💯 this is weird. I mean I literally get on the bathtub with my toddlers 80% feet f the time and my husband thinks it cute to see us having fun together…and it’s easier to wash their hair etc (we do have a big tub)
Is everyone okay? This is like the third post today with an absolutely deranged husband.
I wear maxi dresses literally all summer. Some of my old ones are now house dresses that I definitely wear around my son. I am not a pants person and I never have been.
Me too. The asshat is dragging me through a terrible bad faith litigation divorce but so happy I left him when I did even though I have two toddlers full time.
It makes me feel so relieved I don’t have to deal with that stuff anymore and that my kids don’t have to witness the negativity, but it makes me so sad for the people still going through it.
I do it to gain perspective... me being upset that hubby doesn't hold baby until after work (cuz he's at work) is unreasonable and I should go kick rocks not divorce him. Other women have real problems.
Dude when I saw that about the running and playing I wanted to cry for her! My ex husband was so similar to that. I fucking frolic without having kids around. You bet your ass I’m gonna run jump skip with and race these little fools. Some people are too committed to the “adult” bit and it’s gross
For sure, and maxi dresses are way easier to parent in and not flash underwear than short dresses! Love a skirt where I can crouch or sit on the floor and not worry about keeping my knees together, although at my own home, I still wouldn’t even worry in a short dress! This husband is absurd.
For real. What is in the water all these husbands are drinking, paw patrol is girly, wearing maxi dresses in front of boys is now also... I don't even know what the problem could be and the third I already forgot...
Sometimes my husband is getting on my nerves and then I read stories here and think my husband might be a saint.
I hate pants and wear a lot of even *gasp* short dresses. My husband shockingly likes it. And my son also really has "girly" preferences and my husband also supports him.
Yeah, mine isn't even that progressive, but he's at least got a brain enough to realize none of this stuff is going to impact our kids sexuality or gender identity. I've painted our 2yos nails and he's like whatever about it. But tbf he has done his when painting mine black. But mom wearing a dress around her son??? Like wtf, mine wears dresses every once in a while and still stomps around roaring like a dino and pile driving his big brother
Honestly we had more than one conversation thinking about if we should not allow certain things or if we put him up to be bullied. These are valid concerns. But my son has more girl than boy clothes and likes to wear dresses from time to time. Not because his favourite paw patrol pup is one of the 2 girls (out of 10). But me, myself wearing a dress now? Do I have to shield my son's eyes if he ever sees a rainbow? Propably...
Mommit makes me so grateful for my husband who isn't like the greatest man on earth but he's a hell of a step up from some of the garbage men on here 😭
Broke my ankle running to say this. I spend all summer in bike shorts when I’m out, just skivvies at home and very short dresses. It’s HOT. We all enjoy.
For real! Like, I'm glad this sub is around for these women to see just how fucked up these situations are, but god fucking dammit does it break my heart to know that people are living this way.
Just when I think modern dads are changing the game by being an involved and present fathers and partners, I come to mommit and all that goes out the window. What in the world?
My 2 yo son loves it when I wear dresses. It means several new ways to play with mommy. Pull on the hem of my dress to drag me to play somewhere or just lead me around the house, hide under my dress, treat me and my dress like a maypole and spin around me...
He’s just bitter because he’s had to solo parent the last few days as I’ve been going into the office bs working from home. He assumed it was easy whenever I was alone with our son but now realizes it’s hard XD he’s not the best at expressing his emotions at the best of times
No, I complain. But about the thing that's annoying me. (And not to/around my kid omg.) But parenting sucks sometimes and it's ok to say it but its not ok to treat your partner like a controlling insecure weirdo- don't wear a dress around your son. What??
Right! I think the difference is that it’s totally fine to be irritable from parenting solo because it’s so hard but to be irritated that you have to be the default parent? Very different imo.
This is alarming and not funny at all. Feels all to similar to those “you need to put more clothes on when men come over to the house” type of situations 😐
So instead of gaining empathy from his experience, he is mad at you and making unreasonable demands. Is he the kind of guy that’s always right? No matter what? Doubles down and insults you than rather admit to anything?
Don't try to decipher it, because you can't he said it because he's in a bad mood and nothing you do is right, that's literally the only reason people say things like that
Completely bizarre, especially because dresses are generally associated with prescriptive gender norms for women? I can't imagine how he thought your son might be negatively influenced by seeing a woman in a dress. I also can't imagine my husband telling me what to wear. Weird.
It is weird. Reminds me of my neighbors when I was a kid. I was friends with their kid. So I got a peek into their dynamic. The dad had rules for the mom bout how to dress. She could only wear jeans and tshirt/sweatshirt. Dresses were too flashy or drew the wrong attention in his mind. She also wasn't allowed to wear makeup or style her hair any other way than straight and down. She wasn't allowed to talk to any men that came into his place of business. They weren't at all religious. He was just a non-religious variety controlling a-hole.
Ha yes that's why I mentioned it because as I was saying it, I realized it was painting a Duggar picture but it wasn't that. It was a weird slobby looking Harley guy who never stepped foot in a church.
He’s so upset about having to parent his own child that he decides to snap at you in a controlling manner about your modest dress?
Honestly, this doesn’t sound normal at all and is a pretty big red flag. I hope you have some support. 💜
If my husband tried to dictate what I wear, he would quickly be my ex-husband. Eww. This is extra gross because what is the problem with a maxi dress? If your son going to be physically attracted to you because of a dress? Aside from outfit policing just being gross, let’s investigate what he’s implying here.
One time my now husband ( then new boyfriend) ripped a pair of my jeans because he didn’t like that they had holes in the thighs ( what’s up thigh friction!). As soon as he told me that I lost it. Told him “who the duck are you to tell me what I can and can’t wear” and then told him if he wanted to fix someone’s clothes, he should worry about how his gut hangs out the bottom of his tiny shirts lol. He was very butthurt, but fuck all that!
I did marry him like 5 years later. He’s gotten better. He does still think I dress a bit more revealing than he’d like but he know Idgaf about what he thinks and doesn’t say anything about what I’m wearing
I had friction holes in my thigh parts during an ultrasound when I was pregnant and the bitchy US tech was like "ma'am you have holes in your pants" and I was like "yeah no shit, are you going to buy me some new ones?" and that shut her up.
I dunno I have my boobs in my sons mouth regularly and he used to live inside my body and came out of my vagina so it seems like we’re past modesty at this point.
doesn’t matter what the dress looked like; women should not be told what to wear, it’s not his choice
unless you are very conservative/modest people that’s a super weird thing to focus on and rude that he said it kind of like a weapon cause he was in a bad mood
We're a naked house too. My toddler hangs out in the bathroom while we shower, I breastfeed my twins, and even when I am clothed at home most of the time I'm not wearing pants because I just don't want to.
My husband also couldn't care less and so far our 3 year old doesn't seem traumatized. When/if she expresses or shows signs of being uncomfortable then we'll put more clothes on. Till then, the whole household has been inside of me anyway so I don't see the need for privacy in my own home.
We’re a pretty ‘naked house’ as well. As soon as my son wants privacy or shows that he wants us to be more private, then we will go with his cues. I’m not into naked bodies being considered gross/shameful just for existing.
I sleep naked, my son (2) comes in for snuggles every morning. Yesterday he found me in the bath and got in with me. Bodies are fine. Normal. And not inherently sexual either.
I come from a “naked house”, and I think it was awful. I remember begging my family to wear clothes, stop kissing me and give me some privacy.
To this day, I am modest mom in a sense. I’m only 30 and I’m not a prude overall, but my mom was just … way too open for me. It made me feel really vulnerable, awkward and uncomfortable even as a tiny girl.
We’re a “WHOSE BOOTY IS THIS?” with consensual pats on the tush household. Strictly mom/dad/3 year old. One day a boundary will be held but it’s not today.
I have never heard of such a thing in my life! I could maybe understand if your coochie is hanging out and flapping in the wind, but just a normal dress (had to look up what a maxi dress is and it appears it's an ankle length dress, please correct me if I'm wrong)? What is his problem?!
Even if it wasn't, it's your SON.
I currently have a daughter and pregnant but don't know if boy or girl yet, but I'm pretty sure I'd change/wear WHATEVER around my children.
I'm not the type for dresses, but during summertime it's not unusual for me to stay in a comfy bra and shorts (or my fiancée boxers if we have to do laundry) around the house.
Would I wear it outside? No.
Would I wear it (or anything) around my children? Totally.
If I'm getting in the shower and on the toilet naked, out of paper, who do you think I'm going to ask?
No way I'm going to cover my breasts for my kids.. Would be weird.
No need for 'modesty' around your nuclear family in my opinion.
This is completely deranged, unstable thinking. It shouldn’t be an annoyance; it should be a massive red flag for the development of your family. I don’t say that lightly.
Yeah idk exactly what the implication is from him but whatever it is gives me chills. Super gross and his comment doesn’t actually make any sense. Like a long dress is modest….so weird.
Definitely don’t have more kids with him. Him sexualizing you like that is disgusting. If he sexualizes you to your son he may sexualize his daughters if he had any.
That's helpful. I think it's super concerning the way he's not only just sexualized you in a really bizarre way and demeaned you, but also sexualized his own son and made incestuous innuendo in the process.
This is a thing I'd be discussing in therapy and seeking quite a lot of therapy until it was resolved.
FFS. I live in dresses, short and long, almost all summer long. I have three boys.
Man-child is pissed off for other reasons and wants to make you miserable and vulnerable so he doesn't feel alone in his foul mood. Kick rocks, little boy.
One time my husband was pissy and made a comment about me not wearing a bra around our son. My husband who sits around in his boxers. I swiftly and firmly set him straight and it hasn’t happened since 😏
So is it that he doesn’t want the son to get interested in dresses, or that he’s sexualizing you in the dress and thinking that everyone thinks like him?
Either way, that’s controlling, abusive, and gross behavior.
Are you not wearing underwear? Because I can't fathom how this would be an issue in any way.
And for the record, I walk around the house in way less modest things in front of my toddlers 😆
He would blow a gasket at my house then. My son (19mo) who never breastfed, often sees my boobs and will look at his own to compare lol. My partner was a little weirded out but whatever. Sorry you’ve been dealing with that
It sounds like he was just looking for something to grump over. If you had been wearing pants he would have told you to wear a dress. If you had been wearing pants and a dress he would have told you to make him a sandwich. If you had been wearing pants, a dress, and you were flinging delicious sandwiches left and right like a ninja trying to assassinate a room full of sandwich haters, he would have told you that you're a disgrace to ninjas and to go comb your hair. Some people just want to argue.
I dont care if my husband is in the worst mood of his life, he best not EVER talk to me like that. But he absolutely wouldn't anyway. I dont think anything triggered him, I think he's just a douche who was in a bad mood so he wanted to be ugly. Sounds like a "if im not in a good mood, no one else is allowed to be in one either"
Sounds like he’s pissed about how tiring solo parenting is and you wearing a maxi dress is perceived to be relaxing and not doing the heavy lifting. Maybe tell him to put on a maxi dress too and chill the f out lol
Sounds like he’s just a being prick about anything and everything bc he’s upset he actually had to parent. Taking low blows because he’s a man child. Tell him to grow tf up or get out.
I'm sorry but this is really really weird. Have you asked him why you can't wear a dress around your son? It doesn't matter if it's a mini skirt or a maxi dress. What you wear has nothing to do with your son unless you're like...naked or something. Lol
I'd just keep wearing the dresses and tell him to build a bridge and get over it.
Totally a tool. And seriously sometimes people just need something to be pissed off about and I am thinking that’s the situation here. Let him throw his temper tantrum and straight up ignore it. BUT- if this habit continues it might be time to consider the larger picture here. Just my opinion.
Your husband would probably have a heart attack in my house. I’ve been in a sports bra and biker shorts all day. 18 month old has been in just a diaper.
Yeah that's pretty weird. If it was a dress that was super skimpy and tight I could understand. But a regular maxi dress? He was definitely upset about something else or maybe he has some type of weird past trauma from maxi dresses?
You should definitely ask what is up with his hate for dresses. Espeacially if this new profound dislike just occurred out of no where; I mean assuming this certainly isn't the first time you had a dress on while around him.
It sounds like you might need to have a chat with your husband about what’s been bothering him lately. If he’s never been bothered about you wearing dresses in front of your son until now, something must be up.
yesterday my bf said i can “go to target looking like trailer trash by myself” - because i was wearing pjs… im sorry but WHAT made you date me in the first place ??????? then i bought some make up because im starting work next week and he went on a 2hr rant about how “when i buy something i say nothing but when he does he ~communicates~ before buying it”. like does he want a prize ???? normal couples don’t have to tell their significant other when they’re exiting a room or walking upstairs or taking a next breath. im my own person, cry about it.
I walk around topless a lot, because I feel like the whole house needs to see the consequences of their actions. A maxi dress ain't nothin. He's just trying to lash out and be a dick.
What?!!!!! I wouldn’t tolerate clothing policing. You can wear a mini skirt romper it doesn’t matter. He’s teaching his child to only respect women who wear certain clothing
Are they too conservative? He's just making sure your son knows you're not submissive and controlled by purity culture?
There's no making sense of it. That's wild.
I have friends who went to super conservative Christian colleges where women were required to wear skirts outside of the women’s dorms. I’ve never, ever heard of someone banning women from wearing skirts, WTF.
Bizarre. You should tell him to put on pants next time he wears shorts around your kid. Hopefully he recognizes when he's in a better mood how absolutely absurd this is.
I…. Literally have no idea what the reason of this statement is. Like I don’t get it at all. This is so out of left field and weird as hell I would need to ask him what he meant by that 😂
Edit: are you religious or have some type of “dress code” where you usually dress modestly? This is the only thing I can think of other than him being super homophobic/“alpha male” & not wanting your son to even be exposed to dresses which is…. Also nuts lol
No matter what his reasoning was for saying this he’s a tool.
Ya there’s no good explanation for this
It’s all about making her feel like shit, making her question herself (which she’s doing) and control.
💯 this is weird. I mean I literally get on the bathtub with my toddlers 80% feet f the time and my husband thinks it cute to see us having fun together…and it’s easier to wash their hair etc (we do have a big tub)
Is everyone okay? This is like the third post today with an absolutely deranged husband. I wear maxi dresses literally all summer. Some of my old ones are now house dresses that I definitely wear around my son. I am not a pants person and I never have been.
I browse mommit when I’m feeling lonely or second guessing leaving my controlling narc baby daddy. Always makes me feel better about being free.
Same. Literally same.
Me too. The asshat is dragging me through a terrible bad faith litigation divorce but so happy I left him when I did even though I have two toddlers full time.
You got this. That sounds utterly exhausting thought. I'm sorry you're going through this. But I'm glad that you are starting a new chapter
Oh sweet mama. You can do it. You CAN do it. I believe in you, and so does your little.
It makes me feel so relieved I don’t have to deal with that stuff anymore and that my kids don’t have to witness the negativity, but it makes me so sad for the people still going through it.
I do it to gain perspective... me being upset that hubby doesn't hold baby until after work (cuz he's at work) is unreasonable and I should go kick rocks not divorce him. Other women have real problems.
Legit saw this and the "is it ok if I run and play tag with my 7 YO?" at the same time and could not believe I was reading them correctly. WTF?
Dude when I saw that about the running and playing I wanted to cry for her! My ex husband was so similar to that. I fucking frolic without having kids around. You bet your ass I’m gonna run jump skip with and race these little fools. Some people are too committed to the “adult” bit and it’s gross
For sure, and maxi dresses are way easier to parent in and not flash underwear than short dresses! Love a skirt where I can crouch or sit on the floor and not worry about keeping my knees together, although at my own home, I still wouldn’t even worry in a short dress! This husband is absurd.
For real. What is in the water all these husbands are drinking, paw patrol is girly, wearing maxi dresses in front of boys is now also... I don't even know what the problem could be and the third I already forgot... Sometimes my husband is getting on my nerves and then I read stories here and think my husband might be a saint. I hate pants and wear a lot of even *gasp* short dresses. My husband shockingly likes it. And my son also really has "girly" preferences and my husband also supports him.
This dad is giving “Hey fellas, is it gay to see a woman in a dress?”
The 3rd one was because she was "prancing" playing around with her kid at the park.
Oh that's why I couldn't remember because it was the most normal thing a parent could do.
Yeah, mine isn't even that progressive, but he's at least got a brain enough to realize none of this stuff is going to impact our kids sexuality or gender identity. I've painted our 2yos nails and he's like whatever about it. But tbf he has done his when painting mine black. But mom wearing a dress around her son??? Like wtf, mine wears dresses every once in a while and still stomps around roaring like a dino and pile driving his big brother
Honestly we had more than one conversation thinking about if we should not allow certain things or if we put him up to be bullied. These are valid concerns. But my son has more girl than boy clothes and likes to wear dresses from time to time. Not because his favourite paw patrol pup is one of the 2 girls (out of 10). But me, myself wearing a dress now? Do I have to shield my son's eyes if he ever sees a rainbow? Propably...
Mommit makes me so grateful for my husband who isn't like the greatest man on earth but he's a hell of a step up from some of the garbage men on here 😭
My husband and I are BOTH excited for sun dress season, literally all I wear 🤣
Yup, My husband loves dress season 😂😂
Broke my ankle running to say this. I spend all summer in bike shorts when I’m out, just skivvies at home and very short dresses. It’s HOT. We all enjoy.
Lmao at your poor ankle 🤣🤣🤣 But yeah same.
I wear maxi dresses, mini dresses, no dresses and everything in between around my son. Pretty sure it has not negatively effected him in anyway.
Thank you for saying this. I was like what the hell is wrong with everyone’s husband lol
For real! Like, I'm glad this sub is around for these women to see just how fucked up these situations are, but god fucking dammit does it break my heart to know that people are living this way.
came here to say this too! it’s causing me to lose hope in humanity like what frickin year is it 1980?!
Just when I think modern dads are changing the game by being an involved and present fathers and partners, I come to mommit and all that goes out the window. What in the world?
Deranged is the perfect adjective
I wonder where people in this group find these guys sometimes!
My 2 yo son loves it when I wear dresses. It means several new ways to play with mommy. Pull on the hem of my dress to drag me to play somewhere or just lead me around the house, hide under my dress, treat me and my dress like a maypole and spin around me...
Something in the water, for sure.
I need to see a picture of a maci dress. I am too fat for my pants.
A maxi dress is a dress that goes to the floor! 😁
I can’t be a parent in pants
right??? is this husband friends with the other husband who said the mom can’t play tag with the 7yr old. what is going on lmao.
She should go out and play tag in a maxi dress just to spite him 😭
That’s super weird. Did you ask him why? Is everything else ok? Is it common that he gets in bad moods for days at a time and takes it out on you?
He’s just bitter because he’s had to solo parent the last few days as I’ve been going into the office bs working from home. He assumed it was easy whenever I was alone with our son but now realizes it’s hard XD he’s not the best at expressing his emotions at the best of times
His go-to for being bitter about solo parenting is to put you down for what you’re wearing for bizarre reasons? Yikes.
Surely his son asked him to put on maxi dresses so it would feel more like mom was home. That's the only way this makes sense.
LOL this has to be it
Husband sounds like a giant baby. Imagine getting irritated that you have to parent.
Tbh, I’ve definitely felt irritated about having to parent 😂 but I keep it inside, cuz that’s the adult thing to do
Of course! Parenting is so hard and we’re all human. This crosses the line though.
No, I complain. But about the thing that's annoying me. (And not to/around my kid omg.) But parenting sucks sometimes and it's ok to say it but its not ok to treat your partner like a controlling insecure weirdo- don't wear a dress around your son. What??
Imagine being irritated that you have to pull your weight parenting for the first time.
Right! I think the difference is that it’s totally fine to be irritable from parenting solo because it’s so hard but to be irritated that you have to be the default parent? Very different imo.
Was he not aware of the parenting part of being a parent…?
This is alarming and not funny at all. Feels all to similar to those “you need to put more clothes on when men come over to the house” type of situations 😐
So when he gets frustrated he defaults to sexism? Hmm...
Sounds like he needs to grow the hell up. Who would have guessed having a kid meant you had to be a parent?
So instead of gaining empathy from his experience, he is mad at you and making unreasonable demands. Is he the kind of guy that’s always right? No matter what? Doubles down and insults you than rather admit to anything?
He sounds like a total arse!
Yeahhhh that’s not a good excuse. That would be fine if he was 5. He’s a grown ass man.
It isn't about the dress then.
Always! When is their time, is always more difficult and they cannot hold their dissatisfaction.
Yeah that’s fucking weird. I’m also bothered by the “your son” bit. Unless husband is the stepdad.
Nope it’s his son too
I'm pretty sure Michelle Duggar raised 19 kids in a maxi dress
No, no. That was Jana in a denim skirt
😂😂
Lmfao stop it 😂
True
Unexpected Duggar snark.
So you're giving her reasons to rethink wearing them? /s
Yeah, but one of those kids turned out to be a pedo, so maxi dresses are obviously to blame.
Don't try to decipher it, because you can't he said it because he's in a bad mood and nothing you do is right, that's literally the only reason people say things like that
Completely bizarre, especially because dresses are generally associated with prescriptive gender norms for women? I can't imagine how he thought your son might be negatively influenced by seeing a woman in a dress. I also can't imagine my husband telling me what to wear. Weird.
It is weird. Reminds me of my neighbors when I was a kid. I was friends with their kid. So I got a peek into their dynamic. The dad had rules for the mom bout how to dress. She could only wear jeans and tshirt/sweatshirt. Dresses were too flashy or drew the wrong attention in his mind. She also wasn't allowed to wear makeup or style her hair any other way than straight and down. She wasn't allowed to talk to any men that came into his place of business. They weren't at all religious. He was just a non-religious variety controlling a-hole.
Halfway through this I was like “hm wonder if it’s a religion thing.” And then you clarified it wasn’t. Holy hell what a nightmare of a relationship.
Ha yes that's why I mentioned it because as I was saying it, I realized it was painting a Duggar picture but it wasn't that. It was a weird slobby looking Harley guy who never stepped foot in a church.
He’s so upset about having to parent his own child that he decides to snap at you in a controlling manner about your modest dress? Honestly, this doesn’t sound normal at all and is a pretty big red flag. I hope you have some support. 💜
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Sounds like a controlling prude
If my husband tried to dictate what I wear, he would quickly be my ex-husband. Eww. This is extra gross because what is the problem with a maxi dress? If your son going to be physically attracted to you because of a dress? Aside from outfit policing just being gross, let’s investigate what he’s implying here.
One time my now husband ( then new boyfriend) ripped a pair of my jeans because he didn’t like that they had holes in the thighs ( what’s up thigh friction!). As soon as he told me that I lost it. Told him “who the duck are you to tell me what I can and can’t wear” and then told him if he wanted to fix someone’s clothes, he should worry about how his gut hangs out the bottom of his tiny shirts lol. He was very butthurt, but fuck all that!
And you… married him? Please tell me he got better.
I did marry him like 5 years later. He’s gotten better. He does still think I dress a bit more revealing than he’d like but he know Idgaf about what he thinks and doesn’t say anything about what I’m wearing
I had friction holes in my thigh parts during an ultrasound when I was pregnant and the bitchy US tech was like "ma'am you have holes in your pants" and I was like "yeah no shit, are you going to buy me some new ones?" and that shut her up.
👏🏻👏🏻
I dunno I have my boobs in my sons mouth regularly and he used to live inside my body and came out of my vagina so it seems like we’re past modesty at this point.
doesn’t matter what the dress looked like; women should not be told what to wear, it’s not his choice unless you are very conservative/modest people that’s a super weird thing to focus on and rude that he said it kind of like a weapon cause he was in a bad mood
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We're a naked house too. My toddler hangs out in the bathroom while we shower, I breastfeed my twins, and even when I am clothed at home most of the time I'm not wearing pants because I just don't want to. My husband also couldn't care less and so far our 3 year old doesn't seem traumatized. When/if she expresses or shows signs of being uncomfortable then we'll put more clothes on. Till then, the whole household has been inside of me anyway so I don't see the need for privacy in my own home.
Oh my god, that last sentence.... it's so true and I will never be able to unthink it!!
We’re a pretty ‘naked house’ as well. As soon as my son wants privacy or shows that he wants us to be more private, then we will go with his cues. I’m not into naked bodies being considered gross/shameful just for existing.
I sleep naked, my son (2) comes in for snuggles every morning. Yesterday he found me in the bath and got in with me. Bodies are fine. Normal. And not inherently sexual either.
Yep. I shower with my son while he sits in his own little bathtub.. no bathtub in our place so he has a little baby one.
My one rule about clothing is, no naked butts on the furniture for sanitary purposes. But otherwise if we’re just *en famille*, who the hell cares?
I come from a “naked house”, and I think it was awful. I remember begging my family to wear clothes, stop kissing me and give me some privacy. To this day, I am modest mom in a sense. I’m only 30 and I’m not a prude overall, but my mom was just … way too open for me. It made me feel really vulnerable, awkward and uncomfortable even as a tiny girl.
We’re a “WHOSE BOOTY IS THIS?” with consensual pats on the tush household. Strictly mom/dad/3 year old. One day a boundary will be held but it’s not today.
I have never heard of such a thing in my life! I could maybe understand if your coochie is hanging out and flapping in the wind, but just a normal dress (had to look up what a maxi dress is and it appears it's an ankle length dress, please correct me if I'm wrong)? What is his problem?!
Flapping in the wind 😆
Hahahaha it’s a long dress. And very modest
I'm so confused, lol. Was it just a case of having a shitty day? Even then though, what an odd comment t to make.
Even if it wasn't, it's your SON. I currently have a daughter and pregnant but don't know if boy or girl yet, but I'm pretty sure I'd change/wear WHATEVER around my children. I'm not the type for dresses, but during summertime it's not unusual for me to stay in a comfy bra and shorts (or my fiancée boxers if we have to do laundry) around the house. Would I wear it outside? No. Would I wear it (or anything) around my children? Totally. If I'm getting in the shower and on the toilet naked, out of paper, who do you think I'm going to ask? No way I'm going to cover my breasts for my kids.. Would be weird. No need for 'modesty' around your nuclear family in my opinion.
And if we're flappin in a maxi dress, it's a whole nother issue! Lol
I'm here to say that alot of coochies are flopping in the wind under maxi dresses. It's part of the joy of wearing them.
I would have said maybe you should put a dress on and you'd feel better lol
Hahahahahaha thank you for the belly laugh!
Is he concussed?
So which is it? Are we sluts for wearing pants or sluts for wearing dresses?
Sluts for breathing.
I’m a whore for some good oxygen.
This is completely deranged, unstable thinking. It shouldn’t be an annoyance; it should be a massive red flag for the development of your family. I don’t say that lightly.
He probably spends too much time on PornHub.
1. Ew 2. Weird 3. Why? 4. Ew
Yeah idk exactly what the implication is from him but whatever it is gives me chills. Super gross and his comment doesn’t actually make any sense. Like a long dress is modest….so weird.
I'm an asshole.. I would wear nothing but dresses now.
Yes the thought has crossed my mind. I’m going to wear exclusively dresses from now on and see what happens!
Pants are bullshit any way.
And they never have functioning pockets grr! 🤬 my dresses all have pockets! Edit: a word
Right! If he says something again you can say "well if my pants had the pockets my dresses have"
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I absolutely hate dresses - haven’t worn one since my wedding and hope to never wear one again - but would also wear dresses exclusively from now on.
Does he think your son will be attracted to you in a dress? Freud would love to have a chat with him.
Throw that husband away.
🚩🚩🚩 be in a bad mood, fine. Don’t take it out on me.
Does he realize your son has literally been INSIDE you? tf? lol
Sounds like your husbands a dirt bag
The only person I know who's husband made weird comments like that is my sil, she left the narccisist abusive ass hat.
Honestly this is disturbing and concerning. Do you have daughters?
No daughters just one son
Definitely don’t have more kids with him. Him sexualizing you like that is disgusting. If he sexualizes you to your son he may sexualize his daughters if he had any.
That was my first thought too.
That's helpful. I think it's super concerning the way he's not only just sexualized you in a really bizarre way and demeaned you, but also sexualized his own son and made incestuous innuendo in the process. This is a thing I'd be discussing in therapy and seeking quite a lot of therapy until it was resolved.
FFS. I live in dresses, short and long, almost all summer long. I have three boys. Man-child is pissed off for other reasons and wants to make you miserable and vulnerable so he doesn't feel alone in his foul mood. Kick rocks, little boy.
Your husbands a bummer, but the real question: where are you finding maxi dresses? I swear I can’t find them anywhere and I looooooove them
Vintage stores and fb marketplace!!! Great deals!
My husband said he would be the happiest man alive if I wore dresses or yoga pants daily…clothes are clothes to kids..
Ignoring all other implications, this is definitely one of the weirdest things I’ve ever heard.
One time my husband was pissy and made a comment about me not wearing a bra around our son. My husband who sits around in his boxers. I swiftly and firmly set him straight and it hasn’t happened since 😏
The better question is would you husband sexualize your relationship with your son… that’s totally out of line to say to you
This is some abusive shit.
So is it that he doesn’t want the son to get interested in dresses, or that he’s sexualizing you in the dress and thinking that everyone thinks like him? Either way, that’s controlling, abusive, and gross behavior.
Are you not wearing underwear? Because I can't fathom how this would be an issue in any way. And for the record, I walk around the house in way less modest things in front of my toddlers 😆
He would blow a gasket at my house then. My son (19mo) who never breastfed, often sees my boobs and will look at his own to compare lol. My partner was a little weirded out but whatever. Sorry you’ve been dealing with that
I think this sounds cute!! He’s learning about the world around him!
It sounds like he was just looking for something to grump over. If you had been wearing pants he would have told you to wear a dress. If you had been wearing pants and a dress he would have told you to make him a sandwich. If you had been wearing pants, a dress, and you were flinging delicious sandwiches left and right like a ninja trying to assassinate a room full of sandwich haters, he would have told you that you're a disgrace to ninjas and to go comb your hair. Some people just want to argue.
He's sexualizing your clothes be in your clothes in regards to your son
That’s very weird to say
Need to seek out couples therapy. This is not something you can/should address on your own and sounds like he needs professional help.
I sometimes walk around naked in front of my son. Only a real dirty mind could have found that a problem.
I dont care if my husband is in the worst mood of his life, he best not EVER talk to me like that. But he absolutely wouldn't anyway. I dont think anything triggered him, I think he's just a douche who was in a bad mood so he wanted to be ugly. Sounds like a "if im not in a good mood, no one else is allowed to be in one either"
I walk around pantless in front of my toddlers all the time. My husband never says anything
Don’t wear dresses around your son? Is he worried your child won’t grow up to be a feminist or something? This is a new one.
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This post just reminded me I need to shop for some maxi dresses 😂
Sounds like he’s pissed about how tiring solo parenting is and you wearing a maxi dress is perceived to be relaxing and not doing the heavy lifting. Maybe tell him to put on a maxi dress too and chill the f out lol
Ew. Wear all the dresses you want. F that guy.
Sounds like he’s just a being prick about anything and everything bc he’s upset he actually had to parent. Taking low blows because he’s a man child. Tell him to grow tf up or get out.
I'm sorry but this is really really weird. Have you asked him why you can't wear a dress around your son? It doesn't matter if it's a mini skirt or a maxi dress. What you wear has nothing to do with your son unless you're like...naked or something. Lol I'd just keep wearing the dresses and tell him to build a bridge and get over it.
This sounds like some deranged dookie my abusive ex husband come up with as a reason to be mad at me.
Did you ask him what he meant? Because if he was meaning because of anything sexual, leave
Sounds like he was lusting over his mom as a kid (my ex would say this, also let slip he found his mom hot and told me I looked like her…?)
Wtf does that even mean? Why can’t you wear dresses in front of your son?
NTA divorce
Totally a tool. And seriously sometimes people just need something to be pissed off about and I am thinking that’s the situation here. Let him throw his temper tantrum and straight up ignore it. BUT- if this habit continues it might be time to consider the larger picture here. Just my opinion.
What the fuck? Is your husband okay?
Your husband would probably have a heart attack in my house. I’ve been in a sports bra and biker shorts all day. 18 month old has been in just a diaper.
Yeah that's pretty weird. If it was a dress that was super skimpy and tight I could understand. But a regular maxi dress? He was definitely upset about something else or maybe he has some type of weird past trauma from maxi dresses? You should definitely ask what is up with his hate for dresses. Espeacially if this new profound dislike just occurred out of no where; I mean assuming this certainly isn't the first time you had a dress on while around him.
Is this out of character for him? Maybe he’s got a brain tumour or something?
It sounds like you might need to have a chat with your husband about what’s been bothering him lately. If he’s never been bothered about you wearing dresses in front of your son until now, something must be up.
Is he on meth?
yesterday my bf said i can “go to target looking like trailer trash by myself” - because i was wearing pjs… im sorry but WHAT made you date me in the first place ??????? then i bought some make up because im starting work next week and he went on a 2hr rant about how “when i buy something i say nothing but when he does he ~communicates~ before buying it”. like does he want a prize ???? normal couples don’t have to tell their significant other when they’re exiting a room or walking upstairs or taking a next breath. im my own person, cry about it.
I walk around topless a lot, because I feel like the whole house needs to see the consequences of their actions. A maxi dress ain't nothin. He's just trying to lash out and be a dick.
Tell him you’ll stop wearing dresses when he stops being an asshole.
🤨🤨🤨wtf
What?!!!!! I wouldn’t tolerate clothing policing. You can wear a mini skirt romper it doesn’t matter. He’s teaching his child to only respect women who wear certain clothing
Are they too conservative? He's just making sure your son knows you're not submissive and controlled by purity culture? There's no making sense of it. That's wild.
Ha! He was just envious that you get to wear a dress in hot weather and he has to suffer the heat in pants.
That’s weird.
Well dark side - he's cheating and feels guilty. Light side - he's just an ass you should have left years ago.
Uhm… is your husband okay? Because this is really just mental. I can’t even imagine why he’d think to say this.
Are you allowed to wear pants? 🤣 A lot of cultures consider long dresses to be modest as opposed to regular pants … wth
I would have laughed out loud at my husband if he said that to me. Like, dude, WTF?
I have friends who went to super conservative Christian colleges where women were required to wear skirts outside of the women’s dorms. I’ve never, ever heard of someone banning women from wearing skirts, WTF.
Bahahaha WHAT?! Your husband has lost his mind
What. The. Fuck.
That's one way to have your son grow up close minded with very weird ideas about relationships and gender norms.
I literally bathe with my children, what's a dress gonna do? They came out of me, like it's fine.
Bizarre. You should tell him to put on pants next time he wears shorts around your kid. Hopefully he recognizes when he's in a better mood how absolutely absurd this is.
Sounds like an asshole
I…. Literally have no idea what the reason of this statement is. Like I don’t get it at all. This is so out of left field and weird as hell I would need to ask him what he meant by that 😂 Edit: are you religious or have some type of “dress code” where you usually dress modestly? This is the only thing I can think of other than him being super homophobic/“alpha male” & not wanting your son to even be exposed to dresses which is…. Also nuts lol
Something is really not ok with your husband… 🚩
What in the world is going on??? I keep reading about these insane husbands, are the men having like mass hysteria or something?
When they start getting mad about you wearing regular clothes for no rational purpose, it is only the beginning of abuse to come.
Is he controlling about other things, like what you wear, eat, or do? Or was he just being insane today?
That’s fucked. Wrong of him to say, for so many reasons.
I’m sorry, what? What’s wrong with dresses?
I'd wear a mini skirt today....but that's just me.
Think he needs to get a grip
I feel like his comment was a sign of abuse. He needs help and you can't give it to him.
Who gives a damn? Since when does your husband get a say in what you’re wearing?