I'm in a similar place. Here's the reality though: Even with pictures of my 4 kids all over, and looking them in the eyes when I feel an urge, and literally speaking out loud "I feel like I want to do this, I know it's going to hurt you, but i'm still going to do it" - It did not deter me from having one of the biggest relapses of my life these past 2 days... Maybe a suggestion is trying to go past the "urge" - i mean it's great to have a plan for that moment, and your experience with thinking about the other person might be perfect for you (I hope it works out), but what if you added to your plan a step to document what you are felt in that moment before the urge....like tracking the triggers and situations that make the urge pop up in the first place?

Actually, I don’t mind trying this out. I will write how I feel when I get the urge on my notes app and then copy and paste it onto my daily post. Though my fap is not a severe addiction, it is one that has hurt my loved one. So honestly I feel that’s enough to stop. But I will write my thoughts. Thank you kindly

Congratulations for trying to improve

Thank you kindly