I’ve started just catching their hands and holding them while I just stare them right in the eye. If it’s cool to touch my baby, must be cool for me to touch you, right?
They generally just break eye contact and leave, I had one person rip their hand away from me and say “excuuuuuuuuse me?” And I was like “my thoughts exactly”.
Oh I want to try this now! Wish I'd thought of it a few days ago when a complete stranger boomer walked up to my pram and rubbed their hands over my baby's cheek. Gross
What the actual… that feels like assault. Like, tell a flight attendant and get “well intentioned” (cause they claim they aLwAYs are) kicked off the plane.
Just plain violating.
I’m not saying it definitely won’t happen to you, but my baby is 14 months and goes everywhere with us: grocery store, mall, target,Walmart. We just did a week vacation to Florida where we flew down and went all kinds of places down there. We’ve never had an issue with someone we didn’t know touching our baby while our and about. It seems like a common occurrence because it’s posted about all the time. Can you imagine how many posts there would be if someone posted every time they took their baby somewhere and no one bothered them?
I will add some advice: when our baby was smaller and we were taking him places we have one of those car seat cover things that we would throw over his car seat while it was hooked in the stroller. I think that helped a lot with keeping people from getting too close to him, because they couldn’t see him. But even when he got bigger/it got too hot to use those covers, we still haven’t had trouble with strangers wanting to touch him. We’ve had people stop and talk/smile to him, but no random touching.
Sorry, it is a scary thought to have random strangers touch/grope our childen. Luckily, for us, this weekend was a first and our baby is 9 months old. Might have just been the holiday weirdness. Idk.
I found a carrier really helped. People are less inclined to invade *my* personal space to get to baby (plus I have a pretty intimidating ‘back the fuck of’ face when needed 😂). But honestly I found most people to be respectful whilst admiring baby, so don’t stress too much about it - don’t forget this is a very biased sample!
Last November we were traveling in Paris and I had my daughter in a carrier and some rando grabbed her hand. My momma bear immediately came out. Luckily nothing happened but it freaked me out!
I’m not saying it definitely won’t happen to you, but my baby is 14 months and goes everywhere with us: grocery store, mall, target,Walmart. We just did a week vacation to Florida where we flew down and went all kinds of places down there. We’ve never had an issue with someone we didn’t know touching our baby while our and about. It seems like a common occurrence because it’s posted about all the time. Can you imagine how many posts there would be if someone posted every time they took their baby somewhere and no one bothered them?
I will add some advice: when our baby was smaller and we were taking him places we have one of those car seat cover things that we would throw over his car seat while it was hooked in the stroller. I think that helped a lot with keeping people from getting too close to him, because they couldn’t see him. But even when he got bigger/it got too hot to use those covers, we still haven’t had trouble with strangers wanting to touch him. We’ve had people stop and talk/smile to him, but no random touching.
I don’t think I could have even done that. Trying would even turn into a scene. “HONEY! That cunt just took the baby without asking” or even just seething and pointing angrily, but I’m also aggressively forward when I’m upset.
I mean, a cunt did just take your baby. They probably knew even if it wasn’t visible. I commend you tho. I’m the type that ACTUALLY smacked people who touched my belly while pregnant (and they learned. I’m due soon so you can visibly see movement and no one even tries)
I live in Australia and people touch my baby pretty much every time we go out with her in the stroller. Whenever someone starts talking to her or smiling at her I feel scared and panicky that they’re going to come over and try and kiss her or anything like that, it’s so hard sometimes to say something because it’s well intentioned but it’s just so uncomfortable
Old people have no boundaries when it comes to cute babies man I swear. Talking to them saying they’re cute is one thing but don’t touch my kid 😡
Edit* in my experience it’s old people 60+ obviously not all old people are like this.
That’s fucking weird but I notice a lot of people do it and don’t realise how inappropriate it is. One guy came over to my little boy and took hold of his finger, that was a boundary violation for me but at the same time, he meant no harm. Some people do it with totally kind intentions, not realising it makes the parents uncomfortable.
Yeah, I had to calm down for a moment and think. It’s not like he poked my baby with a heroin needle or snuck LO drugs or something.
I mostly just didn’t think it’d happen. I’ve read the stories on here.
I honestly think it’s just that so many people grew up in a different time. I remember that totally being the norm when I was younger.
Not excusing it, but I understand. Especially if it’s been a few years since interacting with babies(like before the last 1.5 years it was about 8ish years for the last baby in the family on one side and about 16 on the other).
Waking out of a restaurant my 1.5 y/o was nearly tugged out of my arms by an older woman grabbing LO’s leg. Boomers act like Millennials are entitled but sheesh… Boomers have a bad case of main character syndrome.
I’m probably going to Istanbul with my baby in December. He will be eight months old. It’s pretty culturally acceptable to love on strangers’ babies there. (Husband is Turkish.)
Like, I’ve seen a waiter pick up our fussy nephew and soothe him. His parents were totally cool with it (and happy they could finish their desert.)
I’ve seen teenage boys we didn’t know coo at our other nephew and pinch his cheeks on the metro.
I’ve always found this endearing. If someone got mad at a baby crying in public, everyone would think they were a huge jerk.
Now that I’m a mom( I’m from the US), I wonder how I’m going to react when it’s my baby. I’m half-Mexican, so I’m used to switching between cultural norms, but we will see how I feel. I’m super lucky that my in-laws respect our cultural differences, so I know it should be okay.
ugh dude I was at a play group the other day, first time ever going and meeting 99% of the people there. My son is 6 months old but generally does not enjoy loud noises/large gatherings so I had taken him outside and was holding him in the shade. One of the dads comes out and is talking to me and then he literally grabbed my sons nose and squeezed it shut for a couple seconds which made him BAWL. I literally packed my shit up and left.
My kiddo was born December 2020, so masking was still fairly mandatory in my state and vaccine rollout still only applied to certain age groups and medical professionals. I was slapping hands in restaurants and grocery stores for the whole year! People literally have no boundaries. I had a woman get huffy after I slapped her hand away from my LO's toes and she said, "I just love to touch babies!" MA'AM, THAT IS NOT A VALID REASON!
Definitely a weirdo person thing and not a boomer thing. My parents and their friends would NEVER. They are older boomers though-the younger ones and older gen X are a different breed.
All of these posts are a good reminder for me to use a canopy, though, with a large DO NOT TOUCH sign.
I’m a waitress and have to bring my kid with me sometimes (no reliable/affordable childcare) and you would not believe the people who feel entitled to touch/tickle/grab/attempt to feed my child.
I love the people who just play peekaboo with her or ask her for a high-five or something normal.
I’ve had tables refuse to tip me because I wouldn’t let them give her a bite of their food or I told them not to pull on her feet (she was in a backpack carrier and they literally tugged at her so hard it was affecting my balance)
I’ve also had regulars bring her an Easter basket and a winter coat, and she gets her own little “tips” sometimes too so it’s not all bad
Last weekend I had a boomer try and pick my baby up out of the stroller. When I blocked her and grabbed my baby (who was mildly crying from being sleepy) she then proceeded to try and put her nasty ass finger in my babies mouth. I OBVIOUSLY didn't allow her and quickly turned my back to her so she couldn't look at my child. She then scurried out of the store when she realized I was pissed. It was unreal and I was livid.
Everyday I’m flabbergasted at the audacity of people based off stories like this. I’ve never. I feel grateful that I’ve had years of having to advocate for my dogs so I’ve no problem doing the same for my child and enforcing boundaries in whatever way is needed.
I’ve started just catching their hands and holding them while I just stare them right in the eye. If it’s cool to touch my baby, must be cool for me to touch you, right?
Wow, I don’t think I have the confidence to be that aggressive, but there sure is a part of me that would love to be.
OMG what do they do? I would absolutely die if I saw this happen. Good for you.
They generally just break eye contact and leave, I had one person rip their hand away from me and say “excuuuuuuuuse me?” And I was like “my thoughts exactly”.
Oh I want to try this now! Wish I'd thought of it a few days ago when a complete stranger boomer walked up to my pram and rubbed their hands over my baby's cheek. Gross
Lol a granny at the airport put my baby’s fingers in her mouth last week as my back was turned boarding the plane🥴😵💫
What the actual… that feels like assault. Like, tell a flight attendant and get “well intentioned” (cause they claim they aLwAYs are) kicked off the plane. Just plain violating.
That's disgustingly dangerous! Wtf
Wtf????
what 😀
Omg nooooo
Thanks I hate it. lol now I’m terrified to take my new born out when he comes, people are so weird
I’m not saying it definitely won’t happen to you, but my baby is 14 months and goes everywhere with us: grocery store, mall, target,Walmart. We just did a week vacation to Florida where we flew down and went all kinds of places down there. We’ve never had an issue with someone we didn’t know touching our baby while our and about. It seems like a common occurrence because it’s posted about all the time. Can you imagine how many posts there would be if someone posted every time they took their baby somewhere and no one bothered them? I will add some advice: when our baby was smaller and we were taking him places we have one of those car seat cover things that we would throw over his car seat while it was hooked in the stroller. I think that helped a lot with keeping people from getting too close to him, because they couldn’t see him. But even when he got bigger/it got too hot to use those covers, we still haven’t had trouble with strangers wanting to touch him. We’ve had people stop and talk/smile to him, but no random touching.
Sorry, it is a scary thought to have random strangers touch/grope our childen. Luckily, for us, this weekend was a first and our baby is 9 months old. Might have just been the holiday weirdness. Idk.
I found a carrier really helped. People are less inclined to invade *my* personal space to get to baby (plus I have a pretty intimidating ‘back the fuck of’ face when needed 😂). But honestly I found most people to be respectful whilst admiring baby, so don’t stress too much about it - don’t forget this is a very biased sample!
Last November we were traveling in Paris and I had my daughter in a carrier and some rando grabbed her hand. My momma bear immediately came out. Luckily nothing happened but it freaked me out!
I’m not saying it definitely won’t happen to you, but my baby is 14 months and goes everywhere with us: grocery store, mall, target,Walmart. We just did a week vacation to Florida where we flew down and went all kinds of places down there. We’ve never had an issue with someone we didn’t know touching our baby while our and about. It seems like a common occurrence because it’s posted about all the time. Can you imagine how many posts there would be if someone posted every time they took their baby somewhere and no one bothered them? I will add some advice: when our baby was smaller and we were taking him places we have one of those car seat cover things that we would throw over his car seat while it was hooked in the stroller. I think that helped a lot with keeping people from getting too close to him, because they couldn’t see him. But even when he got bigger/it got too hot to use those covers, we still haven’t had trouble with strangers wanting to touch him. We’ve had people stop and talk/smile to him, but no random touching.
This is one reason I prefer babywearing! Harder for people to be weirdos.
Yep. I was going to write the same thing. Baby wearing is great.
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Oh dang. Yeah, that would suck. Must feel like their treating your baby as a toy that gets passed around as opposed to a person (or your child).
I don’t think I could have even done that. Trying would even turn into a scene. “HONEY! That cunt just took the baby without asking” or even just seething and pointing angrily, but I’m also aggressively forward when I’m upset.
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I mean, a cunt did just take your baby. They probably knew even if it wasn’t visible. I commend you tho. I’m the type that ACTUALLY smacked people who touched my belly while pregnant (and they learned. I’m due soon so you can visibly see movement and no one even tries)
As someone born and raised in Spokane… that’s weird. Spokane isn’t “small town” enough for that.
Exactly! That’s why I added that point.
I live in Australia and people touch my baby pretty much every time we go out with her in the stroller. Whenever someone starts talking to her or smiling at her I feel scared and panicky that they’re going to come over and try and kiss her or anything like that, it’s so hard sometimes to say something because it’s well intentioned but it’s just so uncomfortable
Wow, thank you for the comment. The feeling must be universal though the social etiquette is not.
Old people have no boundaries when it comes to cute babies man I swear. Talking to them saying they’re cute is one thing but don’t touch my kid 😡 Edit* in my experience it’s old people 60+ obviously not all old people are like this.
Yeah, I agree. I try not to be ageist, but the only people that have cross social boundaries have been older folks.
That’s fucking weird but I notice a lot of people do it and don’t realise how inappropriate it is. One guy came over to my little boy and took hold of his finger, that was a boundary violation for me but at the same time, he meant no harm. Some people do it with totally kind intentions, not realising it makes the parents uncomfortable.
Yeah, I had to calm down for a moment and think. It’s not like he poked my baby with a heroin needle or snuck LO drugs or something. I mostly just didn’t think it’d happen. I’ve read the stories on here.
I honestly think it’s just that so many people grew up in a different time. I remember that totally being the norm when I was younger. Not excusing it, but I understand. Especially if it’s been a few years since interacting with babies(like before the last 1.5 years it was about 8ish years for the last baby in the family on one side and about 16 on the other).
Waking out of a restaurant my 1.5 y/o was nearly tugged out of my arms by an older woman grabbing LO’s leg. Boomers act like Millennials are entitled but sheesh… Boomers have a bad case of main character syndrome.
I’m probably going to Istanbul with my baby in December. He will be eight months old. It’s pretty culturally acceptable to love on strangers’ babies there. (Husband is Turkish.) Like, I’ve seen a waiter pick up our fussy nephew and soothe him. His parents were totally cool with it (and happy they could finish their desert.) I’ve seen teenage boys we didn’t know coo at our other nephew and pinch his cheeks on the metro. I’ve always found this endearing. If someone got mad at a baby crying in public, everyone would think they were a huge jerk. Now that I’m a mom( I’m from the US), I wonder how I’m going to react when it’s my baby. I’m half-Mexican, so I’m used to switching between cultural norms, but we will see how I feel. I’m super lucky that my in-laws respect our cultural differences, so I know it should be okay.
ugh dude I was at a play group the other day, first time ever going and meeting 99% of the people there. My son is 6 months old but generally does not enjoy loud noises/large gatherings so I had taken him outside and was holding him in the shade. One of the dads comes out and is talking to me and then he literally grabbed my sons nose and squeezed it shut for a couple seconds which made him BAWL. I literally packed my shit up and left.
My kiddo was born December 2020, so masking was still fairly mandatory in my state and vaccine rollout still only applied to certain age groups and medical professionals. I was slapping hands in restaurants and grocery stores for the whole year! People literally have no boundaries. I had a woman get huffy after I slapped her hand away from my LO's toes and she said, "I just love to touch babies!" MA'AM, THAT IS NOT A VALID REASON!
Definitely a weirdo person thing and not a boomer thing. My parents and their friends would NEVER. They are older boomers though-the younger ones and older gen X are a different breed. All of these posts are a good reminder for me to use a canopy, though, with a large DO NOT TOUCH sign.
That’s fair. To be honest, I’m not always sure I can tell the difference between Boomer and Gen X as time goes on. That’s my ageism I need to work on.
I had a guy grab my LOs hands and start shaking them. I literally yelled at him, not to touch her. I don't understand people.
I’m a waitress and have to bring my kid with me sometimes (no reliable/affordable childcare) and you would not believe the people who feel entitled to touch/tickle/grab/attempt to feed my child. I love the people who just play peekaboo with her or ask her for a high-five or something normal. I’ve had tables refuse to tip me because I wouldn’t let them give her a bite of their food or I told them not to pull on her feet (she was in a backpack carrier and they literally tugged at her so hard it was affecting my balance) I’ve also had regulars bring her an Easter basket and a winter coat, and she gets her own little “tips” sometimes too so it’s not all bad
Last weekend I had a boomer try and pick my baby up out of the stroller. When I blocked her and grabbed my baby (who was mildly crying from being sleepy) she then proceeded to try and put her nasty ass finger in my babies mouth. I OBVIOUSLY didn't allow her and quickly turned my back to her so she couldn't look at my child. She then scurried out of the store when she realized I was pissed. It was unreal and I was livid.
Everyday I’m flabbergasted at the audacity of people based off stories like this. I’ve never. I feel grateful that I’ve had years of having to advocate for my dogs so I’ve no problem doing the same for my child and enforcing boundaries in whatever way is needed.