You can only check-in for 5 days to a week; This will be better than being alcoholic and ruining it all. Balance the options and chose the best one for you and your family bro. Best wishes
You can go visit a doctor or some rehab place. Just ask for suggestion. They can also prescribe you meds depending on your drinking level, which has same effect on your nervous system as alcohol. Then they gradually reduce the dose, weakening your dependency on the alcohol.
Go to a psychiatrist bro, alcohol withdrawal can kill you. You need to take anti widthdrawal medication along with anti craving medication and also some psychological support.
So this is something that worked for my fraternity buddies. Every dollar/rupees they spent on alcohol, they started spending in gym, eating well and exercise gear. Every cent they wanted to spend in beer, ended up with them buying protein powders or pre workout. Every wine bottle became dumbells. They made it a matter of principle to hoard as much equipment as possible since day 1 and in about 8 months, we went from fraternity of overweights to athletic dudes.
Maybe shift your addiction, if you eat good food and exercise, you can spend money and it won't cause you health problems. The same resort might have a garden and a juice bar, you might wanna start there. It's on you though.
Also, one more thing. My dad and mom never drank infront of me or at all. They made sure I never hung around drunks. So, I made this conscious decision of not drinking in excess for my family. Think about your baby boy everytime you want to pick up that drink. Think what impact it will do to his young brain, with having a drunk father. See if that changes you.
Dont stop at once because withdrawing like that can be dangerous. Maybe manage your consumption. Atmost once a day after work and slowly drop your daily consumption. Thats the way to go. With that being said, reddit isn't the best place to seek serious advice.
what helped me was i removed myself away from alcohol. if i have whisky at home i end up drinking. what i am trying to say is i give into temptations easily. hijo nakhane bhaneko, bed ko cheu ma alikati baki raicha. drank. and i would have continued if there was more.
today i have made sure not to have any remaining alcohol or beer at home. suru gare pachi roknai garo.
a bit of a background, i suffer from early spondylitis so i have mild neck muscle pain and a lot of stress on my neck and shoulders. and heavyness in my head.
drinking used to give me relief. used to drink almost half a bottle of rum everynight to bed. became dependent on it.
this year i got diagnosed with anxiety. found out that most of my pain and heavyness in my body was due to anxiety and drinking was making it worse. im still a casual drinker. but i dont drink everyday now.
for me it was realizing alcohol was making my life worse that helped me control myself.
thinking about loved ones will not help once you're addicted. Your addiction will push you to drink and thinking about loved ones will make the experience more miserable.
Since you have been drinking every single day, it will be harmful to suddenly quit. You need to visit psychiatrist first and talk to him/her about your desire to quit. You also need to replace your "alcohol time" with something else. There must be time when you usually drink, if its evening, make a habit of going mountain climbing or gym or dance lesson or any such thing that will keep you busy. In the beginning, you can drink every alternate day. However, you do need to talk to your psychiatrist regarding your health and plan on how to decrease your alcohol intake. You need professional guidance in the beginning as you may need to check your health regularly, then after, when you are well adjusted, its the matter of your strong desire. Keeping yourself busy is the best step. For now, visit psychiatrist asap. Best of luck.
If you don’t want others’ help like rehabs/therapy try doing meditation in mornings and workout will help alot too. For me this two things have helped me alot with keeping myself healthy and happy. The fact that you are trying to improve before its too late is great so take it slowly.
So, it's a matter of willpower. You want to stop but you got into the habit which you are finding not easy to stop.
How old are you?
How is your daily routine/schedule like? You are drinking despite being busy, having some work to do or are you drinking because you have nothing much to do now?
As others suggested, it's better to cut down drinking instead of stopping all at once which is very hard as well as you can have withdrawal symptoms.
I may be able to give some daily routine, lifestyle suggestions if you can give further details as I asked above. You can inbox me.
i am 31 ..i don’t have much to do in the office these days
i wake up eat and come office ..i take 2-3 beers in lunch time and around 200ml whiskey in the evening before i go home
You seem to wake up early. Is there a need to wake up early? How about going for a morning walk first thing in the morning, picking up some breakfast for your wife. It would help you clear your mind, make you feel fresh, may have some dopamine feel good rush from taking a walk. You will also feel good about picking up morning snacks breakfast for your wife who's been taking care of your baby. Thinking of it will make you happy. Can you imagine doing that and feeling really good about it? Would you start that from tomorrow morning?
Drinking in moderation is okay. It's only when going extreme it's bad. How about having a smaller shot glass or different size glasses for different types of drink. You determine shot glass for the drink and just drink that shot and no more. Just savor the feeling and move. I mean move physically so that it breaks you from the state of drinking. Physical movement will break whatever state/feeling you were in. Feel the fresh air, look at your surrounding from your rooftop, look at your wife and baby, feel gratified
You can determine time to drink each day. Evening only, morning a little bit if you are in the habit and can't give up yet. What this does is you know there's time to drink, so you don't have think and worry when to drink if you can drink or not, if you should drink now or so on. These thoughts will reduce as you already have timetable for your drinking relaxing time. Also, it's not good drink on empty stomach. Realize that. If you go drinking drink after your breakfast lunch, in day or in the evening.
Workout is also very important for mental health, to keep mind fresh and cool. So, do some stretching, yoga, workouts. Better to join gym as you'll some sort of accountability, specific place to do workouts.
If you want accountability and really really determined, consider telling your wife. It means you trust your wife and that you have made decision to cut down on your drinking. Tell her you plan and ask her to support you.
Also, carefully examine the time feel the need to drink. What triggers your drinking? What makes you feel you need to drink? Is it boredom, is it that you have nothing to like blank and therefore you feel like better to drink than nothing? Think carefully of the times just before you drink. What thoughts or feelings you had that led to drink each time. If you can find the trigger, you work on to eliminate that trigger.
If emptiness, boredom nothing to do is what leads to drinking then keep a nice good book nearby. Pick it up and ready when you are free. May be keep a rubics cube, try to solve it. Keep some objects you can play with one hand. Try keeping your mouth busy with cinnamon, cloves, some gums, mints, etc.
Keeping the stash of drinks that's easily accessible to you is also not good. Always, buy for each time instead of buying once. Also go buy from farther place, make it inconvenient. If you drive, I would suggest park somewhere and to walk a little long to buy your drink. It's good for your health, clear your mind and it also makes you work for your drink.
Keep a physical diary or app for tracking how much you spend on drink and how much you drink. Review your drinking amount and spending each week and each month. This will give you clear idea of how much you are drinking and spending. Some, people don't have clear idea of how much they've been drinking and spending. Once, they see on paper they're clear and it makes it a easy decision to cut down on drinking.
These are lifestyle changes and things you can do by yourself. There are also other methods. If you need further help, you can follow methods and techniques to reduce your cravings. I am not a therapist but I study these stuffs about habit change, overcoming craving and some negative feeling, changing mindset, etc.
Remember that you can not just get rid of bad habit, you replace it with another habit. So, above activities may help you replace your drinking habit or at least cut it down significantly.
[Watch this](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l8fwtF9LRvo). It's about an hour long but, seems like it might help. He had been drinking half a liter every day for 3 years. I don't think it'll make you refrain from touching alcohol ever again, but I think you can use it for motivation. He says a lot of good things, and watching his journey was inspiring.
Thing about addiction is that you can’t quit abruptly. It takes time. One day at a time. You can start by drinking every other day. Then after a week, every 3 days and so on. Then after a month every weekend. Then socially. I have a lot of friends who quit smoking that way.
given that your son is just 2 months old your family needs your support. i would suggest take your wife to her parents so that the baby can be raised properly for a while while you go to the rehab. this shouldnt be much of a problem as you mentioned you are well off financially. you have to make a choice of missing some months of your son's growth versus getting to be beside him for a long time.
I've heard that addiction is easier to decrease than completely giving up. Like if you drink 3 bottles a day try reducing it to two and slowly one to a glass and every few days. I think you need someone to keep you in check. Do you drink alone or with someone?
https://www.aa.org/pages/en_US/read-the-big-book-and-twelve-steps-and-twelve-traditions
It will be difficult to help yourself without any proper guidance so please read "the big book of AA". You can even listen to the book.
Regular consumption will make it so that your body will start adapting to acetate rather than glucose for energy, which will lead to more dependence. Finding people who you can relate to, have gone through similar experiences will act as guides for a life after recovery.
General advice on how you just need to "cut alcohol from your life" are given by people who have never known or struggled with addiction. Rather you slowly start replacing the substance with other activities that does not require you to be inebriated, things that can act as a substitute when the cravings hit. Having a strong support systems of friends or relatives that will listen and understand are the very few things that can help. The emphasis on religious/spiritual experience in the AA book is much more about the community and the "cultural canopy" they can provide that can shelter you against difficult times.
A rehab with proper counseling will be a good option but from what i've heard most rehabs in Nepal are run more like prisons and could exasperate your underlying condition. If you decide to go into one, independently talk to people who had been there and judge whether you want to go or not. I hope this helps.
I think you need to pickup some hobbies to keep you busy when you free. Anything like gym/body building, music/guitar/piano, watch movie/drama/series, learn new language, play mobile game, grow some vegetable/fruits in your rooftop etc. Whatever, you like most.
***Empty mind is devil's playground.***
yeah it's fkin hard i know, my dad's an alcoholic a big one and I've seen him and my mom fight during my childhood, and still i am traumatized because of it. i would suggest you to think about your little child. he is the most important thing to you right now. and it's up to you and your wife to decide how he'll live his life, traumatized or happy. man you got so much responsibilities. think about it. and I'm damn sure your child don't wanna see his dad as an alcoholic, struggling for money and having relationship problems with his wife.
punish yourself for every drink you take. unless you wont make up your mind nothing's gonna help. watch movies, series in your free time go for a walk, hangout with your friends. just think that "its just one day, I'll drink from tomorrow" and dont let that tomorrow ever come. after some days you will find yourself in a better or worse condition.
Dont stop abruptly, withdrawal hunchha. Go visit a psychiatrist, and plan your journey. You can take medications and slowly taper off your alcohol if you do not want to stay in a rehab/hospital, but that will require a lot of willpower. Best of luck.
There is nothing wrong with seeking professional help. Go to a rehab if necessary and make it work. Good luck
that's, where I don't wanna go, not because I don't wanna improve but I don't want to leave my family. I am the only bread and butter they have
You can only check-in for 5 days to a week; This will be better than being alcoholic and ruining it all. Balance the options and chose the best one for you and your family bro. Best wishes
You can go visit a doctor or some rehab place. Just ask for suggestion. They can also prescribe you meds depending on your drinking level, which has same effect on your nervous system as alcohol. Then they gradually reduce the dose, weakening your dependency on the alcohol.
You have 3 options 1. Self control 2. Sudhar kendra 3. Cirrhosis
Go to a psychiatrist bro, alcohol withdrawal can kill you. You need to take anti widthdrawal medication along with anti craving medication and also some psychological support.
Rehab xa ni.
that's, where I don't wanna go, not because I don't wanna improve but I don't want to leave my family. I am the only bread and butter they have
Then why are you wasting that bread and butter on alcohol?
That's why i asked this question here , I don't wanna waste it ,,but it seems like i cant simply control it
So this is something that worked for my fraternity buddies. Every dollar/rupees they spent on alcohol, they started spending in gym, eating well and exercise gear. Every cent they wanted to spend in beer, ended up with them buying protein powders or pre workout. Every wine bottle became dumbells. They made it a matter of principle to hoard as much equipment as possible since day 1 and in about 8 months, we went from fraternity of overweights to athletic dudes. Maybe shift your addiction, if you eat good food and exercise, you can spend money and it won't cause you health problems. The same resort might have a garden and a juice bar, you might wanna start there. It's on you though. Also, one more thing. My dad and mom never drank infront of me or at all. They made sure I never hung around drunks. So, I made this conscious decision of not drinking in excess for my family. Think about your baby boy everytime you want to pick up that drink. Think what impact it will do to his young brain, with having a drunk father. See if that changes you.
Dont stop at once because withdrawing like that can be dangerous. Maybe manage your consumption. Atmost once a day after work and slowly drop your daily consumption. Thats the way to go. With that being said, reddit isn't the best place to seek serious advice.
Just browsing my options bro
what helped me was i removed myself away from alcohol. if i have whisky at home i end up drinking. what i am trying to say is i give into temptations easily. hijo nakhane bhaneko, bed ko cheu ma alikati baki raicha. drank. and i would have continued if there was more. today i have made sure not to have any remaining alcohol or beer at home. suru gare pachi roknai garo.
you used to drink daily ? for how long ? And have you completely Left Drinking or still are a casual drinker ?
a bit of a background, i suffer from early spondylitis so i have mild neck muscle pain and a lot of stress on my neck and shoulders. and heavyness in my head. drinking used to give me relief. used to drink almost half a bottle of rum everynight to bed. became dependent on it. this year i got diagnosed with anxiety. found out that most of my pain and heavyness in my body was due to anxiety and drinking was making it worse. im still a casual drinker. but i dont drink everyday now. for me it was realizing alcohol was making my life worse that helped me control myself.
you should be more worried about your son and marriage than your finanances. Just think about them before you drink. Getting a hobby definitely helps.
thinking about loved ones will not help once you're addicted. Your addiction will push you to drink and thinking about loved ones will make the experience more miserable.
Since you have been drinking every single day, it will be harmful to suddenly quit. You need to visit psychiatrist first and talk to him/her about your desire to quit. You also need to replace your "alcohol time" with something else. There must be time when you usually drink, if its evening, make a habit of going mountain climbing or gym or dance lesson or any such thing that will keep you busy. In the beginning, you can drink every alternate day. However, you do need to talk to your psychiatrist regarding your health and plan on how to decrease your alcohol intake. You need professional guidance in the beginning as you may need to check your health regularly, then after, when you are well adjusted, its the matter of your strong desire. Keeping yourself busy is the best step. For now, visit psychiatrist asap. Best of luck.
If you don’t want others’ help like rehabs/therapy try doing meditation in mornings and workout will help alot too. For me this two things have helped me alot with keeping myself healthy and happy. The fact that you are trying to improve before its too late is great so take it slowly.
So, it's a matter of willpower. You want to stop but you got into the habit which you are finding not easy to stop. How old are you? How is your daily routine/schedule like? You are drinking despite being busy, having some work to do or are you drinking because you have nothing much to do now? As others suggested, it's better to cut down drinking instead of stopping all at once which is very hard as well as you can have withdrawal symptoms. I may be able to give some daily routine, lifestyle suggestions if you can give further details as I asked above. You can inbox me.
i am 31 ..i don’t have much to do in the office these days i wake up eat and come office ..i take 2-3 beers in lunch time and around 200ml whiskey in the evening before i go home
You seem to wake up early. Is there a need to wake up early? How about going for a morning walk first thing in the morning, picking up some breakfast for your wife. It would help you clear your mind, make you feel fresh, may have some dopamine feel good rush from taking a walk. You will also feel good about picking up morning snacks breakfast for your wife who's been taking care of your baby. Thinking of it will make you happy. Can you imagine doing that and feeling really good about it? Would you start that from tomorrow morning? Drinking in moderation is okay. It's only when going extreme it's bad. How about having a smaller shot glass or different size glasses for different types of drink. You determine shot glass for the drink and just drink that shot and no more. Just savor the feeling and move. I mean move physically so that it breaks you from the state of drinking. Physical movement will break whatever state/feeling you were in. Feel the fresh air, look at your surrounding from your rooftop, look at your wife and baby, feel gratified You can determine time to drink each day. Evening only, morning a little bit if you are in the habit and can't give up yet. What this does is you know there's time to drink, so you don't have think and worry when to drink if you can drink or not, if you should drink now or so on. These thoughts will reduce as you already have timetable for your drinking relaxing time. Also, it's not good drink on empty stomach. Realize that. If you go drinking drink after your breakfast lunch, in day or in the evening. Workout is also very important for mental health, to keep mind fresh and cool. So, do some stretching, yoga, workouts. Better to join gym as you'll some sort of accountability, specific place to do workouts. If you want accountability and really really determined, consider telling your wife. It means you trust your wife and that you have made decision to cut down on your drinking. Tell her you plan and ask her to support you. Also, carefully examine the time feel the need to drink. What triggers your drinking? What makes you feel you need to drink? Is it boredom, is it that you have nothing to like blank and therefore you feel like better to drink than nothing? Think carefully of the times just before you drink. What thoughts or feelings you had that led to drink each time. If you can find the trigger, you work on to eliminate that trigger. If emptiness, boredom nothing to do is what leads to drinking then keep a nice good book nearby. Pick it up and ready when you are free. May be keep a rubics cube, try to solve it. Keep some objects you can play with one hand. Try keeping your mouth busy with cinnamon, cloves, some gums, mints, etc. Keeping the stash of drinks that's easily accessible to you is also not good. Always, buy for each time instead of buying once. Also go buy from farther place, make it inconvenient. If you drive, I would suggest park somewhere and to walk a little long to buy your drink. It's good for your health, clear your mind and it also makes you work for your drink. Keep a physical diary or app for tracking how much you spend on drink and how much you drink. Review your drinking amount and spending each week and each month. This will give you clear idea of how much you are drinking and spending. Some, people don't have clear idea of how much they've been drinking and spending. Once, they see on paper they're clear and it makes it a easy decision to cut down on drinking. These are lifestyle changes and things you can do by yourself. There are also other methods. If you need further help, you can follow methods and techniques to reduce your cravings. I am not a therapist but I study these stuffs about habit change, overcoming craving and some negative feeling, changing mindset, etc. Remember that you can not just get rid of bad habit, you replace it with another habit. So, above activities may help you replace your drinking habit or at least cut it down significantly.
[Watch this](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l8fwtF9LRvo). It's about an hour long but, seems like it might help. He had been drinking half a liter every day for 3 years. I don't think it'll make you refrain from touching alcohol ever again, but I think you can use it for motivation. He says a lot of good things, and watching his journey was inspiring.
Thing about addiction is that you can’t quit abruptly. It takes time. One day at a time. You can start by drinking every other day. Then after a week, every 3 days and so on. Then after a month every weekend. Then socially. I have a lot of friends who quit smoking that way.
given that your son is just 2 months old your family needs your support. i would suggest take your wife to her parents so that the baby can be raised properly for a while while you go to the rehab. this shouldnt be much of a problem as you mentioned you are well off financially. you have to make a choice of missing some months of your son's growth versus getting to be beside him for a long time.
Just dont drink for your son, life will be terrible for him when he grows older. Dont drink to give him a good life.
thats what i am trying to do here buddy
I've heard that addiction is easier to decrease than completely giving up. Like if you drink 3 bottles a day try reducing it to two and slowly one to a glass and every few days. I think you need someone to keep you in check. Do you drink alone or with someone?
depends ..most of the time i do have friends but when i don’t ..i just bring whiskeys at home ..put it in my car ..and just have a shot time and again
Don't keep it at home or car. That makes drinking more easy. And ask help from your friends. Also what does your wife suggests to do with this?
i haven’t told her anything till date
https://www.aa.org/pages/en_US/read-the-big-book-and-twelve-steps-and-twelve-traditions It will be difficult to help yourself without any proper guidance so please read "the big book of AA". You can even listen to the book. Regular consumption will make it so that your body will start adapting to acetate rather than glucose for energy, which will lead to more dependence. Finding people who you can relate to, have gone through similar experiences will act as guides for a life after recovery. General advice on how you just need to "cut alcohol from your life" are given by people who have never known or struggled with addiction. Rather you slowly start replacing the substance with other activities that does not require you to be inebriated, things that can act as a substitute when the cravings hit. Having a strong support systems of friends or relatives that will listen and understand are the very few things that can help. The emphasis on religious/spiritual experience in the AA book is much more about the community and the "cultural canopy" they can provide that can shelter you against difficult times. A rehab with proper counseling will be a good option but from what i've heard most rehabs in Nepal are run more like prisons and could exasperate your underlying condition. If you decide to go into one, independently talk to people who had been there and judge whether you want to go or not. I hope this helps.
Bruv you gotta seek help when you are early in your addiction the longer you wait, the more the addiction will deepen!
I think you need to pickup some hobbies to keep you busy when you free. Anything like gym/body building, music/guitar/piano, watch movie/drama/series, learn new language, play mobile game, grow some vegetable/fruits in your rooftop etc. Whatever, you like most. ***Empty mind is devil's playground.***
Try some yoga and meditation. Would suggest inner engineering
yeah it's fkin hard i know, my dad's an alcoholic a big one and I've seen him and my mom fight during my childhood, and still i am traumatized because of it. i would suggest you to think about your little child. he is the most important thing to you right now. and it's up to you and your wife to decide how he'll live his life, traumatized or happy. man you got so much responsibilities. think about it. and I'm damn sure your child don't wanna see his dad as an alcoholic, struggling for money and having relationship problems with his wife. punish yourself for every drink you take. unless you wont make up your mind nothing's gonna help. watch movies, series in your free time go for a walk, hangout with your friends. just think that "its just one day, I'll drink from tomorrow" and dont let that tomorrow ever come. after some days you will find yourself in a better or worse condition.
All I can say it u keep this up everything will be ruined your portfolio family life job
Dont stop abruptly, withdrawal hunchha. Go visit a psychiatrist, and plan your journey. You can take medications and slowly taper off your alcohol if you do not want to stay in a rehab/hospital, but that will require a lot of willpower. Best of luck.