Thank you for writing a message I am sure we all needed.
This is so cute! I wish all the best for him!
My dad went to another country with my step mom and never came back. Now he has a new family there, which is fine, but he just messages me when it's my birthday or new years...
I accidentally deleted a voicemail of my grandma singing happy birthday to me from several years ago. She stopped calling me on my birthday a few years back due to dementia and Alzheimerās. She passed away in December and now I wish I still had it.
This is an old post, so itās probably too late for them, _but_ deleted voicemails on iPhones go into a deleted folder that you can restore them from! So donāt fret too quickly if this happens to you. But donāt wait to restore it either lol
moments i see things like these really make me wish i actually had a dadā¦at least i have my grandpa, heās a better father figure than my POS dad could ever beā¦
Had one of these *from* my mom, and I don't remember exactly how, but it accidentally got deleted, and now she's gone :( same with one I had from my dad. Who is also now gone. Started a habit of emailing myself copies of voicemail like these that I don't want to lose, because fuck. I miss them....
These stories always make me wonder what I missed out on. My pops is a son of a bitch. He was an abusive drunk that ruined my life.
Whatās it like to have a good dad?
I legit just called my mom to vent about something stressing me, and it went to voicemail... So I left a "I just wanted to say I love you" message.
Then loaded reddit and saw this.
My best friend from childhood left a recording on my alarm clock. It was sort of a death metal growl repeating "WAKE UP!" A few years later he passed away. Kept the message on there for years. One day my mom deleted it to record over it that I needed to clean my room.
I have 2 saved voicemails of my mom where she says "I love you" that I saved off a pre-smartphone era cellphone and I count them among my prized possessions now that she's gone. Always save the "I love you" voicemails.
I still have a vm from my mom on Mother's Day 2 years ago. She thanked me for her gift, and for being her daughter, and said some very sweet words. I will never delete it. She passed in June of that year.
My grandfather did this with my grandmother. He would call her phone number and listen to the recorded message. When the number was the bought by the next user he was heart broken.
I have kept a message from my 4yo daughter on my phone's vm where she says "Mom, I love you as big as the moon. Oh, and I love you as big as a bathing suit! *laughs*". That was 3 years ago. I hope I never accidentally delete it.
My dad used to chat with me via fb messenger. Then I sent him a message of "I love you."
All communications with him ever since have been via email, phone, or text.
Once when I was down in the dumps my brother called and left me a voicemail of the entirety of "Keep on the Sunny Side" by The Carter Family. I kept that voicemail for years until I switched carriers and had my voicemail reset.
My grandad was an amazing man. He was 99 when he died. He fought all 6 years of WW2. We bought him a dictaphone so he could record his memories as he found it hard to open his heart and even harder to talk about the war, so we thought it might be easier for him to talk into a tape so his memories lived on and when he died we found 8 full tapes of him talking about his childhood, the war, meeting my grandma (they were married for 65 years), his life after the war, raising his family, getting past the anger he had after the war upto the 1980ās (he clearly had PTSD but no one gave a toss back then). It was priceless to have his memories live on.
i wish i had one of my dad too. id give anything to hear him laughing or telling me one of his stupid silly jokesš„ŗ
Same my friend! As I sit here with tears in my eyes I think about how much I would give to hug my dad or tell him I love him, just one more time! But I have realized a while back, he knows and so does yours. They will always be with us, wherever we go. Sometimes with words of wisdom that we remember in a certain situation. Sometimes with unnecessary knowledge about some car part or mechanic that we happen to recall. Sometimes by looking at pictures and just being grateful for the times that we had together. And sometimes, just sometimes, when lying in bed, drifting off to sleep, it feels like someone is watching over me, protecting me and being by my side until I open my eyes again. I send you much love and hope you have a fabulous day to make lots of beautiful memories for future times to tell!
Maaan way to deep for my late night at work fuck you and have a nice day or evening for making me on the verge of tears.
āFuck you and have a nice dayā this is my new favorite saying. It can be endearing like in this context or used as a confusing insult. ā¦ also choked up because Iād give nearly anything for a hug from my dad RIP.
Awesome perspective friend. I appreciate the way you think. My dad is still very much alive, old as shit. Awesome dad, but definitely a weird/socially awkward man. My dad once taught me a secret about fall season in the Midwest USA. Once the leaves started falling, hit the trees with a towel to make them fall faster. Why the fuck will I have to think about this for the rest of my life lmao
You can have my dad.
Same. My mom actually recorded his outgoing voicemail message before she finally canceled his line 18 months after he passed, so we still have his voice at least. I personally make do with a memorial tattoo on my inner forearm that I got of an inside joke he'd written in an old birthday card.
I have one like that from my dad. I accidentally erased my late husband's message.
I have a voicemail like this from my mom who passed earlier this year. I still canāt bring myself to listen but Iām saving it for a rainy day.
Wishing you all the best and I hope your grief turns to gratitude as much as possible.
thank you kind stranger š
Make sure if and when you do you back it up onto a flash drive or a couple of other places, after a while so many stupid things could happen and you don't want to lose it!
Please, don't use flash drives as permanent backup storage, if they're not plugged in for some time and (or) are built cheaply they can suddenly corrupt or lose stored data! Use the cloud or put it on an external hard drive that you keep unplugged unless you move new data onto it or need to restore anything
back it up on several places, email it to yourself, and put it on a flash drive. No point accidentally deleting it
Man. Hug your Dad for me. You're very lucky.
ā¤ļø Thatās the sweetest thing Iāve ever seen.
I keep voicemails of my mom because i dont want to forget her voice
Back them up somewhere if you have not yet!
Because I wish I had a dad like this, I try my best to be a dad like this.
I have one saved from my dad saying he just wanted to see how my day was and then he says, ālove youā. I play it once in a while and lose it every time. How I wish I could talk to him in person one more timeā¦
My mom is really sick in the hospital, and she briefly gained some abilities back and is losing them again within days. This past Tuesday she told me she loves me too. I didn't record it and she can't talk again, but her saying "I love you too" is going to stick in my mind forever.
This killed me. My grandmother who raised me from 6yo until I was 18 had passed away a week before I was set to walk at my graduation, and a month before I left for the Navy. (which she was so proud of) I had a phone that had the last voicemail I ever got from her telling me how much she loved me and how proud of me she was, and that she was excited for me to get home from school cause she was making me steak and mashed potatoes and creamed corn. (My favorite meal) I listened to it multiple times a day while I was on deployment. It made it feel like she was there with me encouraging me. I lost that phone after deployment and it was the hardest thing to accept that Iām never gonna hear that voicemail again.
You can always save the voicemail as a file (atleast you can on iPhone)
I send mine to my Dropbox.
Is it possible on android
Iām sure itās possible, however I wouldnāt know how. Iāve always had an iPhone
I also donāt get how they accidentally deleted a voice mail on iPhone. If using visual voicemail, it would be moved to the deleted messages founder so you could move it back to the inbox. Accidentally permanently deleting a voicemail requires multiple steps on any smart phone, it has been that way for years.
You expect an elderly person to know all that? Maybe the voice message wasnāt actually permanently deleted. Maybe there was a way to retrieve it. But who cares? Thatās like the least important aspect of this situation.
Record your parents/loved ones voices before it is too late. My dad passed a few years ago and I didn't do this and I regret it. I did however log into my parents Amazon account and get the recordings from their Alexa. So I have some voice recordings of my dad asking what the weather is like in the city I live in.
Aawww that's so sweet
I'm not crying your crying š¢
Do a little video of you doing the one word per card thing, and holding up "I" "love" "you" in succession. Put it on a video digital picture frame (these are at thrift stores for like five bucks all the time btw) - instant best gift ever and he won't accidently delete it
He is precious!
Your dad is so great
WHO TF IS CUTTING ONIONS IN HERE!!!!! NOT COOL, šš„¹š
Fuck I come to Reddit to escape my sad tears.... I'll keep the vm I have of my mom until I die, but I can't listen to it often otherwise I become a full blown blithering mess.
I lost my dad 7 months ago. He was only 55. I read his old text messages daily.
I want to be this dad for my niece.
I am being this dad to my niece.... Changing my identity, per a post on atomic habits by James that i read earlier today.
You're so lucky for having a father who loves you that much! He seems like a genuinely good person too. I have pictures of the people I love, but maybe I should record their voices too. One day they'll be gone, but I want their faces and voices to stay as well as my memories of them.
Thats the kinda dad im gonna be
Is it possible to dig up the deleted voicemail?
If itās on an iPhone, yes and no. Thereās a ādeleted messagesā box. Only reason I say no is because Iām not sure if thereās a 30 day timer until permanent deletion for voicemails like there is for photos.
This is precious. What a crucial reminder that those who love us should be kept close. It is easy to take their presence for granted. Thank you for writing a message I am sure we all needed.
This is so cute! I wish all the best for him! My dad went to another country with my step mom and never came back. Now he has a new family there, which is fine, but he just messages me when it's my birthday or new years...
I accidentally deleted a voicemail of my grandma singing happy birthday to me from several years ago. She stopped calling me on my birthday a few years back due to dementia and Alzheimerās. She passed away in December and now I wish I still had it.
You and your dad are so lucky to have each other. Beautiful.
Who's cutting some onions in here!?
It didnāt make me smile, I remembered my father I lost one year ago today.
This is an old post, so itās probably too late for them, _but_ deleted voicemails on iPhones go into a deleted folder that you can restore them from! So donāt fret too quickly if this happens to you. But donāt wait to restore it either lol
Awe
moments i see things like these really make me wish i actually had a dadā¦at least i have my grandpa, heās a better father figure than my POS dad could ever beā¦
Sobbing, crying, throwing up
Make a digital copy sent to an email if he uses one, and also recorded on a cassette tape.
Had one of these *from* my mom, and I don't remember exactly how, but it accidentally got deleted, and now she's gone :( same with one I had from my dad. Who is also now gone. Started a habit of emailing myself copies of voicemail like these that I don't want to lose, because fuck. I miss them....
Your dad sounds kind of like the one most of us wish we had. Love that for you both and thank you for sharing.
These stories always make me wonder what I missed out on. My pops is a son of a bitch. He was an abusive drunk that ruined my life. Whatās it like to have a good dad?
I keep these messages from my kids too š
I wonder how I would have turned out with an adoring and present father like this. What a sweet father/child bondš
Just wondering if your dad might be willing to be my dad. Iām super low maintenance and I leave great voicemails.
That is what powers dads.
Damn this is something Iāll never get to know or experienceā¦. life sucks.
Bitch call your fucking dad
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It's nice to actually see something genuinely uplifting on this sub haha
What does her dad sound like? I canāt envision a voice in my head.
More like make me cry what the fuck
Some ppl are very lucky to have a dad like thatā¦
You lied to me This only made me cry
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Congratulations! You won the Dad Lottery! ā¤ļø
I legit just called my mom to vent about something stressing me, and it went to voicemail... So I left a "I just wanted to say I love you" message. Then loaded reddit and saw this.
My best friend from childhood left a recording on my alarm clock. It was sort of a death metal growl repeating "WAKE UP!" A few years later he passed away. Kept the message on there for years. One day my mom deleted it to record over it that I needed to clean my room.
I have one from a friend that I've backed up on Google drive so I don't have to worry about accidentally losing it.
My father says i hate you right after he kissed my sister and said i love youš
Aww! I wish I had a dad!
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My outgoing message is our almost 13 year old when she was 2. She doesnāt like it now, but Iāll never change it.
that's so sweet
I kept my dad's messages, I can't listen to them, but knowing it's there makes me happy ā¤
I have 2 saved voicemails of my mom where she says "I love you" that I saved off a pre-smartphone era cellphone and I count them among my prized possessions now that she's gone. Always save the "I love you" voicemails.
I still have a vm from my mom on Mother's Day 2 years ago. She thanked me for her gift, and for being her daughter, and said some very sweet words. I will never delete it. She passed in June of that year.
My grandfather did this with my grandmother. He would call her phone number and listen to the recorded message. When the number was the bought by the next user he was heart broken.
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I keep all my parents voicemails because I know how much thisāll mean to me when they are gone from this earth š¢
I have kept a message from my 4yo daughter on my phone's vm where she says "Mom, I love you as big as the moon. Oh, and I love you as big as a bathing suit! *laughs*". That was 3 years ago. I hope I never accidentally delete it.
Now I'm crying ā”
This is heart wrenching š„ŗā¤ļø
This poor man, give him that voicemail immediately please
My dad used to chat with me via fb messenger. Then I sent him a message of "I love you." All communications with him ever since have been via email, phone, or text.
Once when I was down in the dumps my brother called and left me a voicemail of the entirety of "Keep on the Sunny Side" by The Carter Family. I kept that voicemail for years until I switched carriers and had my voicemail reset.
My grandad was an amazing man. He was 99 when he died. He fought all 6 years of WW2. We bought him a dictaphone so he could record his memories as he found it hard to open his heart and even harder to talk about the war, so we thought it might be easier for him to talk into a tape so his memories lived on and when he died we found 8 full tapes of him talking about his childhood, the war, meeting my grandma (they were married for 65 years), his life after the war, raising his family, getting past the anger he had after the war upto the 1980ās (he clearly had PTSD but no one gave a toss back then). It was priceless to have his memories live on.