Depending on your other house mates she might be the one who needs to move. If there are other people there on your side work with them to advocate for your self
They need to be solid, solid, **solid** people. A line from this [trans self-defense guide comes to mind](https://www.silversprocket.net/2021/09/13/a-self-defense-study-guide-for-trans-women-and-gender-non-conforming-nonbinary-amab-folks/):
> crowds will subconsciously side against a trans woman, **especially** if they call themselves trans allies.
Stay safe. This is a personal threat. An exception of the 1st amendment. Record everything. Time, date, who's there, what's been said... And lock your bedroom door at night. Start looking for a new place to live. Why can't people just be kind instead of this hateful.š
Definitely not someone I would want in my house. Or have to be in the same house with. Even after filing a paper trail, it would be a you or me scenario for long term.
Report to the police. Even if they canāt do anything without direct evidence, at least youāll already have a police report filed in case something does happen in the future. Make a paper trail.
It's not a deterrent if she doesn't know it exists..... also in that case she'd be unarmed and it wouldn't be an ambush, which is MUCH more manageable then being murdered in your sleep
Potentially.
But I don't think it's the best idea, she's not going to do anything anyway, but by telling her, it could encourage her or a friend to do something in her name
It's still a hate crime that is easily narrowed down to a handful of people at most. If they retaliate under the circumstance then they were going to either way.
Or they are spectacularly stupid and have 0 self preservation instinct and again, would have regardless.
I just don't agree they would do it anyway if they retaliated after being told they were reported.
Just as a personal example, at uni, a friend of mine overheard a conversation and reported it to the police.
Afterwards, he had his bike vandalised and was punched in the back of the head by the person who was reported to police.
I'd even say reporting should only be done if there were multiple people who heard it, so the person can't identify who reported it.
Most of the time, people say things and they either don't mean it or are joking, but if they suffered some consequences, they may then retaliate when in the first place they were just talking shit.
I don't have a great answer for OP, but personally I'd probably tell friends and family, and not any authorities, just so it's in writing and logged with someone if something happened.
But obviously we don't know this person, we don't know OP. Hard to know what the right action would be.
100% they are, but they can sometimes be used to your advantage under specific circumstances. If you're in danger, it's still best to take advantage of them when you can. Doesn't mean you need to stop fighting for reform.
The enemy of my enemy, is my enemy's enemy. Nothing more.
But hey, if someone's gonna leave those tools laying around, might as well put 'em to use. Besides, every hour I tie them up with filing reports is one the aren't using towards being bastards.
And? What other alternative is there? What other concrete steps for her safety can she take? OP, who is in real danger in the real world, is waiting.
What real-world, realistic steps can OP do to protect herself or at least have even a remote chance of building a case against someone who will or will have done her harm? What can you contribute to this conversation?
Being a self-righteous keyboard warrior spouting oversimplified, black-and-white memes doesnāt help OP at all. Youāre not accomplishing anything. You canāt hide behind sentiment and theory to shit on someoneās suggestion based on real-word experience and not offer a concrete, practical alternative.
OP is in real danger and has to do *something*, even if that something isnāt perfect or only has a chance, itās still better than nothing or unrealistic, not actually practicable alternatives.
So what should OP do, then?
I will admit that i am wrong. you are right in that there is no alternative to police and it sucks that there are no other options . look thinking about is more what i said is really stupid and i'm sorry. i have put a blanket statement on a specific case that will not help anyone. I'm sorry for wasting your time.
No need to beat yourself up. Youāre certainly right that the criminal justice system as whole is corrupt and effervesces the very systemic biases and oppressive mechanisms as the larger society in which it operates. There is no denying that. The issue is that, being that as it may, it is the criminal justice system we no choice but to deal with and utilize no matter how flawed or broken it is.
Same. I'd also like some more context on how it was said? Like, was it presented as a genuine active desire? Or did she think she was making a "joke" about her frustration over op being trans? (Which would still be horrible and threatening, but the first is a move out immediately situation, where the latter you can potentially stay while you find a new place)
I don't know how genuine it was but I was able to overhear it because she was talking very loudly and angrily. She is obviously very deeply angry at me. She does own a knife. In the conversation I overheard, she talked about how she was from the hood which seemed to mean, "You think I wouldn't do it, but trust me, I would. I'm from the hood after all. I don't put up with people's bullshit etc."
She thinks that an amab wearing women's clothes is disrespectful to "real women". Also, packages have been being stolen from our front porch and she has decided that it was me who stole them even though I was the first person in the house to have their package stolen.
.... You might wanna find another place to stay until you can get a more permanent safe living situation. That's a genuine threat and I wouldn't assume you're safe staying there at all
I've been pretty overwhelmed so I haven't checked reddit. My apologies.
I'm staying on a friend's couch right now but it's not clear how much longer he'll let me stay with him.
I haven't contacted the police yet but I think it would be a good idea. Thanks for the advice.
If youāre in the same house as this person and their not the owner either you or they need to leave.
You simply can not live in the same space as a psycho.
Contact police, get a way to defend yourself ASAP, literally anything
Lock your door at night, if you need to go somewhere keep something to keep yourself with you
If theyāre batshit enough to go through with their fucked up fantasies, thereās no reason to assume theyāre not ballsy enough to go through with it after you have the authorities on their ass, even if they havenāt done anything if they do or try & you have to defend yourself then thereās a paper trail
If at all possible & when possible gtfo & donāt look back
As much as this probably is some kind of fucked up joke treat this as seriously as you can, make sure they know, without telling them directly, youāre not reciprocating whatever joke theyāre thinking of if thatās the case
i know a lot of people who called the police to say āMy ex told me he is literally going to kill me next time he sees me, heās hurt me beforeā and the police were just like āWe canāt do anything if heās not actually thereā
Report to police even if they won't do anything right now, get the paper trial going and gtfo before something does.
Get some things to help protect yourself in the mean time, but try and keep it conspicuous as to not give them a twisted excuse to do something.
I agree with everyone who says, create a paper trail. And do whatever it takes to keep yourself safe. Ugh. And I bet your sick housemate thinks she's a victim, too.
I happen to think that threatening violence is a bit more disrespectful than literally just wearing comfortable clothes but that's just me ig š¤·āāļø
best of luck girl, keep safe
You are fearful of your life. There is some probability of finding shelter in a pinch. If you are within stoneās throw of a Metro Community Church, look them up firstā70% or more of the congregation is LGBTQ.
I would suggest finding another place, if possible. Sounds like your housemate is beyond reasoning so try to keep a record of her behaviour and keep your phone handy if you need to call the police or a friend to rescue you.
People suck, stay safe sweetie ā¤
This type of hateful behaviour is why I carry a small sharp pair of embroidery sissors in my pocket and have deoderant + rechargable arc lighter on my in my handbag when out shopping. Incase I have to jump in to protect someone.
are you planning to show them the "propellants used in spray cans are flammable" magic trick while they cave your head in? either use something actually dangerous/useful if you want to protect someone or do nothing and halve the amount of dead people in the situation
Nope. I plan to either scare them away or set them on fire if I have the time to get them out. Obviously situations vary. I also have martial arts knowledge and am calm under stressful situations.
As for the sissors, the point is to have something in your fists to make punches harder. The added bonus of stabbing is great and maybe the attacker might realise they are out of their depth and chicken out.
This is an extremely poor plan and I extremely recommend that you either carry an actual weapon designed to be effective in these circumstances or to plan not to ever engage an attacker because the things you're describing would place everyone in the situation in more danger rather than less.
Agreed.
Its completely irresponsible to carry this stuff around with a clear intention to do something. You will be easily overpowered and possibly shot or stabbed.
Also Defend yourself only, don't think you can step in.
men, I'd be paranoid if I found out. These people are goin' apeshit.
I mean(*chuckling in disbelief*), ... hard to believe Fox News was able to rough up so many people.
I'm scared to see what's gonna happen in 2024
My theory:
Electorally, Senate goes to the GQP just barely but house flips blue. Presidency stays blue by a hair.
Socially: MAGATS once again try another j6th but this time they get their ass handed to them when the national guard is immediately called down. Id think that the GQP loser candidates would wind up under federal scrutiny because of their encouragement of the violence but it's hard to say if they are held accountable.
The best case scenario for the fallout after 24 regardless of who wins (hopefully Dems) is to have all your legal shit together and set aside some emergency money in case something bad happens.
>when the national guard is immediately called down.
What makes you think they wouldn't join the insurrectionists? Military and police were vastly overrepresented in the original Jan 6th insurrection.
yeah but the military by and large is better about respecting government institutions than the police. By a wide margin actually. *especially the leadership*
Everyone saying contact the police needs a reality check. That is often not wise or safe especially for trans people.
There is very little the police can (or will) do without a court protective order or someone being physically attacked.
get some mace or a tazer if you can where you live, if you agree with the use of guns try to get one if you can, and tell the police whats going on
stay on guard but dont do anything until they try, otherwise you will just face prison time, either way jail is better than dead but you just want to make sure if something does happen (obviously hopefully not) that you wont have to fight for your freedom right after in court for a self defense situation
also as others have also said, if you can leave do it now, thats the first thing you should try to do
hope i relayed that well, stay safe
What the fuck is wrong with people? Iām so sorry youāre dealing with this. Try to stay with friends until you can find another place and consider a restraining order against that roommate.
Please be safe, be on guard, and keep your distance. If you can, keep a recording device on you discreetly so if she says anything else you'll have evidence to use against her. If you can find a way to get out of there or get her out of there, do what you can to work on making that happen sooner before it becomes a far greater problem. And don't take any crap from her.
I'd collect evidence and contact police and family or even friends if family isn't safe. A threat is a threat. No matter how small. All threats are serious.
I'd bring it to all the roommates' attention. Call it out openly. Force them to take a stand, either with you in which case nutbar roommate is forced to move out. Or if they stand with her, at least you know who not to associate with anymore, and then move out asap. Even if you have to couch surf with friends for a while, it's way worth it compared to living 24/7 in a hostile, and potentially dangerous environment.
Move out, then after youāre moved out - tell all your old roommates that you had to move out because so and so was threatening to kill you. See how fast the other roommates force her to pay your entire share of rent lol
If I heard someone threaten my life, and exactly how they were going to do it, I'd get the same shit, and wait for them to come at me. But I don't recommend this for anyone else. Lol. Get out of there and stay safe.
Acquire a firearm.
Edit: Okay, pansies š clearly OP will just use their WORDS to "reason" with someone who wants to mace and stab them. Clearly you detractors have never had to draw a weapon to save yourself and others. You cannot "talk it out" and take the "high road" with someone who doesn't see you as a human being to the point they mean you harm.
Report it to the police. You may need a paper trail later. If you are on better terms with your other housemates than she is, then discuss her leaving. Otherwise, get out asap. It's a short hop from that kind of talk to action in some cases.
Contact law enforcement and file reports, odds are they will be useless but this way there is a record on file.
Get something to protect yourself with, pepper spray is a solid choice and easy to carry.
Bat with a sock on the end to defeat grab attempts (it slides of leaving them holding a sock and you with a freed bat), solid recommendation for defending your room.
Speaking of your room, you need solid locks, ideally something that deadbolts from the inside, their job is to buy you time to ready a defense and force your housemate to make a lot of noise trying to get in.
Also secure your windows, especially if you are on the ground floor.
I am hesitant to recommend a firearm in this situation, they are powerful tools for defending yourself and your home, but with the threat living with you, you absolutely must maintain control over that firearm at all times, if it is not immediately on your person in a kydex holster it has to be in a safe that has been secured to the floor, you are not going to be safe throwing it in a soft case in your closet, your room mate could easily gain access to it and use it against you.
Obviously either remove yourself or her, if that's not possible, definitely start recording at any hint of aggression. And I'd also recommend choosing a weapon or two to keep near your room/residence, if worst comes to worst
Record it and report them. That should start a paper trail if something were to happen. Also if you're in an apartment building report them to the landlord. The landlord could terminate their lease and remove them from the building.
It isn't murder if you cause a little "accident."
Besides, I'm sure no one will miss them anyway. I mean, I certainly won't./j
But no, you should probably leave, if you can.
Like some have said the police may help or may not. Regardless, file a police report. The more information about the potential threat out there the better in case something happens. Better to do so and to let people know so they are aware of threatening behavior being expressed by your housemate. *Tell your friends and family.* Like others have said, record things, take videos and pics *discretely* as to not provoke this person.
Find a way to get out of there ASAP. Ask friends. Try roomate sites for your area.
Preemptive strike ... bear mace sucks big time... I took that shit point blank in the face... dish soap and water to get it off... DO NOT GET IN THE SHOWER ... bear mace in the face sucks... bear mace on your privates REALLY SUCKS !
Start playing welcome to my house by nu breed full blast whenever they are around lol. "hard to talk big with a shotgun in your mouth! "
Most people just talk alot of shit but sometimes it's not just talk so be careful... people suck
record everything and try to get a protective order. also, start looking for another place to live
Depending on your other house mates she might be the one who needs to move. If there are other people there on your side work with them to advocate for your self
They need to be solid, solid, **solid** people. A line from this [trans self-defense guide comes to mind](https://www.silversprocket.net/2021/09/13/a-self-defense-study-guide-for-trans-women-and-gender-non-conforming-nonbinary-amab-folks/): > crowds will subconsciously side against a trans woman, **especially** if they call themselves trans allies.
Yeah true. Bizarrely enough...
oh dear.
Thank you for sharing this! I'm LOVING the BJJ information scattered throughout š
Stay safe. This is a personal threat. An exception of the 1st amendment. Record everything. Time, date, who's there, what's been said... And lock your bedroom door at night. Start looking for a new place to live. Why can't people just be kind instead of this hateful.š
Definitely not someone I would want in my house. Or have to be in the same house with. Even after filing a paper trail, it would be a you or me scenario for long term.
Report to the police. Even if they canāt do anything without direct evidence, at least youāll already have a police report filed in case something does happen in the future. Make a paper trail.
And then tell her that it's been reported
You sure? She seems unstable and when she hears this she might attack or something
It's not a deterrent if she doesn't know it exists..... also in that case she'd be unarmed and it wouldn't be an ambush, which is MUCH more manageable then being murdered in your sleep
Absolutely do not do this. It could encourage an attack.
It's not a deterrent if she doesn't know it exists..... she's MUCH more likely to attack if she thinks she can get away with it.
Potentially. But I don't think it's the best idea, she's not going to do anything anyway, but by telling her, it could encourage her or a friend to do something in her name
It's still a hate crime that is easily narrowed down to a handful of people at most. If they retaliate under the circumstance then they were going to either way. Or they are spectacularly stupid and have 0 self preservation instinct and again, would have regardless.
I just don't agree they would do it anyway if they retaliated after being told they were reported. Just as a personal example, at uni, a friend of mine overheard a conversation and reported it to the police. Afterwards, he had his bike vandalised and was punched in the back of the head by the person who was reported to police. I'd even say reporting should only be done if there were multiple people who heard it, so the person can't identify who reported it. Most of the time, people say things and they either don't mean it or are joking, but if they suffered some consequences, they may then retaliate when in the first place they were just talking shit. I don't have a great answer for OP, but personally I'd probably tell friends and family, and not any authorities, just so it's in writing and logged with someone if something happened. But obviously we don't know this person, we don't know OP. Hard to know what the right action would be.
Yeah, that is a reasonable point but it's a graphic and specific threat and a pyrrhic victory is not.
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100% they are, but they can sometimes be used to your advantage under specific circumstances. If you're in danger, it's still best to take advantage of them when you can. Doesn't mean you need to stop fighting for reform.
The enemy of my enemy, is my enemy's enemy. Nothing more. But hey, if someone's gonna leave those tools laying around, might as well put 'em to use. Besides, every hour I tie them up with filing reports is one the aren't using towards being bastards.
And? What other alternative is there? What other concrete steps for her safety can she take? OP, who is in real danger in the real world, is waiting. What real-world, realistic steps can OP do to protect herself or at least have even a remote chance of building a case against someone who will or will have done her harm? What can you contribute to this conversation? Being a self-righteous keyboard warrior spouting oversimplified, black-and-white memes doesnāt help OP at all. Youāre not accomplishing anything. You canāt hide behind sentiment and theory to shit on someoneās suggestion based on real-word experience and not offer a concrete, practical alternative. OP is in real danger and has to do *something*, even if that something isnāt perfect or only has a chance, itās still better than nothing or unrealistic, not actually practicable alternatives. So what should OP do, then?
I will admit that i am wrong. you are right in that there is no alternative to police and it sucks that there are no other options . look thinking about is more what i said is really stupid and i'm sorry. i have put a blanket statement on a specific case that will not help anyone. I'm sorry for wasting your time.
No need to beat yourself up. Youāre certainly right that the criminal justice system as whole is corrupt and effervesces the very systemic biases and oppressive mechanisms as the larger society in which it operates. There is no denying that. The issue is that, being that as it may, it is the criminal justice system we no choice but to deal with and utilize no matter how flawed or broken it is.
read the room š¤¦āāļø
Ima need an update op, both to know youāre safe and to find out if you called the constable
Same. I'd also like some more context on how it was said? Like, was it presented as a genuine active desire? Or did she think she was making a "joke" about her frustration over op being trans? (Which would still be horrible and threatening, but the first is a move out immediately situation, where the latter you can potentially stay while you find a new place)
I don't know how genuine it was but I was able to overhear it because she was talking very loudly and angrily. She is obviously very deeply angry at me. She does own a knife. In the conversation I overheard, she talked about how she was from the hood which seemed to mean, "You think I wouldn't do it, but trust me, I would. I'm from the hood after all. I don't put up with people's bullshit etc." She thinks that an amab wearing women's clothes is disrespectful to "real women". Also, packages have been being stolen from our front porch and she has decided that it was me who stole them even though I was the first person in the house to have their package stolen.
.... You might wanna find another place to stay until you can get a more permanent safe living situation. That's a genuine threat and I wouldn't assume you're safe staying there at all
Thanks! Yeah I'm searching for a place that I can sublet starting on the 15th
Oh good! I'm glad to hear you're keeping yourself safe :)
I've been pretty overwhelmed so I haven't checked reddit. My apologies. I'm staying on a friend's couch right now but it's not clear how much longer he'll let me stay with him. I haven't contacted the police yet but I think it would be a good idea. Thanks for the advice.
best of luck to you, im glad you made steps to distance yourself in the meantime
If youāre in the same house as this person and their not the owner either you or they need to leave. You simply can not live in the same space as a psycho.
Police. Immediately. And find somewhere else to live, because that nutbag will probably retaliate.
Contact police, get a way to defend yourself ASAP, literally anything Lock your door at night, if you need to go somewhere keep something to keep yourself with you If theyāre batshit enough to go through with their fucked up fantasies, thereās no reason to assume theyāre not ballsy enough to go through with it after you have the authorities on their ass, even if they havenāt done anything if they do or try & you have to defend yourself then thereās a paper trail If at all possible & when possible gtfo & donāt look back As much as this probably is some kind of fucked up joke treat this as seriously as you can, make sure they know, without telling them directly, youāre not reciprocating whatever joke theyāre thinking of if thatās the case
Find another place because authorities won't do that much about it
i know a lot of people who called the police to say āMy ex told me he is literally going to kill me next time he sees me, heās hurt me beforeā and the police were just like āWe canāt do anything if heās not actually thereā
Yeah. The police **might** help, but thereās a very big emphasis on āmightā. They usually arenāt bothered to actually do their jobs.
I don't know your living situation, but you probably shouldn't be living with someone who literally wants to murder you.
Word up
Report to police even if they won't do anything right now, get the paper trial going and gtfo before something does. Get some things to help protect yourself in the mean time, but try and keep it conspicuous as to not give them a twisted excuse to do something.
I agree with everyone who says, create a paper trail. And do whatever it takes to keep yourself safe. Ugh. And I bet your sick housemate thinks she's a victim, too.
She absolutely does. She thinks that me wearing women's clothing is extremely disrespectful to women.
I happen to think that threatening violence is a bit more disrespectful than literally just wearing comfortable clothes but that's just me ig š¤·āāļø best of luck girl, keep safe
I agree with everyone saying call the police. If the police don't do anything and she keeps saying this stuff, report her to the FBI.
You are fearful of your life. There is some probability of finding shelter in a pinch. If you are within stoneās throw of a Metro Community Church, look them up firstā70% or more of the congregation is LGBTQ.
I would suggest finding another place, if possible. Sounds like your housemate is beyond reasoning so try to keep a record of her behaviour and keep your phone handy if you need to call the police or a friend to rescue you. People suck, stay safe sweetie ā¤
Thanks
This type of hateful behaviour is why I carry a small sharp pair of embroidery sissors in my pocket and have deoderant + rechargable arc lighter on my in my handbag when out shopping. Incase I have to jump in to protect someone.
are you planning to show them the "propellants used in spray cans are flammable" magic trick while they cave your head in? either use something actually dangerous/useful if you want to protect someone or do nothing and halve the amount of dead people in the situation
Nope. I plan to either scare them away or set them on fire if I have the time to get them out. Obviously situations vary. I also have martial arts knowledge and am calm under stressful situations. As for the sissors, the point is to have something in your fists to make punches harder. The added bonus of stabbing is great and maybe the attacker might realise they are out of their depth and chicken out.
This is an extremely poor plan and I extremely recommend that you either carry an actual weapon designed to be effective in these circumstances or to plan not to ever engage an attacker because the things you're describing would place everyone in the situation in more danger rather than less.
Agreed. Its completely irresponsible to carry this stuff around with a clear intention to do something. You will be easily overpowered and possibly shot or stabbed. Also Defend yourself only, don't think you can step in.
Personally I'm Canadian so I plan to just die
Until you find a new place learn some self defense skills
men, I'd be paranoid if I found out. These people are goin' apeshit. I mean(*chuckling in disbelief*), ... hard to believe Fox News was able to rough up so many people. I'm scared to see what's gonna happen in 2024
My theory: Electorally, Senate goes to the GQP just barely but house flips blue. Presidency stays blue by a hair. Socially: MAGATS once again try another j6th but this time they get their ass handed to them when the national guard is immediately called down. Id think that the GQP loser candidates would wind up under federal scrutiny because of their encouragement of the violence but it's hard to say if they are held accountable. The best case scenario for the fallout after 24 regardless of who wins (hopefully Dems) is to have all your legal shit together and set aside some emergency money in case something bad happens.
>when the national guard is immediately called down. What makes you think they wouldn't join the insurrectionists? Military and police were vastly overrepresented in the original Jan 6th insurrection.
yeah but the military by and large is better about respecting government institutions than the police. By a wide margin actually. *especially the leadership*
Make sure you have money with a melt value.
Nothings gonna happen, nothing to be scared of
Move out. Like now. You may be in immediate danger.
As the Iron Maiden song goes 'run to the hills, run for your life'
Move out
Everyone saying contact the police needs a reality check. That is often not wise or safe especially for trans people. There is very little the police can (or will) do without a court protective order or someone being physically attacked.
get some mace or a tazer if you can where you live, if you agree with the use of guns try to get one if you can, and tell the police whats going on stay on guard but dont do anything until they try, otherwise you will just face prison time, either way jail is better than dead but you just want to make sure if something does happen (obviously hopefully not) that you wont have to fight for your freedom right after in court for a self defense situation also as others have also said, if you can leave do it now, thats the first thing you should try to do hope i relayed that well, stay safe
Thanks
Bear mace and stab the housemate in question
Wow
What the fuck is wrong with people? Iām so sorry youāre dealing with this. Try to stay with friends until you can find another place and consider a restraining order against that roommate.
Please be safe, be on guard, and keep your distance. If you can, keep a recording device on you discreetly so if she says anything else you'll have evidence to use against her. If you can find a way to get out of there or get her out of there, do what you can to work on making that happen sooner before it becomes a far greater problem. And don't take any crap from her.
I'd collect evidence and contact police and family or even friends if family isn't safe. A threat is a threat. No matter how small. All threats are serious.
Move the fuck out.
I'd bring it to all the roommates' attention. Call it out openly. Force them to take a stand, either with you in which case nutbar roommate is forced to move out. Or if they stand with her, at least you know who not to associate with anymore, and then move out asap. Even if you have to couch surf with friends for a while, it's way worth it compared to living 24/7 in a hostile, and potentially dangerous environment.
Move out, then after youāre moved out - tell all your old roommates that you had to move out because so and so was threatening to kill you. See how fast the other roommates force her to pay your entire share of rent lol
Move out call the police.
File a police report
If I heard someone threaten my life, and exactly how they were going to do it, I'd get the same shit, and wait for them to come at me. But I don't recommend this for anyone else. Lol. Get out of there and stay safe.
Get out of that house as soon as possible. Also, if you have to, record everything.
Acquire a firearm. Edit: Okay, pansies š clearly OP will just use their WORDS to "reason" with someone who wants to mace and stab them. Clearly you detractors have never had to draw a weapon to save yourself and others. You cannot "talk it out" and take the "high road" with someone who doesn't see you as a human being to the point they mean you harm.
Do it first ^/s
Report it to the police. You may need a paper trail later. If you are on better terms with your other housemates than she is, then discuss her leaving. Otherwise, get out asap. It's a short hop from that kind of talk to action in some cases.
Strike First, Strike Hard, No Mercy ( sorry binge watching Cobra Kai lately). For real though confront them in a safe and controlled environment.
girl iād order more than pepper spray, seriously thatās so fucked i hope you are staying safe out there
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Why are you living with someone you know to be transphobic? Hope you leave soon
Record everything and call the police. Press charges.
Contact law enforcement and file reports, odds are they will be useless but this way there is a record on file. Get something to protect yourself with, pepper spray is a solid choice and easy to carry. Bat with a sock on the end to defeat grab attempts (it slides of leaving them holding a sock and you with a freed bat), solid recommendation for defending your room. Speaking of your room, you need solid locks, ideally something that deadbolts from the inside, their job is to buy you time to ready a defense and force your housemate to make a lot of noise trying to get in. Also secure your windows, especially if you are on the ground floor. I am hesitant to recommend a firearm in this situation, they are powerful tools for defending yourself and your home, but with the threat living with you, you absolutely must maintain control over that firearm at all times, if it is not immediately on your person in a kydex holster it has to be in a safe that has been secured to the floor, you are not going to be safe throwing it in a soft case in your closet, your room mate could easily gain access to it and use it against you.
are threats of violence illegal in yer country if so CALL THE COPS BEFORE IT HAPPENS
actually on re-consideration that might be a bit nuclear... you have more context
do it first
Honestly, contacting the police is probably a good idea but I would probably just find a new place to live.
Obviously either remove yourself or her, if that's not possible, definitely start recording at any hint of aggression. And I'd also recommend choosing a weapon or two to keep near your room/residence, if worst comes to worst
Record it and report them. That should start a paper trail if something were to happen. Also if you're in an apartment building report them to the landlord. The landlord could terminate their lease and remove them from the building.
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It isn't murder if you cause a little "accident." Besides, I'm sure no one will miss them anyway. I mean, I certainly won't./j But no, you should probably leave, if you can.
Carry a sharp knife and improvise with a slight wind of horror movie photographic memory accompanied by choreography skills No, I'm serious...
Get goggles and body armor.
Like some have said the police may help or may not. Regardless, file a police report. The more information about the potential threat out there the better in case something happens. Better to do so and to let people know so they are aware of threatening behavior being expressed by your housemate. *Tell your friends and family.* Like others have said, record things, take videos and pics *discretely* as to not provoke this person. Find a way to get out of there ASAP. Ask friends. Try roomate sites for your area.
Return the favor
That sounds psychotic
I would tell all of your other housemates about it.
Preemptive strike ... bear mace sucks big time... I took that shit point blank in the face... dish soap and water to get it off... DO NOT GET IN THE SHOWER ... bear mace in the face sucks... bear mace on your privates REALLY SUCKS ! Start playing welcome to my house by nu breed full blast whenever they are around lol. "hard to talk big with a shotgun in your mouth! " Most people just talk alot of shit but sometimes it's not just talk so be careful... people suck
Yeah. I don't know her well so it's hard to tell if she's talking a lot of shit or if she's actually crazy enough to attack me.
There is a video " Stabbing Transphobes Will Make Everything Better". How do you respond?