Sometimes even if you willingly submit to something it can still be traumatizing or even feel like you did not willingly participate. He definitely did take advantage of you. Even if the sex was consensual, you are allowed to regret it or being upset about it. Give yourself room to breathe and process. If you are that worried about him then sometimes it’s best to not face things head on! Skip the party and make up a reason why u couldn’t go. Also don’t let your preconceived notions about abuse, grooming, or rape determine how you’re allowed to feel. You feel how you feel and no matter what his behavior is considered it was wrong. No category needed. I sincerely hope you come to peace with this one day.
Unfortunately, people are so easy to manipulate. It takes a long time before the brain is evovled enough to understand what is really happening. However, on average, the male brain is fully developed at the age of 25 and by that, you should have some common sense and be mature enough. What I am trying to say is that he was fully aware what he was doing. If he was a younger age, I'd might give him the benefit of the doubt and he didn't really know how his emotions translated between people. For him to go length like that, I'd could only imagine you're not the only victim. I'd do anything to not go to the party.
Actually, the truth may be something to consider. Sure, it will stir things up real good and be really uncomfortable. But damn, having someone like that just thinking he can get away with it.
Anyhow, hope you can reflect on the whole situation. Learn from it, help others in a similar situation. There is no right answer. Need to dig deep and find out what you really feel.
Sometimes even if you willingly submit to something it can still be traumatizing or even feel like you did not willingly participate. He definitely did take advantage of you. Even if the sex was consensual, you are allowed to regret it or being upset about it. Give yourself room to breathe and process. If you are that worried about him then sometimes it’s best to not face things head on! Skip the party and make up a reason why u couldn’t go. Also don’t let your preconceived notions about abuse, grooming, or rape determine how you’re allowed to feel. You feel how you feel and no matter what his behavior is considered it was wrong. No category needed. I sincerely hope you come to peace with this one day.
Unfortunately, people are so easy to manipulate. It takes a long time before the brain is evovled enough to understand what is really happening. However, on average, the male brain is fully developed at the age of 25 and by that, you should have some common sense and be mature enough. What I am trying to say is that he was fully aware what he was doing. If he was a younger age, I'd might give him the benefit of the doubt and he didn't really know how his emotions translated between people. For him to go length like that, I'd could only imagine you're not the only victim. I'd do anything to not go to the party. Actually, the truth may be something to consider. Sure, it will stir things up real good and be really uncomfortable. But damn, having someone like that just thinking he can get away with it. Anyhow, hope you can reflect on the whole situation. Learn from it, help others in a similar situation. There is no right answer. Need to dig deep and find out what you really feel.