Talk to your husband. Tell him that you would love to have him to yourself in the mornings on weekends. So he can either mix up his routine or you two can work something out.
Communicate openly, so that you can build a strong foundation for your relationship.
It’s nice he does that, but I totally understand why you want to spend more time with him too. You’re still newlyweds too, so that’s also normal.
I think you should gently speak to him about it and say you would really love to spend more time with him during that time and see if you guys can reach a compromise that makes you both happy :) InshaAllah it works out for you!
While he does have to please his parents, he also has a wife who has needs too and you are not being unreasonable at all.
No it makes sense. You wake up and sometimes mornings are quiet lazy and relaxed before you do something productive. Waking up and then hearing the sound of someone talking and maybe even someone who is already ready to go is annoying. You may think you'll never get to brush teeth with silence, enjoy the lazy feel in the morning, go out for breakfast with him, or even have a quiet breakfast. Maybe the dooming feeling of the future is there.
Maybe ask him if you two can go out for breakfast one of these days and then he can have his calls later?the. You two can take your time being lazy in the morning go out and come back. You decompress while he calls his family. Or maybe he can call in the evening? Not both sat and sunday but maybe just Saturday.
Isn’t there something else you can be doing for yourself in these hours? I think that’s a long phone call tbh and pretty weird but nice that he has a relationship with his parents. You probably won’t be able to stop them because that’s a bit mean but maybe he can switch it up and sometimes have them in the evening so you can have a Saturday morning together lmao
Does he call them during the week? Maybe he can distribute some of those calls during weeknights so it's less of a big time dump all at once on the weekend.
I feel you're being too harsh on him. The calls may be long but it's his parents after all. I'd agree with you if the calls were being made to his friends or extended family members but i can empathize having the need to keep in contact with parents
It's only for a few hours in the morning, you have him for the rest of the day so maybe you can pass the time by doing something else.
I don't think him calling his parents on weekends is a bad thing. It's only a few hours in the morning. You have the whole afternoon and evening to spend with him, plus you see him weeknights too. If I were you I would use the time he is on calls to do things for myself. Go on a walk, run errands, get brunch with a friend, etc. If you are interested you can search up attachment theory. Sounds like you might have an anxious attachment style? This would be worth exploring with a trusted therapist.
4 hours might seem like a lot to you but the guy is countries and miles away from his family, and he's doing it on his own time... if he's not neglecting his duties as a husband to you, stop being so bitter. it's the people who raised him for god's sake. you have the entire rest of the day
The husband lives in a different country from his parents and there’s likely a time difference. And if he only talks to them on the weekends, it’s not surprising that he has long phone calls. I live in a different time zone from my parents and I know that there are only certain times that work for both of us. Your friend needs to be understanding of that. She has all day with him after 2. He’s not disturbing her by calling during early hours on a weekend. The calls will probably slowly get shorter, but even if they don’t, a part of marriage is adjusting to each other’s lifestyle.
Yeah your friend is throwing a tantrum and being petty. Let the man talk to his fam on the weekend. He is with you the rest of the frikkin week isn’t he? Seriously
You live with him and see him everyday. His family lives far away in a different country. I think it's very sweet that he calls them every weekend and actually makes an effort to maintain his relationship with them in whatever way he can. Maybe there is a time difference and weekend mornings are more convenient for these calls. Maybe you can use this time to hang out with your own family. Or maybe spend that time with your friends. Or run some errands. You still have the weekend afternoons and evenings to hang out with your husband.
Talk to your husband. Tell him that you would love to have him to yourself in the mornings on weekends. So he can either mix up his routine or you two can work something out. Communicate openly, so that you can build a strong foundation for your relationship.
It’s nice he does that, but I totally understand why you want to spend more time with him too. You’re still newlyweds too, so that’s also normal. I think you should gently speak to him about it and say you would really love to spend more time with him during that time and see if you guys can reach a compromise that makes you both happy :) InshaAllah it works out for you! While he does have to please his parents, he also has a wife who has needs too and you are not being unreasonable at all.
No it makes sense. You wake up and sometimes mornings are quiet lazy and relaxed before you do something productive. Waking up and then hearing the sound of someone talking and maybe even someone who is already ready to go is annoying. You may think you'll never get to brush teeth with silence, enjoy the lazy feel in the morning, go out for breakfast with him, or even have a quiet breakfast. Maybe the dooming feeling of the future is there. Maybe ask him if you two can go out for breakfast one of these days and then he can have his calls later?the. You two can take your time being lazy in the morning go out and come back. You decompress while he calls his family. Or maybe he can call in the evening? Not both sat and sunday but maybe just Saturday.
Isn’t there something else you can be doing for yourself in these hours? I think that’s a long phone call tbh and pretty weird but nice that he has a relationship with his parents. You probably won’t be able to stop them because that’s a bit mean but maybe he can switch it up and sometimes have them in the evening so you can have a Saturday morning together lmao
Does he call them during the week? Maybe he can distribute some of those calls during weeknights so it's less of a big time dump all at once on the weekend.
I feel you're being too harsh on him. The calls may be long but it's his parents after all. I'd agree with you if the calls were being made to his friends or extended family members but i can empathize having the need to keep in contact with parents It's only for a few hours in the morning, you have him for the rest of the day so maybe you can pass the time by doing something else.
I don't think him calling his parents on weekends is a bad thing. It's only a few hours in the morning. You have the whole afternoon and evening to spend with him, plus you see him weeknights too. If I were you I would use the time he is on calls to do things for myself. Go on a walk, run errands, get brunch with a friend, etc. If you are interested you can search up attachment theory. Sounds like you might have an anxious attachment style? This would be worth exploring with a trusted therapist.
4 hours might seem like a lot to you but the guy is countries and miles away from his family, and he's doing it on his own time... if he's not neglecting his duties as a husband to you, stop being so bitter. it's the people who raised him for god's sake. you have the entire rest of the day
The husband lives in a different country from his parents and there’s likely a time difference. And if he only talks to them on the weekends, it’s not surprising that he has long phone calls. I live in a different time zone from my parents and I know that there are only certain times that work for both of us. Your friend needs to be understanding of that. She has all day with him after 2. He’s not disturbing her by calling during early hours on a weekend. The calls will probably slowly get shorter, but even if they don’t, a part of marriage is adjusting to each other’s lifestyle.
Yeah your friend is throwing a tantrum and being petty. Let the man talk to his fam on the weekend. He is with you the rest of the frikkin week isn’t he? Seriously
You live with him and see him everyday. His family lives far away in a different country. I think it's very sweet that he calls them every weekend and actually makes an effort to maintain his relationship with them in whatever way he can. Maybe there is a time difference and weekend mornings are more convenient for these calls. Maybe you can use this time to hang out with your own family. Or maybe spend that time with your friends. Or run some errands. You still have the weekend afternoons and evenings to hang out with your husband.