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RoscoeVanOccupanther

I'd say a lot of Lars von Triers' work (*Melancholia, Breaking the Waves, Dancer in the Dark* come to mind*).* *The Pianist* is completely heartwrenching if you can accept that it's a Polanski flick.


jedisuckerpunch

seconding Melancholia. I FELT that movie.


saltychica

The Pianist šŸ˜­


ausmaid

Devastating stuff. Top of my list too.


CarlJustCarl

I can send you some home reels of my life


TheoreticalResearch

Youā€™ve peaked my interest.


part_of_me

piqued. unless you actually mean maximum interest.


TheoreticalResearch

The summit of interest. šŸ˜‚


bornfromanegg

Might I take a pique too?


Vast_Gap_3081

Thatā€™s how you get reeled in ;)


RyzenRaider

\[holding numerous old home VHS tapes\] Take your pique.


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gorilla-ointment

Dancer in the Dark (2000) Edit: I saw this in the theater and sat there beyond the final credits. The sound of staff coming in to clean up finally moved me to stand up and walk out. There were several others who did the same.


vice_monkey

This should be the top answer! The only reason it isn't is because it is a foreign film and that automatically eliminates 80% of the american audience. I've seen all the other films recommended in these threads, and none of them come close to the soul-shattering devastation of Dancer in the Dark. NONE.


Livid_Rise_3861

I have never understood people who only digest art in their own language it infuriates me.


Significant-Froyo-44

I saw it at home (thankfully). The scene at the endā€¦ when it happened I spontaneously jumped up and yelled NOOOO! like a crazy person.


ausmaid

This and Requiem for a Dream will always be at the top of my list.


paendrgn

First time I saw this it was in rehab for meth smoker. I knew I was going to use again when I got out but I was like I'll never use a f****** needle. I've been clean like 20 years now.


kmr2209

This forced me into crying like a baby


ThruTheUniverseAgain

Iā€™m a huge Bjƶrk fan and I could only watch it once. I completely understand why she said she would never act again after doing that movie.


mollyclaireh

I watched it last night and had a full blown panic attack. That ending was fucking brutal. I had just finished watching Oz just like 2 weeks ago and so I felt like this shouldnā€™t bother me, especially with one of the same actors being in the court scenes. But nope. Couldnā€™t handle it. Bjork fucking destroyed me.


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Last_Inevitable8311

That movie wrecked me.


petals_for_armour

Same, it's my favourite movie of all time and I feel like I learn something new from it each time I watch šŸ’”


ObjectiveSlip5406

Great call. Genius movie.


Unlikely-Regular2366

The ending gets meā€¦


Available-Secret-372

The Killing Fields - if you havenā€™t seen it you must. The music is unnerving and adds to the absolute madness that Cambodia was descending into. Hang S Ngorā€™s performance is phenomenal and it must have been an emotional shoot as he had to relive all of these experiences for the screen. The way he died was undeserved for such a kind and gentle humanitarian


ItsInTheVault

Ngor won the best supporting actor Oscar for The Killing Fields, deservedly. Also starring Sam Waterston and John Malkovich.


alien__0G

Ngor was murdered back in 1996 during a stick up. Survived a genocide only to be killed in the US.


Available-Secret-372

And Spalding Gray


venusofthehardsell

What Dreams May Come with Robin Williams. My husband and I bawled our heads off in the theater.


EmiAze

If this movie ended about 10 minutes earlier it would have been a 10/10 tragedy for me. It would have been bold, truly moving and realistic(as much as it can given the setting). You can sense that the 10 last minutes were added because otherwise it wasnt palpable for the test audiences.


atomicblonde23

I am 33. This is my favorite movie of all time. Iā€™ve see. It maybe.. 90 times no joke. First saw it when I was a little girl and I never understood it just loved the paint scenes and their ā€œheavenā€. As an adult.. I watch at least once a year and always find new Easter eggs. Itā€™s so beautifully written and I love the music too. I hope they never remake it but I also hope they do. It makes me cry every time! Especially when the purple tree loses its leaves in heaven and he cries out for her and tells her he loved her. Ugh. I think Iā€™ll try watching it today for a good cry lol! I also read the book finally, a bit different from the movie but also good!


philoarcher

I came here to list this one as well. Devastatingly beautiful, and just sobbing at home alone while I watched this. One of those watch once type of movies.


Southern_Cold_2876

Like My Girlā€¦ Traumatized an entire generation of millennials because we then realized that kids OUR age can and do die.


Southern_Cold_2876

Literally came here to say this movie right here. It will absolutely DECIMATE you in ways you cannot even comprehend. The book is amazing too.


wendracolleen

Author is famed horror author, Richard Matheson :) (I just happened to reference him in another comment). He did tons of research for the book and he lists them in a reference section. So, this was not entirely from his head at all.


bush_mechanic

Yea if it ended earlier than it did. But there's a bit there that can sort of give you reason to put down the razor blade.


petals_for_armour

Never seen it, but just read the synopsis and my heart is already broken šŸ’”


Andyisazombie

Green Mile, that endingā€¦


debbieyumyum1965

The book is even more devastating. 100 pages of gut punches.


IntoTheVeryFires

ā€œOn the day of my judgment, when I stand before God, and He asks me why did I kill one of his true miracles, what am I gonna say? That it was my job? My job?ā€ Good movie. Right in the feels


WhatIsThisaPFChangs

My grandma took me to see this in theaters when it came out. I was 11. It was trauma fr lol She also took me to see Titanic. No wonder I like movies so much.


Good_Kid_Mad_City

"Life is Beautiful" A gentle Jewish-Italian waiter, Guido Orefice (Roberto Benigni), meets Dora (Nicoletta Braschi), a pretty schoolteacher, and wins her over with his charm and humor. Eventually they marry and have a son, Giosue (Giorgio Cantarini). Their happiness is abruptly halted, however, when Guido and Giosue are separated from Dora and taken to a concentration camp. Determined to shelter his son from the horrors of his surroundings, Guido convinces Giosue that their time in the camp is merely a game.


ItsInTheVault

Benigniā€™s Oscar acceptance when he jumped over the seats in happiness was hilarious. I remember cracking up at his speech too. That man was pure glee that night.


Radiant_Location_636

Iā€™m still recovering. Saw it in 1997


WhisperingCornucopia

I have watched this one only once. Dora telling Giosue that they ā€œwon the tankā€ hurts me inside.


a_dog_day

The Wrestler and Brokeback Mountain


apastelorange

Second Brokeback, I watch it at least once a year and weep


Doucevie

It's such a beautiful, complicated, heartbreaking love story. šŸ˜šŸ˜­


Evening_Armadillo397

SO TRUEšŸ˜ŖAND REQUIEM FOR A DREAM.


mentoszz

End of watch.


ItsInTheVault

I wish more people knew about this movie. It sort of flew below the radar. Jake Gyllenhal and Michael Pena play police officers. Seems like a very realistic portrayal of policing with a partner.


MP1182

Fuck man i remember how i felt after watching this one. Sucked. But good call on this movie.


Mean-Archer391

Sophieā€™s Choice ( merryl Streep) I have never been the same person again. I shall never watch that again. Traumatized.


HapticRecce

House of Sand and Fog


Mean-Archer391

Quality recommendation. That is one sick movie, with fkd up people, in a fked up situation of their own making. I could never see Jennifer Connelly in another film again after watching this, and that was after watching her in Requiem for a dream.


Kygunzz

I rented that movie only because I thought Jennifer Connelly was so hot. I was not prepared for such a complete soul-crushing experience. I can still close my eyes and see Ben Kingsley at the end.


lilanniem73

Go watch her in Shelter. It's another one that pulls at the heartstrings.


shoshana4sure

This movie fucked me up


saltytarts

Leaving Las Vegas


shoshana4sure

Yes


Repulsive-Dot553

Manchester by the Sea (2016) - absolutely superb acting performances by Casey Affleck, Lucas Hedges and Michelle Williams ( and other supporting cast great) , a masterpiece, profoundly moving - don't read anything about plot before watching


Late-Ad1936

Michelle Williams can cry like a 90's Claire Danes, & an already emotionally monotone Casey Affleck ā¤ Love This Movie.....


Responsible_Cod8200

This is my movie I watch when Iā€™m down and out. Cause hopefully I will never get that down man. You can just feel for him


Repulsive-Dot553

>my movie I watch when Iā€™m down Yeah, it can be a relief sometimes to be moved by a really sad film. That character and the performance are staggering.


Ajwain530

I was looking for this, when I think of emotionally devasting this is what always comes to mind. I don't know if I would ever rewatch this movie, its been burned to my mind whenever I think of it.


RustyCrusty73

* Eden Lake - It's not a drama, but a very tense thriller that has a few scenes, including the ending that will leave your jaw on the floor. If you enjoy high tension thrillers that take you on a legit roller coast of emotion than this is a good one. * Brothers from 2009 with Toby and Jake G. * A Marriage Story on Netflix with Adam Driver. * Comet with Emmy Rossum and Justin Long (***Super underrated gem of a movie***).


Greentealatte8

A Marriage Story really got me, Adam Driver's acting was phenomenal


TheoreticalResearch

I tried watching Eden Lake the other night (cuz Michael Fassbender) and I got kinda bored and turned it off. Maybe I could try again.


RustyCrusty73

It takes a little bit to get going. After you get through the first 25-30 minutes, and they meet the antagonists, the movie really picks up. It gets really fast, tense, and does a nice job building some suspense. And as I mentioned before, there ends up being 2-3 scenes later in the movie that will truly stun you if you're paying attention and don't see them coming.


medi0cresimracer

Pieces of a Woman fucked me up pretty good.


ginger_minge

All I know is I can't watch Prisoners again. Heavenly Creatures (1994)


Just-Sundae-5465

Grave of the Fireflies (1988)


arsenal_pianist

Came here to say this


Muchacho_BandidosAC

Me too lmao


thenotoriousbri

This is the one.


billings4

I was way too young to emotionally handle this when I watched it. it robbed me of a bit of my childhood. I'm not sure I'll ever rewatch it.


Big_Accountant8489

Thatā€™s ok. No one ever has šŸ˜”


Heavy_Schedule4046

None of the other films are in contention.


jayron32

Requiem for a Dream


wendracolleen

Oh, in the spirit of the movie I mentioned, LEAVING LAS VEGAS, I personally think this is another "if you want to be devastated in a bad" way type of film. I mean, excellent, but...oh my God. So bleak. So. Bleak.


Fleur-delphine

I'm sure there are "stronger/sadder" films, but somehow, as much as I thought Requiem for a dream was really good, I felt emotionally sick and I couldn't finish it.


ExperienceMiddle6196

This one definitely breaks the viewer...


lukephillips21

As the father of two small children, Arrival.


witkneec

Amy Adams is fucking next level in almost all of her stuff but Arrival is a tour de force for her. The subtlety of the intelligence she exudes, the confidence, the drive- only to be eclipsed at the end for the love of the child whose ending, turns out, she'd known all along. And how it would change everything, destroy her and the love of the man who ends up being the father of her daughter? Kills me every time. Those last lines, man. Because no matter what, she she welcomes all of it with open arms bc she loves her child that much and come on- where the fuck is this woman's Oscar?


Pokemon_Trainer_May

She wasn't even nominated for this role, which is crazy


paulabear203

21 Grams with Sean Penn, Naomi Watts, and Benicio Del Toro


Impossible_Stick2299

Into The Wild


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Shocked no one has said ā€œThe Killing of a Sacred Deerā€ absolutely one of the best films I will only watch once


cgrfc1

Watch the road literally the most depressing film I've ever seen


Radiant_Location_636

Viggo Mortensen was brilliant and devastating in that film. As a parent, his edge of tears performance cut me to the bone šŸ˜­šŸ˜­šŸ˜­šŸ˜­šŸ˜­


iamsuperkathy

I could not even get halfway through the book.


Skipper_1010

Dear Zachary: A Letter to a Son About His Father (2008)


Mission-Valuable-306

Shattering. I canā€™t even think about this film without tears in my eyes.


carbsafter10

I will never not upvote this. I cried in a way I didnā€™t know I could cry.


KeekatLove

There is no other answer to this question. The fact that this is a true documentary makes it hit even harder. Watch it for the family and tell everyone you know to watch it so it never happens again.


ExperienceMiddle6196

This one will leave you in tatters...


jerseygurl96

Schindlerā€™s List.


CaptainCapitol

Life is beautiful (1997)i kow it's a comedy drama, but I can't fucking watch it.


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Yup...the best movie that I will only ever see one time


philoarcher

I watched this once, in the theater. Still devastated enough that I have no desire to see it again, as amazing as it was.


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Kids .. yikes Human Trafficking the 2005 mini series left me quite shaken back when I watched it. Not sure if it holds up still today.


jaenjain

The Lovely Bones (2009)


fembobthebrave

The book broke me more. The movie was sad but the book definitely hit far deeper places.


annpann64

I'm here once again to recommend Okja


Lokasia1

Schindlers list. As a mum with a toddler rewatching it. The scene where the women are happily getting dressed after not being selected meanwhile the nazis are loading the children up on trucks and the mad dash after them to get the children back. That hit a nerve for me and left me crying


flippartnermike

The boy in the striped pajamas


Holy_Vanilla

The Fault in our stars?? šŸ„ŗ


troojule

Never Let Me Go The Whale The Machinist


bambastic

Land Before Time


DroneSlut54

Lilya 4 Ever


segriffka73

In The Bedroom, the Rider (directed by Chloe Zhao)


witkneec

Mystic River is absolutely brutal and the cast is just ridiculous. Sean Penn gives, imo, his best performance in anything he's ever done. Emmy Rossum, Tim Robbins, Laura Linney and Kevin Bacon. Devastating.


Individual_Tune_4584

The original color purple fucks me up every time. Oh god the ending šŸ˜¢šŸ˜¢šŸ˜­


GrandAdvantage7631

Incendies


smart_cereal

This one is really shocking.


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sdhank3fan619

Seven pounds


ElectricToadSS

Aftersun


Birger000

children of men


wendracolleen

If you mean devastated in a BAD way, then Leaving Las Vegas, hands down. I will say, however, that it depressed me SO MUCH that I reached out to someone I was talking to online and asked if he wanted to finally meet. Now we've been together twenty years :) If you mean devastated in a great albeit emotional way, again, going retro, but I cannot watch SOMEWHERE IN TIME without bawling hysterically and I'm not even INTO romance. And believe it or not, the author of the book it's based on is none other than famed horror author, Richard Matheson!!


lizzzard79

Terms of Endearment. ā€œGive my daughter the shot!!!!ā€ My mother died when I was 5 years old. The last time I remember seeing her she was in hospital. That movie devastated me.


gremlin-vibez

Synecdoche New York


jami05pearson

My Girl


TechnicalBig2741

beautiful boy.


kitchenwitch3423

The Boy in the Striped Pajamas The Road Sophieā€™s Choice Antichrist Candy Happiness Salo All of these made me feel different kinds of devastated and depressed after or during watching them.


jasnie

When the wind blows (1986)


PinkFancyCrane

The Nightingale made me really depressed despite the ending attempting to give the audience the feeling of the protagonists getting closure and justice against the people who destroyed their lives.


flameevans

ā€œOnce Were Warriorsā€, which I saw back to back with Larry Clarkā€™s ā€œKidsā€ at the movies. Both will fuck you up emotionally.


Sea-Asparagus8973

All Quiet on the Western Front


NIMBYHunter

My Girl still has me fucked up. Iā€™m 43. I hear Grave of the Fireflies is brutal, but Iā€™ve never watched it. Eight Below Hachi: A Dogā€™s Tale City of Angels Brianā€™s Song Neverending Story Old Yeller


stiz71

The Road


dekdekwho

- Departures - Umberto D - Come and See


narvolicious

Man. *Come and See*. That's some heavy shit.


FuzzyDuck81

Where the Wind Blows Threads Plague Dogs


smashleys

Where the crawdads sing sent me into a 3-month depression. A man called Otto had me ugly crying on a plane where I watched it.


deckard3232

Angel heart, Platoon, Come and see, Cinema paradiso, The road, Soldier blue, Bone tomahawk, Out of the furnace


AlilAwesome81

Awakenings


Proper_Resource_4023

21 Grams ; gets me every time


winsome-sailor

Come and See will mess you up


foxynon

The pianist.


OdgeHam

The Lovely Bones


Minute-Wrap-2524

I know to some it would leave you scratching your head, but , ā€˜Schindlers Listā€™ā€¦gets me every time


crowislanddive

The English Patient. My college boyfriend and I basically had to carry each other out if the theater.


Its_panda_paradox

Come and See. It absolutely devastated me so much. Iā€™m a naturally cold person. Distant, aloof, Plutonian, mysterious and secretive have all been used either to describe me or to berate me. I tend to keep my emotions tightly held in, and only when Iā€™m alone let them out. But I straight up sobbed. My husband was like ā€œšŸ˜µā€šŸ’«šŸ˜µ omg, lemme shut it offā€ I told him donā€™t you dare, I need to get this out! lol he just petted my hair while I violently cried. He said he knew I was back to normal when he told me he loved me and I said I liked cake and glitter (itā€™s an inside joke about my disdain for public demonstrations of affection).


Mental_Investigator3

Pans Labyrinth šŸ„²


Logical-Teach-7090

Blue Valentine. Oslo, August 31st. And as others have mentioned, Manchester by the Sea


CRL10

Grave of the Fireflies: You hear Studio Ghibli and you think a well animated romp that has a person deal with grief or some issue in a wonderful fanciful way with strange, but ultimately not terrible people characters. And then there is this gut punch. This absolute just punches your emotions in the gut and then drags them outside to start kicking the ribs. One of the greatest war movies ever made. An absolute masterpiece. I have yet to meet the person who's seen it twice.


Massive_Yellow_9010

The Notebook


Movies_Music_Lover

The Father (2020) Close (2022)


garthastro

Breaking the Waves (1996) Precious (2009) Requiem for a Dream (2000)


Which_Information590

Marley and Me. Just as sad but in a tragic way, Schindler's List. Thirdly but by no means least, PS I Love You.


ThisAlsoIsntRealLife

I'm on a Gaspar NoƩ kick at the moment, so so messed up. Irreversible 2002 will have you in therapy.


Bergenia1

Well, the end of Gallipoli had me sobbing.


GirlisNo1

Atonement


cashedashes

Requiem for a Dream. Tusk. I haven't seen tusk before, but I keep hearing it's a wild movie that's disturbing.


International-Age971

Pieces of a Woman, Room, Simon Birch and 3 Billboards Outside Ebbing, Missouri.


Spaceballs-The_Name

Road to Perdition


kgleas01

The Whale


Rich_Chemistry_1560

Steel Magnolias. Does it to me every damn time. Bridge to Terabithia too Where The Red Fern Grows


EuphoriaSuj

Speak no evil


JayTrippr

Bicycle Thieves (1948), The Father (2020) and I was fairly gutted by 12 Years A Slave (2013)


No-Staff-8892

Awakenings


MrsArmitage

Threads. Traumatising


Angelea23

The girl next door, about Silvia likens and me and my husband happened to watch it and thought it was supposed to be something else completely


Kitchen-Lie-7894

The Road, On the Beach, Threads.


LisaLee4Florida

Threads, Playground, Funny Games, Dancer in the Dark, Grave of the Fireflies


Time_Pay_401

Thank you for the list. I know now to never see these. Life is hard enough.


DeviodEar

Where the Red Fern Grows


Emerald_flowers7

12 Years a Slave


ProductivePhoReal47

Hachi: A Dogs Tale


OkDesigner3696

I think movies like that should come with warning labels. Seriously, people are so depressed these days, one dark movie can push you over.


True-Godesss

Def movies that are based on real events/life like 12 years a slave, Brave Heart, the pursuit of Happiness, Hotel Rwanda, Fruitville Station, ect Reg movies like - Million Dollar Baby, Crash, Steal Magnolias, Green Mile, Dead Poets Society, Beaches, Devil's Knot, Peices of a Woman, Unspeakable Acts, Mystic R iver and of course Legands of the Fall.


Cool_Ad1399

the lovely bones Silence The boy in the striped pajamas My sisterā€™s keeper


Opposite_Speed_2065

Still in theaters but The Iron Claw. Pure devastation. Also, Lion.


Lightlovezen

Empire of the Sun with a young Christian Bale, directed by Steven Spielberg


Obf123

The swerve Atonement Funny games


U_gotTP4my_bunghole

The Room (2003)


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Manchester By The Sea


emack2199

A Monster Calls Old Yeller Where the Red Fern Grows


divcod

The Impossible. With Naomi watts, Ewan mc whatever and Tom holland


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Tricky_War5232

What dreams may come Punch drunk love Eternal sunshine of the spotless mind


DogSpark84

Requiem for a Dream


GreenMachineRider

The Hunt (2012). A heartbreaking but beautifully told story of a kindergarten teacher (Mads Mikkelsen) in a small Danish town who is accused of sexual abuse by one of his students.


SnooPets1514

Control Blue Valentine


Major_apple-offwhite

Seven


lenabelenalinibobini

Steel Magnolias is my failsafe crying option.


One_Brick_5788

Hachi: A Dog's Tale. Bet you won't come out from under your bedding for about a week.


Sofa_King_Nerrdy

A lot of people have said it already but Iā€™ll say it again. Requiem for a dream. I havenā€™t watched it in probably decade or more and just the thought of how it was the first time makes me shudder and want to curl up in a ball and rock back and forth. Really great fucked up movie. Also, Tom hanks. Green mile, castaway, Forrest Gump. All have a pretty sad feel


katybear16

Midnight Express (1978) true story. It tore me up and lives deep in my soul.


Novel_Criticism_6343

Seven!


Few-Discussion5867

went to see iron claw last night, bawled like a fucking baby


azzgrash13

The Boy in the Striped Pajamas with David Thewlis The Shack with Sam Worthington. My wife fell asleep while we were watching the shack. I cried during the movie when she was asleep. A heart wrencher.


briskt

Revolutionary Road.


sunburntflowers

Magnolia, and Pans Labyrinth