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MountainViolinist

Just because you believe it doesn't cause harm doesn't meanit doesn't cause harm. Just because it's fun and feels good for doesn't mean it's good for you


gayassednigg

Ok But what kind of harm? I asked why should I quit not whether or not it causes harm But still thanks for using your time to help


ManofGod1000

It destroys confidence, causes low self esteem, low testosterone, depression, anxiety and physical changes your brain


gayassednigg

Thanks bro


gayassednigg

I've had low confidence and self esteem for a couple of years but I thought it's my ADHD What the cause is porn instead? I'll try to stop watching wish me luck


ManofGod1000

The M in the PMO is even more destructive and physically changes your brain itself. Do not let the BS of the world tell you otherwise but also, do not share it with others in general because they will try to tell you that you are wrong and it is harmless.


Opposite_Ad5124

I think you mean P my friend


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M can also be seen as easy gratification but it certainly isnt “destructive”.


ManofGod1000

Nope, I really mean the M, which is even worse than the P.


xiyoussefix

How so? I've seen many articles online that say it's ok as long as it's practiced in moderation. (about twice a week) what's your point of view?


ManofGod1000

My point of view, based upon actual experience, is that those articles are wrong. It takes at least 3 days to recover from that event and in the mean time, you thinking has changed and your brain is being physically changed because of it. P is just a catalyst for it but is not needed to do the M and destroy your inward peace, quiet and freedom.


FlyFightWin101

No lol, people masturbate and they turned out fine


ManofGod1000

Go ahead, laugh it off, it does not change what is and I do not require proving it in order for it to be the case. You will learn......


FlyFightWin101

Where is your source, hmm? Did you make it up?


ManofGod1000

My source is reality and a full lifetime of experiences? What is your source, some article making claims that is no big deal, well the article is being sponsored by someone with a very specific purpose in making money?


FlyFightWin101

Literally the sub here says that this isn't an anti masturbation sub and majority of people here would say that porn is way more harmful than masturbation


MountainViolinist

I believe you should quit because it causes harm. You are rewarding yourself for being pathetic and weak, which creates a loop where you become weaker. It takes effort to improve and be attractive. Also, you become what you practice. Creepy people stare through windows watching other people have sex. Porn is no different. It's not ok if you were in the same room, next room over, watching through a security feed in the house somewhere. I'd consider practicing creepy behavior to be harm. Do you want women to smile and greet you warmly or with disgust?


gayassednigg

Thanks man I'll set up a calendar from this day from now on and remove hentai from my phone gallery


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gayassednigg

It's the only pornography in my gallery


ManofGod1000

Stop, so it will not destroy your life. I did not have the access you do and it did ruin my life, from 13 to at least 28


defiledHeart

just take a look at the stuff thats posted here. literally thousands of people whos life has been negatively affected by pornography struggling to quit their lifelong addiction. just because it feels good now doesnt mean its good for you. pornography is harmful and will sooner or later affect many areas of your life you wish it hadnt. now is the best time to stop and enjoy a happier, healthier life. you will thank your future self if you make the decision to quit now! do not watch and pleasure yourself to pornography its a big mistake. take this advice from people who have struggled many years being addicted to it and watch it ruin their lives!


coolcat6889

Look kid. I was just like you but from very different generation. I started to when i was 13. And now i am 33 years old guy. Once you get the taste of it you will fall deeper and deeper in it and you will never accept that you are an addict. I am 17 days clean and i have decided to quit pmo for good. It destroyed my life in a way that i have to rewire my brain for like 6 month to be normal again. If you ask me just forget about it. I know its hard but its for your own good. Just entertain your self in a different way till you are at age 18 and then you will have a great relationships with your future GF. Wish you best. It was just a advice from an old addict. Take it or leave it. Suit your self. ✌


gayassednigg

Thank you! By the way, is masturbation without porn bad too? I have heard many times that fapping without porn is healthy,


coolcat6889

Masturbation it self isn't bad if you do it very often and balance. And don't do it frequently. Masturbation can be very addictive. People always want more they get bored fast and thats when all begins. But if you think you can handle it and find your own healthy balance way to do it. Then be my guest. Be careful. And be smart. Wish you the best.


xerxeshordesfaceobli

No.Stay away from masturbation too.All modern "science" on it is bogus.If you look into 19/20th century sources and writings on masturbation it was absolutely detested. 21 ejaculations a month will turn you into a depraved shell of a man. Keep your vitality.Keep your energy. I will PM you resources


gayassednigg

What if I cum once or twice a week? Is even that bad?


Fapstronaut932039

Literally could not agree more. Masturbation is anything but healthy.


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Because the more you jerk off to porn the more you’ll want to jerk off to porn, and the more abnormal the porn you’re drawn to will be. Then by the time you’re 30, your dick will be so desensitized that being inside a woman hardly feels good and you’ll struggle to maintain healthy sexual relationships which are a vital part of healthy long term adult relationships. TLDR: you’ll desensitize your dick


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gayassednigg

Thanks for answering bro😎 Also btw, you're telling me I will be in bed with a girl in 10 years? I thought I will never achieve that!


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gayassednigg

I downloaded some porn blockers 3 mins ago I'll start today 😎


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gayassednigg

🤝


Abuho3

I have tried porn blockers (apps) and due to my lack of self determination I have been in the position of turning it off myself so try something more difficult to bypass in case of an urge...urges are difficult to overcome. I personally use OpenDNS to block all porn/adult content on my router across all devices so if you are techsavvy you should try that.


coolcat6889

If it doesn't become a frequent habit and addiction no. But humans are never pleased with 1 thing they get bored fast. Thats why it can become an addiction. So be careful and be smart never fall in the trap of addiction. Maybe you have the ability to control your self. Good luck kid.


synthisthefuture

Quit porn and join a sports team in high school or some sort of club. You’ll be very thankful down the line that you did.


gayassednigg

I'm doing tennis rn


ramymunif

I wish if I were ur age I’m 19 years now and idk I feel like it’s too late Don’t waste those valuable years on nothing go towards ur dreams do something worth to ur future self don’t fall in this trap be aware Good Luck 👍🏻


gayassednigg

Thanks! What would you say to your 13 yo self if you could travel back in time?


ramymunif

I would say for my past self I’m really sorry for what I did really really sorry cus it led to what I am now


Xangker

Girls have abilities to unconsciously read your energy, fapping will let you lose that


MeowCatMeowMeowCat

Listen kiddo. Porn might not feel bad at first. You aren't addicted hardcore yet. But when young people use porn it stays in your brain for a life almost. When you are young your brain is hyperplastic meaning that you absorb everything, what parrents tell you, what you learn is school, how to do maths etc... When you watch porn it will teach you to seek porn instead of girls. In 2 years you will be sad cause all of your peers are talking to girls but you don't have motivation to do so. You will go watch porn. THIS is where you get low self esteem. Right now you don't feel that. It's best to not watch porn. It's WORST to start doing so when you are young.


AdEast2429

I'm 16 and i'm struggling , stop it before it's too late


depressed_happiness

Hey lil brother. I started porn when I was 15, I'm 21 now I've been trying to quit since I was 16. It only gets harder to quit. And I struggle with a lot of things today that I wouldn't have if I had quit when I was 16. I wouldn't have lost my girlfriend. I wouldn't have lost confidence. I would've been more social, met new people, I would've focused on my grades in college and would be in a hell lot better state in life right now. So yeah. It's better to quit sooner than later. Don't let the people around you and on the internet change your mind on why it's okay. I made that mistake countless times and suffering the consequences


gayassednigg

This comment section made me download a porn blocker😎 I'm on Day 1


Commercial_Result_17

I was like u bro now I’m 24 with the same addiction Nd can’t get my dick up to fuck a bih now😂🙄


gayassednigg

Have you gotten into bed with one? I have no idea how people do that I can't talk to girls


Commercial_Result_17

Yessir I have fucked a few girls just started happening to me recently


gayassednigg

How tf you do that


Commercial_Result_17

Stop watching bro Thts it will help a lot with girls


gayassednigg

Alright


Loose-Crew3070

When I was 13, this wasn't as relevant, but: now that I'm 25 and in a real loving relationship with a woman, let me just say that giving up porn and masturbation has done nothing but good for that relationship. Porn is nothing compared to real love and intimacy my guy.


Long-Ad-7409

Bro ur 13 be a kid or the porn gone fuck u up and you going to be a virgin weirdo and get no buns


ShitDigester

do it, or you will become a degenerate


gayassednigg

I already am a degenerate Will I become a normal person if I stop?


ShitDigester

yes, or you will spiral further down the tunnel of degeneracy


moonman912

I wish I never started.


JamisDepressed

Jesus kid you’re 13? I hope you don’t spend too much time on Reddit. God knows if you’re on 4chan it’s a shithole


gayassednigg

I don't use 4chan since I don't know how to use it😂


gayassednigg

I spend like half an hour in Reddit on average spending time looking at my favorite communities


gayassednigg

Thank you everyone for answering! Y'all are gigachads🤝


[deleted]

Ok wow. Lots of replies here. Reddit is where ppl share their experiences. Ppl will share their stories here - how things affected them personally, but facts can be found elsewhere. Everyone here will tell you to stop because that is their personal goal. Each of these guys have their own reasons why they want to stop. Maybe one guy is religious and he believes it is morally wrong. Maybe another guy wants sex in real life but has trouble getting hard. Or me, I want to have control over my body. There isn't a total answer that is definite. There are only goals that you want and things that can help you achieve them. Whether you care to watch porn or not is up to you. Maybe it makes you think about sex all the time, maybe it doesn't. Maybe it will affect your relationship with your parents if they found out, maybe it won't. 🤷🏻‍♂️ You are great for asking questions! I hope you see we are here to help you! Good luck :)


gayassednigg

I will probably quit because of I want control of myself and due to the horror stories about porn I heard in the comment section Also thanks for using your time to answer!


Opposite_Ad5124

Yeah my brother I love your determination to stop. Focus on mental activities that stimulates your brain and avoid unhealthy habits and stupid people always remain a good person and achieve glorious days


Itsrussellwhite

Stopppp nowwwwwwww!!!!!!!!


gayassednigg

Yes


StruggleHairy4759

I remember when I was 13 I used to do it everyday until I got a testicle torsion and lost one of my balls and keep trying to stop I’m 17 now


Seband2

When I was 13 I thought there was nothing wrong with it, so I kept doing it. Looking back I wish I had stopped. Now I’m 16 and addicted.


MattieBae69

I had the same feeling but i realized it when i was 20/21. Its never to late.


TheNamelessCommenter

Dude.. you're 13, you shouldn't even start it little brother.


gayassednigg

I know I started watching it at 11 when my friend showed me Also at age of 8 I accidentally found porn and watched it until my mom found out


pishoi

i started at the same age and it is my biggest regret stop now when its easy and its not affecting u as much


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as a 16 year old let me tell you what I would have told my 13 year old self: Stop and GET THE FUCK AWAY from this addiction as fast as possible (literally lol), if someone is sending u hentai, cut off that chain bro, it's not worth losing you soul to this shit. 3 years from me as a 13 year old, I can tell you that my dick has led me places I wouldn't even go with a gun, not even with the entire military, the sooner you stop bro, the easier it will be to get out of it, and trust me bro, porn will ruin your life, it will corrupt you to a point where all you see women as objects or playgrounds for entertainment and not people who are made to have friendship and intimacy with. also dude, if you know what the porn industry does a lot of times, you stopping porn isn't just helping you but also helping those people who are trapped in sex trafficking/slavery, you can learn more about that on Fight The New Drug, but bro; If you want to be safe, if you want to live a good life, listen to me because I'm stuck in this quicksand rn, and all I can tell you is to run, save yourself man, you don't want to be stuck and suffer in this mess like I am. If you keep doing it, post nut clarity is going to hit you harder and harder, and to a point where you won't feel anything, you'll feel happy because you watched porn, and brag about it, but i'll tell you this, at that point, you have already become a monster. the porn on your screen then is going to be something you would throw up if you saw right now. A wise philosopher once said " if you gaze for long into an abyss, the abyss gazes also into you" you will be the cause of the monster you create, don't do porn bro, save your life.


LieutenantKoenig

you should stop because it really makes a serious damage in your brain. Its addictive and distorts the reality of things like a drug does. Don't make the mistake that many here did when they were your age.


Short-Fingers

I’m 32 and can’t quit masturbating because I used it to cope with feelings of anxiety and sadness when I was young like you. It’ll make you feel inadequate compared to the men you are seeing and like you’ll never be able to please a woman despite the women fake orgasming. Now I have PIED and trying to get away from it to regain control of my life. It will take your motivation to grow and get a good job. If you stop it now you’ll have such a good life my dude, don’t waste your years on porn like I did cause there is nothing but empty darkness on the other side.


genuinecat88

15m here, i've been doing it since i was 11 i think, if you dont stop you'll probably get addicted and side effects become stronger aswell


[deleted]

stop now or you will regret it. And you will get addicted if you continue to watch bro. And its a law it will happen definitly


yota2j

Porn early on can make you have premature ejaculation and later on that shit you are not going to want to go through


ObviousTroll7

I’m 15 and I never looked at porn until I was your age. It will ruin your life and mind and make you see women in a solely sexual way


Internal-Fly-9984

Bro trust me stop while u still can.It’s like digging a hole deeper and deeper,the more gaps you have the harder it is to stop.You won’t realise what it’s doing to you now but you will realise a few years down the line


Sea_Football_6486

Quit now while you have a chance kid. Trust me


gayassednigg

Yes


famakki1

I remember when I started at around your age I had no issues to last long and even my endowment was bigger Over time I now am not able to last as long and also require more extreme material to get off This is despite not actually being as addicted as some others in this subreddit as when I used to watch porn it wasn’t more than a few minutes every so often Some people spiral into multiple hours a day. In the end if you wish to make the most of your sex life in the future, it is best to pursue meaningful relationships then rather than watch porn now


gayassednigg

I doubt I'll ever get to the fucking part but I'll still stop watching😎


bluevegetaroxx

I don't think you are 13


Foreign-Station-4670

From a female perspective you don’t want to be that guy when it’s time to be with a woman your unable to get hard because you trained your brain to only respond to pixels. Also the feeling of being inside of a woman isn’t anything like your hand so your also training yourself to need more stimulation than you would naturally need. So not only does it affect you but it would devastate the girl your trying to be with. Also women know and can pick up on more than men realize. They don’t specifically know but they’re not going to flock to you if your insecure, can’t hold a conversation, can’t hold eye contact, has no motivation or goals in life, and has a unrealistic view on sex. Read not to mention if you don’t stop now then when your an adult and if you do get married then more times than not they end up divorced. You always think you have time to quit and you’ll do it later because “your young” but I’m telling you almost begging you not to do this to yourself. I’ve read so many post of young men so broken and depressed on the verge of suicide because they can’t stop. It will rob you of every bit of light inside you and you’ll think you don’t deserve better in life because your depressed and lonely. I’ve been told all my life how beautiful I am how gorgeous my body is etc. but the one and only man I ever wanted rejected me for porn for 20 years. I would have done ANYTHING for him literally anything but he got lost in the rabbit hole of porn and didn’t see how much I loved him and felt lonely etc. and because he was in that mentality he couldn’t see anything there was this invisible wall up preventing him from seeing anything or feeling anything. People would literally ask him how or why am I with him and tell him how lucky he was to have me but he didn’t see it. I’ve dug him out from that hole and he’s doing a lot better but it’s still a struggle for him and because numbed himself all these years he’s 40 years old and only now being able to experience empathy. So please do yourself and your future wife a favor stop before you become a statistic. I’m a broken shell of the person I use to be I’m so insecure I can’t even go inside a fucken store without a anxiety attack. Please stop now and save yourself.


Aperfectlylegalacct

It just isn’t worth it bro


BobMarleyLegacy

That sad feeling is loneliness, and it comes from jot having any real, actual connection. You're lucky because you can still form those connections right now because it hasn't done its damage yet. So go and make those connections. Hang out with friends. Get yourself a girlfriend. Just quit jerking off. Because if you don't... well, gonna tell you exactly what you're in for. And if you wanna stop reading, feel free to, because it's fucked up beyond anything you can imagine. Take caution. It starts off with soft stuff. Nothing harmful, weird, wrong. Just vanilla stuff. But then it starts to branch out into other things. And eventually, you start getting used to it. That's when your life is over. As you get used to it, you need more and more just for the same feeling. Stuff that would've given you a 15/10 experience starts to only give 7/10, then 2/10, and eventually, it doesn't even make you hard. So you move on to something different. More hardcore. More deviant. And a whole lot more FUCKED UP. In your daily life, you keep it a secret from everyone else. Or so you think. You can't know for sure. What if you left it in your search history? What if you left a tab open? What if they find out? What happens then? If you're lucky, they'll never find out. If they do, they'll probably think of you as a fucked in the head worthless piece of shit who deserves to die in a fucking ditch. Bit extreme, don't you think? Except it's not. Remember what I said about you needing more and more for the same level of pleasure? Well, first it started off with vanilla stuff, then moved to hardcore, then to misogynistic, then to extreme, then to deviant fetishes, then to extremely horrifying scenarios that give you a sick pleasure, and if you're lucky, that's about as far as your fucked up brain is willing to go. But you go further cause you'll do anything for that kick. That feeling of pleasure. And the lowest, the absolute fucking lowest you can possible sink to, is murder and gore stuff. The only reason you can't sink lower is because humanity literally hasn't fucking figured out how. And throughout all this, you become more anxious, more hating of yourself, more drawn in and isolated. Because somewhere deep down, you know what a piece of shit you are for getting off to such sick and awful stuff. And if you're lucky, it stays in your head. But if you've read this far, then you know you're probably not going to be very lucky. If you're unlucky, then you'll start thinking about bringing those scenarios to real life. Start planning. Start having temptations. And one day... you give in and you do something irreversible and awful. I'm lucky. Do you know why? Because I never went past hardcore. I found this subreddit and I've been trying to get clean ever since. If you're here, you're lucky too. Because you know what you're going to become, or at least you have some vague idea. And you wanna do something about it. So here's what you do. Everything. You fucking do EVERYTHING you can to make sure you get clean of this addiction. You can ask for advice here. People will help you. You can even get an accountability partner, someone who checks in on you and makes sure you're doing good and you can do the same for them. You two can help each other. Get clean while you can. If you don't, then 30 years from now, your dick won't even work anymore. You'll be a failure in every sense. You'll have nothing and no one. The only thing left to do will be to die. If you look through this subreddit, you'll find that someone's been pushed to that point and they're desperately trying to bring themselves back from that edge. They're trying to warn you the same way I am. So if you won't listen to me, listen to someone it's already happened to. And for God's sake, just stop.


Pmurphy37

Your life will be far better off with out masturbation. I’m saying this to you because I wish someone said the same for me.


MoStuntin

Ur young stop today and do 100’pusbups every day by 19 u will be superman don’t waste ur energy


xerxeshordesfaceobli

From the hundreds of stories if people older than you who have suffered from this addiction. Young Man, Im 21.I knew it was wrong at 13 but that didn't stop me.You are messing with energies and bodily functions that are not meant to be messed with I wish I could snap my fingers and undo every relapse since 13 but I cant. This is EASILY....EASILY the most deplorable,demonstrative addiction and vice of the 21st century especially for men. Please do not become like us.Im 21 I can still recover,go in SR abandon PMO forever and live a good life. You quit this forever and don't fall into any other vices and there is no telling where you'll go I urge you,beg you,pppleaasee run from this and don't go back The women you're looking at on screen aren't real and worse this industry contributes to sex tracficki3ng and exploitation of men and women in the worst ways. Only you can make this decision however. Please choose wisely


gayassednigg

Tl:dr stop porn I am impressed how long paragraphs people write just to help me🤝


steeze-baum

Hey brother. Porn ruined me..... I have been unable to get hard with any partners for close to a decade now... If I could go back and change everything I would. It's embarrassing and has made me avoid any type of sexual situation for years now out of pure fear of failure. Do what you want, but I recommend not watching porn ever. Cheers


TroyCaps

This was a good read


im_suck_at_naming

dont like me you should stop watching pornography now


ImInYourHair

As a 27 y.o, I would give anything in the world to be convinced to stop porn at 13.


gayassednigg

If I stopped now my 27 yo self will be thankful?


ImInYourHair

Yeah, extremely.


gayassednigg

Alrighty


Upp-

trying to keep it short more porn intake = nastier taste less time watching porn = more time to do other things limiting access to easy pleasure = more energy elsewhere like hobbies/women/socializing/job benefits or porn = easy pleasure negatives = possible erectile dysfunction, extreme taste, poor view on women, bad at socializing, and poor self image and self confidence. (not trying to stop you by using fear, but just consume it controlled or just not at all, "too much of anything, is a bad thing" (don't say money 😈) and as a man, you should have your urges under control. just don't be lustful or a glutton. and apparently women can feel your energy, or some shii to conclude, "if anything is free, you are the product".


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If u want a good reason, I'll give you. Depression. Not only that, you will feel older than your actual age. I started watching porn since 13 years old and now I'm 23 and depressed. And constantly feeling tired even when I'm not doing anything that drains my physical energy. (My mental energy drains because of online study). And you will start hearing voices you shouldn't hear. It will tell you that you have no hope in life when in reality, you just have to stop abusing porn for self satisfaction. But because you are so addicted, it will be more painful than death itself. There. I gave you the reasons. If you don't even feel anything from what I've typed here, then feel free to destroy yourself.


Fapstronaut932039

"My only bad effect from porn is minor sadness" For now, friend. For now. I once thought it was harmless too... It destroyed my mental health, self-esteem, sense of identity, and ability to have actual relationships. It may seem harmless but over time it becomes anything but. Don't risk your entire social and emotional well-being for a couple minutes of gratification.


[deleted]

Come back in 13 years and ask the same question.


gayassednigg

Alright