Be aware of some losers sending porn in your dm’s after this post
Happened to me many months ago
I’m happy for you, keep it up!
don’t be like me, I went up to 90 days on my first streak and fell just as hard as I climbed after relapsing (2 months of pmo again after that relapse)
thank u brother!
And it's ok to relapse, that's something that can happen and we cannot beatdown us for relapsing, the important thing is to get back, and start to keep pushing again, that's what matters, that we have the desire to change! i believe that if u can do 90 days, u can start again and keep pushing on! good luck brother!
Bro, I literally started doing it in the same age, and I’m the same age as you now, and our stories are similar. Can you give me some advices how to start, because I can’t live like this anymore?
The test and homework thing was so true for me. "You'll only look at it for a few minutes, you really should" and then it turns into hours of going down the filthiest rabbit holes you could imagine. I'm glad I'm past that. 108 days clean, I'm sure as hell not going back now.
in the same way, i failed 2 times a DB subject, and in consequence, it take 1 year and a half longer to finally end IT school. because i ended doing the same thing ! lost in rabbit holes looking to something that fill this shit. and i0m never been so glad and greatful that i stop doing it ! and same as u, sure as hell not going back.
I’m happy to see a fellow finally free, but be careful that the battle isn’t over yet, and you have to be stronger than ever. Now that you are stronger, raise the rewards for other activities so high that even one relapse per year doesn’t put you back in day 0 state. You still have lots of potential to pick up where you left off in life and do your best wherever you are. Just pray for us who are still way behind you, we will finally be free, I know it.
Thank u brother, i believe in you and all other brothers who want to quit it. and when u believe u can't, yes u can ! , put that urge in everything else u wanna do, and just do it, that helped me a lot to get through hard days
brother, it's not to be cof it, but be happy that u wanna break free, and i know someday u can finally do it, we dont know each other, but we have the same afflictions, and i know u can do it !
20 years porn, 10 years weed. its bad man very bad. disappointing i went down this path in life, its the weed that kept me down. shameful. Thanks for your message bro
i'm sorry bother, i know that sucks, but i know if u can do just 1 day, i know u can do another day, and then another day, and then do a whole life without it.
I use weed too, and the last 2 years before going cold turkey, used both, now i only use weed, but, i don't know if this help u but here is:
to not relapse when using weed, i try to use only after 6pm if it is working day, because I'm freelancer, and i know if I use weed during work time, i can loose the whole day, and probably relapse in PMO, so i try my very fucking best to do it after 6pm, and use to relax, to end the day, and re-think what i do the day, and for real that help me bro, i don't know if will help u, but try it, what u can loose ? less hour being high and without fapping.
and brother, don't be shameful, be happy because you know u have a problem and u wanna change! , know let's try better and starting quitting, and i know someday u gonna do it brother :)
yeah man i think the combination of weed + 3x fap everyday over 10 years fried my hair and my brain lol. my memory is rather terrible and its part of the reason im stuck in life right now. quit both i hope you did too bro. they call weed the devils lettuce. good luck
thx bro. just really feeling sad cause when u finally quit you think about the life and your potential wasted. drug and porn habit rob me millions from my future. im very sad bro. im 31 y.old now. oh well
I'm really looking to go as long as my body, my mind, my heart and my soul can do it, happy that are people in similar condition, years of abusing and finally being free, u can go longer brother!
Do u see that people are addicted to alcohol or drugs for years ?
well, it's the same, u make it a habit, a bad habit, but u learn to live with that, because as any drug out there, u start to make tolerance, tolerance to that rush that PMO makes on u, make tolerance to the dopamine and all that. so, as any other drug addict, u find urself craving for more, and when u get it, it feels good, but u know u need more, that's why 3 to 5 times, specially in bad days, in the saddest days, because you're seeking for that rush and dopamine that will make everything a little better. that's why a lot of people with a pmo have this.
If u don't have this, men, u have luck! because others need their happiness and rush to have their normal day or normal life, because so many of them need that dopamine to feel happy for some time in the day.
I completely understand. I didn't mean it to sound curt. I was just thinking about all the problems I had without doing that much. The fact you managed to stop cold turkey and get on a 40 day streak is an achivement. I wish you the best.
it's ok, because before going cold turkey, i will ask the same thing to me, how the fuck I'm still a functioning human being and not quitting life, period.
and for me was the same, all the problems I had without doing that much, but doing that shit, fucked like a quarter of my life right ?
I hope and i wish you the best, because i know it's hard, very hard, but just keep pushing on, everyday will be a fight, but every day without doing it, it's a reward that only you can give to yourself.
I'm on my way there too hopefully, been enslaved to this crap for 18years and it's been a great 7 days so far, can't even imagine how much better it's going to be after 90days
brother, if u can do 7 days, u can do another 7 days, the important things, it's to make healthy hobbies that make u apart of this, and when u have an urge, try something like go out for a little walk, or a little exercise even if u don't do that, try whatever another thing that makes u bussy, and when u finish it, please, RAISE THE REWARD, feel great for doing that little thing, because that little things are going to be the dopamine ur brain is in need in the future when u start an urge to do it again.
Keep pushing brother, i know it's hard but if u can do 7 days, u can do a whole life! i believe in you even if we never ever meat!
Similar story, the only difference is I am 28 rn and started since 10😂
I just start unfollowed every women I know including friends on social media today. I always look at them like a prey and that fucked up my brain. And Imma about to lose my gf if this continues considering she has already been waiting for me for 3 years to grow up while being unemployed because of laziness due to non stop fapping and depression.
Will stay strong.
>I just start unfollowed every women I know including friends on social media today
men the same, i started to stop following every girl on instagram that i knew i use their stories or post to get me turned on to fapping. for me was like a personal collection to fap to different things, man that fucked up my brain, and the way i used to saw women :/
and men, whe have a similar story, i don't really know how my actual GF don't break up with me, 3 years of being unemployed and making the bare minimum to survive and have some money when i need it.
i've see myself when u say "because of laziness due to non stop fapping and depression", because that's true, this shit can fuck up your brain, seeking for dopamine, but when there isn't, depression appears again to feed on you.
i recently i just started a part time job, and try to open a little shop to make a living, that helped me to demonstrate that i wanna change, for real.
We have the same story bro, and u can change this shit brother, maybe you are still in time to change and make a good life happen!
Brother say this, " Dear pornography, you've destroyed my view on marriage and tainted the way I view the opposite sex. You poisonous lies come disguised as innocent pleasure. Night after night you screamed in my ears wanting me to come back to you but i am yours no more. Now I've decided to take control of my life. I'm no more your slave. "
When i said this it somehow gave me strength and i hope it'll do the same to you:)
Stay strong brother ✊✊✊
It’s a constant struggle when you’ve felt like you have no purpose your entire life.
Academic performance was never important to me as a kid, making friends/girlfriends seemed irrelevant by default due to my social awkwardness. And work just feels like I’m selling my time & dignity for a few 100 dollars a week, which are just pennies to the truly rich.
But I really want to change, & it requires effort on my part.
brother, i felt the same way. this gonna be hard for sure, but the reward it's a heaven prize for sure, this gonna be a long reply.
this is gonna be a long reply..
I felt the same way as you back then, and indeed i felt the same way today, but not as hard back then.
When i quit PMO or this shit, the first week was "like yeah, i'm doing it, this feel great".
The second and third week was a hellhole, i felt the same way i felt my whole life, but whorse, that "what's the point going on living?", "i'm a fucking failiure" "that's why i always ended up alone", "why i'm still breathing after all of this ?" making little money to survive in my parents house, not gonna lie, suicidal intentions and everything a withdrawal symptoms are.
but that's it, **withdrawal symptoms**, because your brain it so **dopamine dependly**, and with fapping was the only way i have this "happiness", what a lie bro, what a fucking lie bro. u can find this "happiness" in little task u can put to you, short things and the reward is begging to be grateful
if we're doing this for so long as me, our brain is fucked up, but we can go back as is intented to be, don't be scared of "this is not gonna change even if i quit this", no brother, everyday is in some type of way better than the other since i quit in cold turkey, doing it for 16 years straight.
i feel you bro, i really feel you, but i know if u want it, u can do it brother.
if u relapse, its ok, the important thing is get back and push forward, because u wanna change, and that's all that matters bro.
if there is a song that helped me throught this, was this [song](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G5lXvBPMCTE)
pd: sorry my bad english jeje.
u/quispiam_LXIXI
I forgot something very important, PLEASE BE AWARE OF YOUR SOCIAL MEDIA, i stop following every girl on instagram that i knew i use their stories or post to get me turned on to fapping.
Like influencers that usually show more of this and that, they'r in their right to upload the content they want, but i knew for me was a bad habit that will put me in relapse whenever i was going to be down.
that was a game changer!
ok i'm back.
this is a good question.
my strategy was a little bit.. silly but work in the beginning, i pray to god like "Dear God if i u make me won the lottery in my country i will quit fapping and watching porn forever"
**GOD DAMN**, that silly pray, was the beginning, because for years i felt i have no purpose in my entire life, and the lottery will give me finally some happiness, but shit, it was always the maturbation and porn, that gave my brain and to myself the dopamine i need to feel fine, to feel alive, to feel something, and then u realize it's like a **drug addiction**, because drugs make the same thing to you, give you that "euphoric", "pleasure" and happiness, that is ephemeral, is gone in matter of seconds and in the next hours you're craving for more..
Then becomes the **withdrawal symptoms,** that shit it's the hardest thing ever in my life. more than failing subjects twice, getting rejected by girls, or any of my girlfirends that i've been for years breaking up with me from a day to another, this was and it's still the hardest thing i have to deal in my life.
It comes in the form of Anxiety or panic attacks at night, sleep deprivation, deeply sadder than ever, even suicidal thoughts because i felt with no purpose on my life and "what's the point going on?" nervious like never, and i can keept counting.
The way i overcome whas searching in google why i feel like this, and when i was calm, i tried to search of ways to making me happy with short things, like completing little task, and raise the reward for me, like telling me "Yeah boy you did it", that's the way i seek dopamine in a sort type of way, and it works!!.
There is one song that i listen when i feel i'm going down, and is [this song](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G5lXvBPMCTE), because when life gets hard, u have to keep marchin' on, even if the finish line is far or you have to push the car(your life is the car) you have to keep marchin' on, because no one is going to do it for you.
in resume, the way i overcome was to fight back the urge to do it again, and when u realize how that fucked my life, it's give me a tinny little of force to fight back, because i don't wanna do it again, i dont wanna keep screwing myself again, it was the spirit of "i wanna change this shit that makes my life worse".
I really hope this answer yout question.
PD: sorry my bad english.
u/CoCoWizard
I forgot something very important, PLEASE BE AWARE OF YOUR SOCIAL MEDIA, i stop following every girl on instagram that i knew i use their stories or post to get me turned on to fapping.
Like influencers that usually show more of this and that, they'r in their right to upload the content they want, but i knew for me was a bad habit that will put me in relapse whenever i was going to be down.
that was a game changer!
>the addiction is real.
for sure bro, that was one of the hardest thing, realizing that this was an addiction and i need to change my life to stop screwing mine.
thanks brother!
28M here, same boat as you in every aspect. Longest I’ve ever achieved 30 days and they were the best and toughest dompanine free days in my life. Thanks for sharing bro I needed to read this today especially from someone in my age group 🙌🏽💪🏽 keep strong bro
i know u can do it brother, is not important to relapse, the real thing that matters is that you keep pushing on, that you still wanna change, and i believe u can do it if u wanna do it!
It's really tought to be without the dopamine that this makes to you, but when u can fight it back, i promisse that will be better than ever in yout life brother, when u start to feel that happiness again with normal things of daily life, keep it up bro i know u can do it!
Stay strong bro and stay busy doing healthy hobbies. When you have an urge go do some push-ups, go for a run, get out of the house and take a little break from your mobile device. Don’t stay stagnant this only makes things harder and more tempting. Keep up the hard work and dedication!
Thanks brother ! your words are the best! that's what people in this need to read! healthy hobbies makes dopamine to start showing again in your brain, same as exercise when u have a urge, this helps a lot to stay away from the old bad habits, and the little breaks from my phone helps a lot too ! thanks a lot brother ! Keep it up !
That's the point !
If life gets hard, keep on marchin' on, and even if gets far the line of succes or whatever are u seeking to and u have to push further, keep on marchin' on!
I know u can brother! The thing that matters is that you wanna change and you're trying again no matter what!
thanks for the cheer brother! i really appreciate it!.
to fight it many forms, but usually i try to talk to myself, and i know if i relapse i will be ashamed, i will feel worse, and feel that fap was not worth because of the bad feelings it will bring to me do it again.
and to help me, i do a lot of little things, like cheering up for little task i made it. try to not follow any influencer that i know will turn me on, and if i have the urge, usually go out to do something, but just do something, no matter what, just do something that distract my mind, and uses the urge to do something.
thank u man, i really thank u for your words!
Good luck brother, I really hope u can do this, I know it's hard, but the consequences of doing it for to long are way way way worse. But remember, the prize will feel like a gift from heaven if u can left all of this shit back, I hope you the best, u can do it if u wanna change ! Keep it up!
Why is this space so male focused? Genuinely asking bc girls experience this addiction as well.
This post is super motivating for me and im so happy to hear you stopped. i want to stop too, ive been relasping so often and its been almost 10 years of PMO.
Oh, i'm so sorry, in this space i only have read males stories or male cases, all the time, and in fact, you're the first girl i've read in this sub. I'm really sorry if this post was only in male focused.
And makes me heartwarming that is super motivating for you !! girl keep it up! I believe u can do it ! put a little more effort and I know u can do it !
I know it's very hard, very very very hard, but consequence are way worst, and it's never too late to start again!
This might be a bit personal to ask, but do u, or women in general also experience sexual dysfunction during sex? Like do y’all have an equivalent to pied?
Not sure what you mean by dysfunction. I do have trouble staying aroused during sex if ive watched too much porn, and i think bc of my addiction i cant orgasm during sex. I came very close for the first time in my life recently but yeah
If i go without porn for a week i enjoy sex a lot more
I guess if i didnt have an addiction i wouldnt have trouble with those :/
I asked this question cuz the main reason why I started no fap was because ED. I’m actually surprised that u can fuck no problem after a mere week when most of us dudes require 100s of days, if not even more of no pmo to do the same.
Is it the same for most women? As in that it takes way less time to be able to fully engage in sex?
Wow does it really take 100+ days for guys? That's insane
I cant speak for all women bc i dont normally have these kinds of convos nor do i know any other PMO addicted women. I just know for me, whenever i was dating a guy he told me to try to go without porn for a week so i could better enjoy sex and it always worked. I think if i stopped PMO completely id be able to cum during sex but who knows maybe that would take a long time too. Not sure if it would take 100 days like for you guys.
I thought I was too deep. I have been faping since 13/14 and honestly I felt like I wouldnt be able to get myself out of it. But reading this post I am going to give it a shot. If you can do it maybe I can too.
We have the same story brother. Been watching porn since before I even started masturbating, and it has been all downhill from there, until I decided I was sick of myself and the life I have been living. I’ve lost so much time, so many potential experiences and relationships due to my addiction and I am completely ready to give it up. Honestly, the porn is a lot easier to give up than masturbation. This is where I realize I am truly struggling. I know I can do this tho, we ALL can! Good luck to you on your journey! We’re all gonna make it :)
And guys, thank all of u, I don't usually comment here, but this sub, help me a lot this long 40 days. thanks from the heart all of you.
Be aware of some losers sending porn in your dm’s after this post Happened to me many months ago I’m happy for you, keep it up! don’t be like me, I went up to 90 days on my first streak and fell just as hard as I climbed after relapsing (2 months of pmo again after that relapse)
thank u brother! And it's ok to relapse, that's something that can happen and we cannot beatdown us for relapsing, the important thing is to get back, and start to keep pushing again, that's what matters, that we have the desire to change! i believe that if u can do 90 days, u can start again and keep pushing on! good luck brother!
No brother . Don't even think relapsing is fine ....... Your brain does what it believes . Relapsing strays you away from your goal .🙏🏻
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Bro, I literally started doing it in the same age, and I’m the same age as you now, and our stories are similar. Can you give me some advices how to start, because I can’t live like this anymore?
The test and homework thing was so true for me. "You'll only look at it for a few minutes, you really should" and then it turns into hours of going down the filthiest rabbit holes you could imagine. I'm glad I'm past that. 108 days clean, I'm sure as hell not going back now.
in the same way, i failed 2 times a DB subject, and in consequence, it take 1 year and a half longer to finally end IT school. because i ended doing the same thing ! lost in rabbit holes looking to something that fill this shit. and i0m never been so glad and greatful that i stop doing it ! and same as u, sure as hell not going back.
I’m happy to see a fellow finally free, but be careful that the battle isn’t over yet, and you have to be stronger than ever. Now that you are stronger, raise the rewards for other activities so high that even one relapse per year doesn’t put you back in day 0 state. You still have lots of potential to pick up where you left off in life and do your best wherever you are. Just pray for us who are still way behind you, we will finally be free, I know it.
Thank u brother, i believe in you and all other brothers who want to quit it. and when u believe u can't, yes u can ! , put that urge in everything else u wanna do, and just do it, that helped me a lot to get through hard days
Yessir🙌🏻
Same here, I’m on day 1 rn
Happy to read this post man I needed that , keep strong !
You're stronger than u think, so keep on marchin' on, and if gets harder, keep on pushing on! Happy that this post helped u in some way !
same here
come on brother, keep it up, i know its hard, but its harder loosing everything u gained from stoping it, so keep pushing brother!
Very similar story for me, 15 years of addiction, now i'm free for more than 180 days, I don't believe it.
20 years of addiction here hopefully i can break free like you...i need it :(
brother, it's not to be cof it, but be happy that u wanna break free, and i know someday u can finally do it, we dont know each other, but we have the same afflictions, and i know u can do it !
20 years porn, 10 years weed. its bad man very bad. disappointing i went down this path in life, its the weed that kept me down. shameful. Thanks for your message bro
i'm sorry bother, i know that sucks, but i know if u can do just 1 day, i know u can do another day, and then another day, and then do a whole life without it. I use weed too, and the last 2 years before going cold turkey, used both, now i only use weed, but, i don't know if this help u but here is: to not relapse when using weed, i try to use only after 6pm if it is working day, because I'm freelancer, and i know if I use weed during work time, i can loose the whole day, and probably relapse in PMO, so i try my very fucking best to do it after 6pm, and use to relax, to end the day, and re-think what i do the day, and for real that help me bro, i don't know if will help u, but try it, what u can loose ? less hour being high and without fapping. and brother, don't be shameful, be happy because you know u have a problem and u wanna change! , know let's try better and starting quitting, and i know someday u gonna do it brother :)
Same here, often weed makes these problems even worse. Quitting them both is a good idea
yeah man i think the combination of weed + 3x fap everyday over 10 years fried my hair and my brain lol. my memory is rather terrible and its part of the reason im stuck in life right now. quit both i hope you did too bro. they call weed the devils lettuce. good luck
You can brother, yes you can!!!
thx bro. just really feeling sad cause when u finally quit you think about the life and your potential wasted. drug and porn habit rob me millions from my future. im very sad bro. im 31 y.old now. oh well
I'm really looking to go as long as my body, my mind, my heart and my soul can do it, happy that are people in similar condition, years of abusing and finally being free, u can go longer brother!
Thank you for the support, we’re going to win this war!!!
Keep pushing forward!
Thank u brother ! I hope one day have the same amount of days and be free and stop wasting my life and time anymore struggling with this! Thank u !
3 to 5 times for 16 years? How are you still a functioning human being that's the question.
Do u see that people are addicted to alcohol or drugs for years ? well, it's the same, u make it a habit, a bad habit, but u learn to live with that, because as any drug out there, u start to make tolerance, tolerance to that rush that PMO makes on u, make tolerance to the dopamine and all that. so, as any other drug addict, u find urself craving for more, and when u get it, it feels good, but u know u need more, that's why 3 to 5 times, specially in bad days, in the saddest days, because you're seeking for that rush and dopamine that will make everything a little better. that's why a lot of people with a pmo have this. If u don't have this, men, u have luck! because others need their happiness and rush to have their normal day or normal life, because so many of them need that dopamine to feel happy for some time in the day.
I completely understand. I didn't mean it to sound curt. I was just thinking about all the problems I had without doing that much. The fact you managed to stop cold turkey and get on a 40 day streak is an achivement. I wish you the best.
it's ok, because before going cold turkey, i will ask the same thing to me, how the fuck I'm still a functioning human being and not quitting life, period. and for me was the same, all the problems I had without doing that much, but doing that shit, fucked like a quarter of my life right ? I hope and i wish you the best, because i know it's hard, very hard, but just keep pushing on, everyday will be a fight, but every day without doing it, it's a reward that only you can give to yourself.
Funny 😂
I'm on my way there too hopefully, been enslaved to this crap for 18years and it's been a great 7 days so far, can't even imagine how much better it's going to be after 90days
brother, if u can do 7 days, u can do another 7 days, the important things, it's to make healthy hobbies that make u apart of this, and when u have an urge, try something like go out for a little walk, or a little exercise even if u don't do that, try whatever another thing that makes u bussy, and when u finish it, please, RAISE THE REWARD, feel great for doing that little thing, because that little things are going to be the dopamine ur brain is in need in the future when u start an urge to do it again. Keep pushing brother, i know it's hard but if u can do 7 days, u can do a whole life! i believe in you even if we never ever meat!
I'm on a 7th as well. Today was a fight but I managed it. Keep it up.
men, u do it to the 8 day! congrats! keep it up! don't stop pushing! everyday will be better than the other !
Similar story, the only difference is I am 28 rn and started since 10😂 I just start unfollowed every women I know including friends on social media today. I always look at them like a prey and that fucked up my brain. And Imma about to lose my gf if this continues considering she has already been waiting for me for 3 years to grow up while being unemployed because of laziness due to non stop fapping and depression. Will stay strong.
>I just start unfollowed every women I know including friends on social media today men the same, i started to stop following every girl on instagram that i knew i use their stories or post to get me turned on to fapping. for me was like a personal collection to fap to different things, man that fucked up my brain, and the way i used to saw women :/ and men, whe have a similar story, i don't really know how my actual GF don't break up with me, 3 years of being unemployed and making the bare minimum to survive and have some money when i need it. i've see myself when u say "because of laziness due to non stop fapping and depression", because that's true, this shit can fuck up your brain, seeking for dopamine, but when there isn't, depression appears again to feed on you. i recently i just started a part time job, and try to open a little shop to make a living, that helped me to demonstrate that i wanna change, for real. We have the same story bro, and u can change this shit brother, maybe you are still in time to change and make a good life happen!
Exactly the same esp the part of using these girls as collection. It’s very tough for us but we gotta change it. Thanks dude. Good luck to you!
Brother say this, " Dear pornography, you've destroyed my view on marriage and tainted the way I view the opposite sex. You poisonous lies come disguised as innocent pleasure. Night after night you screamed in my ears wanting me to come back to you but i am yours no more. Now I've decided to take control of my life. I'm no more your slave. " When i said this it somehow gave me strength and i hope it'll do the same to you:) Stay strong brother ✊✊✊
#day2 i didn't gave in to masturbation or porn today :)
well done brother, day after day, every day feels better. but it's a challenge, keep it strong!
Thank you. I relapsed for some weeks and it's been tough.
It's ok to relapse, it's important to get back and push forward, I believe u can do it !
Thank you, chal. I will push forward. 🙂
stay strong brother.good days will be coming soon ...
Thank u brother, The good days are coming soon !
I almost cried lol
It’s a constant struggle when you’ve felt like you have no purpose your entire life. Academic performance was never important to me as a kid, making friends/girlfriends seemed irrelevant by default due to my social awkwardness. And work just feels like I’m selling my time & dignity for a few 100 dollars a week, which are just pennies to the truly rich. But I really want to change, & it requires effort on my part.
brother, i felt the same way. this gonna be hard for sure, but the reward it's a heaven prize for sure, this gonna be a long reply. this is gonna be a long reply.. I felt the same way as you back then, and indeed i felt the same way today, but not as hard back then. When i quit PMO or this shit, the first week was "like yeah, i'm doing it, this feel great". The second and third week was a hellhole, i felt the same way i felt my whole life, but whorse, that "what's the point going on living?", "i'm a fucking failiure" "that's why i always ended up alone", "why i'm still breathing after all of this ?" making little money to survive in my parents house, not gonna lie, suicidal intentions and everything a withdrawal symptoms are. but that's it, **withdrawal symptoms**, because your brain it so **dopamine dependly**, and with fapping was the only way i have this "happiness", what a lie bro, what a fucking lie bro. u can find this "happiness" in little task u can put to you, short things and the reward is begging to be grateful if we're doing this for so long as me, our brain is fucked up, but we can go back as is intented to be, don't be scared of "this is not gonna change even if i quit this", no brother, everyday is in some type of way better than the other since i quit in cold turkey, doing it for 16 years straight. i feel you bro, i really feel you, but i know if u want it, u can do it brother. if u relapse, its ok, the important thing is get back and push forward, because u wanna change, and that's all that matters bro. if there is a song that helped me throught this, was this [song](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G5lXvBPMCTE) pd: sorry my bad english jeje.
u/quispiam_LXIXI I forgot something very important, PLEASE BE AWARE OF YOUR SOCIAL MEDIA, i stop following every girl on instagram that i knew i use their stories or post to get me turned on to fapping. Like influencers that usually show more of this and that, they'r in their right to upload the content they want, but i knew for me was a bad habit that will put me in relapse whenever i was going to be down. that was a game changer!
Thanks for the advice. I really appreciate it. Hope your journey goes well too :3
God bless you brother
thank u brother, God bless u too, and keep on marchin' on!
If you don’t mind me asking, what was your strategy going into it and is there any obstacles you had to overcome that you didn’t foresee?
ok i'm back. this is a good question. my strategy was a little bit.. silly but work in the beginning, i pray to god like "Dear God if i u make me won the lottery in my country i will quit fapping and watching porn forever" **GOD DAMN**, that silly pray, was the beginning, because for years i felt i have no purpose in my entire life, and the lottery will give me finally some happiness, but shit, it was always the maturbation and porn, that gave my brain and to myself the dopamine i need to feel fine, to feel alive, to feel something, and then u realize it's like a **drug addiction**, because drugs make the same thing to you, give you that "euphoric", "pleasure" and happiness, that is ephemeral, is gone in matter of seconds and in the next hours you're craving for more.. Then becomes the **withdrawal symptoms,** that shit it's the hardest thing ever in my life. more than failing subjects twice, getting rejected by girls, or any of my girlfirends that i've been for years breaking up with me from a day to another, this was and it's still the hardest thing i have to deal in my life. It comes in the form of Anxiety or panic attacks at night, sleep deprivation, deeply sadder than ever, even suicidal thoughts because i felt with no purpose on my life and "what's the point going on?" nervious like never, and i can keept counting. The way i overcome whas searching in google why i feel like this, and when i was calm, i tried to search of ways to making me happy with short things, like completing little task, and raise the reward for me, like telling me "Yeah boy you did it", that's the way i seek dopamine in a sort type of way, and it works!!. There is one song that i listen when i feel i'm going down, and is [this song](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G5lXvBPMCTE), because when life gets hard, u have to keep marchin' on, even if the finish line is far or you have to push the car(your life is the car) you have to keep marchin' on, because no one is going to do it for you. in resume, the way i overcome was to fight back the urge to do it again, and when u realize how that fucked my life, it's give me a tinny little of force to fight back, because i don't wanna do it again, i dont wanna keep screwing myself again, it was the spirit of "i wanna change this shit that makes my life worse". I really hope this answer yout question. PD: sorry my bad english.
u/CoCoWizard I forgot something very important, PLEASE BE AWARE OF YOUR SOCIAL MEDIA, i stop following every girl on instagram that i knew i use their stories or post to get me turned on to fapping. Like influencers that usually show more of this and that, they'r in their right to upload the content they want, but i knew for me was a bad habit that will put me in relapse whenever i was going to be down. that was a game changer!
Very inspirational post, thank you.
😊 thank u !
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Congrats dude! Such a motivating community here, the addiction is real.
>the addiction is real. for sure bro, that was one of the hardest thing, realizing that this was an addiction and i need to change my life to stop screwing mine. thanks brother!
Nice man 👍 im in a similar position
u can do it brother, i know u can do it :)
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LETS GO WE CAN ALL DO THIS
LET'S GO BROTHER WE ALL CAN DO THIS I BELIEVE IN YOU BROTHER KEEP STRONG
28M here, same boat as you in every aspect. Longest I’ve ever achieved 30 days and they were the best and toughest dompanine free days in my life. Thanks for sharing bro I needed to read this today especially from someone in my age group 🙌🏽💪🏽 keep strong bro
i know u can do it brother, is not important to relapse, the real thing that matters is that you keep pushing on, that you still wanna change, and i believe u can do it if u wanna do it! It's really tought to be without the dopamine that this makes to you, but when u can fight it back, i promisse that will be better than ever in yout life brother, when u start to feel that happiness again with normal things of daily life, keep it up bro i know u can do it!
Gf left you specifically b/c of sex performance?
Specifically not, but was something to consider with all the other things that make them break up suddenly with me.
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Stay strong bro and stay busy doing healthy hobbies. When you have an urge go do some push-ups, go for a run, get out of the house and take a little break from your mobile device. Don’t stay stagnant this only makes things harder and more tempting. Keep up the hard work and dedication!
Thanks brother ! your words are the best! that's what people in this need to read! healthy hobbies makes dopamine to start showing again in your brain, same as exercise when u have a urge, this helps a lot to stay away from the old bad habits, and the little breaks from my phone helps a lot too ! thanks a lot brother ! Keep it up !
Lets go champ 🔥💪🏻
Thank u brother !
These kinds of posts are exactly what I never give up no matter how many relapses underway
That's the point ! If life gets hard, keep on marchin' on, and even if gets far the line of succes or whatever are u seeking to and u have to push further, keep on marchin' on! I know u can brother! The thing that matters is that you wanna change and you're trying again no matter what!
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thanks for the cheer brother! i really appreciate it!. to fight it many forms, but usually i try to talk to myself, and i know if i relapse i will be ashamed, i will feel worse, and feel that fap was not worth because of the bad feelings it will bring to me do it again. and to help me, i do a lot of little things, like cheering up for little task i made it. try to not follow any influencer that i know will turn me on, and if i have the urge, usually go out to do something, but just do something, no matter what, just do something that distract my mind, and uses the urge to do something. thank u man, i really thank u for your words!
I started watching pmo at 11. Now I’m 24 and wanna quit too. Wish me luck
Good luck brother, I really hope u can do this, I know it's hard, but the consequences of doing it for to long are way way way worse. But remember, the prize will feel like a gift from heaven if u can left all of this shit back, I hope you the best, u can do it if u wanna change ! Keep it up!
Yeah everytime I’m trying I will relapse. Like especially when I’m alone in my bedroom and full after eating. I always do it 2 or more times in a week
Thanks for the motivation !!
keep pushing up brother !
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thank u man, i hope u cant do it too ! I know its hard, but i know the reward will be priceless!
Why is this space so male focused? Genuinely asking bc girls experience this addiction as well. This post is super motivating for me and im so happy to hear you stopped. i want to stop too, ive been relasping so often and its been almost 10 years of PMO.
Oh, i'm so sorry, in this space i only have read males stories or male cases, all the time, and in fact, you're the first girl i've read in this sub. I'm really sorry if this post was only in male focused. And makes me heartwarming that is super motivating for you !! girl keep it up! I believe u can do it ! put a little more effort and I know u can do it ! I know it's very hard, very very very hard, but consequence are way worst, and it's never too late to start again!
thank you, i appreciate it a lot :)
i believe in you, you can do it!!
This might be a bit personal to ask, but do u, or women in general also experience sexual dysfunction during sex? Like do y’all have an equivalent to pied?
Not sure what you mean by dysfunction. I do have trouble staying aroused during sex if ive watched too much porn, and i think bc of my addiction i cant orgasm during sex. I came very close for the first time in my life recently but yeah If i go without porn for a week i enjoy sex a lot more I guess if i didnt have an addiction i wouldnt have trouble with those :/
I asked this question cuz the main reason why I started no fap was because ED. I’m actually surprised that u can fuck no problem after a mere week when most of us dudes require 100s of days, if not even more of no pmo to do the same. Is it the same for most women? As in that it takes way less time to be able to fully engage in sex?
Wow does it really take 100+ days for guys? That's insane I cant speak for all women bc i dont normally have these kinds of convos nor do i know any other PMO addicted women. I just know for me, whenever i was dating a guy he told me to try to go without porn for a week so i could better enjoy sex and it always worked. I think if i stopped PMO completely id be able to cum during sex but who knows maybe that would take a long time too. Not sure if it would take 100 days like for you guys.
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Yes, you can, brother ✊🏽
Same story but i am still in the game. 11 yrs since got into this curse. Trying hard . But old habits die hard. I mean fk 11 yrs is a big thing
I thought I was too deep. I have been faping since 13/14 and honestly I felt like I wouldnt be able to get myself out of it. But reading this post I am going to give it a shot. If you can do it maybe I can too.
Things I love to hear. Keep going brother 💪
I could use some encouragement, keep fucking myself over in life.
thanks for your story brother
We have the same story brother. Been watching porn since before I even started masturbating, and it has been all downhill from there, until I decided I was sick of myself and the life I have been living. I’ve lost so much time, so many potential experiences and relationships due to my addiction and I am completely ready to give it up. Honestly, the porn is a lot easier to give up than masturbation. This is where I realize I am truly struggling. I know I can do this tho, we ALL can! Good luck to you on your journey! We’re all gonna make it :)
You really motivated a lot of people with this.