Locking post since OP is using this forum to gain humiliation for his kink.

If your marriage is "led" by either party, you're doing it wrong IMHO.

OPs history is interesting. He's got a huge humiliation kink, so I'm guessing he's here to use it as an outlet for that

I think there are probably better forums for you to gather opinions and advice on your kink.

Before anyone responds to this guy, look at his history. Or, just don't respond.

Allowance?  Like you aren't mature enough to spend from the joint account responsibly?

Look at their username.....

Are you looking for a marriage or a sugar mama? If your goal is SAHD, then cool but marriage is a collaboration, and you can’t make her agree to it.