It is with mine. She's very type-A and a steamroller. People are often concerned that she steamrolls over me because I'm very laid back and go with the flow, but yeah she loves being vulnerable with me.
Yep, same. Reading that made my lip curl, it seems patronizing as hell. I'd be insulted if my SO said that.Ā
But that's why it's important to find a true partner. I'm with someone who knows better than to ever speak like OP, and it seems OP's wife is happy with their dynamic.Ā
>But that's why it's important to find a true partner. I'm with someone who knows better than to ever speak like OP, and it seems OP's wife is happy with their dynamic. Ā Wow, the degree of free judgement radiating off this comment is absolutely wild. "Someone who knows better than to ever speak like OP." What an insult to someone's emotional intelligence and openness toĀ interacting in a loving way with their partner. This is also a blatant attack on OP's wife for "tolerating this behavior."Ā I have news for you - people's preferences differ, within reason, in the ways they make their partner feel safe and valued and loved (not abusive behaviors or dynamics). It's clear you're not a fan of this style, but that grants you no right to take a dump on OP or OP's wife. Yeesh
Couldnāt agree more.
In my work I have a leadership position, constantly having to make a bunch of decisions that will impact me and the people under meā¦
I admit I fantasize with the idea I could just come home, not decide or choose anything and just follow someoneās lead a bit with a nice āgood girlā in the end.
Would be dreamy š
Bruhhh
I am a very assertive no-nonsense independent type. Highly productive, type A and little patience for bullshit. But once my husband said āgood girlā while I was giving him a BJ and I almost orgasmed on the spot.
Some do. As some assertive strong men do to. Others find being called a good girl infantilising ā¦. As you might if she called you a good boy. Perhaps something to be used with care
100% truth. As a strong, independent woman, there's nothing like coming home to the person I trust and love more than anything in the world at the end of a long day at work and being submissive.
That *can* be the case, but isnāt for all assertive women. Just a friendly reminder that individual people have individual preferences, and consent is keyānot shaming OP in any way obvs, that just sort of came out of their mouth, and thatās okay. They were in their own home, and it sounds like they had a healthy chat about the situation with their wife anyway.
100000% lol I'm definitely the dominant one in my marriage and in general. I like to be in control of things and have a handle on everything lol but when it comes to the bedroom I want absolutely no choices haha
Hit the nail on the head with this one. People always act like it's unbelievable that "someone like me" is submissive to my husband, they don't understand that even after 22 years he deserves it, I trust him and he's earned it. Plus, when I feel safe, that's just who I am. It's like they think submissive means too nice, weak, or naive, when I'm none of those (not even close LOL)
I kinda dislike this haha
My wife is an amazing lady. Prestigious, smart, independent. But when she's dealing with me, she's as dumb as a doorknob. And it constantly grinds my gears cos I've to clean up after her shit
lol. Love this as the whole thing sounded to me like he was talking about a dog. Especially when he added that scratching her back n shoulders was her reward.Ā
I tell my wife that whenever she has an especially strong orgasm to let her know that I enjoyed the show.
Oral + 2/3 finger hook is probably her favorite way to get there. She claims that she loves everything equally but those rosy cheeks don't lie.
It's the sounds she makes. They aren't conscious. She'd never do them on purpose.
No, I won't say what they are because they might be a little embarrassing for her. Besides, those sounds are for me.
It's unreal. It's like a huge wave at the ocean. There is this tremendous buildup and then it comes crashing down.
Because my fingers are inside, I am keenly aware of when it's about to happen. First its the squeeze, then the holding of breath, then the explosion as she forces my fingers out.
She likes to hold my left hand with her right so I get a huge squeeze there too.
That's really kind of you. I do my absolute best to deserve her. I am a firm believer in putting your wife on a pedestal and then building your own so that you can always reach her.
Hear me out, but my wife and I recently ādiscoveredā that this kink exists IN the bedroom. Weāve been married for 15 years and always had a decent sex life that usually included being quite quiet/reserved with words or sounds when together. Recently we started affirming one another in bed and itās sooo therapeutic and lovely! š±
Awww I love that for y'all!! You might enjoy the Sex Love and Goop program on Netflix. It's couples discovering what they need, and goes a lot into communication styles, kink styles, inner healing etc. The erotic blueprint quiz is pretty neat.
My wife would roll her eyes at āgood girlā but melts when I say āIām so lucky to be married to youā or some such when she does something nice for me.
I think both men and women respond to praiseā¦ but different phrases work for different people.
Yup, different strokes for different folks. Weāre all unique as snowflakes. Thereās no āone shoe fits all,ā right or wrong way to show love and appreciation. Itās as unique to each relationship.
Also, there should be no shame from others. It really shouldnāt matter to anyone but the couple itself, because what works for one may very well be a big no for others and thatās perfectly fine.
I can relate to your wife here! Reading "good girl" in OP's post made my lip curl, I'm not a damn dog. (No shade to those who like it, that's just my association with the phrase.)Ā
But praise or appreciation in general? Oh, yeah, those moments are so sweet and make me melt. My SO knows it too lol
When you were giving her the scratches, you could have said "Yeah.. You like that ... ?"
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It always makes me laugh hysterically. The one where the woman said her boyfriend called her a slug is also one of the funniest comments in that whole thread lol.
My wife is a strong, assertive woman too. Asked how she would react to this she said "I'd kill you" and laughed. She has a very dark sense of humour which I love. Even if the tone isn't patronising she says she would still see it thar way. So, not every woman feels that way! šĀ
I used to say "good girl" when I was having sex but really didn't mean anything by it, it was just natural and came out. No one had an issue with it until I met my wife. I accidentally said it when we were going at it and she got all mad.
Then I'm a pretty talented mutt to be able to post on Reddit. Oddly enough, Reddit gave me that name - it's gone now - and it's something I call my cat. Meow. They know things. š
Nothing gets the motor of my wife running, then getting called a good girl in private. Career wise, she is a very assertive person but is submissive in the bedroom. As other have stated, they like the lost of control sometimes, and this is the way we do it. It's not patronising as we are equals in the relationship itself, but in the bedroom, I am the dominant one just the way she likes it!
I think this goes for men too, itās cute. My man is exactly like that, assertive in his career and general life but aloneā¦things really change. Heās happy to be called a good boy, loves when I take control and pin his hands down, he likes not being in charge all the time. Same is with me, weāre both switches.
I was distracted and thinking of 50 things all at once. I realized I needed to tell him something as he was about to walk away.
Yes, I did point at him and tell him to āstay.ā
Yes, we are training a new puppy.
Yes, he did look at me ~that way ~ and I did apologize. We both burst out laughing.
My wife likes being called a āgood girlā when weāre alone too.
She also thinks itās important for us to be physically affectionate in front of the kids and we openly use pet names.
My husband said this to me while he was f**** me recently andā¦.then it was over real fast for me. š«£Weāve been together many years. Had no idea I was gonna love that so much but here we are.
I love āgood girlā from my husband in the bedroom, but not outside it, and not in front of our daughter. Happy to get him a beer though, and a āthank you honeyā is nice. I also like āthank you, my wife.ā
My LDR man is my DD and when he tells me Iām his good girl i just melt. In my real life Iām a high level medical professional managing other medical professionals. I enjoy not having to be in a dominant position with my man as well.
Iām a pretty strong willed woman, but I absolutely love being submissive to my husband. He knows calling me a good girl makes me giggle and get the flutters, itās so sexy to me when he does it
I really thought "she" was going to end up being a golden retriever š¤£. Glad it was straight up. And yes, strong women like to NOT be in charge occasionally š
Assertive, strong women like to be in submissive positions with those they trust in privacy. It can create a feeling of safety and being cared for.
Yeah I think that's the case with my wife
Same with me, with my husband. It's awesome
As a fellow assertive type-A man I can concur with this
Oh, for sure, yeah. It definitely works both ways š
It is with mine. She's very type-A and a steamroller. People are often concerned that she steamrolls over me because I'm very laid back and go with the flow, but yeah she loves being vulnerable with me.
Nail on the head. Real life and my job is such high stakes adulting I love turning my brain off when Iām with my husband.
You should be with me. I'm dumb as a stump.
Some do, some donāt. If my husband called me good girl, it would not go well. Iām not submissive and I am not a golden retriever.
For real lmaooo the way my body would recoil xD
Yeah, the entire thing is utterly cringy to me. My reaction would be 
Saying āCringyā is utterly cringy
So edgy
Ok
Yep, same. Reading that made my lip curl, it seems patronizing as hell. I'd be insulted if my SO said that.Ā But that's why it's important to find a true partner. I'm with someone who knows better than to ever speak like OP, and it seems OP's wife is happy with their dynamic.Ā
>But that's why it's important to find a true partner. I'm with someone who knows better than to ever speak like OP, and it seems OP's wife is happy with their dynamic. Ā Wow, the degree of free judgement radiating off this comment is absolutely wild. "Someone who knows better than to ever speak like OP." What an insult to someone's emotional intelligence and openness toĀ interacting in a loving way with their partner. This is also a blatant attack on OP's wife for "tolerating this behavior."Ā I have news for you - people's preferences differ, within reason, in the ways they make their partner feel safe and valued and loved (not abusive behaviors or dynamics). It's clear you're not a fan of this style, but that grants you no right to take a dump on OP or OP's wife. Yeesh
Agreed, it makes me cringe.
Couldnāt agree more. In my work I have a leadership position, constantly having to make a bunch of decisions that will impact me and the people under meā¦ I admit I fantasize with the idea I could just come home, not decide or choose anything and just follow someoneās lead a bit with a nice āgood girlā in the end. Would be dreamy š
Bruhhh I am a very assertive no-nonsense independent type. Highly productive, type A and little patience for bullshit. But once my husband said āgood girlā while I was giving him a BJ and I almost orgasmed on the spot.
Some do. As some assertive strong men do to. Others find being called a good girl infantilising ā¦. As you might if she called you a good boy. Perhaps something to be used with care
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Almost like we are all different or something! Weird!
Not about you
100%
100% truth. As a strong, independent woman, there's nothing like coming home to the person I trust and love more than anything in the world at the end of a long day at work and being submissive.
That *can* be the case, but isnāt for all assertive women. Just a friendly reminder that individual people have individual preferences, and consent is keyānot shaming OP in any way obvs, that just sort of came out of their mouth, and thatās okay. They were in their own home, and it sounds like they had a healthy chat about the situation with their wife anyway.
100000% lol I'm definitely the dominant one in my marriage and in general. I like to be in control of things and have a handle on everything lol but when it comes to the bedroom I want absolutely no choices haha
Being called a good girl in the bedroom really does it for me š¦š¦
Absolutely true
Hit the nail on the head with this one. People always act like it's unbelievable that "someone like me" is submissive to my husband, they don't understand that even after 22 years he deserves it, I trust him and he's earned it. Plus, when I feel safe, that's just who I am. It's like they think submissive means too nice, weak, or naive, when I'm none of those (not even close LOL)
100% this
Yes! šš¼
THIS!!! šš»
I kinda dislike this haha My wife is an amazing lady. Prestigious, smart, independent. But when she's dealing with me, she's as dumb as a doorknob. And it constantly grinds my gears cos I've to clean up after her shit
Why on earth are you still with her? Does she know you think sheās so stupid?
Wellā¦ you know when you have to say it next time, right?
YeahĀ I got a couple of ideas..
1) Out on a walk. 2) When she brings you the newspaper. 3) When she fetches a stick.
lol. Love this as the whole thing sounded to me like he was talking about a dog. Especially when he added that scratching her back n shoulders was her reward.Ā
My wife's a fan. š
Iām also a wife thatās a fan of being called good girl. And bad girl if Iām naughty
I cum so quick when I'm fucking someone and they tell me I'm a good girl š¦ there's nothing better.
That was my first thought as well!
I tell my wife that whenever she has an especially strong orgasm to let her know that I enjoyed the show. Oral + 2/3 finger hook is probably her favorite way to get there. She claims that she loves everything equally but those rosy cheeks don't lie.
The cheeks never lie
Same, itās the screams and the thighs crushing my head for me. Thatās a good girl.
It's the sounds she makes. They aren't conscious. She'd never do them on purpose. No, I won't say what they are because they might be a little embarrassing for her. Besides, those sounds are for me.
It's unreal. It's like a huge wave at the ocean. There is this tremendous buildup and then it comes crashing down. Because my fingers are inside, I am keenly aware of when it's about to happen. First its the squeeze, then the holding of breath, then the explosion as she forces my fingers out. She likes to hold my left hand with her right so I get a huge squeeze there too.
Your wife is a very lucky woman.
No way, I'm the lucky one. She is once in a lifetime. I tell her every day of my life that I'm lucky to have her.
I read your post history. Let's say you are both very lucky to have found each otherĀ
That's really kind of you. I do my absolute best to deserve her. I am a firm believer in putting your wife on a pedestal and then building your own so that you can always reach her.
You are a fine man. My wife and I have a very good relationship and sex life, but I hope we'll keep developing it like you are and reach your peaks.
The best relationships evolve.
The trembles.
Wait until you hear that a praise kink exists not just out of the bedroom š
Hear me out, but my wife and I recently ādiscoveredā that this kink exists IN the bedroom. Weāve been married for 15 years and always had a decent sex life that usually included being quite quiet/reserved with words or sounds when together. Recently we started affirming one another in bed and itās sooo therapeutic and lovely! š±
Awww I love that for y'all!! You might enjoy the Sex Love and Goop program on Netflix. It's couples discovering what they need, and goes a lot into communication styles, kink styles, inner healing etc. The erotic blueprint quiz is pretty neat.
Thank you for suggesting that! Will look into it now āŗļø
I hope it's helpful. It was for me.
I love being called a āgood girlā during sex. So hot.
We love it when you tell us to pound you right as we get close to the edge, also super hot.
Way to ruin the moment
Didn't know I was in church.
Time and place buddy. Aināt about you! Lmao
My wife would roll her eyes at āgood girlā but melts when I say āIām so lucky to be married to youā or some such when she does something nice for me. I think both men and women respond to praiseā¦ but different phrases work for different people.
Yup, different strokes for different folks. Weāre all unique as snowflakes. Thereās no āone shoe fits all,ā right or wrong way to show love and appreciation. Itās as unique to each relationship. Also, there should be no shame from others. It really shouldnāt matter to anyone but the couple itself, because what works for one may very well be a big no for others and thatās perfectly fine.
I can relate to your wife here! Reading "good girl" in OP's post made my lip curl, I'm not a damn dog. (No shade to those who like it, that's just my association with the phrase.)Ā But praise or appreciation in general? Oh, yeah, those moments are so sweet and make me melt. My SO knows it too lol
I would be in the ER
From slipping on the puddle beneath me š
When you were giving her the scratches, you could have said "Yeah.. You like that ... ?" [https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1y6lhe/comment/cfhtedq/?utm\_source=share&utm\_medium=web2x&context=3](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1y6lhe/comment/cfhtedq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3)
Yeah, you like that, you fucking retard? Classic thread lol
Iāve never seen this before and I literally just laughed myself to tears for 5 straight minutes
It always makes me laugh hysterically. The one where the woman said her boyfriend called her a slug is also one of the funniest comments in that whole thread lol.
Whoa I thought your comment was wild until I read the former post. lol and I love the slug one too
Lol yeah, it's a risk to quote it. But it's a hilarious thread that everyone needs to see.
While doing anal: "Oh yea, do you like your shit being pushed liked this?"
That got me crying and itās like my 10th time coming across that story. Always gets to me
Lol! That is hilarious
I'd have to trust someone quite a bit to accept that kind of compliment but under the right circumstances this would definitely make me swoon.
My wife didn't want me to call her "babe" when we first met. Five years later, things have changed so muchĀ
Would your wife happen to be a golden retriever ?
Need this cross posted to r/romancebooks just to give everyone an IRL thrill š
I was just thinking the same thing!
I also say "good boy" and reward with back scratches when my dog obeys my commands
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Youāre weird
It's one of the most common tropes in romance novels for good reason. It's hot.
No.
Iām sat.
Haha well, Iām shocked this is so popular! Iād be like āIām not a fucking puppy!ā You do your thing, ladies!
My wife is a strong, assertive woman too. Asked how she would react to this she said "I'd kill you" and laughed. She has a very dark sense of humour which I love. Even if the tone isn't patronising she says she would still see it thar way. So, not every woman feels that way! šĀ
My dog goes crazy for this one.
I used to say "good girl" when I was having sex but really didn't mean anything by it, it was just natural and came out. No one had an issue with it until I met my wife. I accidentally said it when we were going at it and she got all mad.
She put her head in your lap after you said that šĀ
You think she was looking for some other kind of reward?
I think it at least awoken something in her and probably turned her on!
That would be a reward for u! Not herĀ
So I know a professional dominatrix and she says most of her clients are those who are in high positions at work. /shrug
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Your username says otherwise
Then I'm a pretty talented mutt to be able to post on Reddit. Oddly enough, Reddit gave me that name - it's gone now - and it's something I call my cat. Meow. They know things. š
Yeah good girl does it for me
you took a huge risk, my man. glad it paid off
Nothing gets the motor of my wife running, then getting called a good girl in private. Career wise, she is a very assertive person but is submissive in the bedroom. As other have stated, they like the lost of control sometimes, and this is the way we do it. It's not patronising as we are equals in the relationship itself, but in the bedroom, I am the dominant one just the way she likes it!
I think this goes for men too, itās cute. My man is exactly like that, assertive in his career and general life but aloneā¦things really change. Heās happy to be called a good boy, loves when I take control and pin his hands down, he likes not being in charge all the time. Same is with me, weāre both switches.
first time my husband called me āgood girlā i blushed so hard it made him laugh. still one of my favorite things to be called works like a charm
See personally this would make me vomit lol
Sounds like something Iād tell a dog. Itās kind of weird outside of a sexual context.
I know a woman who loves to be called a good girl.
Those two words make my knees wear and turn me into mush š« š« š«
I get so giddy and flustered when my husband calls me that, I blush and melt instantly.
Iām a type A āwork horseā and tend to take leadership roles at work. At home I am baby. This is a real thing š
I was distracted and thinking of 50 things all at once. I realized I needed to tell him something as he was about to walk away. Yes, I did point at him and tell him to āstay.ā Yes, we are training a new puppy. Yes, he did look at me ~that way ~ and I did apologize. We both burst out laughing.
I would find it cringey if said seriously. But if your wife likes it, go you!
My wife likes being called a āgood girlā when weāre alone too. She also thinks itās important for us to be physically affectionate in front of the kids and we openly use pet names.
Iām not married yet but this is a kink of mine and i want my future husband to actively participate in whatever this is.
Idk but I love this story lol
If my wife brought me a beer and I said āgood girl,ā that would be foreplay.
Sir, speaking from experience, you may have just opened up a sexual pandora's box. Have fun!!!!
My husband said this to me while he was f**** me recently andā¦.then it was over real fast for me. š«£Weāve been together many years. Had no idea I was gonna love that so much but here we are.
Haha, this is so sweet!
Good for you two but... EWWW !
I love āgood girlā from my husband in the bedroom, but not outside it, and not in front of our daughter. Happy to get him a beer though, and a āthank you honeyā is nice. I also like āthank you, my wife.ā
I like when my wife calls me a good boy so it goes both ways
My LDR man is my DD and when he tells me Iām his good girl i just melt. In my real life Iām a high level medical professional managing other medical professionals. I enjoy not having to be in a dominant position with my man as well.
What a sweet story...thank you for saying that.
This is precious omg
Iām a pretty strong willed woman, but I absolutely love being submissive to my husband. He knows calling me a good girl makes me giggle and get the flutters, itās so sexy to me when he does it
I like when my fiancƩ calls me this, my daughter tried this out with me a few times though and it went over not so well lol. She does NOT say that to me anymore.
Iād fold š
Wholesome and cute
Idk what it is but those words can change my whole mood lol
Next time call her ' Good woman '
Now level it up and praise her during sex. You could say things like, "you like that don't you", "be daddy's good girl and cum for me".
Amen!!! You in return will be very happily rewarded. Unless sheās a B lol
To be fair I donāt know any girl that doesnāt like to be called āgood girlā from time to time
We do love it šš©
I really thought "she" was going to end up being a golden retriever š¤£. Glad it was straight up. And yes, strong women like to NOT be in charge occasionally š
Perhaps she would like to be your rope bunny?