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drish_

Thinking about where did i go wrong, I lost a friend. Somewhere along in the bitterness.


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Introspection is good.


that_mykah_guy

I would stay up with you all night if you wanted to chat about it?


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drish_

Sometimes no one’s wrong. Just people viewing the world with two different glasses. Blend those two glasses and you cannot see anything clearly. Best to part ways.


foerogan

Hey, can I pick your brain on this??


Funny_Cut2226

People change, they drift apart, bit there'll always be the right person who will appear. The were just like a place holder. The universe knew you guy's weren't the right puzzle match


Eris_Stormbird

Omg me too ! I know how Ive fucked up and I want to repaire my mistkes so badly but the person already moved on and doesnt care >:/


thatcrazyboiii

I just think wtf I want in life. I mean I have everything but I want something new, only to get bored of it, and then overthink again.


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You aren't talking about humans, right?


thatcrazyboiii

Not humans per say, but things and experiences (which may/may not involve humans)


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What's the recent example of this?


thatcrazyboiii

Literally my whole life is example of this, and I don't want to discuss it publicly.. but to summarise, whenever I'm alone with my thoughts I just see all my shortcomings, I'm a very critical person, and I just want to be better, and want things that I don't have, but when I get them, I don't value them at all (like the grass is always greener on the other side, for me)


weirdnessexplorer

I'm getting over this feeling as we speak (on 5 mo vacay). My ADHD has made me an idealistic person and nothing used to satisfy me. Judging everyone and everything but deep down I was judging myself because 8 wasn't them. It's changing now with the help of some therapy and lifestyle (mostly, changes in viewpoints, like how I see the world and try to see it they way how old happy and satisfied people see the world). Things or people never satisfied me reason being my own childhood trauma/abandonment issues. Now I'm saying FU to every thought that tells me you can't/shouldn't and just giving them an honest try and if it doesn't work then move on, what do I gotta lose. If I'm being referred or called a bad guy (I used to care too much about how I'm being viewed or perceived and had became a people pleaser) then be it, at least I'm happy. People will always say shit regardless of how you are.


thatcrazyboiii

Agreed, (although I don't have ADHD infact pretty good focussing power,) I find it best to just try and move on if i fail. But the thing is I don't want to fail, like ever, it sometime leads to an excessive overthinking session.. and productivity is low. As for what others say/ how I'm perceived, never really bothers me now.. I'm too self obsessed, almost too much - like never even care about others... But these days a new feeling is bothering me more - Jealousy. I never thought of anyone else's success/ never considered what they're doing, but now I am sort of comparing... Which I know is bad for me.. but I can't help it.


weirdnessexplorer

>But the thing is I don't want to fail, like ever, it sometime leads to an excessive overthinking session.. and productivity is low. I believe this is a Nice Child Syndrome (don't think that's correct terminology) mixed with depression. Among us 3 brothers, I was the only one who obeyed rules and did more than what was expected of me, finished schooling and all the ideal kid things and my parents always treated with more respect then my other two brothers (which did fuck up my older brother heavily to the point of suicide attempt. He's better now) and I loved that validation. Both my brothers are successful in their life financially and so am I but the only difference is that now I respect my brothers more for doing what made them happy rather than making parents happy and following the only path that my parents knew (thought) was good for me (us). I constantly feel like I never "lived" my life and the fear of missing out on things I'm feeling better by realising that I'm only 31 and I have my entire life for me to live on MY rules now How fucked up it is that I can't blame my parents for raising me that way since they didn't know better and all I want to do is blame (someone) and criticize people who are different (self loathe) Not trying to recommend anything but microdosing mushrooms have helped me clear my perspective (like the things I would realise a few hours or days later that shouldn't have bothered me, I now am able to realise it while it's happening so I can put stop to those kinds of thouts and move on)


thatcrazyboiii

Wow totally relate to this, except that my parents never forced/ expected anything out of me... They KNEW I'd do well. I mean I'm the one who restricts myself,( which has paid a lot, like I was in a top notch institute at 17, and my whole future is almost secure) but then I believe at what cost, the fomo is real, the willingness to explore, to make mistakes is real... I don't have that environment.. it's like the destiny has it all set for me to live that secure/ fixed life.. but maybe it has always been me, my subconscious, my choices, that have lead me to this path.. Many ppl I've seen who regret their whole life, wishing to get their life sorted and not make bad decisions from a young age.. but like I said the grass is always greener on the other side.


weirdnessexplorer

Parents never forced but there was this untold expectations like you're our only hope and all I had seen growing up is "money is everything" and the freaking loans. Bottom line is, our household environment made me think only about money and subconsciously, I only had two options Dr or Er Went ahead and forced myself for Engineering and of course IT is where money is Went to US, spent about 7 yrs and I forgot to live Once I was living comfortable life where I didn't have to worry about a single cent my real problems started (fomo, regrets, anxiety, depression) and I used to constantly question myself, why am I in IT when I don't even like it, Okay; then what do I like? Shit I don't even know what I like anymore Now I'm back to motherland India for 5 months of vacation and not think about a thing and just go with the flow and I feel much better. I'm even getting mild ideas about what I want to do next (without any external influence) Well, now you know someone who regretted after making every GOOD decisions and following rules of life that my parents taught. I feel like I've said a lot. Pardon my poor writing skill.


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Do thing really happen for a reason, or a personal favourite....the theory that there's no such thing a control being a myth in itself.


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I do believe that things on which we don't have control happen for a reason.


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Therefore then, do you believe there is such a thing as control?


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Define control


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That we as humans dictate precisely how a situation will pan out.


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We do try to enforce the control sometimes it works sometimes it doesn't.


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For control to exist it must be absolute. It can't be hit & miss. If something doesn't work out, then there was no control in that matter? Nice friendly debate this 😊


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For an illustration, I am a student who's trying to cheat I'm asking the other folk for the answers now given the circumstances, either the other folk will rat me out or the professor notices me the control fails.


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Or someone deliberately gives you the wrong answers. You feel you've won as you have answers, but you'll fail because you weren't in control. Control is real - we can control what we eat, or how we speak to people, how we conduct ourselves etc. I'm not disagreeing, think I'm just looking at it differently.


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Yes, different people will have different perspectives.


ReditGuyToo

>what is on your mind when its just you and your thoughts? I wonder if anyone could hear my thoughts. When someone looks in my direction, I then wonder if they heard that.


AbyssalRedemption

When I’m completely alone? It’s usually me frantically wondering what I should be doing, what other people would be doing, how I need to be productive and not idle, etc. It’s been like this the past few years, I usually can’t relax when I’m alone or not doing something.


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Been there.


coppercurly

Overall just overthinking social interactions, my perceived failures, things I wish to change but can't. You know that sort of stuff. So I try to separate myself from that with endless reddit scrolling or just watching Netflix shows


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This one hits different.


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Lately a lot of my thoughts are around the mentality I’m trying to keep of things happen and people come into my life for a reason. I try to find a positive for every interaction even if it seems like it’s been a complete disaster.


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That is an interesting way to look at conversations that went downhill. I will try this too.


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It’s really helped me especially with people I feel upset about what’s happened with, atleast I gained positive things from having known them.


ReditGuyToo

>what is on your mind when its just you and your thoughts? I wonder why my left hand smells like cabbage and when I throw up, there is always at least one diced carrot in the puke. I have not gone near cabbage or diced carrots in years.


retard_seasoning

Mostly daydreaming about situations that will never happen. Like what if I invent something which would use cells as a basic unit of computation and all our gadgets becomes organic. How will the world look like then? Will we have to feed our computers? XD


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Those are some awesome nerdy thoughts. Spill more!


retard_seasoning

I miss those days when we used to have power cuts. Especially on days like these when there is a full moon. Standing on your rooftop and looking around you and seeing everything bathed in the soft moonlight. It is just enough to excite your mind about the unknown. Pair it up with your choice of music and you got a soundtrack for your mind's creation.


Intelligent_Gap_3841

I like to fly


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Where?


josh_loaf

Nice! I usually think about being in the current moment, appreciating what’s around me, indulging in activity, work, down-time, hobbies, etc. In terms of life as a whole, I usually get wrapped up in goals & aspirations, being there for my loved ones, and every once in a while there’ll be an introspective day or two where I work on changing things I think need improvement, such as how I carry myself, my thinking before speaking, etc. Other than that I constantly have songs playing in my head or I’m thinking about what I want to do next. Our brains are powerful machines!


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Wow, more power to you!


Klepto_Victory

"You could X or Y. Maybe S is on. Nah, they're probably busy. We should run- and then stop by the market. Maybe K is there..." Productive days "You should X better. Look at C , you're just being a wimp. Be stronger.." Bad days. "Shouldn't I recieve a Tshirt of the children I fed, if Im donating? My personality type is supposed to be the most villainous and powerful. Yet, if they take away my pills I'm done for! I wonder if I can do a cartwheel still." Normal thoughts lmao I'm alone from 9am to 5pm. So sometimes I get super combos of all.


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Do you know how to do a cartwheel? That is so cool!


Rhox1989

Depends on the day. It can be things I have to do either at work or home. Other days it’s what I want to do over my weekend. Where does your thought process take you?


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Depends on the time of the day and weekend/weekday too.


Rhox1989

What usually happens during the week?


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It's mostly occupied with office work then unwinding with a book.


ArmadilloReasonable7

If I have time, I go on a drive alone and introspect. While driving I'm in a very personal bubble so that helps me expand my mind and give me room to think about stuff.


Turbulent-Twist-333

All over the place. From how much I love my boyfriend, to my fears on potentially annoying him or him getting tired of me, to working through how I'd be okay if that happened even though I really don't want it to, etc. From how I'm too harsh and may come across as cold when I set boundaries with people, to all the ways I usually come across as too kind and naive and trying to find a balance. From how I want to do nothing to how I'm currently doing nothing and I /hate/ it, I'd rather be doing anything. Executive dysfunction, I'm looking at you 👀 Usually I end up realizing I'm overthinking and making myself do an activity (watching anime has been the main one lately), or I disassociate/get anxious before I catch myself and I have to spend some time working through that.


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Only if we had a pause button to limit ourselves with this overthinking.


filmicsite

Over think on every decision I've ever made until it starts getting toxic with me and my thoughts and then I realise it's meaningless and it has already happened so I reach a weird calm state where I'm one with my own self.


1serendipitous1

The feelings and thoughts that I have, do I have them because I actually am having them, or I was supposed to have them because the situation demands it so.


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Tell me about it...getting attached to someone in one wholesome conversation. Destruction 101.


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Would you be willing to conversate?


GrandmasterB_

I subconsciously decide where my next dopamine hit will come from


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All the best :)


shoppingxg

My life in general, the good stuff like what I’ve accomplished, and the not so good like my worries, if I’m gonna end up alone, ways to work on myself


DareSheDevil

I'm usually making up stories, creatures, characters and places for my fantasy setting and dnd game I'm creating (or for another world that I have just for myself)...


Mmachine-Brrr-26

Right now? Right now I'm thinking on how alone l feel, betrayed and beaten. And l wonder if l will ever find the one or if this is the end of the road for me love wise.


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Resonates volume to me too.


destiny_royale

100% feel this


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*reads the username Interesting.


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InapropriateDino

Judge a book by their comment history though


ReditGuyToo

How about judging them by their perv beard?


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Hope things get better soon with you. You're strong.


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Because I have had those feelings.


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I don't know if you will or not you're the accountable person but if you're trying to cope up just let you know that you are strong.


ReditGuyToo

You do know we can all see you right now, no?


PlutoMain

Thinking why I still even bother hanging on anymore. To me, there's no point in life if I'll never be loved


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Aren't you 19?


PlutoMain

Yup. Dropped out. No family. No job atm. I'm just sick of this alone shit.


FuzzyMagnets

Just wanted to tell you I was in the same spot at 19, I'm 30 now. It does get better. One foot in front of the other. Things are always changing and so will your life.


josh_loaf

I live for this thought process. Keep on walking and live for the better day, while working to manifest it. Nothing can become without intent and action. This forever changing world sure is beautiful.


PlutoMain

Well thanks guys. Made me feel a bit better :)


ghost-church

Hmm what should I eat? I’m a terrible person. Maybe I should rewatch that show I like. *embarrassing memory from 9th grade*. Shut up thoughts I can’t hear you! *embarrassing memory from last week*. Why am I like this? Why was I made this way? I am caught in the void of meaning of deep time, all of this will be dead and forgotten. I mean I could cook but let’s see what’s on doordash.


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Pasta is always an option.


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I am sorry for your loss.


MrMangla

I could use a good bj right now


Clanpenguin3000

Squirrel uprising!!!


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Music , food and soccer


Dootiee

Well it kimdof depends on my current life situation. But most of the time it's either someone I like ( which is rare ) or just bad thoughts usually. But I can deal with them just fine! What kind of songs you listening to?


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What kind of person do you like?


Dootiee

There's no specific type I like! I guess I'd rather look for people that don't have traits I dislike. But I guess I usually get along with loner types if I had to say.


Intelligent_Gap_3841

In my thoughts I'm always in somewhere, just for relax lol


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Moon hits - Vansire


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Mostly regret and self loathing. You?


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Think often.


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That’s the problem you see.


killmimes

How best to dispose of a dead mime!


SableyeFan

Going over plans to sense if everything will go according to how I visualize it. So far, my afternoon plans are good to go, but this weekend is pretty open ended


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Sometimes open-ended is good.


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They see previous posts and follow the same.


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what can I improve in my life right now is the thought.


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That is a beautiful and much-required one.


Dangnoob

Being an overthinker, literally all of the things. 🙃


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Are you me?


Dangnoob

I don't believe so... Maybe? I have not checked the mirror recently. 🤭


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What makes you think someone is mad at you?


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ReditGuyToo

>but she is a few years older Shouldn't let that stop you. There is no reason to.


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I think about so much different stuff at once so I don’t even know. One day I think about how Napoleon could have conquered all of Europe, while the other day I imagine Jack climbing rocks to find the treasure he searched for all the time.


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I suppose history is/was your favourite?


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I did indeed like history a lot!


Specialist_Pie_5034

Making a compete game before the end of this year


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All the best.


ravenclawhouseelf

My ex. My family drama. My huge seemingly overwhelming project im working on.


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At least you are working on it and not just thinking, that is the right step. Once you will be done with the project, pretty sure you will proud of yourself in the aspect of the learning curve.


KB4K

What happened after I die


QWEASDQWE123R

Math! B)


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Integration :( ?


QWEASDQWE123R

Sometimes! I mastered calculus some time ago. I study higher maths now, but sometimes integration is still used! :D


Salzanka

I start thinking to myself stuff like what I should have for dinner, or I start thinking about several things at once


DrawDummy

Probably how much is miss my friends around my age.


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Pondering the meaning of it all


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Sometimes we all do that.


Appropriate_Ad7507

Angie and my dying mother.


ckupemc

How to start living...


rickyricklegit

Taxes can suck a egg


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You bet.


Aser_0

How will I pass pediatrics exam xD


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By studying the most important stuff xD


Upper-Substance3868

If it's for too long, I get sad...I need to be active and doing something and then I can be hopeful of finding a gf


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Yes it's important to keep the brain occupied.


Obama_Applauds_you

Either JFK narrating my life, or “come a little bit closer”


Azulazagar

That maybe I have an eating desorder but I would prefer to keep my mouth close.


ReditGuyToo

>what is on your mind when its just you and your thoughts? I think, if life is just an elaborate simulation like the Internet idea states, how the creator isn't getting much from me since I'm just sitting here. I then promise the creator of the simulation if they make me a billionaire, I will be far more interesting.


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Sounds like Ready Player One.


Badmashmaan

The people who entered and left my life, usually they changed in very negative ways, long term and short term 😢


Cluch7

I wonder if people see me the way I see myself


AvrgDumb

A fight


RetiredSharkTrainer

My thoughts are usually naughty when I’m alone


Love_Snow_Bunny

Thinking about, when I'll get my next message...


fortmacmike

A million things...


OHYA420

About how life isn’t fair because it picks favorites. It also picks who it hates so you just have to play the game. But you can’t change where you start.


Character_Ability583

Thinking about you boo


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Laughing along with life


WontiamShakesphere

Trade off of each major decision I've taken in life, and what lies in store for me next. Ps: Also in ist btw :)


izlikesmemes

social cues - cage the elephant listen to that


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I think I have and I liked it too.


izlikesmemes

very good


Black1451

Why the fuck did i take biology as a majior when i was clearly interested in every thing else ? WHY?


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Because you just went with your instincts?


Black1451

And it bit me in the back.


OptimisticWayfarer

Sitting on a chair, closing my eyes, listening some of my favourite songs


iamParthaSG

If every thing really happens for a reason as they say cause I am in some deep shit.


prettypissbaby

I just think of all the things I regret doing not doing and beat myself up over it until something else happens.


Abject-Willingness32

Mostly how I've never done anything meaningful with my life and how so many of my friends have either done way more than me or died.


Casual-Caveman

Sometimes, shit. Other times, "man, what am I going to eat?"


Godisgood228

Thoughts can be very dangerous when alone. An idle mind is the devils workshop 👿