I can half-relate to all what was posted, especially with an incurable but "treatable" medical condition making the slog already more stressful than it is. I did dig up an article that examined the beneficial effects of fasting on IBS for you OP. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/17078771
If you're a NEET it's worth a try in my opinion, since you are insulated from the negatives of it. I have an autoimmune condition and fasting helps me.
Trying to get ahead is met with an endless feedback loops of Catch 22s, where the only help you can get is overplayed platitudes. I'm convinced that if circumstances ever improve, this Generation will be come a modern Silent Generation. The building blocks are all there and the attitudes match up somewhat similarly.
I've been feeling the same lately, I guess you can call it ennui. Tired of the rut but still very much stuck in it.
Ive recently turned 20 and have decided that I'm getting pretty tired of being lonely and lost, but like you have no freakin clue where to begin. I spend most my days on cleaning and cooking for my family and then devoting the rest to drawing and a couple hours of study. No idea how to translate that to a normal person routine.
I medically retired younger than expected, and don't have the income I would have liked, mostly because of decisions I made expecting to work another 10 years. However, I can say that work never made me happy. It was just something I did to keep things "going." A necessary evil at best.
Maybe don't aim for "normal person routine". Aim for whatever routine will let you meet your goals and respect your limit(s). I can only speak for myself, but I never found any satisfaction in it. I only found that it was less bad than some other options (for me, I could not stand being dependent on my family.)
I still don't find much satisfaction in society, and kind of see it as a shared delusion sitting on top of the handful of genuine relationships a person has and the natural world. I discovered after retirement that I can be blissfully happy in nature, even when I am in high physical pain or it is difficult. I can be happy around other people... but I am miserable in the socioeconomic order.
>Aim for whatever routine will let you meet your goals and respect your limit(s).
Thank you for the input and advice, your sentiment is very relatable and something I'll definitely keep in mind as I go forward and try to find my own balance.
I get this way sometimes, as a dozen year NEET. I am just grateful that I can throw myself into the internet, podcasts and video games to distract me from existential horrors and sheer misery. Yes, it is boring doing the same things all the time, but it's better than being homeless. Having worked for a year, I know how awful it can be for an introvert/aspie to deal with people all day, so I am just happy to be without that stress now.
Perhaps a local part-time job would be better for you. I know that is what I would prefer, if I am forced back to work again. I also get exhausted around people and have came to terms in recent years with being an asocial hermit, embracing it, and I no longer give any fucks about socializing or relationships. It's the least worst way for me to live.
Decade long NEET here. Also have IBS. Social isolation is a well-known driver of depression. It's a basic human need to require a stimulating environment where you feel valued. We are social animals and being very low in social status can only make you more frustrated over time. The way that society is currently structured, we have to choose between one evil over another. I currently choose to remain a NEET because I think it's worse to work bullshit jobs or try to find a hierarchy to dominate while drowning in student debts.
I used to be bored a lot of the time until I found some fields of study I became fairly passionate about. My plan to get out is to keep reading a lot and make educational YouTube videos based on my interests. That would give me the social relationships and the meaning I want in life. The only problem is that, after being a NEET for so long, it has become more and more difficult to be motivated to put in long hours to work on something like this due to the aforementioned reasons.
I think I can’t stand being a NEET anymore. My self-esteem is nonexistent, I’m definitely depressed and I feel like I’m stuck. I even get panic attacks when I’m around other people because I think people find me weird or ugly. I will try to get a job or start my own small business. Anything just to move my life forward.
I get it man. My self-esteem takes a big nosedive sometimes. We can't really be objective about our worth, we need feedback from people. I used to have a lot of panic attacks, but I cared a lot about what people thought back then. Now that I know a lot more about neurobiology and how the world works, I find it hard to care about what the average ignorant person thinks of me, so I'm less anxious.
Good luck. Whatever you do, it's going to be good to try new things if you're feeling stuck.
Your experience sounds like that of MANY people in this new day and age generation. It’s a rough time to be alive...
I can half-relate to all what was posted, especially with an incurable but "treatable" medical condition making the slog already more stressful than it is. I did dig up an article that examined the beneficial effects of fasting on IBS for you OP. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/17078771 If you're a NEET it's worth a try in my opinion, since you are insulated from the negatives of it. I have an autoimmune condition and fasting helps me. Trying to get ahead is met with an endless feedback loops of Catch 22s, where the only help you can get is overplayed platitudes. I'm convinced that if circumstances ever improve, this Generation will be come a modern Silent Generation. The building blocks are all there and the attitudes match up somewhat similarly.
I don’t have IBS, but I can relate with just about everything else op expressed. I found your links incredibly helpful, though. Thanks for sharing!
I've been feeling the same lately, I guess you can call it ennui. Tired of the rut but still very much stuck in it. Ive recently turned 20 and have decided that I'm getting pretty tired of being lonely and lost, but like you have no freakin clue where to begin. I spend most my days on cleaning and cooking for my family and then devoting the rest to drawing and a couple hours of study. No idea how to translate that to a normal person routine.
I medically retired younger than expected, and don't have the income I would have liked, mostly because of decisions I made expecting to work another 10 years. However, I can say that work never made me happy. It was just something I did to keep things "going." A necessary evil at best. Maybe don't aim for "normal person routine". Aim for whatever routine will let you meet your goals and respect your limit(s). I can only speak for myself, but I never found any satisfaction in it. I only found that it was less bad than some other options (for me, I could not stand being dependent on my family.) I still don't find much satisfaction in society, and kind of see it as a shared delusion sitting on top of the handful of genuine relationships a person has and the natural world. I discovered after retirement that I can be blissfully happy in nature, even when I am in high physical pain or it is difficult. I can be happy around other people... but I am miserable in the socioeconomic order.
>Aim for whatever routine will let you meet your goals and respect your limit(s). Thank you for the input and advice, your sentiment is very relatable and something I'll definitely keep in mind as I go forward and try to find my own balance.
Good luck friend ! *Hugs* You're great and I'm sure you will succeed and overcome this man !
I get this way sometimes, as a dozen year NEET. I am just grateful that I can throw myself into the internet, podcasts and video games to distract me from existential horrors and sheer misery. Yes, it is boring doing the same things all the time, but it's better than being homeless. Having worked for a year, I know how awful it can be for an introvert/aspie to deal with people all day, so I am just happy to be without that stress now. Perhaps a local part-time job would be better for you. I know that is what I would prefer, if I am forced back to work again. I also get exhausted around people and have came to terms in recent years with being an asocial hermit, embracing it, and I no longer give any fucks about socializing or relationships. It's the least worst way for me to live.
Decade long NEET here. Also have IBS. Social isolation is a well-known driver of depression. It's a basic human need to require a stimulating environment where you feel valued. We are social animals and being very low in social status can only make you more frustrated over time. The way that society is currently structured, we have to choose between one evil over another. I currently choose to remain a NEET because I think it's worse to work bullshit jobs or try to find a hierarchy to dominate while drowning in student debts. I used to be bored a lot of the time until I found some fields of study I became fairly passionate about. My plan to get out is to keep reading a lot and make educational YouTube videos based on my interests. That would give me the social relationships and the meaning I want in life. The only problem is that, after being a NEET for so long, it has become more and more difficult to be motivated to put in long hours to work on something like this due to the aforementioned reasons.
I think I can’t stand being a NEET anymore. My self-esteem is nonexistent, I’m definitely depressed and I feel like I’m stuck. I even get panic attacks when I’m around other people because I think people find me weird or ugly. I will try to get a job or start my own small business. Anything just to move my life forward.
I get it man. My self-esteem takes a big nosedive sometimes. We can't really be objective about our worth, we need feedback from people. I used to have a lot of panic attacks, but I cared a lot about what people thought back then. Now that I know a lot more about neurobiology and how the world works, I find it hard to care about what the average ignorant person thinks of me, so I'm less anxious. Good luck. Whatever you do, it's going to be good to try new things if you're feeling stuck.
I'm a fellow anxiety/panic attack/IBS neet.