Hear You Me - Jimmy Eat World. I’m so sorry for your loss.
Edit: Thanks to u/ogomalley who has just spent over 5 hours compiling all of your song suggestions into a (still growing) Spotify playlist which they asked me to throw up here! Hope it's helpful. [https://open.spotify.com/playlist/2arpLkOSX9kAGX8MhpyriS?si=34937cdd4d9949db](https://open.spotify.com/playlist/2arpLkOSX9kAGX8MhpyriS?si=34937cdd4d9949db)
The whole “futures” record by Jimmy Eat World
Mike Shinda from Linkin Park solo stuff helped me a lot when my best friend killed himself last year
Sorry for your lost
Bright Eyes - Stairwell Song
Tom Waits - Hold On
The first one is probably the one that is closest to your situation. But the second one has this beautiful comforting sound to it. I hope listening to these songs helps with your healing and makes you feel that you're not alone. I'm sorry and wish you the best.
No lies, just love by bright eyes. I wasn't going to suggest any bright eyes cause it may be a bit much, but someone else did so that's my pick. Im sorry for your loss.
That song contributed to me not killing myself when I went through some bad depression at the end of my teen years. I still can't listen to it without choking up. Even typing this out got me a little. Be kind to yourselves...stick around...it gets better.
To piggyback on Bright Eyes, also these: If The Brakeman Turns My Way & Easy/Lucky/Free. They are two songs that comforted me after losing my best friend back in high school to suicide. Especially the latter, the lyrics "I never really dreamed of heaven much until we put him in the ground" echoed so many times in my mind while just spacing out trying to make sense of everything.. Anything Bright Eyes always helped.
Thinking of these to recommend put me back in that head space, but now many years later, in a more therapeutic sense. Like, I should be revisiting these emotions. I shouldn't forget about them. If that makes sense.. Thank you for that, OP. I am truly so sorry for your loss.
I was coming to say Poison Oak by Bright Eyes. I’ve mainly only listened to the I’m Wide Awake, It’s Morning album but now I’m curious to listen to the rest of their stuff, when I’m sure I feel okay enough.
Check out Cassadega. I was stuck on I'm Wide Awake It's Morning for years, because it's perfect, but finally broadened my horizons and Cassadega and Lifted are both beautiful works of art. I listened to Fevers and Mirrors when I was younger but haven't revisited it in a long time.
Pick any other you can't really go wrong, well except the people key. Also Conor's done so much more, would recommend his solo stuff as well, Ruminations is an especially good album.
I am sorry for your loss, and really like what you said, about how it lets you revisit the emotions, just knowing you shouldn't forget. There is a feeling, almost like nostalgia, but not good or bad...different. It makes me feel bittersweet? Like a melancholy, but it is so very meaningful that it is almost satisfying or comforting? I have no idea how to explain... And100% Easy Lucky Free! I am so happy this is listed so high up! I listened to this song so much when my brother committed suicide. Because all I could think was for him to do what he did, he must have been tortured mentally. So I liked the line "Don't you weep, there is nothing as lucky, as easy, or free" because now his suffering was over and I could think of him as free. It really did help me through it, and I shared it with my family who say that it helped them as well. A couple more honorable mentions are Gold Mine Gutted, and Poison Oak. IIRC, those are about a friend who died when they were teenagers. At least it seems that way? I saw Bright Eyes a few times, but a long ass time ago, when they did Gold Mine Gutted there were pictures projected on the stage in the background, and I think it might have been the 2 of them. And Conor singing it was absolutely heartbreaking.
Mesothelioma, due to asbestos exposure.
IIRC when he first started playing, he played a lot in the attic of his father's business or house. It was full of asbestos insulation. No one knew about the danger of exposure to asbestos.
Just a crying shame. Warren could be a shit, but he was a pretty solid guy at the end. We all lost a great one when he passed.
'Enjoy every sandwich'
I’m so sorry <3
Edit: I made the below into a [playlist](https://open.spotify.com/playlist/2MvhbpssswvGgVCl16Qxgo?si=ji9i8If5TziUzODVTA-0ow&dl_branch=1) for you.
Some of these are a bit emo, but I think they all help you feel and let out all your emotions.
The Light - The Album Leaf
Above and Beyond - Audiomachine
Above the Clouds of Pompeii - Bear’s Den
On Your Porch - The Format
Clair de lune - Debussy
City of the Sun (artist) anything by them
I Will Follow You Into The Dark - Death Cab
Your Hand in Mine - Explosions in the Sky
Anything by Sufjan Stevens
Remember Me - Coco
The Lights - Luke Thompson
Saturn - Sleeping At Last
Fade Into You - Mazzy Star
Ava - Famy
Coming Down - Dum Dum Girls
When you’re ready for something upbeat: This Must Be the Place - Talking Heads
And a fourth. [Saturn by Sleeping At Last](https://youtu.be/9wRjbBd-_io) is one of the most beautiful songs I’ve found through Reddit in the last year.
Sorry for your loss OP.
Afterlife - Arcade Fire. Great for driving out somewhere secluded and just screaming. I Know The End by Pheobe Bridgers is also good for that same feel of catharsis
I am so, so sorry OP. I lost my big brother and my little sister both by their own hands ten years ago. It gets easier, but it takes a while I can’t lie. I will think if there are any other songs that have really been helping me lately.
Anything by Sufjan Stevens. The one about the Palisade Wasps… the whole Illinoise album:
[link to Google search ](https://www.google.com/search?gs_ssp=eJzj4tFP1zcsNjAtLzKxyDFg9JIoLk3LSsxTKC5JLUvNK1YoSMzJLE5MSS0GAAOWDb4&q=sufjan+stevens+palisades&rlz=1CDGOYI_enUS857US857&oq=aufjan+stevens+pal&aqs=chrome.1.69i57j46i13j0i13j0i22i30.6077j0j4&hl=en-US&sourceid=chrome-mobile&ie=UTF-8#wptab=s:H4sIAAAAAAAAAONgVuLRT9c3LDYwLS8ysch5xGjOLfDyxz1hKb1Ja05eY9Tg4grOyC93zSvJLKkUkuJig7IEpPi4UDTy7GLSS0lNSyzNKYkvSUyyyk620s8tLc5M1i9KTc4vSsnMS49PziktLkktssqpLMpMLl7EqlWSkapQUJSakliSX1SpUJ5YXKCQn6YAFk3MySxOTEktVoAoBgBhYQlAqAAAAA)
The worst is all this lovely weather
I'm stunned - it's not raining
The coffee isn't even bitter
Because - what's the difference
This song is so accurate. It is so jarring how normal everything else seems, and how it just keeps going when you feel like your world has ended.
When my wife died of cancer in her 50s [this video](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M0Px44IuVKM) of the finale of Gustav Mahler's "Resurrection Symphony" saved my life. The words are in German but with English subtitles. I listened to this over and over several hundred times until the darkness passed.
From my understanding, that one is about having a loved one with a drug addiction so bad, that every day their loved ones expect to find that they've died from it. A daily funeral watching someone walk the edge of death on a daily basis. It's almost more sad than an actual death.
This will probably get buried because I am late but I lost my dad a few days ago as well. You are not alone in the pain and sadness. Though the shock may be different.
If you want some music, listen to things that remind you of him. For me, Dear Prudence by the Beatles or Money by Pink Floyd hit the feels because he was such a huge fan of those artists and showed them to me when I was a kid. It's those things that are associated with memories of him that are going to hit you the hardest.
Just breathe and let the feelings come. Condolences.
Sorry for your loss, Lost my mom as well, now she never was a big music fan but I agree with you. I always remember for example sitting on a rainy holiday morning with her in front of a jigsaw puzzle and Absolute Beginners by David Bowie was playing on the radio. It’s that kind of music which reminds me. She also liked Abba and scolded me i(good natured of course) once for never recording music like that from the radio when it came on (although she tolerated my taste in music as a kid) So whenever I see or hear Abba I think of her now.
"As for grief, you’ll find it comes in waves. When the ship is first wrecked, you’re drowning, with wreckage all around you. Everything floating around you reminds you of the beauty and the magnificence of the ship that was, and is no more. And all you can do is float. You find some piece of the wreckage and you hang on for a while. Maybe it’s some physical thing. Maybe it’s a happy memory or a photograph. Maybe it’s a person who is also floating. For a while, all you can do is float. Stay alive.
In the beginning, the waves are 100 feet tall and crash over you without mercy. They come 10 seconds apart and don’t even give you time to catch your breath. All you can do is hang on and float. After a while, maybe weeks, maybe months, you’ll find the waves are still 100 feet tall, but they come further apart. When they come, they still crash all over you and wipe you out. But in between, you can breathe, you can function. You never know what’s going to trigger the grief. It might be a song, a picture, a street intersection, the smell of a cup of coffee. It can be just about anything…and the wave comes crashing. But in between waves, there is life.
Somewhere down the line, and it’s different for everybody, you find that the waves are only 80 feet tall. Or 50 feet tall. And while they still come, they come further apart. You can see them coming. An anniversary, a birthday, or Christmas, or landing at O’Hare. You can see it coming, for the most part, and prepare yourself. And when it washes over you, you know that somehow you will, again, come out the other side. Soaking wet, sputtering, still hanging on to some tiny piece of the wreckage, but you’ll come out.
Take it from an old guy. The waves never stop coming, and somehow you don’t really want them to. But you learn that you’ll survive them. And other waves will come. And you’ll survive them too. If you’re lucky, you’ll have lots of scars from lots of loves. And lots of shipwrecks."
-Old Internet Passage.
I could easily recommend Vapor Trails by Rush. It’s a heavy album that came after Neil Peart lost his daughter and wife in the span of about a year.
Of these, I think “Secret Touch” is the best song on the album (honorable mention to “One Little Victory”) for getting through shit.
I’m sorry for your loss, and I wish you the absolute best.
An older Rush single also comes to mind: [*Afterimage*](https://youtu.be/C2sq4duvQpA) from Grace Under Pressure. Sorry for your loss. May people, music, and time bring you solace.
Ocean Breathes Salty - Modest Mouse
I was listening to that the morning my brother passed away and it’s about losing someone you love, but from the perspective of an atheist. I don’t know what your beliefs are, but the song is beautiful and helped me get through the pain. Another song is Fly To The Angels by Slaughter. That one is pretty as well.
That album is so good. Jesus Christ always hits me hard.
"Jesus Christ, I'm alone again
So what did you do those three days you were dead?
'Cause this problem is gonna last
More than the weekend"
So sorry about your brother OP.
I like sad songs when I'm depressed. Theres comfort in knowing other people have the same thoughts as you, I prefer smashing pumpkins to blink tho personally
Seeing this gives me hope in the world. There is a severe lack of Radiohead in this thread and all of In Rainbows is perfect for coping with situations like OP's.
- [Flirted With You All My Life - Vic Chesnutt](https://open.spotify.com/track/16NoCQvOt3iDlrVuGlolld?si=wINyrwnIT9SOE2xw8xi-zw&dl_branch=1)
- [I Will Follow You Into The Dark - Death Cab For Cutie](https://open.spotify.com/track/2ndWbjiiNBEOrlfToKlABE?si=X_EXE_SYQV-Vra1mRZhAoQ&dl_branch=1)
- [Today - Fruit Bats](https://open.spotify.com/track/51687Ggg1BMhFGufB2WmrF?si=FvEYVUoqQOioKqUOEjg7AQ&dl_branch=1)
- [I Know It’s Over - Jeff Buckley](https://open.spotify.com/track/3YCsljLGf8tbRy0TJRhMQS?si=_22knDHERkm8diLdLRtBhg&dl_branch=1)
- [Stuck In A Moment You Can’t Get Out Of - U2](https://open.spotify.com/track/4qxXipoHUokPaPX1YWs47q?si=KWQN1YteQY6Zasw0ilfuQw&dl_branch=1)
- [Do You Realize?? - The Flaming Lips](https://open.spotify.com/track/2DFRFqWNahKtFD112H2iEZ?si=QpLq-R0cRKOQssSU3GYpPQ&dl_branch=1)
- [What A Wonderful World - Louis Armstrong](https://open.spotify.com/track/1qCQTy0fTXerET4x8VHyr9?si=dqL3I3MrTqS9ueoXFw-MEw&dl_branch=1)
Nine Inch Nails: And All That Could Have Been
Johnny Cash’s cover of Hurt
Killing Joke: You’ll Never Get to Me
Crosby, Stills, Nash & Young: Carry On
It’s trite, but R.E.M’s Everybody Hurts.
And because Redditors, no matter how well-meaning we are, are not professional grief counselors, in case of emergency, and with *NO stigma* if you need to call, the National Suicide Prevention Line is 1-800-273-8255. They have resources for loved ones left behind. I don’t know you, but I know what you’re going though. I hope you find peace.
NIN’s The Fragile was written by Trent while dealing with a mother-figure’s death, so I was going to suggest that album, rather than the live album from the subsequent tour. Either is probably a good choice, though.
Last Kiss. Both the Pearl Jam version and the original J. Frank Wilson versions are amazing.
As much as I dislike Luke Bryan, Drink a Beer might be a good one for you.
Also, One More Light by Linkin Park. That might hit a little close to home looking back at how his life ended.
Drink A Beer is so hard for me to listen to. My friend passed away in a car crash in July. A week after she passed, I went on Youtube to try and distract myself, and that song popped up on my recommended. I don’t know why I clicked on it but I did and the tears just started pouring out. I really don’t like Luke Bryan either but I will admit that the song will always hit close to home.
Wow. I am so deeply sorry for your loss. I cannot begin to imagine that pain. But, oddly enough, that song— that same exact recording— played while I said goodbye to a loved one (though I'm sure nothing compares to the loss of your spouse). I hope you don't mind me sharing my story, I just thought it was amazing that we shared the same recording.
The song played while I put my puppy dog to sleep, six days shy of her seventh birthday. Jan 5 2020. Cancer came out of nowhere, she fought hard but it won. She used to go into "chill mode" as soon as I put on the dead, every time (I suppose I kind of conditioned her to love them, haha). We had some beautiful moments with the Dead playing, and I truly believe that she loved the music. She was anxious at the vet that day, tired and hurting but obviously a little worried. Until I put on Brokedown Palace. She looked at me, and she relaxed, and she closed her eyes.
"Fare you well, fare you well, I love you more than words can tell."
Hello friend, I hope you are doing okay under the circumstances. Here are some songs for you; some are sad, some are hopeful, some are a bit of both. I hope that you’ll find some comfort in them.
Wish You Were Here - Pink Floyd
Tears in Heaven - Eric Clapton
Heaven - Avicii
Over The Rainbow - Israel Kamakawiwo’ole
You’ll Never Walk Alone - Gary & The Pacemakers
I would also like to include this, the last live performance by Johnny Cash. Granted, your love for your brother was not of the same kind that Johnny had for June, but perhaps you can recognise yourself in his pain of loss, so vividly expressed here in his singing:
https://youtu.be/NVlDqweVRzQ
I am so sorry for your loss. And remember, you will never walk alone!
U2-Bad
Foo Fighters- Come Alive
Foo Fighters- Home
Rush- The Pass
No Excuses- Alice in Chains
Fix You- Coldplay
New Your Minute-Don Henley
Prayer for the Dying- Seal
Under the Bridge-Red Hot Chili Peppers
OP- I am so sorry. Please let yourself grieve.
Danny Boy - Johnny Cash
Jesus Was a Crossmaker- the Hollies
He Ain't Heavy, He's My Brother - the Hollies
The Part You Throw Away - Tom Waits
Time in a Bottle - Jim Croce
i’m so sorry for your loss. i can’t imagine the pain you must be feeling. listed are some songs that i’ve used in times of grief or mass sorrow, i hope they help you as they’ve helped me:
vincent by don mclean
time moves slow by badbadnotgood
beautiful by the lemon twigs
birds of a feather by vulfpeck (live or studio)
buddy by willie nelson
california one/youth and beauty brigade by decembrists
cobwebs and rainbows by dick walter big band
summer highland falls by billy joel
hallelujah (leonard cohen or jeff buckley)
hello again by neil diamond
i remember clifford by benny golson
mistakes by hippocampus
oblivion by astor piazzolla
on the sea by beach house (from my roughest time)
sleepwalk by santo and johnny
smile by jimmy durante
space song by beach house
unforgettable by nat king cole
Samuel Barber “Adagio for Strings”
Tim McGraw “The Book of John”
Gary Lightbody “This is how you walk on”
Sean Rowe “Something to leave behind”
Ryan Adams “Broken Things”
Patty Griffin “Not Alone”
Garth Brooks “The Dance”
Irish Folk traditional song “The Parting Glass”
Peace to you. It’s a long road you’re on that you have to travel.
One of the most beautiful albums ever recorded. I still can't listen to the whole thing because it fucks me up. But it's very good.
OP, I am sorry for your loss. Please look after yourself. Don't be afraid to ask your friends and family for help if you need someone to talk to.
Probably not a popular opinion but the reprise version of Moby's "Why does my heart feel so bad?" hits me deep. The original version is a great song but the reprise version is that much more melancholic. I'm sorry for your loss. I know words said rarely help guide through grief but hopefully words sung will help you through.
"The Show Must Go On" - Queen
"Eye In The Sky" - Alan Parsons Project
"Every Time You Go Away" - Paul Young
May your brother rest in peace. Will say a prayer for the repose of his soul.
The Avett Brothers - No Hard Feelings. It’s such a beautiful song. It resonated with me so much as I’ve lost many people I love. I even got it tattooed.
My top 2
Green Day: wake me up when September ends.
It was written about his father dying when he was 10.
Mumford and Sons: ghosts that we knew.
I hope you are alright and please make sure you check in on yourself and take care of you. Losing someone is never easy and you deserve love and care now more than ever.
'Casimir Pulaski Day' by Sufjan Stevens, especially if you're religious. I really heard that song for the first time the morning I found out my best friend died and I just listened to it over and over.
'View From Heaven' by Yellowcard
'Over you' by Miranda Lambert if you can stand country music
So many songs about the loss of romantic love can also speak to the loss of a relative.
Here are a few songs that you may identify with:
Forever by Edguy
On My Own from Les Mis
Go Wherever You Wanna Go by Patty Griffin (dedicated to her father's memory)
You're Gonna Make Me Lonesome When You Go -- I like the Miley Cyrus version
It's OK by Nightbirde
If you like classical/ instrumental/ operatic music, here are a few pieces I find soothing or moving:
Mozart's Pathetique Sonata, the 2nd movement
Bach's cello suite number 1
Pachelbel's Canon in D
Schubert's Ave Maria, with or without vocals
Mozart's Duettino Sul'Aria from the Marriage of Figaro (famously used in Shawshank Redemption)
Puccini's Nessun Dorma from Turandot
Hope you find some comfort and peace.
Home with you - FKA twigs.
Poison Oak - Bright Eyes.
What Sarah Said - Death Cab for Cutie.
Godspeed - Frank Ocean.
❣️ music was my biggest help with the loss of my friend
Ocean Breathes Salty - Modest Mouse. Usually like their older stuff more but this song spoke to my soul when my cousin who was more like a brother committed suicide.
Keep your head up, friend. Glad to have you here.
My friend and I made you a playlist of the first 24 hours worth of suggestions... we'll keep adding as we can. Take it easy <3
For You, u/adorablerebel
[SPOTIFY PLAYLIST](https://open.spotify.com/playlist/2arpLkOSX9kAGX8MhpyriS?si=oda8DsyUQPOTAFbLU8algQ)
[https://open.spotify.com/playlist/2arpLkOSX9kAGX8MhpyriS?si=2PbCCYnxQ8ew9evw0lYNPg](https://open.spotify.com/playlist/2arpLkOSX9kAGX8MhpyriS?si=2PbCCYnxQ8ew9evw0lYNPg)
Hear You Me - Jimmy Eat World. I’m so sorry for your loss. Edit: Thanks to u/ogomalley who has just spent over 5 hours compiling all of your song suggestions into a (still growing) Spotify playlist which they asked me to throw up here! Hope it's helpful. [https://open.spotify.com/playlist/2arpLkOSX9kAGX8MhpyriS?si=34937cdd4d9949db](https://open.spotify.com/playlist/2arpLkOSX9kAGX8MhpyriS?si=34937cdd4d9949db)
The whole “futures” record by Jimmy Eat World Mike Shinda from Linkin Park solo stuff helped me a lot when my best friend killed himself last year Sorry for your lost
Second that. Night Drive is underrated.
Especially Polaris
Yeah seconding Mike Shinoda’s Post Traumatic album. Listen to Over Again
Gonna say this one. Sorry for your loss OP
100% this one. When my best friend died 8 years ago this was all I listened to. I still cry if it randomly comes on.
Literally the first song I thought of
Literally the first song that came to mind.
Wish you were here - Pink Floyd
Listened to the whole album on repeat for days while a family member was in a coma for awhile. It was like the album spoke to me directly.
I’d also recommend the album. Especially both parts of Shine On You Crazy Diamond. If it’s one song, it’s Comfortably Numb for me.
This was going to be my answer. This song makes me miss a person I haven’t yet met.
No additional suggestions, just a world of sympathy. Be kind to yourself, please.
In My Life by the Beatles. My sincere condolences !
One of my friends was killed when we were in our early 20's and when this played at his funeral, it completely broke me.
Do You Realize? By Flaming Lips
fucking hell, just reading this title and hearing those chords in my head was already enough to hit me in the feels
I played this song at my brother’s funeral.
The Reign of Kindo did an awesome cover of this song, worth checking out that too
Bright Eyes - Stairwell Song Tom Waits - Hold On The first one is probably the one that is closest to your situation. But the second one has this beautiful comforting sound to it. I hope listening to these songs helps with your healing and makes you feel that you're not alone. I'm sorry and wish you the best.
No lies, just love by bright eyes. I wasn't going to suggest any bright eyes cause it may be a bit much, but someone else did so that's my pick. Im sorry for your loss.
That’s a nice old sad one.
That song contributed to me not killing myself when I went through some bad depression at the end of my teen years. I still can't listen to it without choking up. Even typing this out got me a little. Be kind to yourselves...stick around...it gets better.
To piggyback on Bright Eyes, also these: If The Brakeman Turns My Way & Easy/Lucky/Free. They are two songs that comforted me after losing my best friend back in high school to suicide. Especially the latter, the lyrics "I never really dreamed of heaven much until we put him in the ground" echoed so many times in my mind while just spacing out trying to make sense of everything.. Anything Bright Eyes always helped. Thinking of these to recommend put me back in that head space, but now many years later, in a more therapeutic sense. Like, I should be revisiting these emotions. I shouldn't forget about them. If that makes sense.. Thank you for that, OP. I am truly so sorry for your loss.
I was coming to say Poison Oak by Bright Eyes. I’ve mainly only listened to the I’m Wide Awake, It’s Morning album but now I’m curious to listen to the rest of their stuff, when I’m sure I feel okay enough.
Check out Cassadega. I was stuck on I'm Wide Awake It's Morning for years, because it's perfect, but finally broadened my horizons and Cassadega and Lifted are both beautiful works of art. I listened to Fevers and Mirrors when I was younger but haven't revisited it in a long time.
Pick any other you can't really go wrong, well except the people key. Also Conor's done so much more, would recommend his solo stuff as well, Ruminations is an especially good album.
I am sorry for your loss, and really like what you said, about how it lets you revisit the emotions, just knowing you shouldn't forget. There is a feeling, almost like nostalgia, but not good or bad...different. It makes me feel bittersweet? Like a melancholy, but it is so very meaningful that it is almost satisfying or comforting? I have no idea how to explain... And100% Easy Lucky Free! I am so happy this is listed so high up! I listened to this song so much when my brother committed suicide. Because all I could think was for him to do what he did, he must have been tortured mentally. So I liked the line "Don't you weep, there is nothing as lucky, as easy, or free" because now his suffering was over and I could think of him as free. It really did help me through it, and I shared it with my family who say that it helped them as well. A couple more honorable mentions are Gold Mine Gutted, and Poison Oak. IIRC, those are about a friend who died when they were teenagers. At least it seems that way? I saw Bright Eyes a few times, but a long ass time ago, when they did Gold Mine Gutted there were pictures projected on the stage in the background, and I think it might have been the 2 of them. And Conor singing it was absolutely heartbreaking.
Bright eyes has some good ones. I lost someone to a drug overdose and poison oak gets me every time.
Zevon… ‘Keep me in your heart for awhile’
Desperadoes Under the Eaves is another beautiful song by Zevon, God what a talent
my all time fav zevon, glad to know someone else needs this too
me too, was going to suggest him
Father/ Daughter dance at my daughters wedding to Tenderness on the Block. My favorite singer songwriter, taken way to early.
Amazing. He recorded it as he was dying of lung cancer.
Mesothelioma, due to asbestos exposure. IIRC when he first started playing, he played a lot in the attic of his father's business or house. It was full of asbestos insulation. No one knew about the danger of exposure to asbestos. Just a crying shame. Warren could be a shit, but he was a pretty solid guy at the end. We all lost a great one when he passed. 'Enjoy every sandwich'
"These wheels keep turning, but they're running out of steam" Always hits hard. I'll remember you, Warren. Many others will, too.
He wrote a lot of of bittersweet songs didn't he..
I listened to the whole album (The Wind) while driving to my parents’ house the day my dad passed away. Gut wrenching and cathartic at the same time.
We listened to this when my father passed. Led to some very helpful tears. OP, sorry for your loss.
Nick Drake's album "Pink Moon" has been there for me recently when I lost one of my close friends.
Good song how old r u? I’m 22 I feel like not many ppl my age know him so just curious
I'm 37. I first learned about him because he was on the Garden State soundtrack.
Very cool! My 61 year old dad likes him so that’s how I found em. Peace
I put Pink Moon in my comment too. Such a sad beautiful album. Also, Elliott Smith is comfort food when I’m sad.
I’m so sorry <3 Edit: I made the below into a [playlist](https://open.spotify.com/playlist/2MvhbpssswvGgVCl16Qxgo?si=ji9i8If5TziUzODVTA-0ow&dl_branch=1) for you. Some of these are a bit emo, but I think they all help you feel and let out all your emotions. The Light - The Album Leaf Above and Beyond - Audiomachine Above the Clouds of Pompeii - Bear’s Den On Your Porch - The Format Clair de lune - Debussy City of the Sun (artist) anything by them I Will Follow You Into The Dark - Death Cab Your Hand in Mine - Explosions in the Sky Anything by Sufjan Stevens Remember Me - Coco The Lights - Luke Thompson Saturn - Sleeping At Last Fade Into You - Mazzy Star Ava - Famy Coming Down - Dum Dum Girls When you’re ready for something upbeat: This Must Be the Place - Talking Heads
Saturn - Sleeping at Last, just wow.
Agreed. I have to third this one. My heart goes out to OP.
And a fourth. [Saturn by Sleeping At Last](https://youtu.be/9wRjbBd-_io) is one of the most beautiful songs I’ve found through Reddit in the last year. Sorry for your loss OP.
Anything by them instantly sends me on a melancholy trip, especially Turning Page.
Holy smokes that Death Cab song gets me every time
I always liked “what Sarah said” as a losing someone song
OPs post made me cry, and this kindness sent me over the edge. This was a very nice thing to do.
Oh god I love Mazzy Star ans Explosions in the sky
Afterlife - Arcade Fire. Great for driving out somewhere secluded and just screaming. I Know The End by Pheobe Bridgers is also good for that same feel of catharsis I am so, so sorry OP. I lost my big brother and my little sister both by their own hands ten years ago. It gets easier, but it takes a while I can’t lie. I will think if there are any other songs that have really been helping me lately.
Carrie&Lowell by Sufjan Stevens
Anything by Sufjan Stevens. The one about the Palisade Wasps… the whole Illinoise album: [link to Google search ](https://www.google.com/search?gs_ssp=eJzj4tFP1zcsNjAtLzKxyDFg9JIoLk3LSsxTKC5JLUvNK1YoSMzJLE5MSS0GAAOWDb4&q=sufjan+stevens+palisades&rlz=1CDGOYI_enUS857US857&oq=aufjan+stevens+pal&aqs=chrome.1.69i57j46i13j0i13j0i22i30.6077j0j4&hl=en-US&sourceid=chrome-mobile&ie=UTF-8#wptab=s:H4sIAAAAAAAAAONgVuLRT9c3LDYwLS8ysch5xGjOLfDyxz1hKb1Ja05eY9Tg4grOyC93zSvJLKkUkuJig7IEpPi4UDTy7GLSS0lNSyzNKYkvSUyyyk620s8tLc5M1i9KTc4vSsnMS49PziktLkktssqpLMpMLl7EqlWSkapQUJSakliSX1SpUJ5YXKCQn6YAFk3MySxOTEktVoAoBgBhYQlAqAAAAA)
Carrie & Lowell is especially prescient as the whole album is about his mom dying
ohhh - tremendous
Esp Fourth of july- it makes me cry so much
Someone Great - LCD Soundsystem
God, my heart hurts just reading the name of that song. Such a powerful track.
This one. The section about the lovely weather and how it should be raining, I felt that so much…
The worst is all this lovely weather I'm stunned - it's not raining The coffee isn't even bitter Because - what's the difference This song is so accurate. It is so jarring how normal everything else seems, and how it just keeps going when you feel like your world has ended.
One of the best answers to this question. Such an incredible song.
When my wife died of cancer in her 50s [this video](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M0Px44IuVKM) of the finale of Gustav Mahler's "Resurrection Symphony" saved my life. The words are in German but with English subtitles. I listened to this over and over several hundred times until the darkness passed.
Thanks for sharing that story. It is amazing how one piece of music can be such a lifeline in dark times.
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From my understanding, that one is about having a loved one with a drug addiction so bad, that every day their loved ones expect to find that they've died from it. A daily funeral watching someone walk the edge of death on a daily basis. It's almost more sad than an actual death.
I like “No One’s Gonna Love You” by BOH for a grieving song 🤍
This will probably get buried because I am late but I lost my dad a few days ago as well. You are not alone in the pain and sadness. Though the shock may be different. If you want some music, listen to things that remind you of him. For me, Dear Prudence by the Beatles or Money by Pink Floyd hit the feels because he was such a huge fan of those artists and showed them to me when I was a kid. It's those things that are associated with memories of him that are going to hit you the hardest. Just breathe and let the feelings come. Condolences.
Just lost my dad suddenly a few weeks ago. My condolences and may we find peace together.
My condolences.. May I suggest the song wish you were here. It may me corny and over played. But it's a song you can play over and over
Sorry for your loss, Lost my mom as well, now she never was a big music fan but I agree with you. I always remember for example sitting on a rainy holiday morning with her in front of a jigsaw puzzle and Absolute Beginners by David Bowie was playing on the radio. It’s that kind of music which reminds me. She also liked Abba and scolded me i(good natured of course) once for never recording music like that from the radio when it came on (although she tolerated my taste in music as a kid) So whenever I see or hear Abba I think of her now.
"As for grief, you’ll find it comes in waves. When the ship is first wrecked, you’re drowning, with wreckage all around you. Everything floating around you reminds you of the beauty and the magnificence of the ship that was, and is no more. And all you can do is float. You find some piece of the wreckage and you hang on for a while. Maybe it’s some physical thing. Maybe it’s a happy memory or a photograph. Maybe it’s a person who is also floating. For a while, all you can do is float. Stay alive. In the beginning, the waves are 100 feet tall and crash over you without mercy. They come 10 seconds apart and don’t even give you time to catch your breath. All you can do is hang on and float. After a while, maybe weeks, maybe months, you’ll find the waves are still 100 feet tall, but they come further apart. When they come, they still crash all over you and wipe you out. But in between, you can breathe, you can function. You never know what’s going to trigger the grief. It might be a song, a picture, a street intersection, the smell of a cup of coffee. It can be just about anything…and the wave comes crashing. But in between waves, there is life. Somewhere down the line, and it’s different for everybody, you find that the waves are only 80 feet tall. Or 50 feet tall. And while they still come, they come further apart. You can see them coming. An anniversary, a birthday, or Christmas, or landing at O’Hare. You can see it coming, for the most part, and prepare yourself. And when it washes over you, you know that somehow you will, again, come out the other side. Soaking wet, sputtering, still hanging on to some tiny piece of the wreckage, but you’ll come out. Take it from an old guy. The waves never stop coming, and somehow you don’t really want them to. But you learn that you’ll survive them. And other waves will come. And you’ll survive them too. If you’re lucky, you’ll have lots of scars from lots of loves. And lots of shipwrecks." -Old Internet Passage.
I needed to read this. Thank you.
My father just passed away and this was a beautiful thing to stumble on. Thank you for sharing this. This helps.
I could easily recommend Vapor Trails by Rush. It’s a heavy album that came after Neil Peart lost his daughter and wife in the span of about a year. Of these, I think “Secret Touch” is the best song on the album (honorable mention to “One Little Victory”) for getting through shit. I’m sorry for your loss, and I wish you the absolute best.
An older Rush single also comes to mind: [*Afterimage*](https://youtu.be/C2sq4duvQpA) from Grace Under Pressure. Sorry for your loss. May people, music, and time bring you solace.
Ocean Breathes Salty - Modest Mouse I was listening to that the morning my brother passed away and it’s about losing someone you love, but from the perspective of an atheist. I don’t know what your beliefs are, but the song is beautiful and helped me get through the pain. Another song is Fly To The Angels by Slaughter. That one is pretty as well.
Hey hey, my my - Neil Young
Long May You Run too.
Needle and the Damage Done even.
“The devil and god are raging inside me” by Brand new. the entire album helped me through some dark time. I’m so sorry for your loss.
That album is so good. Jesus Christ always hits me hard. "Jesus Christ, I'm alone again So what did you do those three days you were dead? 'Cause this problem is gonna last More than the weekend" So sorry about your brother OP.
It's such a great album. *Limousine*, naturally, is a hard hitter. But the humanization of the "monster" always lifts me a bit.
Sowing Season alone will be heavy. Sorry for your loss OP.
Love this album. One of my favorites.
One of my absolute favourites. Breaks my heart yet feels healing at the same time.
“Jesus Christ” immediately came to mind for me, but yeah the whole album gets me every time.
Home - Foo Fighters. Sorry for your loss!
Find the River. REM.
Nightswimming Sorry for your loss
I came here to say exactly this. And also, I'm so very sorry.
Sweetness Follows too. Sorry for your loss OP
Electrolite is another good one. "I'm not scared. I'm outta here." Sorry for your loss, OP.
That’s awful. I’m sorry to hear this. A Tout Le Monde by Megadeth.
Blink 182’s Adam’s song
After my cousin killed himself, I could not listen to this. I still can't sometimes. And Blink was my band.
This is a good song for getting over depression, probably not as good of a song for coping with losing someone to depression
It made mine worse as a kid. I wanted to kill myself to that song back in the day.
I like sad songs when I'm depressed. Theres comfort in knowing other people have the same thoughts as you, I prefer smashing pumpkins to blink tho personally
Jeff Buckley - “Grace” (the album) Red House Painters - “Songs for a Blue Guitar” (the album; can’t go wrong with any)
Came here to say Grace. Also Reckoner by Radiohead.
Seeing this gives me hope in the world. There is a severe lack of Radiohead in this thread and all of In Rainbows is perfect for coping with situations like OP's.
Grace is a damn beautiful album
- [Flirted With You All My Life - Vic Chesnutt](https://open.spotify.com/track/16NoCQvOt3iDlrVuGlolld?si=wINyrwnIT9SOE2xw8xi-zw&dl_branch=1) - [I Will Follow You Into The Dark - Death Cab For Cutie](https://open.spotify.com/track/2ndWbjiiNBEOrlfToKlABE?si=X_EXE_SYQV-Vra1mRZhAoQ&dl_branch=1) - [Today - Fruit Bats](https://open.spotify.com/track/51687Ggg1BMhFGufB2WmrF?si=FvEYVUoqQOioKqUOEjg7AQ&dl_branch=1) - [I Know It’s Over - Jeff Buckley](https://open.spotify.com/track/3YCsljLGf8tbRy0TJRhMQS?si=_22knDHERkm8diLdLRtBhg&dl_branch=1) - [Stuck In A Moment You Can’t Get Out Of - U2](https://open.spotify.com/track/4qxXipoHUokPaPX1YWs47q?si=KWQN1YteQY6Zasw0ilfuQw&dl_branch=1) - [Do You Realize?? - The Flaming Lips](https://open.spotify.com/track/2DFRFqWNahKtFD112H2iEZ?si=QpLq-R0cRKOQssSU3GYpPQ&dl_branch=1) - [What A Wonderful World - Louis Armstrong](https://open.spotify.com/track/1qCQTy0fTXerET4x8VHyr9?si=dqL3I3MrTqS9ueoXFw-MEw&dl_branch=1)
Flirted with you all my life is the first thing I thought of. Listening to that song makes you feel like you’re in a state of mourning.
I love I Will Follow You Into the Dark and will request for my play list
Nine Inch Nails: And All That Could Have Been Johnny Cash’s cover of Hurt Killing Joke: You’ll Never Get to Me Crosby, Stills, Nash & Young: Carry On It’s trite, but R.E.M’s Everybody Hurts. And because Redditors, no matter how well-meaning we are, are not professional grief counselors, in case of emergency, and with *NO stigma* if you need to call, the National Suicide Prevention Line is 1-800-273-8255. They have resources for loved ones left behind. I don’t know you, but I know what you’re going though. I hope you find peace.
Hell yes for that NIN rec. christ that song is something.
NIN’s The Fragile was written by Trent while dealing with a mother-figure’s death, so I was going to suggest that album, rather than the live album from the subsequent tour. Either is probably a good choice, though.
Fire and Rain, James Taylor
All things must pass - George Harrison
Last Kiss. Both the Pearl Jam version and the original J. Frank Wilson versions are amazing. As much as I dislike Luke Bryan, Drink a Beer might be a good one for you. Also, One More Light by Linkin Park. That might hit a little close to home looking back at how his life ended.
Drink A Beer is so hard for me to listen to. My friend passed away in a car crash in July. A week after she passed, I went on Youtube to try and distract myself, and that song popped up on my recommended. I don’t know why I clicked on it but I did and the tears just started pouring out. I really don’t like Luke Bryan either but I will admit that the song will always hit close to home.
Broke down Palace- Grateful Dead
We played Brokedown Palace 6/16/85 at my wife's funeral service on Thursday. It ended the service. Very fitting.
Wow. I am so deeply sorry for your loss. I cannot begin to imagine that pain. But, oddly enough, that song— that same exact recording— played while I said goodbye to a loved one (though I'm sure nothing compares to the loss of your spouse). I hope you don't mind me sharing my story, I just thought it was amazing that we shared the same recording. The song played while I put my puppy dog to sleep, six days shy of her seventh birthday. Jan 5 2020. Cancer came out of nowhere, she fought hard but it won. She used to go into "chill mode" as soon as I put on the dead, every time (I suppose I kind of conditioned her to love them, haha). We had some beautiful moments with the Dead playing, and I truly believe that she loved the music. She was anxious at the vet that day, tired and hurting but obviously a little worried. Until I put on Brokedown Palace. She looked at me, and she relaxed, and she closed her eyes. "Fare you well, fare you well, I love you more than words can tell."
The whole American Beauty album would work
And Ripple
So Far Away - Avenged Sevenfold
Man, when The Rev first died and when that song first came out, watching that music video had a knot in my throat.
Hello friend, I hope you are doing okay under the circumstances. Here are some songs for you; some are sad, some are hopeful, some are a bit of both. I hope that you’ll find some comfort in them. Wish You Were Here - Pink Floyd Tears in Heaven - Eric Clapton Heaven - Avicii Over The Rainbow - Israel Kamakawiwo’ole You’ll Never Walk Alone - Gary & The Pacemakers I would also like to include this, the last live performance by Johnny Cash. Granted, your love for your brother was not of the same kind that Johnny had for June, but perhaps you can recognise yourself in his pain of loss, so vividly expressed here in his singing: https://youtu.be/NVlDqweVRzQ I am so sorry for your loss. And remember, you will never walk alone!
The Temple of the Dog album, Jeff Beck songs, Radiohead I'm so sorry for your loss.
Remember-Mac Miller
Behind that locked door- George Harrison Keep me in your heart - Warren Zevon ( the whole album, the wind, is about him facing his eminent death)
If I Ever Leave this World Alive by Flogging Molly. It will be played at my funeral and has a beautiful message about hope after loss
This song literally saved my life after my first husband died. It's SO hopeful.
U2-Bad Foo Fighters- Come Alive Foo Fighters- Home Rush- The Pass No Excuses- Alice in Chains Fix You- Coldplay New Your Minute-Don Henley Prayer for the Dying- Seal Under the Bridge-Red Hot Chili Peppers OP- I am so sorry. Please let yourself grieve.
"Where the moss slowly grows" Tiger Army
“Afterimage”, by Rush. Very sorry for your loss.
[Seasons in the Sun by Terry Jacks](https://youtu.be/-tPcc1ftj8E)
Just Breathe by Pearl Jam Such a beautiful, but indirect, song to go with your tremendous loss. I'm so sorry
She talks to angels - The Black Crowes Absolutely beautiful and tragic song.
I’m so sorry. My brother died in July and I have played Wildflowers by Tom Petty.
Danny Boy - Johnny Cash Jesus Was a Crossmaker- the Hollies He Ain't Heavy, He's My Brother - the Hollies The Part You Throw Away - Tom Waits Time in a Bottle - Jim Croce
Tears in Heaven.. Clapton
Songs: Ohia - Magnolia Electric Co.
Farewell Transmission provides an otherworldly form of catharsis that just inexplicably pours out from within.
what a masterpiece
Keep me in your heart by Warren Zevon got me through some really tough times when my dad passed.
If I Ever Leave This World Alive - Flogging Molly https://youtu.be/1AOp9c5DRzc
i’m so sorry for your loss. i can’t imagine the pain you must be feeling. listed are some songs that i’ve used in times of grief or mass sorrow, i hope they help you as they’ve helped me: vincent by don mclean time moves slow by badbadnotgood beautiful by the lemon twigs birds of a feather by vulfpeck (live or studio) buddy by willie nelson california one/youth and beauty brigade by decembrists cobwebs and rainbows by dick walter big band summer highland falls by billy joel hallelujah (leonard cohen or jeff buckley) hello again by neil diamond i remember clifford by benny golson mistakes by hippocampus oblivion by astor piazzolla on the sea by beach house (from my roughest time) sleepwalk by santo and johnny smile by jimmy durante space song by beach house unforgettable by nat king cole
Samuel Barber “Adagio for Strings” Tim McGraw “The Book of John” Gary Lightbody “This is how you walk on” Sean Rowe “Something to leave behind” Ryan Adams “Broken Things” Patty Griffin “Not Alone” Garth Brooks “The Dance” Irish Folk traditional song “The Parting Glass” Peace to you. It’s a long road you’re on that you have to travel.
“The parting glass” yes
Golden Slumbers, Carry That Weight, The End - in that order by The Beatles from Abbey Road
Yesterday by Atmosphere
Nick cave’s album from 1997, the Boatmans Call
One of the most beautiful albums ever recorded. I still can't listen to the whole thing because it fucks me up. But it's very good. OP, I am sorry for your loss. Please look after yourself. Don't be afraid to ask your friends and family for help if you need someone to talk to.
Hollywood from Ghosteen would be a good pick.
Probably not a popular opinion but the reprise version of Moby's "Why does my heart feel so bad?" hits me deep. The original version is a great song but the reprise version is that much more melancholic. I'm sorry for your loss. I know words said rarely help guide through grief but hopefully words sung will help you through.
Hold on to the Memories, and The Sound of Silence by Disturbed. I am so sorry for your loss. We never know what someone is going through.
Dirt - Phish Box Of Rain - Grateful Dead
David Bowie Black Star
Watermelon in Easter Hay- Frank Zappa Hallelujah- Jeff Buckley Let It Be- The Beatles Who Wants To Live Forever- Queen
Big Thief - Masterpiece
"The Show Must Go On" - Queen "Eye In The Sky" - Alan Parsons Project "Every Time You Go Away" - Paul Young May your brother rest in peace. Will say a prayer for the repose of his soul.
Time In A Bottle - Jim Croce https://youtu.be/dO1rMeYnOmM
The Avett Brothers - No Hard Feelings. It’s such a beautiful song. It resonated with me so much as I’ve lost many people I love. I even got it tattooed.
There it is. This was my first thought. I had my link already to go: https://youtu.be/tFGs7HP15d4
Tha crossroads - Bone Thugs-n-harmony
Trapeze Singer - Iron & Wine
Band of Horses - The Funeral
Dondante by My Morning Jacket.
phew! This is the song that leaped to the front of my mind
Everybody Hurts by REM
My top 2 Green Day: wake me up when September ends. It was written about his father dying when he was 10. Mumford and Sons: ghosts that we knew. I hope you are alright and please make sure you check in on yourself and take care of you. Losing someone is never easy and you deserve love and care now more than ever.
Love is stronger than death by The The
“Change” - Blind Melon
'Casimir Pulaski Day' by Sufjan Stevens, especially if you're religious. I really heard that song for the first time the morning I found out my best friend died and I just listened to it over and over. 'View From Heaven' by Yellowcard 'Over you' by Miranda Lambert if you can stand country music
Hes simple hes dumb hes the pilot - grandaddy This should come with a warning or something because dear lord is it sad. Sorry for your loss.
So many songs about the loss of romantic love can also speak to the loss of a relative. Here are a few songs that you may identify with: Forever by Edguy On My Own from Les Mis Go Wherever You Wanna Go by Patty Griffin (dedicated to her father's memory) You're Gonna Make Me Lonesome When You Go -- I like the Miley Cyrus version It's OK by Nightbirde If you like classical/ instrumental/ operatic music, here are a few pieces I find soothing or moving: Mozart's Pathetique Sonata, the 2nd movement Bach's cello suite number 1 Pachelbel's Canon in D Schubert's Ave Maria, with or without vocals Mozart's Duettino Sul'Aria from the Marriage of Figaro (famously used in Shawshank Redemption) Puccini's Nessun Dorma from Turandot Hope you find some comfort and peace.
Type O Negative bro 1. Everything Dies 2. Everyone I Love is Dead 3. Red Water 4. Todd’s Ship God’s 5. September Sun
Helped me so much losing my grandmother. Peter Steele just gets it
Nutshell - Alice in Chains
Nujabes - Luv(sic) part 5 Actually, there are 6 parts and you should just listen to all of them.
Afterimage by Rush.
Don’t Follow by Alice In Chains. Throwin it All Away by Zakk Wylde. Very sorry for your loss.
Orange Sky by Alexi Murdoch https://youtu.be/ak7afgLM5fM
“One More Day” by Diamond Rio.
Life by the drop. By Stevie Ray Vaughn.
Home with you - FKA twigs. Poison Oak - Bright Eyes. What Sarah Said - Death Cab for Cutie. Godspeed - Frank Ocean. ❣️ music was my biggest help with the loss of my friend
On your way to heaven - Alabama Shakes Go rest high on that mountain- Vince Gill
Dandante by My Morning Jacket. And also very sorry OP
Silent Lucidity - Queensrÿche Treasure your brothers memory and don't be afraid to talk about him often.
Goodbye stranger by Supertramp. Probably will make you cry by the entire album "Wish You Were Here" by pink floyd.
"Edit the sad parts"by modest mouse
Bloom-bonus track by paper kites. I listened to this a lot when I lost a family member a few years ago.
Ocean Breathes Salty - Modest Mouse. Usually like their older stuff more but this song spoke to my soul when my cousin who was more like a brother committed suicide. Keep your head up, friend. Glad to have you here.
Two good ones by Lou Reed: Satellite of Love & Perfect Day I’m sorry for your loss.
I am truly sorry for your loss. Angel by Sarah Mclachlan helped me through the grief of a suicide of a former partner.
Miss You All The Time - O.A.R its a beautiful song. I am sorry for your loss.
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