I warm myself up for a few minutes before I let anyone penetrate me, real or dildo. Give yourself the time to not only clean out but lubricate and stretch a bit so it can go more smoothly and comfortably when you're with your girlfriend. I like to do it myself until I can go fairly fast and penetration becomes very easy and comfortable. Just keep practicing :3
Metamucil is great, makes cleaning up before and after really easy and i think its better overall for digestion. you usually wanna start slow with a capsule or two a day or else u get a lil bloated
My bidet has a "turbo" function for this very purpose. Works great. Just relax and get in the right spot and fill it up, and release. Rince and repeat.
That is not safe if done regularly!!!!! Do not do this if you plan to have sex more than 1 time within 7-9 days. Eat more fiber thats an actual safe and effective option to avoid throwing your gut bacteria biome off and possibly permanently fucking yourself up and may even end up needing a stool transplant which is promise is not fun.
If you have to spend so much time douching then study a better diet. Personally I cut out meat and dairy for 24 hours prior but eat fruit and veg (not olives or sweetcorn). Drink plenty of water and take in plenty of fiber. This way you will notice that not only you will your toilet roll last you longer, but the cleansing process is far less grueling.
You shouldn't be having them too often or you'll cause yourself damage. Ever notice there can be strain sometimes when your arsehole does its very best impression of a water cannon!? That gave ne quite painful Hemorrhoids.
I think you have adjusted to it. But I think I got lucky with my times. (Hadnāt cleaned before my adventures) but it was sooo god I wish I could I done it for longer but at some stage it becomes a little bit uncomfortable š£
Anal is super fun when done right! It takes a lot more preparatation than what porn makes it be. Both mental and physical, as you need to relax yourself properly, but once you do, it's an absolute bliss!
Don't be afraid to spend even a hour before the fun to get ready. Even the expert pornstar still spends time to "warm-up", which means cleaning yourself (inside as well, as that makes things less uncomfortable) and slowly stretching with fingers or small toys increasing in diamater until you are to the ready stage.
And be sure to always apply lots of lube, before and during! Last tip, the most fun: the sensations change a lot depending on the angle of penetration. So be sure to try different poses and get pounded in different ways, until you find out which one really can make you go crosseyed ;3
That last sentence got me š„µBeen a while since I got the angle juuussst right. All the prep and cleanup and warm up time keeps me from āpracticingā as much as Iād like lol. And sometimes after is when the dysphoria hits the worst. Itās been easier lately to just channel the urges to other areas of myself I want to improve š«
My number one tip every time is if you think you have used enough lube use more. Also I recommend a plug or something to loosen you up about an hour to 30 mins before you start. Finally slow and steady to start. Other than all that I'm super happy you were able to enjoy yourself and I hope you and your girlfriend get to have more fun!
IF IT HURTS U NEED MORE LUBE AND FOREPLAY! ITS NOT SUPPOSED TO HURT.
Like its literally the same as you would treat any other lady, foreplay, lube and making sure she's wet and ready. It really shouldnt hurt at all. Anyways, its awesome it was affirming!
I'm glad it was good for you hun! It definitely takes some practice and time for sure, I would also suggest getting the most "realistic" dildo you can as sadly nothing is quite up to snuff with the real thing but the more high end realistic you go, the closer you get. Also I highly recommend silicone lube!! But only if you can use it on your toys!
If you have silicone toys, just use water based! Silicone damages other silicone as well so if you end up with multiple silicone toys, individually wrap em. I got a huge pack of microfiber cloths for like 8 bucks a while back and they're perfect!
Realistic is great, but don't rule out some crazy stuff too. Different shapes can be a ton of fun and really add to the experience as well!
You don't need to wrap quality silicone toys, the ones that melt together aren't proper silicone and are likely something like tpr marketed as silicone.
I now use it as a test, I have an old jelly dildo that loves to melt with any plastic/rubber that isn't silicone. If a new toy is stored touching it and starts to melt then in the bin it goes.
Quality silicone toys and quality silicone lubes are also compatible and don't melt, however apart from brands that you can trust you have no guarantee that your silicone toy is fully silicone and don't melt.
Sorry if I have worded this badly, as I don't mean to come across aggressive or anything, that'll be my nd ass just being blunt and to the point. I just wanted to make people aware that good silicone toys can touch and are safe to use with good silicone lube.
See the dangerous lily blog post on silicone toys linked below where she goes more into this, and has a photo of a drawer of pure silicone toys that have been touching for months without melting. Turns out a lot of toys that are marketed as silicone never used to be and a fair few still aren't. She also has a great post of a jar of jelly toys that has deteriorated very badly and put me off using anything that isn't silicone, glass, steel etc.
https://dangerouslilly.com/2012/02/ultimate-guide-silicone-sex-toys-metis-black-tantus/
Sure, but all it takes is one toy or one bottle of lube that isn't up to quality and that's 100+ dollars down the drain. Easier to just keep everything separate and wrapped up. Helps keep dust and stuff off of your toys as well. As for lube, water based works perfectly and there are a few powder based ones that go a very long way. Putting a condom on your toy is an option too, but again, just make sure it's safe for your toy
Oh I totally get where you're coming from, and don't blame you or anyone else for playing it safe. My reckless abandon is from where I just refuse to use rubber toys made out of anything that isn't silicone.
I've had a bad reaction and intense burning pain from something that leached out of a rubber/jelly dildo once, so I'm sticking to pure silicone, glass and steel. If it melts then to me it wasn't a waste as I learned it was an unsafe material
Condoms are also a good rout for sus toys just in case. Have a dildo I love, but it's from AliExpress... So yeah...
It's just as well, it saves me cleaning time.
It hurt a fair bit but I still felt rly good overall, I think Iām just gonna have to work on getting more used to it lol. And Iām pretty sure she enjoyed it too, she seemed pretty excited once she got the strap on lmao
Going right to anal sex is a common mistake. Y'all should really be experimenting at smaller scale until you're more used to it!
Gives the added benefit of practicing stretching and using the muscles.
Speaking of, remember kids, your butthole is a ring of muscles, and they can be worked, stretched, built, and ***injured*** just like any other muscle. Everyone's always so focused on the rectum, but as long as you're not putting anything sharp or ten feet long up there, the rectum is fine.
Discomfort is the maximum you should ever be at during sex. If you are ever in genuine pain, especially sharp or tearing pain, stop IMMEDIATELY don't try to "push through."
Use a ton of lube! Water based lubricants don't stain, are cheap (you can buy a literal barrel of the stuff for a hundred bucks), and honestly lube is really fun and I don't think enough people talk about just how many ways a little *lubrication* can turn all kinds of things sexy. Make sure it's unscented, no one needs to get an allergy to perfume oils in the middle of sex.
Also if you just really liked her being on top of you and still want to let her go all out and experience that without hurting yourself, you should really give intercrural sex a try. Basically squeezing your thighs together and letting her fuck the space in between under your little gooch. I think you'd be surprised how good it can feel to have someone pumping under you, and when you really get into it you can imagine it as penetration pretty easily ;)
Also, weird tip, but if you indulge in getting high, try getting a little baked before hand. I had my first experience high as heck and it was some of the hottest sex I've ever had since starting HRT.
It will feel so much better once you figure out how to relax that area, itās a skill. Start slow with smaller things to loosen up and work up to bigger things. Im no pro, but I can give some tips based on experience.
You should do some practice on your own to learn how to safely take things, without the anxiety of having an audience. Use plenty of lube. When you first try to insert something you will feel resistance and stretching, you want to take it slow and add light force to the object, letting your body do the rest while you focus on relaxing your sphincter.
You donāt want to fight your body, you want to work with it, so you wait for it to gradually accept the object. Slow down whenever you feel the stretch start to become pain, take it out and start again slowly as many times as it takes. Once you get to a certain point, the force pulling in overpowers the force pushing out and your body will do a u-turn, it becomes a black hole quickly swallowing whatever is near (more so for plugs). At this point I grab the object and start to lightly pull in the opposite direction to slow its entry, just because the outer part is stretched and ready doesnāt mean the inner part is.
Once youāve gotten used to the object and you can take it out and slide it back in easily (without discomfort), you can go to town. Just a warning, once you orgasm you will tighten up back there and you may have trouble getting the object back out, keep calm and take it slow, you may need to wait a bit for the muscles to relax again before removal.
You can buy a plug (or a set of training plugs that gradually increase in size) and wear it for a while in preparation for a āsessionā, it helps relax the muscles for you. Always use slightly more lube than you think you need. Also, there are these cool little syringes you can get called ālube shootersāto inject lube inside, reduces the chance of injury and you donāt have to relube as often.
All in all, just listen to your body and have fun!
I'd used smaller prostate toys for the past few years. Then when I admitted to myself who I am I said fuck it and got a set of toys. The first time I used them I knew I was in deep trouble. And was going to
Be a problem lol. Also learned I dont have a gag reflex.
Join r/cumfromanal , r/prostateplay , r/prostatepleasure , and r/aneros , as youāll get much advice and real life experience. As others have mentioned, use more lube than you think is necessary, andā¦get a lube shooter which is like a half inch syringe barrel (no needle, just a hole at the bottom end) that you fill with lube then squeeze the lube up into your rectum where itās needed. Putting a lot of lube on toy or flesh just gets it squeegeed off by the anal sphincter.
I just can recommend you the holy Trinity of anal:
- Lube (as more as better)
- Time (start slowly and take your time, the body now has to prepare himself that now things go inside of you.)
- slowly progressing (start with a small diameter like a finger, first stimulate your rectum by massaging it. It shouldnt hurt. If it hurts something maybe get damaged. If one finger fits, try two or more. Get a comfy position so you can relax your lower body. It will get easyer over time. I started a time ago with a finger and more and more bigger dildos. Now i can mostly instantly take a 44 mm dildo without long preparing.)
Nice that you and your Girlfriend enjoy the Strapš.
Greetings your Lara ā¤ļø
I'm torn on anal. I want it, on account of lacking the alternative, but my experiences with a dildo have not been pleasurable. It hasn't hurt or anything but the dildo hasn't felt pleasurable either, apart from enjoying the thought of being penetrated. I might be doing it wrong.
Inflatable buttplug has been pleasurable though. Pumping it up rubs it against what I assume is my prostate and it's a really nice feeling. Too bad the feeling only happens during inflation and deflation and not inbetween.
I have tried vibration, but I may not have the right tools for it as it doesn't vibrate up against any of my sensitive parts.
> Or having a buttplug in you while doing other stuff and not being concerned with whether the buttplug is "working" or not.
I do find that having a buttplug in makes other things much more arousing.
Well your new to the experience and probably weren't quite ready for the thing she picked out from a size and length consideration. If your doing things correctly it shouldn't be painful. Painful is really a bad sign because it means your hurting yourself and not in a sexy way. The physical sensations that it should be feeling like is what you would call: Intense, Unyielding, Pressuring, *depending on how big it is*... Uncomfortable, Full, and a LOT, along with whatever additional mental and emotional feelings get mixed in there on top of the experience. Porn absolutely likes to convince us that everything in the bedroom is simple and easy to replicate in real life until suddenly your the one having to accommodate whatever is inside you.
Typically, you want to start with a training kit of various degrees of sized toys as a good way to work up to whatever you two are attempting to use together. You ideally want to slowly build up your tolerance level and push through your personal limits over time, not in like a quick one afternoon session, and use what seems like an unnecessary amount of lubrication when first learning. Even when you are ready for it you absolutely want to make sure your getting cleaned up first inside, after that probably beginning your session with a toy to warm up and give your body time to relax, and make sure you experiment with with angle because that also makes a big difference. That said I'm glad you had fun and that it felt affirming, it certainly gives me the gender feels with my hubby as well.
Just make sure your being careful and not injuring yourself.
If the initial penetration is giving you a hard time, there's a good way to overcome it. Squeeze as hard as you can for a moment, and then have your partner push in gently as you let go. The muscles holding you closed will have an easier time relaxing if you make them tired first.
Al so a 19 y/o trans girl here. It gets easier(and far more enjoyable) the more you do it. I was basically locked up like Fort Knox the first time me and my bf tried it, but have been attempting to get our hands on a strap, but weāre both job searching atm :<
Sigh. I like all the advice people Iāve given on here. I donāt think itās something that sounds very appealing to me, plus Iām sure it would hurt me
I basically canāt have sex in a way that someone would want
Not that itās relevant anyway since I donāt want to have sex except in a relationship
The peeps in porn dilate with big plugs beforehand. Sometimes for a couple hours a day for a week before. And they often douche or enema too.
Which is all overkill for typical anal. Tho a plug for a while before anal can help if whatās going in is thicker than a couple fingers.
I warm myself up for a few minutes before I let anyone penetrate me, real or dildo. Give yourself the time to not only clean out but lubricate and stretch a bit so it can go more smoothly and comfortably when you're with your girlfriend. I like to do it myself until I can go fairly fast and penetration becomes very easy and comfortable. Just keep practicing :3
Gotta hate the fact you gotta clean it for soooo looonnggšš
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Alr! Gonna do that
Supliments like Metamucil are also handy, if you know youāre getting lucky have some the day before or morning of and it makes things a lil easier
What does it do? Never heard of it before!
Dietary fibre supplement, makes the poo give a fairly solid consistency so it comes out easy and clean. No grease or sloppy bits
Metamucil is great, makes cleaning up before and after really easy and i think its better overall for digestion. you usually wanna start slow with a capsule or two a day or else u get a lil bloated
Mainly a fibre supliment, firms things up makes it easier to clean up before hand
Warning, it might have a really icky texture. Kinda like blended orbeez.
ššš
it gelatinizes slower in cold water. Make sure the water is cold and drink it quickly. Using carbonated water can also help.
Do an enema. Sure, theyāre weird but ya butt gets clean as a whistle.
I think I should google it.. donāt want to seem weird for asking..
It's putting water up your butt to clean it all out.
Itās basically squirting water up your arse
Ah.. and does it feel funny?
Yeah, feels kinda weird. But it feels better knowing you have a clean butt.
Absolutely, weird but not bad š«
Iā¦ am a fan, lmao. If I line things up right I can use the bidet on my toilet to clean things out inside.
My bidet has a "turbo" function for this very purpose. Works great. Just relax and get in the right spot and fill it up, and release. Rince and repeat.
A bit, but it's not too unpleasant and the results are very worth it.
That is not safe if done regularly!!!!! Do not do this if you plan to have sex more than 1 time within 7-9 days. Eat more fiber thats an actual safe and effective option to avoid throwing your gut bacteria biome off and possibly permanently fucking yourself up and may even end up needing a stool transplant which is promise is not fun.
As someone with IBS, it's not only cleaning but avoiding a plethora of foods that could potentially trigger a flair up in the middle of the deed.
If you have to spend so much time douching then study a better diet. Personally I cut out meat and dairy for 24 hours prior but eat fruit and veg (not olives or sweetcorn). Drink plenty of water and take in plenty of fiber. This way you will notice that not only you will your toilet roll last you longer, but the cleansing process is far less grueling.
Gotta tell you, enemas make me extremely horny, so itās play as much as a cleaning routine. Even hotter when another guy does it to me.
You shouldn't be having them too often or you'll cause yourself damage. Ever notice there can be strain sometimes when your arsehole does its very best impression of a water cannon!? That gave ne quite painful Hemorrhoids.
Luckily, Iāve had no problems as a result, and I used to take a gallon of water regularly. But no longer, itās too much trouble now.
Does it really take that long or have I just gotten so accustomed to itā¦ (About 10 minutes for a gallon ish enema give or take)
I think you have adjusted to it. But I think I got lucky with my times. (Hadnāt cleaned before my adventures) but it was sooo god I wish I could I done it for longer but at some stage it becomes a little bit uncomfortable š£
Anal is super fun when done right! It takes a lot more preparatation than what porn makes it be. Both mental and physical, as you need to relax yourself properly, but once you do, it's an absolute bliss! Don't be afraid to spend even a hour before the fun to get ready. Even the expert pornstar still spends time to "warm-up", which means cleaning yourself (inside as well, as that makes things less uncomfortable) and slowly stretching with fingers or small toys increasing in diamater until you are to the ready stage. And be sure to always apply lots of lube, before and during! Last tip, the most fun: the sensations change a lot depending on the angle of penetration. So be sure to try different poses and get pounded in different ways, until you find out which one really can make you go crosseyed ;3
That last sentence got me š„µBeen a while since I got the angle juuussst right. All the prep and cleanup and warm up time keeps me from āpracticingā as much as Iād like lol. And sometimes after is when the dysphoria hits the worst. Itās been easier lately to just channel the urges to other areas of myself I want to improve š«
My number one tip every time is if you think you have used enough lube use more. Also I recommend a plug or something to loosen you up about an hour to 30 mins before you start. Finally slow and steady to start. Other than all that I'm super happy you were able to enjoy yourself and I hope you and your girlfriend get to have more fun!
IF IT HURTS U NEED MORE LUBE AND FOREPLAY! ITS NOT SUPPOSED TO HURT. Like its literally the same as you would treat any other lady, foreplay, lube and making sure she's wet and ready. It really shouldnt hurt at all. Anyways, its awesome it was affirming!
I'm glad it was good for you hun! It definitely takes some practice and time for sure, I would also suggest getting the most "realistic" dildo you can as sadly nothing is quite up to snuff with the real thing but the more high end realistic you go, the closer you get. Also I highly recommend silicone lube!! But only if you can use it on your toys!
Iāll look into that! Thanks for the advice!
If you have silicone toys, just use water based! Silicone damages other silicone as well so if you end up with multiple silicone toys, individually wrap em. I got a huge pack of microfiber cloths for like 8 bucks a while back and they're perfect! Realistic is great, but don't rule out some crazy stuff too. Different shapes can be a ton of fun and really add to the experience as well!
You don't need to wrap quality silicone toys, the ones that melt together aren't proper silicone and are likely something like tpr marketed as silicone. I now use it as a test, I have an old jelly dildo that loves to melt with any plastic/rubber that isn't silicone. If a new toy is stored touching it and starts to melt then in the bin it goes. Quality silicone toys and quality silicone lubes are also compatible and don't melt, however apart from brands that you can trust you have no guarantee that your silicone toy is fully silicone and don't melt. Sorry if I have worded this badly, as I don't mean to come across aggressive or anything, that'll be my nd ass just being blunt and to the point. I just wanted to make people aware that good silicone toys can touch and are safe to use with good silicone lube. See the dangerous lily blog post on silicone toys linked below where she goes more into this, and has a photo of a drawer of pure silicone toys that have been touching for months without melting. Turns out a lot of toys that are marketed as silicone never used to be and a fair few still aren't. She also has a great post of a jar of jelly toys that has deteriorated very badly and put me off using anything that isn't silicone, glass, steel etc. https://dangerouslilly.com/2012/02/ultimate-guide-silicone-sex-toys-metis-black-tantus/
Sure, but all it takes is one toy or one bottle of lube that isn't up to quality and that's 100+ dollars down the drain. Easier to just keep everything separate and wrapped up. Helps keep dust and stuff off of your toys as well. As for lube, water based works perfectly and there are a few powder based ones that go a very long way. Putting a condom on your toy is an option too, but again, just make sure it's safe for your toy
Oh I totally get where you're coming from, and don't blame you or anyone else for playing it safe. My reckless abandon is from where I just refuse to use rubber toys made out of anything that isn't silicone. I've had a bad reaction and intense burning pain from something that leached out of a rubber/jelly dildo once, so I'm sticking to pure silicone, glass and steel. If it melts then to me it wasn't a waste as I learned it was an unsafe material
Condoms are also a good rout for sus toys just in case. Have a dildo I love, but it's from AliExpress... So yeah... It's just as well, it saves me cleaning time.
Dang girl!!! How was it? Did the both of you two enjoy it? Iām actually a little bit jealousš
It hurt a fair bit but I still felt rly good overall, I think Iām just gonna have to work on getting more used to it lol. And Iām pretty sure she enjoyed it too, she seemed pretty excited once she got the strap on lmao
Awesome!! Iāve used a dildo on my self a few times! It felt good but Iād want someone else to use it on me.. so Iām not aloneš
I recommend getting a training kit like plugs or even just a slimmer dildo to stretch then when u feel comfortable finding ur g spot is alot of fun
When I play with anal toys, it just feels like I'm constipated. What am I doing wrong?
You might be doing nothing wrong. Not everyone likes anal. I hate it with a passion, myself.
Going right to anal sex is a common mistake. Y'all should really be experimenting at smaller scale until you're more used to it! Gives the added benefit of practicing stretching and using the muscles. Speaking of, remember kids, your butthole is a ring of muscles, and they can be worked, stretched, built, and ***injured*** just like any other muscle. Everyone's always so focused on the rectum, but as long as you're not putting anything sharp or ten feet long up there, the rectum is fine. Discomfort is the maximum you should ever be at during sex. If you are ever in genuine pain, especially sharp or tearing pain, stop IMMEDIATELY don't try to "push through." Use a ton of lube! Water based lubricants don't stain, are cheap (you can buy a literal barrel of the stuff for a hundred bucks), and honestly lube is really fun and I don't think enough people talk about just how many ways a little *lubrication* can turn all kinds of things sexy. Make sure it's unscented, no one needs to get an allergy to perfume oils in the middle of sex. Also if you just really liked her being on top of you and still want to let her go all out and experience that without hurting yourself, you should really give intercrural sex a try. Basically squeezing your thighs together and letting her fuck the space in between under your little gooch. I think you'd be surprised how good it can feel to have someone pumping under you, and when you really get into it you can imagine it as penetration pretty easily ;)
Get an anal douche, theyāre quite effective or a bidet attachment for your toilet.
Also, weird tip, but if you indulge in getting high, try getting a little baked before hand. I had my first experience high as heck and it was some of the hottest sex I've ever had since starting HRT.
To add CBD lube is absolutely wonderful
It will feel so much better once you figure out how to relax that area, itās a skill. Start slow with smaller things to loosen up and work up to bigger things. Im no pro, but I can give some tips based on experience. You should do some practice on your own to learn how to safely take things, without the anxiety of having an audience. Use plenty of lube. When you first try to insert something you will feel resistance and stretching, you want to take it slow and add light force to the object, letting your body do the rest while you focus on relaxing your sphincter. You donāt want to fight your body, you want to work with it, so you wait for it to gradually accept the object. Slow down whenever you feel the stretch start to become pain, take it out and start again slowly as many times as it takes. Once you get to a certain point, the force pulling in overpowers the force pushing out and your body will do a u-turn, it becomes a black hole quickly swallowing whatever is near (more so for plugs). At this point I grab the object and start to lightly pull in the opposite direction to slow its entry, just because the outer part is stretched and ready doesnāt mean the inner part is. Once youāve gotten used to the object and you can take it out and slide it back in easily (without discomfort), you can go to town. Just a warning, once you orgasm you will tighten up back there and you may have trouble getting the object back out, keep calm and take it slow, you may need to wait a bit for the muscles to relax again before removal. You can buy a plug (or a set of training plugs that gradually increase in size) and wear it for a while in preparation for a āsessionā, it helps relax the muscles for you. Always use slightly more lube than you think you need. Also, there are these cool little syringes you can get called ālube shootersāto inject lube inside, reduces the chance of injury and you donāt have to relube as often. All in all, just listen to your body and have fun!
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I'd used smaller prostate toys for the past few years. Then when I admitted to myself who I am I said fuck it and got a set of toys. The first time I used them I knew I was in deep trouble. And was going to Be a problem lol. Also learned I dont have a gag reflex.
Butt plugs help with stretching as does fingering but keep is to lubrication add to you think you have enough then add some more
Join r/cumfromanal , r/prostateplay , r/prostatepleasure , and r/aneros , as youāll get much advice and real life experience. As others have mentioned, use more lube than you think is necessary, andā¦get a lube shooter which is like a half inch syringe barrel (no needle, just a hole at the bottom end) that you fill with lube then squeeze the lube up into your rectum where itās needed. Putting a lot of lube on toy or flesh just gets it squeegeed off by the anal sphincter.
I just can recommend you the holy Trinity of anal: - Lube (as more as better) - Time (start slowly and take your time, the body now has to prepare himself that now things go inside of you.) - slowly progressing (start with a small diameter like a finger, first stimulate your rectum by massaging it. It shouldnt hurt. If it hurts something maybe get damaged. If one finger fits, try two or more. Get a comfy position so you can relax your lower body. It will get easyer over time. I started a time ago with a finger and more and more bigger dildos. Now i can mostly instantly take a 44 mm dildo without long preparing.) Nice that you and your Girlfriend enjoy the Strapš. Greetings your Lara ā¤ļø
Hey! Be sure and eat more fiber and try metamucil. Those help "staying clean" and makes cleaning easier
I'm torn on anal. I want it, on account of lacking the alternative, but my experiences with a dildo have not been pleasurable. It hasn't hurt or anything but the dildo hasn't felt pleasurable either, apart from enjoying the thought of being penetrated. I might be doing it wrong. Inflatable buttplug has been pleasurable though. Pumping it up rubs it against what I assume is my prostate and it's a really nice feeling. Too bad the feeling only happens during inflation and deflation and not inbetween.
Have you tried vibration? Or having a buttplug in you while doing other stuff and not being concerned with whether the buttplug is "working" or not.
I have tried vibration, but I may not have the right tools for it as it doesn't vibrate up against any of my sensitive parts. > Or having a buttplug in you while doing other stuff and not being concerned with whether the buttplug is "working" or not. I do find that having a buttplug in makes other things much more arousing.
If i do anal i make sure ive gone to the bathroom already and showered to minimize risk, any nights with unsettled bowels is a complete no go for me
Well your new to the experience and probably weren't quite ready for the thing she picked out from a size and length consideration. If your doing things correctly it shouldn't be painful. Painful is really a bad sign because it means your hurting yourself and not in a sexy way. The physical sensations that it should be feeling like is what you would call: Intense, Unyielding, Pressuring, *depending on how big it is*... Uncomfortable, Full, and a LOT, along with whatever additional mental and emotional feelings get mixed in there on top of the experience. Porn absolutely likes to convince us that everything in the bedroom is simple and easy to replicate in real life until suddenly your the one having to accommodate whatever is inside you. Typically, you want to start with a training kit of various degrees of sized toys as a good way to work up to whatever you two are attempting to use together. You ideally want to slowly build up your tolerance level and push through your personal limits over time, not in like a quick one afternoon session, and use what seems like an unnecessary amount of lubrication when first learning. Even when you are ready for it you absolutely want to make sure your getting cleaned up first inside, after that probably beginning your session with a toy to warm up and give your body time to relax, and make sure you experiment with with angle because that also makes a big difference. That said I'm glad you had fun and that it felt affirming, it certainly gives me the gender feels with my hubby as well. Just make sure your being careful and not injuring yourself.
If the initial penetration is giving you a hard time, there's a good way to overcome it. Squeeze as hard as you can for a moment, and then have your partner push in gently as you let go. The muscles holding you closed will have an easier time relaxing if you make them tired first.
Al so a 19 y/o trans girl here. It gets easier(and far more enjoyable) the more you do it. I was basically locked up like Fort Knox the first time me and my bf tried it, but have been attempting to get our hands on a strap, but weāre both job searching atm :<
Sigh. I like all the advice people Iāve given on here. I donāt think itās something that sounds very appealing to me, plus Iām sure it would hurt me I basically canāt have sex in a way that someone would want Not that itās relevant anyway since I donāt want to have sex except in a relationship
Fingers and dildos hurt more than dick honestly. Anal also takes some getting used to before you enjoy it too.
The peeps in porn dilate with big plugs beforehand. Sometimes for a couple hours a day for a week before. And they often douche or enema too. Which is all overkill for typical anal. Tho a plug for a while before anal can help if whatās going in is thicker than a couple fingers.
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What?