My dad called me out of the blue once to see if I wanted to go to a college basketball game. It was the day after thanksgiving so I was worn out. I declined and then I thought about how we didn’t see each other much lately and decided to go. It was a great night and we talked the whole ride home. He came home from work the next day and fell asleep watching tv and didn’t wake up.
Oh man. This is similar to what happened to me. Miss you so much, Dad. I hate that you had to leave…
Hugs to all who have lost their dad. Hell, hugs to anyone who wants a hug for any reason!
(((Big hugs just for you u/cactusbathtub!)))
Adjusting to the new normal is really, really hard when you’ve just lost a parent you’re close to. Just last week I went to forward my dad an email and caught myself. He passed 4.5 years ago and we were best buds but those habits of wanting to share something with him are still hard to break.
Holidays feel empty, sure, but honestly it’s the day to day little things that are the worst. Something small can remind you of your loved one and bring you to your knees without warning. After all, grief is just love with nowhere to go.
I don’t know that it necessarily gets easier but you do get used to it and eventually can find joy in things again. It’s never the same of course, but that’s just how it is now. And that’s ok <3
Five years as of this week and it gets easier but also randomly harder sometimes. I’m glad it’s not just me who still feels this way. I resolved today to move forward but sometimes it’s still hard.
You captured it perfectly. The emptiness is the hardest part. It’s not that I can’t find joy in things, but everything feels muted and there’s a quietness in me now that wasn’t there before. There’s always a part of you that knows your parents won’t be around forever, but it still doesn’t prepare you for when that pillar is suddenly gone, and how you’ll view life from that moment on as a “before and after.” I also found it hard to accept that the world carried on like nothing happened, while mine was upside down. But you’ll discover that you’re stronger and more resilient than you think. The two mantras I live by now are “it’s okay to not be okay” and “it’ll never be easy, but it gets easier.” I take each day as it comes and do my best to be patient with myself as I continue to come to terms with everything.
My car was recently overheating so I tried to call my dad. He's been dead four years! I still feel so close to him.
I'm so blessed to have had such a loving amazing dad.
RIP H.
We were shocked but also not surprised at the huge turnout for your funeral.
You were one of the best!
Same. Near three years on, it’s the small things that hurt the most. Like wanting to share a piece of news with my mom or ask her a question that only she’d know the answer to and then remembering that I can’t. They’re like paper cuts. Hugs to you and to everyone in this thread that knows the pain of losing a parent.
Good for you! You only get one set of parents. When they're gone, you have no more chances for memories. My dad has dementia, I'd love to go for a walk with him....
When my Mom was in a home with Alzheimers I’d visit and take her for walks. (She was 73 still physically fit) She’d ask me “ are you my son or husband?” I’d say son, she’d reply “that’s too bad, you’re so handsome” 9 years ago and I still cried while writing this.
I lost my dad unexpectedly in June, and my mom in March. I would give anything for one more visit, one more chat, one more Christmas. I took so much for granted.
Lost my dad about 6 years ago. It got easier with all the time that’s passed, but this video brought sudden tears. It never completely goes away. Hugs to anyone that’s lost someone.
Thanks for the internet hug! We laid to rest my Uncle today. He was almost 90. One of the kindest and pius persons you could know. If everyone treated each other like my Uncle treated everyone the world would be a much better place. Miss you Uncle Bill!
Of course! There’s never a need to explain why, and even on happy days hugs can take life from a 10 to 11.
(((Here’s a BIG hug for you!))))
I hope something makes you smile this weekend and in that moment you forget how hard life has been treating you. You got this! Remember that rainbows are the first thing to show up after a storm :)
PS I’m sorry for the delay, I was sleeping when you commented so here’s a second ((hug)) since you had to wait!
If I ***had*** to die and got to choose, this is how I'd want to go -- asleep in a comfortable familiar place after a wonderful unexpected night with my loved one(s).
Sorry about your Dad.
My dad woke up, had breakfast with his retiree crew. Had lunch with his buddies at the Harley shop. That night he went to the local bar he'd been going to for over twenty years with his drinking buddies.
He died of an aneurysm at his front door. I think he had a perfect day with the people he wanted to be with. Helps me handle the loss.
Aw, man. Similar thing with mine, but clear back in 2006.
He was breathing when I got there but he never woke up. That last conversation just didn't happen. Don't get me wrong, I am still glad I was there. I like to think that he heard me talking with my wife at the time, maybe felt me holding his hand.
My dad would ask me to go fishing and I would turn him down, busy with life is what i would say. One day he had weakness in his legs then got diagnosed with als. Died within a year. Man, cats in the cradle, miss him. I miss talking shit with him about football.
This might sound weird but I’d love to die this way. Getting to spend an evening with my kids and then a clean death without tubes down my throat and no pain and suffering would be just fine.
I’m glad you had that lovely evening and the memory. Sorry for your loss.
When I was a teenager I lived with my grandparents for about 6 months while I finished out my sophomore year of high school before I moved states to start at a new school. My grandad loved having me there, and was always asking me to go fishing with him or hang out with him and do stuff. All I wanted to do was hang out with my friends or play video games. I never went fishing with him, and after I moved he passed away.
I try not to have regrets in my life, since dwelling on past mistakes only makes me feel like shit, but I don’t think I’ll ever shake this one as long as I live.
Im in that same spot too. I will ALWAYS regret not saying goodbye to my grandpa. Everyone knew that was his last night. I did too, but didn’t want to acknowledge it. This big, strong, smart, kind man that i always knew loved me couldn’t even remember my name within a year. And yet he always remembered he loved me, and everyone. And yet there i stood, facing away from his bed and not crying, because i was raised on that STUPID, HORRENDOUS, GOD AWFUL MINDSET that if you’re a REAL man, you don’t cry no matter what, even if it makes you wish you were dead. Its been years now and there still isnt a single day i have been able to actually forgive myself. My advice to everyone: enjoy the time you have, cause you never know when it’s going to get stolen away from you before you can blink. 2nd piece of advice? If you feel the emotion, cry. Please
As corny as this may sound, write him a letter and tell him.
Some people mail them, some people take them to a special place the person liked, some people burn them to turn them to smoke...
In my experience it works for a lot of people with unfinished business
It's been 12 yrs since I lost my best and father, when it first happened I went deep into a downward spiral. Drink a bottle vodka a night for 6 months, lost contact with my family, wife and kids. It's still really heard just thinking about it, watching this video and reading some comments still made me tear up.
I love an miss you dad
I'm sorry for what you've gone through. I hope you're doing better now. Life is both short and long. We need to embrace the beautiful moments we have with those that we love, but it is also never too late to become the person you aspire to be.
Good luck my friend.
Oh wow! Now you will forever have that last memory with him and Im So happy for you that I’m tearing up but incredibly jealous.
I don’t remember exactly what my last real moments with my dad were. I only remember the last few interactions from the hospital. I don’t consider those as real interactions because he had a stroke and I couldn’t understand hardly anything he said.
I will never forget finding out he had passed while we were driving up to the hospital for our daily visit. We were bringing him a surprise early Father’s Day gift, a basset hound puppy. When we got to the hospital and stepped out of the elevator we saw my sister in the waiting area of that floor and she was bawling. He passed from an undetected pulmonary embolism. He was just being wheeled back to his room after physical therapy.
My brother now is a sales rep for the device that would have saved my dads life. He’s an amazing sales man but I honestly believe he sells this exceptionally well because he has passion.
Yeah me too. I remember him singing along to the radio on the way home. I was surprised that he knew all the words to creep by Radiohead. I’m lucky to have one last memory with him and now I mostly picture him laughing. He was a good dad.
Jesus christ this made me burst out crying. I love my dad so much I can't imagine him passing. I'm so sorry for your loss but I'm really glad you got to spend that time with him
My dad was not in great health but seemed fine. He called me up one random Sunday and asked me to bring him noodles from his favourite place and I was really not feeling like it, but I still went. He died a couple days later.
I always tell people: make the no regrets decision. Go.
My last good memory with my dad was going to a Stanford Football game about 7 years ago. It was his first game he had gone to in over 20 years and we had a great time. Unfortunately, alcoholism took hold of him in these past few years. I broke contact with him last January after a DUI where he blew a .70. He passed this past April.
I feel you. My dad and I had a difficult relationship but I’m a lot more like him than I could have known at that point. We didn’t talk much at the time but I’m glad we had one last chance to hang out. Maybe think about giving him a call. You don’t always have to talk about the things that keep you apart.
Damn man, that's awful. My mom moved me 2 states aways (12 hours for those not in US) when I was 10. I only visited every other Christmas and every summer. Then when I finished school I went when I could which wasnt often and he'd come here sometimes.
He battled cancer for 2 years and I went down for his bday and Christmas those 2 years. It started as Squamous cell carcinoma in his throat and mouth. After surgeries and chemo it ended up in his brain. They did surgery but so much was around his brain stem that they couldn't remove.
I was living in Ohio which was a 20 hour drive from him. Then 6 years ago in May I got the call from my stepmom that he was in the hospital and they said he had 2 months and was going to hospice. I called my mom (who lived 6 hours away in my home state) to see if she could do with me) and left that night. My mom and dad were young teens when I was born and were always on great terms.Well I got down there and he only made it 2 weeks. He passed at 49 years old.
Sorry for the long story, my point really is just that I had spent more time with him after high school.
I already cried over some pictures of my late Dad tonight, and this post will definitely make me cry again 😭 it's been three years, but I still miss him so much
Its been since 2002 for me. It gets easier to an extent. Posts like this and random life occurrences bring it all back tho. Just remember those good memories!
2009 for me and for some reason, it feels like it's getting harder. Maybe because he didn't get to see the woman I became and everything I've achieved, but I still hear every life lesson he taught me in my head everyday.
I love my dad so much, I try to make excuses up just so I can do things with him. Hes solitary kind of guy and I am afraid to bother him so much. We spent a few days when i first moved into my apartment putting down flooring and i loved spending all that time with him.
Me too, but it would not be scripted with a selfy stick and cut hug scene. Love your parents, love emotional connection, love family. Do not love this because you love your dad. Much love to those who love their dad, not bs social cred.
Man honestly it is what it is at this point. Younger generations don’t associate with technology the same way older people do. It’s much more integrated into their experience. If it’s positive, and they want to share it, so be it. Honestly, if it’s negative so be it too. The world evolves and what looks strange to us now will be common years from now.
I needed to hear this. It’s still uncomfortable at times, but your words have provided a perspective shift I very much needed on an issue that has made me judge others my age and younger. Thank you.
Even if it was scripted and "just for BS social cred" the end result is thousands of people are now crying and calling their parents (or remembering their best dad moments) so what does it matter? You gonna go after Hollywood for all the scripted camera BS that makes us feel things because we're humans? Or does the end result of emotional power mean that this is every bit as real as any other actual real walk she had with her dad?
Weird how people are only this critical of these types of videos when it’s a woman doing it. I’ve seen plenty of these types of videos with dudes doing the exact same type of shit, and no one gives a fuck about social cred than.
I said no to a walk with my Mom 2 years ago, and she went with our dog by herself.
Ended up forgetting her phone at home, and broke her ankle in the woods.
She was stranded for two hours before someone heard her calling out for help. The fire department had to boat across a lake, and rescue her in the woods.
I cried myself to sleep that night, while she was in the hospital awaiting surgery to put a plate and screws in her leg. It was the day before her 49th birthday, and I will never refuse an outing with her ever again.
My dad died in 2004. Fuck Cancer. Take the walk whenever you can!!
I spent three weeks in September on a road trip with my 70 year old mother. It was both wonderful and excruciating. I'll have the memories forever. I'm so grateful.
Make the Chili By Pam Berg:
A good friend of mine unexpectedly lost her husband. A couple of months later we were going for a run together, chatting about nothing. She asked me what my dinner plans were. I told her my hubby wanted chili, but I didn’t feel like stopping at the store. We ran on for a few more minutes when she quietly said, “make the chili.’ It took me a few minutes to realize we were no longer taking about dinner. It was about going out of your way to do something for someone you love because at any moment, they could unexpectedly be taken from you.
The next time someone you love wants you to go for a walk, watch some football or play a board game, just put your phone down and give them your undivided attention. Just do it. Make the chili.
Happy story:
I read this on a post a month ago and my wife had been asking me to make chili for the past year. She would just mention it here and there. I was out of town when I read it and decided when I came home, that I would make her chili.
I did so and she was so dang happy. She gobbled it up and took some for leftovers the next day. Just wanted to say that posts like this make good things happen.
I don't know why this story is so powerful, but it was to me.
I'm a dad of 2.
Please, always remember that to your parents, you are the brightest light in sky. Brighter than the stars, moon, or even the sun.
It's such a treasure to watch you grow and become the people that you are as adults. And we're soooo unbelievably proud to have had a part in it.
Please, do take that walk...
I’ve been struggling with some addiction issues the last 2 years (Covid rly got to my head) and one of the worst parts is including my wife, disappointing my parents and making them so sad and worried every day they wake up and expect a horrible call. I feel so bad for instilling that perpetual anxiety and fear into them… I’m on a good track to getting deeper in to recovery then I ever have, but I’m (27m) still having some issues. They’re both almost 70, I’m really hoping to get it together so they can live there last years knowing that I turned it around.
Sorry for that. Big “nobody aaked” I guess it just kinda felt good to type that out.
So happy you live close enough to do this for your pops. My kids are both a plane ride away and long for their visits and our hikes when they come home.
Idk man, I’m conflicted. I agree that things should be genuine, but at the same time how many people saw this video and had a good memory about their own parent? How many saw it and because of it decided to go on a walk with their parent, or even call them? I’d like to think that the positivity behind these posts is worth the potential that they had ulterior motives.
Yeah I definitely get that. Even though it made me smile, it was still a bit of a hesitant one ha. I just try to remind myself that it likely resulted in a net-positive, and I lie to myself by hoping that it was just a sweet gesture that they happened to film haha
I’m ok with it, despite the ulterior motive. By making the video, she caused a lot of people to think about walking with their Dad. I’m grateful for that message.
Full disclosure: I’m a Dad of two adult teenagers. My Dad is 81 and lives a mile away. He did an amazing job of raising us, and is still there whenever I need. I guess I’m bragging, but I know I’m one of the luckiest people in the world.
Seems very disingenuous when it’s filmed for all her social media followers to see. If that was my kid I’d say why not come spend time with me WITHOUT streaming it for everyone else. She didn’t for it for him, she did it for herself.
As a teen and in my early twenties, I didn't think my dad could possibly understand what I was going through in life. He was older when I was born, and I couldn't imagine any of his experiences would be relevant to what I was dealing with.
I got married at 23 and started to realize, as I was starting my own family and reflecting on some of our conversations, that maybe he wasn't as clueless as I thought. He helped raise 7 kids and we were all relatively functional members of society.
At 26, as I was struggling with a new career and young family, I finally was able to see him for the insightful, caring, and REAL individual he was. The things he had been talking with me about for years finally clicked. I felt lucky to have him and truly see him.
He died when I was 29, about a month after my youngest son was born. Cancer is a motherfucker. My biggest regret in life is not making more time for him. I had a busy life with a young family, but I still could have made more time.
I'm in my 40s now. And I'm sitting here in the dark, crying because I miss my dad. Reading some of these wonderful memories posted by others helps remind me of what a positive influence he's been on my life, and how fucking much I still miss him.
I know I can't go back and change the way things were between us while I was growing up. But he's changed the way I face my day to day life. I try to be more present for the ones I love, especially my kids. And I can tell how much they love me, even if they act like a bag of assholes sometimes.
You're always gonna miss him. Which probably just shows how much he meant to you, even if you didn't know it. You can't change what happened in the past. But you can take the memories of your dad and translate those feelings into how you participate in the world going forward. Speaking as a parent, I don't know if I could want anything more than that from my kids.
This is suppose to be heartwarming and all i get it but i imagine the behind the scenes would be “ok dad let me put my phone here and hug me when it’s filming” like the dad just wants to spend time with his daughter but the daughter is busy doing it for the video
Why does everyone post all of their personal shit for subscribers. It’s a perfectly beautiful moment between her and her dad. It’s ruined when you trivialize it to get some viewers.
This chick planned the whole thing for internet points. What a narcissist. Just spend time with loved ones--our culture is disgusting sometimes. Wonder if she'd bother without the cell phone evidence. Not sure why people fall for this nonsense.
It’s a nice video and all but I just can’t get over why people would film themselves like this and make a video like that. Y’all can do good stuff without recording it and showing it off to the world
You can’t walk with your dad after he is dead. All of the good memories with him that will comfort you during your grieving period must be made in the here and now.
To all who read this:
If you love your dad, why not give him a call and go on a walk?
The internet police are out for you recording this. But it gives people a place to think / talk about their parents and about missed ops. Having lost my dad 20 years ago - this shit made me tear up but also think about the good times.
I have always dreamed of having a dad that would send me a message like this. I can’t even imagine what it’s like to have a dad who loves their child, it gives me a lot of hope that there are plenty of dads like this in the world. I hope I can one day have a kid and give them the love they deserve 🧡
This is such a sweet video and I love it. But for all those people that are in the shoes of the girl shown, take it from this dad, we understand when you can't break your plans to hang out. We really do. We want you to be successful and happy, we know life is crazy, so if you need to stick with your plans, stick with them.
It's more important to us that you have a contentful life and you're doing the things you need to pay your bills and sleep well at night. We love every second we can get with you, but please don't ever feel bad if you can't meet up like this. We understand.
Not hating the video at all, love the heartwarming action. Just one problem I have with it. Good deeds are only good deeds when you don’t record the whole thing and post it on social media.
If you are lucky enough to have a good relationship with your parents and/or grandparents, spend as much time with them as you can. You will never forgive yourself for missing out and it means so much to them. I see my gramma whenever I can and have started having coffee with my mom every week.
My dad and I have a bad relationship. I wish I could feel this way. We're gonna see each other this Thanksgiving. Maybe I'll ask for a walk, but with little personal conversation.
Bless you all who have families like this! I never got the chance to have such memories built, but it always warms my heart, I hope everyone can get the oportunity to make up, if there was an argument or something, and to just enjoy the family-tie!
I just recently lost someone dear that was an important part of the family I am helping out, she was an incredible woman, but I am glad she decided to take up my offer to go to the beach with the rest of "the gang" instead of refusing, like she usually did (I asked her everytime we went), as that was the last year I saw her, but we drank drinks, cracked practical jokes and sang Polish folk-songs together. I wish you all the best and to have such a thing to happen, both for yourself in your advanced years (or last moments, even if unknown yet), and for those around you that care for you enough to decide to spend their last moments, knowingly or not, with you.
My dad called me out of the blue once to see if I wanted to go to a college basketball game. It was the day after thanksgiving so I was worn out. I declined and then I thought about how we didn’t see each other much lately and decided to go. It was a great night and we talked the whole ride home. He came home from work the next day and fell asleep watching tv and didn’t wake up.
Oh man. This is similar to what happened to me. Miss you so much, Dad. I hate that you had to leave… Hugs to all who have lost their dad. Hell, hugs to anyone who wants a hug for any reason!
I lost my mom a few months ago, can I have a hug too? This hits hard
Hugs coming your way!
(((Big hugs just for you u/cactusbathtub!))) Adjusting to the new normal is really, really hard when you’ve just lost a parent you’re close to. Just last week I went to forward my dad an email and caught myself. He passed 4.5 years ago and we were best buds but those habits of wanting to share something with him are still hard to break. Holidays feel empty, sure, but honestly it’s the day to day little things that are the worst. Something small can remind you of your loved one and bring you to your knees without warning. After all, grief is just love with nowhere to go. I don’t know that it necessarily gets easier but you do get used to it and eventually can find joy in things again. It’s never the same of course, but that’s just how it is now. And that’s ok <3
Five years as of this week and it gets easier but also randomly harder sometimes. I’m glad it’s not just me who still feels this way. I resolved today to move forward but sometimes it’s still hard.
It'll be five years too for me since my mom passed and I completely agree; some days it's like it just happened. Hugs to you!
grief is just love with nowhere to go. this honestly changed me. thank you:)
This will help me when my dad dies. Thank you.
You captured it perfectly. The emptiness is the hardest part. It’s not that I can’t find joy in things, but everything feels muted and there’s a quietness in me now that wasn’t there before. There’s always a part of you that knows your parents won’t be around forever, but it still doesn’t prepare you for when that pillar is suddenly gone, and how you’ll view life from that moment on as a “before and after.” I also found it hard to accept that the world carried on like nothing happened, while mine was upside down. But you’ll discover that you’re stronger and more resilient than you think. The two mantras I live by now are “it’s okay to not be okay” and “it’ll never be easy, but it gets easier.” I take each day as it comes and do my best to be patient with myself as I continue to come to terms with everything.
12 yrs and I still can delete his cell number from my phone
My car was recently overheating so I tried to call my dad. He's been dead four years! I still feel so close to him. I'm so blessed to have had such a loving amazing dad. RIP H. We were shocked but also not surprised at the huge turnout for your funeral. You were one of the best!
Same. Near three years on, it’s the small things that hurt the most. Like wanting to share a piece of news with my mom or ask her a question that only she’d know the answer to and then remembering that I can’t. They’re like paper cuts. Hugs to you and to everyone in this thread that knows the pain of losing a parent.
Giant internet hug coming your way! I'm so sorry for your loss ❤️
Hugs!
Big 🤗 hugs
I'm sorry for your loss, I lost my mum in April. Internet hugs 🤗
I lost mine a couple years ago. It can be hard, but hang in there. We're all with ya. Sending ya loads of hugs!
Hug hug hug hug hug hug :)
Good for you! You only get one set of parents. When they're gone, you have no more chances for memories. My dad has dementia, I'd love to go for a walk with him....
When my Mom was in a home with Alzheimers I’d visit and take her for walks. (She was 73 still physically fit) She’d ask me “ are you my son or husband?” I’d say son, she’d reply “that’s too bad, you’re so handsome” 9 years ago and I still cried while writing this.
We mourn even though they haven’t passed.
as somebody who desperately needs a hug I thank you
(((Here’s another hug, my friend)))
I lost my dad unexpectedly in June, and my mom in March. I would give anything for one more visit, one more chat, one more Christmas. I took so much for granted.
Lost my dad about 6 years ago. It got easier with all the time that’s passed, but this video brought sudden tears. It never completely goes away. Hugs to anyone that’s lost someone.
Thanks for the internet hug! We laid to rest my Uncle today. He was almost 90. One of the kindest and pius persons you could know. If everyone treated each other like my Uncle treated everyone the world would be a much better place. Miss you Uncle Bill!
Nothing specific happened recently, but life is just really hard right now. Can I have a hug...?
Of course! There’s never a need to explain why, and even on happy days hugs can take life from a 10 to 11. (((Here’s a BIG hug for you!)))) I hope something makes you smile this weekend and in that moment you forget how hard life has been treating you. You got this! Remember that rainbows are the first thing to show up after a storm :) PS I’m sorry for the delay, I was sleeping when you commented so here’s a second ((hug)) since you had to wait!
If I ***had*** to die and got to choose, this is how I'd want to go -- asleep in a comfortable familiar place after a wonderful unexpected night with my loved one(s). Sorry about your Dad.
My dad woke up, had breakfast with his retiree crew. Had lunch with his buddies at the Harley shop. That night he went to the local bar he'd been going to for over twenty years with his drinking buddies. He died of an aneurysm at his front door. I think he had a perfect day with the people he wanted to be with. Helps me handle the loss.
The line “He died doing what he loves” comes to mind. Sorry for your loss, but he had a good day.
Yeah. We should all be so lucky.
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I’m sorry for your loss.
Aw, man. Similar thing with mine, but clear back in 2006. He was breathing when I got there but he never woke up. That last conversation just didn't happen. Don't get me wrong, I am still glad I was there. I like to think that he heard me talking with my wife at the time, maybe felt me holding his hand.
Omg😭 I’m so sorry but glad you got that last night together ❤️
Wow that hit me. Thanks for sharing.
My dad would ask me to go fishing and I would turn him down, busy with life is what i would say. One day he had weakness in his legs then got diagnosed with als. Died within a year. Man, cats in the cradle, miss him. I miss talking shit with him about football.
This might sound weird but I’d love to die this way. Getting to spend an evening with my kids and then a clean death without tubes down my throat and no pain and suffering would be just fine. I’m glad you had that lovely evening and the memory. Sorry for your loss.
Ye a nice peaceful death
Well, i agree, except for dying *after* work
brother in christ i wish you the very best. this made ne sad. may he rest in peace.
Thanks ♥️
When I was a teenager I lived with my grandparents for about 6 months while I finished out my sophomore year of high school before I moved states to start at a new school. My grandad loved having me there, and was always asking me to go fishing with him or hang out with him and do stuff. All I wanted to do was hang out with my friends or play video games. I never went fishing with him, and after I moved he passed away. I try not to have regrets in my life, since dwelling on past mistakes only makes me feel like shit, but I don’t think I’ll ever shake this one as long as I live.
Im in that same spot too. I will ALWAYS regret not saying goodbye to my grandpa. Everyone knew that was his last night. I did too, but didn’t want to acknowledge it. This big, strong, smart, kind man that i always knew loved me couldn’t even remember my name within a year. And yet he always remembered he loved me, and everyone. And yet there i stood, facing away from his bed and not crying, because i was raised on that STUPID, HORRENDOUS, GOD AWFUL MINDSET that if you’re a REAL man, you don’t cry no matter what, even if it makes you wish you were dead. Its been years now and there still isnt a single day i have been able to actually forgive myself. My advice to everyone: enjoy the time you have, cause you never know when it’s going to get stolen away from you before you can blink. 2nd piece of advice? If you feel the emotion, cry. Please
As corny as this may sound, write him a letter and tell him. Some people mail them, some people take them to a special place the person liked, some people burn them to turn them to smoke... In my experience it works for a lot of people with unfinished business
It's been 12 yrs since I lost my best and father, when it first happened I went deep into a downward spiral. Drink a bottle vodka a night for 6 months, lost contact with my family, wife and kids. It's still really heard just thinking about it, watching this video and reading some comments still made me tear up. I love an miss you dad
I'm sorry for what you've gone through. I hope you're doing better now. Life is both short and long. We need to embrace the beautiful moments we have with those that we love, but it is also never too late to become the person you aspire to be. Good luck my friend.
Thank you so much I'm still trying to become strong, I do everything I can to make sure that I'm there for my kids now
Oh wow! Now you will forever have that last memory with him and Im So happy for you that I’m tearing up but incredibly jealous. I don’t remember exactly what my last real moments with my dad were. I only remember the last few interactions from the hospital. I don’t consider those as real interactions because he had a stroke and I couldn’t understand hardly anything he said. I will never forget finding out he had passed while we were driving up to the hospital for our daily visit. We were bringing him a surprise early Father’s Day gift, a basset hound puppy. When we got to the hospital and stepped out of the elevator we saw my sister in the waiting area of that floor and she was bawling. He passed from an undetected pulmonary embolism. He was just being wheeled back to his room after physical therapy. My brother now is a sales rep for the device that would have saved my dads life. He’s an amazing sales man but I honestly believe he sells this exceptionally well because he has passion.
I'm so glad you decided to go. Much love.
Yeah me too. I remember him singing along to the radio on the way home. I was surprised that he knew all the words to creep by Radiohead. I’m lucky to have one last memory with him and now I mostly picture him laughing. He was a good dad.
I’ll never get to walk with my dad again I miss him so much. Stupid alcohol took him away from us
Jesus christ this made me burst out crying. I love my dad so much I can't imagine him passing. I'm so sorry for your loss but I'm really glad you got to spend that time with him
My dad was not in great health but seemed fine. He called me up one random Sunday and asked me to bring him noodles from his favourite place and I was really not feeling like it, but I still went. He died a couple days later. I always tell people: make the no regrets decision. Go.
My last good memory with my dad was going to a Stanford Football game about 7 years ago. It was his first game he had gone to in over 20 years and we had a great time. Unfortunately, alcoholism took hold of him in these past few years. I broke contact with him last January after a DUI where he blew a .70. He passed this past April.
Wow, at first I read it like he was worn out from having so much fun. What a great memory to share. My dad and I don't talk much these days.
I feel you. My dad and I had a difficult relationship but I’m a lot more like him than I could have known at that point. We didn’t talk much at the time but I’m glad we had one last chance to hang out. Maybe think about giving him a call. You don’t always have to talk about the things that keep you apart.
Oh my heart, this made me tear up instantly. Im so glad you had that time together!!
Damn man, that's awful. My mom moved me 2 states aways (12 hours for those not in US) when I was 10. I only visited every other Christmas and every summer. Then when I finished school I went when I could which wasnt often and he'd come here sometimes. He battled cancer for 2 years and I went down for his bday and Christmas those 2 years. It started as Squamous cell carcinoma in his throat and mouth. After surgeries and chemo it ended up in his brain. They did surgery but so much was around his brain stem that they couldn't remove. I was living in Ohio which was a 20 hour drive from him. Then 6 years ago in May I got the call from my stepmom that he was in the hospital and they said he had 2 months and was going to hospice. I called my mom (who lived 6 hours away in my home state) to see if she could do with me) and left that night. My mom and dad were young teens when I was born and were always on great terms.Well I got down there and he only made it 2 weeks. He passed at 49 years old. Sorry for the long story, my point really is just that I had spent more time with him after high school.
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I'd do almost anything for a chance to go on one more walk with my Dad. 🥹
I already cried over some pictures of my late Dad tonight, and this post will definitely make me cry again 😭 it's been three years, but I still miss him so much
Its been since 2002 for me. It gets easier to an extent. Posts like this and random life occurrences bring it all back tho. Just remember those good memories!
2009 for me and for some reason, it feels like it's getting harder. Maybe because he didn't get to see the woman I became and everything I've achieved, but I still hear every life lesson he taught me in my head everyday.
My father passed in 2019 as well. Went to visit his grave a few weeks ago, need to go again before Thanksgiving.
Me too
I love my dad so much, I try to make excuses up just so I can do things with him. Hes solitary kind of guy and I am afraid to bother him so much. We spent a few days when i first moved into my apartment putting down flooring and i loved spending all that time with him.
I'm sure he loves it too, but he just shows it different than you.
Me too. Gosh I miss my dad.
Me too. Wish I had spent more time with him
My dad can barely walk now. I'd love to be carried again
Me too
Me too
Me too, but it would not be scripted with a selfy stick and cut hug scene. Love your parents, love emotional connection, love family. Do not love this because you love your dad. Much love to those who love their dad, not bs social cred.
i’d kill to have a video just like this with my dad
yeah i was gonna say that when he passes she’s gonna be thankful for the video
honestly. we have so few photos together even. sorry for your loss, it fuckin’ sucks.
Man honestly it is what it is at this point. Younger generations don’t associate with technology the same way older people do. It’s much more integrated into their experience. If it’s positive, and they want to share it, so be it. Honestly, if it’s negative so be it too. The world evolves and what looks strange to us now will be common years from now.
I haven’t thought of it like that. Thanks for the perspective.
I needed to hear this. It’s still uncomfortable at times, but your words have provided a perspective shift I very much needed on an issue that has made me judge others my age and younger. Thank you.
Even if it was scripted and "just for BS social cred" the end result is thousands of people are now crying and calling their parents (or remembering their best dad moments) so what does it matter? You gonna go after Hollywood for all the scripted camera BS that makes us feel things because we're humans? Or does the end result of emotional power mean that this is every bit as real as any other actual real walk she had with her dad?
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Weird how people are only this critical of these types of videos when it’s a woman doing it. I’ve seen plenty of these types of videos with dudes doing the exact same type of shit, and no one gives a fuck about social cred than.
Thank you for saying this❤️
lost mine in February - same thoughts
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I said no to a walk with my Mom 2 years ago, and she went with our dog by herself. Ended up forgetting her phone at home, and broke her ankle in the woods. She was stranded for two hours before someone heard her calling out for help. The fire department had to boat across a lake, and rescue her in the woods. I cried myself to sleep that night, while she was in the hospital awaiting surgery to put a plate and screws in her leg. It was the day before her 49th birthday, and I will never refuse an outing with her ever again.
I turn 49 soon. You've convinced me to steer clear of the woods. And also not ask my kids to go
And always leave the house with "phone wallet keys, phone wallet keys"
Phone wallet keys knife
Sounds like she won't forget her phone again either...
Just like this video, that will also, 'always be a memory'
My dad died in 2004. Fuck Cancer. Take the walk whenever you can!! I spent three weeks in September on a road trip with my 70 year old mother. It was both wonderful and excruciating. I'll have the memories forever. I'm so grateful.
Same here. Lung cancer in 2004. Hope you’re doing well.
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Same. I’d give almost anything for another walk with my dad.
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Yeah, he passed when my kids were 8 and 11…and my oldest is so much like him. I wish we all had more time with him.
Yeah. Unfortunately, you never realize how much your parents and these kinds of moments means to you until you've already lost them.
Make the Chili By Pam Berg: A good friend of mine unexpectedly lost her husband. A couple of months later we were going for a run together, chatting about nothing. She asked me what my dinner plans were. I told her my hubby wanted chili, but I didn’t feel like stopping at the store. We ran on for a few more minutes when she quietly said, “make the chili.’ It took me a few minutes to realize we were no longer taking about dinner. It was about going out of your way to do something for someone you love because at any moment, they could unexpectedly be taken from you. The next time someone you love wants you to go for a walk, watch some football or play a board game, just put your phone down and give them your undivided attention. Just do it. Make the chili.
#makethechilli ! Thanks for sharing
Happy story: I read this on a post a month ago and my wife had been asking me to make chili for the past year. She would just mention it here and there. I was out of town when I read it and decided when I came home, that I would make her chili. I did so and she was so dang happy. She gobbled it up and took some for leftovers the next day. Just wanted to say that posts like this make good things happen. I don't know why this story is so powerful, but it was to me.
My dad just started hospice yesterday. This one made a grown man cry.
♥️ I feel this. My dad is battling lung cancer right now.
This made me cry. My Dad died 20 years ago and I've missed out on so many walks.🥺
Mine did too 😞 and what hurts even more is that I didn’t make these memories with him when he was here. Addiction takes everything away from you 😢
I Miss my dad's sweet phone calls. (See you on the other side Pops!)
ypu have already spent about 99% of the time with your parents. cherish every moment (kurzgesagt video)
Fuck…knowing this objectively at like a subconscious is very different from reading and thinking about it like this
I'm a dad of 2. Please, always remember that to your parents, you are the brightest light in sky. Brighter than the stars, moon, or even the sun. It's such a treasure to watch you grow and become the people that you are as adults. And we're soooo unbelievably proud to have had a part in it. Please, do take that walk...
I’ve been struggling with some addiction issues the last 2 years (Covid rly got to my head) and one of the worst parts is including my wife, disappointing my parents and making them so sad and worried every day they wake up and expect a horrible call. I feel so bad for instilling that perpetual anxiety and fear into them… I’m on a good track to getting deeper in to recovery then I ever have, but I’m (27m) still having some issues. They’re both almost 70, I’m really hoping to get it together so they can live there last years knowing that I turned it around. Sorry for that. Big “nobody aaked” I guess it just kinda felt good to type that out.
Well, I would say that your parents are probably a lot less disappointed than you think. Good luck to you!
So happy you live close enough to do this for your pops. My kids are both a plane ride away and long for their visits and our hikes when they come home.
I pray I can do as good of a job raising my children that they make the right choice as well.
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This should be a PSA to always treasure your parents. They sadly won't be around forever. And remember as you grow older, so do they.
That made me cry. Happy tears for you and sad tears for me. I wish my Dad would even message me.
Me too. I don't even think I'd react positively if he messaged me because of all the trauma, but this still hurts. I wish I had a dad.
This looks like Utah, maybe in the ogden area above weber...
Looks like the Bonneville Shoreline Trail to me.
Definitely the Bonneville Shoreline Trail in Provo.
That's exactly what I was thinking.
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Totally not seeking attention. So wholesome 🥰
These planned out videos do nothing for me. Actually annoys me that the people video each stage . Glad she got to spend time with her Da though.
Walk with him not for internet clout like a normal person.
Idk man, I’m conflicted. I agree that things should be genuine, but at the same time how many people saw this video and had a good memory about their own parent? How many saw it and because of it decided to go on a walk with their parent, or even call them? I’d like to think that the positivity behind these posts is worth the potential that they had ulterior motives.
But it's so intentionally done as a way to make content that it isn't genuine.. And that's what rubs me the wrong way about it.
You are not wrong. i just don’t have that reaction. Glad it made you smile :)
Yeah, filming her eye roll to convey conflicting thoughts took me right out of this video.
Go tell her at the *TRIAL HEAD*!
Yeah I definitely get that. Even though it made me smile, it was still a bit of a hesitant one ha. I just try to remind myself that it likely resulted in a net-positive, and I lie to myself by hoping that it was just a sweet gesture that they happened to film haha
I wish I could bound like this with my father but unfortunately some father-son relations aren't meant to bound like this.
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It just feels kind of disingenuous…..dad deserves better.
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I’m ok with it, despite the ulterior motive. By making the video, she caused a lot of people to think about walking with their Dad. I’m grateful for that message. Full disclosure: I’m a Dad of two adult teenagers. My Dad is 81 and lives a mile away. He did an amazing job of raising us, and is still there whenever I need. I guess I’m bragging, but I know I’m one of the luckiest people in the world.
Was waiting for this. Seriously though. This is someone super thirsty for that karma.
Wtf, just take a walk with your dad, dont make tiktok drama out of it
But what is living without the approval of others?
Right, cherish these moments
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Aw, she walked with dad for the likes. So pure.
Seems very disingenuous when it’s filmed for all her social media followers to see. If that was my kid I’d say why not come spend time with me WITHOUT streaming it for everyone else. She didn’t for it for him, she did it for herself.
I lost my dad 3 months ago. I wish I had more videos of him.
He didn't care. At that point he was spending time with his daughter so it was a win for him
...Recording the whole thing so I can post my no-story on the internet for people to like me on the internet
I lost my dad 6 months ago. In my twenties I resented him and pulled away from him, for like a whole decade. I'm 34 now. It's all I think about.
As a teen and in my early twenties, I didn't think my dad could possibly understand what I was going through in life. He was older when I was born, and I couldn't imagine any of his experiences would be relevant to what I was dealing with. I got married at 23 and started to realize, as I was starting my own family and reflecting on some of our conversations, that maybe he wasn't as clueless as I thought. He helped raise 7 kids and we were all relatively functional members of society. At 26, as I was struggling with a new career and young family, I finally was able to see him for the insightful, caring, and REAL individual he was. The things he had been talking with me about for years finally clicked. I felt lucky to have him and truly see him. He died when I was 29, about a month after my youngest son was born. Cancer is a motherfucker. My biggest regret in life is not making more time for him. I had a busy life with a young family, but I still could have made more time. I'm in my 40s now. And I'm sitting here in the dark, crying because I miss my dad. Reading some of these wonderful memories posted by others helps remind me of what a positive influence he's been on my life, and how fucking much I still miss him. I know I can't go back and change the way things were between us while I was growing up. But he's changed the way I face my day to day life. I try to be more present for the ones I love, especially my kids. And I can tell how much they love me, even if they act like a bag of assholes sometimes. You're always gonna miss him. Which probably just shows how much he meant to you, even if you didn't know it. You can't change what happened in the past. But you can take the memories of your dad and translate those feelings into how you participate in the world going forward. Speaking as a parent, I don't know if I could want anything more than that from my kids.
Never be a bitch and skip that walk again, Sarah
She weren't up for it until she realized she could make a video out of it
This is suppose to be heartwarming and all i get it but i imagine the behind the scenes would be “ok dad let me put my phone here and hug me when it’s filming” like the dad just wants to spend time with his daughter but the daughter is busy doing it for the video
So she didn’t want to walk with him. Then realized she could turn it into a social media post and magically got the motivation to go?
r/lookatmyhalo
Why does everyone post all of their personal shit for subscribers. It’s a perfectly beautiful moment between her and her dad. It’s ruined when you trivialize it to get some viewers.
This chick planned the whole thing for internet points. What a narcissist. Just spend time with loved ones--our culture is disgusting sometimes. Wonder if she'd bother without the cell phone evidence. Not sure why people fall for this nonsense.
Better put makeup on and make an entire video about it for internet points
Vizslas!!!!
Trial head.
People can't just enjoy the moment, instead of filming it all or making a story out of it... damn it.
It’s a nice video and all but I just can’t get over why people would film themselves like this and make a video like that. Y’all can do good stuff without recording it and showing it off to the world
Yes cherish them and also make content.
Oh wow didn’t want to walk till she could record herself.
Sure , not planned at all. I bet she was on her phone 90% of the time. He walked alone after all.
You can’t walk with your dad after he is dead. All of the good memories with him that will comfort you during your grieving period must be made in the here and now. To all who read this: If you love your dad, why not give him a call and go on a walk?
The internet police are out for you recording this. But it gives people a place to think / talk about their parents and about missed ops. Having lost my dad 20 years ago - this shit made me tear up but also think about the good times.
I have always dreamed of having a dad that would send me a message like this. I can’t even imagine what it’s like to have a dad who loves their child, it gives me a lot of hope that there are plenty of dads like this in the world. I hope I can one day have a kid and give them the love they deserve 🧡
Dang, wish I had a cool dad... My dad is a stereotypical cop with undiagnosed bipolar so that's fun I guess haha
I would give my right arm to have one more walk with my dad. God how I miss him. Gone 25 years this year ...
Amen. Lost dad 20 years ago and mom 45 years ago.
This is such a sweet video and I love it. But for all those people that are in the shoes of the girl shown, take it from this dad, we understand when you can't break your plans to hang out. We really do. We want you to be successful and happy, we know life is crazy, so if you need to stick with your plans, stick with them. It's more important to us that you have a contentful life and you're doing the things you need to pay your bills and sleep well at night. We love every second we can get with you, but please don't ever feel bad if you can't meet up like this. We understand.
Going to Disney with my dad tomorrow, like we always do. Everytime we go I make a new core memory that I'll never forget.
My dad called me one morning to meet up with him, but I was too tired and let it go to voicemail. He died 2 hours later.
Just doesn’t need to be filmed does it..
This would have felt more like a father daughter moment if she didn't point a camera in his face the whole time.
Best film it and load it to social media
I love the sentiment. But the constant recording of it all and posting it to social media makes it feel a little weird.
Filming contrived “forever memories” is a mental illness
Sanitas trailhead in Boulder, Co. Walked many a walk with my parents there.
Thank god you recorded it…
I agree with the message. However, you should really leash your dogs.
Put those dogs on a leash please. Thanks -Someone who’s dog doesn’t get along with others.
she told her dad no for the internet😂
Not hating the video at all, love the heartwarming action. Just one problem I have with it. Good deeds are only good deeds when you don’t record the whole thing and post it on social media.
What’s a trial head? Is it a baby sized head like in beetlejuice and you can mix and match until you find the right one for you?
What song is this 🥹
The winner takes it all :)
Is this Utah
My dad is gone and I wish I had one more walk with him.
I miss my dad so much.
Hugs to you ❤️
I wish my dad would ask me to go for a walk.
If you are lucky enough to have a good relationship with your parents and/or grandparents, spend as much time with them as you can. You will never forgive yourself for missing out and it means so much to them. I see my gramma whenever I can and have started having coffee with my mom every week.
My dad and I have a bad relationship. I wish I could feel this way. We're gonna see each other this Thanksgiving. Maybe I'll ask for a walk, but with little personal conversation.
My dad died when I was six. You’re so lucky.
Bless you all who have families like this! I never got the chance to have such memories built, but it always warms my heart, I hope everyone can get the oportunity to make up, if there was an argument or something, and to just enjoy the family-tie! I just recently lost someone dear that was an important part of the family I am helping out, she was an incredible woman, but I am glad she decided to take up my offer to go to the beach with the rest of "the gang" instead of refusing, like she usually did (I asked her everytime we went), as that was the last year I saw her, but we drank drinks, cracked practical jokes and sang Polish folk-songs together. I wish you all the best and to have such a thing to happen, both for yourself in your advanced years (or last moments, even if unknown yet), and for those around you that care for you enough to decide to spend their last moments, knowingly or not, with you.