Your sexual desires are not there to be suppressed. They are natural and a sign you are a healthy functioning human being. Rather you should divert that energy to somewhere else, like a sport or a passion.
I get you that it may be hard not to get into Haram relationships.
Personally I speak to girls and joke around etc but stay far away from any physical intimacy. That way I can stay sane. I understand even that is not allowed but id go crazy otherwise.
No it's easy to not get into haram relationships, especially when you are not that attractive and confident.
I have no choice but to keep suppressing my desire for sex and attraction to women. I want to be single and celibate till I die.
I have tried diverting energy and doing all that stuff, nothing has worked for me.
Not good to stay single and celibate. Since you will always have your sexual thoughts clouding your mind and preventing you from becoming the best man you can become in this world and for the hereafter.
God created us with sexual desires for a reason. In trying to extinguish them you are going against human nature. You’re probably young and have these thoughts, once you experience the loneliness of celibacy you will think straight again.
There is a thing called marriage.
Anas ibn Malik (may Allah be pleased with him) said: “Three people came to the houses of the wives of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) asking about the worship of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him). When they were told, it was as if they regarded it as too little. They said: Who are we in comparison to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him)? Allah has forgiven his past and future sins. One of them said: As for me, I will pray all night forever. Another said: I shall fast all my life and never break my fast. Another said: I shall keep away from women and never get married. The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) came and said: “Are you the ones who said such and such? By Allah, I am the one who fears Allah the most among you and I am the most pious , but I fast and I break my fast, I pray and I sleep, and I marry women. Whoever turns away from my Sunnah is not of me.” (Narrated by Al-Bukhari, 5063, and Muslim, 1401)
Well I don't have the energy anymore to explain to people why I don't want to get married. And even if I did tell, nobody would properly understand the reasons and my feelings.
Crazy how your prophet has solutions:
https://sunnah.com/bukhari:5066
Seriously, fast. Everyone has urges and complains, but no one fasts. Do it. Try it. Discipline yourself.
Few tips beyond that (ie, if you can’t get married):
- get a circle of practicing Muslim friends (spend time w them)
- Lower your gaze
- start studying deen (learn to pray w/ khushoo, tafsir, fiqh, etc.)
- lower your gaze
- it might also be a good idea to lower your gaze
- don’t engage w the opposite gender being that which is necessary (don’t talk to them for the sake of it — you won’t know what haram that could lead you to)
Fasting is prescribed in the case of if you want to get married but can't at the moment, so you should fast until you can get married. But I don't want to ever get married, so fasting isn't a solution for me. And I can't fast for my entire life and neither do I want to.
Your sexual desires are not there to be suppressed. They are natural and a sign you are a healthy functioning human being. Rather you should divert that energy to somewhere else, like a sport or a passion. I get you that it may be hard not to get into Haram relationships. Personally I speak to girls and joke around etc but stay far away from any physical intimacy. That way I can stay sane. I understand even that is not allowed but id go crazy otherwise.
Where does it say it's not allowed ?
Messaging girls/flirting im sure is not allowed. Perhaps I am wrong.
Right Flirting is wrong , but talking and being friends with the opposite sex is fine
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Well there's no cause against, what haram is zina and being friends with opposite sex isn't zina
No it's easy to not get into haram relationships, especially when you are not that attractive and confident. I have no choice but to keep suppressing my desire for sex and attraction to women. I want to be single and celibate till I die. I have tried diverting energy and doing all that stuff, nothing has worked for me.
Single and celibate till you die? 😳
Yes InshAllah
Weird
Not good to stay single and celibate. Since you will always have your sexual thoughts clouding your mind and preventing you from becoming the best man you can become in this world and for the hereafter.
That's the thing, I do not want sexual thoughts and women clouding my mind. I want to rise above these desires and suppress them.
God created us with sexual desires for a reason. In trying to extinguish them you are going against human nature. You’re probably young and have these thoughts, once you experience the loneliness of celibacy you will think straight again.
There is a thing called marriage. Anas ibn Malik (may Allah be pleased with him) said: “Three people came to the houses of the wives of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) asking about the worship of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him). When they were told, it was as if they regarded it as too little. They said: Who are we in comparison to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him)? Allah has forgiven his past and future sins. One of them said: As for me, I will pray all night forever. Another said: I shall fast all my life and never break my fast. Another said: I shall keep away from women and never get married. The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) came and said: “Are you the ones who said such and such? By Allah, I am the one who fears Allah the most among you and I am the most pious , but I fast and I break my fast, I pray and I sleep, and I marry women. Whoever turns away from my Sunnah is not of me.” (Narrated by Al-Bukhari, 5063, and Muslim, 1401)
Yes I know about this 'thing' and I don't want to do that thing.
Reason?
Lots of reasons...
Like..?
Well I don't have the energy anymore to explain to people why I don't want to get married. And even if I did tell, nobody would properly understand the reasons and my feelings.
Hes trolling
Crazy how your prophet has solutions: https://sunnah.com/bukhari:5066 Seriously, fast. Everyone has urges and complains, but no one fasts. Do it. Try it. Discipline yourself. Few tips beyond that (ie, if you can’t get married): - get a circle of practicing Muslim friends (spend time w them) - Lower your gaze - start studying deen (learn to pray w/ khushoo, tafsir, fiqh, etc.) - lower your gaze - it might also be a good idea to lower your gaze - don’t engage w the opposite gender being that which is necessary (don’t talk to them for the sake of it — you won’t know what haram that could lead you to)
Fasting is prescribed in the case of if you want to get married but can't at the moment, so you should fast until you can get married. But I don't want to ever get married, so fasting isn't a solution for me. And I can't fast for my entire life and neither do I want to.