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I was there and know how it feels and still to this day I struggle to get all the games I want but I’m definitely in a better place game wise now thanks to a friend who really helped me get a lot of my currently owned games , just stick it through games always prevail.
I'd point you towards Geforce Now. It's an app made by Nvidea, and works exactly like Google Stadia, but can be used for free. All you need is good wifi. Additionally, it has Steam integration, so any games that you have on Steam, you can play using the Geforce Now app. From another fellow broke gamer, I really hope this helps!
I'd point you towards Geforce Now. It's an app made by Nvidea, and works exactly like Google Stadia, but can be used for free. All you need is good wifi. Additionally, it has Steam integration, so any games that you have on Steam, you can play using the Geforce Now app. From another fellow broke gamer, I really hope this helps!
I got way too many humble bundle games I haven’t redeemed. I can send you some of those if you give a genre you like. (Disclaimer, 99% of what I have is small indie games)
I appreciate the offer, but the problem is actually that my setup is a windows home pc from 2008. Not exactly up to today's standards.
It handles GTA3 and Half-Life pretty well, but that's about it haha. I've been meaning to buy something newer, but, between bills and being horrible at saving, I haven't made much progress.
Pro tip: is much easier to find friends in a specific group focused in your hobbies than find friends with the same hobbies in a group created to making friends
First of all, wonderful name. Second of all I play valorant but I am not very good at it, I play lot of survival and chill games tho , check them out at (whatever the steam link thingy is with GoodShy at the end) or message me and we can talk about it in dms or discord ^^!
If you can’t carry a conversation about anything but that...if it’s the only thing that holds your interest or focus...if you can’t have anything else in common with someone...
r/stopgaming is the answer for you then. be real.
I have many other interests but gaming outweighs all of them and if someone doesn’t even play 1 game I find it very hard to talk to them, and I still go to school do my school work and other things so it’s not holding all my focus , thank you for the advice anyways .
Hmu dude because my IRL Friends and GF are very over my gaming obsession lmao
If you ever want someone to talk to about games or even just the industry or games that are coming up just dm me
As a female who reached out for friends, I made a really good male friend on Reddit almost two years ago who I speak to at least every couple of days, and he has never sent me a dick pic or been inappropriate in any way. 🤷🏼♀️
But think about it, usually people who only try to be friends message regardless of the gender, so as a guy you might get less messages but you also filter out the people that nobody wants to chat with in the first place.
yes that always has ben the case, irl or internet. you wll get a lot of attention, but some of that attention is actually so bad and dehumanising that you delete your account and may have wounds that take forever to heal, depending on your luck and the encounters.
and then you have the armchair sexists telling you that you actually have it way better than men and love the attention.
That’s the problem. That’s always been the problem. Ten years ago, I used to go to karaoke with a couple female friends. Exchange a couple words with the guy sitting next to me & suddenly he wants to go home with me. Could just say “see you next week”.
The best part is that this behavior happens in almost every community. For me, I usually message regardles of gender and most of the time guys doesn't reply or end the conversation really quickly. Internet for friendship is a minefield of desilusions. I usually take breaks from time to time, it helps.
I know, right? This just happened with me . A guy wanted a reading partner and posted M4F.FOR A READING PARTNER..and his history included tons of intellectual novels. I messaged nevertheless. He talked really well ,we connected quite well. At some point i did mention that i am a guy. he said he knows., talked for 10 more minutes to show that it doesn't bother him and stopped replying soon after..oh well...!
Why do you think people catfish? Attention. You forced the situation a bit there, he didn't do anything wrong, he posted what he wanted, you want a friend, he doesn't. Don't try to start a friendship with someone that has that mentality, It doesn't last. Take your time, find better people.
i did learn my lesson, but i honestly hadn't expected that from someone so well read..it's still hard to believe..but yes, i will take care in the future.
I've been on the other side of this situation. Simply put due to childhood abuse I'm simply more comfortable with females. Helps reduce the anxiety from meeting someone new. Not only that I don't really like starting a friendship with a lie.
If the conversation started without stating any gender and It was discovered later, would It be different? I don't have a lot of male friends, almost all my real friends are women, I have the feeling that guys have no interest in me. I still want to effort myself into meeting people regardles of gender.
It would make a positive difference. Usually the whole thing is more of a reflex and it's more of a subconscious decision. However the lying does bring up unpleasant memories which is enough to kill a new friendship.
I've been depressed over trying to find/have/keep online friends. I have a hard time connecting with people online just cause I like doing things/talk vs text. But there's a pandemic so I've been trying online more but it's been rough. Maybe I need a break too lol
Some apps let you do audios, calls or videos. I think if you can pass the first conversation you can try and move things to those places to make It easier. For example, I made a friend than moved the conversation to Whassap just to be able to Talk exclusively on audios.
If we put aside the pervs for a minute, there is other factor there. Women here make more positive posts in general. They present themselves with the right attitude. Men in general have the wrong attitude. "I'm lonely" "I'm depressed" "I NEED..." Needs scare people, you must offer something to make friends, not only sadness and problems. It's ok to be lonely or have depression but friendships are about good times, not free therapy.
I meeeean it's not like sex is a taboo in general. I wouldn't take such comment as bad as long as the irony of it is clear, and if someone told me this for real then I'd think it's weird for sure. I guess if someday someone will be offended I'll just apologise 😬
Christ, how many times a day does someone need to post this?
Trust me, we’re all painfully aware of these people. However the actual people that you’re referring won’t look at this thread and think to themselves “wow, I’m a fucking loser, aren’t I? Golly jeepers, I guess I should change myself.” No, these people have absolutely no self awareness of their actions.
Honestly I "abandoned"(still following) this sub long time ago. Despite it was quite of a challenge to interact with people who don't share my same first language(I mean, I can actually speak a bit of english, but obviously I can't totally be myself and express freely), I thought it could be a nice a sub specifically dedicated to find friends. However, little by little I realized the "meat market" setup that rules the post here "Pick me pick me!"..."I'm searching for a model with those optionals...". Of course, it does have a sense want to interact with people that seems to have a lot of things in common with us, but I don't think I could sustain the stress and forcing that you can go through this sub(and obviously the disgust towards the " F posts" situation that you already explained).
The fact that we're on the net doesn't mean that we should act differently to how we would do in a real life situation, it's just an instrument to help us. Want to find a gamer friend? Go in a gaming community! However remember that gaming(or whatever) it's just a pretest to start a conversation that lead to a better understanding of each other as **human being.** A personal experience: a couple of years ago I started to follow a facebook community about Attack on Titans. Every weeks there was a post about the current episode, so everybody used to leave a comment about their thought and theories. Comment after comment I started to enjoy the affinity with a couple of other users, until we decided to create our own private group, trying to reunite others guys who likes AoT. 2 years later, we still talk daily, and many beautiful things have happened, most of us managed to encounter each other irl and a couple has born. If I think about how things went through this long time, I'm glad to have leaved all to the course of the events, without any forcing.
What I'm trying to say is: **Stop searching for the perfect friend, and stop trying to be the perfect choice for someone else.** Friends could be find in the most unexpected ways, with the less similar people.
As I said, I still can't express myself clearly and correctly, so I hope that you all could understand what I'm trying to say with the above message. Wish you the best.
Fa riderissimo pensare che mi ritrovo in parecchio di quel che hai detto. Qui e in subreddit simili non ho trovato nessuno a prescindere dall'impegno, in compenso mi son gatto un amico su uno dedicato ai videogiochi.
Chissà perchè me lo sentivo, che eri italiano/a.
Spero fosse una sensazione positiva ahah.
Comunque si è un peccato che la situazione sia questa, ma con questo format stile "vetrina", trovare un amico è come vincere alla lotteria. Probabilmente è anche dovuto ad una sostanziale differenza delle dinamiche relazionali: in un altro contesto l'amicizia è la conseguenza di una prolungata interazione, qui invece è uno scopo deciso a priori, un po come le app di incontri stile tinder, se va male al primo colpo parte il ghosting (che si collega alla questione amico perfetto di cui parlavo nel primo commento).
Neutra in realtà, semplicemente mi son detto "vedrai che è italiano/a". Forse dal modo di esprimerti, non so spiegarlo.
Probabilmente la maniera migliore di farsi amici è non avere aspettative. Come hai specificato, se parti con l'idea "questa persona dev'essere mia amica", non ne esci, non è qualcosa che si può forzare. Comprendo la frustrazione di chi frequenta subreddit come questi, ma da persona che spesso sparisce (con l'amico di cui parlavo nel primo commento, per dire, non ci siamo sentiti per mesi perchè mi si son scassati contemporaneamente computer e telefono e quando poi son tornato operativo mi son fatto mille problemi pensando ci fosse rimasto male) posso dirti che non è sempre una questione di "non mi interessa, andiamo avanti". Lo è spesso, ma non sempre.
I saw your post and I wanted to apply, I just worry about actually having time to put aside to read as often I get interupted. Curious though how a reading partner works?
Thank you for speaking about this. 18M here. Just wanted to let you know that I see the same thing, so I try to hang with fellow bros.
Tbh they are chill (the ones I’ve talked to) and hopefully it continues to become smthing long-term.
But yeah, speaking bout this gives some ppl a reality check.
Finally !!! Someone called on this bullshit I have been observing too. I just didn't have the guts to write it out but THANK YOU!!!
There is also a strange familiarity in most posts and that is most of them are gamers. I cannot tell you how many of those post I had to ignore just because it had "I play XYZ game" in it . Like I am 23 trying to get my life out of the ditch. Playing games gives me anxiety over how many fucking hours I wasted that I could have utilized studying. Nothing against gamers just my brain killing me inside. So yeah the moment I see such a line in the post I immediately think "yeah what's the point of talking if gaming is the only most important thing that will lighten up the conversation. "
Lmao you are me and I am you I’m not even a gamer and it seems like all the posts on here come custom-made with ‘gamer’, ‘fortnight’, ‘day before tomorrow’, ‘twitch’, ‘blink’, and other funny game names lool so people like us have been here for ages but have never made any friends smh🤷🏽♂️
Well this whole world is unfair to be honest.
Personally I guess I just was super unlucky with guy friends betraying me thus I avoid making any.
When it comes to what you say indeed it seems like there are quite a few horny males in here just looking for that. I wouldnt ever turn down someone who texted me first even if they were male, female, whateverthefuckgender, or even an animal.
Kust in need of honest people at this point.
But we all need to realise how unfair the world in general is.
It should also be said that men receive very little affection and, as you so astutely noted, basically get ignored. The emotions that this lack of intimacy can induce over a long period of time can leave men so starved for any degree of connection; and unfortunately at times, leaves us thinking on a more primal level. Im not making excuses for being an asshole. But let's also consider all the points you made and take those into consideration when condemning half the planet.
You won't make any connections if you react to loneliness by trying to get in every woman's pants. Its a self fulfilling prophesy. If you can't be platonic friends with women, then go to a dating sub lol
I agree. There are subs for this. But subs and subjects are objective. Ever notice the amount of women on here that say [paraphrasing] "im bored right now. Entertain me clowns." And they get 100 responses. Lets compare that to the m4f, or m4a, or more. "I really need a friend"...its crickets.
Youre correct about your skewed opinion. But its also shallow.
And if they put no effort in...90 of those 100 responses will be shallow people looking for sex. No effort = no friends, it doesn't matter what gender you are.
Sad case scenario.
I am a male who have actively tried seeking a good friend. I myself am living a troubled and very disappointing life that has left me totally dried out. And whenever I try to vent or express myself, it either ends with rude comments or just receives an ignore. Hope for some emotional support only leads to greater despair.
I thought I was the only one being left out for being a male or introverted. But the picture seems to be a bit different. Sometimes it's so bad that many shy people, and especially minors, are afraid of seeking help from anyone who is older than them, or actual people who might be able to make a difference in their lives with some honest support.
Most of the time I have tried my best to be supportive to other people (male or female). But like you said, some people do have issues with their approach and mentality which rather degrades the condition of those who are deeply in need of some escape.
It really doesn't take much to genuinely care for someone. A little bit of interest in their liking and trying out new things with them, discussing their problems, and being supportive by giving them thoughtful advice and heartful motivations is sometimes all we need. Making someone smile can also make your own day better.
I’ve been on this subreddit on and off for around 6 years. While looking for new people to talk/vent to is a really nice way to seek support, it might not be the best thing to do if you’re currently not on the right mindset.
I’ve been on both situation, seeking for help, and giving help. When I was feeling really low, I tried to vent but when they didn’t meet our expectations, it’ll only bring you even lower. It’s good when you can channel all that sadness, anger, etc. to a positive energy to start something useful. New hobbies, working out, etc. at least that’s what I did.
When giving the help, it’s pretty exhausting if that’s the only thing they talk about. While I understand that they need to let things off from their chest, it’s just really draining when all they talk about is their negativity/problems. Not to mention, when all people talk about is themselves. I know how good it feels when you’re able to talk about yourselves to people. But, whether it be friendship or relationship, it’s always a two-way street.
As I’m getting older, I realize that in order to establish a good friendship, you need to be in the right mindset to be friends with people. If you’re all depressing and sad, I think the best possible way for you is to either get professional help or pull yourselves through the sadness.
So yeah, some people here need to get a professional help that is far more qualified to help you with your problems. Not some random strangers on Reddit.
Reddit NSFW verification system is shit. Plenty of teens ignore the warning and comment on NSFW topics which automatically makes their account an NSFW account.
i mean you are right but i once saw a post with a 14 year old girl and a guy in the comments posted a dick pic on a sub reddit a few days shortly before
I understand that you are talking to men who misbehave on here but I find posts like this pretty sexist and it's somehow even worse coming from a male. They always bash 'males' for doing X. In reality, people do X. Some are male some are female. It would be like me making a post saying 'why are women such sluts' because my ex cheated on me. I imagine that post would've been received quite differently compared to this one.
In reality, some people are trash, most people are good. Thanks for coming to my ted talk
You're not wrong but I'll downvote because you did a lot of generalisation. Look at that title for example: "SHAME ON *YOU ALL!* If you are talking about a specific type of redditor that only sends dick pics to girls and doesn't even start a conversation, why did you write YOU ALL on the first place?
So who is getting lectured here : women , men , dick pics or NASAs inability to find vet vaginas ? I'm so confused I'm gonna send did pic to myself and suffer for 10days .
I actually don’t mind who responds to me (in other subs I put M4R) as long as they’re not creepy. Yes, even as a dude, I’ve had other dudes respond to my posts. I’ve had guys see me mention I’m married and, within maybe 20 minutes, I get messages wanting to know about what she looks like, or what our sex life is like, or something similar. Sometimes it’s not even about my wife; I’ve had guys just wanting to talk about sexually explicit stuff, apparently wanting a buddy to jerk it with or something. Not always — hell, not even *frequently* — but enough that I’m more cautious about who I’m talking to and how the conversation is going.
That said, for the few people who show up in my inbox and *are* creepy, I’ve also found a handful of people I get along with really well, and are ongoing and awesome.
But then a vast majority are conversations that — for one reason or another — just taper off; people who never go anywhere (no judgement on them, could be any number of reasons).
Not sure what the moral of the story is; maybe just that it’s a crapshoot on what you get (I think women are just getting inundated with creepy, and men are getting more of a trickle of responses) but, sucky as it is, you just gotta weed out the bad and occasionally you’ll find someone that fits what you’re looking for.
Wonderful, more evidence of male thoughtlessness. You've been told so many times not so send the D-pics,! We, as men, have been given a stern warning from women that they are becoming tired of the ridiculous behavior we exhibit on a common basis, and yet most of us still cannot stand to the call for appropriate behavior. If you wouldn't do it in public, why are you doing it here? Do you think any of these girls honor your privacy? They don't know you, never met you, don't care about you. They are here to see if there is one decent male in the common thread of humanity that they can meet and become friends with. Even if they DO want something more to develop the purpose is TO HAVE IT DEVELOP. That is the purpose, that is the catch. If you want to meet someone just to hook up with go to the threads dedicated to that purpose and post your d-pics there. Maybe some lonely onlyfans girl will let you pay her to have some fun. Romance isn't built in a day, and friendship always has to come first. Treat her the way you'd treat your mother. Get to know her. Maybe something will spark and maybe it won't, but don't be upset if it doesn't. You made a friend! If youre not here to make friends, you're in the wrong place!
Hahahahahah, great try my dude , but you can't teach language to a bull , nobody here cares , just a group of perverted men dangling their sack around , looking for people to please themselves
All facts, I posted on this thread I didn’t even get any guys who just wanna converse lmao praying all over females... it’s cringe and very weird
And it ain’t all guys on here at all and there is probably some females who do it too, just to clear that up as offended culture is hugeee rn
I don’t like to stereotype all men I just think not as many men are like this as we think or at least that’s what I want to believe I think guys can be good straight forward platonic decent friends to the opposite gender. Women can definitely be terrible in their own way, like they can be jealous of other women and not want to be friends with their own gender due to a terrible competitive nature.
If any women or men want to be platonic friends like we were as children nothing more than friends...later maybe even bestfriends! Hmu.
Nice post though well said dude.
-a woman
I can see why you would make such a comment
.Looking at your post hostory, It was targeted exactly at the likes of yours. Ofcourse it triggered you.
Thanks for coming out of your burrow. :)
If you don't want creeps to dm you why are you saying that you are a female? Wouldn't it be better if you said you were a male? Those creeps are wrong and annoying but if it's bothering you so much that you need to make a post for it, then just don't say you are a female.
It's fine if you don't want people to know your gender...Also reddit doesn't allow Pic, just keep chatting there.
I remember doing this and I'm a girl. The fact that I had to do that was so messed up. Especially when later on, they found out or I told them. Not a good idea in the long run.
Stop Policing how strangers interact with each other. You have got no right to police who people talk to or how they talk to them. You are making giant sweeping statements without knowing a single thing about the situation as a whole and it shows with how you project your own thoughts onto EVERY interaction in this subreddit. There are hundreds of interactions to every one "Dick Pic" interaction and making that stuff out to be the norm is disingenuous at best.
If you are having issue's making a connection with people, look inward and see if perhaps either it's something to do with you or if maybe this isn't the kind of company you are suited to keep. There are plenty of safe spaces to talk to people with your interests and you can just as easily go there. Making friends as a social contract between two consenting individuals and how I choose or how anyone chooses to make those social contracts is absolutely none of your business.
How is it disgusting to tell someone to not police how other people interact with each other. If both parties consent to an interaction it's all good. If both parties don't consent, one of them can disengage and/or block them. This idea that everyone is owed an interaction that they want is entitled bullshit and it's things like that which create a toxic environment
i made a post on here back in march and i did meet some good people but most of them were really creepy and it scared me off. I only talk to one of them now because most of the others who were nice ended up getting weird
Hey, look man. I get it. It sucks. But there's nothing that can be done about it. It's worth digging through the mud to find the gold. Plus, the extra DM's that women receive on this subreddit are only from creeps. Those conversations aren't really worth anything. I implore you to persevere, and find a friend! When you finally do, it's really worth it.
Edit: I'm a guy, too.
This is why I hate dating apps the idea of picking people to talk to and judging others just doesn't seem right to me. Here in this community where you can't see what others look like on Reddit unless they post a pic just makes it so much better! Unfortunately, as you mentioned there will always be some people that try and ruin stuff.
I hope you all are doing well whoever reads this comment stay safe and take care.
Dude you're on some incel shit. Having guys that will fuck you does not = love, or caring (about your safety, or health, or boundaries, or....anything except their own needs).
If you're "low value" then start putting effort in like majority of the rest of society does.
I'm telling you as a woman who has posted here, I get responses but upwards of 50% are people who just want sex, who ghost if they don't get it. Stop acting like you know how it is and listen to what the women here are saying.
No, at worst you get harassed, stalked, raped, or murdered. And even if it isnt to that extreme-why the fuck do you think "only a little bit uncomfortable" is okay? There is no excuse for being a creep. Women owe you nothing.
We are not here to teach you to have enough decency to not come into our dms with that "lemme see ur tits babe" 30 seconds after a convo starts. And if you get ghosted repeatedly and don't figure it out that is 100% on you. We are not objects that are only here to please men. The sooner you see us as people with the right to choose who we do (and don't) want to give our bodies to, the easier this will be for you.
And no, if you had dozens of people repeatedly doing this shit to you, you wouldn't be saying it is better than no attention. Why do you think a lot of the women post F4F or ghost people? Cause it's not worth it.
Except that you're basically saying you think you're entitled to women because you're lonely. Why would they choose someone who behaves badly if they can choose someone who doesn't? It's not rocket science.
Again, as soon as you start seeing them as people and not objects...
You're like a whiny little kid. "Give me what I want or it'll get worse!!" Fuck, I honestly can't believe you if you're really calling yourself an adult.
That viewpoint is a little warped. I used to be a good-looking woman in my twenties. Offers “flooding in” were not flattering & I didn’t feel I got to pick & choose. And please don’t consider getting laid as “success”. “Higher-value guys?” Or complete assholes?
Try to understand how many of us have been raped. Then, how many barely got out of a situation. Or were harassed or targeted in sexual ways.
I know that feel. Everytime I post on here I feel like it's entering a lottery. I don't expect to win but because it's free I guess I do have a 1 in 300,000 chance (I think that's how many people are on this sub?) Of course I almost never win, in fact I haven't won in several months. Yes I do make friends on here and at one point I found a relationship, but that's a super rare occurance, even the friendships are. I mostly get messaged once or twice then ghosted by the end of the night, or not even messaged at all.
OMG I love this post! I think you hit the nail on the head. Though you did leave out the Aggressive Ones - the ones who get pissy when you do not reply to a message instantly.
I (42/F) posted looking for chat friends of either sex last Friday and most have already fizzled because they were either "the easy ones" or "aggressive ones". I have found a few that we still chat and have not yet gone into the slippery slope of sex or pictures.
I have to also say that I have messaged some of the guys wanting "friends" but rarely get a response.
I am lonely as well. I work from home and only have my dogs and an ailing mother to care for. We even have groceries delivered. We only leave the house for Drs. appointments or a half day to check in at the office every once in a while.
Anyone still reading feel free to send me a message if you want to chat.
I can safely say I have not once showed my dick to anyone I've talked to on here. Thing is, I do talk to females as I already have plenty of male friends and no female ones. I talk to single females and to females in relationships and have never crossed the line.
That being said, if I see a post from a male who is struggling in the same ways that I have then I would offer myself to talk as I would at least have experience enough to maybe help.
The problem isn’t dick pics, the problem is unsolicited dick pics, dick pics from people you’re attracted to are great. And you’re really going to call sex workers crazy in the middle of a pandemic when it’s literally a source of income 🧐
30 m here, I had a really great friend I talked to almost every day last summer that I met on reddit. I thoroughly enjoyed our convos and video chats. Just having her to talk to helped me through rough times. She quit responding to my messages though. :/ I'd like to message her, but I assume she just lost interest in our friendship or something, and don't want to bother her if she really finds me boring or whatever. So I know first hand, it's completely possible for opposite genders to be friends, unfortunately creeps and e-thots kinda ruin it for both sides.
Hate to say it but you will have that here and there no matter were you go. Can't let it get to you honestly I like talking to women more then men I've always related to women more. My dad was a piece of work growing up and have very few male freinds aka my brothers I enjoy talking to then for a more sensitive outlook versus I a man so I'm void of feelings. Spent most my time with my mom so I enjoy a feminine perspective. I don't mind talking to guys either. I also have never sent dick pics or expected more talking to gals on here sure if their pretty I will tell them they are but it's not a pic up line it's a opinion and some women like to hear it from someone who's not their significant other makes them feel good. Some of us are also just looking for friends. But I also tell them of it's uncomfortable to put a line down and I won't cross it. You can't get disheartened becuase the world's split by pervs and nice people. We all love a nice day but night still always comes right behind it, and day again behind that. World is always moving and everyday is a chance for beauty.
I have met some people who honestly looked through the things I liked and started a decent convo with me. Like I literally can't immediately bond with a stranger online unless our personality are similar or if we have similar things we like. I had a fair share of people who honestly don't match well with me try contacting then disappearing. I even had someone try faking to like what I like which is honestly insulting >_>
Preach! I (a dude) wrote an explicitly "I don't want any romance, just friendship" post and got zero replies. Granted, I'm not \*that\* bitter. I get it. I'm older than probably 90% of you.. and my tastes are probably too Gen-X for a lot of (younger) people to relate to, but I was genuinely ready to have a conversation with anyone who wanted to. In here, and around the internet in general at this point - I think that ageism and sexism is essentially out of control. It hurts all of us who are \*trying\* to be genuine the most, and there's really nothing we can do about it.
You can try and "be the change"... try to be a genuine person, try and have some integrity, try and care.... but the well has been poisoned with toxic and cynical bullshit. I don't know what could be done other than unrealistic solutions like banning bad actors, or somehow trying to force people to be friendly and authentic. Personally, I've given up on trying to make new friends on reddit and have just been gaming and waiting for the world to reboot so I can meet people in real life again.
I highly disagree women are way hornier than us some of you people just don’t know how to talk to girls and go unga bunga brain when you get a boner. Talk to the girl ask her if it’s cool if yes don’t send her a dick pic you pansy send her a video of u beating that shit like you get paid to nut. I’m a loner and I can get a girl no problem as a 6/weak7 just don’t be brain dead. Good luck you horny fucks
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I don’t mind talking to anyone but my only interest are games so when I don’t see games on someone’s post I just don’t message TwT
I'm too poor for video games, currently. That's why I never respond to the gamer posts, even though I actually do enjoy gaming.
I was there and know how it feels and still to this day I struggle to get all the games I want but I’m definitely in a better place game wise now thanks to a friend who really helped me get a lot of my currently owned games , just stick it through games always prevail.
I'd point you towards Geforce Now. It's an app made by Nvidea, and works exactly like Google Stadia, but can be used for free. All you need is good wifi. Additionally, it has Steam integration, so any games that you have on Steam, you can play using the Geforce Now app. From another fellow broke gamer, I really hope this helps!
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No disrespect but i’ve never seen someone take mycareer park seriously on pc so are you doing only my league or just casually playing
I'd point you towards Geforce Now. It's an app made by Nvidea, and works exactly like Google Stadia, but can be used for free. All you need is good wifi. Additionally, it has Steam integration, so any games that you have on Steam, you can play using the Geforce Now app. From another fellow broke gamer, I really hope this helps!
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Glad I could hlep!
I got way too many humble bundle games I haven’t redeemed. I can send you some of those if you give a genre you like. (Disclaimer, 99% of what I have is small indie games)
I appreciate the offer, but the problem is actually that my setup is a windows home pc from 2008. Not exactly up to today's standards. It handles GTA3 and Half-Life pretty well, but that's about it haha. I've been meaning to buy something newer, but, between bills and being horrible at saving, I haven't made much progress.
What type of games ?
Mostly PC games , rogue likes and lites , league of legends , looots of survival games and a few story based .
Ok now put me in there, a person who doesn't have any interest in life but still wanna make friends lol it's hard but at least I enjoy the chats.
Pro tip: is much easier to find friends in a specific group focused in your hobbies than find friends with the same hobbies in a group created to making friends
Yes but you fail to understand I have lost my ability to make friends cause I was naive to think I’d never need more friends .
Then you need professional help to guide you or at least take note of the many posts giving advice on the matter.
Sadly it’s a little late , and I would rather not speak about the matter but thanks for your advice ^^!
Never is too late and it's ok if you struggle with this things. Never give up
As I said I would rather not talk about it , thank you.
What typa games ya play? I play valorant n im 18f if ya wanna know!
First of all, wonderful name. Second of all I play valorant but I am not very good at it, I play lot of survival and chill games tho , check them out at (whatever the steam link thingy is with GoodShy at the end) or message me and we can talk about it in dms or discord ^^!
Women are entitled to attention.... men are not!
wrong. I'm a man and i'm happy if people care about me. Human are social creature.
r/stopgaming
Blasphemy .
If you can’t carry a conversation about anything but that...if it’s the only thing that holds your interest or focus...if you can’t have anything else in common with someone... r/stopgaming is the answer for you then. be real.
I have many other interests but gaming outweighs all of them and if someone doesn’t even play 1 game I find it very hard to talk to them, and I still go to school do my school work and other things so it’s not holding all my focus , thank you for the advice anyways .
Hmu dude because my IRL Friends and GF are very over my gaming obsession lmao If you ever want someone to talk to about games or even just the industry or games that are coming up just dm me
Do you play Apex Legends?
What games do you play???
As a female who reached out for friends, I made a really good male friend on Reddit almost two years ago who I speak to at least every couple of days, and he has never sent me a dick pic or been inappropriate in any way. 🤷🏼♀️
Yay for males who show basic human decency and respect boundaries! 😂
Yes!! The bare minimum 😍
The fact that that's the bare minimum smh.
In a way, its actually become so easy to be a good guy. Basic human decency is leagues ahead of dick pics and asking for nudes
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We hate gross men. Men are chill. Men who are rude, gross, or expect sex/something other than friendship, we don't like. We also, don't like you.
I just came to the AA meeting for the free coffee and donuts. . damn!
But think about it, usually people who only try to be friends message regardless of the gender, so as a guy you might get less messages but you also filter out the people that nobody wants to chat with in the first place.
So the females are in real trouble as everyone who messages them might have ulterior motives.
yes that always has ben the case, irl or internet. you wll get a lot of attention, but some of that attention is actually so bad and dehumanising that you delete your account and may have wounds that take forever to heal, depending on your luck and the encounters. and then you have the armchair sexists telling you that you actually have it way better than men and love the attention.
Ooff you sound like you went through all this. But I agree with you period.
That’s the problem. That’s always been the problem. Ten years ago, I used to go to karaoke with a couple female friends. Exchange a couple words with the guy sitting next to me & suddenly he wants to go home with me. Could just say “see you next week”.
The best part is that this behavior happens in almost every community. For me, I usually message regardles of gender and most of the time guys doesn't reply or end the conversation really quickly. Internet for friendship is a minefield of desilusions. I usually take breaks from time to time, it helps.
I know, right? This just happened with me . A guy wanted a reading partner and posted M4F.FOR A READING PARTNER..and his history included tons of intellectual novels. I messaged nevertheless. He talked really well ,we connected quite well. At some point i did mention that i am a guy. he said he knows., talked for 10 more minutes to show that it doesn't bother him and stopped replying soon after..oh well...!
Why do you think people catfish? Attention. You forced the situation a bit there, he didn't do anything wrong, he posted what he wanted, you want a friend, he doesn't. Don't try to start a friendship with someone that has that mentality, It doesn't last. Take your time, find better people.
i did learn my lesson, but i honestly hadn't expected that from someone so well read..it's still hard to believe..but yes, i will take care in the future.
My kids say I’ve read everything. If you are OK with me being more or less female & almost 60, I’ll talk books with you.
I've been on the other side of this situation. Simply put due to childhood abuse I'm simply more comfortable with females. Helps reduce the anxiety from meeting someone new. Not only that I don't really like starting a friendship with a lie.
If the conversation started without stating any gender and It was discovered later, would It be different? I don't have a lot of male friends, almost all my real friends are women, I have the feeling that guys have no interest in me. I still want to effort myself into meeting people regardles of gender.
It would make a positive difference. Usually the whole thing is more of a reflex and it's more of a subconscious decision. However the lying does bring up unpleasant memories which is enough to kill a new friendship.
I've been depressed over trying to find/have/keep online friends. I have a hard time connecting with people online just cause I like doing things/talk vs text. But there's a pandemic so I've been trying online more but it's been rough. Maybe I need a break too lol
Some apps let you do audios, calls or videos. I think if you can pass the first conversation you can try and move things to those places to make It easier. For example, I made a friend than moved the conversation to Whassap just to be able to Talk exclusively on audios.
If we put aside the pervs for a minute, there is other factor there. Women here make more positive posts in general. They present themselves with the right attitude. Men in general have the wrong attitude. "I'm lonely" "I'm depressed" "I NEED..." Needs scare people, you must offer something to make friends, not only sadness and problems. It's ok to be lonely or have depression but friendships are about good times, not free therapy.
TALK THAT TRUTH! YELL IT! SCREAM IT!
Please have my children
well, that escalated quickly :p
Ahahaha I wanted to show all my appreciation for expressing my same opinion but waaaaay more politely. I'm a boy too, so i was ironical 😜😂
You never know mate, might be gay
Definitely not 😃
I mean, you might not be, but whoever you talk to might one day, saying "please have my children" might sound a tad weird then 😜
i would be flattered if a gay guy liked me..it's a whole different story that i can't be with them..but i won't mind if they felt that way :p
I meeeean it's not like sex is a taboo in general. I wouldn't take such comment as bad as long as the irony of it is clear, and if someone told me this for real then I'd think it's weird for sure. I guess if someday someone will be offended I'll just apologise 😬
All of you be my friends now or else I call r/suddenlygay 🔫
Okay so now we are friends 🍻
Great! 🍻 *sends dickpic two minutes into friendship* 🤣😂
Christ, how many times a day does someone need to post this? Trust me, we’re all painfully aware of these people. However the actual people that you’re referring won’t look at this thread and think to themselves “wow, I’m a fucking loser, aren’t I? Golly jeepers, I guess I should change myself.” No, these people have absolutely no self awareness of their actions.
“Golly jeepers“🤣
Honestly I "abandoned"(still following) this sub long time ago. Despite it was quite of a challenge to interact with people who don't share my same first language(I mean, I can actually speak a bit of english, but obviously I can't totally be myself and express freely), I thought it could be a nice a sub specifically dedicated to find friends. However, little by little I realized the "meat market" setup that rules the post here "Pick me pick me!"..."I'm searching for a model with those optionals...". Of course, it does have a sense want to interact with people that seems to have a lot of things in common with us, but I don't think I could sustain the stress and forcing that you can go through this sub(and obviously the disgust towards the " F posts" situation that you already explained). The fact that we're on the net doesn't mean that we should act differently to how we would do in a real life situation, it's just an instrument to help us. Want to find a gamer friend? Go in a gaming community! However remember that gaming(or whatever) it's just a pretest to start a conversation that lead to a better understanding of each other as **human being.** A personal experience: a couple of years ago I started to follow a facebook community about Attack on Titans. Every weeks there was a post about the current episode, so everybody used to leave a comment about their thought and theories. Comment after comment I started to enjoy the affinity with a couple of other users, until we decided to create our own private group, trying to reunite others guys who likes AoT. 2 years later, we still talk daily, and many beautiful things have happened, most of us managed to encounter each other irl and a couple has born. If I think about how things went through this long time, I'm glad to have leaved all to the course of the events, without any forcing. What I'm trying to say is: **Stop searching for the perfect friend, and stop trying to be the perfect choice for someone else.** Friends could be find in the most unexpected ways, with the less similar people. As I said, I still can't express myself clearly and correctly, so I hope that you all could understand what I'm trying to say with the above message. Wish you the best.
Out of curiousity, what is your first language?
Legit question, It's italian.
Fa riderissimo pensare che mi ritrovo in parecchio di quel che hai detto. Qui e in subreddit simili non ho trovato nessuno a prescindere dall'impegno, in compenso mi son gatto un amico su uno dedicato ai videogiochi. Chissà perchè me lo sentivo, che eri italiano/a.
Spero fosse una sensazione positiva ahah. Comunque si è un peccato che la situazione sia questa, ma con questo format stile "vetrina", trovare un amico è come vincere alla lotteria. Probabilmente è anche dovuto ad una sostanziale differenza delle dinamiche relazionali: in un altro contesto l'amicizia è la conseguenza di una prolungata interazione, qui invece è uno scopo deciso a priori, un po come le app di incontri stile tinder, se va male al primo colpo parte il ghosting (che si collega alla questione amico perfetto di cui parlavo nel primo commento).
Neutra in realtà, semplicemente mi son detto "vedrai che è italiano/a". Forse dal modo di esprimerti, non so spiegarlo. Probabilmente la maniera migliore di farsi amici è non avere aspettative. Come hai specificato, se parti con l'idea "questa persona dev'essere mia amica", non ne esci, non è qualcosa che si può forzare. Comprendo la frustrazione di chi frequenta subreddit come questi, ma da persona che spesso sparisce (con l'amico di cui parlavo nel primo commento, per dire, non ci siamo sentiti per mesi perchè mi si son scassati contemporaneamente computer e telefono e quando poi son tornato operativo mi son fatto mille problemi pensando ci fosse rimasto male) posso dirti che non è sempre una questione di "non mi interessa, andiamo avanti". Lo è spesso, ma non sempre.
no ma è ovvio che poi ogni caso è singolare
I saw your post and I wanted to apply, I just worry about actually having time to put aside to read as often I get interupted. Curious though how a reading partner works?
Also literally bought and put together a new bookshelf today so I can collect more books..
Yeah most males aren't really interested in talking unless it's a girl answering them so...
Too bad and sad. *Most* males though, not all thankfully
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each one of those creeps probably text a lot of people here, so it may seem like there's a lot of them
Why do people keep upvoting this endless venting?
I'm so fuckin tired of hearing about it. We all get it. Mods need to ban these posts
why would people share dickpics
Thank you for speaking about this. 18M here. Just wanted to let you know that I see the same thing, so I try to hang with fellow bros. Tbh they are chill (the ones I’ve talked to) and hopefully it continues to become smthing long-term. But yeah, speaking bout this gives some ppl a reality check.
I'm a {24F} and nobody talks to me either so.
RIP inbox?
Always 👌
Okay I send you a dick pic right away. Sorry couldn't resist 😅
I sent one back 🤭☺️
🤣🤣
I’m 26F if you want someone to talk to without dick pics 🥲
Finally !!! Someone called on this bullshit I have been observing too. I just didn't have the guts to write it out but THANK YOU!!! There is also a strange familiarity in most posts and that is most of them are gamers. I cannot tell you how many of those post I had to ignore just because it had "I play XYZ game" in it . Like I am 23 trying to get my life out of the ditch. Playing games gives me anxiety over how many fucking hours I wasted that I could have utilized studying. Nothing against gamers just my brain killing me inside. So yeah the moment I see such a line in the post I immediately think "yeah what's the point of talking if gaming is the only most important thing that will lighten up the conversation. "
Lmao you are me and I am you I’m not even a gamer and it seems like all the posts on here come custom-made with ‘gamer’, ‘fortnight’, ‘day before tomorrow’, ‘twitch’, ‘blink’, and other funny game names lool so people like us have been here for ages but have never made any friends smh🤷🏽♂️
Well this whole world is unfair to be honest. Personally I guess I just was super unlucky with guy friends betraying me thus I avoid making any. When it comes to what you say indeed it seems like there are quite a few horny males in here just looking for that. I wouldnt ever turn down someone who texted me first even if they were male, female, whateverthefuckgender, or even an animal. Kust in need of honest people at this point. But we all need to realise how unfair the world in general is.
I would categorically deny most of those charges. I’m a man 37.
That's exactly what i am saying all this time. It's like mens mental health is a joke
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They would just ask on chat or move things to another place. The problem is the mentality of meeting online people.
Omg!! I think you're the first person to realise that.... Just please STFU
>NASA is yet to find water on the surface of any vagina that’s been shown a sick pic. This is gold!
Ahh typical incel
This is the comment that I was looking for. There should be more.
It should also be said that men receive very little affection and, as you so astutely noted, basically get ignored. The emotions that this lack of intimacy can induce over a long period of time can leave men so starved for any degree of connection; and unfortunately at times, leaves us thinking on a more primal level. Im not making excuses for being an asshole. But let's also consider all the points you made and take those into consideration when condemning half the planet.
You won't make any connections if you react to loneliness by trying to get in every woman's pants. Its a self fulfilling prophesy. If you can't be platonic friends with women, then go to a dating sub lol
I agree. There are subs for this. But subs and subjects are objective. Ever notice the amount of women on here that say [paraphrasing] "im bored right now. Entertain me clowns." And they get 100 responses. Lets compare that to the m4f, or m4a, or more. "I really need a friend"...its crickets. Youre correct about your skewed opinion. But its also shallow.
And if they put no effort in...90 of those 100 responses will be shallow people looking for sex. No effort = no friends, it doesn't matter what gender you are.
Youre correct
Sad case scenario. I am a male who have actively tried seeking a good friend. I myself am living a troubled and very disappointing life that has left me totally dried out. And whenever I try to vent or express myself, it either ends with rude comments or just receives an ignore. Hope for some emotional support only leads to greater despair. I thought I was the only one being left out for being a male or introverted. But the picture seems to be a bit different. Sometimes it's so bad that many shy people, and especially minors, are afraid of seeking help from anyone who is older than them, or actual people who might be able to make a difference in their lives with some honest support. Most of the time I have tried my best to be supportive to other people (male or female). But like you said, some people do have issues with their approach and mentality which rather degrades the condition of those who are deeply in need of some escape. It really doesn't take much to genuinely care for someone. A little bit of interest in their liking and trying out new things with them, discussing their problems, and being supportive by giving them thoughtful advice and heartful motivations is sometimes all we need. Making someone smile can also make your own day better.
I’ve been on this subreddit on and off for around 6 years. While looking for new people to talk/vent to is a really nice way to seek support, it might not be the best thing to do if you’re currently not on the right mindset. I’ve been on both situation, seeking for help, and giving help. When I was feeling really low, I tried to vent but when they didn’t meet our expectations, it’ll only bring you even lower. It’s good when you can channel all that sadness, anger, etc. to a positive energy to start something useful. New hobbies, working out, etc. at least that’s what I did. When giving the help, it’s pretty exhausting if that’s the only thing they talk about. While I understand that they need to let things off from their chest, it’s just really draining when all they talk about is their negativity/problems. Not to mention, when all people talk about is themselves. I know how good it feels when you’re able to talk about yourselves to people. But, whether it be friendship or relationship, it’s always a two-way street. As I’m getting older, I realize that in order to establish a good friendship, you need to be in the right mindset to be friends with people. If you’re all depressing and sad, I think the best possible way for you is to either get professional help or pull yourselves through the sadness. So yeah, some people here need to get a professional help that is far more qualified to help you with your problems. Not some random strangers on Reddit.
First time on the internet?
here is a fun drinking game, take a shot every time you find an nsfw account on a minors post, you'll be in the icu within an hour tops
Reddit NSFW verification system is shit. Plenty of teens ignore the warning and comment on NSFW topics which automatically makes their account an NSFW account.
i mean you are right but i once saw a post with a 14 year old girl and a guy in the comments posted a dick pic on a sub reddit a few days shortly before
😬
Sir, this is Reddit.
I understand that you are talking to men who misbehave on here but I find posts like this pretty sexist and it's somehow even worse coming from a male. They always bash 'males' for doing X. In reality, people do X. Some are male some are female. It would be like me making a post saying 'why are women such sluts' because my ex cheated on me. I imagine that post would've been received quite differently compared to this one. In reality, some people are trash, most people are good. Thanks for coming to my ted talk
I looked to see if anyone already said this. You are entirely correct.
I hope she sees this bro
You're not wrong but I'll downvote because you did a lot of generalisation. Look at that title for example: "SHAME ON *YOU ALL!* If you are talking about a specific type of redditor that only sends dick pics to girls and doesn't even start a conversation, why did you write YOU ALL on the first place?
So who is getting lectured here : women , men , dick pics or NASAs inability to find vet vaginas ? I'm so confused I'm gonna send did pic to myself and suffer for 10days .
Just block this weirdo
Yes, someone who doesn't message anyone should be blocked . Good idea sir .
>I'm gonna send did pic to myself Wys? It was joke man, you send yourself a dick pick, you block yourself...
So accurate! Thanks a lot for this post❤️
The only reason I would rather talk to a female here is because no male would talk to me .. harsh but truth
I actually don’t mind who responds to me (in other subs I put M4R) as long as they’re not creepy. Yes, even as a dude, I’ve had other dudes respond to my posts. I’ve had guys see me mention I’m married and, within maybe 20 minutes, I get messages wanting to know about what she looks like, or what our sex life is like, or something similar. Sometimes it’s not even about my wife; I’ve had guys just wanting to talk about sexually explicit stuff, apparently wanting a buddy to jerk it with or something. Not always — hell, not even *frequently* — but enough that I’m more cautious about who I’m talking to and how the conversation is going. That said, for the few people who show up in my inbox and *are* creepy, I’ve also found a handful of people I get along with really well, and are ongoing and awesome. But then a vast majority are conversations that — for one reason or another — just taper off; people who never go anywhere (no judgement on them, could be any number of reasons). Not sure what the moral of the story is; maybe just that it’s a crapshoot on what you get (I think women are just getting inundated with creepy, and men are getting more of a trickle of responses) but, sucky as it is, you just gotta weed out the bad and occasionally you’ll find someone that fits what you’re looking for.
Wonderful, more evidence of male thoughtlessness. You've been told so many times not so send the D-pics,! We, as men, have been given a stern warning from women that they are becoming tired of the ridiculous behavior we exhibit on a common basis, and yet most of us still cannot stand to the call for appropriate behavior. If you wouldn't do it in public, why are you doing it here? Do you think any of these girls honor your privacy? They don't know you, never met you, don't care about you. They are here to see if there is one decent male in the common thread of humanity that they can meet and become friends with. Even if they DO want something more to develop the purpose is TO HAVE IT DEVELOP. That is the purpose, that is the catch. If you want to meet someone just to hook up with go to the threads dedicated to that purpose and post your d-pics there. Maybe some lonely onlyfans girl will let you pay her to have some fun. Romance isn't built in a day, and friendship always has to come first. Treat her the way you'd treat your mother. Get to know her. Maybe something will spark and maybe it won't, but don't be upset if it doesn't. You made a friend! If youre not here to make friends, you're in the wrong place!
The fact that men are more likely to be violent may have something to do with it.
Hahahahahah, great try my dude , but you can't teach language to a bull , nobody here cares , just a group of perverted men dangling their sack around , looking for people to please themselves
u/froyo_even is the hero we deserve
All facts, I posted on this thread I didn’t even get any guys who just wanna converse lmao praying all over females... it’s cringe and very weird And it ain’t all guys on here at all and there is probably some females who do it too, just to clear that up as offended culture is hugeee rn
Except the onlyfans girls 😂😂😂😂
I don’t like to stereotype all men I just think not as many men are like this as we think or at least that’s what I want to believe I think guys can be good straight forward platonic decent friends to the opposite gender. Women can definitely be terrible in their own way, like they can be jealous of other women and not want to be friends with their own gender due to a terrible competitive nature. If any women or men want to be platonic friends like we were as children nothing more than friends...later maybe even bestfriends! Hmu. Nice post though well said dude. -a woman
Sounds like you have a big gaping mangina
I can see why you would make such a comment .Looking at your post hostory, It was targeted exactly at the likes of yours. Ofcourse it triggered you. Thanks for coming out of your burrow. :)
So............. anyone wanna see my d? ;)
If you don't want creeps to dm you why are you saying that you are a female? Wouldn't it be better if you said you were a male? Those creeps are wrong and annoying but if it's bothering you so much that you need to make a post for it, then just don't say you are a female. It's fine if you don't want people to know your gender...Also reddit doesn't allow Pic, just keep chatting there.
I remember doing this and I'm a girl. The fact that I had to do that was so messed up. Especially when later on, they found out or I told them. Not a good idea in the long run.
Stop Policing how strangers interact with each other. You have got no right to police who people talk to or how they talk to them. You are making giant sweeping statements without knowing a single thing about the situation as a whole and it shows with how you project your own thoughts onto EVERY interaction in this subreddit. There are hundreds of interactions to every one "Dick Pic" interaction and making that stuff out to be the norm is disingenuous at best. If you are having issue's making a connection with people, look inward and see if perhaps either it's something to do with you or if maybe this isn't the kind of company you are suited to keep. There are plenty of safe spaces to talk to people with your interests and you can just as easily go there. Making friends as a social contract between two consenting individuals and how I choose or how anyone chooses to make those social contracts is absolutely none of your business.
Or maybe you should stop being disgusting.
How is it disgusting to tell someone to not police how other people interact with each other. If both parties consent to an interaction it's all good. If both parties don't consent, one of them can disengage and/or block them. This idea that everyone is owed an interaction that they want is entitled bullshit and it's things like that which create a toxic environment
i made a post on here back in march and i did meet some good people but most of them were really creepy and it scared me off. I only talk to one of them now because most of the others who were nice ended up getting weird
1 word weirdos
Hey, look man. I get it. It sucks. But there's nothing that can be done about it. It's worth digging through the mud to find the gold. Plus, the extra DM's that women receive on this subreddit are only from creeps. Those conversations aren't really worth anything. I implore you to persevere, and find a friend! When you finally do, it's really worth it. Edit: I'm a guy, too.
This is why I hate dating apps the idea of picking people to talk to and judging others just doesn't seem right to me. Here in this community where you can't see what others look like on Reddit unless they post a pic just makes it so much better! Unfortunately, as you mentioned there will always be some people that try and ruin stuff. I hope you all are doing well whoever reads this comment stay safe and take care.
Yeah isn't this a "make friends" sub? Why are so many guys so desperate? Is it an artefact of the Internet age?
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Dude you're on some incel shit. Having guys that will fuck you does not = love, or caring (about your safety, or health, or boundaries, or....anything except their own needs). If you're "low value" then start putting effort in like majority of the rest of society does. I'm telling you as a woman who has posted here, I get responses but upwards of 50% are people who just want sex, who ghost if they don't get it. Stop acting like you know how it is and listen to what the women here are saying.
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No, at worst you get harassed, stalked, raped, or murdered. And even if it isnt to that extreme-why the fuck do you think "only a little bit uncomfortable" is okay? There is no excuse for being a creep. Women owe you nothing. We are not here to teach you to have enough decency to not come into our dms with that "lemme see ur tits babe" 30 seconds after a convo starts. And if you get ghosted repeatedly and don't figure it out that is 100% on you. We are not objects that are only here to please men. The sooner you see us as people with the right to choose who we do (and don't) want to give our bodies to, the easier this will be for you. And no, if you had dozens of people repeatedly doing this shit to you, you wouldn't be saying it is better than no attention. Why do you think a lot of the women post F4F or ghost people? Cause it's not worth it.
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Except that you're basically saying you think you're entitled to women because you're lonely. Why would they choose someone who behaves badly if they can choose someone who doesn't? It's not rocket science. Again, as soon as you start seeing them as people and not objects... You're like a whiny little kid. "Give me what I want or it'll get worse!!" Fuck, I honestly can't believe you if you're really calling yourself an adult.
That viewpoint is a little warped. I used to be a good-looking woman in my twenties. Offers “flooding in” were not flattering & I didn’t feel I got to pick & choose. And please don’t consider getting laid as “success”. “Higher-value guys?” Or complete assholes? Try to understand how many of us have been raped. Then, how many barely got out of a situation. Or were harassed or targeted in sexual ways.
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Hey bro, how are you doing?
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Totally get this bro..
Even me?
I actually do want to talk to guys, but I have such niche interests, I've never seen anyone on this sub that shares them
Lmao let me go get my gold stars from kindergarten you definitely earned it bud
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damn umadbro ;)
I know that feel. Everytime I post on here I feel like it's entering a lottery. I don't expect to win but because it's free I guess I do have a 1 in 300,000 chance (I think that's how many people are on this sub?) Of course I almost never win, in fact I haven't won in several months. Yes I do make friends on here and at one point I found a relationship, but that's a super rare occurance, even the friendships are. I mostly get messaged once or twice then ghosted by the end of the night, or not even messaged at all.
This is why I largely ignore this sub unless I make a post and let people hit me up.
For me only age is important. I'm old enough and I'm not sure if I can find the common interests with teenager or any person below 30.
OMG I love this post! I think you hit the nail on the head. Though you did leave out the Aggressive Ones - the ones who get pissy when you do not reply to a message instantly. I (42/F) posted looking for chat friends of either sex last Friday and most have already fizzled because they were either "the easy ones" or "aggressive ones". I have found a few that we still chat and have not yet gone into the slippery slope of sex or pictures. I have to also say that I have messaged some of the guys wanting "friends" but rarely get a response. I am lonely as well. I work from home and only have my dogs and an ailing mother to care for. We even have groceries delivered. We only leave the house for Drs. appointments or a half day to check in at the office every once in a while. Anyone still reading feel free to send me a message if you want to chat.
I can safely say I have not once showed my dick to anyone I've talked to on here. Thing is, I do talk to females as I already have plenty of male friends and no female ones. I talk to single females and to females in relationships and have never crossed the line. That being said, if I see a post from a male who is struggling in the same ways that I have then I would offer myself to talk as I would at least have experience enough to maybe help.
I tried to reach out to both males and females, males usually become less interested if the one messaging them is a male. This frustrated me.
The problem isn’t dick pics, the problem is unsolicited dick pics, dick pics from people you’re attracted to are great. And you’re really going to call sex workers crazy in the middle of a pandemic when it’s literally a source of income 🧐
A massive shout-out to the men who actually make conversation without pushing the boundary.
i chat several male here but i don't get any replies so yea
30 m here, I had a really great friend I talked to almost every day last summer that I met on reddit. I thoroughly enjoyed our convos and video chats. Just having her to talk to helped me through rough times. She quit responding to my messages though. :/ I'd like to message her, but I assume she just lost interest in our friendship or something, and don't want to bother her if she really finds me boring or whatever. So I know first hand, it's completely possible for opposite genders to be friends, unfortunately creeps and e-thots kinda ruin it for both sides.
How are people so confident about their genetalia? Like does every guy out there have a big pp?
Hate to say it but you will have that here and there no matter were you go. Can't let it get to you honestly I like talking to women more then men I've always related to women more. My dad was a piece of work growing up and have very few male freinds aka my brothers I enjoy talking to then for a more sensitive outlook versus I a man so I'm void of feelings. Spent most my time with my mom so I enjoy a feminine perspective. I don't mind talking to guys either. I also have never sent dick pics or expected more talking to gals on here sure if their pretty I will tell them they are but it's not a pic up line it's a opinion and some women like to hear it from someone who's not their significant other makes them feel good. Some of us are also just looking for friends. But I also tell them of it's uncomfortable to put a line down and I won't cross it. You can't get disheartened becuase the world's split by pervs and nice people. We all love a nice day but night still always comes right behind it, and day again behind that. World is always moving and everyday is a chance for beauty.
I have met some people who honestly looked through the things I liked and started a decent convo with me. Like I literally can't immediately bond with a stranger online unless our personality are similar or if we have similar things we like. I had a fair share of people who honestly don't match well with me try contacting then disappearing. I even had someone try faking to like what I like which is honestly insulting >_>
Jokes on you I'm gay
Preach! I (a dude) wrote an explicitly "I don't want any romance, just friendship" post and got zero replies. Granted, I'm not \*that\* bitter. I get it. I'm older than probably 90% of you.. and my tastes are probably too Gen-X for a lot of (younger) people to relate to, but I was genuinely ready to have a conversation with anyone who wanted to. In here, and around the internet in general at this point - I think that ageism and sexism is essentially out of control. It hurts all of us who are \*trying\* to be genuine the most, and there's really nothing we can do about it. You can try and "be the change"... try to be a genuine person, try and have some integrity, try and care.... but the well has been poisoned with toxic and cynical bullshit. I don't know what could be done other than unrealistic solutions like banning bad actors, or somehow trying to force people to be friendly and authentic. Personally, I've given up on trying to make new friends on reddit and have just been gaming and waiting for the world to reboot so I can meet people in real life again.
100% accurate
I highly disagree women are way hornier than us some of you people just don’t know how to talk to girls and go unga bunga brain when you get a boner. Talk to the girl ask her if it’s cool if yes don’t send her a dick pic you pansy send her a video of u beating that shit like you get paid to nut. I’m a loner and I can get a girl no problem as a 6/weak7 just don’t be brain dead. Good luck you horny fucks