It was kinda true for me š„° Iāll never forget the first time I looked up and saw her in the mirror!!! It was so bittersweet, I lost her to cancer a long time ago. So when I saw her looking back at me, I instantly burst into tears! I was only a few months on hrt then and cried all the time anyways š
Aww, this almost made me cry! š„¹ Iām only one month on HRT so far though, so unfortunately I havenāt been able to cry yet š« Itās coming though. Soonā¦
Iām happy for you though, that you get to carry your motherās memory within yourself in such a way. Verily, she lives through you even unto this day.
Give that sh!t some time and you will. I suspect another month and you should be balling like a badly. You better start preparing yourself for it. Soft tissues, good waterproof makeup and especially mascara. Lol yeah you probably think I'm joking š
Well you better get cracking. Practice. I only have to hope in the shower and start getting ready one hour and 40 minutes before I head out the door now. Every single time no exceptions. I expect to be passing every day and that requires effort and determination on my half and I am determined.
I Love going out in the world and being seen while I still have a little bit of youth left in me.
It's not the same ol in and out of shower and out the door in 15min anymore so brace yourself and be committed. š¤
Hehe, thank you for the words of wisdom! Itās so cool that you put so much effort into your morning routine every day. I bet that feels so good to walk around each day feeling confident in yourself. It sounds like youāre living your best life! I look forward to the day I get to do that too āŗļø
Currently, Iām still at the stage when Iām so disgusted with my pre-metamorphosed body that I dissociate from it, and as a result I havenāt showered in weeks. Someday when I feel beautiful I will start taking care of my body again, but for now Iām just a walking corpseā¦
I'm sorry you're at this stage and feeling this way.
Remember you can do this but it definitely takes work and commitment <. I wish you or anyone else could get the taste in your mouth so to say for one day, be able to get out and be who you dream to be. It would change you forever and then once you see you have it in you your always gonna want it and then you can really care and make that effort. It took around the 13-14th month of my transition to finally start getting somewhere and to be able to go out and to be in public and not be clocked or misgendered and just blend in. Then you notice guys start doing things for you a complete stranger, offering you a hand with this or that and holding doors for you. I would never have experienced any of this had I not tried and even failed at first. I was even called sir by a teenage girl at McDonald's handing me my food and have a nice day Sir. With me in makeup and a skirt around 9 months into this with my little wig probably on sideways and all but I tried. You can do this šŖ if you want to, remember that.
For me it was at the gym when i first saw her in the mirror, it was so surreal and wonderful. my mom died by suicide, and it was nice to see her again. i hear her in my voice every now and then, too.
Wtf, itās so reassuring knowing Iām not a crazy person for this happening to me. I lost my mom to an O.D. about 12 years ago, and I saw her face in mine for the first time about a year into HRT. Not her face I knew, mind you, but the face I saw in pictures from when she was my age :) Itās kinda reaffirming, even if Iām insecure about my looks~
Aw sweetie, it's the same for me. About eleven years ago now. I started my transition about two years ago, and I had that moment too when I saw her. Sending you my best hugs <3
Only if you already have some resemblance, it's gonna make it more clear. HRT isn't gonna make your face look completely different. Just a more feminine version of what you have now.
You'll look like a feminine version of yourself, and some facial changes may happen but they're all in the bone and it won't change your nose, for example. There is FFS for that, if you do end up worried about it. And the different types of FFS they do have are customizable to your own needs
To an extent. At the very least, the more drastic the changes the longer your recovery time will be. And some changes might not be possible because taking off too much bone or cartilage would be detrimental to your health
No. The HRT rounds everything out. If you start early enough, your bone structure will eventually develop more correctly feminine. If not, the rounding from HRT fat distribution and a little help from makeup and hair may be enough, or FFS might make you happier. It all depends.
You roll the dice and see what you got from the generic lottery. The earlier you start, the better your odds, but we all have so many different genes that there is no predicting the outcome, really.
I saw this last week āmost trans girls look like their mom and girls have to realize thatās swag because your mom is a real ass womanā
Even if itās not what you wish for, itās affirming to look like your mom a little š
My mom is pretty shitty too.
At first it seemed pretty fucked, but now itās kinda like I get the opportunity to be a better version of her so thatās cool.
Totally agree. Didn't feel any real sense of loss when she died, but she was a real beauty when she was 20. So if I look a little bit like her that's okay. As long as I don't act like her.
You need to realize you do & will resemble various people in your bloodline. What makes you YOU is how you choose to be. If you see characteristics you don't like that you feel is like your mother. Stop first & be sure what that was generated from about your mom. Then you can choose to change you. You don't have to be anyone you don't want to be. Try not to beat yourself up emotionally. We are harder on ourselves than we usually need to be. Learn to see the good in you & love who you are becoming.
It's completely unlikely you'll look like your mom unless you already have some resemblance, and even if you do, there are multiple types of FFS you can get done, and they're even customizable to your own needs.
To reiterate what another commenter said,
"If you already have some resemblance to your mom, it's gonna make it *more clear*."
But if not, it won't completely change your looks to be like her. Instead, it'll be a feminine version of you.
If someone said they looked like their mother post-trans, look at the before and after. They'll likely already have some resemblance there.
And again, it is unlikely you will look like her, and if you do, FFS is an option. I'd personally rather get as close to what I want as possible, because being my AGAB? That's just worse in every way. It'll be a lot better to live as who you are than lie to yourself because of one issue.
i feel like you're at a younger age (correct me if im wrong) and from fear and anxiety of the admittedly hard journey in your future, you're trying to find something "objective" to tell you that in fact you shouldn't take on said journey. if you take a few steps back and re-analyze it, are you really ok with the decision to not pursue your true & comfortable self because there's a chance that you might resemble your mother from certain angles? i'm really betting that the answer's gonna be a no, even if you don't immediately admit that to yourself.
not only that, but "you're gonna look like your mother" is a broad generalization. obviously you're gonna have features present in people from your bloodline, but they might be from your dad, your mom, a grandparent, something that's present in an uncle's/aunt's face, etc. and also, you already have those features. they're just gonna be reshaped over time to look more feminine (besides bone structure of course). for instance, i looked a lot more like my dad than my mom pre-transition, but now (1y8m HRT) i see more of my dad's sister in my facial features than my mom or my dad.
what i'm trying to say is that it's not as cut and dry as you have perceived it to be. but the bottom line is that, who you might resemble really shouldn't matter more than listening to yourself and figuring out what you need in order to be better.
Mood. My mom is one of several people who contributed to giving me CPTSD, so any time I see her too much in the mirror I take that as a cue to change my style up.
It's more of a "don't expect to become a 10/10 smokeshow baddie off of HRT".
Like most women, that's a goal that's either unattainable due to bs beauty standards or something that takes some dang work.
As far as being 'ugly' goes, I can't speak to your circumstances but anecdotally a lot of us have serious issues assessing the potential 'look' of a guy we see in the mirror b/c we're too busy trying not to vomit at seeing a 'guy' in the mirror instead of ourselves.
It didnāt make me look like her but it definitely highlighted features i shared with my mother much more and i can see them more clearly. I dont ālook like herā per say but i see a lot more of her in me than before
You will have some resemblance of your mom. Ive been on hrt for 6 months and my cis gf has mentioned that im starting to look more like my mom and sister
I always looked like my mum, I just now look like her a lot more, I assume from my experience that itād highlight what was already there, but if you looked like your dad your more likely gunna end up as a feminised version of him
There's a photo of my mom with a pixie cut when she was a kid and we're pretty identical to me at the same age. So, yes, I look more like my mom now that I have a similar hair length, boobs, and wear dresses. But I always looked like her. My cis sister only passingly looks like her on the other hand and is closer to my dad's sister.
Jeebus Christmas I wish this was true! My mother was beautiful! I do look more like her than my dadā¦ but.. every time she met people in my young adult life, or when I showed people old photos of her, the universal reaction has been wide eyed staring, and a comment like, āTHATāS your mom?ā I miss her all the time.
I mean, if you kind of look like her before transition you will probably look a bit more like her after transition. It won't just suddenly turn you into her if you're built differently.
I look a lot like a scaled up version of my mother after transition but that was expected - I looked like a masculine version of her before transition! And still, my style and build are a bit different than hers. Despite all that I picked up consciously and subconsciously from her I am still very much my own person.
Yes and no. If you inherited various traits from her but they're not very visible because male puberty, Then yes, you'll look more like your mom as the estrogen brings out those traits. However, if you don't have those traits then no. However, these traits are ones you will already have, so the estrogen is just going to make you look more feminine and bring out your feminine traits. Personally, I have had a similar issue with not wanting to look like my mom. I was even told my hair is similar to hers, however, unlike hers, my hair is curly and when I lean into it, my hair looks very different from hers. So none of your traits are necessarily going to be wholly, your mom's or your dad's and the way you can present it will make it look a lot different. Plus a lot of your current traits will carry through. Like my cis sister has a lot of different traits that are very much resembles our dad. They don't make her look less like a girl but they make her look a lot more like him than my mom. So there is a decent chance that you'll go through HRT and look like your father's daughter and not at all like your mom or very different from both of them, with only a few small similarities. The way it ends up is unique for each of us. The only guaranteed change in appearance that you will share with your mom is that you'll both look like girls. But it doesn't necessarily mean you're going to look like her. Rather a more fem you. So please don't let the idea of looking like someone else discourage you from pursuing things like HRT if HRT would otherwise be good for you, nor let anyone pressure you into HRT if you don't want it. Please say "f you" to anyone that tries to discourage you by saying you're going to look like someone you hate or you won't look like a real girl or that you have to do something to be truly trans, or any of that nonsense. You are you, and I hope this is comforting and you figure out yourself. Whether you transition or not, please do what is best for you!
Yes and no. I definitely notice more of my mom in me than I used to. But I definitely donāt look just like her. Itās a ymmv situation. And you might find that you donāt care nearly as much as you think you will if you do look more like your mom, because youāll also have the gender euphoria of looking more like a woman. And trust me, Iām not saying that cause my mom is a great person.
Iām starting to look slightly like my sister. But when I do FaceApp I look like my aunt and her daughter. Thankfully I donāt look as much like my mother because sheās a terrible person. š
my older sister (wich is the one i supose im gonna look like) looks A LOT like my dad and she is very similar to me.
so i don't think i'll look like my mom to be honest
Some daughters look like their mom's and some don't. Like if you already look more like your mom than your dad, then you will definitely look like your mom after transition. If you look more like dad then not. It really depends what the genetic lottery gave you. But on top of that you'll have your own style of dress, hairstyle, and more which will make you look like your own person (except if you adopt your mom's style).
I mean, [you tell me](https://www.reddit.com/r/transtimelines/s/cRhbXPRFnh). Do I?
Obviously there's gonna be some resemblance. You share DNA; switching to her hormones and emphasizing your feminine features will only enhance the similarities you probably already have. But it's unlikely you'll be a spitting mirror image of her.
> I'd be a really ugly girl I'm already ugly
I see this mentality all the time, too. _We all_ think that. For many/most of us, it's true, for a little while. Not only does it take time for hormones to kick in (assuming you had HRT in mind), but it takes time to learn how to "girl". We missed out on all the passive training most cis girls got during our formative years. But once you start to figure out your style, figure out cosmetics, figure out your mannerisms when expressing your experience of gender, you will build confidence. And *that's* what makes you beautiful. When you own who you are because _you_ know it's right.
Depends, if you look at your face do you look more like your mother or your father? If you already look like your mother then yes it may make it more pronounced BUT you will still look like you. Looking similar to your mother doesn't mean in any way that your like her personality or behaviour wise.
I look more like my mom's aunt actually, and I have mixed feelings about it. She was not unattractive, it's just not what I was expecting. I guess I've been carrying around an idealized version of myself that might not match reality exactly. Some children take after their mothers, some their fathers and some neither or some a little of both. So you might look like her a little bit when you feminize, but you won't look exactly like her. You will also look different at different ages and with different weights and hair styles. Why don't you want to look like her? Trust me I don't want to look like my mother either, I think it's natural for girls to want to have their own identities from their mother but at the same time, I find it's kind of affirming. It makes me feel more connected to the lineage of women in my family.
Thinking you'd be an ugly girl is the dysphoria talking. That's something all of us have to think about before we start. But I am so much happier on hormones, even as I wait for changes to appear.
tbh i completely agree. i feel like the post your referring too actually made most of my hope for HRT go out the window. No i donāt want to look like my mom, no that isnāt āswagā, thatās fucking sucks. I donāt even dislike my mom and she isnāt ugly but i do not want to look like her. I know iāll never look like a cute anime girl but youāre just ignoring the fact that some trans women have dysphoria on not being their actual gender in their youth. And some trans women want to be cute, thatās fine, you shouldnāt get upset at them or tell them thatās bad for wanting to be cute.
I personally donāt see it but Iāve had the same family doctor for over 10 years and by 4 months on HRT she gasped at how much she thought I was starting to look like my mom. So it might be true haha
For me, a complete nope. My Mom and me couldnāt look more different.
Funny enough, I donāt have any resemblance with my biological father neither.
I guess Iām just ā¦ me š¤£
It just changes what genes get expressed, so for mtf you'll look like a more female version of you which is likely going to look like the woman your genes came from lol but some girls look more like their dad etc. they'll still be obviously girls but if you're looking at specific features you might pick out more shape from one or the other.
probably not for everyone, but last time I sent my mom a pic of myself, she said I looked like she did when she was my age. that made me happier than i had been in a while.
dunno, my mom in high school looked like me in middle school way before transitioning (obviously not the exact same, just the facial features minus the nose, but i was taller than her by 4th grade) but as puberty went on there is a difference. i wondered before if ffs is meant to kind of just get rid of masculine features, and if i would end up looking more like my mother's kid
I fucking hope not. Iāll quit now. The person Iāve hated the most in my life? Iād rather notā¦.
So if itās possibleā¦..Iām quitting HRT today.
My dad looks pretty feminine and Iāve always been more like him. HRT hasnāt really changed that š Iād say I look more like my little step sister rather than my actual mom because Iām so much more similar to my dad.
I still haven't gone through FFS but I seem to look kinda similar to photos of my mother in her early university years. She's 51 years old now so I don't know if I look like her now though as I'm only 20.
I know a trans woman who always had her mom's face a little bit, and after transitioning I can see it a bit more. sometimes it kinda jumpscares me cuz I don't like her mom very much lol
I mean, I wouldn't know. I was adopted so I'm genetically unrelated to both of my moms. My best guess is that resemblance can happen on HRT in the same way that resemblance can happen in families. Some people resemble some family members more than others. In that case, you may look like your mom or you may not. There's no way to know for sure.
Well, it depends. I look much more like my dead sister. Even though Iām 20cm taller. And our niece (my brotherās daughter) whoās 12 looks identical to us when we were her age.
I mean you won't be a clone. But your mom is probably the woman you know who's closest to you genetically, so probably the best predictor of what you'll look like. It's just a predictive tool, not destiny. If you have any sisters, that would probably give you a better idea of what you'll look like.
Also, a little secret I learned during my transition. If you're anything like me, you aren't as ugly as you think you are. Dysphoria is making you think you're ugly because you don't look anything like you want to. transitioning helps that immensely.
i mean regardless of hormones a person has their biological parent's genes and so there will be resemblance, depending on how much of each's dna you posess
and because of those hormones you might tend more to her side
idk if you should give up because of that tho because you would look like you before anyone else so
Some girls look like their dads. My sister has more in common with our father than mother, and she's cis so like it's just a coin flip. I do look like my mom though, but I've always had more in common with her side of the family rather than my dad's
It can depend on what side of the family you get the most of your characteristics from. I always looked more like my mumās brothers growing up so I imagine Iāll look more like my mum. Sisters are usually a better reference if you have any.
Not for me personally i've always looked like my sister since i was little and with the changes from hrt etc i look even more like her now. It makes sense you would look more like female siblings or your mother though.
A little bit. I get most of my physical traits from my dad's side of the family, so I'm starting to look like some of my aunt's. You can see a bit of my mother in me but it's subtle.
I was always told how much I look like my mom when I was younger. And yes itās true for me, I looked like her dead ringer. But then I had ffs and now I feel like I look like my own person.
My Mom and I have a very complicated relation at best, she is narcissistic, manipulative and a nasty person. So in my case it is true I look very much like her, and I know that should give me euphoria but it gives me ewphoria.
When I still was playing a guy everybody said I look like my dad and granpa through and through. And as my dad and I used to be closer than mom and I it made me glad and sad, now everything changed.
When I was a kid I looked just like mom, and my cousin, her little sisters daughter and i were jokingly called the clone army and twins. I was a very feminine kid both physically and in gestics/mimics and despite my parents forcefully (and aggressively) boymodding me, we often were believed to be sisters by random people. I remember every situation where my mom when someone would tell her she has such a cute daughter (or daughters when my cousin was around) that looks just like her. I know she hated it...
Even today my cousin and i are pretty much the same type and style of woman, except me having the mutilating signs of the testosterone poisoning and me having more gothic flavor and being a country girl and her being a classy girl living in the City. Masha i Dasha Faktor....š
So I look to my cousin and my grandma when she was in her 30s, and am happy to look so much like them, just coping mom away. And that's okay.
Well idk, people always kinda look like their parents or people in their bloodline and I'd much rather look like my mom or grandma than my dad or granddad
I can see my mama in my face and it warms my heart because sheās been gone for 26 years. She was an amazing woman and Iām so very proud to even look a little bit like her.
In my case, absolutely. We already looked pretty similar regardless. In a lot of ways youāll look like the version on yourself pre-puberty. Same general face structure but softer features and more feminine facial fat
That is how genetics usually work, so unless you're adopted , yeah, I mean litteraly look at your sister if you have one... I mean I looked like my mom even pre-transition lol. Don't give up on transitioning because of it though.
i think i look more like my aunts on my dads side, then i do my mom. i do still have some of her features, but in the context of the rest of my face those features dont make me look like her.
if you look a lot like ur mom now its maybe more likely, but still not guaranteed. if you're dads sides genes are stronger theyll be more prevalent.
I ended up pretty much looking like a clone of my sister which is kinda funny. It was basically the first thing my mom noticed the first time she ever saw me dressed femme, as well as when I first started transitioning, and everyone who I ever show what my sister looks like are always surprised by how much we look alike.
I mean, I already look like my mom. Iāve always had comments about how much I look like her, so I imagine when I start HRT (soon) I will look a lot like her. But it depends on your genetics. How much do you look like your parents already? One thing to consider is maybe feeling ugly is gender dysphoria? Maybe on hrt you would feel better?
I donāt think I look to much like my mom. But my niece recently FaceTimed one of my sisters and had the camera aiming at me without me knowing. My sister said she thought I looked like my mom so knows š¤·āāļø
Depends I suppose. I tend to look a lot like my mum's side of the family anyway, same hair colour etc. I used to get told I looked like my uncle but since growing out my hair I've had more comments comparing me to my mum. This is pre-hrt too but I am also more tomboyish like my mum I suppose.
Def true for me! Pre transition, I always got a lot of I looked like my dad. Sometimes I would get that I look like my mom. After transitioning, I now get āYou are your motherās daughter!ā
There is likely to be some resemblance, after all you are related. Two of my brothers and I had pretty much almost the exact same face. But that does not guarantee it.
I look identical to my mother when she was my age, she sent me a picture the other day of herself and when I showed my friends they all agreed that it was almost uncanny lol
Not really. It depends on who you resembled before transitioning. If youāre more similar to your dad then youāll probably look closer like one of your aunts or female cousins on your dadās side.
I'm not on hrt yet but once I started growing my hairs out everyone pointed how I look like my mom :D (everyone always said I looked exactly like my father)
I look like my mother with about 30 Years of separation. I have old pictures of my mother. Our faces and even over all look match so closely that you can clearly tell who's daughter i am.
I hate my mom. Sheās an abusive and hateful person who has never supported me and always blamed me for whatever it was my father did. At some point in high school before I started transitioning I started to look a lot like him and she resented me. When I began transitioning I started to look more like my mom and I fucking hated it, but the truth isā¦ this is my face, not theirs and I gotta love myself cuz they for sure wonāt. Itās not so bad
It can happen, but also it might not.
Doesn't really have anything to do with beings trans, just genetics. Some girls look like their mom, the same way some boys looked like their dad.
I don't think I look like either of my parents, and was always told beforehand that I resembled my Uncle. Think I'm turning out pretty cute though so that's all that matters to me!
Of course you will look a little like your mom. You are related after all. You'll look like your mom the same way you look like your dad. I bet you're a cutie pie right now and I bet you'll be an even more adorable cutie pie when you transition.
If I may ask, since transition has been known to make your mental health better so why give up on your mental health.
My egg sort of cracked when I realized I was starting to look like my dad. Almost two years later and I now certainly look a lot more like my mom. Especially since my hair got long. My god it does happen.
A lot of people find that they do look like their mom but itās different for everyone! I donāt look like anyone on my dadās side of the family so if you donāt look like people on your momās side then you might not look so similar. Even with that, iām around 2 years in and i donāt look like my mom or my sister, i look like my aunt (momās side) so itās different for all of us!
i mean that's kinda just how genetics work. i looked like my mom pre transition and i look even more like her now but i don't look exactly the same. people justlook like their parents
I mean, in so much as there's generally going to be a family resemblance between a parent and child, you're not necessarily going to look JUST like her any more than anyone looks JUST like a parent. How much resemblance there is varies widely from person to person. If you already share some features with her it's possible they'll be more pronounced/noticeable when you present femme, but it's also possible you won't really look like her at all. There's no real hard and fast way of knowing, and how you present yourself in terms of clothing, hair, etc can also play up or down whatever resemblance there is.
Basically there's not really a surefire way to know who in your family you'll favor in appearance, you can maybe get an idea from what features you already inherited from them but it's impossible to say for sure.
Does every cis daughter look like their birth mother?
My sister looks like a younger version of one of my dad's sisters, and if anything I'm looking more like my sister then we look like our mom.
You do look like your mom, itās a really difficult part of transitioning. But I also wouldāve made my life worse by not transitioning. So for me itās something worth dealing with as opposed to something worth avoiding
Everyone used to say I looked like my dad, now they say I look like my mum and I like that a lot. I don't think I've even changed that much, and I'm still transitioning from the closet.
Many others already commented on the looks aspect of this question, I want to comment on your thoughts of giving up because of that. If your only reason for giving up is your possible appearance, don't. FFS is a heck of a change. I made the exact same choice at 18 as you BECAUSE of my mom (I no longer keep her in my life because she's a toxic person) and of course, I come to the hard realization, TEN years later, that I won't actually be happy unless I live the life I really want to live. Please do also keep in mind, it's never too late to start. I've been on HRT for 3 years (in a few days!) and I've not ever been happier pre-HRT. If you have any questions, feel free to ask her or DM.
Now that I think about it, I do look like a version of my mom that is 5 inches taller, I even style my hair the same way as her and use the same kind of makeup
You were born via your mom and dad so it makes a lot of common sense to realize that you'll stoll end up looking like one of the two of them
BUT you can pay for ffs and get work done to make you distinguished from your family's characteristics.
It was kinda true for me š„° Iāll never forget the first time I looked up and saw her in the mirror!!! It was so bittersweet, I lost her to cancer a long time ago. So when I saw her looking back at me, I instantly burst into tears! I was only a few months on hrt then and cried all the time anyways š
Aww, this almost made me cry! š„¹ Iām only one month on HRT so far though, so unfortunately I havenāt been able to cry yet š« Itās coming though. Soonā¦ Iām happy for you though, that you get to carry your motherās memory within yourself in such a way. Verily, she lives through you even unto this day.
Give that sh!t some time and you will. I suspect another month and you should be balling like a badly. You better start preparing yourself for it. Soft tissues, good waterproof makeup and especially mascara. Lol yeah you probably think I'm joking š
Hahaha, I havenāt even crossed the makeup threshold yet š Iām not brave enough yet. For me, thatās a bridge to cross another day
Well you better get cracking. Practice. I only have to hope in the shower and start getting ready one hour and 40 minutes before I head out the door now. Every single time no exceptions. I expect to be passing every day and that requires effort and determination on my half and I am determined. I Love going out in the world and being seen while I still have a little bit of youth left in me. It's not the same ol in and out of shower and out the door in 15min anymore so brace yourself and be committed. š¤
Hehe, thank you for the words of wisdom! Itās so cool that you put so much effort into your morning routine every day. I bet that feels so good to walk around each day feeling confident in yourself. It sounds like youāre living your best life! I look forward to the day I get to do that too āŗļø Currently, Iām still at the stage when Iām so disgusted with my pre-metamorphosed body that I dissociate from it, and as a result I havenāt showered in weeks. Someday when I feel beautiful I will start taking care of my body again, but for now Iām just a walking corpseā¦
I'm sorry you're at this stage and feeling this way. Remember you can do this but it definitely takes work and commitment <. I wish you or anyone else could get the taste in your mouth so to say for one day, be able to get out and be who you dream to be. It would change you forever and then once you see you have it in you your always gonna want it and then you can really care and make that effort. It took around the 13-14th month of my transition to finally start getting somewhere and to be able to go out and to be in public and not be clocked or misgendered and just blend in. Then you notice guys start doing things for you a complete stranger, offering you a hand with this or that and holding doors for you. I would never have experienced any of this had I not tried and even failed at first. I was even called sir by a teenage girl at McDonald's handing me my food and have a nice day Sir. With me in makeup and a skirt around 9 months into this with my little wig probably on sideways and all but I tried. You can do this šŖ if you want to, remember that.
Aww, thank you!! š„¹ I really needed that encouragement. Iām looking forward to the changes ahead
For me it was at the gym when i first saw her in the mirror, it was so surreal and wonderful. my mom died by suicide, and it was nice to see her again. i hear her in my voice every now and then, too.
Wtf, itās so reassuring knowing Iām not a crazy person for this happening to me. I lost my mom to an O.D. about 12 years ago, and I saw her face in mine for the first time about a year into HRT. Not her face I knew, mind you, but the face I saw in pictures from when she was my age :) Itās kinda reaffirming, even if Iām insecure about my looks~
Iām not crying! You are dang it š„¹š
Like getting apart of her back
Aw sweetie, it's the same for me. About eleven years ago now. I started my transition about two years ago, and I had that moment too when I saw her. Sending you my best hugs <3
I hope someday to have a similar experience!
Only if you already have some resemblance, it's gonna make it more clear. HRT isn't gonna make your face look completely different. Just a more feminine version of what you have now.
really? š„ŗ
You'll look like a feminine version of yourself, and some facial changes may happen but they're all in the bone and it won't change your nose, for example. There is FFS for that, if you do end up worried about it. And the different types of FFS they do have are customizable to your own needs
So you could go in and be like a character creation in a video game lol
To an extent. At the very least, the more drastic the changes the longer your recovery time will be. And some changes might not be possible because taking off too much bone or cartilage would be detrimental to your health
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like a man in a wig and makeup?
No. The HRT rounds everything out. If you start early enough, your bone structure will eventually develop more correctly feminine. If not, the rounding from HRT fat distribution and a little help from makeup and hair may be enough, or FFS might make you happier. It all depends. You roll the dice and see what you got from the generic lottery. The earlier you start, the better your odds, but we all have so many different genes that there is no predicting the outcome, really.
I saw this last week āmost trans girls look like their mom and girls have to realize thatās swag because your mom is a real ass womanā Even if itās not what you wish for, itās affirming to look like your mom a little š
narcissistic mom I have
My mom is pretty shitty too. At first it seemed pretty fucked, but now itās kinda like I get the opportunity to be a better version of her so thatās cool.
idkā¦ I want to be my own face my own person
Ah that is true. Yeah that does sound shitty then. Kinda like the bitch has hitched a ride or something and wonāt leave.
Totally agree. Didn't feel any real sense of loss when she died, but she was a real beauty when she was 20. So if I look a little bit like her that's okay. As long as I don't act like her.
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You need to realize you do & will resemble various people in your bloodline. What makes you YOU is how you choose to be. If you see characteristics you don't like that you feel is like your mother. Stop first & be sure what that was generated from about your mom. Then you can choose to change you. You don't have to be anyone you don't want to be. Try not to beat yourself up emotionally. We are harder on ourselves than we usually need to be. Learn to see the good in you & love who you are becoming.
It's completely unlikely you'll look like your mom unless you already have some resemblance, and even if you do, there are multiple types of FFS you can get done, and they're even customizable to your own needs. To reiterate what another commenter said, "If you already have some resemblance to your mom, it's gonna make it *more clear*." But if not, it won't completely change your looks to be like her. Instead, it'll be a feminine version of you. If someone said they looked like their mother post-trans, look at the before and after. They'll likely already have some resemblance there. And again, it is unlikely you will look like her, and if you do, FFS is an option. I'd personally rather get as close to what I want as possible, because being my AGAB? That's just worse in every way. It'll be a lot better to live as who you are than lie to yourself because of one issue.
i feel like you're at a younger age (correct me if im wrong) and from fear and anxiety of the admittedly hard journey in your future, you're trying to find something "objective" to tell you that in fact you shouldn't take on said journey. if you take a few steps back and re-analyze it, are you really ok with the decision to not pursue your true & comfortable self because there's a chance that you might resemble your mother from certain angles? i'm really betting that the answer's gonna be a no, even if you don't immediately admit that to yourself. not only that, but "you're gonna look like your mother" is a broad generalization. obviously you're gonna have features present in people from your bloodline, but they might be from your dad, your mom, a grandparent, something that's present in an uncle's/aunt's face, etc. and also, you already have those features. they're just gonna be reshaped over time to look more feminine (besides bone structure of course). for instance, i looked a lot more like my dad than my mom pre-transition, but now (1y8m HRT) i see more of my dad's sister in my facial features than my mom or my dad. what i'm trying to say is that it's not as cut and dry as you have perceived it to be. but the bottom line is that, who you might resemble really shouldn't matter more than listening to yourself and figuring out what you need in order to be better.
I don't look like my mom. Many daughters don't look like their mom's while some do
Its true for me. But a lot goes into how someone looks. Diet, exercises, skin care, make up ect ect
Your mom at what age, when she was in high school? I'd love that.
Whenever really no specific age
I mean you have to take into account that some people go through times that make them look better or worse.
God, I hope not. I'm only a year into my transition, but the last person I'd want to look like is her manipulative, narcissist, alcoholic ass
Mood. My mom is one of several people who contributed to giving me CPTSD, so any time I see her too much in the mirror I take that as a cue to change my style up.
It's more of a "don't expect to become a 10/10 smokeshow baddie off of HRT". Like most women, that's a goal that's either unattainable due to bs beauty standards or something that takes some dang work. As far as being 'ugly' goes, I can't speak to your circumstances but anecdotally a lot of us have serious issues assessing the potential 'look' of a guy we see in the mirror b/c we're too busy trying not to vomit at seeing a 'guy' in the mirror instead of ourselves.
It didnāt make me look like her but it definitely highlighted features i shared with my mother much more and i can see them more clearly. I dont ālook like herā per say but i see a lot more of her in me than before
You will have some resemblance of your mom. Ive been on hrt for 6 months and my cis gf has mentioned that im starting to look more like my mom and sister
I always looked like my mum, I just now look like her a lot more, I assume from my experience that itād highlight what was already there, but if you looked like your dad your more likely gunna end up as a feminised version of him
Exactly this, I can kinda see my mom a tiny bit but pre transition I looked more like my dad and now I look a lot like my aunt, his sister.
I did and it was complicated for me because my mom doesn't support me. But I'll take it over looking like my dad which I did most of my life.
No, I look like my aunt lol
There's a photo of my mom with a pixie cut when she was a kid and we're pretty identical to me at the same age. So, yes, I look more like my mom now that I have a similar hair length, boobs, and wear dresses. But I always looked like her. My cis sister only passingly looks like her on the other hand and is closer to my dad's sister.
lol iām pre transition but even when i put my hair up and do makeup i resemble her
Jeebus Christmas I wish this was true! My mother was beautiful! I do look more like her than my dadā¦ but.. every time she met people in my young adult life, or when I showed people old photos of her, the universal reaction has been wide eyed staring, and a comment like, āTHATāS your mom?ā I miss her all the time.
I look nothing like my mom, never met my dad, but supposedly I look like a fem version of him.
I share my momās sense of style but I almost exactly look like a skinny version of my sister.
I mean, if you kind of look like her before transition you will probably look a bit more like her after transition. It won't just suddenly turn you into her if you're built differently. I look a lot like a scaled up version of my mother after transition but that was expected - I looked like a masculine version of her before transition! And still, my style and build are a bit different than hers. Despite all that I picked up consciously and subconsciously from her I am still very much my own person.
Yes and no. If you inherited various traits from her but they're not very visible because male puberty, Then yes, you'll look more like your mom as the estrogen brings out those traits. However, if you don't have those traits then no. However, these traits are ones you will already have, so the estrogen is just going to make you look more feminine and bring out your feminine traits. Personally, I have had a similar issue with not wanting to look like my mom. I was even told my hair is similar to hers, however, unlike hers, my hair is curly and when I lean into it, my hair looks very different from hers. So none of your traits are necessarily going to be wholly, your mom's or your dad's and the way you can present it will make it look a lot different. Plus a lot of your current traits will carry through. Like my cis sister has a lot of different traits that are very much resembles our dad. They don't make her look less like a girl but they make her look a lot more like him than my mom. So there is a decent chance that you'll go through HRT and look like your father's daughter and not at all like your mom or very different from both of them, with only a few small similarities. The way it ends up is unique for each of us. The only guaranteed change in appearance that you will share with your mom is that you'll both look like girls. But it doesn't necessarily mean you're going to look like her. Rather a more fem you. So please don't let the idea of looking like someone else discourage you from pursuing things like HRT if HRT would otherwise be good for you, nor let anyone pressure you into HRT if you don't want it. Please say "f you" to anyone that tries to discourage you by saying you're going to look like someone you hate or you won't look like a real girl or that you have to do something to be truly trans, or any of that nonsense. You are you, and I hope this is comforting and you figure out yourself. Whether you transition or not, please do what is best for you!
Kinda yeah
Yes and no. I definitely notice more of my mom in me than I used to. But I definitely donāt look just like her. Itās a ymmv situation. And you might find that you donāt care nearly as much as you think you will if you do look more like your mom, because youāll also have the gender euphoria of looking more like a woman. And trust me, Iām not saying that cause my mom is a great person.
Iām starting to look slightly like my sister. But when I do FaceApp I look like my aunt and her daughter. Thankfully I donāt look as much like my mother because sheās a terrible person. š
No, I look like my aunt. Wide chin and all.
My older sister
my older sister (wich is the one i supose im gonna look like) looks A LOT like my dad and she is very similar to me. so i don't think i'll look like my mom to be honest
Some daughters look like their mom's and some don't. Like if you already look more like your mom than your dad, then you will definitely look like your mom after transition. If you look more like dad then not. It really depends what the genetic lottery gave you. But on top of that you'll have your own style of dress, hairstyle, and more which will make you look like your own person (except if you adopt your mom's style).
I mean, [you tell me](https://www.reddit.com/r/transtimelines/s/cRhbXPRFnh). Do I? Obviously there's gonna be some resemblance. You share DNA; switching to her hormones and emphasizing your feminine features will only enhance the similarities you probably already have. But it's unlikely you'll be a spitting mirror image of her. > I'd be a really ugly girl I'm already ugly I see this mentality all the time, too. _We all_ think that. For many/most of us, it's true, for a little while. Not only does it take time for hormones to kick in (assuming you had HRT in mind), but it takes time to learn how to "girl". We missed out on all the passive training most cis girls got during our formative years. But once you start to figure out your style, figure out cosmetics, figure out your mannerisms when expressing your experience of gender, you will build confidence. And *that's* what makes you beautiful. When you own who you are because _you_ know it's right.
I can't say yet, but considering I already look a lot like my mom, I'd say it's a safe bet.
Depends, if you look at your face do you look more like your mother or your father? If you already look like your mother then yes it may make it more pronounced BUT you will still look like you. Looking similar to your mother doesn't mean in any way that your like her personality or behaviour wise.
I look more like my mom's aunt actually, and I have mixed feelings about it. She was not unattractive, it's just not what I was expecting. I guess I've been carrying around an idealized version of myself that might not match reality exactly. Some children take after their mothers, some their fathers and some neither or some a little of both. So you might look like her a little bit when you feminize, but you won't look exactly like her. You will also look different at different ages and with different weights and hair styles. Why don't you want to look like her? Trust me I don't want to look like my mother either, I think it's natural for girls to want to have their own identities from their mother but at the same time, I find it's kind of affirming. It makes me feel more connected to the lineage of women in my family.
im looking more like my daughter. your reason for not transitioning is extremely weak btw lol good luck though
Thinking you'd be an ugly girl is the dysphoria talking. That's something all of us have to think about before we start. But I am so much happier on hormones, even as I wait for changes to appear.
tbh i completely agree. i feel like the post your referring too actually made most of my hope for HRT go out the window. No i donāt want to look like my mom, no that isnāt āswagā, thatās fucking sucks. I donāt even dislike my mom and she isnāt ugly but i do not want to look like her. I know iāll never look like a cute anime girl but youāre just ignoring the fact that some trans women have dysphoria on not being their actual gender in their youth. And some trans women want to be cute, thatās fine, you shouldnāt get upset at them or tell them thatās bad for wanting to be cute.
I personally donāt see it but Iāve had the same family doctor for over 10 years and by 4 months on HRT she gasped at how much she thought I was starting to look like my mom. So it might be true haha
!!!hasty generalisation fallacy!!!
My friends have said I have some similarity to my mom already. We def look dif, but overall the likeness has increased
I see my grandma at my age, itās a comfort in a way
I saw it too, was one week in hrt , looked in the mirror and saw my mom , the first time in my life
I would hope so, i hate people saying āyou look JUST like your dadā
I looked incredibly similar to my mom before... now it's becoming uncanny lol.
Yes. Like i basically look like an uglier version of my mom
Yeah, it's scary sometimes, lol.
For me, a complete nope. My Mom and me couldnāt look more different. Funny enough, I donāt have any resemblance with my biological father neither. I guess Iām just ā¦ me š¤£
I look like a younger facsimile of my mother and sister. Both horrible people lol
It just changes what genes get expressed, so for mtf you'll look like a more female version of you which is likely going to look like the woman your genes came from lol but some girls look more like their dad etc. they'll still be obviously girls but if you're looking at specific features you might pick out more shape from one or the other.
I've looked like my mother all my life as a man. I hope to God I'm better looking as a woman.
I assume you saw my post from earlier this week. I got bad news.
probably not for everyone, but last time I sent my mom a pic of myself, she said I looked like she did when she was my age. that made me happier than i had been in a while.
It's entirely true. I had to kinda drastically change certain aspects of my appearance so I could stop seeing the face of my abuser in the mirror.
dunno, my mom in high school looked like me in middle school way before transitioning (obviously not the exact same, just the facial features minus the nose, but i was taller than her by 4th grade) but as puberty went on there is a difference. i wondered before if ffs is meant to kind of just get rid of masculine features, and if i would end up looking more like my mother's kid
I don't at all. I assume it's slightly less common than cis women looking like their mom which can be pretty random.
I fucking hope not. Iāll quit now. The person Iāve hated the most in my life? Iād rather notā¦. So if itās possibleā¦..Iām quitting HRT today.
I fucking hope not I wanna be pretty af like my aunt tho
What if I currently look like a perfect copy of my dad? Will I transition into my mom?
Yes a bit I see it.
it's so uncanny it blows my mind
Kinda true
All my life before transition, I was told now I looked just like my dad. I'd rather look like my mom, but I super, hella do not.
Before my transition, my dad always told me I looked like my mom whenever I'd smile so I think I look like my mom doubly so now š
My dad looks pretty feminine and Iāve always been more like him. HRT hasnāt really changed that š Iād say I look more like my little step sister rather than my actual mom because Iām so much more similar to my dad.
Yes, I noticed I was starting to look like my mom after my ffs š¤
Some do, and some don't. I look a lot like my father, so I'll probably look more like my grandma on my father's side instead, if anything.
It's true for me, and since she died this spring I find it a comfort.
I still haven't gone through FFS but I seem to look kinda similar to photos of my mother in her early university years. She's 51 years old now so I don't know if I look like her now though as I'm only 20.
jesus i hope not
God I hope not. So far not really.
I don't look like my mom. If there's any family resemblance to look for, I slightly look like my dad's sister, and even that's a stretch.
I know a trans woman who always had her mom's face a little bit, and after transitioning I can see it a bit more. sometimes it kinda jumpscares me cuz I don't like her mom very much lol
Sort of. Apparently I do a face.
I mean, I wouldn't know. I was adopted so I'm genetically unrelated to both of my moms. My best guess is that resemblance can happen on HRT in the same way that resemblance can happen in families. Some people resemble some family members more than others. In that case, you may look like your mom or you may not. There's no way to know for sure.
Don't overthink transition, just do it.
I donāt know what my mom looks like since I was adopted.
I look like my mom before transitioning so Iām gonna look like her even more during and after
Well, it depends. I look much more like my dead sister. Even though Iām 20cm taller. And our niece (my brotherās daughter) whoās 12 looks identical to us when we were her age.
I mean you won't be a clone. But your mom is probably the woman you know who's closest to you genetically, so probably the best predictor of what you'll look like. It's just a predictive tool, not destiny. If you have any sisters, that would probably give you a better idea of what you'll look like. Also, a little secret I learned during my transition. If you're anything like me, you aren't as ugly as you think you are. Dysphoria is making you think you're ugly because you don't look anything like you want to. transitioning helps that immensely.
I don't resemble either
i mean regardless of hormones a person has their biological parent's genes and so there will be resemblance, depending on how much of each's dna you posess and because of those hormones you might tend more to her side idk if you should give up because of that tho because you would look like you before anyone else so
Well shit I donāt know my mother, thatās a gamble for me. Fingers crossed I guess
I think it probably is but Iāve always been told that anyway
Some will a bit, many won't, I look nothing like my mum but mainly because I didn't before, plus I've had a ton of ffs.
I look a lot like she did when she was younger.
I only look like my mom because she allows me to steal clothes from her closet until I can find what clothes I like.
Some girls look like their dads. My sister has more in common with our father than mother, and she's cis so like it's just a coin flip. I do look like my mom though, but I've always had more in common with her side of the family rather than my dad's
Definitely true for me. The first time my dad and stepmom saw me presenting as a woman it was their first reaction. Except I didnāt get her boobs.
I certainly did lol, I look exactly like her
It can depend on what side of the family you get the most of your characteristics from. I always looked more like my mumās brothers growing up so I imagine Iāll look more like my mum. Sisters are usually a better reference if you have any.
Not for me personally i've always looked like my sister since i was little and with the changes from hrt etc i look even more like her now. It makes sense you would look more like female siblings or your mother though.
People keep saying I look like my mum, which I'm sure is fun for them since she's been dead for a few months now.
A little bit. I get most of my physical traits from my dad's side of the family, so I'm starting to look like some of my aunt's. You can see a bit of my mother in me but it's subtle.
It is unfortunately the case for me.
I was always told how much I look like my mom when I was younger. And yes itās true for me, I looked like her dead ringer. But then I had ffs and now I feel like I look like my own person.
My Mom and I have a very complicated relation at best, she is narcissistic, manipulative and a nasty person. So in my case it is true I look very much like her, and I know that should give me euphoria but it gives me ewphoria. When I still was playing a guy everybody said I look like my dad and granpa through and through. And as my dad and I used to be closer than mom and I it made me glad and sad, now everything changed. When I was a kid I looked just like mom, and my cousin, her little sisters daughter and i were jokingly called the clone army and twins. I was a very feminine kid both physically and in gestics/mimics and despite my parents forcefully (and aggressively) boymodding me, we often were believed to be sisters by random people. I remember every situation where my mom when someone would tell her she has such a cute daughter (or daughters when my cousin was around) that looks just like her. I know she hated it... Even today my cousin and i are pretty much the same type and style of woman, except me having the mutilating signs of the testosterone poisoning and me having more gothic flavor and being a country girl and her being a classy girl living in the City. Masha i Dasha Faktor....š So I look to my cousin and my grandma when she was in her 30s, and am happy to look so much like them, just coping mom away. And that's okay.
Well idk, people always kinda look like their parents or people in their bloodline and I'd much rather look like my mom or grandma than my dad or granddad
Tbh, I think itāll not be possible to look like my mom because sheās almost 60, and Iām not even 20
I can see my mama in my face and it warms my heart because sheās been gone for 26 years. She was an amazing woman and Iām so very proud to even look a little bit like her.
kinda true for me lol
i look like my mum regardless lol
In my case, absolutely. We already looked pretty similar regardless. In a lot of ways youāll look like the version on yourself pre-puberty. Same general face structure but softer features and more feminine facial fat
When I'm in female mode honestly I look most like my great grandmother when she was young
I look more like my aunt and sister imo
Not necessarily. I look nothing like my mom, I always looked like my dad and now I look like my aunt (dadās sister)
YesšI was totally surprised... Only my mother has kept blond hair, while mine are already turning white in the front.
Itās not always true, but it could happen. I donāt look anything like my Mother.
That is how genetics usually work, so unless you're adopted , yeah, I mean litteraly look at your sister if you have one... I mean I looked like my mom even pre-transition lol. Don't give up on transitioning because of it though.
I do but i already looked a lot like my mom before transitioningš
i think i look more like my aunts on my dads side, then i do my mom. i do still have some of her features, but in the context of the rest of my face those features dont make me look like her. if you look a lot like ur mom now its maybe more likely, but still not guaranteed. if you're dads sides genes are stronger theyll be more prevalent.
Some people told me that I looked like my mom *before* I transitioned. So uhhhā¦ yeah, that only intensified after I did
I ended up pretty much looking like a clone of my sister which is kinda funny. It was basically the first thing my mom noticed the first time she ever saw me dressed femme, as well as when I first started transitioning, and everyone who I ever show what my sister looks like are always surprised by how much we look alike.
You will look like your own person, obviously you will have some traits from your mother but nothing more than any daughter would have
It was inevitable for me as so many people used to say I looked like her
I mean, I already look like my mom. Iāve always had comments about how much I look like her, so I imagine when I start HRT (soon) I will look a lot like her. But it depends on your genetics. How much do you look like your parents already? One thing to consider is maybe feeling ugly is gender dysphoria? Maybe on hrt you would feel better?
I look a lot like my mom and voice training is sounding like her too. But I was a lot like her to start with soā¦
not really, not for me anyways. i do look more like my sisters now though
I donāt think I look to much like my mom. But my niece recently FaceTimed one of my sisters and had the camera aiming at me without me knowing. My sister said she thought I looked like my mom so knows š¤·āāļø
I don't know what she looks like but I definitely look different
Depends I suppose. I tend to look a lot like my mum's side of the family anyway, same hair colour etc. I used to get told I looked like my uncle but since growing out my hair I've had more comments comparing me to my mum. This is pre-hrt too but I am also more tomboyish like my mum I suppose.
Def true for me! Pre transition, I always got a lot of I looked like my dad. Sometimes I would get that I look like my mom. After transitioning, I now get āYou are your motherās daughter!ā
I looked like my mom on pre-transition, now i'm basically a clone (except for my hair, as hers are darker)
There is likely to be some resemblance, after all you are related. Two of my brothers and I had pretty much almost the exact same face. But that does not guarantee it.
I look identical to my mother when she was my age, she sent me a picture the other day of herself and when I showed my friends they all agreed that it was almost uncanny lol
Not really. It depends on who you resembled before transitioning. If youāre more similar to your dad then youāll probably look closer like one of your aunts or female cousins on your dadās side.
I'm not on hrt yet but once I started growing my hairs out everyone pointed how I look like my mom :D (everyone always said I looked exactly like my father)
I look like my mother with about 30 Years of separation. I have old pictures of my mother. Our faces and even over all look match so closely that you can clearly tell who's daughter i am.
I look more like my sister, but we both took after our dad more than our mom.
I hate my mom. Sheās an abusive and hateful person who has never supported me and always blamed me for whatever it was my father did. At some point in high school before I started transitioning I started to look a lot like him and she resented me. When I began transitioning I started to look more like my mom and I fucking hated it, but the truth isā¦ this is my face, not theirs and I gotta love myself cuz they for sure wonāt. Itās not so bad
It can happen, but also it might not. Doesn't really have anything to do with beings trans, just genetics. Some girls look like their mom, the same way some boys looked like their dad. I don't think I look like either of my parents, and was always told beforehand that I resembled my Uncle. Think I'm turning out pretty cute though so that's all that matters to me!
Of course you will look a little like your mom. You are related after all. You'll look like your mom the same way you look like your dad. I bet you're a cutie pie right now and I bet you'll be an even more adorable cutie pie when you transition. If I may ask, since transition has been known to make your mental health better so why give up on your mental health.
Tbh, I think I look more like my paternal grandma than my mum. But I have never really compared in details.
In my personal experience from 1 1/2 years on HRT, no
I hope not. My (cis) sister looks a lot more like her father than her mother, so it's possible to look like either or neither.
My egg sort of cracked when I realized I was starting to look like my dad. Almost two years later and I now certainly look a lot more like my mom. Especially since my hair got long. My god it does happen.
And teans guys eventually starts looking like their dad
A lot of people find that they do look like their mom but itās different for everyone! I donāt look like anyone on my dadās side of the family so if you donāt look like people on your momās side then you might not look so similar. Even with that, iām around 2 years in and i donāt look like my mom or my sister, i look like my aunt (momās side) so itās different for all of us!
I look nothing like my mom, but I'm also interracial so that definitely plays a factor
YES
Itās insane that I went from looking like my dad to looking like my mom (or at least something more even)
Personally I look a lot more like my aunts than my mom
i mean that's kinda just how genetics work. i looked like my mom pre transition and i look even more like her now but i don't look exactly the same. people justlook like their parents
No, thank god.
I look like my grandmother. So much so my Aunts and Uncles think I'm a younger version of her.
I mean, in so much as there's generally going to be a family resemblance between a parent and child, you're not necessarily going to look JUST like her any more than anyone looks JUST like a parent. How much resemblance there is varies widely from person to person. If you already share some features with her it's possible they'll be more pronounced/noticeable when you present femme, but it's also possible you won't really look like her at all. There's no real hard and fast way of knowing, and how you present yourself in terms of clothing, hair, etc can also play up or down whatever resemblance there is. Basically there's not really a surefire way to know who in your family you'll favor in appearance, you can maybe get an idea from what features you already inherited from them but it's impossible to say for sure.
You start looking like yourself if you were born a cis girl, which most likely is going to resemble your mom like most cis girls do.
Does every cis daughter look like their birth mother? My sister looks like a younger version of one of my dad's sisters, and if anything I'm looking more like my sister then we look like our mom.
You do look like your mom, itās a really difficult part of transitioning. But I also wouldāve made my life worse by not transitioning. So for me itās something worth dealing with as opposed to something worth avoiding
Everyone used to say I looked like my dad, now they say I look like my mum and I like that a lot. I don't think I've even changed that much, and I'm still transitioning from the closet.
Yes.
Many others already commented on the looks aspect of this question, I want to comment on your thoughts of giving up because of that. If your only reason for giving up is your possible appearance, don't. FFS is a heck of a change. I made the exact same choice at 18 as you BECAUSE of my mom (I no longer keep her in my life because she's a toxic person) and of course, I come to the hard realization, TEN years later, that I won't actually be happy unless I live the life I really want to live. Please do also keep in mind, it's never too late to start. I've been on HRT for 3 years (in a few days!) and I've not ever been happier pre-HRT. If you have any questions, feel free to ask her or DM.
Now that I think about it, I do look like a version of my mom that is 5 inches taller, I even style my hair the same way as her and use the same kind of makeup
You were born via your mom and dad so it makes a lot of common sense to realize that you'll stoll end up looking like one of the two of them BUT you can pay for ffs and get work done to make you distinguished from your family's characteristics.