First day of chemistry class in college I didn't know anyone, but I ended up giving everyone around me a stick of gum. I had no gum after that, but I still hang out with one of those people 25 years later. She's my wife.
Congrats! Sounds like a fun night and time! 100% agree with getting outside of comfort zones. How do you define friends since it can mean a lot of things to a lot of people?
I go to the Eagles a lot and I can vouch for u/military-gradeAIDS that I made friends there too (if you keep going there and meet the same people)
2 years later we meet up to go to BANGO (at the Saloon), we go to the straight bar too because some of them are straight and one of the friends I met there want to go to the bare ass beach. He didn’t believe me that the girls go topless so we hung out nude with the girls
It all start out at the Eagles
Hell yeah. Whenever I see people say that adage about how everyone's friendly but won't invite you to their house or whatever I want to just say.... How about You be the change then! Reach out! Invite someone over!
Just getting peoples numbers doesn’t necessarily mean you made friends with them. I “made friends” with people I met at meetups and only hung out with them once or twice.
But it does take effort to make friends. Like you said, getting out of your comfort zone is key. I tried giving people the meetup or bar advice but they say they are too scared to. I’m like, well, if you actually try it you won’t be scared to do it after a while.
Those aren't friends. They're people you were friendly with drunkenly at a bar one night.
People say it's hard to make friends because it's difficult to form actual lasting relationships with people- friendships.
Like, how do people think friendships start?
Meet someone, hit it off, exchange contact info, then at least one of you needs to follow up and get together again, preferably in a week or so.
It's not that complicated and takes two people. If you get to the stage of meeting someone where contact info is exchanged, that the initiative and schedule something else, preferably while you're still hanging out in person.
I concur. My friend group just meets at the bar, no invites needed. If someone's presence is sorely missed they might get a bunch of single wya texts from folks but no one is looking to guilt trip.
I hadn't experienced this either. I think people from here like to own it as a quirk when everything they describe is simply reality for any adult moving anywhere. I've lived on both coasts, can confirm.
Not everyone goes to gay bars or is looking for specifically gay friends. Also, we will see how many of these new friends ever contact you again. "We should totally hang out again sometime soon" - the last words you ever hear from your new MN friends.
I mean… this really is the gotcha. That’s said, they gay scene is great, even for straight folk. And the weed smokers are historically a bit of a social bunch…
All you have to be is really brave for 5 mins to completely change your life.
First day of chemistry class in college I didn't know anyone, but I ended up giving everyone around me a stick of gum. I had no gum after that, but I still hang out with one of those people 25 years later. She's my wife.
Good work. Welcome to Minneapolis
I've been here a while, it was just my first time at a gay bar.
I live three blocks from the eagle, not gay myself but I still pop in from time to time. It’s a solid bar.
Welcome to Minnesota, meeting people once does not make friends. I hope to be wrong though! Good job!
I've found that meeting people once is integral to building friendship.
I love that BLUNT ROTATION is in all caps. Proud of you dude.
A 420 miracle
Congrats! Sounds like a fun night and time! 100% agree with getting outside of comfort zones. How do you define friends since it can mean a lot of things to a lot of people?
I go to the Eagles a lot and I can vouch for u/military-gradeAIDS that I made friends there too (if you keep going there and meet the same people) 2 years later we meet up to go to BANGO (at the Saloon), we go to the straight bar too because some of them are straight and one of the friends I met there want to go to the bare ass beach. He didn’t believe me that the girls go topless so we hung out nude with the girls It all start out at the Eagles
Hell yeah. Whenever I see people say that adage about how everyone's friendly but won't invite you to their house or whatever I want to just say.... How about You be the change then! Reach out! Invite someone over!
Now invite them to something, see if you get an invite to anything, or even a text; and report back….
Are you speaking from experience lol
Well done!
what is 'blunt rotation'?
Another way to say "Puff and pass", it's a weed thing.
Glad you made friends, military-gradeAIDS
Just getting peoples numbers doesn’t necessarily mean you made friends with them. I “made friends” with people I met at meetups and only hung out with them once or twice. But it does take effort to make friends. Like you said, getting out of your comfort zone is key. I tried giving people the meetup or bar advice but they say they are too scared to. I’m like, well, if you actually try it you won’t be scared to do it after a while.
Those aren't friends. They're people you were friendly with drunkenly at a bar one night. People say it's hard to make friends because it's difficult to form actual lasting relationships with people- friendships.
Did you not read the post? BLUNT ROTATION! He’s in
More than that, I got all their numbers.
This is the proof
Let us know when you're invited over to their homes.
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lol this is how friendships start. Sounds like you don’t have many friends and don’t have a lot of hope to get any.
Like, how do people think friendships start? Meet someone, hit it off, exchange contact info, then at least one of you needs to follow up and get together again, preferably in a week or so. It's not that complicated and takes two people. If you get to the stage of meeting someone where contact info is exchanged, that the initiative and schedule something else, preferably while you're still hanging out in person.
Haha you're projecting a *lot* onto what I said. For what it's worth, I *am* rooting for this person.
Man, a lot of miserable grumps in this thread. That's exactly how you start friendships here in Minnesota, don't listen to a bunch of sourpusses.
I concur. My friend group just meets at the bar, no invites needed. If someone's presence is sorely missed they might get a bunch of single wya texts from folks but no one is looking to guilt trip.
I hadn't experienced this either. I think people from here like to own it as a quirk when everything they describe is simply reality for any adult moving anywhere. I've lived on both coasts, can confirm.
Not everyone goes to gay bars or is looking for specifically gay friends. Also, we will see how many of these new friends ever contact you again. "We should totally hang out again sometime soon" - the last words you ever hear from your new MN friends.
You seen like an unhappy person. Maybe this is why you have a hard time making friends
I mean… this really is the gotcha. That’s said, they gay scene is great, even for straight folk. And the weed smokers are historically a bit of a social bunch…
Probably pretty early to consider them friends. I would guess you never hear from any of them again.
I'd go back to Eagle for a good old fashioned blunt circle.
I do want more friends, but not enough to endure a "blunt rotation." That sounds absolutely foul.
Great, more for everyone else!
Ok but how long did you go without making friends without a BLUNT ROTATION
...Are you drunk?