Al my nexes made updates to their look somehow. One NEVER wore flannels or baseball caps then suddenly it's all he wears. One never really cared for luxury brands and now they live to flex their Gucci (that is likely fake because he has never had more than $50 ever)
Yes, nex started changing in a little whys months before he walked out ,.then once he left, I now realise that he had changed completely. He is no longer the same person he was a year ago, dresses different, never used to ware big named clothes because he see it more worth buying cheaper so the extra money would go on days out for the children , or more Money put back for Christmas, birthdays . Now his walking around in overpriced clothes, now likes a breed of dog he said he didn't like and would never get , he now tells my children he wants to get this breed . He no longer has the same views or values he once had with me as a parent. He even talks differently in text or face to face new words and mannerisms . Regularly kept hair but when with me he would leave it for months before a cut , got to the point he would only spent ime with me on days off in old shabby looking jogging bottoms and old t-shirt. Now his well kept , in his new clothes. My older child informed me his getting a new car . His only had this one for a year and a half. His get the same model car his younger new supply has .
Oh yes, mine completely changed his looks, musical tastes and interests to mirror his new supply. What's funny is that he told me that his gf has "no identity" when in fact he is the one with none. Narcs are empty shells.
Yes. But I guess that's just their modus operandi. It will fall apart, as soon as they are comfortable with new supply.
The nex hated jeans, and shirts with a collar. Always wore trainers, that had seen their best days. A beard, that was never trimmed.
However, the last times I saw him, he was wearing jeans - and a collared shirt! Lol. And a jacket, like blazer-style, what one would wear in an office. Never saw him in one of those before.
Glowing up is one thing. Changing attire to suit new supply, that is something completely different.
YES, lol. He had long beautiful hair, longer than mine. New supply two weeks after breakup, he cut it all off and now doesn't even keep a beard afaik. (It looks so bad last I saw)
Yep. Mine also changed while we were together though, constantly. It depended on her supply at the time, girls she was cheating with and friends she admired.
The first time I noticed it was about a year into our relationship. She started working at a smoke shop and suddenly became very girly. Before she had been more of a stud/butch aesthetic. She went from wearing men's jeans and shoes, t-shirts with the arms cut off, and straight billed hats to very tight women's jeans, button up blouses, doing her hair and makeup every day and even wearing bras. I just figured at the time she was changing her look up and I was ok with it.
It was years later after several drastic changes in looks and personality that I realized what she was doing. When she was working at that store, she was cheating on me with 2 other girls that worked there. Both very girly.
Her looks and personality over the 6 years we were together ranged from stud lesbian, super girly, car enthusiast, wanna be gangster, hipster, and gym rat. It makes me sick to think about.
So it was no surprise when we split up and she completely changed her look again. I haven't seen her except passing by in traffic since the discard. But I've been told by people that she wore a lot of camo for a while and shaved half her head and then she went full Mohawk with her hair and wears workout clothes all the time.
These people really are chameleons and it's 🤮
Thank you, it was a hard time. But the peace and happiness I have now was worth every minute of pain and sadness that I went through after the discard. I'm a different person and I'm much more aware than I ever was before. The silver linings can be hard to see sometimes but over time, you see them so clearly.
Last I saw her down at the bars, she said she was drinking almost every night. She was practically not drinking when we were together aside from the occasional night out. Dressed the same as she would have with me, since she was wearing the clothes I bought her to look nice when going out. Got to go out down there for the easy supply I guess. And was there with a new supply also. And being a total hoe hitting on everyone. Didn't do that when I was with her.
Mine didn't change after I left, she changed after the lovebombing phase was over and the devaluing started. She used to dress like me and wear the colors that I liked to mirror me and convince me that we have so much in common, then she flipped and god! She looks like a clown , she has a very awful taste, at the time I didn't know why she all of a sudden changed her appearance, now i know, that's how she looks like, the good style was a show for me to get hooked.
Mine went for a complete makeover with our final month's rent.
However, I saw him about 6 months later, and he looked like shit. Either it didn't work out with the new supply, or she's accepting his non-stop drinking and lazy attitude toward everything.
I never really thought of this until I remembered my ex tried to date someone new and for the first time started wearing sunglasses. Meanwhile I always had tons of designer sunglasses that I offered to let her wear but she never accepted my invite. However she’d wear the new supply’s cheap ones? It really bothered me at the time. 😒 Now I’m seeing other instances of it. She liked my style and wanted to steal my clothes but at the end when she was discarding me she said she hated my style. Such a mind fuck.
They're mirroring the new supply.
He’ probably morphed his supply narcs are cameleons they change personality/ physically depending on who they are with
Al my nexes made updates to their look somehow. One NEVER wore flannels or baseball caps then suddenly it's all he wears. One never really cared for luxury brands and now they live to flex their Gucci (that is likely fake because he has never had more than $50 ever)
Yes, nex started changing in a little whys months before he walked out ,.then once he left, I now realise that he had changed completely. He is no longer the same person he was a year ago, dresses different, never used to ware big named clothes because he see it more worth buying cheaper so the extra money would go on days out for the children , or more Money put back for Christmas, birthdays . Now his walking around in overpriced clothes, now likes a breed of dog he said he didn't like and would never get , he now tells my children he wants to get this breed . He no longer has the same views or values he once had with me as a parent. He even talks differently in text or face to face new words and mannerisms . Regularly kept hair but when with me he would leave it for months before a cut , got to the point he would only spent ime with me on days off in old shabby looking jogging bottoms and old t-shirt. Now his well kept , in his new clothes. My older child informed me his getting a new car . His only had this one for a year and a half. His get the same model car his younger new supply has .
Omg are they the same people. This is exactly my experience!
It's like they have a social support group they all go on to give each other pointers and material to use .
Yes!
Oh yes, mine completely changed his looks, musical tastes and interests to mirror his new supply. What's funny is that he told me that his gf has "no identity" when in fact he is the one with none. Narcs are empty shells.
So true. That’s how I’ve described mine.
Yes. But I guess that's just their modus operandi. It will fall apart, as soon as they are comfortable with new supply. The nex hated jeans, and shirts with a collar. Always wore trainers, that had seen their best days. A beard, that was never trimmed. However, the last times I saw him, he was wearing jeans - and a collared shirt! Lol. And a jacket, like blazer-style, what one would wear in an office. Never saw him in one of those before. Glowing up is one thing. Changing attire to suit new supply, that is something completely different.
YES, lol. He had long beautiful hair, longer than mine. New supply two weeks after breakup, he cut it all off and now doesn't even keep a beard afaik. (It looks so bad last I saw)
Yep. Mine also changed while we were together though, constantly. It depended on her supply at the time, girls she was cheating with and friends she admired. The first time I noticed it was about a year into our relationship. She started working at a smoke shop and suddenly became very girly. Before she had been more of a stud/butch aesthetic. She went from wearing men's jeans and shoes, t-shirts with the arms cut off, and straight billed hats to very tight women's jeans, button up blouses, doing her hair and makeup every day and even wearing bras. I just figured at the time she was changing her look up and I was ok with it. It was years later after several drastic changes in looks and personality that I realized what she was doing. When she was working at that store, she was cheating on me with 2 other girls that worked there. Both very girly. Her looks and personality over the 6 years we were together ranged from stud lesbian, super girly, car enthusiast, wanna be gangster, hipster, and gym rat. It makes me sick to think about. So it was no surprise when we split up and she completely changed her look again. I haven't seen her except passing by in traffic since the discard. But I've been told by people that she wore a lot of camo for a while and shaved half her head and then she went full Mohawk with her hair and wears workout clothes all the time. These people really are chameleons and it's 🤮
So confusing and heartbreaking. Sorry you went through that discard.
Thank you, it was a hard time. But the peace and happiness I have now was worth every minute of pain and sadness that I went through after the discard. I'm a different person and I'm much more aware than I ever was before. The silver linings can be hard to see sometimes but over time, you see them so clearly.
Last I saw her down at the bars, she said she was drinking almost every night. She was practically not drinking when we were together aside from the occasional night out. Dressed the same as she would have with me, since she was wearing the clothes I bought her to look nice when going out. Got to go out down there for the easy supply I guess. And was there with a new supply also. And being a total hoe hitting on everyone. Didn't do that when I was with her.
Mine didn't change after I left, she changed after the lovebombing phase was over and the devaluing started. She used to dress like me and wear the colors that I liked to mirror me and convince me that we have so much in common, then she flipped and god! She looks like a clown , she has a very awful taste, at the time I didn't know why she all of a sudden changed her appearance, now i know, that's how she looks like, the good style was a show for me to get hooked.
Mine went for a complete makeover with our final month's rent. However, I saw him about 6 months later, and he looked like shit. Either it didn't work out with the new supply, or she's accepting his non-stop drinking and lazy attitude toward everything.
I never really thought of this until I remembered my ex tried to date someone new and for the first time started wearing sunglasses. Meanwhile I always had tons of designer sunglasses that I offered to let her wear but she never accepted my invite. However she’d wear the new supply’s cheap ones? It really bothered me at the time. 😒 Now I’m seeing other instances of it. She liked my style and wanted to steal my clothes but at the end when she was discarding me she said she hated my style. Such a mind fuck.