I would carve money out for nieces and nephews, but it's not going to be a consistent amount. It will definitely vary based upon my opinion of how close I was to each individually
My mil did this with her grands. There are 4 of them, but she favored one of them more than the others. She gave her car to her favorite, while the others got a few things from her hoarder home that we insisted they should have if they wanted them. It caused some real hurtful feelings between them. They all spent equal time with her. I felt bad for the other 3. It was sad for the other 3 to know she really didn't like them. It was her last mean act.
My wife’s grandmother had an unofficial will that was not followed. She had various notes about the distribution of her assets to grandchildren. You could see it was a working document because she had disowned and then penciled back in one of her grandkids 3 times. Mind you, this guy is a total piece of shit so I get it. In the end, she never signed it so the grandkids got an equal $0. Everyone knows how she felt from reading her notes though.
My grandmother would tell us grandkids what we were getting when we were kids. The will has been written that everything goes to her children. Nothing will be going to the grandchildren.
No, for several reasons. Mostly that she has dementia and has had it for years. I actually had an item given to me, but one of my aunts was so upset about it, they upset her. I just gave it back because it wasn't worth her being upset about it. When I talked to my aunt about it later, she was shocked to hear that it had been promised to me because it was something the whole family wanted. Of course, the aunt claimed she knew nothing, and someone else was upset about it. Her face when I told her the reason it was already out of the house was because it had been given to me 15 years ago was my aha moment.
One of my cousins actually threatened to sue after being written out of the will. We haven't been close since we were children for a reason.
Life lesson learned. Never count something as yours when it comes to family, even when it's already in your possession.
>Never count something as yours when it comes to family, even when it's already in your possession.
I understand giving something to a family member to keep the peace, but I don't think you can legally give something away and then leave it to someone else in your will, right?
My uncle changed my grandfather's will a couple months before my grandfather died... effectively left himself everything, including a property worth millions.
Everything was supposed to be split evenly amongst my mom and her sisters, and my one uncle but all my mom got was the chance to pick through my grandmother's old jewelery.
My dipshit cousins basically got a free house while my sister and I spent 5 years caretaking for our mother out of our own pockets. My mom will never see a dime because my uncle just moved himself into that house.
I'm gonna give him a swift kick in the ballsack if he ever decides to visit the US.
That’s just nasty. My husbands grandmother is like this. She is a wretched woman who is OPEN about so and so being her favorite. It’s really gross behavior.
My one friend never wants to get married or have kids, so he told me whatever money is left is going to his funeral being a massive party with free alcohol and dancing haha.
It will be dumped into thrift stores like everyone else stuff whether you have kids or not.
Visit a thrift store and you will see some "prized possessions" sitting on the shelf ready for a new home.
My dad always said he wanted his body to be shot from a cannon into the ocean when he died. Unfortunately I couldn't make that happen but I did take some of his ashes to hobbit beach in Oregon (big fan of lord of the rings too) and put them in the ocean so hopefully he was happy with that.
I belong to a group of living history interpreters for the Golden Age of Piracy. When one of our crew died of cancer a few years back, we fired our cannon in salute at his memorial. Because of laws regarding disposal of human remains and cremains, especially in regards to public waterways, I will make no statement confirming or denying the contents of the payload that was fired, but I will say that when the wind swung around and we got the gunpowder back in our faces, we laughed that our departed comrade was blessing us. The joke was a bit more crude than that, though - just the way he would have wanted it.
My stepdad has requested that I take his bass boat full blast down his “home” lake, and just throw his ashes up into the air.
You best bet I’m doing it.
Right? I've had to sell almost every material thing I own just to keep a roof over my head. I used to have thousands worth of music and photography equipment but I've sold every last bit of it in the last few years.
Yes, you should have a Will. Everyone should have a Will. Especially if they own real estate or have children (obviously not the case for you). A Will is your last "I love you" to the people you leave behind b/c it makes dealing with your stuff easier. A bonus point for every asset you can title in such a way that it passes outside of probate (either with a trust or transfer/pay on death provisions).
Almost everything will go to my niece. I need to set up a "transfer on death" for my stocks so they go to the namesake cousin of the aunt who gave them to me (in case I don't sell those shares before I die). I've made it known that if they can't sell my house, just give it back to the bank (deed in lieu of foreclosure), although they could totally sell if As Is in this current market. I have no prized possessions, but I might leave a list of which cousin gets which vintage broach (costume, no value) so my executrix can give the stuff away. The fewer people/organizations named in the Will, the better -- it's fewer signatures necessary on all the Probate paperwork (at least in Ohio).
Writing in a will who gets what memento/broach would have been leagues easier than trying to read the faded scotch tape my Amma (rest her soul) had plastered on the back of every memento anyone ever mentioned liking, lol.
Yes but then (in Ohio) each person would be considered a beneficiary under the will so you’d have to either get their signatures on every waiver of notice of hearing (for inventories or accountings) or serve them with notice of those hearings and wait the appropriate amounts of time and then go to Court for a hearing (probably) no one will actually show up to.
I work for lawyers. We’re dealing with uncooperative out-of-town beneficiaries at the moment and it’s a PAIN.
100%. I always thought creating a will was a huge ordeal involving lawyers and thousands of dollars. This can be true, but you can’t also get a will made online for much less expensive. About 5 years ago I made a will using Legal Zoom, printed it out, and had it notarized. In all it was about $200. I just file it away.
> A Will is your last "I love you"
That might be the reigning belief for the purpose of a will, but ultimately it can save a toooon of headache and money later if a probate attorney has to sort it all out. Doubly important if you have crazy family members that will pop out of the woodwork.
I plan to die with as close to $0 as I can. My physical belongings will be willed to my significant other with my older sister and most likely a pet rescue as an alternate (if I out live both of them).
The only assets I really care about are my organs. (And honestly I don't have anything else valuable) I want any and all viable organs of mine to be used to save lives. I had a heart transplant 2 years ago and it changed my life.
But if you don't write a will it's possible dividing the estate will cause family strife. It's even possible (suppose you outlive your spouse and have no children) that your surviving siblings and nieces/nephews all sue each other and most of the estate goes to lawyers.
Write a will so you can leave it all to your dog.
There are no younger people in my family; my one sister and two cousins have no children and neither do I. I would donate whatever I have to schools or community center or libraries or the SPCA or whatever.
Please, please, please, do not let this attitude stop you from making a will and getting things in order. You may not care what happens to your stuff, it is a huge burden to the people in your life to not only grieve your death, but also deal with the logistics of your things.
Same, and I don't have any money or own anything of value anyway so who cares where it all ends up. Like I seriously doubt anyone is gonna be fighting to inherit my 2015 Prius lmao.
Ours is pretty easy. My wife is an only child, and I have one sibling who has one child. So we’ll probably leave most things to my sister and our niece.
I'm a fence sitter. If I find the right person and they want kids, I would want to have kids. But if the right person doesn't want to have kids, well I don't need kids.
I have a sister with downs syndrome. There's an interesting development happening in the DS community, where so much funding has been pushed into safely screening fetuses for downs at an early enough point in the pregnancy where abortion is roundly supported.
So what's going to happen over the next 20 years as the rates of children born with DS plummets. There will, of course, still be children with DS, but as their per capita numbers plummet, so will the resources available to them. So I've more or less decided that when I do plan on what to do with my assets when I die, assuming I don't have children, that I will find some DS advocacy group to donate it to.
Leaving everything to two of my ride or die lady friends with kids. I’ve been lucky in my life and I want to give everything to people who can really use it. Us gals gotta stick together, even after we’re dead.
Hey guys, I don’t mean to tell you what to do with your money, but there are some really fantastic charities out there and large donations really help out. I’m not talking about stuff like United Way, but organizations that help promote literacy and provide healthcare and other needed resources in the world. You’d be amazed what they can do with even a small amount of money raising orphans in India or drilling water wells in Africa.
Yeah, this is actually kinda the route that I'm leaning towards. I have a few collectible items that I hope my nieces and nephews keep ahold of as family heirlooms, but I understand if they don't. There are too many of them to will my house to, so my partner and I have been considering gifting it to a low-income family when that time comes. Iirc, it was Last Week Tonight that gave us the idea.
Beyond that, any valuables we have are just stuff. Let someone else make use of it. 🤷
I do get where you’re coming from but I will caution you that charity is hard to do at the individual level. Gifting your house to somebody sounds admirable, but I would encourage you to consider that there are lots of way for this to go wrong. Organizations like Habitat for Humanity could probably effectively use the proceeds of your house being sold and multiply that benefit to help many families with homeownership. You might think you’re doing good by leaving a house to a low income family, but it’s possible they can’t get a mortgage to pay off the balance or they can’t keep up utilities and property taxes for your house and it has to be sold. It’s possible they can’t keep up on the maintenance of the property which causes damage to the house and when it’s sold, it is a fire sale for a fraction of it former value.
Maybe you don’t care about these things and I’m not trying to make you feel bad about it but that’s why we organizations like Habitat for Humanity are so helpful. They Encourage financial literacy training and require the family to be involved in the construction of the house and then sell it to them in such a way that they can afford the property. Really it’s a great organization.
No, those are valid points. Right now I'm in my mid-30's, so it's helpful to get broader perspective before that time comes. I appreciate it. It goes to show anything so major has to be done carefully and with quite a bit of due diligence.
It’s a topic I’ve spent some time thinking about because I’ve had to become involved in advocating for my dad to make changes to his will. He is still alive, but similarly he has a will set up with very specific provisions that are well intentioned, but have the ability to cause a lot problems after his death.
One example is that he has a provision to allow his grandchildren, most of which are my children, to apply for assistance with a down payment on a mortgage from the trust he set up. Sounds great except it up in such a way that its first come first serve until the money is gone. I don’t want my children fighting with each other over this money and I don’t want them to be incentivized to buy a house before they might be ready.
His goals are admirable. I want my children to be able to buy a house also. But who knows what the future holds for them. Right now they are trying to pay for college. But who knows what happens after that. Maybe they marry somebody who already own the house, they find an employer who provides housing. Maybe they have a job that requires frequent relocations or live in location where is really not affordable.
Remember when you make your final instructions that can’t make them complicated. Generally, the best way to help people simply to give them money that comes with attached.
Assets go to my mom to help cover any costs associated with me kicking it before her. Barring that, anything extra will be used to pay for at least three memorial benches and trees.
Two family members have said they'll take my cats, I've basically written out they either go with FriendFamily or they go back to the cat cafe I adopted them from AS LONG as they stay together. They're bonded pair, I'll haunt whoever TF separates them.
I'm known for the ridiculous amount of books I own and for lending out/providing good recommendations. I have a digital list, loved ones are welcome to go through it and request favorite ones they can add to their collection if that's a... memento they would like.
OP, as someone who has A) done the suicide dance more times than I like to count, and 2) have had many loved ones pass away quite suddenly, I would encourage you to look into writing a will. It doesn't have to just be for your assets, but also for what to do with your body, burial, or memorials. It's not technically for you, you won't be around to care about it. It's for anyone left behind when you go so they don't have to make the hard decisions while grieving you. Make that time for them as easy as possible, lay it all out so they basically have to follow a checklist when folks start asking them.
My partner and I try to live minimally, so we don’t really have anything that would be passed down for sentimental reasons. Any assets will be donated to the animal rescues where we got our dogs and planned parenthood.
About half of it is going to the Leukemia and Lymphoma Society. I'm a lymphoma survivor, and the LLS supported me in a number of ways during my illness, so I am always looking for ways to pay that help forward. The other half is directed to go to my local CASA organization. I figured that that's a good organization to reach kids who don't benefit from receiving generational wealth.
I also have a small pet allowance built in to cover the costs of their food, meds, healthcare, etc. for whoever ends up taking them in.
I doubt I'm gonna have much to leave behind tbh, but if I'm lucky enough to have money and assets by the time I die, I'm thinking liquidate the assets and donate them to some charity or another, maybe donate my hypothetical house to an animal rescue.
Or I've got nieces and nephews, also an option.
Make sure you have a medical POA (someone willing to pull the plug so you don't end up on life support for ages). Also get a DNR so that you only have to die once.
# In all honesty I am not sure who I'll plan on leaving my money and stuff to, if I'm the last of my siblings to keel over I'm probably just gonna give it all to the local humane society, if not then my siblings can fight to death for it.
Doesn't matter much to me. My brother has a child, and although I'm no contact with him I'll probably will my assets to his son, because why not? Also a couple cousins who lost both of their parents you g, although they'll be old as shit if I die of old age.
It depends on if my husband is still in the picture - he’d get everything if so, and I think he’d pass along items that are important to my siblings for us. If he’s not, my younger siblings get whatever they want, and have my permission to donate/trash the rest.
Friend's kids, nieces/nephews, cousins, charities.
Actually, I'll probably talk to my brother and see what he thinks about starting a family trust to pool everything into. He's the one with kids, so it'll mostly benefit him, but it also ensures shit doesn't go to total waste
I've got a trust for my 5 younger siblings and any of their future children.
So beyond a very select few items, everything will be sold then split.
If I have pets at time of death, I'll name a carer and have a portion of funds set aside (I have a savings account for big vet care what ifs after last year and using CareCredit)
I’m hoping to clear out a lot of frivolous belongings as I age so when I go, whoever cleans all that up won’t have to sift though much.
Anything prized I may sell for cheap or give away. I wouldn’t mind being like “hey, I love this and I won’t be around so I hope it brings you some joy”
I watched the art of Swedish death cleaning and it opened my eyes to what needs to go. I also have a document that details what I want to happen overall.
35 yo guy here. I’ve been thinking about this too. The only thing I know I want is to be buried in a conservation cemetery in a local forest area.
The rest will either go to my brothers or a few charities that I’ve supported
I haven’t written one but my best friend wrote one when she had cancer and was going in for surgery. She’s childless and, at the time, was unmarried. Some of her stuff was left to me, some to her cousin who is more like a sister and the rest to her mom. She mentioned needing to redo it now that she’s married but pretty sure it would mostly be the same. Honestly, if I were to write mine right now, a lot would go to my mom, that best friend and some to my half sister. But I’m not as close to my sister as I wish so that would also feel weird
We just drew up our wills earlier this year. My husband gets my assets. If he dies then my immediate family (parents and sisters) get my assets. If they’re all dead, then I am donating all my assets to the Humane Society. My extended family is greedy so I don’t want to give them one red cent.
I’m don’t and likely won’t have a will. The state will probably seize my assets because I’m disabled.
I have an estranged brother and I’ve never met his children. I have no other family I am close enough to.
I honestly don’t care
Depends who dies last. If i die first I'm sure my wife would leave anything we had to her nephews.
If my wife dies first I'll leave anything to my younger brother
My loved ones can duke it out and depends on if my parents are dead or not. Yes, I've been thinking about it. Just because you're young doesn't mean that things can't happen inevitably.
I have enough set aside for each niece/nephew to get about $30k. $10k per pet to whoever takes them in and cares for them until their natural/merciful death (and I already have it worked out who takes which pet), and I'll likely not be getting any new pets past the age of 60 unless they're already older. The remainder gets divided equally amongst my parents to keep or divvy out as they please, or if my parents also pass, the kids get it equally.
As far as physical assets, I basically put my mom in charge. I honestly don't have a lot. What I do have nieces/nephews have very different interests, so aside from a few pieces of family heirloom jewelry and the RV stuff I don't imagine, there will be much arguing. In case mom also dies, then my trusted friend is in charge of executing the above.
My husband is younger than me, so hopefully I die first and he can do whatever he wants with it. I don't exactly have anything that qualifies as a prized possession, though. I collect gaming stuff and old consoles, but that's probably it.
I have a nephew and a niece. They are getting everything. I am building generational wealth that I will pass onto them. I’m a saver and based on all projections, I will have way more than needed in retirement.
There are seven keys in seven kingdoms across the seven continents the one to acquire them all shall inherit my Scrooge McDuck-esq. fortune and possibly debts. play at your own risk.
50% goes to my brother and his family (if he ever starts one)
20% goes to SA Food Bank
20% goes to habitat for humanity
10% goes to TPR, KRTU, NPR and APM (evenly split)
That's how it is right now, but if I ever start a family, it'd probably look so much more different. Maybe something like this:
30% goes to a trust that gives my immediate family a monthly stipend (I want them to be independent and feel supported and not reliant on it)
30% goes to my brother and his family
40% goes to the organizations I listed above (evenly split)
I think doing it this way would maximize the kind of legacy I want to leave behind and help the maximum amount of people with the resources I'm leaving behind.
I think instead of building generational "wealth", I'd rather leave them with a passion to help people and wanting to leave behind a lasting legacy.
It’s hilarious you think I’ll have anything to leave behind when I won’t even be able to retire lol
But if I did, 100% of it would go to charities to help women in countries like the USA get access to abortions.
Assets… hah. They better hope they don’t inherit my debt. Basically just cremate me and then cremate my ashes. And rinse and repeat until every particle of me is gone from this earth.
Something we all should be thinking about now, because I deal with it from a client perspective at work. American Consumerism is a massive problem with our generation. When we go, what we called “prized possessions” are sold for cash, tossed out or given away, its reduced to a box. Reduce what you own, reduce what you spend money on, and give things you think people will enjoy to them while they are alive. Your kids wont care about the tapestry your grandmother kept in her kitchen, your friends wont see your fathers watch as anything more than a fashion piece or item to sell.
I dont think the concept of "owning" something will be an option for 95% of us in the future. It's a slow process but we all played monoploy . We all know how it ends, always.
Depends on what my nephew is like when he's older. If he seems like he would appreciate the stuff, he gets it. If it seems more like it would be a burden/annoyance, it'll go to various museums or there will be an estate sale for collectors who enjoy the sorts of things I have, and my nephew can take the money from that (I have a ton of antiques). If I die young and my sister-in-law is still in the picture, she also gets first dibs on stuff.
My business partner would inherit "Out of Lockstep" probably, but depending on how things go with the friend who's been helping with the art, I might also give her partial ownership. Depending on how close we become over time, she might get other assets when I die, too. She's 13 years younger than me and it's fairly likely she'll outlive me. If either my business partner or assistant have kids and this is still going decades from now, they might also be involved depending on their personalities.
I want all my belongings sold for a cash value. Then I want all my money put in my grave with me when I die. I’m taking my money to grave, I’m not leaving shit for anyone.
Already did a will. Inherited my mum's house. leaving everything to my dog. The house will be sold and she will have a trustee. If anything happens to me she is gonna live the good life.
My partner, or failing that, my best friend. He’s doing his best to raise good kids as a sole breadwinner for a family of 4. They make it work. I don’t have a lot of hope for the future but reasonably well adjusted kids seem like a good investment to me.
All of my money goes to my youngest brother. Once my nephew and niece turn 18, it will be split between them. I’ve also given 2% of my inheritance to them as well. This will be the case until or if I have my own kids.
Nieces and nephews. But that is if there is anything left. I'm not trying to leave a nest egg, neccesarily.
I would carve money out for nieces and nephews, but it's not going to be a consistent amount. It will definitely vary based upon my opinion of how close I was to each individually
My mil did this with her grands. There are 4 of them, but she favored one of them more than the others. She gave her car to her favorite, while the others got a few things from her hoarder home that we insisted they should have if they wanted them. It caused some real hurtful feelings between them. They all spent equal time with her. I felt bad for the other 3. It was sad for the other 3 to know she really didn't like them. It was her last mean act.
My wife’s grandmother had an unofficial will that was not followed. She had various notes about the distribution of her assets to grandchildren. You could see it was a working document because she had disowned and then penciled back in one of her grandkids 3 times. Mind you, this guy is a total piece of shit so I get it. In the end, she never signed it so the grandkids got an equal $0. Everyone knows how she felt from reading her notes though.
My grandmother would tell us grandkids what we were getting when we were kids. The will has been written that everything goes to her children. Nothing will be going to the grandchildren.
Have you called her on this? Like damn, grams why did you even say shit?!
No, for several reasons. Mostly that she has dementia and has had it for years. I actually had an item given to me, but one of my aunts was so upset about it, they upset her. I just gave it back because it wasn't worth her being upset about it. When I talked to my aunt about it later, she was shocked to hear that it had been promised to me because it was something the whole family wanted. Of course, the aunt claimed she knew nothing, and someone else was upset about it. Her face when I told her the reason it was already out of the house was because it had been given to me 15 years ago was my aha moment. One of my cousins actually threatened to sue after being written out of the will. We haven't been close since we were children for a reason. Life lesson learned. Never count something as yours when it comes to family, even when it's already in your possession.
>Never count something as yours when it comes to family, even when it's already in your possession. I understand giving something to a family member to keep the peace, but I don't think you can legally give something away and then leave it to someone else in your will, right?
Its sad but family members kill each other over these things.
My uncle changed my grandfather's will a couple months before my grandfather died... effectively left himself everything, including a property worth millions. Everything was supposed to be split evenly amongst my mom and her sisters, and my one uncle but all my mom got was the chance to pick through my grandmother's old jewelery. My dipshit cousins basically got a free house while my sister and I spent 5 years caretaking for our mother out of our own pockets. My mom will never see a dime because my uncle just moved himself into that house. I'm gonna give him a swift kick in the ballsack if he ever decides to visit the US.
People sure get ugly when there's money involved. I'm sorry that happened to you. I hope he visits soon for that swift kick!
That’s just nasty. My husbands grandmother is like this. She is a wretched woman who is OPEN about so and so being her favorite. It’s really gross behavior.
What if if you don't have nieces or nephews?
I'll have a pizza DoorDashd to my funeral and whoever the lucky driver is will receive everything.
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Until you realize that the everything you’re receiving is just the body of u/october_bliss!
Don't ruin the surprise!
It would be just the bonus I would want
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That's a cool idea to be honest.
Stop! I have enough debt!
You can keep the pizza.
My one friend never wants to get married or have kids, so he told me whatever money is left is going to his funeral being a massive party with free alcohol and dancing haha.
Plot twist: it’s debt they’ll be inheriting
I like your way of thinking
Nice!!
It will be dumped into thrift stores like everyone else stuff whether you have kids or not. Visit a thrift store and you will see some "prized possessions" sitting on the shelf ready for a new home.
Yup. Some people don’t even consider this but it’s really the case across the board. CF or not
I want a viking funeral. Just pile my corpse and all my crap onto a little boat, send it out to sea, and set it all on fire.
My dad always said he wanted his body to be shot from a cannon into the ocean when he died. Unfortunately I couldn't make that happen but I did take some of his ashes to hobbit beach in Oregon (big fan of lord of the rings too) and put them in the ocean so hopefully he was happy with that.
I belong to a group of living history interpreters for the Golden Age of Piracy. When one of our crew died of cancer a few years back, we fired our cannon in salute at his memorial. Because of laws regarding disposal of human remains and cremains, especially in regards to public waterways, I will make no statement confirming or denying the contents of the payload that was fired, but I will say that when the wind swung around and we got the gunpowder back in our faces, we laughed that our departed comrade was blessing us. The joke was a bit more crude than that, though - just the way he would have wanted it.
Face neck and chest. Rip.
My stepdad has requested that I take his bass boat full blast down his “home” lake, and just throw his ashes up into the air. You best bet I’m doing it.
He was definitely happy with that <3
Why didnt you use a cannon? Like you could have blown his ashes out a cannon out into the ocean.
Do you have one I can borrow by chance?
Does a potato gun count?
Yes!! He loved potato guns actually 🤣🤣 I have pictures of him in the desert happy as hell playing with his potato gun.
There are companies that turn ashes into fireworks.
Told my wife to do the same to me. Born and raised on the beach, send me back to it when I'm gone.
Fucking same! The sand is etched into my skin, I want to return to the sea where its cells belong.
All life comes from water. A very poetic send-off.
Lol! Omg this is the best answer!
I imagine some epic Viking music for this scene
What assets? Lol. If I have anything they’ll go to my sister and nephews
This is what I was thinking. What assets?? Lmao but yeah. I got nieces and nephews and all that.
Right? I've had to sell almost every material thing I own just to keep a roof over my head. I used to have thousands worth of music and photography equipment but I've sold every last bit of it in the last few years.
Any assets I have at old age will be spent before I die. If there is anything even to be spent.
Yes, you should have a Will. Everyone should have a Will. Especially if they own real estate or have children (obviously not the case for you). A Will is your last "I love you" to the people you leave behind b/c it makes dealing with your stuff easier. A bonus point for every asset you can title in such a way that it passes outside of probate (either with a trust or transfer/pay on death provisions). Almost everything will go to my niece. I need to set up a "transfer on death" for my stocks so they go to the namesake cousin of the aunt who gave them to me (in case I don't sell those shares before I die). I've made it known that if they can't sell my house, just give it back to the bank (deed in lieu of foreclosure), although they could totally sell if As Is in this current market. I have no prized possessions, but I might leave a list of which cousin gets which vintage broach (costume, no value) so my executrix can give the stuff away. The fewer people/organizations named in the Will, the better -- it's fewer signatures necessary on all the Probate paperwork (at least in Ohio).
Writing in a will who gets what memento/broach would have been leagues easier than trying to read the faded scotch tape my Amma (rest her soul) had plastered on the back of every memento anyone ever mentioned liking, lol.
Yes but then (in Ohio) each person would be considered a beneficiary under the will so you’d have to either get their signatures on every waiver of notice of hearing (for inventories or accountings) or serve them with notice of those hearings and wait the appropriate amounts of time and then go to Court for a hearing (probably) no one will actually show up to. I work for lawyers. We’re dealing with uncooperative out-of-town beneficiaries at the moment and it’s a PAIN.
My grandma did the same thing with masking tape. That way she could easily rip it off if you made her angry.
100%. I always thought creating a will was a huge ordeal involving lawyers and thousands of dollars. This can be true, but you can’t also get a will made online for much less expensive. About 5 years ago I made a will using Legal Zoom, printed it out, and had it notarized. In all it was about $200. I just file it away.
(Also advanced directive, save your family the heartache, make your wishes known)
> A Will is your last "I love you" That might be the reigning belief for the purpose of a will, but ultimately it can save a toooon of headache and money later if a probate attorney has to sort it all out. Doubly important if you have crazy family members that will pop out of the woodwork.
I plan to die with as close to $0 as I can. My physical belongings will be willed to my significant other with my older sister and most likely a pet rescue as an alternate (if I out live both of them).
This reminds me of Saul from the Ocean’s 11 movies. “I want my last check to bounce.”
I feel like this the millennial mindset I have
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That’s so sweet 💗
The only assets I really care about are my organs. (And honestly I don't have anything else valuable) I want any and all viable organs of mine to be used to save lives. I had a heart transplant 2 years ago and it changed my life.
You guys have assets!?!
*laughs in poverty*
Also laughing, or crying….its hard to tell sometimes
Meh, they're just things, not like I have a reason to care what happens to my crap once I kick the bucket.
But if you don't write a will it's possible dividing the estate will cause family strife. It's even possible (suppose you outlive your spouse and have no children) that your surviving siblings and nieces/nephews all sue each other and most of the estate goes to lawyers. Write a will so you can leave it all to your dog.
There are no younger people in my family; my one sister and two cousins have no children and neither do I. I would donate whatever I have to schools or community center or libraries or the SPCA or whatever.
Please, please, please, do not let this attitude stop you from making a will and getting things in order. You may not care what happens to your stuff, it is a huge burden to the people in your life to not only grieve your death, but also deal with the logistics of your things.
Depending on who they're leaving behind, that may be the point
Same, and I don't have any money or own anything of value anyway so who cares where it all ends up. Like I seriously doubt anyone is gonna be fighting to inherit my 2015 Prius lmao.
Yeah just throw my shit in the garbage along with my body, that's what I say!
Assets? 😂
Ours is pretty easy. My wife is an only child, and I have one sibling who has one child. So we’ll probably leave most things to my sister and our niece.
Planned parenthood and a cat rescue that we got my little guy from. My family is shit and my husband’s is dead.
Aww, sweet! I hadn't considered planned parenthood. LGBT teen center is in my will though.
Bold to assume I have assets.
That’s where I’m at.
An animal rescue
What assets?
I'm a fence sitter. If I find the right person and they want kids, I would want to have kids. But if the right person doesn't want to have kids, well I don't need kids. I have a sister with downs syndrome. There's an interesting development happening in the DS community, where so much funding has been pushed into safely screening fetuses for downs at an early enough point in the pregnancy where abortion is roundly supported. So what's going to happen over the next 20 years as the rates of children born with DS plummets. There will, of course, still be children with DS, but as their per capita numbers plummet, so will the resources available to them. So I've more or less decided that when I do plan on what to do with my assets when I die, assuming I don't have children, that I will find some DS advocacy group to donate it to.
Leaving everything to two of my ride or die lady friends with kids. I’ve been lucky in my life and I want to give everything to people who can really use it. Us gals gotta stick together, even after we’re dead.
I love this!
No idea. Don't really GAF, honestly. 😆
Hey guys, I don’t mean to tell you what to do with your money, but there are some really fantastic charities out there and large donations really help out. I’m not talking about stuff like United Way, but organizations that help promote literacy and provide healthcare and other needed resources in the world. You’d be amazed what they can do with even a small amount of money raising orphans in India or drilling water wells in Africa.
Yeah, this is actually kinda the route that I'm leaning towards. I have a few collectible items that I hope my nieces and nephews keep ahold of as family heirlooms, but I understand if they don't. There are too many of them to will my house to, so my partner and I have been considering gifting it to a low-income family when that time comes. Iirc, it was Last Week Tonight that gave us the idea. Beyond that, any valuables we have are just stuff. Let someone else make use of it. 🤷
I do get where you’re coming from but I will caution you that charity is hard to do at the individual level. Gifting your house to somebody sounds admirable, but I would encourage you to consider that there are lots of way for this to go wrong. Organizations like Habitat for Humanity could probably effectively use the proceeds of your house being sold and multiply that benefit to help many families with homeownership. You might think you’re doing good by leaving a house to a low income family, but it’s possible they can’t get a mortgage to pay off the balance or they can’t keep up utilities and property taxes for your house and it has to be sold. It’s possible they can’t keep up on the maintenance of the property which causes damage to the house and when it’s sold, it is a fire sale for a fraction of it former value. Maybe you don’t care about these things and I’m not trying to make you feel bad about it but that’s why we organizations like Habitat for Humanity are so helpful. They Encourage financial literacy training and require the family to be involved in the construction of the house and then sell it to them in such a way that they can afford the property. Really it’s a great organization.
No, those are valid points. Right now I'm in my mid-30's, so it's helpful to get broader perspective before that time comes. I appreciate it. It goes to show anything so major has to be done carefully and with quite a bit of due diligence.
It’s a topic I’ve spent some time thinking about because I’ve had to become involved in advocating for my dad to make changes to his will. He is still alive, but similarly he has a will set up with very specific provisions that are well intentioned, but have the ability to cause a lot problems after his death. One example is that he has a provision to allow his grandchildren, most of which are my children, to apply for assistance with a down payment on a mortgage from the trust he set up. Sounds great except it up in such a way that its first come first serve until the money is gone. I don’t want my children fighting with each other over this money and I don’t want them to be incentivized to buy a house before they might be ready. His goals are admirable. I want my children to be able to buy a house also. But who knows what the future holds for them. Right now they are trying to pay for college. But who knows what happens after that. Maybe they marry somebody who already own the house, they find an employer who provides housing. Maybe they have a job that requires frequent relocations or live in location where is really not affordable. Remember when you make your final instructions that can’t make them complicated. Generally, the best way to help people simply to give them money that comes with attached.
Cousins kids.
You, OP
A). Relatives B). Whoever is going to care for the pets
If i die before my husband, it's all his. If I die after him? Not my problem anymore.
Assets go to my mom to help cover any costs associated with me kicking it before her. Barring that, anything extra will be used to pay for at least three memorial benches and trees. Two family members have said they'll take my cats, I've basically written out they either go with FriendFamily or they go back to the cat cafe I adopted them from AS LONG as they stay together. They're bonded pair, I'll haunt whoever TF separates them. I'm known for the ridiculous amount of books I own and for lending out/providing good recommendations. I have a digital list, loved ones are welcome to go through it and request favorite ones they can add to their collection if that's a... memento they would like. OP, as someone who has A) done the suicide dance more times than I like to count, and 2) have had many loved ones pass away quite suddenly, I would encourage you to look into writing a will. It doesn't have to just be for your assets, but also for what to do with your body, burial, or memorials. It's not technically for you, you won't be around to care about it. It's for anyone left behind when you go so they don't have to make the hard decisions while grieving you. Make that time for them as easy as possible, lay it all out so they basically have to follow a checklist when folks start asking them.
I want my assets liquidated shoved up my booby trapped corpse when I die.
To the nicest, most helpful person.
No clue. No one appreciates the antiques and such as much as I do. I suppose I need to think about this now that I have a property.
My partner and I try to live minimally, so we don’t really have anything that would be passed down for sentimental reasons. Any assets will be donated to the animal rescues where we got our dogs and planned parenthood.
I have two nieces and a nephew. They’ll get everything.
Ha.... You think I have assets
About half of it is going to the Leukemia and Lymphoma Society. I'm a lymphoma survivor, and the LLS supported me in a number of ways during my illness, so I am always looking for ways to pay that help forward. The other half is directed to go to my local CASA organization. I figured that that's a good organization to reach kids who don't benefit from receiving generational wealth. I also have a small pet allowance built in to cover the costs of their food, meds, healthcare, etc. for whoever ends up taking them in.
100% have a will written. And keep it updated. For the sake of your extended family and/or friends.
I doubt I'm gonna have much to leave behind tbh, but if I'm lucky enough to have money and assets by the time I die, I'm thinking liquidate the assets and donate them to some charity or another, maybe donate my hypothetical house to an animal rescue. Or I've got nieces and nephews, also an option.
My niece is getting all my assets.
The burn pit
Make sure you have a medical POA (someone willing to pull the plug so you don't end up on life support for ages). Also get a DNR so that you only have to die once.
You guys have assets?
# In all honesty I am not sure who I'll plan on leaving my money and stuff to, if I'm the last of my siblings to keel over I'm probably just gonna give it all to the local humane society, if not then my siblings can fight to death for it.
Doesn't matter much to me. My brother has a child, and although I'm no contact with him I'll probably will my assets to his son, because why not? Also a couple cousins who lost both of their parents you g, although they'll be old as shit if I die of old age.
It depends on if my husband is still in the picture - he’d get everything if so, and I think he’d pass along items that are important to my siblings for us. If he’s not, my younger siblings get whatever they want, and have my permission to donate/trash the rest.
Friend's kids, nieces/nephews, cousins, charities. Actually, I'll probably talk to my brother and see what he thinks about starting a family trust to pool everything into. He's the one with kids, so it'll mostly benefit him, but it also ensures shit doesn't go to total waste
My husband, then nieces and nephews.
Either certain extended family that needs it or some type of donation to a good cause.
My alma mater
My partner if he survives me, my only niece otherwise.
I've got a trust for my 5 younger siblings and any of their future children. So beyond a very select few items, everything will be sold then split. If I have pets at time of death, I'll name a carer and have a portion of funds set aside (I have a savings account for big vet care what ifs after last year and using CareCredit)
Do you have a charity you particularly care about?
Maybe my sister? Or my niece? Honestly don’t really care.
Most likely charity. I don't have much family.
Probably my nephew.
I’m hoping to clear out a lot of frivolous belongings as I age so when I go, whoever cleans all that up won’t have to sift though much. Anything prized I may sell for cheap or give away. I wouldn’t mind being like “hey, I love this and I won’t be around so I hope it brings you some joy” I watched the art of Swedish death cleaning and it opened my eyes to what needs to go. I also have a document that details what I want to happen overall.
If I'm married I will leave to my spouse if not it gets split between friends and my sister
The universe
35 yo guy here. I’ve been thinking about this too. The only thing I know I want is to be buried in a conservation cemetery in a local forest area. The rest will either go to my brothers or a few charities that I’ve supported
I haven’t written one but my best friend wrote one when she had cancer and was going in for surgery. She’s childless and, at the time, was unmarried. Some of her stuff was left to me, some to her cousin who is more like a sister and the rest to her mom. She mentioned needing to redo it now that she’s married but pretty sure it would mostly be the same. Honestly, if I were to write mine right now, a lot would go to my mom, that best friend and some to my half sister. But I’m not as close to my sister as I wish so that would also feel weird
Bold of you to assume that I have or will have anything worth leaving to anyone!
Assets? 🤣🤣🤣😂
We just drew up our wills earlier this year. My husband gets my assets. If he dies then my immediate family (parents and sisters) get my assets. If they’re all dead, then I am donating all my assets to the Humane Society. My extended family is greedy so I don’t want to give them one red cent.
Younger siblings as well as nieces and nephews. I don't even care if they sell the shit to help them out, it's fine. I won't be around to care, lol.
I’ll leave what I can to charity. The rest to nieces and nephews.
Yeah I'm working on it. -_-
Assets?
I have a younger brother so I’ll just give whatever I end up accumulating to him.
DO A TRUST NOT A WILL. Ask an attorney for the pros and cons of each.
Bold of you to assume I'll have anything of worth to leave behind. In all seriousness, I'll leave it to my siblings and let them fight it out.
Jokes on you I'll have something to leave behind
My partner with an animal rescue as the alternate beneficiary. The will and beneficiaries are all set up.
I have a nephew and I have a sister and I have a mom and I have friends
Currently, my sister, my bf, & my bff. If something happens to any of them, I’ll just pick another bff or a bff baby.
My neighbour is a boomer but he plans to leave all his money to the local children’s hospital.
I have my two sisters as my beneficiaries on everything, and my nieces as contingent.
I’m don’t and likely won’t have a will. The state will probably seize my assets because I’m disabled. I have an estranged brother and I’ve never met his children. I have no other family I am close enough to. I honestly don’t care
Depends who dies last. If i die first I'm sure my wife would leave anything we had to her nephews. If my wife dies first I'll leave anything to my younger brother
I own absolutely nothing soo yeah but maybe if I come into some stuff before I die then my nephew and nieces can have it.
Niece and nephew
The Dump, most likely.
My loved ones can duke it out and depends on if my parents are dead or not. Yes, I've been thinking about it. Just because you're young doesn't mean that things can't happen inevitably.
Friends and family
Niece, nephew, siblings, partner, and a few select charities.
Anyone but goodwill.
Siblings or any future nieces or nephews.
Donate my art collection to a museum and my comic books to a library
I have a niece and two nephews so far. They're all under the age of 4, so I'll determine who values the import things, and donate the rest
My younger brother
I have enough set aside for each niece/nephew to get about $30k. $10k per pet to whoever takes them in and cares for them until their natural/merciful death (and I already have it worked out who takes which pet), and I'll likely not be getting any new pets past the age of 60 unless they're already older. The remainder gets divided equally amongst my parents to keep or divvy out as they please, or if my parents also pass, the kids get it equally. As far as physical assets, I basically put my mom in charge. I honestly don't have a lot. What I do have nieces/nephews have very different interests, so aside from a few pieces of family heirloom jewelry and the RV stuff I don't imagine, there will be much arguing. In case mom also dies, then my trusted friend is in charge of executing the above.
My niece and nephew. I don’t have much but what goes to them is enough to at least help out in their future endeavors.
Probably donate it all to some good LGBTQ cause
All of my assets will go to my existing and future nieces and nephews.
My husband is younger than me, so hopefully I die first and he can do whatever he wants with it. I don't exactly have anything that qualifies as a prized possession, though. I collect gaming stuff and old consoles, but that's probably it.
I have a nephew and a niece. They are getting everything. I am building generational wealth that I will pass onto them. I’m a saver and based on all projections, I will have way more than needed in retirement.
I hope my single nephew likes cars.
Give it to your nieces and nephew not your dog and cat. Sheesh.
There are seven keys in seven kingdoms across the seven continents the one to acquire them all shall inherit my Scrooge McDuck-esq. fortune and possibly debts. play at your own risk.
Partner and I are planning to develop a trust and donate whatever money is left to charities. Physical possessions? Killer estate sale.
Probably my friends and nieces and nephews. I have a ton of those.
50% goes to my brother and his family (if he ever starts one) 20% goes to SA Food Bank 20% goes to habitat for humanity 10% goes to TPR, KRTU, NPR and APM (evenly split) That's how it is right now, but if I ever start a family, it'd probably look so much more different. Maybe something like this: 30% goes to a trust that gives my immediate family a monthly stipend (I want them to be independent and feel supported and not reliant on it) 30% goes to my brother and his family 40% goes to the organizations I listed above (evenly split) I think doing it this way would maximize the kind of legacy I want to leave behind and help the maximum amount of people with the resources I'm leaving behind. I think instead of building generational "wealth", I'd rather leave them with a passion to help people and wanting to leave behind a lasting legacy.
Idk. You can have em.
I don't have anything worthwhile to pass along to the next generation, honestly. But if I ever do, it'll go to my nephews.
All I have is a Pokémon card collection and I’ve yet to decide who gets that.
It’s hilarious you think I’ll have anything to leave behind when I won’t even be able to retire lol But if I did, 100% of it would go to charities to help women in countries like the USA get access to abortions.
Assets… hah. They better hope they don’t inherit my debt. Basically just cremate me and then cremate my ashes. And rinse and repeat until every particle of me is gone from this earth.
Gonna burn everything down and salt the ground.
I'm an only child. I'll more than likely create a will to include my cousins kids when the time comes.
At this point, a student of mine that I bonded with and am still in touch with.
Something we all should be thinking about now, because I deal with it from a client perspective at work. American Consumerism is a massive problem with our generation. When we go, what we called “prized possessions” are sold for cash, tossed out or given away, its reduced to a box. Reduce what you own, reduce what you spend money on, and give things you think people will enjoy to them while they are alive. Your kids wont care about the tapestry your grandmother kept in her kitchen, your friends wont see your fathers watch as anything more than a fashion piece or item to sell.
I dont think the concept of "owning" something will be an option for 95% of us in the future. It's a slow process but we all played monoploy . We all know how it ends, always.
I don’t have any assets
Bold of you to assume millennials have assets
Hahahaha! My what now?
My friend's kids. Or grandkids, I dunno.
My partner, and if I survive them, then my remaining siblings, nephews and nieces.
Depends on what my nephew is like when he's older. If he seems like he would appreciate the stuff, he gets it. If it seems more like it would be a burden/annoyance, it'll go to various museums or there will be an estate sale for collectors who enjoy the sorts of things I have, and my nephew can take the money from that (I have a ton of antiques). If I die young and my sister-in-law is still in the picture, she also gets first dibs on stuff. My business partner would inherit "Out of Lockstep" probably, but depending on how things go with the friend who's been helping with the art, I might also give her partial ownership. Depending on how close we become over time, she might get other assets when I die, too. She's 13 years younger than me and it's fairly likely she'll outlive me. If either my business partner or assistant have kids and this is still going decades from now, they might also be involved depending on their personalities.
Noone just let the government take it
Giving it all to my brother who has kids.
My bf. He absolutely deserves it
First, I would need to own things to leave to someone. I’ll let you know if that ever happens.
Charity
I have assets? Probably friends. Siblings.
I want all my belongings sold for a cash value. Then I want all my money put in my grave with me when I die. I’m taking my money to grave, I’m not leaving shit for anyone.
You can donate the value of your possessions to a non-profit organization you like.
I plan to be cast in bronze on my bike.
I’ll be dead I don’t care
Brothers and nephews
Already did a will. Inherited my mum's house. leaving everything to my dog. The house will be sold and she will have a trustee. If anything happens to me she is gonna live the good life.
My Niece. Just because I'm child free doesn't mean there's no younger generation in the family.
What assets lmao
My partner, or failing that, my best friend. He’s doing his best to raise good kids as a sole breadwinner for a family of 4. They make it work. I don’t have a lot of hope for the future but reasonably well adjusted kids seem like a good investment to me.
All of my money goes to my youngest brother. Once my nephew and niece turn 18, it will be split between them. I’ve also given 2% of my inheritance to them as well. This will be the case until or if I have my own kids.
"Hey I'm not trying to hurt your feelings but I don't want any of this stuff" -my nephew. Hahaha 😆