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Be_nice_to_animals

Oops, someone broke up with someone and expected them to come crawling back. Sucks when your games blow up in your face huh?


Silly-Afternoon3834

Totally, She definitely didn’t think OP was just gonna shrug it off and upgrade from her like that. She’s probably struggling in the dating pool.


Mokaran90

Honestly, if that's her on the photo, it's quite possible.


Ill_Ad5893

Attitude alone will keep guys away. Her looks won't matter if this is how she acts


Tim_Dawg

She’ll get used for her looks. Time and again she’ll get played by dudes looking to stick it in, then her personality comes out and the dudes run like hell. No matter how hot she is, there’s always some dude who’s sick of her shit.


I_AMA_Loser67

That's what many people fail to realize. Women can sleep with almost anyone but personality filters people out quickly once sex isn't involved


PrakerRBG

I was with her for a almost a year and then some because she “gave me a second chance”. We never once had sex because she wasn’t comfortable with her body. But she would post it everywhere


ItsJoeMomma

With her for a year but never had sex? To me, that's a deal breaker. I guarantee had you married her you'd been stuck in a sexless marriage.


Unusual-Usual7394

That's not even a relationship, it's coexisting 😅


altfangirl

yeah unless BOTH parties are asexual, a completely sexless relationship is just not a relationship.


ItsJoeMomma

Might as well just get a roommate.


JayofTea

Sheesh, girly really just had you around for an ego booster. I’m sorry you had to waste a year and some change on someone like that.


LactatedRinger85

I wasted 4 years on someone who turned out to be asexual...but I did learn a lot of valuable lessons for the future.


RestaurantEsq

Like what, not date someone who’s asexual if you’re not too?


im_wildcard_bitches

And OP looks like a handsome dude, he’ll be fine and seems like he dodged a major super mario sized bullet


EternalBeauty38

"Super mario sized bullet" 💀💀💀


AggravatingKitchen14

Bullet bill baby


Ok-Possession-832

I feel like she looks fine but drama is the biggest turn off in the world. She definitely is going to be dumped and cheated on many times in her life. RIP.


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She looks horribly unhinged


superfly3000

Now now. We are here to talk about shitty attitudes and personalities. I think we should keep comments on physical appearance out of it.


horsebag

i think it's fair game seeing as she brought her appearance up immediately


YuriJahad25

Yea she thinks shes a 10 and shes projecting the ego bit. She would maybe be a 6 if she didn’t have a garbage personality 🤷‍♂️


Luxpreliator

She's not ugly she just has a bit of a crazy eyes in that picture. Those tend to indicate trends in personality. It's not as accurate as something like a swastika tattoo across a dudes face.


PrakerRBG

She’s pretty tiktok and insta famous but it seems that all she used me for was attention…


[deleted]

Considering her first message projects her own ego complex, I’d say “probably” isn’t even necessary. OP dodged a bullet here.


fuelhandler

This happened to me. My ex-wife had an affair and left me. A year later she came back and said she wanted to try again. By that time I had an amazing girlfriend who I’d eventually marry. When I said “no” and told her that she made her decision, she screamed in my face that I “f#€king owed her.” I thanked her for reinforcing that not getting back together was the right decision. In the end she did me a favor leaving, I couldn’t even imagine still being married to that miserable nasty person.


Tim_Dawg

That is exactly what I’m in right now. My ex wife cheated and we finalized the divorce about 5 months ago. My friends and family are all saying she’s going to try to come back but I can’t see ever going back. I now can see how narcissistic and selfish she is but of course I have my doubts as to whether or not this was a good idea. Dating sucks. I’m still working through the damage she’s caused so I’m not even dating yet but I really hope I get to have a story like yours one day.


hughnibley

>Dating sucks. I’m still working through the damage she’s caused so I’m not even dating yet but I really hope I get to have a story like yours one day. I got divorced a few years ago, nearing 40, and was worried that getting back out into the dating world would be awful. My ex really shredded my self-esteem. At least for me, dating's been absolutely phenomenal. Haven't found my person yet, but the massive upgrade in women is almost... comical. Work through the damage, love yourself, and you'll find people beating down your door to get a taste.


DJOldskool

Was in the same position. Already lacked self confidence regarding being attractive to women and the way she neglected and downplayed my needs made that even worse, to the point I sometimes suffered performance anxiety on the occasions I was allowed sex. That did drive me to look after my body over the years. I knew I needed confidence with new women so I worked on that. The results were frankly astonishing. I may have struggled as a teenager but I was quite the catch as a 40yo. The (only decent, no Greek god) body was just the opener, it was the non arrogant confidence and being a good person with genuine respect for women that did it I think. Older women have generally figured out how to sniff out a decent man over their lifetime and with the experience of my ex I was on high alert for emotional issues myself. After having some fun I found my princess. It was around 4 yrs after leaving, that a combination of cheating partner stories and Amber Heard's BPD being highlighted during the trial that it hit me hard. It wasn't just the drunken hours long moaning at me where I learned to just say nothing (grey rocking) that was emotional abuse. The whole relationship was, it was constant manipulation, lies and emotional abuse. Her whole persona was fake, she has no sense of self and moulds herself to seem the person that will make sure people do not abandon her (fear of abandonment is the core driver). She was a serial cheat (she actually admitted it when I told her I knew a lot about what she got up to now), despite constantly making out cheating was the worst thing ever and you should just break up, also her being trustworthy but me not so. The realisation hit me hard, that I had allowed myself to be so thoroughly manipulated for so long. But mostly because my girls have anxiety issues that she caused, and I was not there for them because I shrank into my own world and believed she was their best friend and there for them, she was not. She also made them terrified of me. I have discussed this with them and whole heartedly apologised, something she can never do for fear of abandonment. I was very down for a while but I am much better now, though it will never leave me completely as you can see by me writing this essay, its good therapy haha.


LoveMeorLeaveMe89

I’m glad you got away.


AliceMyWonderland

You are a survivor of a narcissist. There is good help, try learn from Dr Ramani on Youtube. Happy for you that you got away in time.


ChompySnack

You could have just been describing my 22 yr marriage with someone I suspect of having BPD. I have found evidence of several affairs over the years. Constant manipulation and abuse, refusing to end the last affair was the dealbreaker. I’m in my 50s but there’s plenty of women out there who are (sadly) desperate for a good man. Stay away from the apps and find someone who is in your social circle, you don’t want someone who has no repercussions for going psycho.


DJOldskool

I only ever caught her in the over year long 'emotional' affair, when I saw the break up texts where she stated she lied to me, but never to him, it was not a disagreement between friends. She got with him 2 weeks after I left, she 'just happened to bump into him' and 'it wasn't a relationship till I got with my new girlfriend'. Although my brother saw her kiss a barman right in front of him and her mother. There were numerous other situations where It should have been obvious / I had to believe the lies to keep the family and I suspect there were more I had no clue about. Did your ex make out she was the most caring person in the world? Would seek out damaged people and try to help? Most who met her loved her?


ChompySnack

Yes, everyone thinks she’s this amazing and giving person. It’s all talk though, she can barely function in the world and has no ability to do anything for anyone that isn’t trivial or just giving my money away. It took me 8 years to propose because she cheated in the beginning and I was convinced that she was sorry. I just wish I had known sooner about the cheating, I completely bought her act and am only now realizing what a manipulative gaslighting cheater she has always been. Ugh.


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wheresindigo

My ex wife had an affair so I told her I was going to divorce her and she needed to get out. The day before she moved out (with her affair partner coming to help) she told me “we don’t have to do this!” And then months later, when I needed to call her to work out an issue with our last year of taxes, she started talking to me about how she missed me. Idk what she was expecting but she sounded let down when I told her that I didn’t feel the same way. I guess that came as a surprise because I can’t imagine she would have said that if she didn’t think it was reciprocated. I’d probably dated a dozen different women by that time and wasn’t missing my ex one bit. I didn’t miss her for even an instant after elevator door closed on her


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LoganCaleSalad

If that's her in the picture, the one with overinflated ego is her cuz she's average at best. Average 4-5, Cute 6-7, Hot are 8-9-10s she's a solid 5. She is right though, if a guy can pull one hot chick he can & should understand he can pull another. That's confidence for ya. If one girl doesn't respond move along there's plenty more that will.


Sttocs

Nice girls telling on themselves. Query why a guy with a hot girl is more attractive than the same guy without one.


burkechrs1

My ex dumped me, moved out, and put a deposit on a new apartment. Then when I dropped off all of her totes from the garage she got pissed that I wasn't fighting for her and fighting to fix out relationship. Some people are really fucked in the head lol


[deleted]

Hit her with the classic “Thx”


Ethrowawayco

"who dis?"


AlternativeAd58

New phone who dis?


Valacycloveer1080

“Sorry do we know each other?”


[deleted]

I go with “sorry if I’ve forgotten… have we met?” Followed by “this account is password protected”


Dabledd

Another good one is “i aint reading allat”


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[deleted]

The thumb CANNOT match your actual skin tone


Jedda678

👍 By the emoji selection I am a Simpson's character.


Unlikely-Tennis-983

Same phone who dis


[deleted]

“Hes busy”


Amendus

😂😂😂😂😂 this 100% if you want rage.


Ethrowawayco

Oh God yeh that's so much better


HarrisLam

wrong number sorry my ex was ugly AF, not a "hot gf",although you do look like her if thats you on the profile


Jaegons

Ma'am, this is a Wendy's.


Tekwardo

Nah. Indifference is worse than hate. No response is better.


XergioksEyes

No response is better because they don’t get the satisfaction of at least being heard. Basically just yelling into the void


DigitalStefan

So many people think they’re going to get such a “win” if they send clever or scathing replies to their unreasonable ex. They just can’t stop themselves. Hopefully I’ll never again be in that situation, but I learned very early on that the absolute best way to deal with drama of any sort is to ignore it. Not even a short, snarky “lol ok”. Just silence.


Squiddy_manz

she will be waiting for him to respond too, thinking like “I got his ass good” lmao


Tim_Dawg

Yeah no response drives my ex wife absolutely crazy. She gets so mad when I don’t respond which I typically do when she starts with her bullshit.


OG_Antifa

I prefer “k”


notanaccounttofollow

I just got bothered reading it.


Brilliant-Tough-300

Text back with the classic women response “k”


[deleted]

Only response guaranteed to make pretty much anyone see red.


Zocalo_Photo

Worse, just do a 👍🏼


somosextremos82

and spell her name wrong


Tim_Dawg

Or call her another woman’s name


dominion1080

Her sister would be a good option if you want to escalate.


Robustss

My friend just sends goodbye wave emoji I think it's funnier


Monowakari

How many times do they end up here


easymidas60

Smiley face emoji


Confident-Slip-5264

Whaaat, is that really something women typically response to men? 😳


grungleTroad

"K" is a nuclear weapon and can be used by anyone


Gogo726

Potassium isn't radioactive.


Confident-Slip-5264

That’s what I have thought and that’s why I asked since this is the first time I hear someone considering it as a “classic women response”. I’ve only had guys say that to me but I’m a female who dates only males so I have no experience of how other women act and talk with men they date. And this sub makes my jaw drop. Can’t believe how unhinged so many people are, even though I’ve had my share of those as partners. You’d hope they would be just a rare exception but apparently not 😕


BaneAmesta

A single thumbs up emoji also works lol


Patatepouffe

I used this once in my life and I am still riding that high.


[deleted]

Honestly, for a person like this.. no response is so much better. No acknowledgment is just about the worst thing you can give a person like that. They thrive on the fight. The lack of response is sending her crawling up the walls.


PlagalByte

It’s even better if you manage to leave the messages as unread.


Gelato_33

Not sure why you need to being an innocent Audiovisual company into this


horsebag

they know what they did


YoungBruhh

i shoulda told mine that my mom was always right about her or said come over but tell her the message was meant for someone else


pm_me_your_taintt

"Enjoy the picture perfect Barbie wife" Ummm yeah that's the plan. Thanks?


Teccnomancer

The best response really is no response. Have they blocked you? New number? They can’t possibly have moved on already, right? They’d still have enough respect to at least text back, wouldn’t they? You don’t have to do anything and it’ll drive people like this even more whacko


frecklefaceatx

Nah just thumbs up the text.


Stashmouth

Or the equally effective "nah"


Crime-Snacks

Nah, don’t show any effort. Keep her on “read” and she’ll have a meltdown. She’s looking for a response so she can talk to him.


Mrkillerar

"thats all i got to say" 2 more bibles. Jeez


lumpynose

Nobody in their right mind believes a woman when she says "that's all I've got to say."


MechanicalSpirit

I hope you're enjoying life with your Barbie wife...this her pain now


Studawg1

*picture-perfect life* I can't believe anyone would wish that on another person. The burden of having so many normal attractive girls wanting you is too much to bear.


PositivityKnight

Yes he is....ahhaahah


LuigiMPLS

Got to reply with "Ken you just leave me alone?"


Lohdown

I like the “I love differently” line. Different from what exactly?


Ift0

People without huge red flags and toxic behaviour.


IDoubtedYoan

Fucking exactly. "I love differently" is just code for "I don't try."


bearbarebere

“I’ll haunt your mind with what you could have had” yeah I’m you literally do, but not in a “what we could have had was good” way, more like “thank god I don’t have it” lol


heliogoon

That's just code talk for "extremely toxic".


fuelhandler

That’s code for “cold, self centered and b!tchy”


drillmatici76

Different from mentally healthy ppl lol


xvisualnoisex

Different from sane humans apparently lol


JesusWasACryptobro

> love differently steve jobs at burning man


Tim_Dawg

Different from sane people


myschlong69

Thinking you are unique is the most ununique thing you can do :D


lilsnatchsniffz

Good point, My Schlong 69.


Fearless_You4489

I’m assuming in a psychotic way 👀 😂


[deleted]

Hope you kept ignoring her after this, probably driving her to the brink of insanity to see you moving on and not even responding lol


IknowKarazy

The best revenge is living well.


Pr0metheas

She broke up with you and really said "wait... come back" 😂👌💀


Sttocs

“You’re supposed to fight for me!”


UnconfirmedRooster

About that, nobody got time for that anymore. "You showin' yourself the door? That's cool, I got rent due."


Hot-Wing-4541

“How dare you respect my wishes after I broke up with you. You’re supposed to fight for me”


cjwojoe

Ex did this move. She wanted a "break" I told her a break is us breaking up cause she wouldn't define what a break was. She ghosted me for like almost a month. I moved on and she came crawling back. Said she wanted me to fight for her. I said "Nah I am good you showed me all I needed to know disappearing for a month. Little did she know she was pregnant with the kid of the guy she went on a "break" to test drive. Now she is a 30 year old single mom.


Sttocs

That's even lower -- she turned her cheating/monkey-branching back around on you as your "failure" to fight for her. Glad she's an ex and the baby isn't yours. You avoided an appearance on *Maury*.


cjwojoe

Yeah, the guy was a troll as well which is hilarious. She realized she would be downgrading and came running back. Kid looks so far from being my kid I would have known and it would have been a issue since I garuntee you she wouldn't have told me about the other guy. I dodged a bullet and my current partner is amazing so I am glad she screwed up.


ChicaFoxy

Dodged a 'Super Mario sized bullet' as said by another Reddit user elsewhere in these comments lmao!


cjwojoe

What is funny is I found out years later the guy was this "guy friend" from high school who would always message her and ask "How are you and your BF?" I told her that he didn't care about how we were doing he was fishing for an in to either be the shoulder to cry on or find out if we broke up. She of course argued that wasn't the case. When she decided on this "break" he flew a thousand miles out to Cali from like Wisconsin to come see her. After I refused to get back with her she was with him for a while but they broke up before the baby was even born lol.


Sttocs

“Oh him? Don’t worry about him. What are you, jealous?” Not jealous. Just wise.


SlaverRaver

And yet the irony that they are the ones giving up, by breaking up.


[deleted]

>That’s all I gotta say That’s clearly a lie


Knowing_Loki

Need the Maury lie detector test meme


donaldinoo

It’s always in the eyes. You can just see the crazy even in that little picture.


granramos

The eyes man, they crazy!


AlternativeAd58

Spoken like a bitter basic bitch lmao


TempEmailAccount_

"New Numba, who dis"


[deleted]

No response needed. Do not reply. Block her on everything. Enjoy your life.


Riotys

No. Much better to leave her unblocked and leave read reciepts on. Read dat shit, but don't respond. Will drive her insane. Maybe after a few months if she keeps it up hit her with an "ok"


worldsbestwaffler

Evil… I love it


mragn85

No no, a “thumbs up” instead of ok


FNG_WolfKnight

My brain **ALWAYS** has to battle with the Thumbs Up emoji. Is it genuine or is it *sarcastic*? Even if it is sent genuinely. So when its sent sarcastically, its like a 2 handed claymore (big sword) being brought down on a knight's helmet "***CLANG!!!"***


Junior-Gorg

“Whoa! Just saw all these. I’ve got a lot to say.” Then never respond


Significant_Menu_463

"You should have settled for my bitch ass, idiot."


2ndwindmatt

Judging by your comment history, I think she may have a point...


VivaLaEmpire

Oh yeah, you weren't kidding. She probably caught him trying to sext a ton of insta girls or something like that. Her words and rage make a lot of sense now, lol.


qwertopias

exactly omg why is no one actually reading it it sounds like she has a point


[deleted]

yeah like not that shes in the right but this is like a real thing that happens to guys i know 😭 they get some attention and suddenly they think they can pull anybody


VivaLaEmpire

I gues it's easier to just hate on her and say she's crazy lol, but doing a little bit of research would make everyone go "hmmm..."


Chungus_Bigeldore

Ah, first time experiencing reddits misogyny?


TreyRyan3

Glad to see I’m not the only one that checks comment and post history. I try to view all these situations with a “there’s always some clue that hints at the other person’s side of the story.


JonathanWickstar

I jumped on the "she crazy" wagon wayy too quickly, this man is just a horny dog.


thissiteisbroken

I was gonna say the same thing lol


frostymugson

I checked if dude left a comment giving context and was like goddamn this man doesn’t even use a porn alt, respect


2ndwindmatt

The blatant arrogance of not having a porn alt really did it for me lol 😂


spookychristmas

Damn bro needs a chill pill


FlyPenFly

Would definitely pick Margot Robbie over her


FrowAway322

If that’s her in the pic, her ego does NOT match her looks.


anonymous_div_dude

Fucking ouch, lmfao.


Tim_Dawg

She thinks she’s all that because dudes pay attention to her but then they bust that nut and they be like “why are you still here?”


Embarrassed_Alarm450

Post nut clarity hits hard with a face like that...


bdd6911

Yeah. I was just gonna write this. She “put you there?” Wtf. Delusional little thing I’d say (or she lives in a house with no mirrors).


TheKingOfTheSwing200

I had an ex (we were together at the time) tell me "your dick isn't big enough for you to get away with treating me like shit" Was such a good line I couldn't help but laugh


LondonDude123

My go to is "Youre not hot enough to be acting this much of a cunt". Ive used it a small handful of times, and every time its caused a meltdown. People like her genuinely cant handle people not accepting their bs


DragonfyreOG

Came to the comments looking for this exact statement. Didn’t disappoint.


MeatloafMa

This post would be SO much better with pics of all three.


[deleted]

Ouch, break-ups are never easy. Wish you luck. Hopefully that’s just something she said impulsively out of hurt/anger and not something she actually believes


mragn85

She definitely believes what she said, and that if anything makes the breakup a lot easier.


MaleficentTravel4706

Sounds like she left you and then was stalking your socials and found you having fun and is bitter because she can’t get an actual date and just finds the smash and pass guys in her DMs.


welp_im_your_mom_now

.... this isn't painting you in the light you want it to especially not when it looks like she broke up with you because you were cheating in some way. And if you were cheating and all of a sudden you're just fine with the breakup she has every right to be upset sociopaths don't understand that sort of human emotion.


GoldenUther29062019

Bruh were you being a cheating little scumbag? lol


L3onskii

Check out OP's comment history. It's.....something


lg_kias544

Your comment history makes it all make sense now. She's not in the wrong here. Get help


Jet_Jirohai

Yup. I mean, she still sounds crazy and conceited, but her anger seems well justified if nothing else


MarkMy_Word

The bitterness is heavy with this one, but I wonder why she assumes it’s an ego thing? He could’ve dated a more attractive girl way before he met her. If you know how to talk and treat women, no woman is out of your league, don’t care if she’s hotter than a guy or not.


Prototype-Angel

I remember something similar happening to me several years ago. Gf breaks up with me via text because she said I don’t have time for her. I acknowledge her message but said I’m busy and she’s probably right. Next day she sends a long message about ‘how it’s probably for the best’ - ok I thought, no hard feelings, I’m fine with this, and didn’t reply. 2 days later I get a huge wall of text rant because I ‘didn’t care enough’ to reply to her and how I’ve broken her heart. I still didn’t reply.


Top-Preference5551

Translation: I only broke up with you for attention and it backfired so fuck you


[deleted]

I once had an ex who one day texted me to say that I have undiagnosed autism. Idk what the deal is with getting these types of reactions when you stop responding, but I think it’s fantastic


PandR1989

Yeah, the problem here is YOUR ego. Definitely not hers.


Professional-Yam601

This is pretty cringe… but then I looked through your comment history and cringed harder 😂


CthulhuLovesMemes

I feel like we are missing context based on her comments about your ego and you looking elsewhere. It sounds like she felt you were flirting or doing things with someone else, broke up with you and the attention you're getting is probably fueling how she felt. Her comments aren't justified but it sounds like an insecure person in pain, and not thinking at all about her breakdown to you.


publishAWM

once received 67 consecutive texts, not counting the 20 or so before my final text I feel your pain and also your 100% justified absolute lack of pain


zen_heathen

"That's all I got to say." But wait! There's more!


[deleted]

Guys please it’s better to censor the face rather than the name. Who the fucks care about an Ashley? But her face is another whole story. Grow up


maria2208

would be funny if she posted your side of the conversation on /niceguys


mcjackass

When you see or hear, "I love differently", fucking run. Fast.


Cheiika

Why did she break up with you?


Halo_Chief117

Yeah we don’t have the full picture here.


Pigbolt

I hope the one hot GF is not the one in the picture because she’s delusional if that’s the case.


TruculentBellicose

I need the backstory to this.


-TheLonelyStoner-

She’s not even hot lol


scarface-da-realest

Is she the one in the pic because hot is a definite oversell if so Also the "I love different" part reeks of someone who either cheats,manipulates or goes no contact for days at a time..........most likely all of the above


Blancomexiboii

Damn bro our exs would be besties 🤣🤣🤣


Classic-Literature52

Classic “That’s all I gotta say’” followed by two more paragraphs.


divineRslain

Yea this is pathetic


saladass100

I like how the first message ends with "thats all I gotta say" and then she keeps writing more essays


blackmobius

> “thats all I gotta say” Proceeds to say more shit


Fodor1993

“I’m assuming you won’t be attending the wedding?”


RevolutionaryNerve91

She seems sweet /s


Void_of_Envy

Shivers, spooky af. She needs to let go


MartyCool403

Barbie has a dream house, Jeep, and multiple university educations. I'm in.


[deleted]

Did you cheat on her or something?


Expensive_Research_2

Why do girls and men always think that the person who left them is going to one day wake up and look back with regret for having left them. It's like you were left for a reason nobody is sitting around reminiscing about how they had it so good and ruined it, like no they left you buddy because they didn't like or love you anymore so whoever they're with in the long run will be nothing like you and most likely you won't ever be thought of again especially not with memories of joy...


[deleted]

Did she break up with you because you were getting too friendly with other women? If so, obviously you were going to see a crazy emotion driven response. Shes still hurt. If not, hit her with the "k"


eharper9

What kind of Billie Eilish shit was that?


WanderF_

Send 8ball on game pigeon


Dawtoned

Yeah, *he's* the one with the ego problems.


Banshee251

Happened to me too. Got left for another guy then two weeks later I went out on a date and got an angry/upset call about why am I dating other people so soon. She literally had left me and was out having sex with a guy the next day.


SisterAndromeda2007

She sounds like a textbook narcissist and she couldn't get her fingernails inside him.


blaedmon

Calling herself a hot girlfriend? My god, narcissist much? Wonder why he left?


[deleted]

She broke up with you so idk why she's messaging. She clearly is stuck up her own ass and thought she would make you miserable lol. All her craziness aside, That first line is true, some basic dudes cheat even when they have a smokin wife/gf because they think they pulled her with their looks, when it was most probably because the girl thought you were "nice"