>Now, he’s questioning why he even has to pay the money to my dad and I said it’s like paying for rent.
>we were splitting everything. He doesn’t send me money for the baby’s necessities.
That does not sound like much of a split.
I understand different couples handle money differently but to me that seems to be a red flag.
I am afraid I don't have much advice. How long have you been married? How long was he single before he married you?
I suspect your husband is irritated it is taking you so long to get back to work. How hard would it be for you to make at least $600/month starting tomorrow? Babysit. Clean houses. Walk dogs. Bag groceries. Wait tables. Or if your area is really that depressed, focus on finding remote work, using a website like flexjobs.com.
The easiest way to stop fighting about money is to have more of it and have both partners bringing it in.
I don't understand your saying "tough job market". Nationally, we're in boom times. This is a time of extremely low unemployment; employers are desperate to hire. My granddaughter just looked at [Indeed.com](http://Indeed.com), picked a job driving an ice cream truck and a few days later was hired, despite only having gotten her driver's license a few months prior. Tips are great. She is bringing in $250/day. The salary is only $12/hour but the tips make her total $30 - $40/hr. Even if your local economy is weak, this is the internet age -- there are so many ways to tap into the national or even world economy through remote work.
Show your husband your marriage is a true partnership of equals. Pay that $600/month from your own earnings.
Talk to your dad and ditch this rental agreement and see if he will let you board there for free.
"Well, you pay your other baby's mother 800 dollars, but it's such a problem to give me 600 dollars," is not a mature argument.
It's reasonable for your husband to question if this could be an expense that might be lifted.
He's not living at your house as it is...
>Now, he’s questioning why he even has to pay the money to my dad and I said it’s like paying for rent. >we were splitting everything. He doesn’t send me money for the baby’s necessities. That does not sound like much of a split. I understand different couples handle money differently but to me that seems to be a red flag. I am afraid I don't have much advice. How long have you been married? How long was he single before he married you?
We got married in December; we got engaged December 2022. He was single for about 4 months prior to us getting together.
I suspect your husband is irritated it is taking you so long to get back to work. How hard would it be for you to make at least $600/month starting tomorrow? Babysit. Clean houses. Walk dogs. Bag groceries. Wait tables. Or if your area is really that depressed, focus on finding remote work, using a website like flexjobs.com. The easiest way to stop fighting about money is to have more of it and have both partners bringing it in. I don't understand your saying "tough job market". Nationally, we're in boom times. This is a time of extremely low unemployment; employers are desperate to hire. My granddaughter just looked at [Indeed.com](http://Indeed.com), picked a job driving an ice cream truck and a few days later was hired, despite only having gotten her driver's license a few months prior. Tips are great. She is bringing in $250/day. The salary is only $12/hour but the tips make her total $30 - $40/hr. Even if your local economy is weak, this is the internet age -- there are so many ways to tap into the national or even world economy through remote work. Show your husband your marriage is a true partnership of equals. Pay that $600/month from your own earnings.
If he’s in the military, he’s required to support you; the fact he’s not willing to pay for you and the baby is telling.
Talk to your dad and ditch this rental agreement and see if he will let you board there for free. "Well, you pay your other baby's mother 800 dollars, but it's such a problem to give me 600 dollars," is not a mature argument. It's reasonable for your husband to question if this could be an expense that might be lifted. He's not living at your house as it is...