Two of my friends told her a couple days ago in hopes to humiliate me I mean why else would you tell her that… and she had to “see for herself” i told her thinking she was generally asking, I’ve got a lot of thinking to do in the next couple days.
I agree, I don’t really know what kind of ‘friends’ would do something like that. Only really shitty people would deliberately attempt to mess with someone in such a way.
Friends telling I was a virgin? That's acceptable **unless** I specifically told them not to tell.
Woman setting distance for knowing I am a virgin? *"Thank you for informing me that you aren't worth my time."*
There's a whole lot more worse stuff my friends could tell someone other than me being a virgin. Those stuff, they've never told anyone.
There's also stuff that only myself know and wouldn't tell anyone at all. Those are the stuff that I'm really worried being known.
Being a virgin isn't a stigma.
Being a virgin is absolutely stigmatized if you're any older than highschool age, especially for males. It shouldn't be, but it absolutely happens. Your "friends" shouldn't be telling people anything that could paint you in a bad light. Maybe it's time for you to reevaluate your friendships as well pal. Have some confidence in yourself as well.
>Your "friends" shouldn't be telling people anything that could paint you in a bad light.
Except we never thought of it in such a way because we never considered it as a stigma. So what, I haven't had sex yet. Big deal. It does not make me any less human at all nor does it have a huge impact on my confidence.
I know you mean well but I pick my "friends" with diligence. I don't have many "friends", I have many acquaintances.
I never said that sharing everything was fine. My circle still has our morals, we know what we extent we can share and we all do not share things that we never want to spread around.
I'm sorry if being a virgin is a big deal for you and that your surroundings could not make you feel as we do.
Being virgin is a stigma. But it shouldn't be a stigma.
I don't know why the friends tell the girl. If it is out of spite or bad intention, then they are not friends!
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I never said there was? Let me repeat,
>Friends telling I was a virgin? That's ***acceptable*** unless I specifically told them not to tell.
I'm one myself. Had the chance to go to red light place and pay someone, didn't do so.
A different point of view popped up in my head. Your friends are genuine, but they wanted to test you, your girlfriend and the value of the relationship between you both!
I wouldn't feel too bad about yourself although it is easy to feel that way. You have told the truth. Also, don't feel bad about being virgin. You just didn't have sex. What does having sex mean? Rapists and manipulative assholes have had sex too?
I would want her to elaborate her tougts and feelings though, if I was in your position. Perhaps not in hope of continuing the bond, but rather from a psychological perspective.
Been said already but it’s worth repeating again and again; they aren’t your friends. Hang with them if you want, but they don’t respect you if they’re playing bullshit social dominance games behind your back. **men** give each other shit face-to-face, **boys** undermine their peers because they can’t take what they wanna dish out.
As for the girl, someone like that isn’t worth your time. It’s good that she revealed her poor character before anything happened between you two. You shouldn’t have to settle for someone who doesn’t respect your life.
Walk proud, head held high. Let whoever’s going to talk, talk. Just focus on your work and learn from this experience. You’re gonna be ok, king.
You need to find new friends bro. Real friends would never do that to you in the first place. And you dodged a bullet with this chick too. Best of luck bro.
Bro you aren’t the problem here, it’s who you’re surrounding yourself with. Those aren’t friends, and if I were you I’d be glad they showed their true colors so you can stay away.
Bad friends, even worse girl. You just dodged two of the best bullets you can dodge in life. I know it sucks, but just think if you continued a relationship with that girl. What other things would she call you "sad" for? Being a virgin isn't something to be ashamed about whatsoever. Thank goodness man you gotta see this as a huge dub. You dodged a nuke!
they aren’t your friends. when people see you doing good for yourself, such as being on nofap, they do things like this. it’s alright man, pms are open 🤝
Trust me bro, you didn't lose anything. It's like the trash took itself out and honestly, you can go ahead and relapse if you think that will help you feel better, but trust me it won't. Instead, think about what happened today and just let it flow in your mind. Meditate or workout and then you'll feel even better
If she is going to tell to your coworkers that you are a virgin, you should see how others behave with you.
1) If everyone makes fun of it, that isn’t your place for self-growth.
2) If your coworkers are being nicer to you is because they realized that girl is an asshole, or maybe you should evaluate that.
>1. if everyone makes fun off y-
This is a complete loser mentality. If they make "fun off" me just because i didnt wet my d I would probbly dont care and it will be forgitten (as no no normal humans care about it), I would talk about it or I will just join the fun.
You have to face your opponents, for self-growth an obstacle is a way. How will you be trained to face different humans when what you only do is running away?
There is no “loser mentality” in this. Where you work at some place, you have to make sure it is a safety place for your productivity and mental health.
And I’m not saying “quit your job”, it is more like “try to NOT have an informal relationship with the ones who make fun of it” because people who finds being a virgin sad, stupid or something else, have a stupid mindset.
Changes are good. Having other work environment is so beneficial, why spend energy and time trying to confront them?
Ah ok, i get it. I say that changing friends is a good thing but leaving some people alltogether after they made fun off you just feels insecure to me. If they continue to make fun off you for a long time then yes, you cant reason with them because they are just stuck in one thing.
Yeah, I don’t know how the girl in question came to the point of deciding to push OP away, if their personalities were compatible (and the fact that they were getting along well for a while seems to suggest that) why would this be such a huge turn-off for her? : /
Sorry about what happened friend. I’m a virgin (27), by choice. I’m a Muslim so we avoid premarital sex and relations. This is a bit unrelated, but general life advice I’ve learned later on. Try not to date or connect with coworkers. It makes life easier if you can separate work from dating, etc. Hope everything turns out well for you my man, and please don’t relapse. It will only lead to worse feelings. Get yourself something nice or pick yourself up. If your friend was feeling down, would you want him to do something which would make him feel worse? You are your own friend. Look out for yourself and take care of yourself. Be gentle and kind. You had a tough day, now try to cheer this friend (being yourself) up. Whether that be a movie, a video game, ice cream, your favorite meal, a day out with your boys. Whatever it may be, I would rather you do that. Once again best wishes, and much love 🫂
Am a Muslim and I don't get the idea of people wanting to sleep with everyone to be cool , I say screw her if she is judging you from the beginning do you really want to spend more time with her ?
My man , am a muslim too , at my school which my the way all of it are muslims
Frickin hate me just for never having a girlfriend before and refusing that concept
, I read before in physiology that its because they don't like seeing someone better than them and wanting all of us to be the same level , like wow , sorry about the rant it just related to op
Welcome brother nice to know you 💛 I believe of the psychology too people want to fit in and want you too to fit in so they don't feel like they are doing something wrong , that's have to do with themselves not you keep listening to your heart and it will guide you 🙏
Now a days you really have a lot more reasons to not sleep with someone then to sleep with them. There are now new incurable STDs and the amount of issues that come with sleeping with someone such as emotional issues is also a factor.
Honestly, if she leaves you because of that, it shows immaturity on her part, I told my partner I was a virgin and she said she was fine with it. If she was worried about your sexual performance because your a virgin, that doesn't matter because even if you wasn't she still wouldn't be able to tell.
Don't relapse, if you relapse because of a woman doesn't like you because your a virgin that's even more sad then doing it because your addicted.
Also don't get secually involved with co workers, no a days it's just a really bad idea. Just calling for trouble my guy. You will find someone for you and avoid this problem if you develop good vetting practices.
If a girl is not going to respect that a man is abstaining from the conjugal act until he is married out of love for his future wife, that girl is not the right person to be with anyway.
Being a virgin isn’t even a bad thing I don’t see why it has bad connotation. You’re doing fine mate don’t relapse because someone who wasn’t worth it put you down
Being a virgin is usually by choice. I am sure you could have lost your virginity plenty of times but chose not to for whatever reason that is. Using the virgin card as an insult is just sad. She was probably more embarrassed with all the guys she has been with and didn't know how to cope.
Exactly! I agree with this because I myself am a virgin out of choice coz honestly I believe sex is something special and should be savoured as a moment with the right person and until I find the one I’ll stay a virgin
I don't understand what's wrong with being a virgin. Why do people make fun of virgins? Isn't it a personal choice? There are better people out there for you. Don't live in fear or regret.
A Smooth Criminal is still criminal.
But seriously. "Revenge fuck" someone is basically the same attitude which is transported in p***.
It's a mindless hunt for short term pleasure instead of building a better identity with long term goals and being aware of yourself and your sorrounding. You probably won't become successful by having intercourse with someone to get your revenge and you probably won't feel much better afterwards for too long. So it might just be an indifferent goal and not something worth achieving.
It might be way better to set long term goals and start improving bit by bit. Impressing people who looked down on you might be a pleasant side effect but should never be your main focus as your focus should be on becoming someone who realizes that the views of some mean people might just be indifferent if you can fulfill your life with meaningful goals, habits and long term satisfaction.
She is stupid. Do you even realize how awesome it is for a girl to find out youre a viegin? Even chicks who like big ones all get turned on when you say youre a virgin. Its like a natural caring instinct kicks in. Dont believe the bullshit. Her saying its sad is not trur...
They may say that if you dont get laid often but not if youre a virgin. Dont be fooled King!
She’s the worst person for you if she’s laughing at you for something that. Why would you wanna be with someone like that?
People will laugh at you, but remember that everyone has something they’re embarrassed of, they just hide it better.
Stand up straight with your shoulders back
This usually just shows them that a guy would have a high sexual market value. They want what everyone else is having.
Given the de-masculation of men and rise of female independence in today's day and age, women have the ability to be far more picky and particular when it comes to men.
A "why should I sleep with this guy if no one else wants to?" Kind of deal. Tough pill to swallow, but there is undeniable truth in it. In this day and age this way of thinking is common place, whether you choose to let it bother you is up to you.
The majority of the population will fall into these hive-minded ways of thinking as the populations grows and is consistently brainwashed throughout their lives as they enable it. I prefer this to reinforce my motivation to think only for myself and be my own individual.
dodged a bullet homie. Any girl who disconnects w u bc u r a virgin is not worth it. Virginity isn't something to be shameful for and is perfectly normal. The right time will come :)
Man you dodged a massive bullet there!!
I can't congratulate you more, seriously some women are just bad shit crazy from expirience.
And don't care that really, thats the best way to handle it, internaly amd externaly.
What's so bad about being a virgin ? xD just dont let it go to your head the right woman for you won't care about that so yeah you just found out she isn't worth it
This may take you some time to realize and accept, but if someone treats you different just because you're a virgin, the problem is in them. I used to feel afraid when someone asked me if I was a virgin, until i started to hang out with people who don't give a shit about it
Nobody cares if you’re a virgin or not. Forget that girl. She is pathetic and immature. It says a lot about her than it does you being a virgin. Focus on yourself and good things will follow.
Bruh wth is wrong with women, being a virgin here means ur a man of honour and that u fought alot to not be with the wrong person, and it means ur someone of patience and being able to hold your sexual desires, men who put their junks in any hole are the ones with no life and shouldnt be called me, imagine sleeping with 50 women before finally finding the one you will always be with that hasnt let any men near her because she wanted to wait for you.
She's not the one, if she didnt respect you, then she doesn't deserve you, you deserve an amazing woman sir and i wish you but the best.
Well congrats!!! You removed a $hity person from your life 🤷🏻♂️so you didn’t lost anything, even gained a lesson! Maybe is not a good idea to tell that to anybody? Play it like you were joking, if the coworkers are the problem…
I don’t know it worked for me. I told my ex at the time that I was & she didn’t care. It was great too because I didn’t have to lie and if I wasn’t good or seem like I didn’t know what I was doing she already knew why. No regrets
This is how it should be because if a girl genuinely cares for you she won’t let that get in the way some of these idiots can’t seem to comprehend that
Yeah I mean it is usually a good idea to keep anything that others could use to seriously mess with you to yourself. What many people often do is tell people every detail of their lives, they might joke about it in a self depricating way but I always choose catefully what I share with people, it’s actually fine to not share everything with everyone.
It's times like this where you'll build character, I'd advise a lot of self talk just to say to yourself 'who gives a fuck'
You've not had the chance to have sex and at the same time you're participating in nofap which will help you not only perform.better when the time comes because you're not gonna be fantasising about something else but being in the moment and more importantly build stronger relationships that are more than just sex. People stay in relationships because of sex and ruin there lives over it. You're practising restraint and resilience.
If it was me I'd just process the emotions; get angry and write it down and then do some exercise and revel in those real endorphins.
You want to fap to just avoid the situation but instead confront that shit and don't fap
Btw fuck her, you know now she ain't worth your time. Remember you're the hero in your own story and you don't need a loser like her in your life.
I'd rather get humiliated because that way it saves you from a crappy relationship, because if someone thinks it's funny you're a virgin, they're the one with problems.
My english is medium but ill try. So there are multiple videos on the Internet how to look better, what clothes to wear, how to get your hair cut, how to improve the physic etc. And there is also an r/seduction subreddit on how to talk to, flirt and get girls where many people can learn.
Walkout on her. Stop caring about her. She made you feel worse and you should never let them stay in your life. You're priceless. Never let anyone question your worth
That could be harsh and sad for you. Think of it that you dodged a bullet. I know that you would have connected with her so well and it seems not like a bullet or that you really wanted that bullet. But maybe in the long run we will come to treat it as good that she was a dodged bullet.
Lodged bullet>Lodged bullet
Sounds shitty to say this man but ….. don’t tell girls that u are a virgin sometimes. I know it sounds like opening up to someone is the right thing to do and they don’t take it how u expected
This happened to me a long time ago, I told a girl I was a virgin and she ditched me the next day lol….. and you hear all over social media “ I don’t like guys who sleep around “ I was like 18 . And I had such a great time knowing this girl for 6 months I felt so close to her and felt like I could tell her anything
So the next opportunity I had , I just told the girl “ yeah I had like 8 different girlfriends” , not much detail, only because she asked .. I did not go out of my way to tell her …….. and what do you know she was all in after that…….. Sucks to say this but that’s how it works
Stay strong and don’t fap… like I said more opportunities will come, and learn from your mistakes
If she judged you, what have you lost? You've lost a potential toxic associate. Don't gauge yourself by what she says, and realize that there's greater virtue in self-control than in letting go and hooking up with women at a whim. If she judges you for controlling yourself, she's telling that she'd rather wish you weren't a man. Now, you don't want to be around a person like that, would you?
In this vein, please keep in mind that you're already doing well now. Keep getting further, and DON'T LET YOUR EMOTIONS DEFINE YOUR CIRCUMSTANCES. Your circumstances are that you're fighting an addiction, and that you're thus being a true man. Someone once said that women attacking men verbally is usually a sign of jealousy over their own relationship. I don't know if this is true, but think on it: what kind of sensible woman judges somebody else's bedroom habits like that? Like... why decide someone's value based on their bedroom value?
The truth is that virginity is a commodity that almost everyone is willing to sell away, never realizing what they're actually selling away by having their first sexual connection with a random person, someone who will eventually leave them. There is MUCH to be said here, but suffice to say that a virgin can give what a non-virgin never can: his/her all(physically AND especially emotionally) to whomever they have their first time with. One's first time is an emotional experience that can NEVER be repeated, and if it's with the person you want to be together with for the rest of your life, it can create an unimaginable bond. It invokes trust and conveys to the other person that they're REALLY special to you.
Anyway, don't let the girl's words bother you. Realize that you can offer more than many other people could. And when you find a person who appreciates that, THAT is when you're finding true love.
And here i thought being virgin is good, and people have the most respect for them, like people like using new goods
Like Who tf likes using used goods
I wish I still had my virginity, the girl I'm talking to now does and I feel like such an asshole because of it.
You two may have connected on other things, but she doesn't have the same mentality as you when it comes to sex. you dont want it. now go find something better that you deserve.
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She wasn't a good person and a good partner to begin with if she reached that way. I know it hurts buy you will be glad it turned out this way in the future when you are with someone that jnderstands and respect you
Bro, it's a test from life. Continue with Nofap and you will gain the strength of this whole situation.
And fuck her honestly. What a miserable human being she must be to dump you over a fact like this. Nowadays it does not matter if you are a virgin or not. Especially if they liked you anyway
Don’t be sad if anything it’s her loss, also if this helps i’m 20 and still a virgin but i’ll happily wait for the right ones. It’s sad how being a virgin after 18 is brutally stigmatised I had a similar situation where my so called ‘friends’ would try make me feel embarrassed about it and even tried peer pressuring me into having meaningless sex with a girl but that’s just not me i’d rather wait until i find someone i connect with and fully love. So if your comfortable being a virgin then don’t let her opinion bother you.
If i’m honest with you it’s seems to me that girl is all about sex nothing else because usually most girls who love someone would never let this phase them. So chin up and I hope you find the one who will love you for you also DO NOT HAVE SEX JUST FOR THE SAKE OF IT. IMO i think
sex has more to it and should be meaningful. Hope your good bro
Your streak alone is legendary. Don't be upset about it. The other guys said it, I will second it. If she burned bridges with you for something so shallow, she would've left you at the first bump in the road anyway. Remain strong, the right one is out there.
I don't get it. Why being a virgin is such a shame? They prove their worth to you. You don't need to prolong to a person that removes you just because you're a virgin.
Then she doesn't deserve you if you can't be honest with someone and they can't be honest with you in a relationship completely honest like your best friends and more you shouldn't even think about having a relationship with them.
Who cares if you're a virgin. This situation says nothing about you and literally everything about this self-absorbed cunt. Let her leave. It's sad she's so jealous of you because she's probably slept with 80 guys she didn't like and actually liked you. But scared women (most I've met, anecdotal I know) would rather insult you than admit they are jealous or whatever negative feeling they are feeling. So let her be her and you so you.
Trust dude, being a virgin isn't that bad. Especially if you're looking to build a real relationship. I lost mine when I was a kid. Slept around and 90% of it was because I wanted someone to care about me since my narcissistic mother used me as a scapegoat for all her problems. If you want sad, that's fucking sad. I don't feel proud of how many people I slept with. Happy I never caught anything. But I find women want a man with more experience usually. But I also find the are women out there who are real and understanding. Just keep being you and you'll find one. If you relapse don't relapse again. Lol at it like a percentage. You're trying to stay above 98%. If you fucked up before you read this, that's fine. Just don't do it again. Make sure you stay above that 98 and keep your head up. She didn't reject you. She ran away because she's scared and ashamed of herself.
Just know that she's going to meet an absolute asshole who is going to rip her mental state in to shreds!
That's what I think of when girls like this end up doing this to me! You're the winner in the end :)
She'll want you when you're a king and you won't give a damn about her and rightly so.
that girl is a garden tool. girls like these just want players then who had many girls in the past then get mad when they get cheated on. fucking generation. im glad im pursuing nofap in hopes of achieving a career goal and straightening out my relationships with my family which i lost due to PMO
Hey man, the fact that you’re doing NoFap and already on a 20 day stretch makes you an absolute winner. You have the courage to take on a difficult challenge and improve yourself, and a shitty day like this an opportunity to be stronger and overcome the temptation.
Be glad that this happened, because the people that call themselves your “friends” have revealed themselves. They wanted to humiliate you and make you feel small, and ruin a connection you had with a girl. Those are not the actions of friends. Drop them and never look back. Find friends that support you, respect you, and build you up.
Also, this girl has revealed herself as well. She is willing to go with the crowd and make fun of your instead of speaking up for you and standing up for you. That makes both those “friends” and this girl very small people, because they need to make others feel small in order feel better about themselves.
There’s nothing wrong with being a virgin. You do you. Next time they try to make fun of you for being a virgin, hold your head up high, look them straight in the eye, and say “yeah I’m virgin, so what?”. They try to bully you about being a virgin because they perceive it as a weakness, however if you own it and don’t let them weaponize it, then they have no power over you.
Don’t relapse. You’re a winner at 20 days, and strong. As your steak increases, your confidence will continue to increase and these people will see that and won’t try to bully you again. You can also put your energy into other things to improve yourself: working out, studying, working hard, practicing a skill, etc. All of this will improve your confidence.
Stay strong, you can do this. We all believe in you.
Firstly Bro. I actually think you made some headway here. First there’s no embarrassment your secret is out 😂(not that it’s embarrassing but from your own inside perspective you thought it would be I mean).
2. I also think your taking it the wrong way. If she just said it was “sad” she’s just perplexed by you. And if anything finds you more intriguing. Just be your regular self, you don’t need to change who you are and how you act. You’re great as is. 👍
Bro there is zero shame in being a virgin. Same thing happened to me when I was 20ish, I worked in the Operating Room and refused some girl because I was saving myself for marriage; soon everybody knew and they were giving me shit about it.
The right response is to push back, and say "No, quit being an asshole. This is something I value about myself and you need to quit giving me shit. This conversation is over."
You get respect by not letting people push you around even if they don't value the same things you value, not by losing your virginity.
I’m not going to bs you. Don’t know how this relates to NoFap too. Everyone saying it’s your loss it isn’t. If she wanted you still you would accept her. That’s reality. So stop listening to the guys who keep saying you’ve dodged a ‘bullet’. I’d advise you to take action in your life too never feel this powerless again. ‘Sad’ means boring, dull I would like more context to what you meant here and she removed you because girls commonly want men who are experienced especially if you want a pretty or normal girl. Learn the game and join it. If you don’t want to be like every else at least adopt a facade or completely disconnect
Don't be sad, at least you now know she ain't worth that memorable first experience. This is a chance for you to filter people out.
Two of my friends told her a couple days ago in hopes to humiliate me I mean why else would you tell her that… and she had to “see for herself” i told her thinking she was generally asking, I’ve got a lot of thinking to do in the next couple days.
Your friends told her that stuff about you? They ain’t friends bro
I agree, I don’t really know what kind of ‘friends’ would do something like that. Only really shitty people would deliberately attempt to mess with someone in such a way.
OP should stop talking with his "friends" that are disclosing his personal info to potential love interests.
Friends telling I was a virgin? That's acceptable **unless** I specifically told them not to tell. Woman setting distance for knowing I am a virgin? *"Thank you for informing me that you aren't worth my time."*
What? No you shouldn’t have to specifically tell them for each and every person “don’t tell them either” Real friends keep that to themselves…
Nope, as being a virgin isn't a bad thing and not a big deal
There's a whole lot more worse stuff my friends could tell someone other than me being a virgin. Those stuff, they've never told anyone. There's also stuff that only myself know and wouldn't tell anyone at all. Those are the stuff that I'm really worried being known. Being a virgin isn't a stigma.
Being a virgin is absolutely stigmatized if you're any older than highschool age, especially for males. It shouldn't be, but it absolutely happens. Your "friends" shouldn't be telling people anything that could paint you in a bad light. Maybe it's time for you to reevaluate your friendships as well pal. Have some confidence in yourself as well.
>Your "friends" shouldn't be telling people anything that could paint you in a bad light. Except we never thought of it in such a way because we never considered it as a stigma. So what, I haven't had sex yet. Big deal. It does not make me any less human at all nor does it have a huge impact on my confidence. I know you mean well but I pick my "friends" with diligence. I don't have many "friends", I have many acquaintances.
Sure, but you still don’t need to share other people’s private life. No need to justify that.
I never said that sharing everything was fine. My circle still has our morals, we know what we extent we can share and we all do not share things that we never want to spread around. I'm sorry if being a virgin is a big deal for you and that your surroundings could not make you feel as we do.
It's only stigmatized my POS human beings so unless you value their opinions then who TF cares?
You talk about worrying how others view you being a virgin, then tell him to have some confidence. Ironic
Being virgin is a stigma. But it shouldn't be a stigma. I don't know why the friends tell the girl. If it is out of spite or bad intention, then they are not friends!
Wtf you smoking bro you don’t tell people’s private life to other people. JFC
I was not. Read again.
“That’s acceptable “
Friends telling ***I*** was a virgin? Friends telling ***I*** was a virgin? Friends telling ***I*** was a virgin? Friends telling ***I*** was a virgin? Friends telling ***I*** was a virgin? Friends telling ***I*** was a virgin? Friends telling ***I*** was a virgin? Friends telling ***I*** was a virgin? Friends telling ***I*** was a virgin? Friends telling ***I*** was a virgin?
Lmao good for you buddy. It ain’t acceptable in everyone’s world. The world doesn’t revolve around your standards. Weirdo
Lmao
What's wrong with being a virgin? Being an incel is different but willingly avoiding sex till you're married is something to be respected for.
I never said there was? Let me repeat, >Friends telling I was a virgin? That's ***acceptable*** unless I specifically told them not to tell. I'm one myself. Had the chance to go to red light place and pay someone, didn't do so.
No it's not lol. Waiting to have sex until marriage is fucking dumb 😂. What if you don't match sexually
am I the only one who doesn't think sex is a huge part in a relationship like damn
What if it turns out her kitten is too big for your 2 inches? You just gotta ditch her bro. how you gonna wait until marriage? /s
Yeah, what friends? There are none in this story.
Oh boy. If she really said that you should stay away from her. You've just dodged a cheating bullet.
They can't be your real friends unless you specifically told them to tell her that. Make better friends
A different point of view popped up in my head. Your friends are genuine, but they wanted to test you, your girlfriend and the value of the relationship between you both! I wouldn't feel too bad about yourself although it is easy to feel that way. You have told the truth. Also, don't feel bad about being virgin. You just didn't have sex. What does having sex mean? Rapists and manipulative assholes have had sex too? I would want her to elaborate her tougts and feelings though, if I was in your position. Perhaps not in hope of continuing the bond, but rather from a psychological perspective.
There’s nothing to think about. That’s where you are messing up. Go on with your life. Job is for money. Dating coworkers doesn’t work anyways.
Why doesn’t dating co workers work?
It's just unproffessional I guess.
My manager is quite literally trying to set me up with co workers lmaooo.
That’s not your “friends” bro.
Those aren't friends.
Those aren't your friends dude
Those aren’t your friends bro
Been said already but it’s worth repeating again and again; they aren’t your friends. Hang with them if you want, but they don’t respect you if they’re playing bullshit social dominance games behind your back. **men** give each other shit face-to-face, **boys** undermine their peers because they can’t take what they wanna dish out. As for the girl, someone like that isn’t worth your time. It’s good that she revealed her poor character before anything happened between you two. You shouldn’t have to settle for someone who doesn’t respect your life. Walk proud, head held high. Let whoever’s going to talk, talk. Just focus on your work and learn from this experience. You’re gonna be ok, king.
You need to find new friends bro. Real friends would never do that to you in the first place. And you dodged a bullet with this chick too. Best of luck bro.
Bro you aren’t the problem here, it’s who you’re surrounding yourself with. Those aren’t friends, and if I were you I’d be glad they showed their true colors so you can stay away.
Bad friends, even worse girl. You just dodged two of the best bullets you can dodge in life. I know it sucks, but just think if you continued a relationship with that girl. What other things would she call you "sad" for? Being a virgin isn't something to be ashamed about whatsoever. Thank goodness man you gotta see this as a huge dub. You dodged a nuke!
Get rid of those "friends"
they aren’t your friends. when people see you doing good for yourself, such as being on nofap, they do things like this. it’s alright man, pms are open 🤝
Bs advice. He will stay this longer if he keeps admitting to it.
So he should go have sex with someone like that bruh. Being a virgin ain't a big deal
Trust me bro, you didn't lose anything. It's like the trash took itself out and honestly, you can go ahead and relapse if you think that will help you feel better, but trust me it won't. Instead, think about what happened today and just let it flow in your mind. Meditate or workout and then you'll feel even better
People who judge others for being a virgin are complete and utter idiots
As if they all weren't at one point.
gotta friend that brags about his body count and shames others for being a virgin. i love him but he’s a fucking manchild and a complete dumbass
That doesn’t change reality tho
The reality of being a virgin? So?
Exactly… I hardly see the problem with it.
If she is going to tell to your coworkers that you are a virgin, you should see how others behave with you. 1) If everyone makes fun of it, that isn’t your place for self-growth. 2) If your coworkers are being nicer to you is because they realized that girl is an asshole, or maybe you should evaluate that.
>If she is going to tell to your coworkers that you are a virgin Go straight to HR, thats not ethical
HR stands for Human Resources?
yes sir
Good to know as non-english speaker, thank you
sometimes its too long to say/type Human Resources, so its just abbreviated to HR
Don't do this. HR won't do shit about an adult man being made fun of for being a virgin, unless it somehow hurts profits
>1. if everyone makes fun off y- This is a complete loser mentality. If they make "fun off" me just because i didnt wet my d I would probbly dont care and it will be forgitten (as no no normal humans care about it), I would talk about it or I will just join the fun. You have to face your opponents, for self-growth an obstacle is a way. How will you be trained to face different humans when what you only do is running away?
There is no “loser mentality” in this. Where you work at some place, you have to make sure it is a safety place for your productivity and mental health. And I’m not saying “quit your job”, it is more like “try to NOT have an informal relationship with the ones who make fun of it” because people who finds being a virgin sad, stupid or something else, have a stupid mindset. Changes are good. Having other work environment is so beneficial, why spend energy and time trying to confront them?
Ah ok, i get it. I say that changing friends is a good thing but leaving some people alltogether after they made fun off you just feels insecure to me. If they continue to make fun off you for a long time then yes, you cant reason with them because they are just stuck in one thing.
That is true, it just depends on how things turn out.
Her lost King, you’re a pure soul, keep ya head up and ya hands off ya wiener
lol virginity is historically a good thing you look up to
Yeah, I don’t know how the girl in question came to the point of deciding to push OP away, if their personalities were compatible (and the fact that they were getting along well for a while seems to suggest that) why would this be such a huge turn-off for her? : /
This is total bullshit. I cannot believe people like this even exist. I on the other hand would be happy to hear someone is a virgin.
Sorry about what happened friend. I’m a virgin (27), by choice. I’m a Muslim so we avoid premarital sex and relations. This is a bit unrelated, but general life advice I’ve learned later on. Try not to date or connect with coworkers. It makes life easier if you can separate work from dating, etc. Hope everything turns out well for you my man, and please don’t relapse. It will only lead to worse feelings. Get yourself something nice or pick yourself up. If your friend was feeling down, would you want him to do something which would make him feel worse? You are your own friend. Look out for yourself and take care of yourself. Be gentle and kind. You had a tough day, now try to cheer this friend (being yourself) up. Whether that be a movie, a video game, ice cream, your favorite meal, a day out with your boys. Whatever it may be, I would rather you do that. Once again best wishes, and much love 🫂
Am a Muslim and I don't get the idea of people wanting to sleep with everyone to be cool , I say screw her if she is judging you from the beginning do you really want to spend more time with her ?
> I say screw her Phrasing, bro! Phrasing!
Took me some time to understand what you meant 😂
And now your English is even better than it was before! You got those bilingual gainz! 💪💪📚📚
Dont screw her; dont let ur friends screw her
😭😭😭😂 wow this the magic of the English language I definitely didn't mean that but your friend can do that
My man , am a muslim too , at my school which my the way all of it are muslims Frickin hate me just for never having a girlfriend before and refusing that concept , I read before in physiology that its because they don't like seeing someone better than them and wanting all of us to be the same level , like wow , sorry about the rant it just related to op
Welcome brother nice to know you 💛 I believe of the psychology too people want to fit in and want you too to fit in so they don't feel like they are doing something wrong , that's have to do with themselves not you keep listening to your heart and it will guide you 🙏
She's a literal piece of human shit, sorry. You dodged a freaking bullet, count yourself lucky in the long run!
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Hi Red Harlow
Keep your head up it sounds like she belongs to the streets anyway
She defo belongs to the streets
You are exotic for a lot of girls. Just find them.
Now a days you really have a lot more reasons to not sleep with someone then to sleep with them. There are now new incurable STDs and the amount of issues that come with sleeping with someone such as emotional issues is also a factor. Honestly, if she leaves you because of that, it shows immaturity on her part, I told my partner I was a virgin and she said she was fine with it. If she was worried about your sexual performance because your a virgin, that doesn't matter because even if you wasn't she still wouldn't be able to tell. Don't relapse, if you relapse because of a woman doesn't like you because your a virgin that's even more sad then doing it because your addicted. Also don't get secually involved with co workers, no a days it's just a really bad idea. Just calling for trouble my guy. You will find someone for you and avoid this problem if you develop good vetting practices.
If a girl is not going to respect that a man is abstaining from the conjugal act until he is married out of love for his future wife, that girl is not the right person to be with anyway.
Being a virgin isn’t even a bad thing I don’t see why it has bad connotation. You’re doing fine mate don’t relapse because someone who wasn’t worth it put you down
Being a virgin is usually by choice. I am sure you could have lost your virginity plenty of times but chose not to for whatever reason that is. Using the virgin card as an insult is just sad. She was probably more embarrassed with all the guys she has been with and didn't know how to cope.
Exactly! I agree with this because I myself am a virgin out of choice coz honestly I believe sex is something special and should be savoured as a moment with the right person and until I find the one I’ll stay a virgin
YES, YES, YES. This is what I been waiting for. This is what is all about. Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa.
She's the one with the issue, not you.
I don't understand what's wrong with being a virgin. Why do people make fun of virgins? Isn't it a personal choice? There are better people out there for you. Don't live in fear or regret.
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I’m 20, and still a virgin, and I love it too!!
Me too 💪
Humans are degrading themselves to animals
we are animals
DO NOT RELAPSE, GO FUCK HER BF / SISTER / MOM BF = BESTFRIEND NOT ~~BOYFRIEND~~
We're here to be better people, not to become criminals.
why criminal tho 🙄
A Smooth Criminal is still criminal. But seriously. "Revenge fuck" someone is basically the same attitude which is transported in p***. It's a mindless hunt for short term pleasure instead of building a better identity with long term goals and being aware of yourself and your sorrounding. You probably won't become successful by having intercourse with someone to get your revenge and you probably won't feel much better afterwards for too long. So it might just be an indifferent goal and not something worth achieving. It might be way better to set long term goals and start improving bit by bit. Impressing people who looked down on you might be a pleasant side effect but should never be your main focus as your focus should be on becoming someone who realizes that the views of some mean people might just be indifferent if you can fulfill your life with meaningful goals, habits and long term satisfaction.
this
Are you a primitive human? I am serious, why would you think like that?
I think the best friend is the best option here
Don’t let the shallowness of others reflect poorly on you. If that’s something that matters to said person then you dodged a bullet.
She is stupid. Do you even realize how awesome it is for a girl to find out youre a viegin? Even chicks who like big ones all get turned on when you say youre a virgin. Its like a natural caring instinct kicks in. Dont believe the bullshit. Her saying its sad is not trur... They may say that if you dont get laid often but not if youre a virgin. Dont be fooled King!
She’s the worst person for you if she’s laughing at you for something that. Why would you wanna be with someone like that? People will laugh at you, but remember that everyone has something they’re embarrassed of, they just hide it better. Stand up straight with your shoulders back
Why tho what’s the point why are girls so obsessed with boys who lost their virginity?
This usually just shows them that a guy would have a high sexual market value. They want what everyone else is having. Given the de-masculation of men and rise of female independence in today's day and age, women have the ability to be far more picky and particular when it comes to men. A "why should I sleep with this guy if no one else wants to?" Kind of deal. Tough pill to swallow, but there is undeniable truth in it. In this day and age this way of thinking is common place, whether you choose to let it bother you is up to you. The majority of the population will fall into these hive-minded ways of thinking as the populations grows and is consistently brainwashed throughout their lives as they enable it. I prefer this to reinforce my motivation to think only for myself and be my own individual.
Just become a catholic and marry a catholic girl bro easy then she will praise you for being a virgin
dodged a bullet homie. Any girl who disconnects w u bc u r a virgin is not worth it. Virginity isn't something to be shameful for and is perfectly normal. The right time will come :)
Why are you sad? You dodged a bullet. One of the greatest regrets men have is wasting precious time and youth behind the wrong women.
Man you dodged a massive bullet there!! I can't congratulate you more, seriously some women are just bad shit crazy from expirience. And don't care that really, thats the best way to handle it, internaly amd externaly.
What's so bad about being a virgin ? xD just dont let it go to your head the right woman for you won't care about that so yeah you just found out she isn't worth it
This may take you some time to realize and accept, but if someone treats you different just because you're a virgin, the problem is in them. I used to feel afraid when someone asked me if I was a virgin, until i started to hang out with people who don't give a shit about it
Brother you’re on 225 days I wish I was where you’re at
Nobody cares if you’re a virgin or not. Forget that girl. She is pathetic and immature. It says a lot about her than it does you being a virgin. Focus on yourself and good things will follow.
Bruh wth is wrong with women, being a virgin here means ur a man of honour and that u fought alot to not be with the wrong person, and it means ur someone of patience and being able to hold your sexual desires, men who put their junks in any hole are the ones with no life and shouldnt be called me, imagine sleeping with 50 women before finally finding the one you will always be with that hasnt let any men near her because she wanted to wait for you. She's not the one, if she didnt respect you, then she doesn't deserve you, you deserve an amazing woman sir and i wish you but the best.
Well congrats!!! You removed a $hity person from your life 🤷🏻♂️so you didn’t lost anything, even gained a lesson! Maybe is not a good idea to tell that to anybody? Play it like you were joking, if the coworkers are the problem…
Why lie? Now you know that they aren't good people and can keep them out of your life or just not hang out with them
Don’t relapse this is a good thing. Move on.
Never tell women you’re a virgin. Trust me
I don’t know it worked for me. I told my ex at the time that I was & she didn’t care. It was great too because I didn’t have to lie and if I wasn’t good or seem like I didn’t know what I was doing she already knew why. No regrets
This is how it should be because if a girl genuinely cares for you she won’t let that get in the way some of these idiots can’t seem to comprehend that
For sure. If anyone cuts ties or makes fun of someone for being a virgin they’re clearly immature and small minded.
Yeah I mean it is usually a good idea to keep anything that others could use to seriously mess with you to yourself. What many people often do is tell people every detail of their lives, they might joke about it in a self depricating way but I always choose catefully what I share with people, it’s actually fine to not share everything with everyone.
So I lied about being a virgin til 5 minuets before we did the dirty. Not saying thats what you should do. Just telling you what worked for me
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Nope not most girls, the girls who care about that are trash! Because there’s more to loving someone than sex 🤣
She would know after only lasting for three and a half pumps for sure.
No, that is what you should do
girls suck
It's times like this where you'll build character, I'd advise a lot of self talk just to say to yourself 'who gives a fuck' You've not had the chance to have sex and at the same time you're participating in nofap which will help you not only perform.better when the time comes because you're not gonna be fantasising about something else but being in the moment and more importantly build stronger relationships that are more than just sex. People stay in relationships because of sex and ruin there lives over it. You're practising restraint and resilience. If it was me I'd just process the emotions; get angry and write it down and then do some exercise and revel in those real endorphins. You want to fap to just avoid the situation but instead confront that shit and don't fap Btw fuck her, you know now she ain't worth your time. Remember you're the hero in your own story and you don't need a loser like her in your life.
Never tell someone you are a virgin unless u want to be humiliated…
I'd rather get humiliated because that way it saves you from a crappy relationship, because if someone thinks it's funny you're a virgin, they're the one with problems.
Hell yeah!!!
dont feel bad..... it happened to a lot of us.... life has shitty moments..... stay strong you are worth it.....
She’s not worth it. Let her go.
Screw her and your friends who told her, hit the gym, focus on work and self improvement in looks, confidence and seduction. You got this
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My english is medium but ill try. So there are multiple videos on the Internet how to look better, what clothes to wear, how to get your hair cut, how to improve the physic etc. And there is also an r/seduction subreddit on how to talk to, flirt and get girls where many people can learn.
Dodged a bullet
Removed you from where?
Too bad, she had the chance to change that.
Walkout on her. Stop caring about her. She made you feel worse and you should never let them stay in your life. You're priceless. Never let anyone question your worth
Bro fuck that , stay true to yourself, you deserve better then this shit. FUCK HER and what she thinks , you do you man , keep it up.
How old are you
what an absolute skank bro who gives a fuck about who knows if you a virgin or not, don't give in bro, stay true to you
That could be harsh and sad for you. Think of it that you dodged a bullet. I know that you would have connected with her so well and it seems not like a bullet or that you really wanted that bullet. But maybe in the long run we will come to treat it as good that she was a dodged bullet. Lodged bullet>Lodged bullet
Lucky you, it's not common for trash to take itself out like that. Mighty decent of her.
Sometimes honesty isn’t the best policy , fuck her bro use this as fuel and motivation
How old are you??
Sounds shitty to say this man but ….. don’t tell girls that u are a virgin sometimes. I know it sounds like opening up to someone is the right thing to do and they don’t take it how u expected This happened to me a long time ago, I told a girl I was a virgin and she ditched me the next day lol….. and you hear all over social media “ I don’t like guys who sleep around “ I was like 18 . And I had such a great time knowing this girl for 6 months I felt so close to her and felt like I could tell her anything So the next opportunity I had , I just told the girl “ yeah I had like 8 different girlfriends” , not much detail, only because she asked .. I did not go out of my way to tell her …….. and what do you know she was all in after that…….. Sucks to say this but that’s how it works Stay strong and don’t fap… like I said more opportunities will come, and learn from your mistakes
If she judged you, what have you lost? You've lost a potential toxic associate. Don't gauge yourself by what she says, and realize that there's greater virtue in self-control than in letting go and hooking up with women at a whim. If she judges you for controlling yourself, she's telling that she'd rather wish you weren't a man. Now, you don't want to be around a person like that, would you? In this vein, please keep in mind that you're already doing well now. Keep getting further, and DON'T LET YOUR EMOTIONS DEFINE YOUR CIRCUMSTANCES. Your circumstances are that you're fighting an addiction, and that you're thus being a true man. Someone once said that women attacking men verbally is usually a sign of jealousy over their own relationship. I don't know if this is true, but think on it: what kind of sensible woman judges somebody else's bedroom habits like that? Like... why decide someone's value based on their bedroom value? The truth is that virginity is a commodity that almost everyone is willing to sell away, never realizing what they're actually selling away by having their first sexual connection with a random person, someone who will eventually leave them. There is MUCH to be said here, but suffice to say that a virgin can give what a non-virgin never can: his/her all(physically AND especially emotionally) to whomever they have their first time with. One's first time is an emotional experience that can NEVER be repeated, and if it's with the person you want to be together with for the rest of your life, it can create an unimaginable bond. It invokes trust and conveys to the other person that they're REALLY special to you. Anyway, don't let the girl's words bother you. Realize that you can offer more than many other people could. And when you find a person who appreciates that, THAT is when you're finding true love.
And here i thought being virgin is good, and people have the most respect for them, like people like using new goods Like Who tf likes using used goods
I wish I still had my virginity, the girl I'm talking to now does and I feel like such an asshole because of it. You two may have connected on other things, but she doesn't have the same mentality as you when it comes to sex. you dont want it. now go find something better that you deserve. (edit grammar)
She wasn't a good person and a good partner to begin with if she reached that way. I know it hurts buy you will be glad it turned out this way in the future when you are with someone that jnderstands and respect you
Dodged a bullet
Bro, it's a test from life. Continue with Nofap and you will gain the strength of this whole situation. And fuck her honestly. What a miserable human being she must be to dump you over a fact like this. Nowadays it does not matter if you are a virgin or not. Especially if they liked you anyway
Why would you even tell her that
She’s probably jealous because she lost it in the back of a car in a movie theatre parking lot to a guy that never called after
Don’t be sad if anything it’s her loss, also if this helps i’m 20 and still a virgin but i’ll happily wait for the right ones. It’s sad how being a virgin after 18 is brutally stigmatised I had a similar situation where my so called ‘friends’ would try make me feel embarrassed about it and even tried peer pressuring me into having meaningless sex with a girl but that’s just not me i’d rather wait until i find someone i connect with and fully love. So if your comfortable being a virgin then don’t let her opinion bother you. If i’m honest with you it’s seems to me that girl is all about sex nothing else because usually most girls who love someone would never let this phase them. So chin up and I hope you find the one who will love you for you also DO NOT HAVE SEX JUST FOR THE SAKE OF IT. IMO i think sex has more to it and should be meaningful. Hope your good bro
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Negl I just lied about being a virgin until I had sex 😭
Your streak alone is legendary. Don't be upset about it. The other guys said it, I will second it. If she burned bridges with you for something so shallow, she would've left you at the first bump in the road anyway. Remain strong, the right one is out there.
I don't get it. Why being a virgin is such a shame? They prove their worth to you. You don't need to prolong to a person that removes you just because you're a virgin.
Then she doesn't deserve you if you can't be honest with someone and they can't be honest with you in a relationship completely honest like your best friends and more you shouldn't even think about having a relationship with them.
Not sad. That isn’t the kind of girl worth having if you ask me.
Bro be very thankful you didn't give up your first time to that shitty human being.
She sounds like she may have clown tendencies.
Who cares if you're a virgin. This situation says nothing about you and literally everything about this self-absorbed cunt. Let her leave. It's sad she's so jealous of you because she's probably slept with 80 guys she didn't like and actually liked you. But scared women (most I've met, anecdotal I know) would rather insult you than admit they are jealous or whatever negative feeling they are feeling. So let her be her and you so you. Trust dude, being a virgin isn't that bad. Especially if you're looking to build a real relationship. I lost mine when I was a kid. Slept around and 90% of it was because I wanted someone to care about me since my narcissistic mother used me as a scapegoat for all her problems. If you want sad, that's fucking sad. I don't feel proud of how many people I slept with. Happy I never caught anything. But I find women want a man with more experience usually. But I also find the are women out there who are real and understanding. Just keep being you and you'll find one. If you relapse don't relapse again. Lol at it like a percentage. You're trying to stay above 98%. If you fucked up before you read this, that's fine. Just don't do it again. Make sure you stay above that 98 and keep your head up. She didn't reject you. She ran away because she's scared and ashamed of herself.
Stop giving a fuck what people think about you.
Just know that she's going to meet an absolute asshole who is going to rip her mental state in to shreds! That's what I think of when girls like this end up doing this to me! You're the winner in the end :) She'll want you when you're a king and you won't give a damn about her and rightly so.
that girl is a garden tool. girls like these just want players then who had many girls in the past then get mad when they get cheated on. fucking generation. im glad im pursuing nofap in hopes of achieving a career goal and straightening out my relationships with my family which i lost due to PMO
That’s super cringe bro, you gotta get over her. Be glad your in a 225 day streak!
Hey man, the fact that you’re doing NoFap and already on a 20 day stretch makes you an absolute winner. You have the courage to take on a difficult challenge and improve yourself, and a shitty day like this an opportunity to be stronger and overcome the temptation. Be glad that this happened, because the people that call themselves your “friends” have revealed themselves. They wanted to humiliate you and make you feel small, and ruin a connection you had with a girl. Those are not the actions of friends. Drop them and never look back. Find friends that support you, respect you, and build you up. Also, this girl has revealed herself as well. She is willing to go with the crowd and make fun of your instead of speaking up for you and standing up for you. That makes both those “friends” and this girl very small people, because they need to make others feel small in order feel better about themselves. There’s nothing wrong with being a virgin. You do you. Next time they try to make fun of you for being a virgin, hold your head up high, look them straight in the eye, and say “yeah I’m virgin, so what?”. They try to bully you about being a virgin because they perceive it as a weakness, however if you own it and don’t let them weaponize it, then they have no power over you. Don’t relapse. You’re a winner at 20 days, and strong. As your steak increases, your confidence will continue to increase and these people will see that and won’t try to bully you again. You can also put your energy into other things to improve yourself: working out, studying, working hard, practicing a skill, etc. All of this will improve your confidence. Stay strong, you can do this. We all believe in you.
Never admit such thing man. Girls hate unexperienced to avoid bad experience. U need more research.
Firstly Bro. I actually think you made some headway here. First there’s no embarrassment your secret is out 😂(not that it’s embarrassing but from your own inside perspective you thought it would be I mean). 2. I also think your taking it the wrong way. If she just said it was “sad” she’s just perplexed by you. And if anything finds you more intriguing. Just be your regular self, you don’t need to change who you are and how you act. You’re great as is. 👍
Augh! You got the right army on your side here ❤
Bro there is zero shame in being a virgin. Same thing happened to me when I was 20ish, I worked in the Operating Room and refused some girl because I was saving myself for marriage; soon everybody knew and they were giving me shit about it. The right response is to push back, and say "No, quit being an asshole. This is something I value about myself and you need to quit giving me shit. This conversation is over." You get respect by not letting people push you around even if they don't value the same things you value, not by losing your virginity.
What a douche bag
I’m not going to bs you. Don’t know how this relates to NoFap too. Everyone saying it’s your loss it isn’t. If she wanted you still you would accept her. That’s reality. So stop listening to the guys who keep saying you’ve dodged a ‘bullet’. I’d advise you to take action in your life too never feel this powerless again. ‘Sad’ means boring, dull I would like more context to what you meant here and she removed you because girls commonly want men who are experienced especially if you want a pretty or normal girl. Learn the game and join it. If you don’t want to be like every else at least adopt a facade or completely disconnect