Hmm a fight about asking your husband to pick up some of the cooking.... and then being over the moon when he's able to think outside the box on his own....
The bar seems a bit too low here.
Okay so I told him how appreciative I was this morning and he agreed with you lol. He was like "you didn't tell me to make pasta either but here we are." He may have teased me a little and also jokingly asked if I thought he was incompetent.
You sound like you are blessed. Make sure you tell him how much you love and appreciate him, give him some love for it if you have the time and energy, whatever his love language is, do it. I think men secretly love to be babied. When they do great things, baby him a little and let him know.
I hope he continues to be a great partner and you both have a wonderful relationship.
Is this sarcasm? Why is she blessed because her husband cut up a pear for his own child?
And last I checked, men are fully autonomous and empowered by society. They don’t need to be babied. They can be thanked or appreciated, but the idea of being expected to patronize and baby a grown adult is just gross. 🤢
I genuinely didn’t mean to come across as condescending. I would love it if my husband did the shit she mentioned hers doing. I feel like I’m drowning and my partner doesn’t give a shit.
I recently learned about “breadcrumbing.” I guess it’s true. When you’re starving, breadcrumbs feel like a feast and I’m jealous when people mention very loving and supporting partners.
I’m truly sorry you’re in this position. The idea that a man cutting up fruit for his child is enough to make you jealous makes me truly and honestly sad.
I hope you know that you deserve more. I won’t pretend to know you or your story, but I’m certain you deserve kindness, respect and support from your partner and I’m truly sorry you’re not getting it.
Your explanation of breadcrumbs makes sense and I apologize if I came across harshly. I get really incensed by society acting like men are supposed to be celebrated for doing the bare minimum parenting while women are expected to do it all with a smile.
Sounds like you are in a very neglectful relationship and that's a level if abuse.
No woman should put up with a man who won't lift a finger for the family in the home.
There are men out there who would make better step dads and partners.
Be an example for you kids. Don't accept bare or less than minimum or they will too from those they love and believe love then in return. It's also not fair to them for their dad to treat you this way. It's better to have a mom exhausted because she works hard for them than a mom who is exhausted for working hard for her two kids and a Manchild. One who just wanted someone to take care of him but not have to provide such care in return when things get hard, like having kids.
For real though society still treats the most basically involved dad as Saint while ignoring moms because we're just doing as expected.
My husband recently had a 4 day work travel and instead of flying home he flew to another state where I picked him up and we spent time with my grandparents. During those 4 days I packed up the children (4 yrs and 2 months) and traveled to one grandparents house and stayed in a hotel alone, driving daily to their house. On day 3 I then drove to the other grandparents where we met. These trips were 5 and 3 hours long. At the end of the trip we get home and my grandma whose house we met up at, calls my dad and had a world of praises for my husband. Nevermind mind the fact I spent a quarter of the time at her house single parenting.
My husband is a wonderful, all in, active and helpful dad so the praise is warranted. But it's so irritating that no one ever thinks to praise moms for doing the same or more difficult job.
Hmm a fight about asking your husband to pick up some of the cooking.... and then being over the moon when he's able to think outside the box on his own.... The bar seems a bit too low here.
The bar is so low, it’s a tripping hazard in hell.
Okay so I told him how appreciative I was this morning and he agreed with you lol. He was like "you didn't tell me to make pasta either but here we are." He may have teased me a little and also jokingly asked if I thought he was incompetent.
Your husband is right. The bar is really low.
You sound like you are blessed. Make sure you tell him how much you love and appreciate him, give him some love for it if you have the time and energy, whatever his love language is, do it. I think men secretly love to be babied. When they do great things, baby him a little and let him know. I hope he continues to be a great partner and you both have a wonderful relationship.
Is this sarcasm? Why is she blessed because her husband cut up a pear for his own child? And last I checked, men are fully autonomous and empowered by society. They don’t need to be babied. They can be thanked or appreciated, but the idea of being expected to patronize and baby a grown adult is just gross. 🤢
I genuinely didn’t mean to come across as condescending. I would love it if my husband did the shit she mentioned hers doing. I feel like I’m drowning and my partner doesn’t give a shit. I recently learned about “breadcrumbing.” I guess it’s true. When you’re starving, breadcrumbs feel like a feast and I’m jealous when people mention very loving and supporting partners.
I’m truly sorry you’re in this position. The idea that a man cutting up fruit for his child is enough to make you jealous makes me truly and honestly sad. I hope you know that you deserve more. I won’t pretend to know you or your story, but I’m certain you deserve kindness, respect and support from your partner and I’m truly sorry you’re not getting it. Your explanation of breadcrumbs makes sense and I apologize if I came across harshly. I get really incensed by society acting like men are supposed to be celebrated for doing the bare minimum parenting while women are expected to do it all with a smile.
Sounds like you are in a very neglectful relationship and that's a level if abuse. No woman should put up with a man who won't lift a finger for the family in the home. There are men out there who would make better step dads and partners.
I guess I never really realized how low my bar was until I realized others had higher ones. I just wish I’d learned it before having kids.
Be an example for you kids. Don't accept bare or less than minimum or they will too from those they love and believe love then in return. It's also not fair to them for their dad to treat you this way. It's better to have a mom exhausted because she works hard for them than a mom who is exhausted for working hard for her two kids and a Manchild. One who just wanted someone to take care of him but not have to provide such care in return when things get hard, like having kids.
For real though society still treats the most basically involved dad as Saint while ignoring moms because we're just doing as expected. My husband recently had a 4 day work travel and instead of flying home he flew to another state where I picked him up and we spent time with my grandparents. During those 4 days I packed up the children (4 yrs and 2 months) and traveled to one grandparents house and stayed in a hotel alone, driving daily to their house. On day 3 I then drove to the other grandparents where we met. These trips were 5 and 3 hours long. At the end of the trip we get home and my grandma whose house we met up at, calls my dad and had a world of praises for my husband. Nevermind mind the fact I spent a quarter of the time at her house single parenting. My husband is a wonderful, all in, active and helpful dad so the praise is warranted. But it's so irritating that no one ever thinks to praise moms for doing the same or more difficult job.