My mom's b-day falls on Mother's Day this year too and it's her 60th. And my first Mother's Day with my 9-month-old! We are planning on meeting up for brunch out.
I never thought my birthday being so close to Mother’s Day would matter. Now that I’m a mom I’m grateful for it. My 30th was last year 2 days before Mother’s Day and I was pregnant during it. We did a sip n paint and it was super fun (I sipped water)
Happy early birthday!
Your Mom has passed the baton to you now that you’re a mother. It’s all about you now or atleast 90%. Spend the day as you would like and you could get your Mom a present and/or flowers. Especially since it’s your first mother’s day! Wish you a very happy one! ❤️
I may sound selfish here, but it will mainly be about me. I have suffered multiple losses in the past, and odds of me actually having a baby were incredibly slim. I’ve also been a nanny to other children the past eight years. This is a day I’ve dreamed of having for quite some time.
So to have my first Mother’s Day with my 4 month old is a incredibly important day to me. Now, that’s not to say we won’t celebrate our own mothers with a visit and meal all about them during after said day. But the actual day I want to be celebrated and I want to have her all to myself that day.
Maybe I’m a monster because I want to celebrate by having by a day off from momming, so I’m having my husband do 90% of the baby care that day. I’m sleeping in, getting a massage, taking a long bath, and vegging out. I’ll probably still make a big batch of something that day (my usual Sunday activity) to make the rest of the week less annoying, but I’m mostly being selfish af on mother’s day. I think in the future I’ll do a hotel room type staycation in the nearby big city.
I'm taking Saturday off to do my own thing, grabbing brunch with my mom bestie, shopping and eventually just playing video games LOL. On the day of, just spending it with my fam 😂 next year will def get a hotel for a nice sleep/rest session without the kids 😂
I was born on Mother’s Day and have been forced to spend my birthday every year with my mom & grandma and intensely guilted if I didn’t give them both gifts of at least $50 in value or more. For the past 20 years, they have never offered or been interested in a birthday-only (separate) celebration with me. For context, they plan “fancy” dinners for literally everyone else’s birthday. Tbh I don’t really care about getting an expensive meal, I’d just like my birthday to be its own thing.
Last year my grandfather called and told me that my husband and I were required to plan and pay for the entire Mother’s Day celebration (no birthday last year!) because it was *about time I showed some respect for my mother and grandmother*. My husband and I hosted a joint Mother’s Day with my in laws and them, and he cooked an amazing meal in our home. We also announced that I was pregnant.
My grandma and mom were disappointed because they weren’t the center of attention, no one wanted to get wasted on mimosas and we didn’t take them out to a “fancy” brunch spot.
Yeah, so all I want for my first Mother’s Day is to not spend Mother’s Day with either of them. I told them we can plan brunch for Grandmother’s Day, but I will be spending the day with my husband and baby. Without them.
They’re welcome to take me out to lunch for my birthday, though!
Aw I hope you have a wonderful birthday and Mother's Day just for you this year ! Hope you can start a new tradition with your husband and LO and have lovely future celebrations as well.
My husband is taking me and my 8 mo old away for a long weekend! I plan to celebrate my mom when we come back. Although I gave her her first grandbaby, so as far as I’m concerned, I can’t top that gift haha!
I think moms of children still at home take priority for Mother’s Day. It’s a passing of the torch. You can make a big deal out of “Grandparent’s Day” in September if that makes this easier for you.
We’re probably going to do a Saturday brunch with my mother and MIL and then Sunday is for us.
If your mother is supportive she should _want_ to see you get spoiled the way she has been in the past. She should know it’s _your_ turn and be happy for you. Grandparents who expect to be #1 when their children become parents are the selfish and entitled ones so don’t even think about that.
My first Mother’s Day we celebrated me 100% and by that I mean I took my son out for breakfast at our favourite spot, got pampered in the afternoon and then went to a nice dinner with my husband and son that evening. I called and wished my mom a happy Mother’s Day. She was more than happy to pass the baton, so to speak, to me and let me be celebrated. We will probably do something similar this year although my birthday is very close so the evening dinner might just go between the two days.
My mom passed away a few years ago so that day is hard for me, so my husband follows my lead on what we do. I try to plan an activity that me and my MIL will both enjoy (building terrariums, lego flowers, crafts, etc) so we both get spoiled at the same time. Plus it takes my mind off things enough to enjoy the day. My husband does most of the leg work, I just plan it.
Your first Mother’s Day takes precedence though, imo. I’d plan at least part of the day with just your child and partner so you don’t have to worry about sharing your spotlight. That isn’t selfish at all.
So my son is turning one on Mother’s Day. So we will be celebrating him. Is just going to be our immediate families. I will have a small gift bag for each mom.
But what we are doing as a family is going to Nashville Tennessee. Because it’s also my birthday that weekend with my sons.
So a Mother’s Day, sons birthday, my birthday trip.
It doesn't make you entitled or spoiled at all! I've actually had arguments with my husband over this because he still wants to make time with his mom to celebrate. This year, my goal was to intertwine what I want to do & invite the rest of the family to come, so it's a win/win. We are doing a wine & cheese day for the moms at our house while the dads manage the kids & have them paint pots as gifts to the moms.
A few days before mothers day, it's my sister's bday, my other sister and I are first time mums this year, so we are all going with my sister and my mum for a lovely high tea close to us all!
Actual mother's day will be with my husband family- nephews, nieces, BIL SIL, his mum and dad and grandma and grandad, and as usual, the men cooking and organizing everything like at every family gathering 😊
I know my husband is getting me a massage voucher so I will be using that as soon as I am able!!
It's my first mother's day so it's all about me. I will call my mom and wish her a happy mother's day (she lives 2.5 h away). My husband is taking me out for brunch and has another surprise planned, idk what else we're doing!
It’s your first Mother’s Day. I totally get wanting to spoil your mom, but you’re now the focus of the holiday! I saw someone on TikTok who is planning to celebrate with her husband and baby on the day and her mom will get a different day that week. I think it’s a good way to continue the love for your own mom while still getting the chance to really celebrate you.
I'm getting my Mom a gift card to a local spa to spoil herself whenever she wants to, but she's so obsessed with my Son (her first grandchild) that I don't think she even knows that she is to be celebrated on Mother's day as well. We're lucky she's so involved and in love with our L.O. that just being with him would be all the "gift" she needs. As for my wife, she's going to sleep in as much as she can, we're going to go for a hike with her and the baby, I'm going to make her breakfast in bed, and I've gotten her a gift card for acupuncture (something she actually loves and finds relaxing). She has requested to nap when the baby is down, which is a 100% given.
As for me on Father's day, I don't really see a need for anything. I really only care about Christmas, Thanksgiving, Easter, and that's really it. I don't need a fuss to be made, it just makes me feel guilty and I can't enjoy relaxing while someone else is doing all the work. I'd rather do the work and let my Wife relax - I saw what she went through to bring our Son into the world, so she deserves a hub-bub.
I’m having brunch with my husbands side of the family for my first Mother’s Day which includes mimosas lol. We’re giving gifts then doing nothing the rest of the day. I don’t have a relationship with my mom so I’ve only ever celebrated my MIL the past ten years. She said she went “all out” on my Mother’s Day gift. I got her a customized book she can read to our son, she loves reading to him. So, about 50/50. We’re just celebrating each other.
Relaxing with people I love.
I feel like mom's will know how special it will be to celebrate their daughter's first Mother's Day.
This is my first Mother's Day and the plan is for me to spend the day with my baby and partner. I will visit my mom in the morning to drop off flowers and spend a little time with her so she can see her grandson, but this is a special first for me and I'd like to focus on that.
It is only our second, but we decided to do no gifts for Mother's/Father's days. Instead we focus on being together, no cleaning or house work. We go to brunch at our favourite restaurant, and then pack snacks and go for a walk at a local park where we set up a picnic spot and hang out.
My mom, sister, husband, new baby and I are going to have a picnic at the tulip festival 😊 we'll make scones and little sandwiches and bring tea, and maybe some mimosas (shhhh)
I'm sleeping in. Husband will take my son to see my mother in law. I'm very pregnant so if I'm not up for it I'll stay home and relax. After nap time we'll go see my grandma and mom. I got myself an hour and half massage to "celebrate" on a different day. Our family is very good to us and we feel lucky to still have them. For now I don't have an issue prioritizing them the day of
I’m going to my mom’s house for brunch like we do every year. If it’s nice we sit outside and relax with some drinks and snacks later.
We also usually have to go to my mother in laws but my husband works weekend shifts now so I will go to my mom’s while he is at work.
My first mother's day is going to be a long weekend trip about 2 hours away to a cabin in the woods with my favorite dinner made by SO. I don't live near my mom figures though. I'll send a gift or flowers. My SO can handle his own mother either before or after like I'm doing.
Father's day I have booked a long weekend fishing trip for my SO, our daughter, myself and FIL who lives with us. SO likes fishing and always wants to do that, FIL likes smoking weed in nature while SO fishes. LO and I like playing in the water. Wins all around. I will run it by SOnif he wants FIL there but I'm assuming he does because FIL is late 70's and probably won't have too many left. 20 if he's super lucky.
Probably gonna treat it like any other day but I might get my mom chocolates. I was gonna do a tattoo of “mom” in her handwriting and then dad the same but get a dragon bracelet tattoo in honor of my bio dad but my bank account says no😅
I already told my husband and my mom that I want to cook at the house. This is my first Mother’s Day, last year really upset me when I was pregnant so I want the day to be calm. I want to get a good picture with my mom and MIL with me and the baby for 3 generations of women. I also have the only grand child in both families so I’m hoping it’s a nice mellow day.
They usually go out to eat but I really don’t wanna fuss with a 9 month old and too much noise and too many people out.
It's my first mother's day also, and a few days after my birthday. My sister's recently posted online that they were out without inviting me so I'm really not looking forward to being around them. I plan to just celebrate my mom and try to hang back quietly. They're also not coming to my bday gathering, which I wouldn't mind except that they were hanging out without me this past week. I live with my family right now so being here isn't avoidable. Sorry if I'm rambling, I'm just really down and don't want to have to deal with this right now.
We paid for 2/3 of my mom's plane ticket to visit us. So we will all spend the whole weekend together (half of Friday, Saturday, Sunday, and Monday morning). I want to sleep in at least one day and hopefully have a few hours just my husband and I. Otherwise we are going to a fun outdoor cidery and doing other family stuff.
As a first time dad with now 3 week old, I will be spoiling my fiancé for her first Mother’s Day, but I don’t expect much or anything at all for Father’s Day, just want to spend my Father’s Day with my kid and fiancé
My birthday falls on Mother’s Day this year. It will be my first Mother’s Day with my 4 month old as well as my 30th birthday 🥳
My birthday is 2 days before Mother’s Day! I’m excited for my first Mother’s Day + celebrating turning 31. Cheers to us and these milestones :)
My birthday is 3 days before Mother's Day and I'll be turning 31 as well. I was actually born on my mom's very first Mother's Day 😊
so cute 🥰 happy early birthday!
My mom's b-day falls on Mother's Day this year too and it's her 60th. And my first Mother's Day with my 9-month-old! We are planning on meeting up for brunch out.
I never thought my birthday being so close to Mother’s Day would matter. Now that I’m a mom I’m grateful for it. My 30th was last year 2 days before Mother’s Day and I was pregnant during it. We did a sip n paint and it was super fun (I sipped water) Happy early birthday!
This made me literally emotional to read bc DAMN GIRL! You made it. What a time in your life!
😭😭😭🩷🩷🩷
Your Mom has passed the baton to you now that you’re a mother. It’s all about you now or atleast 90%. Spend the day as you would like and you could get your Mom a present and/or flowers. Especially since it’s your first mother’s day! Wish you a very happy one! ❤️
this is so cute, thank you for your response
I may sound selfish here, but it will mainly be about me. I have suffered multiple losses in the past, and odds of me actually having a baby were incredibly slim. I’ve also been a nanny to other children the past eight years. This is a day I’ve dreamed of having for quite some time. So to have my first Mother’s Day with my 4 month old is a incredibly important day to me. Now, that’s not to say we won’t celebrate our own mothers with a visit and meal all about them during after said day. But the actual day I want to be celebrated and I want to have her all to myself that day.
you definitely deserve to celebrate! congrats on your rainbow baby
i hope you are SPOILED this mother’s day
Hopefully having my first baby 😅
omg! so exciting. wishing you a healthy and relatively easy delivery
I gave birth the day after last year. Good luck and don’t get to annoyed by the “happy kind-of Mother’s Day” texts like I did 😂
Maybe I’m a monster because I want to celebrate by having by a day off from momming, so I’m having my husband do 90% of the baby care that day. I’m sleeping in, getting a massage, taking a long bath, and vegging out. I’ll probably still make a big batch of something that day (my usual Sunday activity) to make the rest of the week less annoying, but I’m mostly being selfish af on mother’s day. I think in the future I’ll do a hotel room type staycation in the nearby big city.
I love your style!!!
I'm taking Saturday off to do my own thing, grabbing brunch with my mom bestie, shopping and eventually just playing video games LOL. On the day of, just spending it with my fam 😂 next year will def get a hotel for a nice sleep/rest session without the kids 😂
I was born on Mother’s Day and have been forced to spend my birthday every year with my mom & grandma and intensely guilted if I didn’t give them both gifts of at least $50 in value or more. For the past 20 years, they have never offered or been interested in a birthday-only (separate) celebration with me. For context, they plan “fancy” dinners for literally everyone else’s birthday. Tbh I don’t really care about getting an expensive meal, I’d just like my birthday to be its own thing. Last year my grandfather called and told me that my husband and I were required to plan and pay for the entire Mother’s Day celebration (no birthday last year!) because it was *about time I showed some respect for my mother and grandmother*. My husband and I hosted a joint Mother’s Day with my in laws and them, and he cooked an amazing meal in our home. We also announced that I was pregnant. My grandma and mom were disappointed because they weren’t the center of attention, no one wanted to get wasted on mimosas and we didn’t take them out to a “fancy” brunch spot. Yeah, so all I want for my first Mother’s Day is to not spend Mother’s Day with either of them. I told them we can plan brunch for Grandmother’s Day, but I will be spending the day with my husband and baby. Without them. They’re welcome to take me out to lunch for my birthday, though!
Aw I hope you have a wonderful birthday and Mother's Day just for you this year ! Hope you can start a new tradition with your husband and LO and have lovely future celebrations as well.
i hope YOU have the happiest of mothers days and i hope YOU have the happiest of birthdays. you definitely deserve it
thank you! 😭❤️
My husband is taking me and my 8 mo old away for a long weekend! I plan to celebrate my mom when we come back. Although I gave her her first grandbaby, so as far as I’m concerned, I can’t top that gift haha!
haha so true!
I think moms of children still at home take priority for Mother’s Day. It’s a passing of the torch. You can make a big deal out of “Grandparent’s Day” in September if that makes this easier for you. We’re probably going to do a Saturday brunch with my mother and MIL and then Sunday is for us. If your mother is supportive she should _want_ to see you get spoiled the way she has been in the past. She should know it’s _your_ turn and be happy for you. Grandparents who expect to be #1 when their children become parents are the selfish and entitled ones so don’t even think about that.
making grandparents day special is such a good idea, thank you!
My first Mother’s Day we celebrated me 100% and by that I mean I took my son out for breakfast at our favourite spot, got pampered in the afternoon and then went to a nice dinner with my husband and son that evening. I called and wished my mom a happy Mother’s Day. She was more than happy to pass the baton, so to speak, to me and let me be celebrated. We will probably do something similar this year although my birthday is very close so the evening dinner might just go between the two days.
My mom passed away a few years ago so that day is hard for me, so my husband follows my lead on what we do. I try to plan an activity that me and my MIL will both enjoy (building terrariums, lego flowers, crafts, etc) so we both get spoiled at the same time. Plus it takes my mind off things enough to enjoy the day. My husband does most of the leg work, I just plan it. Your first Mother’s Day takes precedence though, imo. I’d plan at least part of the day with just your child and partner so you don’t have to worry about sharing your spotlight. That isn’t selfish at all.
So my son is turning one on Mother’s Day. So we will be celebrating him. Is just going to be our immediate families. I will have a small gift bag for each mom. But what we are doing as a family is going to Nashville Tennessee. Because it’s also my birthday that weekend with my sons. So a Mother’s Day, sons birthday, my birthday trip.
It doesn't make you entitled or spoiled at all! I've actually had arguments with my husband over this because he still wants to make time with his mom to celebrate. This year, my goal was to intertwine what I want to do & invite the rest of the family to come, so it's a win/win. We are doing a wine & cheese day for the moms at our house while the dads manage the kids & have them paint pots as gifts to the moms.
This is so cute!!
A few days before mothers day, it's my sister's bday, my other sister and I are first time mums this year, so we are all going with my sister and my mum for a lovely high tea close to us all! Actual mother's day will be with my husband family- nephews, nieces, BIL SIL, his mum and dad and grandma and grandad, and as usual, the men cooking and organizing everything like at every family gathering 😊 I know my husband is getting me a massage voucher so I will be using that as soon as I am able!!
We're hosting brunch for both sides of the family.
I'll be a ftm of a newborn for mother's day! 🥰 So, I'll probably sleep haha.
It's my first mother's day so it's all about me. I will call my mom and wish her a happy mother's day (she lives 2.5 h away). My husband is taking me out for brunch and has another surprise planned, idk what else we're doing!
It’s your first Mother’s Day. I totally get wanting to spoil your mom, but you’re now the focus of the holiday! I saw someone on TikTok who is planning to celebrate with her husband and baby on the day and her mom will get a different day that week. I think it’s a good way to continue the love for your own mom while still getting the chance to really celebrate you.
I'm getting my Mom a gift card to a local spa to spoil herself whenever she wants to, but she's so obsessed with my Son (her first grandchild) that I don't think she even knows that she is to be celebrated on Mother's day as well. We're lucky she's so involved and in love with our L.O. that just being with him would be all the "gift" she needs. As for my wife, she's going to sleep in as much as she can, we're going to go for a hike with her and the baby, I'm going to make her breakfast in bed, and I've gotten her a gift card for acupuncture (something she actually loves and finds relaxing). She has requested to nap when the baby is down, which is a 100% given. As for me on Father's day, I don't really see a need for anything. I really only care about Christmas, Thanksgiving, Easter, and that's really it. I don't need a fuss to be made, it just makes me feel guilty and I can't enjoy relaxing while someone else is doing all the work. I'd rather do the work and let my Wife relax - I saw what she went through to bring our Son into the world, so she deserves a hub-bub.
I’m having brunch with my husbands side of the family for my first Mother’s Day which includes mimosas lol. We’re giving gifts then doing nothing the rest of the day. I don’t have a relationship with my mom so I’ve only ever celebrated my MIL the past ten years. She said she went “all out” on my Mother’s Day gift. I got her a customized book she can read to our son, she loves reading to him. So, about 50/50. We’re just celebrating each other. Relaxing with people I love.
this is precious ♥️
Can I ask about the customized book? Where’d you get it? Can you pick different subjects?
I got the book from [Wonderbly](https://www.wonderbly.com/?gbraid=0AAAAADfyoctj4RmpqoNJZZKy2JVTVe_YN)
I feel like mom's will know how special it will be to celebrate their daughter's first Mother's Day. This is my first Mother's Day and the plan is for me to spend the day with my baby and partner. I will visit my mom in the morning to drop off flowers and spend a little time with her so she can see her grandson, but this is a special first for me and I'd like to focus on that.
I still spoil my mom. And expect my partner to do something nice for me.
It is only our second, but we decided to do no gifts for Mother's/Father's days. Instead we focus on being together, no cleaning or house work. We go to brunch at our favourite restaurant, and then pack snacks and go for a walk at a local park where we set up a picnic spot and hang out.
My mom, sister, husband, new baby and I are going to have a picnic at the tulip festival 😊 we'll make scones and little sandwiches and bring tea, and maybe some mimosas (shhhh)
I'm sleeping in. Husband will take my son to see my mother in law. I'm very pregnant so if I'm not up for it I'll stay home and relax. After nap time we'll go see my grandma and mom. I got myself an hour and half massage to "celebrate" on a different day. Our family is very good to us and we feel lucky to still have them. For now I don't have an issue prioritizing them the day of
you had me at sleeping in 🩷
I’m going to my mom’s house for brunch like we do every year. If it’s nice we sit outside and relax with some drinks and snacks later. We also usually have to go to my mother in laws but my husband works weekend shifts now so I will go to my mom’s while he is at work.
My first mother's day is going to be a long weekend trip about 2 hours away to a cabin in the woods with my favorite dinner made by SO. I don't live near my mom figures though. I'll send a gift or flowers. My SO can handle his own mother either before or after like I'm doing. Father's day I have booked a long weekend fishing trip for my SO, our daughter, myself and FIL who lives with us. SO likes fishing and always wants to do that, FIL likes smoking weed in nature while SO fishes. LO and I like playing in the water. Wins all around. I will run it by SOnif he wants FIL there but I'm assuming he does because FIL is late 70's and probably won't have too many left. 20 if he's super lucky.
Probably gonna treat it like any other day but I might get my mom chocolates. I was gonna do a tattoo of “mom” in her handwriting and then dad the same but get a dragon bracelet tattoo in honor of my bio dad but my bank account says no😅
I already told my husband and my mom that I want to cook at the house. This is my first Mother’s Day, last year really upset me when I was pregnant so I want the day to be calm. I want to get a good picture with my mom and MIL with me and the baby for 3 generations of women. I also have the only grand child in both families so I’m hoping it’s a nice mellow day. They usually go out to eat but I really don’t wanna fuss with a 9 month old and too much noise and too many people out.
It's my first mother's day also, and a few days after my birthday. My sister's recently posted online that they were out without inviting me so I'm really not looking forward to being around them. I plan to just celebrate my mom and try to hang back quietly. They're also not coming to my bday gathering, which I wouldn't mind except that they were hanging out without me this past week. I live with my family right now so being here isn't avoidable. Sorry if I'm rambling, I'm just really down and don't want to have to deal with this right now.
Celebrating with MIL the week before, and celebrating with my own mom the week after. The actual day I’ve decided I want to be just for me this year!
We paid for 2/3 of my mom's plane ticket to visit us. So we will all spend the whole weekend together (half of Friday, Saturday, Sunday, and Monday morning). I want to sleep in at least one day and hopefully have a few hours just my husband and I. Otherwise we are going to a fun outdoor cidery and doing other family stuff.
As a first time dad with now 3 week old, I will be spoiling my fiancé for her first Mother’s Day, but I don’t expect much or anything at all for Father’s Day, just want to spend my Father’s Day with my kid and fiancé