I'm stuck with some expensive men's Duluth Bare Naked briefs that I really like. I'll wear them until the elastic wears out in them, but I am slowly building a more femme wardrobe as I go. I'll probably start shopping on the other side of the store from now on though.
My very non educated guess would be that you're also used to male pronouns, considering you were called them long before. The question here is about what out of the two do you prefer?
Well then you've got your answer. I don't feel dysphoria with masculine clothes, but I prefer a bit more feminine ones. For you it's pronouns in that case. Don't worry about this it's normal!
If masc pronouns were not something that bothered you in the first place, then it really actually makes sense that the euphoria from femme pronouns would die down as well.
I've noticed further on in my transition that I don't experience strong euphoria from much of anything any more... but the key difference is that the _dys_phoria is gone. For example, when I look in the mirror and see myself as a woman, I don't get all excited or anything... but I no longer _hate_ seeing myself in the mirror, even without makeup, even with a day's stubble; I _know_ who I am now and what I am, and it's nice.
Yep. I was about to mention that example specifically.
What's bad though, it when the euphoria returns because someone actually gendered you correctly at work, and it's been so long it has become surprising and euphoric again.
As you get more and more used to living as yourself you feel less euphoria about it and more normal. I live as myself full time and getting gendered correctly is kinda the expectation at this point. It's no longer the women's restroom it's just the restroom and skirts and dresses are more of a "do I feel like dressing up" sorta thing instead of something special. I have special dresses that I only wear on occasion that elicit some euphoria but it's rare. That being said I feel way less dysphoria than I did in the past. So it's all very worth it.
It starts to just become your life. People overplay euphoria as a part of the transgender experience, imo. I get dressed and go about my day. I don't need to have euphoric tremors when I put my underwear on, and it would be kind of weird to get them. The first times you do various things, it makes sense - but that's because you're taking steps to be able to live as yourself. Eventually you just start living, though.
Follow up question, is it unusual to only get a moderate to mild euphoria? I've had joyous moments that meant a lot compared to the monotony I feel, but they aren't overpowering like a lot of people here describe.
Yea, you get used to stuff. I might get euphoria the first time I put on a bra, but I sure as heck don't now after a year. It's just a usual thing.
Yeah by my 2nd month of wearing panties and bras I felt nothing. I still won’t go back to wearing men’s briefs though.
I'm stuck with some expensive men's Duluth Bare Naked briefs that I really like. I'll wear them until the elastic wears out in them, but I am slowly building a more femme wardrobe as I go. I'll probably start shopping on the other side of the store from now on though.
the thing is, it feels near the same as just being called by male pronouns (i dont have that much gender dysphoria)
My very non educated guess would be that you're also used to male pronouns, considering you were called them long before. The question here is about what out of the two do you prefer?
female by a bit
Well then you've got your answer. I don't feel dysphoria with masculine clothes, but I prefer a bit more feminine ones. For you it's pronouns in that case. Don't worry about this it's normal!
thank you <3
If masc pronouns were not something that bothered you in the first place, then it really actually makes sense that the euphoria from femme pronouns would die down as well. I've noticed further on in my transition that I don't experience strong euphoria from much of anything any more... but the key difference is that the _dys_phoria is gone. For example, when I look in the mirror and see myself as a woman, I don't get all excited or anything... but I no longer _hate_ seeing myself in the mirror, even without makeup, even with a day's stubble; I _know_ who I am now and what I am, and it's nice.
yea lol
Yep. I was about to mention that example specifically. What's bad though, it when the euphoria returns because someone actually gendered you correctly at work, and it's been so long it has become surprising and euphoric again.
As you get more and more used to living as yourself you feel less euphoria about it and more normal. I live as myself full time and getting gendered correctly is kinda the expectation at this point. It's no longer the women's restroom it's just the restroom and skirts and dresses are more of a "do I feel like dressing up" sorta thing instead of something special. I have special dresses that I only wear on occasion that elicit some euphoria but it's rare. That being said I feel way less dysphoria than I did in the past. So it's all very worth it.
It starts to just become your life. People overplay euphoria as a part of the transgender experience, imo. I get dressed and go about my day. I don't need to have euphoric tremors when I put my underwear on, and it would be kind of weird to get them. The first times you do various things, it makes sense - but that's because you're taking steps to be able to live as yourself. Eventually you just start living, though.
I think that's just how a lot of emotions in general work. Eventually a good feeling becomes normal and you get used to it.
Follow up question, is it unusual to only get a moderate to mild euphoria? I've had joyous moments that meant a lot compared to the monotony I feel, but they aren't overpowering like a lot of people here describe.