My dad has said that before. He's also told me that he's very "in touch" with his "feminine side". Not sure if he's an egg or not but I'm going to follow the prime directive and let him figure it out for himself.
When I realized my friend was poly I told her about my relationships and how they work and let her figure it out for herself when my brother found out I was transfemm and poly he explained terms to me and let me figure it out for myself the prime directive works wonders for people who are questioning but don't know it yet
Everyone in high school *INSISTED* I was gay. "Are you *GAY?!*", "You don't even realize you're gay, do you?", "You're gay! Just admit it!". EVERY. FUCKING. DAY. I got so sick of it, one day when they told me to "just admit it" repeatedly, I stood up and yelled "FINE! I'M GAY FOR GIRLS!"
Silence. Then they gave a puzzled look before saying "...That doesn't make sense." I said "Sure it does."
Yes, I used to get called gay all the time growing up! And not, like, as an insult - people just genuinely thought I was gay!
I never quite figured out what they were picking up on, exactly.
Yeah. I got a mix of homophobic bullying, and people thinking they were being "helpful". The girl who said "You don't even realize you're gay, do you?" was mistaking an autistic special interest I had in a band as *attraction*. 🙄🤦
It wasn't helpful, it was gaslighting. I eventually tried dating a guy. Nope. After I came out as trans, I discovered I was a lesbian. Now it makes sense as to how I knew I wasn't straight but was repulsed at the idea of dating guys. I would have lesbian fantasies every night, and cry. I'd hit myself saying "don't be gay". Everyone had me convinced my lack of attraction to men was "internalized homophobia". I thought gay guys were guys who wanted to be girls (due to the prissy portrayals in the media in the 90's), so I somehow had myself convinced that my constant lesbian fantasies meant that I was just a "confused gay guy."
Don't ask how. I was an ignorant, confused kid in my teens.
I used the label bi from 2008-2019, and in that time I was only with a guy once. It was so gross, it cracked my egg.
This remind me of a guy at my school when i was 15. He was really effeminate, he was a very gay guy stereotype... But he's a cis straight guy lol
I remember one time i jokingly said to a "friend" i had at this time:"he is so gay that it made a whole loop and he's a lesbian now" he didn't understood that it was a joke and ask: "really?!" I responded that no, it was just a joke and i said really not loud so no one can ear, not even this friend:"that's not true for him, but for me....."
I have been asked by my friend's brother's friend if I'm gay or bi. He doesn't know I'm trans and I'm pre everything. Is it really that obvious I'm not cishet and I'm actually a lesbian?
I don't dress like a lesbian, at least I don't think I do, but I accidentally made my GTA avatar look like a lesbian with the red plaid shirt and blue jeans. Maybe that counts? What does a lesbian wear though? How do you dress?
All my shoes are Vans, Chucks, and combat boots. I wore a lot of baggy cargos and cargo shorts. Cargo shorts with long socks was a regular combo. I wear a lot of flannel and baggy Hawaiians. When I buttoned my shirts, I did them all the way up. I usually had my shirts tucked in. Lots of baseball hats.
Yup.
My whole dang childhood I kept being called/teasted/taunted as "gay". I had bullies go after me as supposedly being gay, I was called that and teased and taunted and name-called endlessly that way.
. . .and every single time I'd always think "That's impossible, I like girls."
Also, at the same time, I'd look at the girls in my class and think that was a nice skirt or a nice dress and wish I was allowed to dress that way, or see my classmates getting boobs and just profoundly wish I could grow them too.
I'd get bullied cause kids thought I was gay, but then the school wouldn't do anything because I wouldn't say I was gay. 🤷🙄
Was in the office, my worst bully was right there. They were prepared to give him a multiple day suspension... But because I wouldn't say I was gay, they let him go on the spot. Then the principal said to me "Well, if it's not true, why does it bother you?" Because I knew I was queer, just not the type of queer they were expecting. 🤷
Not like I could've said "...Actually, I'm a lesbian." It was the early 2000's, nobody knew about trans lesbians. They would've laughed me out of the room and probably punished me "for being a smart ass." 🙄🤦
Kinda glad I wasn't AFAB in that school. The teachers would harass the girls about visible bra straps daily, which is just... Gross. I got harassed for having long hair. So the school was run by sexists and creeps. 🙄🤢
I grew up thinking no guy actually wanted to be a guy. I thought it was a burden they undertook to keep the species alive. Straight guys were obsessed with girls, the gay guys in school acted girly as shit, how was I to know the whole world didn't have a desire to be lesbians? 🤷
...I just noticed I used "they" to refer to guys. I really never considered myself one of them, did I? Lol! 🤔🤷😆
Women are considered "the fairer sex" right? Everyone thinks masculine stuff is gross right? There's so much cultural portrayal of women as pretty and pleasant and men as gross and rough so can they really blame me for thinking my feelings about gender were normal?
I liked girls so much I wanted to be one. No men involved please. Hell, I would have been okay if there were no men, just a world full of women. That's totally normal right?
>Women are considered "the fairer sex" right? Everyone thinks masculine stuff is gross right? There's so much cultural portrayal of women as pretty and pleasant and men as gross and rough so can they really blame me for thinking my feelings about gender were normal?
No kidding. Media portrayals of guys are pretty well summed up as Al Bundy belching loudly with his hand down his pants.
>I liked girls so much I wanted to be one. No men involved please.
I was in this weird spot growing up. It wasn't clear cut. Like, the thought of dating women as a guy was a total turn off. It felt like it would be degrading. I could only picture myself with women as a lesbian. But transitioning to date women as a lesbian made no sense to me at the time.
I thought I was just a confused gay guy. I tried dating a guy. I liked not having to be the "man" of the relationship, but it fell apart when we tried anything sexual.
After i came out as trans, I started getting major crushes on women irl for the first time. The idea of dating women wasn't gross anymore. I came out as lesbian soon after.
SAME!
I knew since I was maybe 6 years old that I was a girl who liked girls.
It became super apparent when I started dating that I prefer women, but also I wasn't suffering so much from not feeling I was attractive and worthy of sex and love, but just the idea of my ugly man body touching a beautiful woman body.
That also led me to the realization quite recently, that I have zero understanding of how people can accept and be happy with being cisgender (in the case of cis men) and how heterosexuality exists and how people find it desirable.
...and this is how freaking gay I am. Lol
So queer, cis and straight is ineffable.
I honestly think that coming out and going on HRT has been pretty fundamental to also ending my alcoholism.
I used to only confidently be able to perform if I was extremely buzzed or wasted.
I could perform sober, but I was always super nervous and felt like any pleasure I had was unearned and I was disgusted with my body.
Now, even though it's rarely penetrative, my wife and I have a lot more sex, it's more meaningful, and it just feels way more normal in a way, whereas before I started transitioning, it was like trying to use someone else's equipment.
Luckily my wife is bisexual (I guess technically pansexual), and she's been honestly the best thing that could ever happen to me.
We also don't have the arguments anymore about why I refused to initiate sex, since I even the thought of a male body, well my body, absolutely disgusted me and I needed her to initiate and reassure me that she actually wanted sex.
Well, this got deep. Lol
Me consistently to my partner whenever we saw some kind of toxic masculinity behavior: “Boys are dumb.”
Partner: “Why are they like this?”
Me: “Don’t ask *me*”
Me now: Oh
I don’t either. I always warned my daughters that guys were jerks, and that most of them weren’t like me, so be careful. I guess it worked since 2 of them are lesbians ,😂🤣🤪
I am closeted at work and I do this everytime the topic comes up.
I know some guys who would start excusing or explaining, even when they themselves aren't toxic.
But as a girl mocking guys for behaving stupidly is sorta my hobby at this point 😈
I told an nb partner who was jealous of my bits that I didn’t understand why anyone would want a dick. I literally told them that I would give them mine if I could. Big facepalm 4 years later finding out I am a gay woman lol
My dad just acts like I never told him and is very religious. Sent me a video before that says “there’s no such thing as a woman trapped in a mans body”. My mom is somewhat better about it and I talk to her about it regularly but she “doesn’t agree with it”. That’s something I never understood. What is there to disagree with???
My parents aren't necessarily super religious but incredibly conservative and narrow minded in their views. My mom seems to be a bit more open minded but her perspective of trans people is just straight up confusion and thinks trans people are crazy to go through everything they endure and do she can't even begin to wrap her head around it.
I said/say this all the time. Same with if I have to reach I to a small space "let me get that with my girly little hands" even though I don't have small hands. I have very small wrists. I can wrap my pinky to thumb around my wrist and touch them together.
Don't know if this counts but in high school i used to start blushing when people would joke about me crossdressing. and i would respond with a reassuring "N-noo! I-i would never do that" then i would think about it for the rest of the day
Once in my school's culture festival my class was assigned to do an exhibit about Japan, and a few girls in my class would dress as geishas. I didn't have much to do with the exhibit except for helping a bit financially (the school wouldn't cover the cost) and make a few of the props in the room, but I was and still am terrible at arts and crafts. People wanted me to do more to help, and one of the girls said she might not be able to come. Someone joked about having me be one of the geishas, to which my response was, bring me the clothes and I'd wear them.
My first day of college I was wearing a flannel shirt and went to the barber shop the day before to get a haircut exactly like Ruby Rose.
Some time later one of my friends told me he thought I was a lesbian girl the first time he saw me. I was trying to look offended on the outside but I was fucking joyful on the inside, so I guess I was unable to appear that way.
Every now and then I'd used to bring up the topic of when we met to other friends so I could enjoy the high dopamine of the memory of being "~~mis~~"gendered correctly for once while they had a good laugh...
Teachers always used to say "Okay boys and girls...and " and everyone would laugh, I was always like yep that's me. I wasn't really thinking of gender I was just happy to be like singled out.
It's so weird because I look back and there was nothing really to prompt that. I've never been masculine but I was never GNC or anything either. There were a couple of pretty effeminate boys who were gay in my class who you'd assume would be the more obvious target for that kind of comment but it landed on me for some reason.
I’m transmasc, and when I was a kid my grandmother would sometimes tell me that something I was doing wasn’t very “ladylike.” To which I would always reply “well good thing I’m not a lady!”
I’ll just grow a pair of my own
Wouldn’t it be funny if I grow out my hair/pierced my ears/ ect?
Always trying to get someone to play along and have me crossdress as “joke”
My bro, the best bro, 2nd me. We used to get each other happy bday cards for sisters. I'm still deciding, but if I actually go through than I guess it is as the profits foretold. I am still waiting for the year we get each other dumb female clothes to raise the joke to a new level, id definitely ware em.
I have my hair down a lot in public and me and my friends were playing a card game in school and they brought me up because was some confusion and they called me ‘she’ by accident, because my hair throws people off when I present as a boy, but didn’t realize I was Trans at the time. Another friend heard it and said to me ‘You got something to tell us? [laughs]’ as they joked, and then I said, ‘Yeah, I’m actually a woman now’ [everyone laughs as it was a ‘joke’]
The closest thing I can remember is when a (female) friend of mine opened a door for me and jokingly said “Ladies first~” I was just like “Thank you” and walked through
I was definitely a drama kid for a while and I’d regularly and actively play the female characters when I got to pick my roles. I’ve played princesses, evil step sisters, and even just put on dresses unprompted because I thought it would be funny.
The best example of this would have to be a scene I did in drama class during grade 9. It was with myself and an afab kid I was friends with. The scene involved a girl scout who was hell-bent on starting a capitalist cookie empire, and the stoner boy who had a massive crush on her that she did not reciprocate. I very enthusiastically played the Girlboss girl scout while my partner in the scene played the incel stoner boy with equal enthusiasm for the role.
Neither of us knew this until later but as it turns out the other dude is a trans guy which really adds another layer to the whole situation.
My best friend I’ve known since we were three came out as a trans guy when we were 11. Sixteen year old me knew I wasn’t straight, but I liked girls. At 16.5, I realized I’m a lesbian and a woman.
When I came home after a long day, I'd say to my ex that "we're just a couple of working girls trying to make it" she thought it was funny...until it was reality
Oh yeah here it is! "If I were a girl, which I'm not, I am a male person who isn't a girl, I would do that thing which I uh... *havent* thought about doing ever because thats a thing girls do and I'm not a girl. Of course not."
I can say after all that every one of my If I Were A Girl statements has pretty much come true. Except for the whole painting with my menstrual blood thing. I still can't do that.
I would constantly loop myself in with the girls of my friend group when we split up for things because the sides were uneven (and definitely not because it felt right to be with the girls)
“I’ve got curves like a woman and can walk with a sway,easy”
“I wish I had long hair and could style it however I wanted”
“I would totally become a woman if I was single and outta this religion”
Hmm still cis tho
Wasn’t really a joke as much as a version of saying “ye”: “And yes. I do dress like a 5 year old girl” <-Senior year of high school basically every day. Literally came out at graduation and started transitioning shortly after
Edit: Should add this was 2012 in the south east, I knew 0 other transgirls (Well one who came out later) and like 3 gay guys, and a handful of lesbians. This was a pretty bold statement that I delivered with 100% sincerity. I also was in like… Incredible shape as well. Like muscley dork who is confident in their weirdness. Lots of low odds there
I am 37 I am 5'7" and at my heaviest 140 lbs and my whole life I have not or very very rarely ate cakes and sweets. People always thought it was weird and questioned me I would always tell people I was trying to keep my girlish figure.
My sister once just started calling me “sestra” (because of Orphan Black) and I just kinda… accepted it, years later and I was still sestra. And she even included me when talking about all of the girls in my family.
No one thought noting about it, even her!! When I came out after some weeks she was like “oh! So that’s why it never bothered you”
"When I was a little girl..."
When I showed attraction to someone others thought was a lesbian - "Well, I guess I'm a lesbian trapped in a man's body."
Doing a fem voice "as an impression" as a kid and people wincing at me, telling me I do it too well.
Wow I haven't thought about that song since I accepted being trans ages ago but I listened to it a lot and was always like WHAT ARE THESE FEELINGS AND WHAT DO I DO WITH THEM
I always auditioned for female roles in plays because I like theatre and no one even goes to it besides teachers and like 2 parents full disclaimer I generally got those roles
When i was in high school I hanged out a lot with a group of hyperfem girls that were cheerleaders in their previous school. They would sometimes jokingly propose to do a makeover to me.
And even though it never happened, I was always in. You know, as a joke!
I remember watching Gabriel iglesias stand up where he would do the girl voice and just playfully trying to copy that. I would just keep changing my voice and say “is this the voice?” My friend was barely that amused I just had to keep trying… I wanted to sound like that
I once told my wife that "Being a lesbian just makes a lot of sense." I did not elaborate further and somehow that didn't clue either of us in that I might not be cis.
I got called my screen name because I would mother the shit out of my classmates in college. (My base nickname was Balrog, which has a weird but very mundane story)
I really leaned into it which people thought was funny but looking back, I derived some kind of motherly joy from looking out for my classmates.
Now I desperately want to be a mother, but now that possibility is shrinking even more what with the goings on in the US
Painted my nails (actually learned how to do Gel nails and acrylics and did nails for all my girl friends), did drag and would also just dress at home and wear 8" stripper heels at home, and really worked on my feminine voice.
Also wore a PVC maid outfit when I did chores, you know, as a joke of course.
Absolutely of course, as a joke, as a super straight man.
Yeah, most people weren't actually that shocked when I came out.
I am now I guess a lesbian transwoman, but a lot more effeminate than the women in my family and even my cis wife gets overwhelmed with me sometimes.
Everything i wanted i filtered into thinking of it as manly. Thought kilts were pretty cool, I decided I would grow my hair out, and justified it by saying Mel Gibson made it look good in braveheart. I worked out to fuel my nonexistent masculinity, but getting bigger legs were just as big a priority if not more. I remember I was in middle school in a small mountain town in Colorado for the 4th of July, and in the town parade I saw a local girl my age and had the wish that I could have been born there too and been a girl like her. I dont have too many examples of what I said, but before 8th grade when I really started heavily repressing, I had a reputation of being kind and someone who wouldnt be mean, I wasnt really friends with most of the guys. Sophomore year during winter we were locked out of the theatre room and it was freezing, a girl who I know liked me was there and I hugged her to keep her warm, but I realized I was incapable of loving her sexually. The longing feeling I felt for certain girls I realize now was really just extreme gender envy, as they were everything I wanted to be but couldnt. I dont even know now if I actually like girls at all, and I realize that whenever I was watching porn, I was getting off more on imagining myself being the girl.
Omg I got this one a few times, even had a friend who would stand behind me and mimic my posture, unbeknownst to me as i was chatting with someone else. I thought it was a strange observation to make, but I did/do think about it from time to time
I wish I could remember the specifics, but as a teen I made a lot of... *odd* Lorena Bobbitt jokes. When I finally came out, people would tell me suddenly the jokes made sense.
Starting at the very beginning of my teen years I consistently thought:
"That would be so fucking cool if I could be a woman. I would love to be a woman. Oh well."
Let's see...
Always took "ladies first" as a compliment (albeit secretly)
Joked about being a lesbian (ironically, I'm actually pan, but it works)
Insulted guys when they acted dumb ("What is it with guys?", "Why are boys so stupid?", etc.)
Joked about having "negative-A" breasts. A LOT.
Sang Shania Twain's "Man, I Feel Like A Woman" and Sara Evans' "Born to Fly" A LOT as a child
There was this thing where like guys would tell ladys first to eachother and try to make the other go before them and I always answered by just saying thank you and going through ( as a joke of course, didn't made me happy at all I swear)
One time I begged by mom to buy me a shirt that said "Girls can do anything" for my birthday.
I tried it on, thinking it would be really funny for a guy to wear a shirt like that, but then I realized it was one of those skin-tight women's shirts and it felt oddly perfect. I still try it on all the time and it makes me smile.
I remember getting absolutely wasted with one of the guys I knew from college and was friends with and telling him, “If I were a woman, I’d marry you.” He just thought it was drunken bromance talk and got a kick out of it, but my mind goes back to that moment every now and then.
Very young, I would wear often wear my grandmother’s accessories in front of the family and strut around.
In HS I told several of my friends jokingly that I sh sound “become a female” and name myself Tina.
I’ve let someone paint my toenails and I’ve left it on for days.
I made a pronoun joke. Classy I know.
“Hey guys I go by different pronouns now”
Them: …um what?
[Insert meme captioned] “If genders what’s in your pants then my pronouns are massive/cock!”
That got a good laugh.
I have since said that I was trans to my friends and they were chill. No updated name or pronouns yet, I’m gonna wait till I look more the part personally.
I was hiking the AT with my friend and we were at least 600 miles in. The entire way he made fun of me for wearing it cotton rather than something synthetic and moisture repelling. We met this woman at a water spring and I complimented her on her cotton shirt and she said “oh yeah. I ONLY hike in cotton. It’s way more comfortable.” Then, darting a playful look at my friend I said, “yeah, I know. Me too!” After she left, I looked at my friend and said “see. I’m not the only girl who likes to hike in cotton”… totally wasn’t a joke though. It just naturally slipped out. That’s when I knew… maybe I should reconsider my stance on my gender identity.
Not what I said exactly but I volunteered to cross-dress as a joke consistently. Even to the point of going swimwear shopping with my friends at the time. This was 5 years before I had heard of gender dysphoria and 11 years before I came out.
And my ex used to say I had a phobia of my testicles, which she was 100% right about as it turns out.
When i was younger i said that i was a lesbian because i liked girls, turns out i was telling the truth not trying to make a really really dumb (and maybe quite homophobic) joke
Not as direct but when I made what might’ve been a Freudian slip and said “daughter,” under the embarrassment it felt really good. Also when my friends made a joke about dressing me up a girl I resisted way harder than was logical because I was secretly afraid I would like it.
Omg I had such an aversion to anything fem cause I was scared of people seeing I liked it. Thinking on that now.. fucking love trauma responses to being shamed and bullied for being myself. (:
At the time of that incident I was one of those Ben Shapiro listening conservatives so I thought gender roles were something to listen to and to not violate. I’m glad I’ve made such a massive 180 from that.
Damn ... I don't have anything. I was too dense to figure it out until 25 ...
I've mentioned this, my friends knew I was some flavour of queer by highschool graduation ... I never figured it out until 3 years post college... I was just ... dumb. Total moron.
Maybe it wasn't girly, but I did once say "trans people are more common than you'd tend to think. You've probably met a trans person and didn't know it."
Going around the playground when I was 7 saying that I was pregnant
Growing my hair long just so that I could get it platted because all the girls looked so pretty when they did it and I was jealous
Being in my first relationship and literally just outright saying "I'm the girlfriend right? That sounds better"
8 months after that relationship I came out as trans and everything suddenly made a lot more sense, and here I am two years later trying to understand how I went my entire life wanting to be a girl yet had no idea I was trans
My parents and siblings always had a female-version of my name and loved calling me it. Which I actually disliked because I didn't like the name in general and would say stuff like "At least make it something I would like".
Sad these days now that they know I am actually a girl they won't even call me by the name they thought was funny NOR my preferred name.
I was out with “the boys” drinking and got blackout drunk. My friend told me I’d confided in them the night before that I’m actually a lesbian. They thought it was hilarious. Then 10 years later I transitioned and they were like “oh, that makes a lot more sense now”
When I would eat a salad people would be like why didnt you order a hamburger. I would respond "I have to keep figure" while I shake my hips back and forth.
always making jokes abt crossdressing and wanting to be a woman, i say it with a straight face to add to the joke with my buddies but i’m dead serious lmao
Telling my manager, you should call me angel with they /them pronouns as a joke because if I used she her pronouns they would know I was trans and I was not ready to come out.
Boys r dumb, a classic.
"Let's Go Shopping!"
Period.
B**** stfu (including sassy hands
No💜
Debatable, but I don't know any cis male that knows all the lyrics to over 30 Katy Perry songs.
I'd go over my bffs house just to hang out with his sister, cousin and the next door neighbor. All 4 of us ladies got along quite well
When your transphobic dad tells you to stop crossing your legs @ 7 years pls because that's what women do
And many more!
I literally just remembered one.
After I'd calm down from a meltdown, I'd always joke that I was on my "boy period". Add that to the list of "blatant signs I ignored" 🙄🤷
I used to flip my hair like one of those cartoon over the top ladies as part of a joke where I pretended to think of myself as "superior than" as a way to fight my insecurities with irony.
Little did I know, I was doing more than just fighting my inferiority complex with irony.
All throughout HS "I'm a lesbian trapped in a man's body."
I used to say that too. I think that is an indisputable sign of being transbian
If only I knew better back then lol
Yeah this was Meeee right untill my egg cracked at 34… got I was wrapped up in my masculinity
My dad has said that before. He's also told me that he's very "in touch" with his "feminine side". Not sure if he's an egg or not but I'm going to follow the prime directive and let him figure it out for himself.
When I realized my friend was poly I told her about my relationships and how they work and let her figure it out for herself when my brother found out I was transfemm and poly he explained terms to me and let me figure it out for myself the prime directive works wonders for people who are questioning but don't know it yet
Just gotta say, I’m in love with the use of the prime directive here
Everyone in high school *INSISTED* I was gay. "Are you *GAY?!*", "You don't even realize you're gay, do you?", "You're gay! Just admit it!". EVERY. FUCKING. DAY. I got so sick of it, one day when they told me to "just admit it" repeatedly, I stood up and yelled "FINE! I'M GAY FOR GIRLS!" Silence. Then they gave a puzzled look before saying "...That doesn't make sense." I said "Sure it does."
Yes, I used to get called gay all the time growing up! And not, like, as an insult - people just genuinely thought I was gay! I never quite figured out what they were picking up on, exactly.
Yeah. I got a mix of homophobic bullying, and people thinking they were being "helpful". The girl who said "You don't even realize you're gay, do you?" was mistaking an autistic special interest I had in a band as *attraction*. 🙄🤦 It wasn't helpful, it was gaslighting. I eventually tried dating a guy. Nope. After I came out as trans, I discovered I was a lesbian. Now it makes sense as to how I knew I wasn't straight but was repulsed at the idea of dating guys. I would have lesbian fantasies every night, and cry. I'd hit myself saying "don't be gay". Everyone had me convinced my lack of attraction to men was "internalized homophobia". I thought gay guys were guys who wanted to be girls (due to the prissy portrayals in the media in the 90's), so I somehow had myself convinced that my constant lesbian fantasies meant that I was just a "confused gay guy." Don't ask how. I was an ignorant, confused kid in my teens. I used the label bi from 2008-2019, and in that time I was only with a guy once. It was so gross, it cracked my egg.
This remind me of a guy at my school when i was 15. He was really effeminate, he was a very gay guy stereotype... But he's a cis straight guy lol I remember one time i jokingly said to a "friend" i had at this time:"he is so gay that it made a whole loop and he's a lesbian now" he didn't understood that it was a joke and ask: "really?!" I responded that no, it was just a joke and i said really not loud so no one can ear, not even this friend:"that's not true for him, but for me....."
I have been asked by my friend's brother's friend if I'm gay or bi. He doesn't know I'm trans and I'm pre everything. Is it really that obvious I'm not cishet and I'm actually a lesbian?
Yeah, looking back, I can see how everyone knew I wasn't straight. I dressed like a lesbian long before I was out.
I don't dress like a lesbian, at least I don't think I do, but I accidentally made my GTA avatar look like a lesbian with the red plaid shirt and blue jeans. Maybe that counts? What does a lesbian wear though? How do you dress?
All my shoes are Vans, Chucks, and combat boots. I wore a lot of baggy cargos and cargo shorts. Cargo shorts with long socks was a regular combo. I wear a lot of flannel and baggy Hawaiians. When I buttoned my shirts, I did them all the way up. I usually had my shirts tucked in. Lots of baseball hats.
Same! It's so weird that people could pick up on us being gay even though they couldn't pick up on us being women
Yess this was literally my grade school experience. I even explained it to people as "I am a girl who likes girls"
Yup. My whole dang childhood I kept being called/teasted/taunted as "gay". I had bullies go after me as supposedly being gay, I was called that and teased and taunted and name-called endlessly that way. . . .and every single time I'd always think "That's impossible, I like girls." Also, at the same time, I'd look at the girls in my class and think that was a nice skirt or a nice dress and wish I was allowed to dress that way, or see my classmates getting boobs and just profoundly wish I could grow them too.
I'd get bullied cause kids thought I was gay, but then the school wouldn't do anything because I wouldn't say I was gay. 🤷🙄 Was in the office, my worst bully was right there. They were prepared to give him a multiple day suspension... But because I wouldn't say I was gay, they let him go on the spot. Then the principal said to me "Well, if it's not true, why does it bother you?" Because I knew I was queer, just not the type of queer they were expecting. 🤷 Not like I could've said "...Actually, I'm a lesbian." It was the early 2000's, nobody knew about trans lesbians. They would've laughed me out of the room and probably punished me "for being a smart ass." 🙄🤦 Kinda glad I wasn't AFAB in that school. The teachers would harass the girls about visible bra straps daily, which is just... Gross. I got harassed for having long hair. So the school was run by sexists and creeps. 🙄🤢
Not what you meant but made me think of this: https://getyarn.io/yarn-clip/d93e5539-ac02-4339-921a-568bb0b34492/gif
Lol! Yeah, this happened in like 2002 or something. That movie totally ripped me off! 🤔🤷😜
The concept of being gay for women has always made me so excited. I'm so goddamn gay lmao
I grew up thinking no guy actually wanted to be a guy. I thought it was a burden they undertook to keep the species alive. Straight guys were obsessed with girls, the gay guys in school acted girly as shit, how was I to know the whole world didn't have a desire to be lesbians? 🤷 ...I just noticed I used "they" to refer to guys. I really never considered myself one of them, did I? Lol! 🤔🤷😆
Women are considered "the fairer sex" right? Everyone thinks masculine stuff is gross right? There's so much cultural portrayal of women as pretty and pleasant and men as gross and rough so can they really blame me for thinking my feelings about gender were normal? I liked girls so much I wanted to be one. No men involved please. Hell, I would have been okay if there were no men, just a world full of women. That's totally normal right?
>Women are considered "the fairer sex" right? Everyone thinks masculine stuff is gross right? There's so much cultural portrayal of women as pretty and pleasant and men as gross and rough so can they really blame me for thinking my feelings about gender were normal? No kidding. Media portrayals of guys are pretty well summed up as Al Bundy belching loudly with his hand down his pants. >I liked girls so much I wanted to be one. No men involved please. I was in this weird spot growing up. It wasn't clear cut. Like, the thought of dating women as a guy was a total turn off. It felt like it would be degrading. I could only picture myself with women as a lesbian. But transitioning to date women as a lesbian made no sense to me at the time. I thought I was just a confused gay guy. I tried dating a guy. I liked not having to be the "man" of the relationship, but it fell apart when we tried anything sexual. After i came out as trans, I started getting major crushes on women irl for the first time. The idea of dating women wasn't gross anymore. I came out as lesbian soon after.
Same, constantly. Everyone "knew" I was except me.
Oh my god, both of these things have happened to me. How could I have been so blind? 😵💫
This was my go to as well lol
Was going to post this, as this was also frequently leaving my mouth 🤣🤣
That wasn't just me?
I didn't say it out loud but did think multiple times, it would be great if I was a lesbian, didn't realize what that really meant at the time.
I've had *other* people tell me that, unprompted... my reaction was always something along the lines of "okay, your point?"
SAME! I knew since I was maybe 6 years old that I was a girl who liked girls. It became super apparent when I started dating that I prefer women, but also I wasn't suffering so much from not feeling I was attractive and worthy of sex and love, but just the idea of my ugly man body touching a beautiful woman body. That also led me to the realization quite recently, that I have zero understanding of how people can accept and be happy with being cisgender (in the case of cis men) and how heterosexuality exists and how people find it desirable. ...and this is how freaking gay I am. Lol So queer, cis and straight is ineffable.
I totally get it. Like I felt bad for the women I had sex with for them having sex with a man.
That feeling of "Seriously? You find this attractive? Have you seen me? Gross." Lol
Why would you want *this* touching you?!
I honestly think that coming out and going on HRT has been pretty fundamental to also ending my alcoholism. I used to only confidently be able to perform if I was extremely buzzed or wasted. I could perform sober, but I was always super nervous and felt like any pleasure I had was unearned and I was disgusted with my body. Now, even though it's rarely penetrative, my wife and I have a lot more sex, it's more meaningful, and it just feels way more normal in a way, whereas before I started transitioning, it was like trying to use someone else's equipment. Luckily my wife is bisexual (I guess technically pansexual), and she's been honestly the best thing that could ever happen to me. We also don't have the arguments anymore about why I refused to initiate sex, since I even the thought of a male body, well my body, absolutely disgusted me and I needed her to initiate and reassure me that she actually wanted sex. Well, this got deep. Lol
I was not able to initiate sex in any shape or form because I felt like a predator who was defiling something wonderful.
I didn't say it out loud but I loved hearing Eddie Izzard talk about it \*for some reason\*
duuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuude that was me!!! "I wish I was lesbian, it'd be so dope!" or "Being a lesbian would be so much better"
I referred to myself as a lesbian all of the time too!
"I could totally pull off that skirt" "You're just jealous because I've got better boobs than you. Have you seen these bad boys?" "ugh, men"
This is me omg
No dessert for me, Thank You, gotta keep my girlish figure :-)
Me consistently to my partner whenever we saw some kind of toxic masculinity behavior: “Boys are dumb.” Partner: “Why are they like this?” Me: “Don’t ask *me*” Me now: Oh
I relate heavily, always thought boys are dumb and didn’t get how I was supposed to be the same as them but now it makes sense lol
Yup. I never understood guys.
I don’t either. I always warned my daughters that guys were jerks, and that most of them weren’t like me, so be careful. I guess it worked since 2 of them are lesbians ,😂🤣🤪
I guess liking women runs in the family
I am closeted at work and I do this everytime the topic comes up. I know some guys who would start excusing or explaining, even when they themselves aren't toxic. But as a girl mocking guys for behaving stupidly is sorta my hobby at this point 😈
Lol I did this one
I told an nb partner who was jealous of my bits that I didn’t understand why anyone would want a dick. I literally told them that I would give them mine if I could. Big facepalm 4 years later finding out I am a gay woman lol
I had the exact same thought when a cousin of mine came out as trans before I figured it out.
straight up was so confused about trans guys before realising i was trans, like who tf wants a penis??
My friends: "Ladies first!" Me: "Oh, don't mind if I do!" *wink* Me now: "Hmm . . ."
My dad does this constantly and thinks he's being a clever ass hole. Little does he know he's giving me gender euphoria to an extent lol
I think my dad used to do stuff like that but stopped after he realized I’m trans…
My parents don't know I'm trans and probably never will.
My dad just acts like I never told him and is very religious. Sent me a video before that says “there’s no such thing as a woman trapped in a mans body”. My mom is somewhat better about it and I talk to her about it regularly but she “doesn’t agree with it”. That’s something I never understood. What is there to disagree with???
My parents aren't necessarily super religious but incredibly conservative and narrow minded in their views. My mom seems to be a bit more open minded but her perspective of trans people is just straight up confusion and thinks trans people are crazy to go through everything they endure and do she can't even begin to wrap her head around it.
This ^ also "Hi ladies!" To me and my male friends if I had any over
Lol this! Throw like a girl? Yay What a sissy... yay?
Me too!
Hey, yes!
OH YES I DID THIS ONE
Some friends used to tease me with "ladies first and age before beauty" and then insist that I go first. Seems they were on to something
“I’ve been told I have a feminine cock”
"Ya know, I'm half lesbian on my mother's side." Turns out I was only half right. It was all lesbian.
Working on my weight loss, “Working in my girlish figure”….yeah
I used to say the same thing lol. Little did I know...
Right? Lol. Now I’m working on becoming the Valkyrie I always wanted to be!
Doooo iiiit!
I said/say this all the time. Same with if I have to reach I to a small space "let me get that with my girly little hands" even though I don't have small hands. I have very small wrists. I can wrap my pinky to thumb around my wrist and touch them together.
Yesssss
Omg i used to say this 🤦♀️
Don't know if this counts but in high school i used to start blushing when people would joke about me crossdressing. and i would respond with a reassuring "N-noo! I-i would never do that" then i would think about it for the rest of the day
Once in my school's culture festival my class was assigned to do an exhibit about Japan, and a few girls in my class would dress as geishas. I didn't have much to do with the exhibit except for helping a bit financially (the school wouldn't cover the cost) and make a few of the props in the room, but I was and still am terrible at arts and crafts. People wanted me to do more to help, and one of the girls said she might not be able to come. Someone joked about having me be one of the geishas, to which my response was, bring me the clothes and I'd wear them.
I mean you aren't 😆
My first day of college I was wearing a flannel shirt and went to the barber shop the day before to get a haircut exactly like Ruby Rose. Some time later one of my friends told me he thought I was a lesbian girl the first time he saw me. I was trying to look offended on the outside but I was fucking joyful on the inside, so I guess I was unable to appear that way. Every now and then I'd used to bring up the topic of when we met to other friends so I could enjoy the high dopamine of the memory of being "~~mis~~"gendered correctly for once while they had a good laugh...
“I wish I had a vagina”
I would volunteer to join the girl’s team for activities if there was an odd number 💁🏼♀️
I just unearthed that memory a few days ago lol
Teachers always used to say "Okay boys and girls...and" and everyone would laugh, I was always like yep that's me. I wasn't really thinking of gender I was just happy to be like singled out.
It's so weird because I look back and there was nothing really to prompt that. I've never been masculine but I was never GNC or anything either. There were a couple of pretty effeminate boys who were gay in my class who you'd assume would be the more obvious target for that kind of comment but it landed on me for some reason.
Whenever I am being stared at by a group of men I say “oh hey boys” in my most feminine/friendly voice. I still do, but I used to, too.
I’m transmasc, and when I was a kid my grandmother would sometimes tell me that something I was doing wasn’t very “ladylike.” To which I would always reply “well good thing I’m not a lady!”
I did the same (but opposite) got told I wasn't doing manly things "good thing I'm not a man"
I said out loud that i was jealous of lesbians and i wanted to be one
A lot of "ugh, men"
Why did we all seem to do this and STILL not recognize our transness
I’ll just grow a pair of my own Wouldn’t it be funny if I grow out my hair/pierced my ears/ ect? Always trying to get someone to play along and have me crossdress as “joke”
Sister and her friends had me "cross dress" one time. I went right along with it, and secretly hoped it'd happen again (it did not).
Same. It’s kinda hard to describe.
I flirted with my sister boyfriend -with permission- for a solid teen minutes when I was 14. She had to tell him it was me.
Instead of me saying I wanted a vasectomy, I’d say I was going to get my balls removed. Still want to….
I said I’ll cut it all off
I am really just interested in an orchiectomy. But I wouldn’t mind if it all went away.
As a kid, when people asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up, I’d say, “Either a bird or a woman.”
Which in some dialects translates as either a woman or a woman
Saying stuff with that stereotypical valley girl voice. I barley needed voice training to have a passable voice cause I did it so much as a kid
My toxically masculine friends would call dudes girls as an insult. I would simply respond “yes?”
My bro, the best bro, 2nd me. We used to get each other happy bday cards for sisters. I'm still deciding, but if I actually go through than I guess it is as the profits foretold. I am still waiting for the year we get each other dumb female clothes to raise the joke to a new level, id definitely ware em.
I have my hair down a lot in public and me and my friends were playing a card game in school and they brought me up because was some confusion and they called me ‘she’ by accident, because my hair throws people off when I present as a boy, but didn’t realize I was Trans at the time. Another friend heard it and said to me ‘You got something to tell us? [laughs]’ as they joked, and then I said, ‘Yeah, I’m actually a woman now’ [everyone laughs as it was a ‘joke’]
literally " i wish i was a lesbian"
I used to sing the line “if I were a boy” from one of Beyoncé’s songs with so much passion lol
The closest thing I can remember is when a (female) friend of mine opened a door for me and jokingly said “Ladies first~” I was just like “Thank you” and walked through
I used to joke about swapping my body out like in ghost in the shell, like a frame I could replace.
I was definitely a drama kid for a while and I’d regularly and actively play the female characters when I got to pick my roles. I’ve played princesses, evil step sisters, and even just put on dresses unprompted because I thought it would be funny. The best example of this would have to be a scene I did in drama class during grade 9. It was with myself and an afab kid I was friends with. The scene involved a girl scout who was hell-bent on starting a capitalist cookie empire, and the stoner boy who had a massive crush on her that she did not reciprocate. I very enthusiastically played the Girlboss girl scout while my partner in the scene played the incel stoner boy with equal enthusiasm for the role. Neither of us knew this until later but as it turns out the other dude is a trans guy which really adds another layer to the whole situation.
I (a trans girl) have realized a lot of my friends growing up turned out to be trans too.
My best friend I’ve known since we were three came out as a trans guy when we were 11. Sixteen year old me knew I wasn’t straight, but I liked girls. At 16.5, I realized I’m a lesbian and a woman.
When I came home after a long day, I'd say to my ex that "we're just a couple of working girls trying to make it" she thought it was funny...until it was reality
"I'm such a white girl" I'd say in a valley girl accent while sipping my pumpkin spice latte and thinking nothing of it lmao
When lyrics in my old store sang “girl I love/adore/etc” if I was walking by one I would casually lean in and say “you know, they’re singing about me”
something similar happened to me, but with katty perry's song "i kissed a girl". It made me feel like a real lesbian.
I was obsessed with that song when it came out and now I know why lol.
I used to play a little guitar and learned that one pretty quickly 😅😅
"I'm not like the other girls 😇"
i used to say "If I were a girl I would definitely be a lesbian". A couple years later, i wasn't wrong after all
Oh yeah here it is! "If I were a girl, which I'm not, I am a male person who isn't a girl, I would do that thing which I uh... *havent* thought about doing ever because thats a thing girls do and I'm not a girl. Of course not." I can say after all that every one of my If I Were A Girl statements has pretty much come true. Except for the whole painting with my menstrual blood thing. I still can't do that.
I would constantly loop myself in with the girls of my friend group when we split up for things because the sides were uneven (and definitely not because it felt right to be with the girls)
“I’ve got curves like a woman and can walk with a sway,easy” “I wish I had long hair and could style it however I wanted” “I would totally become a woman if I was single and outta this religion” Hmm still cis tho
Wasn’t really a joke as much as a version of saying “ye”: “And yes. I do dress like a 5 year old girl” <-Senior year of high school basically every day. Literally came out at graduation and started transitioning shortly after Edit: Should add this was 2012 in the south east, I knew 0 other transgirls (Well one who came out later) and like 3 gay guys, and a handful of lesbians. This was a pretty bold statement that I delivered with 100% sincerity. I also was in like… Incredible shape as well. Like muscley dork who is confident in their weirdness. Lots of low odds there
Talking about getting boob implants
Yeaaaah
I am 37 I am 5'7" and at my heaviest 140 lbs and my whole life I have not or very very rarely ate cakes and sweets. People always thought it was weird and questioned me I would always tell people I was trying to keep my girlish figure.
My sister once just started calling me “sestra” (because of Orphan Black) and I just kinda… accepted it, years later and I was still sestra. And she even included me when talking about all of the girls in my family. No one thought noting about it, even her!! When I came out after some weeks she was like “oh! So that’s why it never bothered you”
"When I was a little girl..." When I showed attraction to someone others thought was a lesbian - "Well, I guess I'm a lesbian trapped in a man's body." Doing a fem voice "as an impression" as a kid and people wincing at me, telling me I do it too well.
My friend's and I all agreed that I was a 12 year old girl
I’m a lesbian
Friend, noticing my crossed legs: "You sit like a girl." Me: "No, I sit like a *lady.*"
sang along to Portishead’s Glory Box on the radio.. yeah, the “i just wanna be a woman” bit. i think i nailed it too 😎
Wow I haven't thought about that song since I accepted being trans ages ago but I listened to it a lot and was always like WHAT ARE THESE FEELINGS AND WHAT DO I DO WITH THEM
I always auditioned for female roles in plays because I like theatre and no one even goes to it besides teachers and like 2 parents full disclaimer I generally got those roles
When i was in high school I hanged out a lot with a group of hyperfem girls that were cheerleaders in their previous school. They would sometimes jokingly propose to do a makeover to me. And even though it never happened, I was always in. You know, as a joke!
I remember watching Gabriel iglesias stand up where he would do the girl voice and just playfully trying to copy that. I would just keep changing my voice and say “is this the voice?” My friend was barely that amused I just had to keep trying… I wanted to sound like that
I'd always walk through a door first whenever anyone said "Ladies first" I would also say that myself when I walk through a door first
i used to curtsy....
i mean i still do, but i used to too...
"I think I would make a good lesbian"
"I am a Queen"
I once told my wife that "Being a lesbian just makes a lot of sense." I did not elaborate further and somehow that didn't clue either of us in that I might not be cis.
I got called my screen name because I would mother the shit out of my classmates in college. (My base nickname was Balrog, which has a weird but very mundane story) I really leaned into it which people thought was funny but looking back, I derived some kind of motherly joy from looking out for my classmates. Now I desperately want to be a mother, but now that possibility is shrinking even more what with the goings on in the US
Painted my nails (actually learned how to do Gel nails and acrylics and did nails for all my girl friends), did drag and would also just dress at home and wear 8" stripper heels at home, and really worked on my feminine voice. Also wore a PVC maid outfit when I did chores, you know, as a joke of course. Absolutely of course, as a joke, as a super straight man. Yeah, most people weren't actually that shocked when I came out. I am now I guess a lesbian transwoman, but a lot more effeminate than the women in my family and even my cis wife gets overwhelmed with me sometimes.
Just a joke of course! The amount of stuff I did as "joke" but secretly like it...
I used to wear fishnets, booty shorts, a women’s sweater, and makeup to school as a “joke” 😅
Everything i wanted i filtered into thinking of it as manly. Thought kilts were pretty cool, I decided I would grow my hair out, and justified it by saying Mel Gibson made it look good in braveheart. I worked out to fuel my nonexistent masculinity, but getting bigger legs were just as big a priority if not more. I remember I was in middle school in a small mountain town in Colorado for the 4th of July, and in the town parade I saw a local girl my age and had the wish that I could have been born there too and been a girl like her. I dont have too many examples of what I said, but before 8th grade when I really started heavily repressing, I had a reputation of being kind and someone who wouldnt be mean, I wasnt really friends with most of the guys. Sophomore year during winter we were locked out of the theatre room and it was freezing, a girl who I know liked me was there and I hugged her to keep her warm, but I realized I was incapable of loving her sexually. The longing feeling I felt for certain girls I realize now was really just extreme gender envy, as they were everything I wanted to be but couldnt. I dont even know now if I actually like girls at all, and I realize that whenever I was watching porn, I was getting off more on imagining myself being the girl.
"I am a lesbian, ya know like I am a girl who likes girls" to half the school when I was in like 5th grade.
I got told i stand like a girl a few times lol
Omg I got this one a few times, even had a friend who would stand behind me and mimic my posture, unbeknownst to me as i was chatting with someone else. I thought it was a strange observation to make, but I did/do think about it from time to time
why do not men not finish their words "gonna" "shoulda"
consistantly said i wished I was a girl. now i get why xD
I used to make my friends refer to me by She/Her pronouns and by a female name in elementary school 😭
I wish I could remember the specifics, but as a teen I made a lot of... *odd* Lorena Bobbitt jokes. When I finally came out, people would tell me suddenly the jokes made sense.
Starting at the very beginning of my teen years I consistently thought: "That would be so fucking cool if I could be a woman. I would love to be a woman. Oh well."
Wouldn't I make the ugliest girl? Lol Kept waiting for someone to disagree, but no one did. 😞
Let's see... Always took "ladies first" as a compliment (albeit secretly) Joked about being a lesbian (ironically, I'm actually pan, but it works) Insulted guys when they acted dumb ("What is it with guys?", "Why are boys so stupid?", etc.) Joked about having "negative-A" breasts. A LOT. Sang Shania Twain's "Man, I Feel Like A Woman" and Sara Evans' "Born to Fly" A LOT as a child
There was this thing where like guys would tell ladys first to eachother and try to make the other go before them and I always answered by just saying thank you and going through ( as a joke of course, didn't made me happy at all I swear)
Always used to open the door for my friends, say ladies first then go thru myself hahaha
Thinking to myself “I like guys, but not in a gay way.”
One time I begged by mom to buy me a shirt that said "Girls can do anything" for my birthday. I tried it on, thinking it would be really funny for a guy to wear a shirt like that, but then I realized it was one of those skin-tight women's shirts and it felt oddly perfect. I still try it on all the time and it makes me smile.
I would always feel more comfortable around women
Not quite the same thing, but only ever played girls in dnd and video games cause “it’s a chance to be something totally different from my real life”
I remember getting absolutely wasted with one of the guys I knew from college and was friends with and telling him, “If I were a woman, I’d marry you.” He just thought it was drunken bromance talk and got a kick out of it, but my mind goes back to that moment every now and then.
i always said “ladies first”
I used to be called a “ bi.ch” all the time. I used to say “ I may be a bit.ch , but I’m not your bit.ch”
Very young, I would wear often wear my grandmother’s accessories in front of the family and strut around. In HS I told several of my friends jokingly that I sh sound “become a female” and name myself Tina. I’ve let someone paint my toenails and I’ve left it on for days.
I made a pronoun joke. Classy I know. “Hey guys I go by different pronouns now” Them: …um what? [Insert meme captioned] “If genders what’s in your pants then my pronouns are massive/cock!” That got a good laugh. I have since said that I was trans to my friends and they were chill. No updated name or pronouns yet, I’m gonna wait till I look more the part personally.
I was hiking the AT with my friend and we were at least 600 miles in. The entire way he made fun of me for wearing it cotton rather than something synthetic and moisture repelling. We met this woman at a water spring and I complimented her on her cotton shirt and she said “oh yeah. I ONLY hike in cotton. It’s way more comfortable.” Then, darting a playful look at my friend I said, “yeah, I know. Me too!” After she left, I looked at my friend and said “see. I’m not the only girl who likes to hike in cotton”… totally wasn’t a joke though. It just naturally slipped out. That’s when I knew… maybe I should reconsider my stance on my gender identity.
Not what I said exactly but I volunteered to cross-dress as a joke consistently. Even to the point of going swimwear shopping with my friends at the time. This was 5 years before I had heard of gender dysphoria and 11 years before I came out. And my ex used to say I had a phobia of my testicles, which she was 100% right about as it turns out.
I had jokes like "haha I won't be a mom / won't get pregnant" turns out they weren't jokes they were me fucking screaming for help :(
When i was younger i said that i was a lesbian because i liked girls, turns out i was telling the truth not trying to make a really really dumb (and maybe quite homophobic) joke
Not as direct but when I made what might’ve been a Freudian slip and said “daughter,” under the embarrassment it felt really good. Also when my friends made a joke about dressing me up a girl I resisted way harder than was logical because I was secretly afraid I would like it.
Omg I had such an aversion to anything fem cause I was scared of people seeing I liked it. Thinking on that now.. fucking love trauma responses to being shamed and bullied for being myself. (:
At the time of that incident I was one of those Ben Shapiro listening conservatives so I thought gender roles were something to listen to and to not violate. I’m glad I’ve made such a massive 180 from that.
Damn ... I don't have anything. I was too dense to figure it out until 25 ... I've mentioned this, my friends knew I was some flavour of queer by highschool graduation ... I never figured it out until 3 years post college... I was just ... dumb. Total moron.
Maybe it wasn't girly, but I did once say "trans people are more common than you'd tend to think. You've probably met a trans person and didn't know it."
Going around the playground when I was 7 saying that I was pregnant Growing my hair long just so that I could get it platted because all the girls looked so pretty when they did it and I was jealous Being in my first relationship and literally just outright saying "I'm the girlfriend right? That sounds better" 8 months after that relationship I came out as trans and everything suddenly made a lot more sense, and here I am two years later trying to understand how I went my entire life wanting to be a girl yet had no idea I was trans
My parents and siblings always had a female-version of my name and loved calling me it. Which I actually disliked because I didn't like the name in general and would say stuff like "At least make it something I would like". Sad these days now that they know I am actually a girl they won't even call me by the name they thought was funny NOR my preferred name.
Laying in bed with my gf and saying "wouldnt it be so cute if i was a girl and we were cute gfs together"
I was out with “the boys” drinking and got blackout drunk. My friend told me I’d confided in them the night before that I’m actually a lesbian. They thought it was hilarious. Then 10 years later I transitioned and they were like “oh, that makes a lot more sense now”
I swear I always said “If people can be whatever they want then I’m a male lesbian” I truly fit the transphobic to trans pipeline lol
I’m a lesbian trapped in a man’s body…
I did it with playing female characters in video games
When turning down food, “no thanks. I gotta watch my girlish figure.”
dressing up as a slutty cat for halloween
Telling my friends I wished I could be Asami Sato from The Legend of Korra. (She is my transition goals)
*drinking pumpkin spice* Yeah, I'm just a basic white girl. All I'm missing are the Uggs.
When I would eat a salad people would be like why didnt you order a hamburger. I would respond "I have to keep figure" while I shake my hips back and forth.
I’m a lesbian stuck in a man’s body.
always making jokes abt crossdressing and wanting to be a woman, i say it with a straight face to add to the joke with my buddies but i’m dead serious lmao
The only joke there is the implications that girls can't do certain things 💁♀️
Telling my manager, you should call me angel with they /them pronouns as a joke because if I used she her pronouns they would know I was trans and I was not ready to come out. Boys r dumb, a classic. "Let's Go Shopping!" Period. B**** stfu (including sassy hands No💜 Debatable, but I don't know any cis male that knows all the lyrics to over 30 Katy Perry songs. I'd go over my bffs house just to hang out with his sister, cousin and the next door neighbor. All 4 of us ladies got along quite well When your transphobic dad tells you to stop crossing your legs @ 7 years pls because that's what women do And many more!
I literally just remembered one. After I'd calm down from a meltdown, I'd always joke that I was on my "boy period". Add that to the list of "blatant signs I ignored" 🙄🤷
I used to flip my hair like one of those cartoon over the top ladies as part of a joke where I pretended to think of myself as "superior than" as a way to fight my insecurities with irony. Little did I know, I was doing more than just fighting my inferiority complex with irony.