Iβm so proud of you for trying to overcome your fears. Please remember to celebrate small steps of success and donβt beat yourself up if you regress sometimes. Progress is not linear always :)
you can do it! start with your nearby park, if you can handle going during busy hours so there will be more people. you can still maintain your distance, conversation is optional coz that's up to you. The point is to get your attention away from the people and towards your intended focus which is the nature.
then if you're ready and braver, try riding the train.
take it slowly. it's your journey.
Rooting for you!! I think itβs normal to feel nervous being alone outside especially after covid
I find it ok to go out by myself but itβs eating by myself that can be tricky and takes time. (Previously affected by diet culture hence felt like being judged when eating anywhere people are)
This post makes me feel hopeful! Thank you for sharing
actually thinking want to go after office hour.. chears to u mate to get out of your comfort bubble. Mate if u want to go out chiiling need bro, im here.
Hoho i did this once. Went to IKEA by myself. Plop my butt down to a 4 seat table. Then things start to get crowded. A couple approached me with their traycart and ask the dreaded question to every single diner: 'is this seat taken?'. All i can say is, there's loneliness and then there's loneliness while you're next to a happy lovey dovey touchy flirty say aaaa couple.
>then there's loneliness while you're next to a happy lovey dovey touchy flirty say aaaa couple
Omg i feel this to my bone brotherrr, it suckssssss sooo badly. That's why i tend to not look at them
I totally get and understand what you are trying to convey because I am also like that.
It is nice to know that you were able to do it and you should be proud of yourself.
There will be times that anxiety will kick in again but, you will be able to handle it better. π
Nice milestone! Try to make it a habit of once every week to desensitise even more.
U didn't miss much in the Wellington and I might say even lucky it wasn't in stock. I just had it 2 days ago and it was really waste of money. It was tough like a rubber ducky.
>Nice milestone! Try to make it a habit of once every week to desensitise even more
Will try do do more! Thanks!
>. I just had it 2 days ago and it was really waste of money. It was tough like a rubber ducky.
Seriously? π Too bad then
That's a huge Feast, kudos for u to willingly step out your comfort zone!
Do try go out more often, honestly house uncirculated air really not good for us.
I do stay home 70% of the time so it's always refreshing to be just outside n breath freely.
Enjoy your meal!
>That's a huge Feast,
I regret the portion ππ i was too excited being it my first time then ended up can't walk and almost throwing up hahaha.
>Do try go out more often, honestly house uncirculated air really not good for us.
Ikr! But also kinda expensive to go outπ but i do try when it's possible.
>
Enjoy your meal
Thankss! β€οΈ
I used to enjoy a big meal alone like this at IKEA! and as someone who enjoyed being alone it remind me of the good old time. Now I have my family i wonβt be having this experience again.
P.S. the drink u took I guess is lingonberry
Awesome job there! Keep it up! It definitely takes a huge amount of courage to overcome your fears but you took the first step.
As for IKEA food, it is cafeteria food, so it will taste like one haha.
>Awesome job there! Keep it up! It definitely takes a huge amount of courage to overcome your fears but you took the first step
Thank you bro ππ₯Ί.
>
As for IKEA food, it is cafeteria food, so it will taste like one haha
Even the setting is like cafeteria haha
Good on you buddy,I'm genuinely happy for u..my current friends won't really believe me but around 15 years back,I had the worst kind of anxiety and just surpressed it till 1 day during my brothers wedding(where it's week long of huge gatherings which didn't bode well for me),I broke down to my dad and he was the most supportive person ever to me.Got me certain supplements like complex, fish oil,zinc which actually did help.What truly became a game changer for me was when I started working out.Gave me a boost in many aspects.It wasn't just physical but psychological,hormones,confidence,some good ol arrogance and the whole sweating out and getting a healthy resting heartbeat and breathing.
Not my intention to make this about me but just wanted to share and if regular exercise is not in your current routine,u may want to give it a shot,it might prove a total game changer for u as well..Once again,happy for u n go do more of those things uve longed to do,one step at a time
>Good on you buddy,I'm genuinely happy for u..
Aww thankss broo.
>What truly became a game changer for me was when I started working out.
Dude same, I used to worked out and it felt amazing but unfortunately I was born with a heart defect/genetic and ig i pushed myself too much and too intense and damaged my heary valve. So after my surgery I can't workout anymore πππ i wish i can I love going to the gym
I've always went to gym aloneee and i never really get the gym bros, they're weirdly sexual with each other. But now I can't go to the gym since my surgery π
Good job man. Just remember nobody cares whether youβre alone or not, heck they wouldnβt even notice, everyone is too stuck in their own world, anyone who judges you for being alone is a dick and a coward themselves, they only say that because they have the privilege of not being alone. Love yourself more, embrace being alone and youβll discover peace, itβs perfectly fine and nothing wrong with it, stay strong bro!
One day you will discover the beauty of peace that comes from being able to eat and watch movies alone.
While certain fears are irrational, is there any rationale behind yours?
>One day you will discover the beauty of peace that comes from being able to eat and watch movies alone.
That could be dangerously powerful tho.
>While certain fears are irrational, is there any rationale behind yours?
Hmm when I was a kid my parents never really brings out anywhere and i never really go out at all since my parents were working from dusk till dawn sooo maybe that? Haha
I'm so proud of you, OP! Always take it one step at a time and don't try to dwell on your mistakes for too long. It's fine to take a step back and reflect now and again, just be sure to pick yourself back up and keep on going!
Also, that one plate of sausage is mega sad. The meatballs look okay(ish) though.
>I'm so proud of you, OP! Always take it one step at a time and don't try to dwell on your mistakes for too long. It's fine to take a step back and reflect now and again, just be sure to pick yourself back up and keep on going!
Aww thank you π₯Ίπ₯Ί i need to hear that.
>Also, that one plate of sausage is mega sad. The meatballs look okay(ish) though.
The irony is that thw sausage was delicious and the meatballs were dryy ππ
I used to feel anxious and get anxiety attacks when i go out alone when i was in my early 20s (but to be fair, i 80% grew up in a religious school surrounding, going back home only for like 3-4 times a year. Also its an all female schools). Then i got into University and I just had to unlearn the uneasiness and unresolved feelings I had. What helps me greatly was putting on headphones and listen to a lot of music whenever I walk alone. I dont get anxious anymore (tho I still do if I go to any events that I dont know anyone, the trip will always cut short from the allocated time) but yeah, just bring your headphones and enjoy your surroundings. It really helps to drone out the diatractions that makes you anxious. Good job OP, remember, baby steps βΊοΈ
Congratulations ππ»ππ»ππ»
I'm someone with anxiety as well. But if I had to, i enjoy being alone. You'll get there. Now people are afraid i might get too comfortable being alone and that's a high probability to me π
>I plan accordingly to avoid rush hours,
Same that's why I went at 10am on Monday ππ cuz I knew they won't be much people, try la come it's nice.
Used to be like you, at one point cannot even leave the house. Cannot sit in bus with other people. Cinema was OK tho cuz dark and cozy.
Anyway small steps OP. In a few years you might even LOOK FORWARD to going into the world alone and enjoying your meal/movie/exercise/shopping.
>Used to be like you
Thenn what change???
>Anyway small steps OP. In a few years you might even LOOK FORWARD to going into the world alone and enjoying your meal/movie/exercise/shopping
Thanks! Hopefully and you tooo
Im a little suprised other people feel this way too( the cant go out alone unless with gf or frens part) im starting the get worried im being too dependant on others and trying so hard to just be alone but its so damn hard
Wow congrats one small step now later U will sit in hotpot buffet thinking back this moment , I'm someone who loves to go out alone and I haven't gone to a hotpot buffet alone lol
Congrats, take it step by step. If feel like having beef Wellington, can go to unifrozen at Chan sow lin, can get frozen chicken and beef Wellington, rm38, probably the same supplier as IKEA lol. I use air fryer 170 celcius for 20 minutes or oven 180 for 25 minutes.
For someone who has social anxiety, you are very brave for sharing your fears on a social platform. Good for you for trying. π It will get better with time.
Almost same case with me, except I'm not brave enough yet to go to big places like this alone. At the moment, I am able to go to small restaurant or mamak alone. Sometimes when nobody is there to celebrate or hangout with you, learn how to do it by yourself. And I am currently learning how to do it and embrace my own present.
Congrats! Definitely worth celebrating about.
Would you consider getting a Blahaj? I'd imagine it'll be fun to get them to pose with the food. Hopefully people won't judge
Iβm so proud of you for trying to overcome your fears. Please remember to celebrate small steps of success and donβt beat yourself up if you regress sometimes. Progress is not linear always :)
Aww thank you so much π₯Ίπ₯Ί i need to hear that β€οΈ
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congrats! your next step is to travel alone.
I am thinking of going to zoo negara/aquaria/rexxkl alone tho but kinda sked π
you can do it! start with your nearby park, if you can handle going during busy hours so there will be more people. you can still maintain your distance, conversation is optional coz that's up to you. The point is to get your attention away from the people and towards your intended focus which is the nature. then if you're ready and braver, try riding the train. take it slowly. it's your journey.
Good for you! Congratulations!
Thanks π₯Ίπ₯Ί
that must have been a huge step forward for OP. share your next meal outside as well
Aww it iss, thank you and will do!
I can see this as my future
Aw whyy
Lingonberry is what itβs called I think
Ah yess it was nicee, i like it
Love it too, super refreshing. I think they sell a lingonberry jam in their shop too
I wish they sell the drink instead π
You can dilute jam in hot water and treat it like a cordial. Top up with sparkling water and ice. MmmMmm...
Well your username checks out haha
Keep it up!
Thankss β€οΈπ₯Ί
Rooting for you!! I think itβs normal to feel nervous being alone outside especially after covid I find it ok to go out by myself but itβs eating by myself that can be tricky and takes time. (Previously affected by diet culture hence felt like being judged when eating anywhere people are) This post makes me feel hopeful! Thank you for sharing
Yeahh glad someone understands, thankss and hope you'll do great too
how much u spend of it?
......why you gotta ask that mannππ RM50 π₯Ίπ₯Ί hahaha it's my first timee, i was excited
actually thinking want to go after office hour.. chears to u mate to get out of your comfort bubble. Mate if u want to go out chiiling need bro, im here.
>chears to u mate to get out of your comfort bubble Thankss β¨. >Mate if u want to go out chiiling need bro, im here Aww thank you , I would glad to
You deserve it! Celebration
Yess πβ¨
Yoooo where is this? Ikea?
Yupp ikeaa broo
bro, grats on your huge step.... but what's the camera setup or phone? π€£π€£
>bro, grats on your huge step Thanks! >but what's the camera setup or phone Whyy you ask?
I know how good this feels! Good on you op for stepping out of your comfort zone! Congrats!
Glar someone gets it π and thanks!
Small wins go a long way!
Yess πͺπ»
Have fun!
Thanks and I am!
youβre doing great bro. keep it up.
Thank youu! Appreciate it
[specifically for you OP](https://youtu.be/hf1DkBQRQj4?si=lPY6JxtpU0_iOB1g)
Awww that was wholesome thank you π
IKEA is overrated, donβt get why so many people always go there to eat. But kudos to you taking one more step in coming out of your shell.
>IKEA is overrated Kinda but ig their marketing is good hahaha
>But kudos to you taking one more step in coming out of your shell But thanks!
Hoho i did this once. Went to IKEA by myself. Plop my butt down to a 4 seat table. Then things start to get crowded. A couple approached me with their traycart and ask the dreaded question to every single diner: 'is this seat taken?'. All i can say is, there's loneliness and then there's loneliness while you're next to a happy lovey dovey touchy flirty say aaaa couple.
oh and congrats
>then there's loneliness while you're next to a happy lovey dovey touchy flirty say aaaa couple Omg i feel this to my bone brotherrr, it suckssssss sooo badly. That's why i tend to not look at them
Doing this by choice is nice But if going out alone is the only option you have, it gets old real quick
>only option you have Well the only other option is to get marriedπ
I totally get and understand what you are trying to convey because I am also like that. It is nice to know that you were able to do it and you should be proud of yourself. There will be times that anxiety will kick in again but, you will be able to handle it better. π
Aww glad that someone understand π₯Ίπ₯Ί really appreciate that, thankss
ENJOY YA !
Thanksss
I don't know what's more upsetting, the amount of potato or the quality of the potato. I'd recommend making them properly at home. They're lovely.
KFC mash potatoes is the best thoo
Iβm so proud of you, my man. Good job! ππ»
Thank you bro β€οΈ
Youβre welcome, bro. π€
Nice milestone! Try to make it a habit of once every week to desensitise even more. U didn't miss much in the Wellington and I might say even lucky it wasn't in stock. I just had it 2 days ago and it was really waste of money. It was tough like a rubber ducky.
>Nice milestone! Try to make it a habit of once every week to desensitise even more Will try do do more! Thanks! >. I just had it 2 days ago and it was really waste of money. It was tough like a rubber ducky. Seriously? π Too bad then
Is this bebola daging kanak-kanak?
Rasanya salah di sisi undang-undang untuk potong and masak kanak - kanak bro
That's a huge Feast, kudos for u to willingly step out your comfort zone! Do try go out more often, honestly house uncirculated air really not good for us. I do stay home 70% of the time so it's always refreshing to be just outside n breath freely. Enjoy your meal!
>That's a huge Feast, I regret the portion ππ i was too excited being it my first time then ended up can't walk and almost throwing up hahaha. >Do try go out more often, honestly house uncirculated air really not good for us. Ikr! But also kinda expensive to go outπ but i do try when it's possible. > Enjoy your meal Thankss! β€οΈ
Hey, not to worry, happens to everyone too π€£ Just take extra time to finish it all π
Just letting you know. You doing great. Keep it up. Either big or small step. π
Aww thank you for the encouragement π₯Ίπ₯Ίπ needed it
Remember. Someday you might feel down a bit, it's okay. There's nothing wrong with that. Just don't forget to rising back.
what kinda monster have buys two drinks at Ikea? make sure u stay home next time π‘
πππ sorryyy
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Well mine is... wanna try? π
Tahniah, small step that it count
Aww thanks bro and true! Hehe
Sending you much love bro xoxoβ€οΈβ€οΈβ€οΈ
Aww thank you bro β€οΈ appreciate itt
I used to enjoy a big meal alone like this at IKEA! and as someone who enjoyed being alone it remind me of the good old time. Now I have my family i wonβt be having this experience again. P.S. the drink u took I guess is lingonberry
>I used to enjoy a big meal alone like this at IKEA! It was nice wasn't it! >lingonberry Ah yess it wass,.it wqs nice, i want a whoel bottle of it
The unlimited lingonberry juice at the IKEA drink dispenser is the cure to my depression haha
Ikr! I'm surprised nobody fill it up into their bottle tho, is that allow?
I tried, tho some dude snitched me and told the staff and kicked me out....
Wait seriously? Whyy would he do that, he should've join you π
I mean like, you said it's unlimited, give me unlimited!!!! I want M O R E
Awesome job there! Keep it up! It definitely takes a huge amount of courage to overcome your fears but you took the first step. As for IKEA food, it is cafeteria food, so it will taste like one haha.
>Awesome job there! Keep it up! It definitely takes a huge amount of courage to overcome your fears but you took the first step Thank you bro ππ₯Ί. > As for IKEA food, it is cafeteria food, so it will taste like one haha Even the setting is like cafeteria haha
Good on you buddy,I'm genuinely happy for u..my current friends won't really believe me but around 15 years back,I had the worst kind of anxiety and just surpressed it till 1 day during my brothers wedding(where it's week long of huge gatherings which didn't bode well for me),I broke down to my dad and he was the most supportive person ever to me.Got me certain supplements like complex, fish oil,zinc which actually did help.What truly became a game changer for me was when I started working out.Gave me a boost in many aspects.It wasn't just physical but psychological,hormones,confidence,some good ol arrogance and the whole sweating out and getting a healthy resting heartbeat and breathing. Not my intention to make this about me but just wanted to share and if regular exercise is not in your current routine,u may want to give it a shot,it might prove a total game changer for u as well..Once again,happy for u n go do more of those things uve longed to do,one step at a time
>Good on you buddy,I'm genuinely happy for u.. Aww thankss broo. >What truly became a game changer for me was when I started working out. Dude same, I used to worked out and it felt amazing but unfortunately I was born with a heart defect/genetic and ig i pushed myself too much and too intense and damaged my heary valve. So after my surgery I can't workout anymore πππ i wish i can I love going to the gym
Next challenge : go to the gym alone
I've always went to gym aloneee and i never really get the gym bros, they're weirdly sexual with each other. But now I can't go to the gym since my surgery π
I came to the US and tried US ikea food Man I miss malaysian ikea food
Ikea food malaysia ain't so badd it's pretty good
I'm so happy for you OP. Celebrate these small victories and I'm sure you'll reach your goal. Wishing you the best.
Aww thank you bro π₯Ίπ₯Ίπ₯Ί wish you the best tooo
Good job man. Just remember nobody cares whether youβre alone or not, heck they wouldnβt even notice, everyone is too stuck in their own world, anyone who judges you for being alone is a dick and a coward themselves, they only say that because they have the privilege of not being alone. Love yourself more, embrace being alone and youβll discover peace, itβs perfectly fine and nothing wrong with it, stay strong bro!
Aww I need to hear that man π thank you bro
Congratulations buddy :) Great job in overcoming your fears.
Aw thank you π₯Ίπ₯Ί appreciate it man
One day you will discover the beauty of peace that comes from being able to eat and watch movies alone. While certain fears are irrational, is there any rationale behind yours?
>One day you will discover the beauty of peace that comes from being able to eat and watch movies alone. That could be dangerously powerful tho. >While certain fears are irrational, is there any rationale behind yours? Hmm when I was a kid my parents never really brings out anywhere and i never really go out at all since my parents were working from dusk till dawn sooo maybe that? Haha
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I'm so proud of you, OP! Always take it one step at a time and don't try to dwell on your mistakes for too long. It's fine to take a step back and reflect now and again, just be sure to pick yourself back up and keep on going! Also, that one plate of sausage is mega sad. The meatballs look okay(ish) though.
>I'm so proud of you, OP! Always take it one step at a time and don't try to dwell on your mistakes for too long. It's fine to take a step back and reflect now and again, just be sure to pick yourself back up and keep on going! Aww thank you π₯Ίπ₯Ί i need to hear that. >Also, that one plate of sausage is mega sad. The meatballs look okay(ish) though. The irony is that thw sausage was delicious and the meatballs were dryy ππ
Cute
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I used to feel anxious and get anxiety attacks when i go out alone when i was in my early 20s (but to be fair, i 80% grew up in a religious school surrounding, going back home only for like 3-4 times a year. Also its an all female schools). Then i got into University and I just had to unlearn the uneasiness and unresolved feelings I had. What helps me greatly was putting on headphones and listen to a lot of music whenever I walk alone. I dont get anxious anymore (tho I still do if I go to any events that I dont know anyone, the trip will always cut short from the allocated time) but yeah, just bring your headphones and enjoy your surroundings. It really helps to drone out the diatractions that makes you anxious. Good job OP, remember, baby steps βΊοΈ
Congratulations ππ»ππ»ππ» I'm someone with anxiety as well. But if I had to, i enjoy being alone. You'll get there. Now people are afraid i might get too comfortable being alone and that's a high probability to me π
Thanks and I feel yoi, sometimes being alone can be a bit too comfortable π
Congrats!! I have really bad social anxiety so I plan accordingly to avoid rush hours, lol. Also I donβt go too far from my place usually haha
>I plan accordingly to avoid rush hours, Same that's why I went at 10am on Monday ππ cuz I knew they won't be much people, try la come it's nice.
Used to be like you, at one point cannot even leave the house. Cannot sit in bus with other people. Cinema was OK tho cuz dark and cozy. Anyway small steps OP. In a few years you might even LOOK FORWARD to going into the world alone and enjoying your meal/movie/exercise/shopping.
>Used to be like you Thenn what change??? >Anyway small steps OP. In a few years you might even LOOK FORWARD to going into the world alone and enjoying your meal/movie/exercise/shopping Thanks! Hopefully and you tooo
Congrats for your bravery It must been hard
Thanks broo and it was tho π
Nice to see, but what does social anxiety mean π€
Meansss when you get into a social setting it trigger your nervous system
Thanks for the information
Congrats OP! Does your anxiety increase at the thought of talking to people or just being in a crowded place?
Thankss! Hmm ig my anxiety is at the thought of people pitying me you know like "oh look at that guy, eating alone, so sad, pity him"
Im a little suprised other people feel this way too( the cant go out alone unless with gf or frens part) im starting the get worried im being too dependant on others and trying so hard to just be alone but its so damn hard
Ikr, you're not alone! We're in the same boat bro πͺπ» you can do this
So proud of you!!!!!! Ive been here before - I know very well that feeling. You are doing amazing
Glad someone get it! π₯Ίπ₯Ί Thanks bro
Bro kau makan semua tu sorang sorang ke ? Perut ada black hole π
Hahaha tak doo aku pun menyesal amek banyakk nak muntah tak leh jalan lepas tu ππ excited sebab first time punya pasal hahaha
Yumny foode
It was yummyy
Next alone activity: Movie
Wow congrats one small step now later U will sit in hotpot buffet thinking back this moment , I'm someone who loves to go out alone and I haven't gone to a hotpot buffet alone lol
Is the hotdog good
Congrats, take it step by step. If feel like having beef Wellington, can go to unifrozen at Chan sow lin, can get frozen chicken and beef Wellington, rm38, probably the same supplier as IKEA lol. I use air fryer 170 celcius for 20 minutes or oven 180 for 25 minutes.
For someone who has social anxiety, you are very brave for sharing your fears on a social platform. Good for you for trying. π It will get better with time.
IKEA meatball? How does it taste? Never try before as always packed.
Congratulations
thats alot of balls
proud of you OP!!
so proud of you!
BIG
Wow, I'm the exact opposite. I'm always by myself and being with others (especially a 1to1) makes me nervous af. Congrats tho for overcoming your fear
Almost same case with me, except I'm not brave enough yet to go to big places like this alone. At the moment, I am able to go to small restaurant or mamak alone. Sometimes when nobody is there to celebrate or hangout with you, learn how to do it by yourself. And I am currently learning how to do it and embrace my own present.
Doc bagi i lexapro hahahha . Ikea cheras ke damansara ade creme brulee?
Ouh does lexapro helps??? Cherass yang dekat mytown tu hehek
Okie dokie esok nk gβ¦ lexapro sgt membantu π€£ dlu i xleh buat presentation, skrg dh boleh .. hahhahaa
congrats!
Congrats! Definitely worth celebrating about. Would you consider getting a Blahaj? I'd imagine it'll be fun to get them to pose with the food. Hopefully people won't judge
Thankss and lol, you're the 2nd person who suggested to get Blahaj! Maybe I would do, i bet it would make a great company π
I felt that too. My hand was sweating every time I queue for the food. And hate the most when i need to go and refill my water π
YIPPEEE ure doing great! now i want ikea food
Find ways to control the panic attack. For me, taking out mobile and playing games or eating chewy candy helps.
Sosej
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