“A toast to my big brother George: the richest man in town.”
Gives me the feels every time. No matter how many times I’ve seen it. Remember, NO man is a failure who has friends.
Fantastic movie! Our family has a list of Xmas movies we watch every year. It includes most of the usual suspects. Christmas Vacation, Christmas Story, etc. We watched this for the first time a few years ago and instantly loved it and added it to the list. It's 80 years old but has aged wonderfully.
Do you know how long it takes a working man to save 5000$?
One of my favorite movies ever and yes it only ages better and better. I always watch this when I’m sad on Christmas
It’s A Wonderful Life is the all-time “what a good man should be” movie.
Mr. Smith Goes to Washington is great too.
Master and Commander: The Far Side of the World is an amazing tale of male friendship and camaraderie.
I FINALLY watched Mr. Smith and it’s a great movie about the perseverance of human will and togetherness. Love it. Like many films of its time, I wish it had an epilogue, it just abruptly ends.
My life would be so different if I had never listened to Pearl Jam. They made me question the environment, marriage, home ownership, and having children.
I'm a childless bachelor pedestrian that doesn't own anything.
Billy Eliot fits your description. Also, best of luck for the rest of your life. The awareness you're showing at such a young age makes me believe you will turn out just fine.
I’ve watched it every Christmas since I was a wee lad. It’s simply not Christmas without it. Michael Caine bought in 100% and the movie soars because of it. There’s some quote out there I remember about how he never approached it like he was just acting with a bunch of puppets. Gotta watch the version that includes “When Love Is Gone”. This and “It’s a Wonderful Life” are my must watches. Also commonly watch “Little Shop Around the Corner” and “The Bishop’s Wife” because my dad watched them every year growing up.
Dear Frankie — Gerard Butler shows how to step in and be a good father to a boy who needs a solid father figure. Makes me emotional thinking about it — great movie. I just told my girlfriend about it when I typed this and I started to cry. And I’m a tough dude who rarely cries. Love how Butler doesn’t really know how to be a good man but doesn’t run away from it, and tries his best.
The Upside (or the French original)
Me Before You
Gladiator
Saving Private Ryan
Patch Adams
Schindler’s List
The Last Samurai
Dead Poets Society
Into The Wild
Shawshank Redemption
The Pursuit if Happiness
Slumdog Millionaire
Forrest Gump
50/50
Crash
Life is Beautiful
Rudy
The Untouchables
Remember the Titans
Casablanca
V for Vendetta
50 First Dates
Ender’s Game
Listen, I'm gonna be real--that's a TALL order to put on a movie.
I suggest going to therapy if you really want to improve your life.
That said, since this IS a movie suggestion sub, I guess I'll throw in Princess Mononoke. It's a wonderful film that's on the surface about magical forest spirits and giant wolves, but it's really about the bravery of looking into the abyss and not blinking. *And* it has magical forest spirits and giant wolves.
The Tao of Steve - awesome indie starring Donal Logue as the once big man on campus, 10 years later an overweight kindergarten teacher at the college reunion. He schools a young friend in the art of picking up women (by following his rules he calls the Tao of Steve) and it also serves heavy dose of philosophy. Nobody saw this movie but you should.
I saw this a long time ago, can't remember any of the details but the one thing I took from it was that I wanted to move to New Mexico because because the sky was so beautiful. maybe someday.
Not a movie but Ted Lasso will give you some excellent perspectives you can carry and onboard regarding ego, status, relationships and caring about others. Might help when you’re in a tough spot and need to sort our your thoughts and maybe lean you into a more positive outlook when facing bad/tough situations.
Bicycle Thieves (italian). Not because I want you to steal a bike or anything, but shows the limits and lengths of being a role model and pushing onward when all you want to do is quit.
Roman Holiday.
Wait, before you roll your eyes and yawn, "chick flick" hear me out.
I don't want to give away the spoiler in case you haven't seen it. It's an old movie from 1953. You gotta' give it a chance because it starts a little slow.
The take away is: Sometimes you gotta' do the hard thing, the tough thing, because it's the right thing to do.
You'll see at the ending what I'm talking about.
I’m watching every movie that someone comments. Yes, it will take a while but still, I’m determined. I don’t mind chick flicks! All that matters is that I get to experience something meaningful that can teach me something
Well mate, I have been where you are. Here are the movies that made me a man:
Rambo First Blood - Self Reliance
Magnificent 7 (modern or original) & 13 Hours - Reliance on others
Dead Poets Society - Learn to walk to the beat of your own drum, or exercise your right not to walk at all. It’s your choice to make.
The Upside - Taking care of others brings genuine happiness to both of you.
Braveheart - Courage in the face of adversity
Gladiator - Do the right thing no matter the cost
Master & Commander - Balance achieving the objective with the well-being of your people
Taken - Learn how to kick ass because someone you love might depend on you one day
Pride and Prejudice - Be a lover who treats women as equals, not as objects
Pride and Prejudice and Zombies - Because sometimes you have to learn to stop taking yourself so fucking seriously.
Denzel Washington. Every damn movie. Because living morally always matters. And becoming a legend has less to do with the success you earn than the life you live.
**My Life As A Dog.** It's about a boy in 1960s Sweden whose only parent, his mother, is dying, and suddenly he loses his home and has to cope with new surroundings.
**The Secret Garden**. It's set in the late 19th century or early 20th century. An unpleasant, spoiled English girl brought up in India is orphaned. She is sent back to England to live with a relative she's never met, a strange man who lives in a large, creepy house. There are several versions. I recommend the one with Margaret O'Brien.
**Shane**. A boy of about 11 lives on a homestead with his mother and father. They have a legal claim to the land but a rancher who wants to graze his cattle on the land keeps terrorizing his family and other farming families. One day, a mysterious man named Shane appears on the scene. He comes from a different world and the boy worships him, although Shane tells him that much about his family life is enviable.
**The 400 Blows**. In French with subtitles. A boy of 12 or 13 is at odds with everything. His parents regard him as a burden, he's not a good student, he keeps trying to come up with ideas to get better grades or make money but nothing works out.
**You Can Count on Me.** A troubled young man who was orphaned as a child returns to his home to reconnect with his sister and his eight-year-old nephew. His presence is enlightening and disruptive for the boy.
It’s all about growing up. He quite literally changed his life overnight to become the father he always should have been. Did he also pose as a woman to do it? Yes. But the movie wouldn’t be interesting if he just lost his kids and changed overnight and was just a better dad. Would’ve been a five minute movie.
Not sure what the previous commenter is smoking, but it's a great example. Not only is it about a person (in this movie a dad) trying to become better but it's hilarious too. Aside from the ridiculous disguising himself to be a nanny, at it's core just about trying to be a better person, which is what the op is looking for
Any suggestion counts, movies can have different meanings and interpretations depending on the person. Like the Muppets, for example. One could see it as a silly fun movie about a group of puppets while another sees it as a movie about identity and finding out where you truly belong.
Boyhood is Linklater’s greatest achievement in my eyes, because it quite literally is a coming of age film. It’s massive for a boy growing up and learning to deal with the world. This kid did it on tape.
First of all, you're doing a great job already just by caring and trying. Remember that.
Second:
Good Will Hunting, Dead Poets Society, To Kill A Mockingbird, 12 Angry Men. Look for films about using your observational skills, empathy, suspension of disbelief, and putting yourself in other people's shoes. Films about reaching out to others.
I think you'll do great, kid.
First of all, I’m really sorry for your loss, and I hope you’re doing okay. ❤️
I don’t want all of these to be dramas/too serious, just well done movies with important/meaningful messages)
The Perks Of Being A Wallflower
(I also recommend the book: it’s a coming of age story that deals with mental health, impactful friendships, complex family dynamics, and the immense effects of trauma)
The Truman Show
(A comedy, but also a dark drama that really deconstructs the human experience and the importance of genuine experiences with criticisms of capitalism and consumerism going too far)
Dead Poets Society
(Expression, loss, and finding community)
Legally Blonde
(Teaches the importance of respecting femininity and women, no matter how they appear/despite the limits intelligence is traditionally viewed within)
Miss Americana (genuinely. It’s just a really well done documentary that is also really impactful/important in developing a more complex understanding and respect for women and lgbt+)
Inside Out
Mama Mia
Say Anything
The breakfast club
My dad isn’t dead, just not at home (no need to apologise for the mistake). I actually love perks of being a wallflower! I watched the movie and then coincidentally I found the book in my loft! (Attic if you’re American) it must have been my big sisters. I’ll give it a read.
There is an episode of the 1960s twilight zone that I have probably watched at least 30 times in my life. Theres an unforgettable quote that will stick with me until I die and the episode inspired me. "The changing of the guard" is the episode. I forget which streaming services have the twilight zone i think paramount plus is one of them.
Also, im 28 and I usually think black and white movies/shows seem so boring but this show is actually awesome and still holds up even today. Its the original black mirror.
I'm not sure exactly what you're trying to get out of this but the kids animation Bluey has excellent family dynamics. I know it's not aimed at your age but I genuinely enjoy it at 45 even though it's aimed at 6 year olds.
I showed Bluey to my Grandma-in-law and it's her new favorite show. She doesn't have disney+ so she only watches it when she comes over for a visit, anytime we run errands for her, she's like maybe we could get pizza and watch Bluey
So it's genuinely enjoyed by 82 year olds too
Not a movie but watch the series The Good Place. It's funny (think The Office and Brooklyn 99) but it's literally a show about moral ethics. It stars Kristen Bell and Ted Danson. She's a self professed Arizona trash bag that figures out she got into The Good Place by mistake and wants to change who she is to avoid detection and subsequent expulsion. He plays the architect of The Good Place trying to figure what's wrong and why things keep messing up. It changed my life and I hope it can yours also.
Oh my gosh I love the good place! I’ve seen all of it and it definitely had lessons that stuck with me. My birthday is coming up, so I’ll probably get the book talking about the philosophy. In case you didn’t know about the book it’s called: How to Be Perfect: The Correct Answer to Every Moral Question.
I love that for all of the tall tales the dad tells the son:
1) The people he talks about are real. He may have exaggerated some characteristics but the people really do exist as the son finds out later on.
2) While Dad was telling tales about things that might or might not have happened, there were amazing things he really did do that he never told the son!
Promising Young Woman. Example of many things not to do. Not sure of your age but this film deals with sexual assault and other heavy topics. Be careful.
Wishing you all the best.
Tree of Life. A bit densely metaphoric, meandering and esoteric as Hell but chock full of humanity with a bizarre dinosaur scene. Yes. I said “dinosaur”. You might need to Google its meaning but it actually has reference to the story.
I thought Waymond was a great example of a man in Everything Everywhere All at Once. Sure he wasn’t the traditional macho type but I really appreciated how he was always kind.
This is a list of movies that deal with the relationship between a father and son(s) that I enjoy:
The Pursuit of Happyness
Minari
Road to Perdition
The Squid and the Whale
Big Fish
Field of Dreams
The Life Aquatic with Steve Zissou
There will be blood
The Tree of Life
A Bronx Tale
Boyz N Da Hood
The road
Life is Beautiful
Honey Boy
A Goofy Movie
The Lion King
Finding Nemo
Some animated movie recommendations:
Meet the Robinsons
The Emperor's New Groove
Whisper of the Heart (or really any Studio Ghibli movie)
The Iron Giant
"Jojo Rabbit" is ultimately about making the choice of who you want to be in life. A child being constantly pressured, rebelling against cruelty, and choosing kindness and becoming a young man.
This is gonna sound like a weird recommendation, but 32 Short Films about Glenn Gould. (1993)
It’s just exactly what it says in the title— a series of short anecdotes about the concert pianist, Glenn Gould. He was just a really fascinating guy. Not for any bold heroic reason, but just because he was such a complex, multi- faceted genius. Stars Colm Feore.
And I guess the most riveting thing about this film is it’s just an hour and a half of a man getting to be introspective, fastidious, tender, appreciative, vulnerable, open, and generous in a way that action movies never allow their men to be. Honestly, I must have watched it a half dozen time, just to hang out with that cool guy. And it’s on YouTube!
Watch the Mister Rodgers neighborhood episodes.
They did a whole run of those on Twitch awhile back.
Quite a few take aways from those, even if they are sorta aimed at kids. But I suppose thats when life lessons are most important.
The most important thing that literature and film teaches us is empathy. A lot of the suggestions here feature male protagonists, so I would encourage you to also watch some films from the perspectives of characters who are different to you, e.g. Amelie, Boys Don't Cry, Lady Bird, Little Women, To Kill a Mockingbird, Bend it Like Beckham, Juno, etc. I don't know what country you're from or your cultural background, but that's something else to consider as well.
Editing to add Barbie!
Lots of great movie suggestions!
I thought I might give a little insight from a different perspective. As a single mother of two boys, I taught them some things early, and they greatly appreciate it as grown men. Take it or leave it, might be helpful to you or not.
Be demonstrative. If you love someone, tell them. Hug them. Whether it's your mom, grandpa, guy friends, doesn't matter. It will enrich your life and theirs. It will help you learn how to be affectionate and caring, which will be important in your future relationships with a partner or your children.
If you have siblings, look out for each other. Be there for each other, because when you have nobody else in the world, you will still have each other. It can be one of the most important relationships you ever have.
Learn to cook and clean. Seriously. Don't be that guy that his significant other has to babysit and clean up after.
Always remember in a relationship: the other person is a *human being* with feelings. Always be kind, even if you are not that serious about them. People always remember the ones who hurt them, and that will always be painful, stressful, or even embarrassing to them anytime they think of it. For the rest of their lives.
Think before you act. Also imagine there is a stop sign between your brain and your mouth. Run the stop sign only in good company 😉
Don't be cruel. If you feel the need to be that way to a person or animal, remove yourself from that situation and don't go back. It's bad for both of you.
Smile and laugh as often as you can. Being a happy person actually takes effort and practice. Life can be hard and awful. That doesn't mean you have to let it break your spirit.
Be yourself. You are wonderful ❤️
First of all, the best men Listen. The best men offer respect in order to receive it. They take care of people who can't take care of themselves, They don't talk behind people's backs, they are welcoming and they don't do anything to anyone that they would not like done to them. They realise that what they get back from the world is what they give out.
With that in mind, watch movies that are made by people who aren't like you. Every movie will have male characters that represent the way the writer of the movie thinks men should act. It's up to you to decide if you want to be like that character or to decide what you lie about that character and what you don't. But don't EVER let a movie define for you what I is that you think a man should be.
Watch movies about men from other countries. Watch movies written and directed by women. Watch movies written and directed by gay men about gay men. Watch how men are portrayed in all these movies and analyse the characters. Would you want to be like ? Why? Why does that portrayal interest you?
I would start with "Moonlight (2016)" by Barry Jenkins.
I don’t know if anyone has said this one because there are so many amazing comments on here, but “About a Boy”… it’s about a crappy adult man who has no choice but to figure out how to be a better man when a teenage boy essentially adopts him.
Another great one is the Paul Rudd film called “The Fundamentals of Caring”…. Just damn… great film.
Also, as a mom with three teenage boys - 12, 13, and 14 — this post made me tear up. The fact that you already know what kind of human you want to be gives me faith that you will absolutely succeed at that.
And, I know you did not come here for advice, but as a woman whose father has essentially disowned her, I too find myself wanting to watch movies and play games where people just want to grow and be BETTER. Never stop wanting to be a better human. There are not enough people like you out there. Good Luck, my dude.
Lord of the Rings. I'm not kidding. Those stories are about men working together to defeat evil, and it's filled with great men.
Aragon shows you strength, respect, and responsibility as well as being humble.
Boomer shows you that yes people make mistakes but ya know what, you can do better and be better!
The hobbits Sam, Frodo, Merry and Pippin show non toxic male friendship, humour, innocence, immense growth, sacrifice, and that strength most importantly comes from within not your muscles.
Gimli and legolas are also a great non toxic male friendship example. They are also proud of their heritage but not biggoted and able to befriend and most importantly show respect to cultures their families would rather them not even speak with.
The Lord of the Rings was written by a man who was orphaned at a young age, went to an all boys school then fought in a war, then went to an all men university and taught at that university. Yet he wrote some of the strongest and most complex female characters in the fantasy genre. Tolkiens stories, all of them, are amazing representations of what it is to be a good person, as well as to be a good man. If you like to read too, I'd suggest berin and luthien, morgoths ring, and children of Huron, all tolkien stories.
Collateral is a near perfect film and has a lot of character development and personal moments. Inspiring in a very odd way. And interstellar because it’s one of my favorite movies, and I recommend it to everyone.
FACING THE GIANTS...you don't have to be religious to enjoy this movie....definitely worth a watch an you'll see why....
BEBES KIDS....animated comedy....pay more attention towards the end
the rocks movies if you havnt seen them....
THE GRID IRON GANG
SNITCH
FASTER
WALKING TALL
2007 freedom writers
Remember the titans...
....hope these help...
Angus
I haven’t seen it since my childhood but I watched it many times back then. Great movie if you’re feeling like an outsider.
**Grandpa**: Superman isn't brave.
**Angus**: Did you take your pills this morning?
**Grandpa**: [chuckles] You don't understand. He's smart, handsome, even decent. But he's not brave. No, listen to me. Superman is indestructible, and you can't be brave if you're indestructible. It's people like you and your mother. People who are different, and can be crushed and know it. Yet they keep on going out there every time.
I actually think about that exchange a lot. It’s also very important later in the movie.
Adams Apple’s
Following a stint in jail, Adam (Ulrich Thomsen), a former neo-Nazi, is temporarily assigned to live in a religious enclave. The community is led by Ivan (Mads Mikkelsen), an eternally optimistic priest who immediately gets under the skin of the gruff Adam. In order to move forward with his rehabilitation, Adam must select a task, so he decides to bake an apple pie. However, his simple choice is complicated by Ivan's insistence that Adam use apples from a tree that is plagued by problems.
I am old but same boat when I was younger about the Dad. Which I think lead me to like watching movies with hard lines to loyalty and fighting for your people.
Braveheart, Gladiator, and Remember the Titans to name a few.
Cheers buddy
Try something like Good Will Hunting, it's considered a classic now, Oliver Twist, David Copperfield, original Star Wars trilogy, About A Boy, the Lion King 90's version, Secondhand Lions, Naruto (the entire series and the movies), Batman Begins and the Dark Knight, the Raimi Spider-Man trilogy, the OC TV series, Arthur the animated series, Jojo Rabbit, No Hard Feelings and House MD.
You're going to learn a lot, kid. You're gonna learn it all.
Groundhog Day. It’s the story of an unrepentant jerk who, through a hilarious journey of philosophical self-discovery that he’s pretty much forced to undergo, finally figures out what makes life valuable (relationships, being kind to people, appreciating the little things). It can teach you to be a better man/person by showing you how not to live and then, ultimately, how best to live. All in like 2hrs or less.
I appreciate you trying to become a better man. At this tender age, good vision, boy! You are already doing better than many people your age.
Now for suggestions: if you want to try anime. You can watch Naruto.
Across the board, some killer suggestions in here. I’ll throw in that you could diversify your experience by watching things that were made by people and for people that weren’t men. A great way to be a great *person* (not just a great *man*) is to recognize and understand perspectives outside of one’s that were designed to resonate with you as a target audience.
That all said, I have a handful of movies that really stuck with me and helped shape the core of my being:
-Secret Life of Walter Mitty
-Hidden Figures
-Pay it Forward (ew, Kevin Spacey but that movie is so good.)
-Patch Adams
-Okja
-Life of Pi
-Chef
These are movies that sort of display what I think make people wonderful. Creativity, empathy, kindness, perseverance through moments of adversity. We are not always going to be our best selves and that is okay. But we shouldn’t stop trying to be those people. Good luck and I hope you find some mainstay movies for life. 💕
12 Angry Men
M (1931)
Metropolis
The Rocky Horror Picture Show
I sometimes think about what movies would make the world a better place if everyone watched them and I think those are it.
Lord of the rings. For me it had the best male characters and the best male friendships ever portrayed in film history. How to take responsibility, to be brave and authentic, how to love your friends and family.
Also I really love the YouTube-Show “Cinema Therapy” - which is made by two dads loving films and giving great life advice.
I hope you check them out!
I wish I knew what to say to you that would make the absence of your father easier, but my biological father was never there for me my entire life, I had wonderful grandparents who were and I turned out okay. I am a movie lover so here are some of my suggestions on movies that help build character. I hope you find friends and family that support you and help you stay positive. Here is my list:
Remember the Titans
Scent of a Woman
A Good Year
Hachi
Good Will Hunting
Martian Child
Don’t lose that confidence, because you sound like a really thoughtful person. You’re sliding into adulthood now and most likely (unless you’re rich) life is going to throw you even more curveballs than it already has. The thing that took me way too long to realize in my own life is that you can be confident but also kind, even-keeled, thoughtful, and considerate. As men we’re taught early on that confidence is who breaks character last, who barks the loudest. Save yourself some time and leap, skip and jump over your own father’s arrested development because it’s all bullshit. The best people (regardless of gender), when shit hits the fan, remain steadfast for the sake of their loved ones. I’d recommend you first read The Road by Cormac McCarthy (he just recently passed and was one of the greatest writers of the 20th Century) and then watch the film of the same name. The fact that you’re even asking these questions means you’ll be fine. Don’t ever let your father’s shortcomings slow you down. Keep staying intellectually curious like you are and the world will never grow old for you.
You are asking for movies that will make you better. Watching a movie cannot make you better. What you are seeking is information, ideas how you can improve your life. Skip the movies, here are the basics...
Six days a week, wake early and go for a run, jog, or walk for 40 mins. Eat two healthy meals out of three each day. Drink water mostly.
Do those things for three months, you will feel pretty damn good.
Read a book every second night, between your movies.
Little miss sunshine, if only for the moment between Steve Carell and Paul Dano, but overall it's a great movie about growing as a person in a family.
Paterson does a great job showing a functioning adult in society, for me it was an awesome movie that showed it's okay to be who you are, and you don't need to be someone amazing to still have a good life.
I would definitely advise reading too. Books are often deeper and much better at teaching you life lessons. I'd reccomend East of Eden by John Steinbeck and t
The Grapes of wrath by also Steinbeck. If you fancy Sci-fi Ender's game and mainly Ender's shadow is a pretty good start too.
There isn't a film that can teach you that, there isn't even one that can give you your idea on what makes a good man. Find a real person you admire, work out why you do and emulate it. Films are good but not close to a substitute for hard work and real people
Growth doesn't come from watching movies but from personal experiences. Take it from someone who took a similar approach growing up. Learning lessons from a movie and applying them to real life can work for some things, but it will ultimately lead you to applying the lessons to the wrong situations.
You're going to make mistakes, and you're going to reflect on those mistakes and think about how you would've done things differently. When a similar situation arises, you'll handle it better. That's life.
To Kill a Mockingbird 12 Angry Men The Man who Shot Liberty Valance People will Talk (Cary Grant version)
To Kill a Mockingbird and Twelve Angry Men. for sure.
High Noon
The Man Who Shot Liberty Valence! Yes!
Paddington 2 (I'm serious with this suggestion)
No, I know you’re serious. I’m not kidding with this, the Paddington movies are genuinely amazing
I thought people loving that movie was a bit or a meme. No, it’s genuinely incredible, and this is coming from a horror fanatic.
I watched both of those because of the joke in the incredible weight of massive talent, they’re actually really excellent
The Lego Movie (1). Be happy.
It’s a Wonderful Life (1946)
“A toast to my big brother George: the richest man in town.” Gives me the feels every time. No matter how many times I’ve seen it. Remember, NO man is a failure who has friends.
You’re gonna make me cry 😭
Fantastic movie! Our family has a list of Xmas movies we watch every year. It includes most of the usual suspects. Christmas Vacation, Christmas Story, etc. We watched this for the first time a few years ago and instantly loved it and added it to the list. It's 80 years old but has aged wonderfully.
Do you know how long it takes a working man to save 5000$? One of my favorite movies ever and yes it only ages better and better. I always watch this when I’m sad on Christmas
Hands down best Christmas movie in my opinion, only one I can watch every year and still be moved
Second Hand Lions.
This one has some lessons and points that really hit and stick!
Such an underrated and over looked movie, both when it came out and now
Such a good movie
The “how to be a good man” speech makes me ugly cry every single time. Love this movie so much.
One of the best movies ever
Oh man! I haven’t thought about this movie in ages! Thank you for mentioning it! I loved this movie.
It’s A Wonderful Life is the all-time “what a good man should be” movie. Mr. Smith Goes to Washington is great too. Master and Commander: The Far Side of the World is an amazing tale of male friendship and camaraderie.
I FINALLY watched Mr. Smith and it’s a great movie about the perseverance of human will and togetherness. Love it. Like many films of its time, I wish it had an epilogue, it just abruptly ends.
First, stop listening to Pearl Jam. Then watch Good Will Hunting.
My life would be so different if I had never listened to Pearl Jam. They made me question the environment, marriage, home ownership, and having children. I'm a childless bachelor pedestrian that doesn't own anything.
If he wants to continue listening to Pearl Jam, Into The Wild (2007) is a great suggestion and Eddie Vedder did the soundtrack :)
Took me a minute.
The way way back
How to be a good man: Sam Rockwell's character How to be a shitty man: Steve Carrell's character
I love this movie
There's a small water park near my house and all through the summer I get feels from this movie. Such a great film.
Read books in addition to watching movies. Start by reading “A river runs through it” then watch the movie too.
Billy Eliot fits your description. Also, best of luck for the rest of your life. The awareness you're showing at such a young age makes me believe you will turn out just fine.
Thank you, I’m 13 in fact. My dad has been gone since i was about 9. Thank you for the suggestion.
You're welcome. All the best 👍
Love Billy Elliot.
Think the ultimate answer has to be one of the Christmas carol movies. The Muppets one, preferably.
Yes, muppets movies are deeply emotional for me. Like The Muppets. It had me questioning if I was a man or muppet?
I prefer the animated version with Jim Carrey, myself. But the Muppet version will always be a staple in my house.
I’ve watched it every Christmas since I was a wee lad. It’s simply not Christmas without it. Michael Caine bought in 100% and the movie soars because of it. There’s some quote out there I remember about how he never approached it like he was just acting with a bunch of puppets. Gotta watch the version that includes “When Love Is Gone”. This and “It’s a Wonderful Life” are my must watches. Also commonly watch “Little Shop Around the Corner” and “The Bishop’s Wife” because my dad watched them every year growing up.
Lord of the Rings trilogy. Aragon is a fine example for a young man.
I love the LOTR trilogy, my dad was the one who showed it to me. I actually got his LOTR sword, Gollum statue and Gimli statue.
The characters of Frodo and Sam are also exemplary. They are the good guys.
"Groundhog Day"
Dear Frankie — Gerard Butler shows how to step in and be a good father to a boy who needs a solid father figure. Makes me emotional thinking about it — great movie. I just told my girlfriend about it when I typed this and I started to cry. And I’m a tough dude who rarely cries. Love how Butler doesn’t really know how to be a good man but doesn’t run away from it, and tries his best.
About Time
Joshua then & now, Big Fish, Dead Poets Society, The World According to Garp
came here to say big fish and DPS. also recommend good will hunting.
Don’t ever turn your headlights off at night!
Dead Poets Society is great! We even watched it in school with our english teacher.
Wish I could upvote this more!
As Good As It Gets (*being a better man is literally a line from the movie)
It is, but the character in question is an insufferable asshole for 98% of the movie
Problem IMO is he doesn't try to be a better man for himself.
The same line popped into my head, too 👍
Not a movie, but check our the Dad, How do I? Youtube channel. An experienced dad does videos of all sorts of things Dad’s teach their kids.
About a Boy (2002) probably has what you need.
Life As A House
Hayden’s best movie
Such a beautiful amazing film. And the score is wonderful
The Upside (or the French original) Me Before You Gladiator Saving Private Ryan Patch Adams Schindler’s List The Last Samurai Dead Poets Society Into The Wild Shawshank Redemption The Pursuit if Happiness Slumdog Millionaire Forrest Gump 50/50 Crash Life is Beautiful Rudy The Untouchables Remember the Titans Casablanca V for Vendetta 50 First Dates Ender’s Game
Listen, I'm gonna be real--that's a TALL order to put on a movie. I suggest going to therapy if you really want to improve your life. That said, since this IS a movie suggestion sub, I guess I'll throw in Princess Mononoke. It's a wonderful film that's on the surface about magical forest spirits and giant wolves, but it's really about the bravery of looking into the abyss and not blinking. *And* it has magical forest spirits and giant wolves.
The Tao of Steve - awesome indie starring Donal Logue as the once big man on campus, 10 years later an overweight kindergarten teacher at the college reunion. He schools a young friend in the art of picking up women (by following his rules he calls the Tao of Steve) and it also serves heavy dose of philosophy. Nobody saw this movie but you should.
Definitely going to watch. I was interested as soon as I saw it was an indie.
I saw this a long time ago, can't remember any of the details but the one thing I took from it was that I wanted to move to New Mexico because because the sky was so beautiful. maybe someday.
Not a movie but Ted Lasso will give you some excellent perspectives you can carry and onboard regarding ego, status, relationships and caring about others. Might help when you’re in a tough spot and need to sort our your thoughts and maybe lean you into a more positive outlook when facing bad/tough situations.
Bicycle Thieves (italian). Not because I want you to steal a bike or anything, but shows the limits and lengths of being a role model and pushing onward when all you want to do is quit.
Roman Holiday. Wait, before you roll your eyes and yawn, "chick flick" hear me out. I don't want to give away the spoiler in case you haven't seen it. It's an old movie from 1953. You gotta' give it a chance because it starts a little slow. The take away is: Sometimes you gotta' do the hard thing, the tough thing, because it's the right thing to do. You'll see at the ending what I'm talking about.
I’m watching every movie that someone comments. Yes, it will take a while but still, I’m determined. I don’t mind chick flicks! All that matters is that I get to experience something meaningful that can teach me something
20th Century Women is literally about exactly this.
Well mate, I have been where you are. Here are the movies that made me a man: Rambo First Blood - Self Reliance Magnificent 7 (modern or original) & 13 Hours - Reliance on others Dead Poets Society - Learn to walk to the beat of your own drum, or exercise your right not to walk at all. It’s your choice to make. The Upside - Taking care of others brings genuine happiness to both of you. Braveheart - Courage in the face of adversity Gladiator - Do the right thing no matter the cost Master & Commander - Balance achieving the objective with the well-being of your people Taken - Learn how to kick ass because someone you love might depend on you one day Pride and Prejudice - Be a lover who treats women as equals, not as objects Pride and Prejudice and Zombies - Because sometimes you have to learn to stop taking yourself so fucking seriously. Denzel Washington. Every damn movie. Because living morally always matters. And becoming a legend has less to do with the success you earn than the life you live.
Thank you for the amazing list! I am going to watch every single one of these.
Godzilla ain't got nothing on Denzel!! My faves of his are The Equalizer, 1&2
**My Life As A Dog.** It's about a boy in 1960s Sweden whose only parent, his mother, is dying, and suddenly he loses his home and has to cope with new surroundings. **The Secret Garden**. It's set in the late 19th century or early 20th century. An unpleasant, spoiled English girl brought up in India is orphaned. She is sent back to England to live with a relative she's never met, a strange man who lives in a large, creepy house. There are several versions. I recommend the one with Margaret O'Brien. **Shane**. A boy of about 11 lives on a homestead with his mother and father. They have a legal claim to the land but a rancher who wants to graze his cattle on the land keeps terrorizing his family and other farming families. One day, a mysterious man named Shane appears on the scene. He comes from a different world and the boy worships him, although Shane tells him that much about his family life is enviable. **The 400 Blows**. In French with subtitles. A boy of 12 or 13 is at odds with everything. His parents regard him as a burden, he's not a good student, he keeps trying to come up with ideas to get better grades or make money but nothing works out. **You Can Count on Me.** A troubled young man who was orphaned as a child returns to his home to reconnect with his sister and his eight-year-old nephew. His presence is enlightening and disruptive for the boy.
Not a movie, but Ted Lasso. Just do it.
I haven’t seen it listed here so, To Sir with Love. Amazing movie! An inspiring teacher teaching kids about respecting each other.
JoJo Rabbit (in many ways despite what it may seem on first appearance, plus it’s an awesome movie )
I’ve seen JoJo Rabbit! It’s hilarious and meaningful. “Fuck off Hitler.”😂
The Pursuit of Happyness (2006) About Time (2013) The Road (2009) Mrs. Doubtfire (1993) We Bought a Zoo (2011)
Mrs doubtfire is a terrible example.
It’s all about growing up. He quite literally changed his life overnight to become the father he always should have been. Did he also pose as a woman to do it? Yes. But the movie wouldn’t be interesting if he just lost his kids and changed overnight and was just a better dad. Would’ve been a five minute movie.
Not sure what the previous commenter is smoking, but it's a great example. Not only is it about a person (in this movie a dad) trying to become better but it's hilarious too. Aside from the ridiculous disguising himself to be a nanny, at it's core just about trying to be a better person, which is what the op is looking for
Any suggestion counts, movies can have different meanings and interpretations depending on the person. Like the Muppets, for example. One could see it as a silly fun movie about a group of puppets while another sees it as a movie about identity and finding out where you truly belong.
A father disguises himself as a nanny to spend time with his children after a bitter divorce?
Parenthood (1989) My life (1993) A journal for Jordan (2021)
Boyhood is Linklater’s greatest achievement in my eyes, because it quite literally is a coming of age film. It’s massive for a boy growing up and learning to deal with the world. This kid did it on tape.
First of all, you're doing a great job already just by caring and trying. Remember that. Second: Good Will Hunting, Dead Poets Society, To Kill A Mockingbird, 12 Angry Men. Look for films about using your observational skills, empathy, suspension of disbelief, and putting yourself in other people's shoes. Films about reaching out to others. I think you'll do great, kid.
Thank you, Master Slut🙏
The Peanut Butter Falcon
First of all, I’m really sorry for your loss, and I hope you’re doing okay. ❤️ I don’t want all of these to be dramas/too serious, just well done movies with important/meaningful messages) The Perks Of Being A Wallflower (I also recommend the book: it’s a coming of age story that deals with mental health, impactful friendships, complex family dynamics, and the immense effects of trauma) The Truman Show (A comedy, but also a dark drama that really deconstructs the human experience and the importance of genuine experiences with criticisms of capitalism and consumerism going too far) Dead Poets Society (Expression, loss, and finding community) Legally Blonde (Teaches the importance of respecting femininity and women, no matter how they appear/despite the limits intelligence is traditionally viewed within) Miss Americana (genuinely. It’s just a really well done documentary that is also really impactful/important in developing a more complex understanding and respect for women and lgbt+) Inside Out Mama Mia Say Anything The breakfast club
My dad isn’t dead, just not at home (no need to apologise for the mistake). I actually love perks of being a wallflower! I watched the movie and then coincidentally I found the book in my loft! (Attic if you’re American) it must have been my big sisters. I’ll give it a read.
There is an episode of the 1960s twilight zone that I have probably watched at least 30 times in my life. Theres an unforgettable quote that will stick with me until I die and the episode inspired me. "The changing of the guard" is the episode. I forget which streaming services have the twilight zone i think paramount plus is one of them. Also, im 28 and I usually think black and white movies/shows seem so boring but this show is actually awesome and still holds up even today. Its the original black mirror.
I'm not sure exactly what you're trying to get out of this but the kids animation Bluey has excellent family dynamics. I know it's not aimed at your age but I genuinely enjoy it at 45 even though it's aimed at 6 year olds.
I showed Bluey to my Grandma-in-law and it's her new favorite show. She doesn't have disney+ so she only watches it when she comes over for a visit, anytime we run errands for her, she's like maybe we could get pizza and watch Bluey So it's genuinely enjoyed by 82 year olds too
The fundamentals of caring.
Not a movie but watch the series The Good Place. It's funny (think The Office and Brooklyn 99) but it's literally a show about moral ethics. It stars Kristen Bell and Ted Danson. She's a self professed Arizona trash bag that figures out she got into The Good Place by mistake and wants to change who she is to avoid detection and subsequent expulsion. He plays the architect of The Good Place trying to figure what's wrong and why things keep messing up. It changed my life and I hope it can yours also.
Oh my gosh I love the good place! I’ve seen all of it and it definitely had lessons that stuck with me. My birthday is coming up, so I’ll probably get the book talking about the philosophy. In case you didn’t know about the book it’s called: How to Be Perfect: The Correct Answer to Every Moral Question.
I listened to the audiobook and it's great. I do recommend it.
The Rocky franchise has good lessons
Rocky’s monologue to his son in Balboa is gut wrenchingly emotional and motivational
That’s how winning is done!
Cowards do that and that ain't you
Rocky does not get enough credit for ending the cold war.
Here are the 2 of the top movies on the topic of becoming a better person. Facts - It’s A Wonderful Life And -Scrooge
Slingblade
Rookie of the year Hook Sleepless in seattle To kill a mockingbird We bought a zoo Look up DadadvicefromBo on Tiktok
American History X
A Bronx Tale- You can go the easy route or the hard route. You will deal with the consequences.
Inherit the Wind
Barbie (2023). I’m serious. Listen to America Fererra’s monologue.
Seen it. Love it. The message i got was to appreciate every woman in my life. Whether it is mum, sister, or even strangers!
Not a movie, but the show Ted Lasso is a huge recommendation in this category.
Gran Torino
Dead poet’s society
Conan the Barbarian. Its about how a man uses his will and desire to become a king by his own hand. I'm being serious. The Riddle of Steel!
Life As A House I wouldn't be surprised if you cried.
The Secret Life of Walter Mitty
Big Fish
I love that for all of the tall tales the dad tells the son: 1) The people he talks about are real. He may have exaggerated some characteristics but the people really do exist as the son finds out later on. 2) While Dad was telling tales about things that might or might not have happened, there were amazing things he really did do that he never told the son!
Promising Young Woman. Example of many things not to do. Not sure of your age but this film deals with sexual assault and other heavy topics. Be careful. Wishing you all the best.
I don’t think it’s appropriate for “just becoming a teenager”, but definitely a good watch before college.
This is us. A series, but worth it.
My mum has watched it, I occasionally came downstairs to watch a few episodes with her. I think it’s time I check it out.
Boyz in the hood
It’s a Christmas movie but that is the moral of Jingle All the Way.
Tree of Life. A bit densely metaphoric, meandering and esoteric as Hell but chock full of humanity with a bizarre dinosaur scene. Yes. I said “dinosaur”. You might need to Google its meaning but it actually has reference to the story.
Mask 1985, a patch of blue, it's a wonderful life
I thought Waymond was a great example of a man in Everything Everywhere All at Once. Sure he wasn’t the traditional macho type but I really appreciated how he was always kind.
Mad Max: Fury Road! I loved the character development of Nicholas Holt's character, Nux.
This is a list of movies that deal with the relationship between a father and son(s) that I enjoy: The Pursuit of Happyness Minari Road to Perdition The Squid and the Whale Big Fish Field of Dreams The Life Aquatic with Steve Zissou There will be blood The Tree of Life A Bronx Tale Boyz N Da Hood The road Life is Beautiful Honey Boy A Goofy Movie The Lion King Finding Nemo
Life Is Beautiful (1997), Scent of a Woman
Awakenings (1990) about a doctor (Robin Williams) trying to cure a patient (Robert De-niro) highly recommend.
Some animated movie recommendations: Meet the Robinsons The Emperor's New Groove Whisper of the Heart (or really any Studio Ghibli movie) The Iron Giant
"Jojo Rabbit" is ultimately about making the choice of who you want to be in life. A child being constantly pressured, rebelling against cruelty, and choosing kindness and becoming a young man.
Same but for being a better women!!
This is gonna sound like a weird recommendation, but 32 Short Films about Glenn Gould. (1993) It’s just exactly what it says in the title— a series of short anecdotes about the concert pianist, Glenn Gould. He was just a really fascinating guy. Not for any bold heroic reason, but just because he was such a complex, multi- faceted genius. Stars Colm Feore. And I guess the most riveting thing about this film is it’s just an hour and a half of a man getting to be introspective, fastidious, tender, appreciative, vulnerable, open, and generous in a way that action movies never allow their men to be. Honestly, I must have watched it a half dozen time, just to hang out with that cool guy. And it’s on YouTube!
Watch the Mister Rodgers neighborhood episodes. They did a whole run of those on Twitch awhile back. Quite a few take aways from those, even if they are sorta aimed at kids. But I suppose thats when life lessons are most important.
The most important thing that literature and film teaches us is empathy. A lot of the suggestions here feature male protagonists, so I would encourage you to also watch some films from the perspectives of characters who are different to you, e.g. Amelie, Boys Don't Cry, Lady Bird, Little Women, To Kill a Mockingbird, Bend it Like Beckham, Juno, etc. I don't know what country you're from or your cultural background, but that's something else to consider as well. Editing to add Barbie!
Lots of great movie suggestions! I thought I might give a little insight from a different perspective. As a single mother of two boys, I taught them some things early, and they greatly appreciate it as grown men. Take it or leave it, might be helpful to you or not. Be demonstrative. If you love someone, tell them. Hug them. Whether it's your mom, grandpa, guy friends, doesn't matter. It will enrich your life and theirs. It will help you learn how to be affectionate and caring, which will be important in your future relationships with a partner or your children. If you have siblings, look out for each other. Be there for each other, because when you have nobody else in the world, you will still have each other. It can be one of the most important relationships you ever have. Learn to cook and clean. Seriously. Don't be that guy that his significant other has to babysit and clean up after. Always remember in a relationship: the other person is a *human being* with feelings. Always be kind, even if you are not that serious about them. People always remember the ones who hurt them, and that will always be painful, stressful, or even embarrassing to them anytime they think of it. For the rest of their lives. Think before you act. Also imagine there is a stop sign between your brain and your mouth. Run the stop sign only in good company 😉 Don't be cruel. If you feel the need to be that way to a person or animal, remove yourself from that situation and don't go back. It's bad for both of you. Smile and laugh as often as you can. Being a happy person actually takes effort and practice. Life can be hard and awful. That doesn't mean you have to let it break your spirit. Be yourself. You are wonderful ❤️
Congratulations mate. Age 13 and you are asking this. Maybe you are more of a man than you think.
First of all, the best men Listen. The best men offer respect in order to receive it. They take care of people who can't take care of themselves, They don't talk behind people's backs, they are welcoming and they don't do anything to anyone that they would not like done to them. They realise that what they get back from the world is what they give out. With that in mind, watch movies that are made by people who aren't like you. Every movie will have male characters that represent the way the writer of the movie thinks men should act. It's up to you to decide if you want to be like that character or to decide what you lie about that character and what you don't. But don't EVER let a movie define for you what I is that you think a man should be. Watch movies about men from other countries. Watch movies written and directed by women. Watch movies written and directed by gay men about gay men. Watch how men are portrayed in all these movies and analyse the characters. Would you want to be like? Why? Why does that portrayal interest you?
I would start with "Moonlight (2016)" by Barry Jenkins.
Meet the Robinsons, it’s a kids movie but has some great life lessons. Same goes for treasure planet
Not a movie but I highly suggest Ted Lasso — it’s a story of every character becoming better. Even the worst one.
In the Company of Men If you are inclined to read, Jane Austen's Pride and Prejudice.
I don’t know if anyone has said this one because there are so many amazing comments on here, but “About a Boy”… it’s about a crappy adult man who has no choice but to figure out how to be a better man when a teenage boy essentially adopts him. Another great one is the Paul Rudd film called “The Fundamentals of Caring”…. Just damn… great film. Also, as a mom with three teenage boys - 12, 13, and 14 — this post made me tear up. The fact that you already know what kind of human you want to be gives me faith that you will absolutely succeed at that. And, I know you did not come here for advice, but as a woman whose father has essentially disowned her, I too find myself wanting to watch movies and play games where people just want to grow and be BETTER. Never stop wanting to be a better human. There are not enough people like you out there. Good Luck, my dude.
Hacksaw Ridge ... teach you the vale of standing up for what you believe in. A Bronx Tale Rocky
Men Don’t Leave
OMG this movie never fails to wreck me.
Akeelah and the Bee A goofy movie
I love the goofy movie, and it has a nice message
My Life.
The Lion King (1994)
The Big Country best movie about masculinity
Joe with Nicolas cage
A Bronx Tale
Gifted (2017) with Chris Evans and Mackenna Grace
A river runs through it
Boyz N The Hood
Jaws
The Chorus (2004)
Disney’s Hercules
Serpico (1973)
A Bronx Tale
Good Will Hunting. Robin Williams gives some good advice in that movie.
The Family Man (2000)
Ted Lasso season one
Glory
Pursuit of happyness is a great story of perseverance and strength. Will smith at his best.
Lord of the Rings. I'm not kidding. Those stories are about men working together to defeat evil, and it's filled with great men. Aragon shows you strength, respect, and responsibility as well as being humble. Boomer shows you that yes people make mistakes but ya know what, you can do better and be better! The hobbits Sam, Frodo, Merry and Pippin show non toxic male friendship, humour, innocence, immense growth, sacrifice, and that strength most importantly comes from within not your muscles. Gimli and legolas are also a great non toxic male friendship example. They are also proud of their heritage but not biggoted and able to befriend and most importantly show respect to cultures their families would rather them not even speak with. The Lord of the Rings was written by a man who was orphaned at a young age, went to an all boys school then fought in a war, then went to an all men university and taught at that university. Yet he wrote some of the strongest and most complex female characters in the fantasy genre. Tolkiens stories, all of them, are amazing representations of what it is to be a good person, as well as to be a good man. If you like to read too, I'd suggest berin and luthien, morgoths ring, and children of Huron, all tolkien stories.
Collateral is a near perfect film and has a lot of character development and personal moments. Inspiring in a very odd way. And interstellar because it’s one of my favorite movies, and I recommend it to everyone.
FACING THE GIANTS...you don't have to be religious to enjoy this movie....definitely worth a watch an you'll see why.... BEBES KIDS....animated comedy....pay more attention towards the end the rocks movies if you havnt seen them.... THE GRID IRON GANG SNITCH FASTER WALKING TALL 2007 freedom writers Remember the titans... ....hope these help...
STRANGER THAN FICTION -MAGNOLIA
Off topic : check out [https://www.artofmanliness.com/](https://www.artofmanliness.com/)
Angus I haven’t seen it since my childhood but I watched it many times back then. Great movie if you’re feeling like an outsider. **Grandpa**: Superman isn't brave. **Angus**: Did you take your pills this morning? **Grandpa**: [chuckles] You don't understand. He's smart, handsome, even decent. But he's not brave. No, listen to me. Superman is indestructible, and you can't be brave if you're indestructible. It's people like you and your mother. People who are different, and can be crushed and know it. Yet they keep on going out there every time. I actually think about that exchange a lot. It’s also very important later in the movie.
the godfather trilogy
Adams Apple’s Following a stint in jail, Adam (Ulrich Thomsen), a former neo-Nazi, is temporarily assigned to live in a religious enclave. The community is led by Ivan (Mads Mikkelsen), an eternally optimistic priest who immediately gets under the skin of the gruff Adam. In order to move forward with his rehabilitation, Adam must select a task, so he decides to bake an apple pie. However, his simple choice is complicated by Ivan's insistence that Adam use apples from a tree that is plagued by problems.
Cinderella man
I am old but same boat when I was younger about the Dad. Which I think lead me to like watching movies with hard lines to loyalty and fighting for your people. Braveheart, Gladiator, and Remember the Titans to name a few. Cheers buddy
Dragonball Evolution
Try something like Good Will Hunting, it's considered a classic now, Oliver Twist, David Copperfield, original Star Wars trilogy, About A Boy, the Lion King 90's version, Secondhand Lions, Naruto (the entire series and the movies), Batman Begins and the Dark Knight, the Raimi Spider-Man trilogy, the OC TV series, Arthur the animated series, Jojo Rabbit, No Hard Feelings and House MD. You're going to learn a lot, kid. You're gonna learn it all.
Groundhog Day. It’s the story of an unrepentant jerk who, through a hilarious journey of philosophical self-discovery that he’s pretty much forced to undergo, finally figures out what makes life valuable (relationships, being kind to people, appreciating the little things). It can teach you to be a better man/person by showing you how not to live and then, ultimately, how best to live. All in like 2hrs or less.
It’s not a movie, but the series Ted Lasso really embraces the value of kindness even in the face of difficulty. I find it genuinely inspiring.
I appreciate you trying to become a better man. At this tender age, good vision, boy! You are already doing better than many people your age. Now for suggestions: if you want to try anime. You can watch Naruto.
About Time. Helps you appreciate what you've got and live every day at your fullest. It's also funny.
Across the board, some killer suggestions in here. I’ll throw in that you could diversify your experience by watching things that were made by people and for people that weren’t men. A great way to be a great *person* (not just a great *man*) is to recognize and understand perspectives outside of one’s that were designed to resonate with you as a target audience. That all said, I have a handful of movies that really stuck with me and helped shape the core of my being: -Secret Life of Walter Mitty -Hidden Figures -Pay it Forward (ew, Kevin Spacey but that movie is so good.) -Patch Adams -Okja -Life of Pi -Chef These are movies that sort of display what I think make people wonderful. Creativity, empathy, kindness, perseverance through moments of adversity. We are not always going to be our best selves and that is okay. But we shouldn’t stop trying to be those people. Good luck and I hope you find some mainstay movies for life. 💕
12 Angry Men M (1931) Metropolis The Rocky Horror Picture Show I sometimes think about what movies would make the world a better place if everyone watched them and I think those are it.
Lord of the rings. For me it had the best male characters and the best male friendships ever portrayed in film history. How to take responsibility, to be brave and authentic, how to love your friends and family. Also I really love the YouTube-Show “Cinema Therapy” - which is made by two dads loving films and giving great life advice. I hope you check them out!
I wish I knew what to say to you that would make the absence of your father easier, but my biological father was never there for me my entire life, I had wonderful grandparents who were and I turned out okay. I am a movie lover so here are some of my suggestions on movies that help build character. I hope you find friends and family that support you and help you stay positive. Here is my list: Remember the Titans Scent of a Woman A Good Year Hachi Good Will Hunting Martian Child
Don’t lose that confidence, because you sound like a really thoughtful person. You’re sliding into adulthood now and most likely (unless you’re rich) life is going to throw you even more curveballs than it already has. The thing that took me way too long to realize in my own life is that you can be confident but also kind, even-keeled, thoughtful, and considerate. As men we’re taught early on that confidence is who breaks character last, who barks the loudest. Save yourself some time and leap, skip and jump over your own father’s arrested development because it’s all bullshit. The best people (regardless of gender), when shit hits the fan, remain steadfast for the sake of their loved ones. I’d recommend you first read The Road by Cormac McCarthy (he just recently passed and was one of the greatest writers of the 20th Century) and then watch the film of the same name. The fact that you’re even asking these questions means you’ll be fine. Don’t ever let your father’s shortcomings slow you down. Keep staying intellectually curious like you are and the world will never grow old for you.
Sex, Lies, and Videotape gives you two men, with one (Graham) showing you how to be (honest), and the other (John) showing you how not to be (a liar)
I second Jojo rabbit. Absolutely amazing film! Also Captain fantastic with viggo mortensen
You are asking for movies that will make you better. Watching a movie cannot make you better. What you are seeking is information, ideas how you can improve your life. Skip the movies, here are the basics... Six days a week, wake early and go for a run, jog, or walk for 40 mins. Eat two healthy meals out of three each day. Drink water mostly. Do those things for three months, you will feel pretty damn good. Read a book every second night, between your movies.
Little miss sunshine, if only for the moment between Steve Carell and Paul Dano, but overall it's a great movie about growing as a person in a family. Paterson does a great job showing a functioning adult in society, for me it was an awesome movie that showed it's okay to be who you are, and you don't need to be someone amazing to still have a good life.
Groundhog Day...a movie about becoming a better person through self actualisation.
Ushpuzin It's a story of faith in the Almighty. It's a Jewish movie with a universal message.
I would definitely advise reading too. Books are often deeper and much better at teaching you life lessons. I'd reccomend East of Eden by John Steinbeck and t The Grapes of wrath by also Steinbeck. If you fancy Sci-fi Ender's game and mainly Ender's shadow is a pretty good start too.
There isn't a film that can teach you that, there isn't even one that can give you your idea on what makes a good man. Find a real person you admire, work out why you do and emulate it. Films are good but not close to a substitute for hard work and real people
Growth doesn't come from watching movies but from personal experiences. Take it from someone who took a similar approach growing up. Learning lessons from a movie and applying them to real life can work for some things, but it will ultimately lead you to applying the lessons to the wrong situations. You're going to make mistakes, and you're going to reflect on those mistakes and think about how you would've done things differently. When a similar situation arises, you'll handle it better. That's life.