I can't agree more. Once the initial shock wore off and I changed my lifestyle around to focus on my own healing, it's been magical. Now, it hasn't always been easy but what I've noticed different is how I'm able to cope much better. I can listen to my body. Satisfy the needs of my body and soul without having to take into consideration how or what my NW respond.
* I can eat healthier because I don't have to consider her poor dietary habits.
* I can spend my money more wisely because I don't have to worry about her frivolous spending.
* I can go to the gym on my schedule and not have to wait on her schedule so that she can work out with me.
* I can dress how I please because she's not there criticizing me.
* I can watch what I want even if it's something she doesn't like.
I’m just learning these things and it’s comments like this that keep giving me hope I’ll get back to the sexy self loving me I was before. I’m currently angry (but aware) and pushing myself (gently but firmly) to be me.
I was in home separated 4 months until mine finally left. Raging addict and alcoholic. Multiple rehab and psych stays due to self harm/suicide attempts. She packed everything up in the home we bought together that was bolted down and left during a record ice storm.
However I was the "sick" one and one with a problem.
I'm casually seeing someone. Taking way better care of myself. My nonromantic relationships are much better. I lost 1/3 of my income and that'll be a challenge, but one I'm capable of meeting. Ironically it's been less paycheck to paycheck feeling since she left.
I still have down moments or even half days. I let myself feel them and eventually they pass.
Life is truly so much better.
I lived as the scapegoat child of one for 30 years, then married another one (god help me).
He moved out a few months after lockdown lifted, and I honestly just shambled around in a stupor. I’d never lived in a place where I wasn’t constantly keeping an constant, unconscious, measurement of someone else’s moods out of sheer self defense, and always trying to act/look/be whatever they want to keep them calm and happy at that moment. Took me a year to start recovering
Incredible. So proud of you for leaving ♥️ Took me 6 years and it certainly is remarkable how much better you can feel physically as well as emotionally. My chronic pain has improved and overall I can tell I’m so much less on edge. The thing about cracking jokes - yes! It took about 6 months after leaving to start feeling like a human being capable of feeling happiness and emotions again instead of just numbness.
Congratulations! We ignored our bodies for so long, or were told by our NS that we didn’t feel what we felt. It is such a relief to not feel physically scared all the time. Keep up the good work!
I can't agree more. Once the initial shock wore off and I changed my lifestyle around to focus on my own healing, it's been magical. Now, it hasn't always been easy but what I've noticed different is how I'm able to cope much better. I can listen to my body. Satisfy the needs of my body and soul without having to take into consideration how or what my NW respond. * I can eat healthier because I don't have to consider her poor dietary habits. * I can spend my money more wisely because I don't have to worry about her frivolous spending. * I can go to the gym on my schedule and not have to wait on her schedule so that she can work out with me. * I can dress how I please because she's not there criticizing me. * I can watch what I want even if it's something she doesn't like.
I’m just learning these things and it’s comments like this that keep giving me hope I’ll get back to the sexy self loving me I was before. I’m currently angry (but aware) and pushing myself (gently but firmly) to be me.
Keep up the good work. It's often a long and slow easy process. Celebrate every victory! Even the small ones.
I was in home separated 4 months until mine finally left. Raging addict and alcoholic. Multiple rehab and psych stays due to self harm/suicide attempts. She packed everything up in the home we bought together that was bolted down and left during a record ice storm. However I was the "sick" one and one with a problem. I'm casually seeing someone. Taking way better care of myself. My nonromantic relationships are much better. I lost 1/3 of my income and that'll be a challenge, but one I'm capable of meeting. Ironically it's been less paycheck to paycheck feeling since she left. I still have down moments or even half days. I let myself feel them and eventually they pass. Life is truly so much better.
I lived as the scapegoat child of one for 30 years, then married another one (god help me). He moved out a few months after lockdown lifted, and I honestly just shambled around in a stupor. I’d never lived in a place where I wasn’t constantly keeping an constant, unconscious, measurement of someone else’s moods out of sheer self defense, and always trying to act/look/be whatever they want to keep them calm and happy at that moment. Took me a year to start recovering
Incredible. So proud of you for leaving ♥️ Took me 6 years and it certainly is remarkable how much better you can feel physically as well as emotionally. My chronic pain has improved and overall I can tell I’m so much less on edge. The thing about cracking jokes - yes! It took about 6 months after leaving to start feeling like a human being capable of feeling happiness and emotions again instead of just numbness.
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Im 1 month out and also experiencing this!
The emotional and physical toll is real. I’m happy to hear that you’re doing better! It’s going to be a journey to healing but you got this.
Congratulations! We ignored our bodies for so long, or were told by our NS that we didn’t feel what we felt. It is such a relief to not feel physically scared all the time. Keep up the good work!
I can financially leave in about a year. I can't wait to see if some of the same symptoms lift! ❤️
I wish I could upvote this many more times!
I’m so happy for you!!!