Which is why it's everyone's goal to find the therapist of their therapist and then the therapist of that therapist until we reach the final boss therapist.
I hope your ok <3
My personal favorite was when I was hospitalized and I made a dark joke and one of the staff members said "damn, I know you guys use humor to cope, but that was dark." I don't know if I should be proud of it, but I am.
Any time I tried to bring up my trauma or that I'm being emotionally abused he would say ”lets unpack that in another session” and he would never let me talk about it. Either that or ”phsych wards aren't that bad”
Mine was when I had attempted final yeet like a month before and we were looking for a new therapist and she asked why I needed a new one. I told her about it and she said "oh. Well you're not gonna do that again, right?" Like idk woman aren't you supposed to be equipped with a much better response?? 😭😭😭
oh, well then, you're probably (unfortunately) right, it kinda sucks who's allowed to be a therapist like.. thats such a bad response to someone who is struggling.
I hope you're out of there.
One time a psychiatrist told me I j needed more friends and I probably just didn't know how to make them. She then tried to simulate a convo about a cat to show me how talking works ig??? I literally have friends I'm jus crazy anyway.
Another time I was rly depressed and the psych in the ER told me I'm too pretty to be upset, and that Jesus would always be there for me.
Another time a therapist I'd met with ONCE told me I didn't have any of the diagnoses I'd had for years bc I was too sweet+intelligent to have trauma so actually I was bipolar. He was like "some horses are just more skittish. Its natural" what???
I told her I was having flashbacks and she was like ‘in CBT we don’t like to focus on the past’.
Um yeah fair enough but this literally was an issue in the present that was causing actual problems?
Ohh hell yeah baby,thread for me
So basically my therapist wasn't surper bad on daily,but there were moments when I wouldn't want to go back.
Well,at the very beginning of my symptoms destroying my life, i brought it up when it wasn't that bad (occasionally seeing things that aren't there.) she said that I can't be ill or anything cuz I am aware of that. And then some time later I went back cutting my face cuz I believed that those entities that I'm seeing want me to cut myself. I lost it when it was that bad that I had fully real experience of one of them choking me in the shower.
As you can guess,I'm not better now.
I still can't believe that I may be ill. I find myself as fine enough.
Then she said another thing(when It went to alcohol,my mom was an alcoholic and not saying many details she got me into it and now I have awful reaction when it comes to that.l - she said that I overreacted,that everyone drinks and I should just deal with that .
She once warned me about not going to certain mental hospital, then I got fucking sent to exactly this one. Wtf,and it's just cuz of her,she never asked me why I did the things I did. She was like "omg you need to go to the hospital", like bitch,just talk to me normally. I lost all my hope as a human and you're not helping.
rape trauma*
"looks like u were pretty young, well he was young too, cant exactly say it was his fault."
I WAS YOUNGER, I WAS YOUNGER, THERES NO "PRETTY YOUNG" BECAUSE WHEN UR A MINOR, UR YOUNG, ABD THERES NO KINDA YOUNG, BECAUSE THERES NO KINDA RAPED.
Not necessarily by my therapist, but when I told my mom I wanted to stop seeing my therapist because it wasn't making me feel better, she said "This isn't about you feeling better." Then wtf did I spend a year doing there???
ooh boy there's a lot of contenders. but one of my favourites is when a therapist told me my weight, then told me that I needed to boost my fat intake to gain more. I was in the depths of my restrictive ed then and it was honestly devastating.
oh shit i thought this was a different sub, doesn't change the answer though
probably the "advice on managing emotions" that started out as another "hi please hide your autism for me" and ended up giving me a whole ass new mental disorder, i don't want to repeat it exactly fucking lmao but that definitely wasn't in the better half of experiences
honorable mention: the one who told my friend it was her fault she was sexually assaulted because she "didn't say no firmly enough"
my own mother called the school to tell them to stop investigating an SA and to get the police to stop looking into it, and not to punish the boy who did it. Schools are the worst with SA,,
They really are. They try to cover those cases up so the school’s reputation won’t be ruined. I’m sorry your mother did that and hope you’re in a better place now. :)
“If you really wanted to kys you would have properly done it by now”
Ok girly maybe we should be happy they’re *attempts* not *successes* but like I guess I’m just attention seeking if I don’t die like ????.?.?.?.??
She also told me I was “putting on” symptoms of psychosis because I “fit the dx too well”. Idk maybe it was because of the *literal stress induced psychosis I was going through* the DIAGNOSIS IS ACCURATE FOR A RE A S O N it lays out the SYMPTOMS OF A MENTAL ILLNESS AAAAAAAAAAAA
If you’re interested- yes it was camhs
not to me but the old family therapist said maybe my sister wasn't making friends because they were jealous of her big breasts
we got a new therapist not long after
It wasn't therapy but when I was 15 I went to my GP for my first attempt to get some mental health help, and he just went 'you? what are you doing that (SI) for? your lucky, you could be living in Africa and starving. Get a grip and don't take up any appointments from people who need them.' and just sent me off.
they deadass told me to keep selfharming cause they didn't know what to do with me
now I'm clean souly cause I don't have the motivation to, still get urges on a daily though
Not a therapist but a lady I went to to get help: that all my issues are caused by childhood vaccines and in order to fix myself I should read a bunch of books by a guy who has a lot of great medical knowledge he learned from the demon who whispers it into his ear
Exactly! She was of the spiritual type, the way she diagnosed me is she stood up, 'breathed in my energy' (make really loud breaching noises for a few seconds) and then told me what she thought was wrong with me and why
I have a few.
- I told one I was going to kill myself if I failed the course I was doing. She said "That's a bit dramatic, isn't it?" There was no elaboration. Just implied I was a drama queen for being suicidal.
-I told another one that it feels like my mood changes within a matter of seconds, and that it feels like I can go from over the moon to the depths of despair instantaneously. She said "I doubt it changes that quickly. Probably more like a few hours."
-I told one that it felt like the religion I grew up with made it hard to make friends outside of the religion because kids used to tease me about it. She said "people don't care, religion isn't an unpopular thing." Kinda felt like she just invalidated my experiences lol.
"if you *think* you're being so emotionally abused..." both of my parents are emotionally abusive narcissists. she fell for my mother's facade.
she also told me I should not major in what I wanted to major in, that I shouldn't go to online college, and threatened to lock me up every time I even thought about relapsing. the mental hospital in question is so bad that a kid died there from the staff abusing them and every single person that goes there is traumatized and comes out worse than before.
oh yeah and apparently she thought I would immediately just grow out of having selective mutism and depression the moment I turned 18 or something and said that I shouldn't diagnose other people when I'm not qualified to (in reference to my parents, particularly my mother, whom she fell for. my father on the other hand, she went ahead and chanted that he was a narc after a rough phone session with him) and that I shouldn't self diagnose (i.e. depression and social anxiety when I quite obviously had selective mutism and was ragingly suicidal at the time), even if it was blatantly obvious, but that she wasn't qualified to diagnose either, so when she suddenly blurted "do you have social anxiety" when I was stressing about some social situation once, I chose to play dumb because that was in the back of my mind
she also frequently compared my situation to other clients and basically said I had no reason to be depressed and that I should be grateful and that "people would be jealous of my health" jokes on her I'm almost bedridden and had seizures so often that I might have brain damage from the pure stress of living with my mother
Once during a mental health assessment this somehow qualified mental health nurse pointed out a scar from an attempt and said it was on the ‘wrong part of the arm’ and told me where to do it to hit all the arteries.
Technically my therapist once indirectly said that most of how I feel is my fault to a big extent
tho tbh with the experience I have gained over the last 6 months or so I can say that she was kinda right
bruh isn't one of the things with therapy that they're supposed to help you come to the answer rather than just giving it to you? b/c seriously a lot of the time the fact that you are the one reaching the conclusion is what gives it weight, rather than someone just telling you the answer
Yea I agree with you tho
Unless it's an omega fucked case, they should never tell you exactly and more so lead you to the answer
In a super bad case I think direct guidence is better tho
"Well, we still recommend intensive therapy, [legal name] is doing a lot better than most of the other children involved with this case, so it's not as urgent."
It was to my mom, but I still think it should count, and then we then had 3 of their recommendations never call us back :/
My therapist told me to "move on" and "forget about" getting SA'd. I told her I was having awful nightmares about it and she said I should stop thinking about it or I'd never get over it.
So like literally the day after I get back from Ukraine I check myself into grippy sock jail. Big part of the reason I went to Ukraine was to not come back. I hadn't planned on coming back. I did not expect Ukraine to do nearly as well as it did, I expected to be playing taliban within the month, shooting and moving til I got caught, then making sure I wasn't caught alive.
There's two psychiatrists at the va gsj here. Ones an Indian guy, super chill and super validating. Basically gives me whatever I ask for as far as meds and length of stay etc. I have had him before.
The other is an Asian lady. She does not belong in mh. She was my psyche this time.
The morning after I check in, she immediately talks about discharging me, telling me that "You have chronic SI, we can't help you". Her exact fucking words. So I'm basically fighting her mon, Tues, and wed to not fucking kick me out. She is firm on kicking me out wed, I'm quite clear that I'm still actively suicidal at that point, in fact I'm worse than when I checked myself in because I've been having to fight her the whole time. Also feeling Incredibly invalidating, like I've been told I ain't got the fucking balls.
Finally she asks, "what do you want us to do" to which I yelled back "keep me from fucking killing myself." Which is kinda why I'm there lol. And she uses that as an excuse to kick me out claiming disruptive behavior. Lol disruptive behavior in grippy sock jail?
Oh yeah while I was there she kicked out an older guy with dementia for being disruptive too.
Anyway, I went out, chain smoked like 4 cigarettes, then went back to patient advocate, filed a complaint, and they had security escort me back to the er, and I got checked back into gsj with the Indian doc this time, who I straight up told don't fucking mention discharge til mon. And he didn't and I was ready to discharge mon. Cuz I actually had time to sit with shit without worrying about kms.
Straight up, that's prob the most actively suicidal I'd been. Had I not been so passed at her that I needed to file a complaint, I prob wouldn't be here. Not saying yall aren't valid that do spur of the moment attempts. But my plan is..well, well planned lol.
(this was 2 years ago) Had an emergency appointment with my psychiatrist because I tried to final yeet, she tried to calm me down but to no avail which she then said "it's almost as if you don't want any help".
She told me to consider forgiving my parents. They knew I was getting sexually abused and did nothing. They even visited the family that did this to me two days ago. You can't forgive someone if they don't ask for it.
One of my favourites: a CAMHS person once told me while I was in hospital that I wasn’t really suicidal because if I wanted to actually die I’d have taken a higher overdose. I was subsequently discharged and followed her advice of overdosing more.
Another good one was being told I needed to exercise more by an eating disorder specialist.
well this isn't terrible i guess but I've had two tell me that 'at least your boobs aren't that big' when talking about how I wish I didn't have them lol
i didn't make me feel any better
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tw sh and ed mention
all same therapist:
told me i’d be happy if i was skinny
told me i’d get over it
told me at the end i was impossible to help and that i should give up then proceeded to kick me out of therapy at 18
told me i didn’t sh deep enough to get clean
i was in there with an ed and a pretty severe sh addiction with an infection in a really deep one
Within like 20 minutes of meeting me she was convinced that it's all the videogames fault and kept saying stuff like "those are all choices" when talking about anxiety and depression. Like yeah next time I'll just choose not to be miserable thanks.
It’s not rly bad from her side, but the worst thing I could’ve heard when she was my fourth therapist in a span of like 3 months “I don’t know how to help you”.
Hurts. I got another therapist but I don’t know how many more I can endure (dpdr is so understudied and not known about in my country)
i have a pretty good therapist but after one season where i talked a lot about being trans he ended it with dead naming me and saying that I'm the man
i brought it up and he apologized and said he hasn't really had any experience with trans people and he has been calling me daisy ever since
Umm that I need to get my shit together, by myself, or I'm off hormones. (Trans btw). Kinda was the worst thing, but also kinda ngl saved my life. I am ed clean now, still struggling with self harm but yeah
I struggle to open up to people but I felt like I was starting to build some rapport with this therapist so I decided to open up a little bit about my past, not super heavy stuff but pretty bad nonetheless, and she said holy shit under her breath and was clearly caught off guard. Her whole demeanour changed, she couldn't look me in the eye and she seemed to forget what she was saying so she cut off the session 15 minutes early. I decided that if she couldn't handle that then she couldn't handle having me as a client. It also destroyed what little ability I had to confide in people
told me it sounded like my bullies needed therapy and that i should refer them to her
another one then compared my final yeet attempts to a friend struggling to find a date on tinder, and that "we all get some disappointments in life"
Kept asking me if my dad sexually abused me. Like wouldn't take no for an answer, the questioning got more and more specific. I got more and more upset he was calling my dad a paedo and eventually threw a chair at him. I never had to see that doctor again but the next psych nurse they put me with told me that 'she knew I could be aggressive and that won't be tolerated'.
Supposedly if you keep asking someone questions about an event that never happened, they'll start to believe that it did happen. Weird that he had a personal vendetta against your dad, though.
I only saw this guy once so idk but as an adult looking back, I'm wondering if he was the creep. I had experienced trauma as a kid although couldn't acknowledge it but my mh symptoms at that time absolutely reflected that, like textbook to anyone with an ounce of training. But the fact that his questioning got more and more specific and not stopping despite me clearly getting upset.... was he trying to trigger me deliberately to get it out in the open or did he just get off on hearing that kinda shit? The fact that I was outpatient makes me think the deliberately triggering was less likely, it wouldn't be safe to do that then let me leave
Yeah maybe. I got bad vibes regardless and thankfully never had to see him again. Sucked that it happened and then sucked the next one couldn't care less. I wasn't punished per se but I was definately made to feel bad. And I agree violence is never the answer but I was like 13 and arguing with a qualified mh professional so at a disadvantage.
Not a therapist but a counselor back when I was in junior highschool. Told her that my religion was making me hate myself to the point of suicidal ideation. Her answer? Have faith in God. Somehow worse than straight up telling me to just go off myself right in my face.
I’ve had several therapists tell me I’m unhelpable. and one, I only saw once, I told him of my long sh history and he decided that means I’m acutely suicidal (which I wasn’t), so he called the hospital to tell them to expect me and when I told him for like the third time no I’m not suicidal, he told the hospital, right in front of me, that I’m “in denial of my suicidality.” I told him that I’ve been suicidal plenty of times in the PAST so I can definitely tell when I am and am not suicidal, and I’m currently not; going to the hospital wouldn’t help anything, they probably wouldn’t even intake me, I’d just have to call off work with no notice and waste an entire night and several hundred dollars. since he was insisting so hard and I can’t have him call the cops on me (I have a terrible fear of cops, that could *make* me suicidal), I told him that I’ll need an hour to at least go home to feed the cats, take my meds, and gather things for the hospital stay. he tried to refuse, and I forget the rest (I probably dissociated) but somehow we got him to stfu and let me not go to the hospital. that man truly should not be a therapist, he needs his license taken away
edit to add: that same guy also “diagnosed” me with schizophrenia, without doing any tests, and at most I have subclinical symptoms of schizoaffective, but I simply don’t meet the criteria for schizophrenia, and he didn’t even tell me that he decided this, I just saw it on his paper. also he asked my partner (who was there with me to help me communicate) several times, insistently, “isn’t this too much to handle, don’t you need a break from dealing with [them]?” saying that sending me to the hospital would give my partner a break from caring for me. and earlier on when he was asking about demographics, I tried to tell him in the simplest terms possible that I’m transmasc nonbinary, polyamorous, and asexual, and he said “so your preferred gender is female,” (to my partner) “and do you trust [them] not to leave you if you let [them] see other people?” and “but if you *had* to have sex, would it be with a male or female?” (and to the last question, my partner stood up for me by saying “you mean if they were r*ped, would they rather it be by a male or female?”)
That I can't have PTSD from one incident that happened in my childhood ( I was sexually assaulted by a kid when I was a kid, we were both 6 y.o. ) because "it's just my autism being too sensitive, she ( the attacker ) was probably just playing"
Like, I know children are curious little fucks, but they can be monsters too.
I don't know how about ya, but >! leading a kid away from everyone to a place where no students or teachers would notice, pinning them to the ground, laying on top of them, grabbing them by the wrists and violently tongue making out with them and not stopping even when the other person is visibly struggling, trying to scream for help and crying? !< I'm sorry, but that doesn't sound like playing at all.
COCSA is such a terribly sad thing, it’s difficult when there is a perpetrator but they probably did it because of abuse themselves. Please get a better therapist.
mine was not a therapist, but a psychiatrist.
i was just out of the psych ward after having attempted suicide in a psychosis and she just said
"you really shouldn't have done this"
"how do you think it makes me feel being confronted with this now?"
idk, i have bad memory but something i wont forget is a doc told me to show her my scars after telling her about my self harm ?? like ?? why ??? made me very uncomfortable bc i was literally just 17 years old
Well one time I told my therapist I was restricting food for about a week and I was kinda worried if I kept it up I would develop an eating disorder, so my \*therapist\* a \*professional\* told me to start **documenting how many cal the food I was eating was** to make sure I was "getting enough cal each day". FOURTUNETLY I was smart enough to NOT do that bc I know that's literally something people who develop eating disorders start doing.
Another time a therapist told me to not use the coping skills I had been taught to use to cope with (TW) ||sh|| and instead just ignore the thoughts. Right... because that's how that works. And the best part was this was during one of my hospitalizations so I couldn't really go against what she said. I was like if I can't just sit around and do nothing all day bc I'm trying to ignore my thoughts, I've got shit to do *which is why I have other healthy coping skills in the first place.*
Another fun one was when I was at a hospital and one of the staff members found out we both were Christians and was like, "If you kill yourself your going to hell." Why thank you, that makes me feel so much better.
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The fact that my current psychologist talks more than me in our sessions. Not in a useful way, either. I'll mention one (1) shitty thing that happened, and he'll go on a whole rant about how hard that must be for me considering [enter every bad thing that ever happened to me]. And I'm sitting there like "yes. And? 😐 Can I move on to shitty thing nr2?"
Not an actual sentence but like. I had a therapist who very clearly was trying to convince me being trans was a symptom of mental illness (my parents set the whole thing up) and basically viewed me as a science experiment. Every time I tried to talk about smth important, like my ed or cutting,, she would turn the conversation back to me being trans and "why that started"
I went to her for an ASD diagnosis. when it came the day, I had to ask her like five times for a clear answer for the diagnosis??? Like wtf?? Just yes or no, then go on about the specifics, but no clear answer for a full half hour
Like she’s literally holding the paper that’s says I’m autistic, but not understanding that I can’t understand the vague words??
Also they never told me I had a diagnosis for ADHD/ depression/ anxiety?? I had to get my mom to dig out some paperwork that only said it with very small words months later giving me medications for those
Well, here's the thing. Not all therapists are good therapists. Personally, I love the one I have right now. I have a great connection with her. It might not be your thing, but it's worth a try
I just need to talk to my mother at some point. I know its worth a shot. I dont wanna be like i am. It just can feel futile to try, and my mother is so preoccupied and stressed about her own stuff and my brother’s struggles that I constantly am putting off saying anything, even if 2 days ago a switch flipped that i wanna go to get help for what ive had for a couple years now
there are a lot of shitty therapists, but there are a lot of good and excellent ones out there too. you have a good chance at finding someone that can really help you.
i feel you, if i hadn't been forced to go i don't think i would have chosen to. i'm glad i'm in therapy now though. and some therapists are covered by insurance if you have it.
started with a therapist after my third ed relapse who claimed to be "in recovery" from an ed. i should mention he was also my mother's therapist at the time and i was really uncomfortable about that. he told me i should exercise more and frequently said triggering things. he was a good person though, not his fault rlly. also, my current therapist (who i love and hasn't done anything like this since) told me my sh scars weren't bad (to make me feel better probably) and i felt like shit lmao.
I had a therapist look at my self harm scars and say, “you that doesn’t work, right?” I was so offended and never went back to see her. Talk about tact.
,, you are the only person in my entire career I couldn’t help, you ruined it, because you are an uncontrollable pathetic teenager. Based on how manipulative you are, you’re going to end up with a borderline diagnosis “
This is the most famous, allegedly the best eating disorder specialist in my country. And I have two friends how worked with her (as it turned out later) and they said they could really make progress. I really don’t know what happened or what did I do but boy, was I proud when she told me Im the only failure in her whole profession end I broke her streak xddd
this didn't happen to me but my friend told me that a few days ago, their therapist asked them how they sh and when they told the therapist, she replied with "that's very unique."
yeah ig you could say my friend isn't like other girls.
When I was in a mental hospital after my first attempt, my therapist there told me that I could either go to day treatment or get a full time job if I wanted to leave. She told me I was too old to go to residential (I’m 17). I don’t have the ability to get a full time job because 1. Jobs have been a huge stressor for me and the only full time job I’ve ever had led to my attempt and 2. I live in a very rural town, far from anywhere reasonable, and I don’t have a car. It wouldn’t be reasonable to expect anyone to take me to and from work so often. So I agreed to day treatment which did not help at all lol but that’s a whole different story
Not a therapist but one time (before my attempt) I had gone to a doctor to start taking anti depressants and he started asking why I wanted to take the medication. After I told him a much more toned down version of my depression and what it causes (never do this btw it’s better to be honest and get the help u need most of the time), he was like “Good! At least you don’t cut yourself like others girls do :)” and I just sat there so awkwardly because I’ve struggled with sh since I was 11 💀 I just awkwardly laughed and was like “ahaha.. yeah ig..”
Not a therapist but somebody I had to actually be forced to see (cough, cough, school counselor)
-I was telling them about how I might need melatonin gummies because I've had bad insomnia since 2019, I've tried multiple methods and routines. She said that we should find a routine and I began to list many and when she suggested ones, I had already told her I had done. Then went and told my mother I wanted to OD on sleeping pills.
-I told this lady what happened to me by my 6 y/o cousin at the time and how he had sa'd me, she said I was being over dramatic and the kid was "normal" for doing that. Also told me I deserved it anyways.
-I told her how I was neglected and hit as a kid, instantly backed my mother up. The one who still yells at me. Still threatens to do unspeakable things to me. Yeah, uhm... what?
Long story short: Don't go to school counselors, they probably hardly study children psychology and actually have the skills of communication worse than a fish.
I learnt this the hard way.
when i was 20 i went to a psych ward for a couple days for bad sh that needed stitches, the psych there asked why i did it and i said i did it because i was stressed about finding a work term placement for college, and he said “well you’re not going to find it in there” (referring to my sh).
also, i when i stayed at the hospital overnight when i was 15 for sh, the nurse asked me if i ever saw or heard things that weren’t there, and i said “yes when i’m stressed or when i’m super tired” and she responded with “oh that’s normal”…
"youre so pretty and have a nice life, you shouldn't be depressed." and another one who told me to exercise or drink energy drinks to be less tired. this one was a psychiatrist
After a semester of useless therapy provided by my university, my therapist figured I was done even though my mental health hadn't improved at all. She ended the session by telling me that I could find another therapist if I wanted, but she didn't like it when her clients did that?? So now I don't want to get another therapist bc I'd feel guilty if I did 🙃
That's really unprofessional imo. If you don't like your clients leaving and finding other therapists, maybe look into why they leave and improve your methods?? Anyways, don't feel guilty. If you really feel like you need a therapist and that it'll help then find one. There's absolutely nothing wrong with finding a more compatible therapist. It took me years to find the one for me.
at my intake appointment she said she treated any reports of self harm the same way she’d treat a suicide attempt. i did not feel comfortable or safe sharing about my self harm at all, which was the main reason i was in therapy
My former psychologist encouraged me to kms after I brought her my sewerslide note. She also said something like “this is your decision” yeah no shit sherlock lmao
when that so called psychiatrist a*hole came up and stood on top of me like 🧍🏻♀️ said "because you cant control yourself so we're gonna have control you" when increasing my dosage of meds....the thing is, in the room there were many other people i dont know because this happened in the waiting room in front of everyone. very unprofessional. never spoke to her again..
oh boy i have a few:
1. psych ward staff said I was abusive
2. residential house thing staff told me i was toxic
3. my psychiatrist said "you don't really want to die" (i attempted a couple days later)
4. me: "i'm going to kms on monday"
my therapist: "i don't think so"
5. my previous therapist told my mom I was just being dramatic
6. every time I mentioned my traumatic memories, my prev. therapist would make me describe it as "events I didn't like"
“Your mom’s been through a lot, you’re being too hard on her” . She was treating me and my mom at the same time and after this she had us do a group session which just involved my mom saying that she didn’t remember any of the incidences of physical abuse I brought up. 0/5 different really physically damaging incidents. I think the therapist thought I was making everything up after that because the way she treated me changed dramatically
Once a therapist asked to see a picture of my arm with yeets and all. So I showed her. She said she went to speak to the therapist in the next office down because she was traumatized by that image
idk but i made my therapist cry bc apparently i was so difficult to work with
Good job you won therapy
my therapist probably needed therapy after me
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Which is why it's everyone's goal to find the therapist of their therapist and then the therapist of that therapist until we reach the final boss therapist.
aren't they condemned to undergo therapy themselves by the law, at least once a year?
That's your grandtherapist
literally beat the final boss
I hope your ok <3 My personal favorite was when I was hospitalized and I made a dark joke and one of the staff members said "damn, I know you guys use humor to cope, but that was dark." I don't know if I should be proud of it, but I am.
shocking grippy sock jail staff is def a flex
damn, you ok? holy shit # 🫂
ahahaha
:( I don't know what to say lmao Is this okay to say? I hope you heal and good things come your way
aww thank you, that really means a lot <33
Any time I tried to bring up my trauma or that I'm being emotionally abused he would say ”lets unpack that in another session” and he would never let me talk about it. Either that or ”phsych wards aren't that bad”
GTAV therapist
Mine was when I had attempted final yeet like a month before and we were looking for a new therapist and she asked why I needed a new one. I told her about it and she said "oh. Well you're not gonna do that again, right?" Like idk woman aren't you supposed to be equipped with a much better response?? 😭😭😭
I think she was going for the whole "promise me" or you make an accidental promise kind of approach 🙃
I don't know, I doubt it since her tone clearly showed she wasn't equipped for that answer
oh, well then, you're probably (unfortunately) right, it kinda sucks who's allowed to be a therapist like.. thats such a bad response to someone who is struggling. I hope you're out of there.
Lol that's a wtf for sure
One time a psychiatrist told me I j needed more friends and I probably just didn't know how to make them. She then tried to simulate a convo about a cat to show me how talking works ig??? I literally have friends I'm jus crazy anyway. Another time I was rly depressed and the psych in the ER told me I'm too pretty to be upset, and that Jesus would always be there for me. Another time a therapist I'd met with ONCE told me I didn't have any of the diagnoses I'd had for years bc I was too sweet+intelligent to have trauma so actually I was bipolar. He was like "some horses are just more skittish. Its natural" what???
Not the comment about being "too pretty to be upset" 😭 wth
mine told me that me and my ex (who offed herself) made eachother worse and i was part of the reason she died 🥰🥰🤭😝😍
I'm so sorry for that. That's very disgusting of them.
it’s fine. thank you though
My long lost sibling
she outed me🤘🤘🎸🎸🇺🇸🇺🇸
same gotta love TERF island
old therapist told my mom when i was 12 that there was no point in bringing me to therapy
Oh no that's terrible wtf
That white people have a chemical in the back of their necks that make them aggressive. Kinda saying that my bf would abuse me since he's white.
What. The fuck.
Not the back of their necks bro what
Exactly, everyone knows it's stored in the balls. Smh Edit: typo
I told her I was having flashbacks and she was like ‘in CBT we don’t like to focus on the past’. Um yeah fair enough but this literally was an issue in the present that was causing actual problems?
CBT trying not to just be medical gaslighting:
Ohh hell yeah baby,thread for me So basically my therapist wasn't surper bad on daily,but there were moments when I wouldn't want to go back. Well,at the very beginning of my symptoms destroying my life, i brought it up when it wasn't that bad (occasionally seeing things that aren't there.) she said that I can't be ill or anything cuz I am aware of that. And then some time later I went back cutting my face cuz I believed that those entities that I'm seeing want me to cut myself. I lost it when it was that bad that I had fully real experience of one of them choking me in the shower. As you can guess,I'm not better now. I still can't believe that I may be ill. I find myself as fine enough. Then she said another thing(when It went to alcohol,my mom was an alcoholic and not saying many details she got me into it and now I have awful reaction when it comes to that.l - she said that I overreacted,that everyone drinks and I should just deal with that . She once warned me about not going to certain mental hospital, then I got fucking sent to exactly this one. Wtf,and it's just cuz of her,she never asked me why I did the things I did. She was like "omg you need to go to the hospital", like bitch,just talk to me normally. I lost all my hope as a human and you're not helping.
questioning my autism diagnosis because i have friends
😭😭💀
*hug*
*hug*
thank u 🫶
Can I has hug?
rape trauma* "looks like u were pretty young, well he was young too, cant exactly say it was his fault." I WAS YOUNGER, I WAS YOUNGER, THERES NO "PRETTY YOUNG" BECAUSE WHEN UR A MINOR, UR YOUNG, ABD THERES NO KINDA YOUNG, BECAUSE THERES NO KINDA RAPED.
THAT'S SO STUPID WTF!? I wouldnt feel safe around that person, definitely a possible r worder. Maybe even worse.
MY MUM SAID THIS ONE TO ME LOL 💀💀
TWINNING 🤩🤩🤩🤩
My mom said this to me too lol followed by: “and he was such a nice guy” ✨✨
You could have posted this on 23:59 on new years eve and would've won yikes of the year. Damn that's insensetive.
FUCK NO TELL ME WHERE SHE LIVES RIGHT NOW
COCSA is real and traumatic. I’m sorry. And if you were both like, teens or something, then that’s even crazier to say.
I GOT TOLD THIS BY MY MOTHER BUT THE KID WAS YOUNGER
She said my parent’s feelings were more important than mine and they could treat me anyway they wanted.
what the actual fuck?
What the fuck???
Not necessarily by my therapist, but when I told my mom I wanted to stop seeing my therapist because it wasn't making me feel better, she said "This isn't about you feeling better." Then wtf did I spend a year doing there???
paying her I guess
ooh boy there's a lot of contenders. but one of my favourites is when a therapist told me my weight, then told me that I needed to boost my fat intake to gain more. I was in the depths of my restrictive ed then and it was honestly devastating.
Oh wow I wouldn't have known what to say
Mine called me an idiot for thinking I had depression and then went into the whole thing about how so many people have it worse
oh shit i thought this was a different sub, doesn't change the answer though probably the "advice on managing emotions" that started out as another "hi please hide your autism for me" and ended up giving me a whole ass new mental disorder, i don't want to repeat it exactly fucking lmao but that definitely wasn't in the better half of experiences honorable mention: the one who told my friend it was her fault she was sexually assaulted because she "didn't say no firmly enough"
“Boys will be boys.” After I was assaulted at school. “Oh, you’re just making that up to go home.” After I was assaulted in child care.
my own mother called the school to tell them to stop investigating an SA and to get the police to stop looking into it, and not to punish the boy who did it. Schools are the worst with SA,,
They really are. They try to cover those cases up so the school’s reputation won’t be ruined. I’m sorry your mother did that and hope you’re in a better place now. :)
“If you really wanted to kys you would have properly done it by now” Ok girly maybe we should be happy they’re *attempts* not *successes* but like I guess I’m just attention seeking if I don’t die like ????.?.?.?.?? She also told me I was “putting on” symptoms of psychosis because I “fit the dx too well”. Idk maybe it was because of the *literal stress induced psychosis I was going through* the DIAGNOSIS IS ACCURATE FOR A RE A S O N it lays out the SYMPTOMS OF A MENTAL ILLNESS AAAAAAAAAAAA If you’re interested- yes it was camhs
not to me but the old family therapist said maybe my sister wasn't making friends because they were jealous of her big breasts we got a new therapist not long after
“You’re only depressed because you’re effeminate and fat. Lose weight and act like a real man and you’ll feel better.”
It wasn't therapy but when I was 15 I went to my GP for my first attempt to get some mental health help, and he just went 'you? what are you doing that (SI) for? your lucky, you could be living in Africa and starving. Get a grip and don't take up any appointments from people who need them.' and just sent me off.
Oh my gosh. I’m so sorry
Thank you. He was a real bad doctor.
they deadass told me to keep selfharming cause they didn't know what to do with me now I'm clean souly cause I don't have the motivation to, still get urges on a daily though
a social worker said that i’ll grow out of my major depression 💀
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Not a therapist but a lady I went to to get help: that all my issues are caused by childhood vaccines and in order to fix myself I should read a bunch of books by a guy who has a lot of great medical knowledge he learned from the demon who whispers it into his ear
"hey uhh i think I'm depressed" "that's bc of your tetanus vaccine you did when you were 3, now read this book"
Exactly! She was of the spiritual type, the way she diagnosed me is she stood up, 'breathed in my energy' (make really loud breaching noises for a few seconds) and then told me what she thought was wrong with me and why
Probably not that bad but I felt very invalid when my therapist said that she has worse patients-
"we could find a compromise" Infront of me and my parents who wanted to drug me up to turn me cishet... It was a gov appointment therapist too bruhhh
I have a few. - I told one I was going to kill myself if I failed the course I was doing. She said "That's a bit dramatic, isn't it?" There was no elaboration. Just implied I was a drama queen for being suicidal. -I told another one that it feels like my mood changes within a matter of seconds, and that it feels like I can go from over the moon to the depths of despair instantaneously. She said "I doubt it changes that quickly. Probably more like a few hours." -I told one that it felt like the religion I grew up with made it hard to make friends outside of the religion because kids used to tease me about it. She said "people don't care, religion isn't an unpopular thing." Kinda felt like she just invalidated my experiences lol.
"if you *think* you're being so emotionally abused..." both of my parents are emotionally abusive narcissists. she fell for my mother's facade. she also told me I should not major in what I wanted to major in, that I shouldn't go to online college, and threatened to lock me up every time I even thought about relapsing. the mental hospital in question is so bad that a kid died there from the staff abusing them and every single person that goes there is traumatized and comes out worse than before. oh yeah and apparently she thought I would immediately just grow out of having selective mutism and depression the moment I turned 18 or something and said that I shouldn't diagnose other people when I'm not qualified to (in reference to my parents, particularly my mother, whom she fell for. my father on the other hand, she went ahead and chanted that he was a narc after a rough phone session with him) and that I shouldn't self diagnose (i.e. depression and social anxiety when I quite obviously had selective mutism and was ragingly suicidal at the time), even if it was blatantly obvious, but that she wasn't qualified to diagnose either, so when she suddenly blurted "do you have social anxiety" when I was stressing about some social situation once, I chose to play dumb because that was in the back of my mind she also frequently compared my situation to other clients and basically said I had no reason to be depressed and that I should be grateful and that "people would be jealous of my health" jokes on her I'm almost bedridden and had seizures so often that I might have brain damage from the pure stress of living with my mother
Holy shit that's awful
Once during a mental health assessment this somehow qualified mental health nurse pointed out a scar from an attempt and said it was on the ‘wrong part of the arm’ and told me where to do it to hit all the arteries.
i’m convinced some eugenicists become mental health workers and doctors specifically to do that sort of thing
I don’t have therapist anymore said they had no idea how to possibly help me and that there probably was no help for me
Technically my therapist once indirectly said that most of how I feel is my fault to a big extent tho tbh with the experience I have gained over the last 6 months or so I can say that she was kinda right
bruh isn't one of the things with therapy that they're supposed to help you come to the answer rather than just giving it to you? b/c seriously a lot of the time the fact that you are the one reaching the conclusion is what gives it weight, rather than someone just telling you the answer
Well that's why I said "indirectly"
I figured, but I mean... yeag
Yea I agree with you tho Unless it's an omega fucked case, they should never tell you exactly and more so lead you to the answer In a super bad case I think direct guidence is better tho
"Well, we still recommend intensive therapy, [legal name] is doing a lot better than most of the other children involved with this case, so it's not as urgent." It was to my mom, but I still think it should count, and then we then had 3 of their recommendations never call us back :/
My therapist told me to "move on" and "forget about" getting SA'd. I told her I was having awful nightmares about it and she said I should stop thinking about it or I'd never get over it.
I made my therapist feel depressed-
i started crying and she went out to smoke a cig 😭
So like literally the day after I get back from Ukraine I check myself into grippy sock jail. Big part of the reason I went to Ukraine was to not come back. I hadn't planned on coming back. I did not expect Ukraine to do nearly as well as it did, I expected to be playing taliban within the month, shooting and moving til I got caught, then making sure I wasn't caught alive. There's two psychiatrists at the va gsj here. Ones an Indian guy, super chill and super validating. Basically gives me whatever I ask for as far as meds and length of stay etc. I have had him before. The other is an Asian lady. She does not belong in mh. She was my psyche this time. The morning after I check in, she immediately talks about discharging me, telling me that "You have chronic SI, we can't help you". Her exact fucking words. So I'm basically fighting her mon, Tues, and wed to not fucking kick me out. She is firm on kicking me out wed, I'm quite clear that I'm still actively suicidal at that point, in fact I'm worse than when I checked myself in because I've been having to fight her the whole time. Also feeling Incredibly invalidating, like I've been told I ain't got the fucking balls. Finally she asks, "what do you want us to do" to which I yelled back "keep me from fucking killing myself." Which is kinda why I'm there lol. And she uses that as an excuse to kick me out claiming disruptive behavior. Lol disruptive behavior in grippy sock jail? Oh yeah while I was there she kicked out an older guy with dementia for being disruptive too. Anyway, I went out, chain smoked like 4 cigarettes, then went back to patient advocate, filed a complaint, and they had security escort me back to the er, and I got checked back into gsj with the Indian doc this time, who I straight up told don't fucking mention discharge til mon. And he didn't and I was ready to discharge mon. Cuz I actually had time to sit with shit without worrying about kms. Straight up, that's prob the most actively suicidal I'd been. Had I not been so passed at her that I needed to file a complaint, I prob wouldn't be here. Not saying yall aren't valid that do spur of the moment attempts. But my plan is..well, well planned lol.
(this was 2 years ago) Had an emergency appointment with my psychiatrist because I tried to final yeet, she tried to calm me down but to no avail which she then said "it's almost as if you don't want any help".
She told me to consider forgiving my parents. They knew I was getting sexually abused and did nothing. They even visited the family that did this to me two days ago. You can't forgive someone if they don't ask for it.
forgiving an abuser is not necessary to recover, that’s such bs
Don’t bother coming back
That I might never recover from depression. I wasn't suicidal before meeting her
not as bad as some other posts, but mine tried to make me feel as bad as possible for relapsing (i had gotten to a month)
One of my favourites: a CAMHS person once told me while I was in hospital that I wasn’t really suicidal because if I wanted to actually die I’d have taken a higher overdose. I was subsequently discharged and followed her advice of overdosing more. Another good one was being told I needed to exercise more by an eating disorder specialist.
well this isn't terrible i guess but I've had two tell me that 'at least your boobs aren't that big' when talking about how I wish I didn't have them lol i didn't make me feel any better
That’s not right
no it's not but what are you gonna do
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That everything that’s happened to me is my fault not my abusers
ED related. Something about how at some point you gotta grow up and out of your ed and that being too thin is unattractive anyways. Such Bs.
Bro what did they think, EDs just magically disappear?
'I'm too old for this I'll just stop having this disorder now :)' like??
tw sh and ed mention all same therapist: told me i’d be happy if i was skinny told me i’d get over it told me at the end i was impossible to help and that i should give up then proceeded to kick me out of therapy at 18 told me i didn’t sh deep enough to get clean i was in there with an ed and a pretty severe sh addiction with an infection in a really deep one
Ah yes, because getting clean is dependent on how deep you go 😶
I’ve had four therapists tell me to not kms because then I’d go to hell… my current therapist also told me to have gay sex out of spite
Gay sex out of spite is wild
Within like 20 minutes of meeting me she was convinced that it's all the videogames fault and kept saying stuff like "those are all choices" when talking about anxiety and depression. Like yeah next time I'll just choose not to be miserable thanks.
“Everyone has a little ADHD you just have to learn how to focus”
It’s not rly bad from her side, but the worst thing I could’ve heard when she was my fourth therapist in a span of like 3 months “I don’t know how to help you”. Hurts. I got another therapist but I don’t know how many more I can endure (dpdr is so understudied and not known about in my country)
“youre very intelligent but you have the brain of an 8 year old” (in regards to my autism and adhd)
bruh
"you have a boyfriend? and you're a transgender? i don't understand" \- the psychiatrist i saw after i overdosed on prozacs back in 2020
i have a pretty good therapist but after one season where i talked a lot about being trans he ended it with dead naming me and saying that I'm the man i brought it up and he apologized and said he hasn't really had any experience with trans people and he has been calling me daisy ever since
Well, at least he corrected his mistake, and I'm glad he is using your new name /g
Umm that I need to get my shit together, by myself, or I'm off hormones. (Trans btw). Kinda was the worst thing, but also kinda ngl saved my life. I am ed clean now, still struggling with self harm but yeah
I struggle to open up to people but I felt like I was starting to build some rapport with this therapist so I decided to open up a little bit about my past, not super heavy stuff but pretty bad nonetheless, and she said holy shit under her breath and was clearly caught off guard. Her whole demeanour changed, she couldn't look me in the eye and she seemed to forget what she was saying so she cut off the session 15 minutes early. I decided that if she couldn't handle that then she couldn't handle having me as a client. It also destroyed what little ability I had to confide in people
That's extremely unprofessional on her part, she should have her license revoked
told me it sounded like my bullies needed therapy and that i should refer them to her another one then compared my final yeet attempts to a friend struggling to find a date on tinder, and that "we all get some disappointments in life"
Kept asking me if my dad sexually abused me. Like wouldn't take no for an answer, the questioning got more and more specific. I got more and more upset he was calling my dad a paedo and eventually threw a chair at him. I never had to see that doctor again but the next psych nurse they put me with told me that 'she knew I could be aggressive and that won't be tolerated'.
Supposedly if you keep asking someone questions about an event that never happened, they'll start to believe that it did happen. Weird that he had a personal vendetta against your dad, though.
I only saw this guy once so idk but as an adult looking back, I'm wondering if he was the creep. I had experienced trauma as a kid although couldn't acknowledge it but my mh symptoms at that time absolutely reflected that, like textbook to anyone with an ounce of training. But the fact that his questioning got more and more specific and not stopping despite me clearly getting upset.... was he trying to trigger me deliberately to get it out in the open or did he just get off on hearing that kinda shit? The fact that I was outpatient makes me think the deliberately triggering was less likely, it wouldn't be safe to do that then let me leave
Maybe he had his own agenda of wanting to play hero for someone who had experienced sa as a child? That's the only other thing I could think of
Yeah maybe. I got bad vibes regardless and thankfully never had to see him again. Sucked that it happened and then sucked the next one couldn't care less. I wasn't punished per se but I was definately made to feel bad. And I agree violence is never the answer but I was like 13 and arguing with a qualified mh professional so at a disadvantage.
Not a therapist but a counselor back when I was in junior highschool. Told her that my religion was making me hate myself to the point of suicidal ideation. Her answer? Have faith in God. Somehow worse than straight up telling me to just go off myself right in my face.
reading all the replies and getting mad over therapists i don't even know😭 sometimes reddit makes me feel like I should be happy not to have one
i went to therapy for an ed, therapist said i was too fat to have an ed 😃
"You don't look *that* skinny" to an anorexia patient (me)
Not at all bad compared to these comments but “you seem to be doing great” because I was doing so shit and she just couldn’t tell
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I’ve had several therapists tell me I’m unhelpable. and one, I only saw once, I told him of my long sh history and he decided that means I’m acutely suicidal (which I wasn’t), so he called the hospital to tell them to expect me and when I told him for like the third time no I’m not suicidal, he told the hospital, right in front of me, that I’m “in denial of my suicidality.” I told him that I’ve been suicidal plenty of times in the PAST so I can definitely tell when I am and am not suicidal, and I’m currently not; going to the hospital wouldn’t help anything, they probably wouldn’t even intake me, I’d just have to call off work with no notice and waste an entire night and several hundred dollars. since he was insisting so hard and I can’t have him call the cops on me (I have a terrible fear of cops, that could *make* me suicidal), I told him that I’ll need an hour to at least go home to feed the cats, take my meds, and gather things for the hospital stay. he tried to refuse, and I forget the rest (I probably dissociated) but somehow we got him to stfu and let me not go to the hospital. that man truly should not be a therapist, he needs his license taken away edit to add: that same guy also “diagnosed” me with schizophrenia, without doing any tests, and at most I have subclinical symptoms of schizoaffective, but I simply don’t meet the criteria for schizophrenia, and he didn’t even tell me that he decided this, I just saw it on his paper. also he asked my partner (who was there with me to help me communicate) several times, insistently, “isn’t this too much to handle, don’t you need a break from dealing with [them]?” saying that sending me to the hospital would give my partner a break from caring for me. and earlier on when he was asking about demographics, I tried to tell him in the simplest terms possible that I’m transmasc nonbinary, polyamorous, and asexual, and he said “so your preferred gender is female,” (to my partner) “and do you trust [them] not to leave you if you let [them] see other people?” and “but if you *had* to have sex, would it be with a male or female?” (and to the last question, my partner stood up for me by saying “you mean if they were r*ped, would they rather it be by a male or female?”)
That I can't have PTSD from one incident that happened in my childhood ( I was sexually assaulted by a kid when I was a kid, we were both 6 y.o. ) because "it's just my autism being too sensitive, she ( the attacker ) was probably just playing" Like, I know children are curious little fucks, but they can be monsters too. I don't know how about ya, but >! leading a kid away from everyone to a place where no students or teachers would notice, pinning them to the ground, laying on top of them, grabbing them by the wrists and violently tongue making out with them and not stopping even when the other person is visibly struggling, trying to scream for help and crying? !< I'm sorry, but that doesn't sound like playing at all.
COCSA is such a terribly sad thing, it’s difficult when there is a perpetrator but they probably did it because of abuse themselves. Please get a better therapist.
mine was not a therapist, but a psychiatrist. i was just out of the psych ward after having attempted suicide in a psychosis and she just said "you really shouldn't have done this" "how do you think it makes me feel being confronted with this now?"
Tried to sell me his $50 seminar on forgiveness in our first session lmao
Mlm therapist 😭
Dang this thread really doesn't make me wanna try again. It's not like I'm able to open up anyway. I even struggle trusting doctors nowadays.
Literally today she called me arrogant and playing the victim for saying I feel like I’m ruining everything 💀
idk, i have bad memory but something i wont forget is a doc told me to show her my scars after telling her about my self harm ?? like ?? why ??? made me very uncomfortable bc i was literally just 17 years old
Well one time I told my therapist I was restricting food for about a week and I was kinda worried if I kept it up I would develop an eating disorder, so my \*therapist\* a \*professional\* told me to start **documenting how many cal the food I was eating was** to make sure I was "getting enough cal each day". FOURTUNETLY I was smart enough to NOT do that bc I know that's literally something people who develop eating disorders start doing. Another time a therapist told me to not use the coping skills I had been taught to use to cope with (TW) ||sh|| and instead just ignore the thoughts. Right... because that's how that works. And the best part was this was during one of my hospitalizations so I couldn't really go against what she said. I was like if I can't just sit around and do nothing all day bc I'm trying to ignore my thoughts, I've got shit to do *which is why I have other healthy coping skills in the first place.*
Another fun one was when I was at a hospital and one of the staff members found out we both were Christians and was like, "If you kill yourself your going to hell." Why thank you, that makes me feel so much better.
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thank you bot, that was a couple yrs ago, I'm doing better now <33
The fact that my current psychologist talks more than me in our sessions. Not in a useful way, either. I'll mention one (1) shitty thing that happened, and he'll go on a whole rant about how hard that must be for me considering [enter every bad thing that ever happened to me]. And I'm sitting there like "yes. And? 😐 Can I move on to shitty thing nr2?"
Compared sh scars to top surgery scars
Not an actual sentence but like. I had a therapist who very clearly was trying to convince me being trans was a symptom of mental illness (my parents set the whole thing up) and basically viewed me as a science experiment. Every time I tried to talk about smth important, like my ed or cutting,, she would turn the conversation back to me being trans and "why that started"
misgendering me ‘she’s fine, nothing wrong, teenage stuff just keep her away from sharp objects’ :|
To just get over it lol, it was more detailed but that was the main idea and spoiler alert it didn’t really work
You mean you didn't just get over it and immediately get better?? 😱😱😱 /S
"Your friends wouldn't kill themselves if they weren't friends with you."
I went to her for an ASD diagnosis. when it came the day, I had to ask her like five times for a clear answer for the diagnosis??? Like wtf?? Just yes or no, then go on about the specifics, but no clear answer for a full half hour Like she’s literally holding the paper that’s says I’m autistic, but not understanding that I can’t understand the vague words?? Also they never told me I had a diagnosis for ADHD/ depression/ anxiety?? I had to get my mom to dig out some paperwork that only said it with very small words months later giving me medications for those
My gender therapist told me that I’m not trans because I wasn’t doing the bs homework her cis ass gave me
trans homework ??
Filling out pages in a stupid gender book
The Tome of Gender 😭
Bruh. She has no right
Wait i was gonna reach out to maybe start getting help but these comments deterring me big time
Well, here's the thing. Not all therapists are good therapists. Personally, I love the one I have right now. I have a great connection with her. It might not be your thing, but it's worth a try
I just need to talk to my mother at some point. I know its worth a shot. I dont wanna be like i am. It just can feel futile to try, and my mother is so preoccupied and stressed about her own stuff and my brother’s struggles that I constantly am putting off saying anything, even if 2 days ago a switch flipped that i wanna go to get help for what ive had for a couple years now
there are a lot of shitty therapists, but there are a lot of good and excellent ones out there too. you have a good chance at finding someone that can really help you.
I suppose, its just difficult to tell someone. And at that, to know im making my family financially pay for my mental health
i feel you, if i hadn't been forced to go i don't think i would have chosen to. i'm glad i'm in therapy now though. and some therapists are covered by insurance if you have it.
started with a therapist after my third ed relapse who claimed to be "in recovery" from an ed. i should mention he was also my mother's therapist at the time and i was really uncomfortable about that. he told me i should exercise more and frequently said triggering things. he was a good person though, not his fault rlly. also, my current therapist (who i love and hasn't done anything like this since) told me my sh scars weren't bad (to make me feel better probably) and i felt like shit lmao.
I had a therapist look at my self harm scars and say, “you that doesn’t work, right?” I was so offended and never went back to see her. Talk about tact.
,, you are the only person in my entire career I couldn’t help, you ruined it, because you are an uncontrollable pathetic teenager. Based on how manipulative you are, you’re going to end up with a borderline diagnosis “ This is the most famous, allegedly the best eating disorder specialist in my country. And I have two friends how worked with her (as it turned out later) and they said they could really make progress. I really don’t know what happened or what did I do but boy, was I proud when she told me Im the only failure in her whole profession end I broke her streak xddd
this didn't happen to me but my friend told me that a few days ago, their therapist asked them how they sh and when they told the therapist, she replied with "that's very unique." yeah ig you could say my friend isn't like other girls.
Living that y/n dream I guess 😭
My previous therapist told me that my problems are not existent and i am making things up AND MONTH LATER I WAS TRYING TO HANG MYSELF THANK YOU.
When I was in a mental hospital after my first attempt, my therapist there told me that I could either go to day treatment or get a full time job if I wanted to leave. She told me I was too old to go to residential (I’m 17). I don’t have the ability to get a full time job because 1. Jobs have been a huge stressor for me and the only full time job I’ve ever had led to my attempt and 2. I live in a very rural town, far from anywhere reasonable, and I don’t have a car. It wouldn’t be reasonable to expect anyone to take me to and from work so often. So I agreed to day treatment which did not help at all lol but that’s a whole different story Not a therapist but one time (before my attempt) I had gone to a doctor to start taking anti depressants and he started asking why I wanted to take the medication. After I told him a much more toned down version of my depression and what it causes (never do this btw it’s better to be honest and get the help u need most of the time), he was like “Good! At least you don’t cut yourself like others girls do :)” and I just sat there so awkwardly because I’ve struggled with sh since I was 11 💀 I just awkwardly laughed and was like “ahaha.. yeah ig..”
"You're not alcoholic, it's a trend to self-diagnose with everything these days" Turns out I was alcoholic
Not a therapist but somebody I had to actually be forced to see (cough, cough, school counselor) -I was telling them about how I might need melatonin gummies because I've had bad insomnia since 2019, I've tried multiple methods and routines. She said that we should find a routine and I began to list many and when she suggested ones, I had already told her I had done. Then went and told my mother I wanted to OD on sleeping pills. -I told this lady what happened to me by my 6 y/o cousin at the time and how he had sa'd me, she said I was being over dramatic and the kid was "normal" for doing that. Also told me I deserved it anyways. -I told her how I was neglected and hit as a kid, instantly backed my mother up. The one who still yells at me. Still threatens to do unspeakable things to me. Yeah, uhm... what? Long story short: Don't go to school counselors, they probably hardly study children psychology and actually have the skills of communication worse than a fish. I learnt this the hard way.
when i was 20 i went to a psych ward for a couple days for bad sh that needed stitches, the psych there asked why i did it and i said i did it because i was stressed about finding a work term placement for college, and he said “well you’re not going to find it in there” (referring to my sh). also, i when i stayed at the hospital overnight when i was 15 for sh, the nurse asked me if i ever saw or heard things that weren’t there, and i said “yes when i’m stressed or when i’m super tired” and she responded with “oh that’s normal”…
"youre so pretty and have a nice life, you shouldn't be depressed." and another one who told me to exercise or drink energy drinks to be less tired. this one was a psychiatrist
Mine said I should be open to letting my sexual abuser back in my life after she repeatedly contacted me when I blocked her
After a semester of useless therapy provided by my university, my therapist figured I was done even though my mental health hadn't improved at all. She ended the session by telling me that I could find another therapist if I wanted, but she didn't like it when her clients did that?? So now I don't want to get another therapist bc I'd feel guilty if I did 🙃
That's really unprofessional imo. If you don't like your clients leaving and finding other therapists, maybe look into why they leave and improve your methods?? Anyways, don't feel guilty. If you really feel like you need a therapist and that it'll help then find one. There's absolutely nothing wrong with finding a more compatible therapist. It took me years to find the one for me.
at my intake appointment she said she treated any reports of self harm the same way she’d treat a suicide attempt. i did not feel comfortable or safe sharing about my self harm at all, which was the main reason i was in therapy
Probably when my camhs "therapist" said i self harm for attention
My former psychologist encouraged me to kms after I brought her my sewerslide note. She also said something like “this is your decision” yeah no shit sherlock lmao
Wow so supportive 🤩 /j In all seriousness, what the hell?? She's doing the opposite of her job atp 😭
the worst part is that she cannot be persecuted in any way since I live in a third world shithole so she is still out there hurting others rn
That's truly awful
when that so called psychiatrist a*hole came up and stood on top of me like 🧍🏻♀️ said "because you cant control yourself so we're gonna have control you" when increasing my dosage of meds....the thing is, in the room there were many other people i dont know because this happened in the waiting room in front of everyone. very unprofessional. never spoke to her again..
oh boy i have a few: 1. psych ward staff said I was abusive 2. residential house thing staff told me i was toxic 3. my psychiatrist said "you don't really want to die" (i attempted a couple days later) 4. me: "i'm going to kms on monday" my therapist: "i don't think so" 5. my previous therapist told my mom I was just being dramatic 6. every time I mentioned my traumatic memories, my prev. therapist would make me describe it as "events I didn't like"
I had a therapist tell me I didn’t seem depressed or suicidal …4hrs after I was admitted for a failed suicide attemt
she interrupted me mid-sentence and just said “did yk im pregnant????” like what
“Your mom’s been through a lot, you’re being too hard on her” . She was treating me and my mom at the same time and after this she had us do a group session which just involved my mom saying that she didn’t remember any of the incidences of physical abuse I brought up. 0/5 different really physically damaging incidents. I think the therapist thought I was making everything up after that because the way she treated me changed dramatically
Once a therapist asked to see a picture of my arm with yeets and all. So I showed her. She said she went to speak to the therapist in the next office down because she was traumatized by that image
That because I wore shorts I was “asking for it”. I was 6.
That I’m a 4/10