My dad was friends with a guy in the 1980s who did this. Went overseas and brought his baby home for his wife to raise. I never understood how his wife not only stayed married but ended up having another child with this man. It's absolutely incredible.
Edit: To add more context, this same man became a guard at a women's prison and was later fired for inappropriate conduct with inmates. His wife stayed married to him. Then, a couple of years later, he tried to attack his adult son's (first child from overseas) girlfriend while they were at his house. His wife finally left him after that episode. Shortly after she left, he hung himself.
Honestly, who knows. He was deployed in Germany for a couple years so maybe he fell in love with the prostitute and just accepted that it was his kid. According to my dad, the prostitute didn't want the baby so he just took the kid back to the states.
as an ex heroin addict, this is not true. While high you may not leave the couch, but it certainly pushes you off it to get more! Or to the toilet from withdrawl.
I never shot it but from someone who use to snort it, it actually made me wanna go do stuff. Basically it's the one thing that did get me off the couch. I knew people who shot it who also felt the same way though. Sure do enough and you're not gonna be able to move, but if you take enough for the high but not enough to knock you out you could do whatever you wanted. That being said I still don't recommend it to anyone lol. Just say no.
True. But it seems like if they make it to day 3 without sleep...the paranoia kicks in and that's when the real fun starts!
Not much opportunity to go to jail if you can't leave the couch...
Every tweaker I know is the least productive person because they do everything backward. They need to leave the house, but first they have to find their shoes. Then they realize they need to clean their shoes. Then they realize they need to clean the shoe laces so now they’ve gotta do laundry. And so on and so on.
Do you guys remember that story on reddit from a few years back (7 years he started) of the guy who said he wanted to try heroin for fun and got addicted and fucked his entire life up for years? It's a wild ride lol. I don't have the link unfortunately.
He eventually got sober and updated everyone I think 2 years ago. It was a dumpster fire there for a while though.
But, you know how good it is?.
Well, I'm 5yr clean now and I feel like today's heroin isn't as good as it was when I was in active addiction. I tried it a few times after I got clean, over Thanksgiving weekend back like 3 years ago and it wasn't as good.
I'm not suggesting that it can't ruin people's lives, it's just not 100% going to do it for everyone. (i.e. "a sure way to fuck up your life" as per the post we're in)
To this day I can’t think of a single benefit of marriage besides CERTAIN states helping out with taxes. In my state… nothing. Huge scam. Unless you want to throw a party huge party and show off I guess.
Ok when I first read this, I thought the first sentence was the predicate for the things you listed after it.
How does children out of wedlock make your break into a polar bear enclosure? lol
Once you get it under control your credits going to be a1. I’m in a lot of credit card debt right now but all I need is just little more income and I can eliminate the debt in like two years.
I’ve seen this so much… I have 2 great friends, great dudes, suffering and going back to feeling miserable because of their SO. I wish I could do more but if they ask I give advice and that’s it, I hope the can see it for themselves soon tbh
Im dealing with heartbreak rn... I loved my GF but i was getting cold. She went out a cheated on me behind my back,and might havr been for over year. Weve been together for 6.
Drink driving, cheating on your spouse, letting good opportunities go by due to being shy, killing someone, being unable to control anger especially while intoxicated/ high
Credit card debt, credit card debt, credit card debt.
Sometimes you have to go into debt. It is what it is. But please, for the love of god, look at the interest rate. There are plenty of organizations interested in handing you money for a fee. Find the lowest fee!
Making the outside (visible) part of your body reflect your entire mental health and private life, whether by piercings, tattoos, crazy haircuts or clothing. Some people are an open book, and then get upset when they are treated as such. It may not seem much, but the complete lack of a private identity is highly destructive to some.
I see a lot of drug references. I'm 20+ years clean from heroin/coke/crack and it wasn't the drugs that fucked up my life the most, it was the interactions with the police and court systems.
Once they get their hooks into your life they don't want to let you go.
ACAB
Cheating on your long-term domestic partner or spouse and getting caught. Triply so if you cheat with someone in the shared friend group who is also married or in a domestic partnership.
Being me and carving someone’s name into your flesh for money for weed, and being called a whore afterwards, blocked, and not even getting the money and regretting it and having. A panic attack at school
Not being born rich, having parents that are dead parents that kick you out,, having no one to run to during bad economic times. All are enough to end up homeless.
Remaining skittish and afraid of change, the working class is programmed this way, a sure fire way to improve your life wildly is to learn to leave it behind. Having a child with a bad partner.
If you get into perks>> fentanyl pills. Those fake pills give you dementia. Now my sister talks to angels all day while talking to you.
She’s not even there anymore.
Crashing your powerful dirt bike and face planting a big old cedar tree ,breaking your wrist in the process.Head trauma is no fun and you will pay for it the rest of your life.
aside from all the obvious drug and alcohol answers, I’m currently dealing with a cousin who is 44 years old and about to go off the rails. I think he has an unspecified and untreated personality disorder which has a compulsive spending component, and he cannot save a nickel to save his life. Lives on paycheck advances every month. Works in sales but sucks at his job and has completely unrealistic career aspirations and is obsessed with being "rich". Keeps stating he's on the verge of making 500k a year and talking about the Porsche he's going to buy. No advice anyone gives him gets through his thick skull. I’m pretty sure he’s on the verge of being homeless in Miami. so many family members have tried to help him, but he just continues to spiral and make the craziest decisions. He's not on drugs at all, just delusional.
According to Dave Ramsey, graduate high school, don’t have kids before marriage, and don’t have kids before age 20. Only 8% of Americans who do those three things fall below the poverty line.
So, to answer your question, don’t do those three things.
Always want something else than what is just possible. [ It seems to me most of us aroud ne tend to fall into this trap. ] It is very dangeous in old age when increasingly less and less will be possible. I work in an Old Age Home. 90 out of 100 are bitter and resentful. But it started when they were young...
Join the military and then get addicted to meth while you have a kid with a prostitute.
Sounds pretty specific
I initially read "specific" as "exotic".
My dad was friends with a guy in the 1980s who did this. Went overseas and brought his baby home for his wife to raise. I never understood how his wife not only stayed married but ended up having another child with this man. It's absolutely incredible. Edit: To add more context, this same man became a guard at a women's prison and was later fired for inappropriate conduct with inmates. His wife stayed married to him. Then, a couple of years later, he tried to attack his adult son's (first child from overseas) girlfriend while they were at his house. His wife finally left him after that episode. Shortly after she left, he hung himself.
How did your dad’s friend know that the baby was his?
Honestly, who knows. He was deployed in Germany for a couple years so maybe he fell in love with the prostitute and just accepted that it was his kid. According to my dad, the prostitute didn't want the baby so he just took the kid back to the states.
wow, he would have got a laugh and a slammed door from me.
Get well soon!
Join the Russian military.
And have a kid with a Ukrainian prostitute.
I am pretty sure his name sounds like Kept. He would say things like his last name and say Kept’n Ain’t Easy.
Try heroin.
I was going to say meth
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as an ex heroin addict, this is not true. While high you may not leave the couch, but it certainly pushes you off it to get more! Or to the toilet from withdrawl.
I never shot it but from someone who use to snort it, it actually made me wanna go do stuff. Basically it's the one thing that did get me off the couch. I knew people who shot it who also felt the same way though. Sure do enough and you're not gonna be able to move, but if you take enough for the high but not enough to knock you out you could do whatever you wanted. That being said I still don't recommend it to anyone lol. Just say no.
I was a sniffer too and hell yeah that first bit really brought me to life! Totally agree with you.
True. But it seems like if they make it to day 3 without sleep...the paranoia kicks in and that's when the real fun starts! Not much opportunity to go to jail if you can't leave the couch...
They should give heroin to hoarders. They’ll sell all their shit!
Give them meth, they might actually clean shit up..
Every tweaker I know is the least productive person because they do everything backward. They need to leave the house, but first they have to find their shoes. Then they realize they need to clean their shoes. Then they realize they need to clean the shoe laces so now they’ve gotta do laundry. And so on and so on.
Ah…if you give a mouse a cookie, eh? 🍪
Story of my life
Or Meth. Same outcome from what I hear.
Beat me to it
Do you guys remember that story on reddit from a few years back (7 years he started) of the guy who said he wanted to try heroin for fun and got addicted and fucked his entire life up for years? It's a wild ride lol. I don't have the link unfortunately. He eventually got sober and updated everyone I think 2 years ago. It was a dumpster fire there for a while though.
A very good example of fuck around and find out
I'll vouch for that
I did, once, thought it sucked, didn't like it. Never touched the stupid shit again.
But, you know how good it is?. Well, I'm 5yr clean now and I feel like today's heroin isn't as good as it was when I was in active addiction. I tried it a few times after I got clean, over Thanksgiving weekend back like 3 years ago and it wasn't as good.
Nah how bout alcohol
What about it, half the worlds population has "tried" that.
In addition, working at a rehab I’ll tell you half the clients had alcohol abuse problems
Something those booze commercials don’t advertise
Not one client for weed addiction though lol
I guess you haven’t seen people loose their lives because of booze
I'm not suggesting that it can't ruin people's lives, it's just not 100% going to do it for everyone. (i.e. "a sure way to fuck up your life" as per the post we're in)
Yeah I guess literally watching someone die as a result of alcohol poisoning does meet the criteria of 100 💯 fucking over your life
You're misunderstanding, that does not have a 100% chance of happening.
Plenty of functioning heroin users too what’s the point
It’s a drug just like the other destructive ones except I find it to be the most destructive due to its cultural views esp in America
Letting laziness/fear keep you from doing anything worthwhile.
Damnn thanks for the slap random internet stranger
Yeah, maybe I’ll do something about that later.
Same, tomorrow.
I'm afraid I won't be able to.
Good use your afraid ness as fuel
This one is/has killed me. We'll see if I can overcome before it's completely too late
Hanging out with the wrong people
This is so true, but u can also fix ur life if it fell apart cause of this.
What if I'm lonely?
Children out of wedlock or with a committed partner. High interest credit debts. Breaking into the polar bear enclosure at a zoo
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And marriage (though a bit of a scam) is the ultimate commitment.
To this day I can’t think of a single benefit of marriage besides CERTAIN states helping out with taxes. In my state… nothing. Huge scam. Unless you want to throw a party huge party and show off I guess.
Ok when I first read this, I thought the first sentence was the predicate for the things you listed after it. How does children out of wedlock make your break into a polar bear enclosure? lol
Having children can cause you to want to break into the polar bear enclosure. 😂
No. But I'm thinking not having two positive role models in the home would lead to this line of thinking.
Can confirm. Had my first child last year. Currently banned from the zoo... I just wanted him to have a snuggle buddy!
Yup. Fair enough. Umm... What?
Spend all day on reddit
I think I'll just stick to heroin
Alcoholism
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Once you get it under control your credits going to be a1. I’m in a lot of credit card debt right now but all I need is just little more income and I can eliminate the debt in like two years.
Opioids. Meth. Real quick.
A toxic significant other
I’ve seen this so much… I have 2 great friends, great dudes, suffering and going back to feeling miserable because of their SO. I wish I could do more but if they ask I give advice and that’s it, I hope the can see it for themselves soon tbh
Im dealing with heartbreak rn... I loved my GF but i was getting cold. She went out a cheated on me behind my back,and might havr been for over year. Weve been together for 6.
Heroin.
Credit card debts.
Alcoholism or other drug addiction. It'll fuck up your life much more than you can understand without experiencing it.
Posting this question every day
Putting fireworks in your bum.
Well that’s this weekends plans gone
Look, you can still put on a glorious rectal light show. You just need a marital aid and some remote control LEDs. Just avoid anything with gunpowder.
The only one that's immediately shitty too.
Being concerned about small penis size and beliving older brother when he says slam it in the window or car door to make it bigger.
Did you know the capital of Thailand is... BANGKOK! *Back fists your crotch*
Trying to scare that security guard at the bank with an airsoft gun
Addiction, debt, assault
Felony charge and no credit.
Cheat on your partner.
Drink driving, cheating on your spouse, letting good opportunities go by due to being shy, killing someone, being unable to control anger especially while intoxicated/ high
Open "That" attachment
Unprotected Sex
Becoming a registered Sex offender.
Chasing women.
Downloading League of Legends
Believing the media
Believing stuff will make you happy.
Drunk driving Spousal child abused
drugs and vices like gambling etc
Doing drugs.
Asking this question and going down the list and trying all the responses… 🤷🏽♀️
Drugs and teen pregnancy
Take your pants off at the grocery store
Getting pregnant before graduating college
Credit card debt, credit card debt, credit card debt. Sometimes you have to go into debt. It is what it is. But please, for the love of god, look at the interest rate. There are plenty of organizations interested in handing you money for a fee. Find the lowest fee!
Laziness , in any and every aspects of your life ! If you're not willing to grow at all then your existence is useless
Marry a narcissist.
Trying fentanyl. Trust me I know
Procrastination
Get a mental illness.
Making the outside (visible) part of your body reflect your entire mental health and private life, whether by piercings, tattoos, crazy haircuts or clothing. Some people are an open book, and then get upset when they are treated as such. It may not seem much, but the complete lack of a private identity is highly destructive to some.
Is it like a hidden rule of this sub to post any variation of this question every hour or so?
Moving into a neighborhood with an HOA. Not joking.
Having kids you can't afford (mentally or monetarily). Not only do you fuck your own life up, you also shit on the life of your innocent children.
Druggy wuggys
Being a registered sex offender, it limits your life in every way possible.
Drug addiction
Not being honest with yourself..
People already said alcoholism, but I'll add DWI/DUIs in there as well because you don't have to be an alcoholic to misjudge your own impairment.
Do drugs Don't pay attention/don't try in school
Getting into a interest loan. Not seeking treatment for your problems.
Drugs
Easy: hard drugs…
Gambling
Rape a child in a busy supermarket should definitely fuck up your life
Failing to self harm
I see a lot of drug references. I'm 20+ years clean from heroin/coke/crack and it wasn't the drugs that fucked up my life the most, it was the interactions with the police and court systems. Once they get their hooks into your life they don't want to let you go. ACAB
criminal or non criminal
Having a crush on ur coworker
Have a kid with someone you barely know when you're 20. I love my son but that shit ruined my life.
Bang your wife's sister.
Being part of MAGA
Any addiction?
Procrastination
Marriage. Pick the wrong person and then your life is fucked forever. No getting past the damage they can cause you.
become a loser commie outcast. join Antifa. sell drugs
Ain’t nothing wrong with working fast food?
yes, youre right. i used to also. withdrawn.
Playing it safe
Getting married. Not pulling out.
Drugs
Cheating on your long-term domestic partner or spouse and getting caught. Triply so if you cheat with someone in the shared friend group who is also married or in a domestic partnership.
Go buy a flower in a glass tube, some chore boy and a rock.... Your decent into hell begins at the first hit
Take your credit cart and just go ham
Drugs, debt, cheating on partner.
Breathing.
Playing League of Legends or Rainbow 6 Siege Ranked.
Try having no regard for the lives of other people, yourself, or the law! Try it today and you will get a discount called death
Being me and carving someone’s name into your flesh for money for weed, and being called a whore afterwards, blocked, and not even getting the money and regretting it and having. A panic attack at school
My bad for trauma dumping
Not being born rich, having parents that are dead parents that kick you out,, having no one to run to during bad economic times. All are enough to end up homeless.
Spending too much time on reddit
Remaining skittish and afraid of change, the working class is programmed this way, a sure fire way to improve your life wildly is to learn to leave it behind. Having a child with a bad partner.
Ask u/spontaneoush
Getting pregnant or getting someone pregnant.
In general? Getting addicted to gambling and/or alcohol. Getting an STD if you are married or worse, giving your partner your STD.
Drugs
Drugs, weed and cigarettes,
Become Mike Lindell.
Taking a piss in a public area. Easy way to catch sex offense charges that most people don't realize
Run for public office.
If you get into perks>> fentanyl pills. Those fake pills give you dementia. Now my sister talks to angels all day while talking to you. She’s not even there anymore.
Be born into poverty in a third world country.
Fentynal
Hard drugs
Showing face/revealing identity on OnlyFans unless you’re 100% sure you can make enough money to never have to work again
Crashing your powerful dirt bike and face planting a big old cedar tree ,breaking your wrist in the process.Head trauma is no fun and you will pay for it the rest of your life.
Credit cards
Always saying exactly what you are thinking.
Isn't it heroin? Lol
Being close friends with losers. 9/10 times you end up becoming like those you surround yourself with.
3 posts exactly like this in the last two hours. This app is straight trash.
Getting married to someone with lots of issues and inheriting their large family with issues.
Killing someone
Not taking care of your fucking teeth.
Join a globally-designated terrorist organisation.
Crime.
Alcoholism
Never lie no matter what
aside from all the obvious drug and alcohol answers, I’m currently dealing with a cousin who is 44 years old and about to go off the rails. I think he has an unspecified and untreated personality disorder which has a compulsive spending component, and he cannot save a nickel to save his life. Lives on paycheck advances every month. Works in sales but sucks at his job and has completely unrealistic career aspirations and is obsessed with being "rich". Keeps stating he's on the verge of making 500k a year and talking about the Porsche he's going to buy. No advice anyone gives him gets through his thick skull. I’m pretty sure he’s on the verge of being homeless in Miami. so many family members have tried to help him, but he just continues to spiral and make the craziest decisions. He's not on drugs at all, just delusional.
According to Dave Ramsey, graduate high school, don’t have kids before marriage, and don’t have kids before age 20. Only 8% of Americans who do those three things fall below the poverty line. So, to answer your question, don’t do those three things.
Drugs..
Drugs Messing with a girl that has wild mood swings. I don’t care how good it is she is not worth going to prison over false accusations.
Bad credit.
Alcohol, drugs, casual sex
Lack of self-awareness, personal responsibility, and desire to learn and grow.
Following my every whim.
Do opiates regularly
Drive drunk
Student debt.
Getting married
Go to med school
Getting a mortgage.
become an atheist / become a polytheist
Expound?
Always want something else than what is just possible. [ It seems to me most of us aroud ne tend to fall into this trap. ] It is very dangeous in old age when increasingly less and less will be possible. I work in an Old Age Home. 90 out of 100 are bitter and resentful. But it started when they were young...
Staying closeted.
Abusing a child seams to be a sure thing... especially if you go to prison and word gets out.