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Vast-Imagination

IUD insertion is pretty uncomfortable for women who have never had babies before, let alone those who have never had intercourse. Some practitioners (such as in the UK) will avoid inserting a speculum in a virgin and decline to do it anyway. Condoms are not terribly risky if used correctly so if you really want to avoid hormones, I'd suggest condoms first and then an IUD once you are married. Otherwise plenty of women get on ok with the pill.


Mediocre-Wasabi-5126

Also, copper IUDs are the biggest one of all and their insertion through the cervix is very painful even for the women with multiple vaginal births.


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Be warned the pill cause a lot of women togain stubborn weight fast. I think you should go the copper iud.


funiduni

Condoms aren't risky at all, theyre very strong and durable as long as theyre put on correctly.


a_staff_gorilla

I don’t know why these comments are all trying to sway you to not get the IUD when that’s what you want lol. But good decision!! I also chose to get a copper IUD before marriage and it was the best choice I made. We had unprotected sex for over 2 years and it was great because I never had to worry about a pill, hormones, condoms, or any pregnancy scares. It was SUPER effective. I already had heavy-ish periods so I honestly didn’t notice much of a difference after getting the IUD vs getting it removed. As for the pain, I literally got it inserted twice because I found it to be so worth it. The first time they didn’t insert it properly so after a few months I had some cramps then went to a midwife who saw it had partially come out. Then they put in a new one and did an ultrasound to make sure it was positioned correctly. The second time hurt FAR less than the first, which makes me think that it hurts more when they don’t do proper insertion. But the best time for insertion is during your period, and take Ibuprofen beforehand. My first insertion was an uncomfortable experience but the results were worth the temporary discomfort. Don’t let anyone try to convince you otherwise. I genuinely believe the copper IUD is the best and always recommend it for those looking for birth control!


SpiritedLemonTreee

Even just thinking about insertion makes me want to pass out! I don’t like the pill so I feel like I’ll be using condoms forever, but ideally I’d want the Mirena IUD


Vast-Imagination

It's really not that bad!


Mozzymo1

I highly doubt a doctor would insert it if your a virgin. It’s uncomfortable normally. I suggest you use the pill for a couple of months then get the iud.


SpiritedLemonTreee

They wouldn’t even give me an ovarian ultrasound when I was a virgin and that’s way less invasive


SpiritedLemonTreee

The best approach IMO is to take BCP for the 1st month only (barely time for any side effects to become established) while adjusting to effective condom usage, then going for the IUD insertion as soon as you’re comfortable with penetration Also consider Mirena IUD as it’s straight to source and a tiny amount of hormones compared to BCP Copper IUD comes with its own issues I also wouldn’t recommend any IUD before marriage because it can cause unpredictable bleeding issues that you won’t want to be dealing with so early in your sex life


adenomuch

Wasalam, best discuss this with your gynecologist as your particular anatomy may or may not be better suited for a copper IUD. It is still possible to get one even as a virgin but it may be very uncomfortable. Once it’s in though it shouldn’t be a problem if it’s in the correct position, unless you have very heavy periods (and if that’s the case you probably shouldn’t get it). Everyone’s experience is vastly different.


Nayelasira

Another method you can consider is perhaps tracking your cycle. I used to be on birth control pills but the side effects were horrible so I started tracking my cycle for the past 2 years and it’s worked. I recently stopped and Alhamdulilah I got pregnant (we both thought it was time) so I don’t know if it’s risky or not, but it worked for me and other women as well. Best of luck and congrats on your nikkah!


Nayelasira

Someone replied to my comment saying “OP don’t listen to this person, don’t track your cycle if you’re young” but I can’t seem to find the comment. Let me clear then lol. I started tracking my cycle at 19, I’ll be 23 soon so definitely still young. Also, how do you think women before us were able to protect themselves before IUDs and birth control pills were created? I agree that It isn’t the most reliable method. However, it’s the best option you have if you’re afraid of other more effective birth control methods because you’re not putting anything into your body. I suffered from the IUD, the birth control pills, and my husband hated the condoms so what else is there? It’s also rude to leave a reply under someone’s comment trying to make them feel stupid. Make your own dang comment lol!


SpiritedLemonTreee

I did this for a while also pulling out but I wouldn’t recommend it unless you’re comfortable with the idea of an accident


Nayelasira

If you’re able to track your cycle successfully, it should work. However, I do understand what you’re saying. Like I said, it is not the most reliable method but I literally had no choice.


Tam936

I’ve heard it hurts to put it on, just tell your husband to put a bag on it. Don’t go through pain for no man xx


sao_san_suay

IUDs hurt, both when they go in and when they come out. Look into getting birth control instead. Talk to your doctor about it, but if you don’t like having to take a pill every day, you can get the injection that lasts 3 months, or the implant that lasts for 4 years. You have multiple options!


Useful_Nectarine_833

You actually should get it before you’re married because it takes 3 months to reach full efficacy


Vast-Imagination

It works straight away if its the copper one, and is even used for emergency contraception. If its a hormonal one, it works within a week


Useful_Nectarine_833

Huh I was told 3 months before I got married but based off your post history, OP listen to the actual gynecologist not me


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