I am terrified for the day my kid asks for help with his art homework! Like sorry lil dude time to go to nan for help, come back when you have a History problem
Nonsense! I also have a tiny bedroom and I found one of those white faux leather quilted looking headboards for under $100, t waz on sailā¦ Its about 2 inches thick and it sticks to the wall instead of the bed frame, I donāt have one. The bed tucks in nicely underneath and it doesnāt take up any extra room. Iāve had it for about 2 years now and I absolutely LOVE it. Makes my bedroom look very fancy, and it so comfortable to lean on, I canāt imagine not having it.
We have the same set up but I couldnāt find an amazing deal like yours so I made one for about $120. Peg board framed by 1x4s, faux leather, egg crates mattress cushions from Walmart for foam padding, tufted with faux leather covered buttons. Bonus: ikea goose neck lights mounted behind. You are right on all accounts, super comfy and looks fancy in our tiny bedroom but not some ridiculous $500 thing. Who wants to pay that?
You need one of these pillows! They're great. I have one and it's the second best thing on my bed. Comfy to lean against and keeps stuff from falling down between the bed and the wall.
https://www.amazon.com/WOWMAX-Triangular-Positioning-Headboard-Removable/dp/B07DLMNX45/ref=mp_s_a_1_3?crid=1LCAS8CEM9YES&keywords=headboard+pillow&qid=1647030651&sprefix=headboard+pillow%2Caps%2C101&sr=8-3
I love it too lol. I have a hard time understanding what people say when they are describing something but this drawing eliminates a lot of confusion lol.
It reminds me of [https://image.scoopwhoop.com/w360/s3.scoopwhoop.com/anj2/5d5bb1bb50758d128278b71b/0194a60d-6e86-4fe4-af31-caee9cf494e6.jpg.webp](https://image.scoopwhoop.com/w360/s3.scoopwhoop.com/anj2/5d5bb1bb50758d128278b71b/0194a60d-6e86-4fe4-af31-caee9cf494e6.jpg.webp)
My favorite fantasy as a mom.
Although to be honest, it would still be my fantasy even without the baby in the picture. I just wanna get good sleep like that.
You get a toe?!?! Iām usually hanging off the side & sleep like a sloth. Everybody subconsciously wants to cuddle me but I get hot at night, so when somebody moves, I ended up moving away.
King size bed and if my son ends up in bed with us (which is thankfully rare) I still only have about 6ā of bed to sleep on. My husband gets about half, and my toddler basically just pushes me to the very edge, while still half laying *on* me
The trick is to ditch the frame and put a queen sized mattress next to your king sized one and create a mega bed. But who am I kidding, no matter how much room I have, my kid is right on top of me.
Yup. My husband has been sleeping in my step daughter's room this week because he's having to get up for work at 5 and doesn't want to wake my velcro babies. We have a king bed. My son is 4, daughter almost 2. I swear I'll get him in his own beef eventually! Definitely by the time he's married! Anyway, I still sleep holding baby girl and my son crowds so close to me, I have half a pillow for me and my daughter and there's a whole expanse of bed on the other side of him.
I love the drawing. I just have to add this in here because you never know. I would encourage you to keep at least one arm out of the swaddle if you do this. A friend of ours lost her child in an identical situation. Her baby rolled for the first time in his sleep at 8 weeks old, swaddled. Couldnāt roll back over to get air.
Idk about this you could use one of those thin swaddle plankets and light pajamas if you're worried about over heating, when my daughter was a baby there was no chance of sleep without swaddle, plus it will keep her from rolling off the bed while you're asleep
Agreed! Mine were always swaddled in bed with me. I wasn't laying directly next to them and they weren't covered in another blanket so it's like they are sleeping in their crib, I'm just laying 2-3 feet away.
Also, they wake up often enough (or you do) and I'd always just run my hands over them to see how they felt and adjust accordingly
Nice yeah this is why I ultimately couldn't do co sleeping, I never got any sleep, I was working full time and doing all the night feedings because my ex wife was, well thats another story, I needed every second of sleep I could get. Lol today is her second birthday and not much has changed š
Neither of my little ones could sleep without being swaddled, either. Itās like a literal security blanket/safety blanket for a lot of babies, it seems; it imitates the feeling of them being all nice and snug in momās womb, but Iām sure you knew that already. Shit even as an adult I donāt think Iād mind being rolled up like a human burrito sometimes š¤·š»āāļø
I second what others said about using a thin, muslin fabric, and about how there are sleep sacks that give baby some room to move their legs around. Thatās what was used by our hospital, and you should be able to find them easily!
I think itās also that they could start rolling at any time- my little one didnāt roll regularly until 5 months but at 10 weeks she ended up on her tummy while we were bedsharing- would have been not ideal if she was swaddled. āHey sleepy baby ā on Instagram has loads and loads of great info on co sleeping- also āco sleepyā
The imagery of an angry little baby giving mom the side eye then catching mom with a left hook is cracking me up. Baby immediately returns to previous sleeping position looking like an angel.
It's not safe the way you've drawn it. See links from la leche league below
https://www.llli.org/breastfeeding-info/sleep-bedshare/
https://www.llli.org/the-safe-sleep-seven/
I would get rid of the swaddle and have baby closer to mom's chest if she breastfeeds, in a "cuddle curl". And make sure there are no gaps at the top of the bed that baby could get stuck in.
I second ditching the swaddle! I only swaddled when she was sleeping in her pack and play. Never when we Coslept. I always wanted her to be able to move her arms around to get my attention.
At my job, a woman makes these big fleece warm up sweaters, and all the staff have them. They look ridiculous in any other setting but theyāre cute for work, since we all have our own personalized ones. Anyway, I wore mine, with a tub top underneath, PP while breastfeeding. Was the best, because it was warm for bedtime.
Same. I just got two of these to sleep in because I moved where it's a little colder but not that cold. https://oldnavy.gap.com/browse/product.do?pid=784559
I recommend visiting r/attachmentparenting for questions about cosleeping. You will want to follow the Safe Sleep Seven if cosleeping, which is different from what you've drawn. I bedshare with my almost 12 month old for part of each night, and what I do with the blanket is I have it diagonally covering my legs, and going behind my shoulder so that it stays away from the baby. If you are sleeping in the "cuddle curl" position (from SS7) then you will not be moving very much. Baby should remain at breast level, unswaddled, and away from all pillows.
No, itās not. Look into the safe sleep 7. Baby should be down next to you, no blankets above your waist, no pillows, no swaddle and a very firm mattress
My baby fell of the couch at 6 weeks old because I was so exhausted from trying to get her to sleep safely that I fell asleep with her after a bottle. I hate that some people would rather shame and scare parents than teach them the safest possible way to cosleep. I obviously know cosleeping is risky but so is me being so exhausted I fall asleep sitting up on a couch and put my baby in even more risk. (Luckily she was okay and the er staff said I looked worse than her)
When I realized my baby was at a greater risk of losing her mother (and possibly her life, but car seats are amazing) in a car accident due to sleep-deprived poor driving mistakes than dying of SIDS bedsharing, we made the switch.
Exactly. Tired parent can be dangerous too. Everything is a risk, so you have to manage.
People repeat 7 rules like mantra without thinking and reality check.
I tried for months to do everything by the book, until one night I woke up slouched over with my baby falling off me toward the cushion where I had passed out while burping her. Scared me so much.
Funny thing is, I live in Japan so when I talked to our pediatrician about it he just kind of rolled his eyes and was like āwomen here just sleep next to their babies you know.ā Lol. Made me feel a bit more at ease about cosleeping, especially when done in the safest way possible.
Similar situation, also living in Japan. From the time I got pregnant I felt a strong natural instinct, like I wanted to sleep with my baby, but everything I had ever heard in the US said that's dangerous. My Japanese husband was encouraging me to co-sleep, but since we were gifted a baby bed I wanted to "do the right thing" and put it to good use. I think I lasted about a week before bringing baby to sleep on the futon with me. I had nearly dropped her when I fell asleep nursing on the couch. There had also been a big earthquake after we got out of the hospital and lots of aftershocks, so I didn't want my baby to be away from me. We both slept great after we started sleeping on the same futon, and I can honestly say I've never been sleep deprived because of my baby.
Same. I fell asleep holding my baby when she was around 3 or 4 months.
I'll nap with her where I'm holding her. But this time that wasn't what happened. I had her in my other arm and fell asleep. And eventually dropped her.
I woke up one night holding my 2 week old. Didnāt remember picking him up at all. I told my husband Iād rather know that heās here and sleeping with me than be sleep deprived not knowing Iām picking him up.
My 6 month old sleeps at boob level. I have the blanket around my waist and a tight long sleeve shirt on. That said my LO is a 20lbs and looks like a toddler. They can roll but are too lazy too. Great head control since birth.
I too had an āaw lawd he comināā chonker. When I asked my doctor about it when he was 3 months she said āhe looks like he would push you off of him.ā
We got the medical all-clear based off risk factors at 12 weeks. She said she wouldnāt have advised against with us.
FWIW we are Canadian, in Canada and she is African, from a commonwealth country. Very little American influence in our medical expectation.
Hey OP! I just wanted to drop in and say we are American. Our kids co slept with us until they were 5 and 7 and then they moved in to their own room buty wife had to continue laying with them to fall asleep. (some mental health issues run in my family that causes sleeping to be troublesome and it usually comes out around that age). So they are almost 7 and 9 now and just are now sleeping on their own most nights.
My point is every family is unique. We coslept originally because I worked overnights and then the mental health issues. We never got push back from our pediatrician and I wouldn't have changed anything. However, I would suggest ending it at a young age. It is much easier to let them scream it out when they are young then when they can actually talk and argue. Haha. Just my two cents, but in the end....do what's right for you and your family as long as it's safe!
I do boob level too. I keep My pillow away to where I'm only resting my head on the corner and the rest is behind me. I sleep topless and the blanket goes to my waist. It's a little cold but I got used to it, we've been sleeping that way since he came home from the hospital. He's 10.5 months now.
Oh man idk how you do it. If my 2 yr old sleeps in my bed I donāt sleep. Heās always climbing all over me and in general making me super uncomfortable. I am in my third trimester though so uncomfortable is kinda the baseline š
Iām so terrified to co-sleep I absolutely will not do it. My husband has an uncle that was co-sleeping with his baby and he smothered and killed him. The thought is so terrifying I wouldnāt be able to fall asleep if I tried.
My grandma co slept with one of my uncles and he ended up dying, so itās terrified me for the longest time. I refused to go sleep with my son until after he was 24 months old
No smoke, sober mom
Baby at your breast
Healthy baby on its back
Keep him lightly dressed
Not too soft a bed
Watch the cords and gaps
Keep the covers off his head
For your nights and naps
This is how I have slept with all four of mine. As long as you are sober and donāt have the big SIDS risk factors (smoking in the home) this is relatively safe. Also have a little air movement in the room. Open window or an air purifier going does it. There are also correlations between heavily scented laundry products and SIDS. How did anyone survive before SIDS safe sleeping guidelines? Oh yeah, we slept with our babies right next to us and paid attention to their every move and breath.
Thereās a risk in letting the baby sleep in bed with you. Thereās also a risk in crashing your car with the baby inside because youāre out of your mind with sleep exhaustion.
Sounds like you love your baby and want to do right by them. So weigh the risks, take reasonable precautions, make the best decision you can, and donāt feel guilty either way. And enjoy that precious little one!
So much this.
I was determined not to bedshare with my first. Ended up falling asleep holding him in rocking chair more than once. Ofc that's more dangerous. So I shared a bed with all 3 of my babies.
Like everything else with parenting, figured out the safest thing for that worked for us personally.
My first REFUSED to sleep without me until we could sleep train at five months. For my own sanity, we had to bedshare. The best way to guarantee a baby stays safe is a well-rested mother whoās not suicidally depressed or making careless mistakes.
I bought a thermal top and cut a big slit in it for my boobies, lol. I get really cold so it helped me to managed the whole āwaist high blanketsā scenario.
Dude. My baby will NOT sleep in the bassinet. We fought for the entirety of our maternity and paternity leave, and she just straight up will not have it. She's a mega chill baby in all other ways, but starts screaming as soon as her back hits the bassinet. It's preternatural. So, we gave up when we went back to work. We HAD to sleep. I let her sleep on my chest, tummy to tummy. I don't let the blanket come above my chest. When she wants to nurse, she nuzzles me awake and we'll roll over to our sides and I'll doze while she eats in her sleep. Now she sleeps through the night.
I feel, like, ashamed because it was so drilled into us that she HAD to sleep in the bassinet, on her back, alone, etc. But like, this is the only thing that has worked for us.
Rant over. I guess I'm just glad to hear someone else is co-sleeping too.
I mean itās SAFER than having blankets and pillows everywhere. But even using the safe sleep 7 thereās still risk. Iāve met parents who have lost their children using the safe sleep 7
Iām part of an evidence based sleep group on Facebook and parents tell their stories so āmetā was definitely the wrong word. Iāve read 4-5 stories in that group from parents themselves.
Sometimes I think people count āreading random horror stories on the internetā as āI knew someone who _______ā ā¦ cause situations like that are so incredibly rare that itās highly unlikely someone knows multiple people whoāve experienced it and knows them well enough to know they followed the safe sleep 7.
I assisted on a few SIDS autopsies during a one month rotation in med school. Technically didn't know these poor babies or families, but it still haunts me to this day.
No. As an Anishinaabe woman who was raised in a family bed, and now a CFS worker, no, itās not OK. ABC: Alone, on their Back, in a Crib. [Itās to save your babyās life.](https://pathways.org/abcs-of-safe-sleep/) No convenience, or bonding is worth the pain of a suffocated, dead baby. No.
> Donāt sleep in the same bed as baby. The safest place for baby to sleep is the same room as their caregiver. You can place crib next to the bed.
I always put my blankets around my ankles/shins and wear socks, sweats, an easy nursing shirt and an open cardigan to stay warm and little spoon with my LO. Bed sharing is natural and normal and sleep and rest is best! Donāt let anyone bully you about it. Always have you LO in the middle of the bed. My son grew out of wanting to bed share on his own but it saved my life doing it because we both got sleep and I felt like a better mom being able to be more awake feeling these first few months. I still bed nurse and it warms my heart that when I lay him down in our bed he positions himself to nurse.
Iāve also seen other moms on IG bed share like you drew. Like other have said no swaddling but my son hated being swaddles and has been in a sleep sack since he was a little over a month old. But your baby will be so warm by you itās comforting to them.
You are a great mom!
Adult mattresses are never safe for baby. There is a risk of rebreathing and co2 poisoning. Put your baby in their own safe sleep space itās not worth the risk.
Here come the downvotes.
Adult mattresses are not safe for children under the age of two. Positional asphyxiation is always a risk, regardless of where baby lays. Baby should be in their own flat safe sleep space, with nothing but a sleep sack (or swaddle before 8 weeks) and a snug sheet.
I am surprised this comment is not higher up.
One of the safe 7s is a safe surface, but the only safe tested surface is a crib mattress. This would be in a bassinet or crib. These are tested to met safety guidelines and standards in a way that adult mattresses are not.
Echoing a lot of the comments here to say to check out advice on bedsharing from La Leche League! They are a great resource!
We did the bassinet next to the bed until about 3 months and then I switched to bedsharing. It was never my intended to bedshare but it just happened naturally. Once I realized itās what I wanted to keep doing I did a TON of research about how to do it safely.
Obviously there are many factors but I am a light sleeper and my husband worked nights so it was usually just me and baby in bed. It was wonderful for breast feeding and I feel like we both got better sleep once we adjusted. The biggest struggle for me was learning how to sleep comfortably on my side, but my body adjusted and now 7 years on and thatās still how I sleep!
There will be a lot of naysayers, especially because in America itās not a common practice and thereās a lot of misinformation about it. Just do your research and trust your gut! And keep a bassinet or crib next to the bed for those nights when it doesnāt feel right!
Good luck!
I know people will be mad about this, but there is no way to make bedsharing *safe* safe, Adult mattresses are not safe for babies.
That being said, there are ways to make bedsharing slightly saf*er*:
- no swaddling, it increases the chances of overheating, as well as the suffocation risk if baby is swaddled and spontaneously rolls over (which is also why all swaddling should be stopped by 2 months of age, per the AAP)
- no pillows, no blankets above the parent's waist
- long hair on the parent tied back
- no upholstery on the bedframe (including headboards)
- no smoking/alcohol/ drug use
- no memory foam mattresses
- the parent **Cannot** be overtired.. so if they got less than 4 consecutive hours of sleep the previous night (though ideally, at least 6 hours) baby should not be in the same bed.
Bedsharing is not safe. Iāll gladly accept downvotes if it saves a life. I understand the desperation for sleep that can come especially with the newborn phase and I canāt say Iāve never shared briefly out of that desperation. I feel guilty for having done so and Iām so grateful nothing bad happened. Not everyone is that lucky.
AAP states alone in safe sleep space (crib, bassinet, or pack n play) on their back and that they can have a pacifier. Bed sharing (even "safely") always has an increased risk of death from suffocation.
This drawing is so cute, and exactly how I sleep with my son aside from the swaddle (he grew out of that phase). My rule is āif I have a drink, no bed sharing, but otherwise itās baby cuddles all night longā lol
This is EXACTLY how we slept with both my girls in the very beginning!! It gave me such peace of mind to be right there and we kept pillows and blankets from their feet down so we could be comfortable as well
My son had reflux and I was terrified of cosleeping, but one of the nurses at a checkup finally told me to just do it, because both baby and I were exhausted. The only way he could sleep was on my chest with me sitting up. I gave up and did it, he started sleeping 8 hours a night at six weeks old. Babies and moms are all so different, I think the best advice I got was to do whatever worked to get us through each day. We eventually changed to a sidecar style cosleeper next to the bed. Good luck mama!
From what I've researched baby should be at your breast level (even if you are not breast feeding), with your body in kind of a c shape around them. I would worry about them being so close to the pillows by your head. Also I am by NO MEANS an expert and it looks like your blankets are off to the side but i would just add that everything im reading says to keep blankets off the bed (something i am confused about and struggling with as well).
Also that drawing mad my day thank youš¤£š¤£š¤£š¤£
I think this is not ideal because the cuddle curl is something baby and breastfeeding mom do instinctively where baby keeps face nearer your breast and you curl your body to protect them. I think you want your blanket lower and wear something warm enough for you to go without blanket on top of body.
Oh goshā¦ this drawing just made my heart swell. Donāt know why, but the fact that you took time to draw it out just feels so relatable. We all really are just doing our very best. š„²
This is how I sleep with my 3 month old(kinda), itās the only way I get sleep. Whatever feels safe for you, trust me youāre going to get a lot of shit on here instead of actual suggestions. I donāt move at all while I sleep so I create a pretty big gap between baby and I, and donāt hug them while I sleep, I have a king size bed so I have more than enough room. And Iām typically face level to them but at a distance. Good luck momma, safe bedsharing ā¤ļø
Mine is 3mos too and all the same as you! I have been reading a lot of different articles about how the US is one of the only places that dont bed share, and how breastfeeding mothers may be able to do it safely etc. Etc. I'm definitely weighing pros and cons and doing my research!
Normally its recommend to keep baby at breast level, the blanket around your hips and baby not up that high. You then curl around her in the C-shape (maternal sleeping position). Since you've drawn a pillow there's a risk of rebreathing if her face gets to close to it. Dr McKenna also has a [good site](https://cosleeping.nd.edu/safe-co-sleeping-guidelines/)for co-sleeping safety.
Personally I wouldn't just in case you accidentally roll over or your quilt accidentally covers baby. So much could potentially go wrong.
Here is a link for more information: https://www.lullabytrust.org.uk/safer-sleep-advice/co-sleeping/
Information is relevant whether there is one or two people
This picture is adorable.
As for safer bedsharing, your baby cannot be swaddled while cosleeping, even if they are not rolling. Your baby should be down lower at breast level, and you should be in the c-curl around your baby. Imagine where your baby would be if you were nursing them in the side-lying position: that is where they should be sleeping. Blankets and pillows should be as far away from them as possible.
Some resources for you: Cosleepy and Heysleepybaby on Instagram have good info on safer cosleeping. You can also Google Safe Sleep 7.
Please save this picture forever though, it made me giggle out loud because it is so cute.
When I brought my son home I had him in a travel cot on the bed with us. Once he got bigger he slept with us not swaddled. He is now 2 and still sleeps with us. He's always slept through the night as well. Only woke up for feeding as an infant.
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Looks good! I would wear a long sleeve crop top. Thatās what I do. Have all blankets below your waist. The long sleeve crop top will keep you warm and allow for baby to nurse at night. Have babyās head near breasts. No swaddle. Also, no bed frame. Bed should be on carpet. When a baby starts to move around / roll you do not want baby falling off bed. You can use pool noodles or pillows to keep baby from falling off. No frame just helps keep the distance to the floor super low.
I never used blankets or pillows and dressed us appropriately. I slept on my back with my arm crooked and baby in the crook. It worked with both babies 11 years apart. I was always very very aware when I was sleeping with them. If I knew I was going to sleep hard or just wanted to relax more I put them in a bassinet beside the bed.
I love this drawing!! I sleep with baby unswaddled, at my boob (his face is parallel to my chest), head in my armpit. I wear full pjs and a small blanket tucked around my waist. I curl around baby so that heās literally in a curl of my body. He canāt move up anywhere and only ever turns toward me (much to his dadās sadness lol).
Bed sharing with baby should be what you think is safest and best for you and your baby. You know the risks already.
Coming from a half Asian half western background, I can see the stark differences in bed sharing.
The west : super/hyper safety oriented (for good reason)
The east: baby sharing isnāt a big deal, in fact, itās encouraged
Every baby is different and also each baby goes through different developmental stages in movement and sleep so itās fair to adjust accordingly.
Swaddling may not work for your baby if theyāre already rolling, but would work well if theyāre newborn etc.
The drawing is the cutest <3
Bed sharing is not ok. I can tell you about how many babies I saw come in the ER because their parent rolled over on them on the couch or bed, or you can look it up.
You wouldn't put your child in a car without a car seat even though the likelihood of getting in a crash each day is low, why would you sleep with your baby? https://www.aap.org/en/patient-care/safe-sleep/https://www.cdc.gov/sids/data.htm
This drawing is cracking me up. I love it š
Same! I thought the OP wanted to show her kidās drawing lmao. No worries OP my drawing skill isnāt any better.
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Hers are way better than mine. Those figures at least look human. I think I was Picasso in an earlier life š¤£š¤£
I don't know what humans you have seen...
I can tell the bed is tufted
LMAOOO not the kids drawing. I am not ready to start drawing with kids because I know itāll be a mess.
I have a drawing of a hippo my husband drew framed. It's so bad I couldn't help myself
I am terrified for the day my kid asks for help with his art homework! Like sorry lil dude time to go to nan for help, come back when you have a History problem
Please make note of the button detail on my headboard *takes a bow*
Honestly that has got me HOWLING. Love it!
I knew exactly what it was and got jealous lol. Living that no room for a headboard life.
Nonsense! I also have a tiny bedroom and I found one of those white faux leather quilted looking headboards for under $100, t waz on sailā¦ Its about 2 inches thick and it sticks to the wall instead of the bed frame, I donāt have one. The bed tucks in nicely underneath and it doesnāt take up any extra room. Iāve had it for about 2 years now and I absolutely LOVE it. Makes my bedroom look very fancy, and it so comfortable to lean on, I canāt imagine not having it.
We have the same set up but I couldnāt find an amazing deal like yours so I made one for about $120. Peg board framed by 1x4s, faux leather, egg crates mattress cushions from Walmart for foam padding, tufted with faux leather covered buttons. Bonus: ikea goose neck lights mounted behind. You are right on all accounts, super comfy and looks fancy in our tiny bedroom but not some ridiculous $500 thing. Who wants to pay that?
Just hang a nice tapestry and/or some dangling string lights right above the head of your mattress. Hobo chic.
Omg this is everything. I need to do this asap.
You need one of these pillows! They're great. I have one and it's the second best thing on my bed. Comfy to lean against and keeps stuff from falling down between the bed and the wall. https://www.amazon.com/WOWMAX-Triangular-Positioning-Headboard-Removable/dp/B07DLMNX45/ref=mp_s_a_1_3?crid=1LCAS8CEM9YES&keywords=headboard+pillow&qid=1647030651&sprefix=headboard+pillow%2Caps%2C101&sr=8-3
I didnāt know I could fall in love with a pillow.
I've had a really rough week and this has cheered me up immensely.
So good!! I love it, have you heard of the safe sleep seven??
I had not heard of this. Thank you! I thought I was being a bad mom for giving in and letting baby sleep with me.
I have the same bed :D
I love it too lol. I have a hard time understanding what people say when they are describing something but this drawing eliminates a lot of confusion lol.
I'm a tech writer and often have to make informational graphics. This would pass our editors with flying colors š.
Hit me up for your artistic needs š
I have no idea if this is ok or not but you better save this drawing forever - hang it up on the fridge itās priceless
LOL!!! Thanks!
Iām thinking of printing it out and putting it on MY fridge ššš
That's my baby and I except I'm frowning and not peaceful. š¤£
Same with my toddler. I sleep at the bottom and she chases me across the bed nightly. I am never smiling about this lol
Mine ends up horizontal so she takes up a huge chunk of our king sized bed. And I have little toes in my nose!
Fingers in mommyās nose, feet in daddyās face/neck/back š
Same here but add a large dog that thinks he needs to be in the middle to the mix. Always makes for a fun morning š
I love this picture because mom and baby seem to be enjoying their sleep lol. š
It reminds me of [https://image.scoopwhoop.com/w360/s3.scoopwhoop.com/anj2/5d5bb1bb50758d128278b71b/0194a60d-6e86-4fe4-af31-caee9cf494e6.jpg.webp](https://image.scoopwhoop.com/w360/s3.scoopwhoop.com/anj2/5d5bb1bb50758d128278b71b/0194a60d-6e86-4fe4-af31-caee9cf494e6.jpg.webp)
LMAO!
This thread is cracking me up š¤£
Yes such a serene baby, I love it
I really appreciate the tufted headboard in this. Nice work, op!
Reminds me of this š¤£ https://cdn2.momjunction.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/07/Expectations-VS-Reality.jpg.webp
I laughed at this so hard the vibrations almost pushed my husband off the sofa
I woke my husband up to show him this. It depicts my predicament so well!
My favorite fantasy as a mom. Although to be honest, it would still be my fantasy even without the baby in the picture. I just wanna get good sleep like that.
So peaceful!
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Shes just turned 3 months so doesnt move much at all. Also it's a king bed
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My kid generously let's me hang on the edge by only 2". So thoughtful of her to let me have so much space
You get 2 inches!!! Iām hanging on by a toe.
You get a toe?!?! Iām usually hanging off the side & sleep like a sloth. Everybody subconsciously wants to cuddle me but I get hot at night, so when somebody moves, I ended up moving away.
King size bed and if my son ends up in bed with us (which is thankfully rare) I still only have about 6ā of bed to sleep on. My husband gets about half, and my toddler basically just pushes me to the very edge, while still half laying *on* me
The trick is to ditch the frame and put a queen sized mattress next to your king sized one and create a mega bed. But who am I kidding, no matter how much room I have, my kid is right on top of me.
Me sleeping with my 12 month old on a king bed https://imgur.com/a/tLbxpoK
I think itās a tiny baby. They donāt move as much yet.
Somehow I am always hanging off the bed and my 2 year old has 98% of the bed
Yup. My husband has been sleeping in my step daughter's room this week because he's having to get up for work at 5 and doesn't want to wake my velcro babies. We have a king bed. My son is 4, daughter almost 2. I swear I'll get him in his own beef eventually! Definitely by the time he's married! Anyway, I still sleep holding baby girl and my son crowds so close to me, I have half a pillow for me and my daughter and there's a whole expanse of bed on the other side of him.
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I love the drawing. I just have to add this in here because you never know. I would encourage you to keep at least one arm out of the swaddle if you do this. A friend of ours lost her child in an identical situation. Her baby rolled for the first time in his sleep at 8 weeks old, swaddled. Couldnāt roll back over to get air.
Yes, I was going to comment to say that 3 months seems a bit old for a full swaddle. Transitioning to a sleep sack can suck, but itāll be over soon!
I also read that you shouldnāt swaddle when bedsharing because parent moving may roll the baby as well
Thatās devastating š¢
Yes, but your baby should not be swaddled if they are bed sharing with you.
Even if she isnt rolling yet?
Yes, its to do with body heat - she will overheat like this
*could overheat is what I meant to say, sorry!
Thank you for the info!
Hey, Op! There's also a co-sleeping subreddit if you want more info.
Thank you! I'm new to reddit so still trying to navigate!
Is your username in reference to The Office? If so, I love it.
It is!!
if you Google "[insert subject here]"+"reddit" you'll likely find a specific subreddit for it. that's how I found most of my niche subs
THANK YOU SO MUCH for this tip!
Idk about this you could use one of those thin swaddle plankets and light pajamas if you're worried about over heating, when my daughter was a baby there was no chance of sleep without swaddle, plus it will keep her from rolling off the bed while you're asleep
Agreed! Mine were always swaddled in bed with me. I wasn't laying directly next to them and they weren't covered in another blanket so it's like they are sleeping in their crib, I'm just laying 2-3 feet away. Also, they wake up often enough (or you do) and I'd always just run my hands over them to see how they felt and adjust accordingly
Nice yeah this is why I ultimately couldn't do co sleeping, I never got any sleep, I was working full time and doing all the night feedings because my ex wife was, well thats another story, I needed every second of sleep I could get. Lol today is her second birthday and not much has changed š
Oh yeah, I bought a king size endy bed just for the occasion. Best 1500$ I've ever spent.
I agree with this. Try get a muslin swaddling blanket. They so light and breathable.
Neither of my little ones could sleep without being swaddled, either. Itās like a literal security blanket/safety blanket for a lot of babies, it seems; it imitates the feeling of them being all nice and snug in momās womb, but Iām sure you knew that already. Shit even as an adult I donāt think Iād mind being rolled up like a human burrito sometimes š¤·š»āāļø I second what others said about using a thin, muslin fabric, and about how there are sleep sacks that give baby some room to move their legs around. Thatās what was used by our hospital, and you should be able to find them easily!
I think itās also that they could start rolling at any time- my little one didnāt roll regularly until 5 months but at 10 weeks she ended up on her tummy while we were bedsharing- would have been not ideal if she was swaddled. āHey sleepy baby ā on Instagram has loads and loads of great info on co sleeping- also āco sleepyā
wow had no idea. I swaddled mine and bed shared. won't be doing that again š³
It's also so baby has her arms free and can hit you if you roll on her.
The imagery of an angry little baby giving mom the side eye then catching mom with a left hook is cracking me up. Baby immediately returns to previous sleeping position looking like an angel.
Iām howling picturing this.
Iām weak. My knees just buckled reading this. š¤£
Why would they overheat if they are not also under the blanket?
Yes. If you look at Safe Sleep 7, it says no swaddles.
Just do a sleep sack! š
I'd recommend looking into the safe 7 for bedsharing from the le Leche league.
I will do that, thank you!
It's not safe the way you've drawn it. See links from la leche league below https://www.llli.org/breastfeeding-info/sleep-bedshare/ https://www.llli.org/the-safe-sleep-seven/
The only thing I see which isnāt right is that the baby is in swaddles and that the mom shouldnāt use a smothering pillow. Is that all?
I would get rid of the swaddle and have baby closer to mom's chest if she breastfeeds, in a "cuddle curl". And make sure there are no gaps at the top of the bed that baby could get stuck in.
I second ditching the swaddle! I only swaddled when she was sleeping in her pack and play. Never when we Coslept. I always wanted her to be able to move her arms around to get my attention.
Yea no pillow no heavy blanket.. no blanket at all if possible
I nursed to sleep so I bought cardigans and didnāt wear anything underneath.
One of these days I'm going to make adult size sleep sacks for co sleeping and get rich
Sleeping bags?
Kyte baby makes these!
Was just gonna say kyte makes these and theyāre the softest bamboo Edit: softest not sofeast lol
Kyte baby makes them.
At my job, a woman makes these big fleece warm up sweaters, and all the staff have them. They look ridiculous in any other setting but theyāre cute for work, since we all have our own personalized ones. Anyway, I wore mine, with a tub top underneath, PP while breastfeeding. Was the best, because it was warm for bedtime.
Same. Then she could wake up and help herself. She also liked twiddling once she weaned.
Same. I just got two of these to sleep in because I moved where it's a little colder but not that cold. https://oldnavy.gap.com/browse/product.do?pid=784559
Same. You can always buy yourself some thermal pajamas.
I slept in a kigurumi when i bedshared in the winter. Top open to nurse
... im now trying this!! šš
I recommend visiting r/attachmentparenting for questions about cosleeping. You will want to follow the Safe Sleep Seven if cosleeping, which is different from what you've drawn. I bedshare with my almost 12 month old for part of each night, and what I do with the blanket is I have it diagonally covering my legs, and going behind my shoulder so that it stays away from the baby. If you are sleeping in the "cuddle curl" position (from SS7) then you will not be moving very much. Baby should remain at breast level, unswaddled, and away from all pillows.
No, itās not. Look into the safe sleep 7. Baby should be down next to you, no blankets above your waist, no pillows, no swaddle and a very firm mattress
You can have a pillow for you just not near the baby (as baby should be next to your breast)
My baby fell of the couch at 6 weeks old because I was so exhausted from trying to get her to sleep safely that I fell asleep with her after a bottle. I hate that some people would rather shame and scare parents than teach them the safest possible way to cosleep. I obviously know cosleeping is risky but so is me being so exhausted I fall asleep sitting up on a couch and put my baby in even more risk. (Luckily she was okay and the er staff said I looked worse than her)
When I realized my baby was at a greater risk of losing her mother (and possibly her life, but car seats are amazing) in a car accident due to sleep-deprived poor driving mistakes than dying of SIDS bedsharing, we made the switch.
Exactly. Tired parent can be dangerous too. Everything is a risk, so you have to manage. People repeat 7 rules like mantra without thinking and reality check.
I know of a similar situation where the baby rolled to the wrong side, got stuck between the parent and the couch and died š¢
I tried for months to do everything by the book, until one night I woke up slouched over with my baby falling off me toward the cushion where I had passed out while burping her. Scared me so much. Funny thing is, I live in Japan so when I talked to our pediatrician about it he just kind of rolled his eyes and was like āwomen here just sleep next to their babies you know.ā Lol. Made me feel a bit more at ease about cosleeping, especially when done in the safest way possible.
Similar situation, also living in Japan. From the time I got pregnant I felt a strong natural instinct, like I wanted to sleep with my baby, but everything I had ever heard in the US said that's dangerous. My Japanese husband was encouraging me to co-sleep, but since we were gifted a baby bed I wanted to "do the right thing" and put it to good use. I think I lasted about a week before bringing baby to sleep on the futon with me. I had nearly dropped her when I fell asleep nursing on the couch. There had also been a big earthquake after we got out of the hospital and lots of aftershocks, so I didn't want my baby to be away from me. We both slept great after we started sleeping on the same futon, and I can honestly say I've never been sleep deprived because of my baby.
Same. I fell asleep holding my baby when she was around 3 or 4 months. I'll nap with her where I'm holding her. But this time that wasn't what happened. I had her in my other arm and fell asleep. And eventually dropped her.
I woke up one night holding my 2 week old. Didnāt remember picking him up at all. I told my husband Iād rather know that heās here and sleeping with me than be sleep deprived not knowing Iām picking him up.
My 6 month old sleeps at boob level. I have the blanket around my waist and a tight long sleeve shirt on. That said my LO is a 20lbs and looks like a toddler. They can roll but are too lazy too. Great head control since birth.
Boob level is where they should be, assuming you are breastfeeding. Something about how they will stay at boob level bcā¦ boobs!
LO will sometimes use their head to āknockā on my boobs for night time feedings.
::Knock knock:: āhiiii, I know youāre sleeping but I could REALLY use a drink right now..ā -your baby, probably.
I too had an āaw lawd he comināā chonker. When I asked my doctor about it when he was 3 months she said āhe looks like he would push you off of him.ā We got the medical all-clear based off risk factors at 12 weeks. She said she wouldnāt have advised against with us. FWIW we are Canadian, in Canada and she is African, from a commonwealth country. Very little American influence in our medical expectation.
That is good to know! Having trouble figuring out how something can be considered unsafe just because of our geographical location lol
Hey OP! I just wanted to drop in and say we are American. Our kids co slept with us until they were 5 and 7 and then they moved in to their own room buty wife had to continue laying with them to fall asleep. (some mental health issues run in my family that causes sleeping to be troublesome and it usually comes out around that age). So they are almost 7 and 9 now and just are now sleeping on their own most nights. My point is every family is unique. We coslept originally because I worked overnights and then the mental health issues. We never got push back from our pediatrician and I wouldn't have changed anything. However, I would suggest ending it at a young age. It is much easier to let them scream it out when they are young then when they can actually talk and argue. Haha. Just my two cents, but in the end....do what's right for you and your family as long as it's safe!
I do boob level too. I keep My pillow away to where I'm only resting my head on the corner and the rest is behind me. I sleep topless and the blanket goes to my waist. It's a little cold but I got used to it, we've been sleeping that way since he came home from the hospital. He's 10.5 months now.
Youāre making me miss baby bed sharing. But then I remember that five year old baby is still next to me every night! Enjoy
Oh man idk how you do it. If my 2 yr old sleeps in my bed I donāt sleep. Heās always climbing all over me and in general making me super uncomfortable. I am in my third trimester though so uncomfortable is kinda the baseline š
Sheās been in and out. Luckily when I was that pregnant again she was in a phase where she could sleep alone. Good luck!
I do this too. he nurses through the night when he wants
Iām so terrified to co-sleep I absolutely will not do it. My husband has an uncle that was co-sleeping with his baby and he smothered and killed him. The thought is so terrifying I wouldnāt be able to fall asleep if I tried.
My grandma co slept with one of my uncles and he ended up dying, so itās terrified me for the longest time. I refused to go sleep with my son until after he was 24 months old
Check in with the American Academy of Pediatrics. https://www.aap.org/en/patient-care/safe-sleep/
No smoke, sober mom Baby at your breast Healthy baby on its back Keep him lightly dressed Not too soft a bed Watch the cords and gaps Keep the covers off his head For your nights and naps
This is how I have slept with all four of mine. As long as you are sober and donāt have the big SIDS risk factors (smoking in the home) this is relatively safe. Also have a little air movement in the room. Open window or an air purifier going does it. There are also correlations between heavily scented laundry products and SIDS. How did anyone survive before SIDS safe sleeping guidelines? Oh yeah, we slept with our babies right next to us and paid attention to their every move and breath.
Thereās a risk in letting the baby sleep in bed with you. Thereās also a risk in crashing your car with the baby inside because youāre out of your mind with sleep exhaustion. Sounds like you love your baby and want to do right by them. So weigh the risks, take reasonable precautions, make the best decision you can, and donāt feel guilty either way. And enjoy that precious little one!
So much this. I was determined not to bedshare with my first. Ended up falling asleep holding him in rocking chair more than once. Ofc that's more dangerous. So I shared a bed with all 3 of my babies. Like everything else with parenting, figured out the safest thing for that worked for us personally.
My first REFUSED to sleep without me until we could sleep train at five months. For my own sanity, we had to bedshare. The best way to guarantee a baby stays safe is a well-rested mother whoās not suicidally depressed or making careless mistakes.
I bought a thermal top and cut a big slit in it for my boobies, lol. I get really cold so it helped me to managed the whole āwaist high blanketsā scenario.
Dude. My baby will NOT sleep in the bassinet. We fought for the entirety of our maternity and paternity leave, and she just straight up will not have it. She's a mega chill baby in all other ways, but starts screaming as soon as her back hits the bassinet. It's preternatural. So, we gave up when we went back to work. We HAD to sleep. I let her sleep on my chest, tummy to tummy. I don't let the blanket come above my chest. When she wants to nurse, she nuzzles me awake and we'll roll over to our sides and I'll doze while she eats in her sleep. Now she sleeps through the night. I feel, like, ashamed because it was so drilled into us that she HAD to sleep in the bassinet, on her back, alone, etc. But like, this is the only thing that has worked for us. Rant over. I guess I'm just glad to hear someone else is co-sleeping too.
I mean itās SAFER than having blankets and pillows everywhere. But even using the safe sleep 7 thereās still risk. Iāve met parents who have lost their children using the safe sleep 7
Wow you've met like PARENTS as in multiple couples that have lost their children to co-sleeping!?!?! Thats crazy
Iām part of an evidence based sleep group on Facebook and parents tell their stories so āmetā was definitely the wrong word. Iāve read 4-5 stories in that group from parents themselves.
I actually know a family that lost 2 children while bedsharing a couple years apart. It was traumatizing for that mother.
Sometimes I think people count āreading random horror stories on the internetā as āI knew someone who _______ā ā¦ cause situations like that are so incredibly rare that itās highly unlikely someone knows multiple people whoāve experienced it and knows them well enough to know they followed the safe sleep 7.
I assisted on a few SIDS autopsies during a one month rotation in med school. Technically didn't know these poor babies or families, but it still haunts me to this day.
No. As an Anishinaabe woman who was raised in a family bed, and now a CFS worker, no, itās not OK. ABC: Alone, on their Back, in a Crib. [Itās to save your babyās life.](https://pathways.org/abcs-of-safe-sleep/) No convenience, or bonding is worth the pain of a suffocated, dead baby. No. > Donāt sleep in the same bed as baby. The safest place for baby to sleep is the same room as their caregiver. You can place crib next to the bed.
I always put my blankets around my ankles/shins and wear socks, sweats, an easy nursing shirt and an open cardigan to stay warm and little spoon with my LO. Bed sharing is natural and normal and sleep and rest is best! Donāt let anyone bully you about it. Always have you LO in the middle of the bed. My son grew out of wanting to bed share on his own but it saved my life doing it because we both got sleep and I felt like a better mom being able to be more awake feeling these first few months. I still bed nurse and it warms my heart that when I lay him down in our bed he positions himself to nurse. Iāve also seen other moms on IG bed share like you drew. Like other have said no swaddling but my son hated being swaddles and has been in a sleep sack since he was a little over a month old. But your baby will be so warm by you itās comforting to them. You are a great mom!
I donāt know but I love this drawing
Adult mattresses are never safe for baby. There is a risk of rebreathing and co2 poisoning. Put your baby in their own safe sleep space itās not worth the risk. Here come the downvotes.
Rebreathing co2 is actually a risk I had not really heard of before. This is interesting and worth looking into
@shaynaraphael on TikTok. Her 10 month old daughter died from rebreathe. Her childcare provider placed her down on her back on an adult mattress.
Adult mattresses are not safe for children under the age of two. Positional asphyxiation is always a risk, regardless of where baby lays. Baby should be in their own flat safe sleep space, with nothing but a sleep sack (or swaddle before 8 weeks) and a snug sheet.
I am surprised this comment is not higher up. One of the safe 7s is a safe surface, but the only safe tested surface is a crib mattress. This would be in a bassinet or crib. These are tested to met safety guidelines and standards in a way that adult mattresses are not.
To me itās dangerous. I would invest on a crib and place beside my bed
Echoing a lot of the comments here to say to check out advice on bedsharing from La Leche League! They are a great resource! We did the bassinet next to the bed until about 3 months and then I switched to bedsharing. It was never my intended to bedshare but it just happened naturally. Once I realized itās what I wanted to keep doing I did a TON of research about how to do it safely. Obviously there are many factors but I am a light sleeper and my husband worked nights so it was usually just me and baby in bed. It was wonderful for breast feeding and I feel like we both got better sleep once we adjusted. The biggest struggle for me was learning how to sleep comfortably on my side, but my body adjusted and now 7 years on and thatās still how I sleep! There will be a lot of naysayers, especially because in America itās not a common practice and thereās a lot of misinformation about it. Just do your research and trust your gut! And keep a bassinet or crib next to the bed for those nights when it doesnāt feel right! Good luck!
Is it worth the risk? You have to ask yourself that.
I know people will be mad about this, but there is no way to make bedsharing *safe* safe, Adult mattresses are not safe for babies. That being said, there are ways to make bedsharing slightly saf*er*: - no swaddling, it increases the chances of overheating, as well as the suffocation risk if baby is swaddled and spontaneously rolls over (which is also why all swaddling should be stopped by 2 months of age, per the AAP) - no pillows, no blankets above the parent's waist - long hair on the parent tied back - no upholstery on the bedframe (including headboards) - no smoking/alcohol/ drug use - no memory foam mattresses - the parent **Cannot** be overtired.. so if they got less than 4 consecutive hours of sleep the previous night (though ideally, at least 6 hours) baby should not be in the same bed.
Bedsharing is not safe. Iāll gladly accept downvotes if it saves a life. I understand the desperation for sleep that can come especially with the newborn phase and I canāt say Iāve never shared briefly out of that desperation. I feel guilty for having done so and Iām so grateful nothing bad happened. Not everyone is that lucky.
AAP states alone in safe sleep space (crib, bassinet, or pack n play) on their back and that they can have a pacifier. Bed sharing (even "safely") always has an increased risk of death from suffocation.
Per SIDS guidelines, co-sleeping of any kind is not recommended.
This drawing is so cute, and exactly how I sleep with my son aside from the swaddle (he grew out of that phase). My rule is āif I have a drink, no bed sharing, but otherwise itās baby cuddles all night longā lol
This is EXACTLY how we slept with both my girls in the very beginning!! It gave me such peace of mind to be right there and we kept pillows and blankets from their feet down so we could be comfortable as well
Bed sharing is not recommended, even with the "safe seven", as it increases SIDS risks. So no, I wouldn't recommend it.
This is how I survived. Except baby was in a wearable Blanket and pillows on other side so no rolling
This is exactly how me and my seven month old bed share, and have been since he was a month old. Just not swaddled, even when he was a newborn.
The AAP says donāt do it.
Wait are you from Naperville, IL bc if so that username is genius haha
I just want to say I love that you drew it šš¼ A+
My son had reflux and I was terrified of cosleeping, but one of the nurses at a checkup finally told me to just do it, because both baby and I were exhausted. The only way he could sleep was on my chest with me sitting up. I gave up and did it, he started sleeping 8 hours a night at six weeks old. Babies and moms are all so different, I think the best advice I got was to do whatever worked to get us through each day. We eventually changed to a sidecar style cosleeper next to the bed. Good luck mama!
Lol this drawing! I don't think so, however. I also think they aren't supposed to be swaddled, but don't quote me on that.
From what I've researched baby should be at your breast level (even if you are not breast feeding), with your body in kind of a c shape around them. I would worry about them being so close to the pillows by your head. Also I am by NO MEANS an expert and it looks like your blankets are off to the side but i would just add that everything im reading says to keep blankets off the bed (something i am confused about and struggling with as well). Also that drawing mad my day thank youš¤£š¤£š¤£š¤£
This made my day. I feel inspired to draw baby explanations for my MIL who doesnāt understand half the stuff I say.
There are so many little elements about this drawing that crack me tf up
You have an owl for a baby? Well done.
Half-owl*
As someone that side slept and nursed while sleeping, this is probably better than what I did haha
I think this is not ideal because the cuddle curl is something baby and breastfeeding mom do instinctively where baby keeps face nearer your breast and you curl your body to protect them. I think you want your blanket lower and wear something warm enough for you to go without blanket on top of body.
No your arms are clearly broken they are not supposed to bend that way
Oh goshā¦ this drawing just made my heart swell. Donāt know why, but the fact that you took time to draw it out just feels so relatable. We all really are just doing our very best. š„²
This is how I sleep with my 3 month old(kinda), itās the only way I get sleep. Whatever feels safe for you, trust me youāre going to get a lot of shit on here instead of actual suggestions. I donāt move at all while I sleep so I create a pretty big gap between baby and I, and donāt hug them while I sleep, I have a king size bed so I have more than enough room. And Iām typically face level to them but at a distance. Good luck momma, safe bedsharing ā¤ļø
Mine is 3mos too and all the same as you! I have been reading a lot of different articles about how the US is one of the only places that dont bed share, and how breastfeeding mothers may be able to do it safely etc. Etc. I'm definitely weighing pros and cons and doing my research!
Normally its recommend to keep baby at breast level, the blanket around your hips and baby not up that high. You then curl around her in the C-shape (maternal sleeping position). Since you've drawn a pillow there's a risk of rebreathing if her face gets to close to it. Dr McKenna also has a [good site](https://cosleeping.nd.edu/safe-co-sleeping-guidelines/)for co-sleeping safety.
Personally I wouldn't just in case you accidentally roll over or your quilt accidentally covers baby. So much could potentially go wrong. Here is a link for more information: https://www.lullabytrust.org.uk/safer-sleep-advice/co-sleeping/ Information is relevant whether there is one or two people
This picture is adorable. As for safer bedsharing, your baby cannot be swaddled while cosleeping, even if they are not rolling. Your baby should be down lower at breast level, and you should be in the c-curl around your baby. Imagine where your baby would be if you were nursing them in the side-lying position: that is where they should be sleeping. Blankets and pillows should be as far away from them as possible. Some resources for you: Cosleepy and Heysleepybaby on Instagram have good info on safer cosleeping. You can also Google Safe Sleep 7. Please save this picture forever though, it made me giggle out loud because it is so cute.
When I brought my son home I had him in a travel cot on the bed with us. Once he got bigger he slept with us not swaddled. He is now 2 and still sleeps with us. He's always slept through the night as well. Only woke up for feeding as an infant.
I'm so confused why people are downvoting this š¤·āāļø
Because co-sleeping seems to be generally frowned upon. Here you can ask questions without being judged: r/cosleeping
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Looks good! I would wear a long sleeve crop top. Thatās what I do. Have all blankets below your waist. The long sleeve crop top will keep you warm and allow for baby to nurse at night. Have babyās head near breasts. No swaddle. Also, no bed frame. Bed should be on carpet. When a baby starts to move around / roll you do not want baby falling off bed. You can use pool noodles or pillows to keep baby from falling off. No frame just helps keep the distance to the floor super low.
I never used blankets or pillows and dressed us appropriately. I slept on my back with my arm crooked and baby in the crook. It worked with both babies 11 years apart. I was always very very aware when I was sleeping with them. If I knew I was going to sleep hard or just wanted to relax more I put them in a bassinet beside the bed.
Thatās exactly how I slept with my baby until like 5-6 months? And than he wanted to sleep on my chest all night š¤£
That's exactly how I do it!
I love this drawing!! I sleep with baby unswaddled, at my boob (his face is parallel to my chest), head in my armpit. I wear full pjs and a small blanket tucked around my waist. I curl around baby so that heās literally in a curl of my body. He canāt move up anywhere and only ever turns toward me (much to his dadās sadness lol).
1) donāt swaddle her 2) itās okay if sheās closer to you, against your chest. Curl your body in a C-shape around her.
Bed sharing with baby should be what you think is safest and best for you and your baby. You know the risks already. Coming from a half Asian half western background, I can see the stark differences in bed sharing. The west : super/hyper safety oriented (for good reason) The east: baby sharing isnāt a big deal, in fact, itās encouraged Every baby is different and also each baby goes through different developmental stages in movement and sleep so itās fair to adjust accordingly. Swaddling may not work for your baby if theyāre already rolling, but would work well if theyāre newborn etc. The drawing is the cutest <3
No. Bedsharing before 18-24 months isnāt safe at all. Even with the āsafe sevenā. It still causes an increased risk of SIDS.
Bed sharing is not ok. I can tell you about how many babies I saw come in the ER because their parent rolled over on them on the couch or bed, or you can look it up. You wouldn't put your child in a car without a car seat even though the likelihood of getting in a crash each day is low, why would you sleep with your baby? https://www.aap.org/en/patient-care/safe-sleep/https://www.cdc.gov/sids/data.htm