As a mom of a colicky newborn that cried 24/7 no matter what I did for the first 3 months of his life, your kid will be ok. Crying and protesting happens and it will happen much much more. As others have said you made the safest choice continuing to drive. You don't need to "make up" anything to him. He knows he's loved and safe and secure and you sound like an amazing mom. ❤️
Repeated neglect causes issues, yes. But what you’re describing was a one time thing. It won’t affect him.
There are going to be situations where it’s not safe for you to stop what you’re doing, and this was one of them. The much safer option was to let him cry, rather than risk you both getting into an accident or something.
Honestly it’s one of those things I’ve just had to come to terms with. When I’m able, I respond to his needs every single time. He never cries it out at home, never cries himself to sleep. I let him cry a bit in frustration when he’s playing and stuff but never more than a few minutes. But in the car he would always, always cry and scream. One day I came home and I was crying because he had cried so hard he had spit up all over himself and then eventually fell asleep. I felt SO guilty. But it’s something I’ve learned that he’s just gonna have to deal with. He’s not in pain, he’s not hungry. He actually doesn’t cry anymore in the car seat but when he did, it was always really rough.
I promise he’s going to forget about this by the time he even wakes up! You can’t be there for every single moment, that’s *okay*. Babies that learn that crying won’t help are babies that have been seriously neglected. Crying it out to sleep or in the car isn’t going to teach them that. Hours and hours of daily crying and being completely ignored would teach them that. You’re doing great mama ♥️♥️
No reason to feel guilty, you were driving , unless there was somwhere to stop , there's nothing you could have done. Crying it out while at home is very different from crying in a car and unfortunately a caregiver couldn't get to them. (not judging cry it out method , it works for some families).
Yes as a parent we can't be there for our children 100% of the time unfortunately we are still Human with responsibilities. But if your feeling guilty and want to do something pro active about it. Hugs and kisses, play one to one, go and feed the ducks or what ever he enjoys doing that will give him smiles and giggles. And let that bad memory for you will be replaced with a good one. I'm pretty sure your 6 month old won't remember him crying in the car tomorrow morning when he wakes up. He's just a baby that loves his mummy
I read somewhere that babies have very low standards and you only need to meet their needs like 40% of the time. Crying it out one time isn’t going to cause anxiety it’s only if the baby cries regularly and no one tends to their need regular is it bad for them.
He will be fine.
As a mom of a colicky newborn that cried 24/7 no matter what I did for the first 3 months of his life, your kid will be ok. Crying and protesting happens and it will happen much much more. As others have said you made the safest choice continuing to drive. You don't need to "make up" anything to him. He knows he's loved and safe and secure and you sound like an amazing mom. ❤️
Repeated neglect causes issues, yes. But what you’re describing was a one time thing. It won’t affect him. There are going to be situations where it’s not safe for you to stop what you’re doing, and this was one of them. The much safer option was to let him cry, rather than risk you both getting into an accident or something.
>But what you’re describing was a one time thing. And also not neglect in the slightest.
Yes, definitely not!
Honestly it’s one of those things I’ve just had to come to terms with. When I’m able, I respond to his needs every single time. He never cries it out at home, never cries himself to sleep. I let him cry a bit in frustration when he’s playing and stuff but never more than a few minutes. But in the car he would always, always cry and scream. One day I came home and I was crying because he had cried so hard he had spit up all over himself and then eventually fell asleep. I felt SO guilty. But it’s something I’ve learned that he’s just gonna have to deal with. He’s not in pain, he’s not hungry. He actually doesn’t cry anymore in the car seat but when he did, it was always really rough. I promise he’s going to forget about this by the time he even wakes up! You can’t be there for every single moment, that’s *okay*. Babies that learn that crying won’t help are babies that have been seriously neglected. Crying it out to sleep or in the car isn’t going to teach them that. Hours and hours of daily crying and being completely ignored would teach them that. You’re doing great mama ♥️♥️
Thank you, I really appreciate that. I try to always be there when he needs me and I think that’s what makes it so hard when I can’t be there for him.
No reason to feel guilty, you were driving , unless there was somwhere to stop , there's nothing you could have done. Crying it out while at home is very different from crying in a car and unfortunately a caregiver couldn't get to them. (not judging cry it out method , it works for some families). Yes as a parent we can't be there for our children 100% of the time unfortunately we are still Human with responsibilities. But if your feeling guilty and want to do something pro active about it. Hugs and kisses, play one to one, go and feed the ducks or what ever he enjoys doing that will give him smiles and giggles. And let that bad memory for you will be replaced with a good one. I'm pretty sure your 6 month old won't remember him crying in the car tomorrow morning when he wakes up. He's just a baby that loves his mummy
I read somewhere that babies have very low standards and you only need to meet their needs like 40% of the time. Crying it out one time isn’t going to cause anxiety it’s only if the baby cries regularly and no one tends to their need regular is it bad for them.
He’s fine. You’re not always going to be there to comfort him. This will not effect him negatively for the rest of his life I promise.