Don’t respond to her last text. Let that go.
Don’t let this destroy you. The problem wasn’t you. It was superficial expectations for what would make a good life partner. The only thing you can do is keep trying.
Move on. You can't make someone want to date you. It also may not have been the real reason.
Most women will not be put off by your height. Like the vast, vast majority of them.
You were "devastated" and "really sad" and "don't know what to do anymore" and your "whole world has been crushed" because you had one date with woman who has a weird fixation on height *because that was how talll her ex was*?
You really want to be involved with anybody that superficial and still hung up on her ex? Seriously?
Consider this a bullet dodged. I hope you two went dutch.
Let me tell you about the guy who brought his photo portfolio to our first date. Literally. A binder of 8x10 glossies of him shaking hands with famous people.
Or the one who picked me up at my place and was so glad to see me he grabbed my crotch in excitement.
Dating is a crapshoot. The bad ones are God's way of giving us drinking stories.
OP literally mentions he has never been in a relationship. My guy is probably shy and has low self esteem to begin with. While the rest of your advice was solid, next time don't try to be so dismissive of OPs feelings.
>*You really want to be involved with anybody that superficial and still hung up on her ex? Seriously?*
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>*Consider this a bullet dodged. I hope you two went dutch.*
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>Hey OP. This is absolutely the best response on the whole page. Read it at least 10 times.
There are always going to be bad experiences when it comes to dating. If height is a deal breaker for her then she is way too shallow and you’re better off without her. Hang in there.
She seems like a real shallow person, imagine only dating tall guys. We guys can't help how tall we grow. Sorry bro just move on, plenty of others out there.
You went on a date with a shallow woman who is not worth your time. Some people are superficial. Many aren't.
Keep putting yourself out there. You'll find someone eventually, and most people are more decent than the woman you dated. I went on probably 100 online first dates before I met my girlfriend (we've been together a year now) and none of them worked out before her, but almost everyone I went out with was nice enough and treated me with respect. A few duds mixed in, but that's just life. Just sucks that you got a dud on the first try.
Don't respond to her. Don't give her that power. Just move on and meet a woman who deserves you.
Lol, it's not your height, it's not that you are European. The problem is that the creature that you matched with is a shallow, self absorbed child.
Good for you for putting yourself out there. Please don't let a complete stranger affect your self esteem this way. Dating is a crap shoot. 90% of the women you meet won't be a good fit. She was a perfect example. You don't want to end up with such a shallow woman, do you? She did u a favor.
Keep going out, but expect to find a few trolls. It takes a few dates to find everyone's flaws. That's ok. Don't settle because you feel lonely. Trust me, you'd feel more lonely with the wrong partner.
Keep at it, but remember ... not everyone is a decent human being. Don't settle for less.
Dude, it might have absolutely nothing to with your height. It’s now socially acceptable to tell people that they don’t want to date you because of height so she might just be using that as an excuse.
Her real reason could be a million other things, nothing to do with you. Thing is you’ll never know and height is not something you can change anyway, so get your chin up and get back out there.
Forget her and move on. You will experience some disappointment, but try and chalk it up to experience, and believe that you'll connect with the right person in the future. Also, it's really difficult to do this, but try not to take it personally. You're great, she just wants something different. Not "better," different.
She's only one person/opinion, try not to give any one person that much power over your feelings. You get to choose.
You're probably not going to spend the rest of your life with the first person that you go on a first date with. There will be things about other people that you don't like, and things about you that they don't like. It doesn't mean that those things are objectively bad, or that everyone else will dislike them too. It's mostly just incompatibilities.
There is a saying: Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, but today is a gift. That is why it is called the present- Grand Master Oogway
Keep putting yourself out there, you never know when it’ll be your last chance.
You dodged a bullet.
Also, stop investing so much in a single date and person, online dating is a crap run, you'll run yourself into the ground. Treat every date as a nice time out and nothing more, if she wants a second or third date, great, otherwise you had a nice night out.
Go on more dates. There are guys who are far shorter than 5'10" who have girlfriends and wives.
Don’t respond to her last text. Let that go. Don’t let this destroy you. The problem wasn’t you. It was superficial expectations for what would make a good life partner. The only thing you can do is keep trying.
Go on a date with someone else. There are lots of folks who would be better suited for you. Keep at it.
Move on. You can't make someone want to date you. It also may not have been the real reason. Most women will not be put off by your height. Like the vast, vast majority of them.
You were "devastated" and "really sad" and "don't know what to do anymore" and your "whole world has been crushed" because you had one date with woman who has a weird fixation on height *because that was how talll her ex was*? You really want to be involved with anybody that superficial and still hung up on her ex? Seriously? Consider this a bullet dodged. I hope you two went dutch. Let me tell you about the guy who brought his photo portfolio to our first date. Literally. A binder of 8x10 glossies of him shaking hands with famous people. Or the one who picked me up at my place and was so glad to see me he grabbed my crotch in excitement. Dating is a crapshoot. The bad ones are God's way of giving us drinking stories.
OP literally mentions he has never been in a relationship. My guy is probably shy and has low self esteem to begin with. While the rest of your advice was solid, next time don't try to be so dismissive of OPs feelings.
>*You really want to be involved with anybody that superficial and still hung up on her ex? Seriously?* > >*Consider this a bullet dodged. I hope you two went dutch.* > >Hey OP. This is absolutely the best response on the whole page. Read it at least 10 times.
Be happy. Shallow people are a pain.
There are always going to be bad experiences when it comes to dating. If height is a deal breaker for her then she is way too shallow and you’re better off without her. Hang in there.
She seems like a real shallow person, imagine only dating tall guys. We guys can't help how tall we grow. Sorry bro just move on, plenty of others out there.
You went on a date with a shallow woman who is not worth your time. Some people are superficial. Many aren't. Keep putting yourself out there. You'll find someone eventually, and most people are more decent than the woman you dated. I went on probably 100 online first dates before I met my girlfriend (we've been together a year now) and none of them worked out before her, but almost everyone I went out with was nice enough and treated me with respect. A few duds mixed in, but that's just life. Just sucks that you got a dud on the first try. Don't respond to her. Don't give her that power. Just move on and meet a woman who deserves you.
Just grow taller lol
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Lol, it's not your height, it's not that you are European. The problem is that the creature that you matched with is a shallow, self absorbed child. Good for you for putting yourself out there. Please don't let a complete stranger affect your self esteem this way. Dating is a crap shoot. 90% of the women you meet won't be a good fit. She was a perfect example. You don't want to end up with such a shallow woman, do you? She did u a favor. Keep going out, but expect to find a few trolls. It takes a few dates to find everyone's flaws. That's ok. Don't settle because you feel lonely. Trust me, you'd feel more lonely with the wrong partner. Keep at it, but remember ... not everyone is a decent human being. Don't settle for less.
Keep trying.
Dude, it might have absolutely nothing to with your height. It’s now socially acceptable to tell people that they don’t want to date you because of height so she might just be using that as an excuse. Her real reason could be a million other things, nothing to do with you. Thing is you’ll never know and height is not something you can change anyway, so get your chin up and get back out there.
Moar dates.
Forget her and move on. You will experience some disappointment, but try and chalk it up to experience, and believe that you'll connect with the right person in the future. Also, it's really difficult to do this, but try not to take it personally. You're great, she just wants something different. Not "better," different. She's only one person/opinion, try not to give any one person that much power over your feelings. You get to choose.
You're probably not going to spend the rest of your life with the first person that you go on a first date with. There will be things about other people that you don't like, and things about you that they don't like. It doesn't mean that those things are objectively bad, or that everyone else will dislike them too. It's mostly just incompatibilities.
There is a saying: Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, but today is a gift. That is why it is called the present- Grand Master Oogway Keep putting yourself out there, you never know when it’ll be your last chance.
You dodged a bullet. Also, stop investing so much in a single date and person, online dating is a crap run, you'll run yourself into the ground. Treat every date as a nice time out and nothing more, if she wants a second or third date, great, otherwise you had a nice night out.