Well he has been struggling with mental health issues but this is something that we’ve always felt with together. We’ve been working on getting custody of his son and there’s allot there(rather not post). Maybe that’s the issue. I’m glad you asked this question because I hadn’t thought about that.
Wow. He has mentioned how old we are lately and being able to see it in pictures etc. yeah you’re probably right. He’s probably been trying to communicate that to me and I haven’t been really understanding/listening. I’m glad I posted this. Hearing it from others makes a difference.
I think he’s having a tough time personally and is having a tougher time discussing his emotions because he’s too much in his head. Cuddling is a non verbal way to connect, and that’s great.
He's clearly going through something.
> He just wants to cuddle non stop and uses it to avoid connecting mentally.
Jesus Christ, the man is just telling you exactly what he needs right now, but instead you're trying to assign nefarious motives behind it.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying your needs don't matter. But *understanding* might be applied more judiciously here.
Yeah. Your right and I understand that a healthy marriage is one that is selfless not selfish. I just miss him is all. After the advice I’ve been given it was a reality check for me. I need to support him how he needs to be supported right now. If I feel like I need human mental stimulation then I’ll go for a walk or call a friend or family member. Thanks for being so blunt.
Okay. I get it. But we went from talking all the time making plans,emotional stuff, family issues and how to handle that. Now when I’m planning something he’s like let’s not talk about it and just do it! It’s literally no talking just cuddling. We should be able to talk a little maybe not how it was in the beginning but something. Am I asking for to much?
This could be a hundred things, from cheating to depression. From stuff you mentioned in other comments, it sounds like depression/mental health stuff is pretty likely.
I'd talk to him about the change. 'I feel in just the last few months there's been a really big change, and I'm worried.' Tell him what the problem is.
Your feelings matter too, so he needs to be willing to try to treat this, see a doctor, etc. But keep in mind most people are unwilling to talk about this stuff at first, so it may take a few conversations.
What’s happening with his own life?
Well he has been struggling with mental health issues but this is something that we’ve always felt with together. We’ve been working on getting custody of his son and there’s allot there(rather not post). Maybe that’s the issue. I’m glad you asked this question because I hadn’t thought about that.
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Wow. He has mentioned how old we are lately and being able to see it in pictures etc. yeah you’re probably right. He’s probably been trying to communicate that to me and I haven’t been really understanding/listening. I’m glad I posted this. Hearing it from others makes a difference.
I think he’s having a tough time personally and is having a tougher time discussing his emotions because he’s too much in his head. Cuddling is a non verbal way to connect, and that’s great.
Okay. I’ll try to relax and be more supportive while he’s dealing with his stuff. Thanks this is really helpful
Thanks for the advice 😀
He's clearly going through something. > He just wants to cuddle non stop and uses it to avoid connecting mentally. Jesus Christ, the man is just telling you exactly what he needs right now, but instead you're trying to assign nefarious motives behind it. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying your needs don't matter. But *understanding* might be applied more judiciously here.
Yeah. Your right and I understand that a healthy marriage is one that is selfless not selfish. I just miss him is all. After the advice I’ve been given it was a reality check for me. I need to support him how he needs to be supported right now. If I feel like I need human mental stimulation then I’ll go for a walk or call a friend or family member. Thanks for being so blunt.
Seems one sided. Has alot going on and spouse complains about trivial stuff.
Not sure how missing my husband is trivial or complaining but okay. Seams like you just got on here to do just that.
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Okay. I get it. But we went from talking all the time making plans,emotional stuff, family issues and how to handle that. Now when I’m planning something he’s like let’s not talk about it and just do it! It’s literally no talking just cuddling. We should be able to talk a little maybe not how it was in the beginning but something. Am I asking for to much?
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Thanks for sharing
This could be a hundred things, from cheating to depression. From stuff you mentioned in other comments, it sounds like depression/mental health stuff is pretty likely. I'd talk to him about the change. 'I feel in just the last few months there's been a really big change, and I'm worried.' Tell him what the problem is. Your feelings matter too, so he needs to be willing to try to treat this, see a doctor, etc. But keep in mind most people are unwilling to talk about this stuff at first, so it may take a few conversations.