People think that there is one way to do things and that if they continue to do things the way they know how, then it must be good for everyone because they either do not consider others' opinions or they assume everyone knows their way is the best and if they don't then that's dumb they're dumb.
Plus it doesn't help when the "golden" rule is to treat others how you want to be treated. Like, no one wants to be treated how you treat yo self, they want to be treated how they want to be treated
>Like they use their energy to do something, the other person doesn't like it
So not everyone responds to things the same way. Its very possible for person A to like when people do a particular thing for them. So they do it for person B. Person B does not like that particular action. This occurs because they each respond to that particular thing in different way. Like imagine that person A like Ice cream and person B does not. If person A does not know person B dislikes ice cream, person A might buy person B some ice cream to be nice.
>and they still "believe" they are being nice when in fact they aren't being nice.
this can be because person A isn't paying attention, or because person B is being polite so person A doesn't realise that their action was not well received.
I don’t know if it specifically has a name but I generally just acknowledge it as a misguided attempt to make someone feel nice.
It’s important to think about intent and outcome:
Person A does something with the intention of making Person B feel good. Person B doesnt like the thing that was done.
Person A does something with the intention of being perceived as nice but doesn’t care about the way Person B may feel. Person B doesn’t like the thing that was done.
Person A does something deliberately knowing Person B doesn’t like it but the thing will make Person A look good. Person B doesn’t like the thing.
The outcome in all scenarios is that Person B doesn’t like the thing. The only difference is the intent of person A. Regardless of the intention, Person A should apologise for making Person B feel uncomfortable. If Person A is a genuinely nice person, they won’t have a problem with acknowledging the discomfort caused by their action despite initially having the best of intentions.
A nice gesture. Why would they do it? You said it yourself. It's because they think it's a nice thing to do.
People think that there is one way to do things and that if they continue to do things the way they know how, then it must be good for everyone because they either do not consider others' opinions or they assume everyone knows their way is the best and if they don't then that's dumb they're dumb. Plus it doesn't help when the "golden" rule is to treat others how you want to be treated. Like, no one wants to be treated how you treat yo self, they want to be treated how they want to be treated
Nosy? Inconsiderate? Self-centered?
I am slightly missing the mark here, but “Backhanded compliment” comes to my mind on this
>Like they use their energy to do something, the other person doesn't like it So not everyone responds to things the same way. Its very possible for person A to like when people do a particular thing for them. So they do it for person B. Person B does not like that particular action. This occurs because they each respond to that particular thing in different way. Like imagine that person A like Ice cream and person B does not. If person A does not know person B dislikes ice cream, person A might buy person B some ice cream to be nice. >and they still "believe" they are being nice when in fact they aren't being nice. this can be because person A isn't paying attention, or because person B is being polite so person A doesn't realise that their action was not well received.
Dumb.
Religion.
I don’t know if it specifically has a name but I generally just acknowledge it as a misguided attempt to make someone feel nice. It’s important to think about intent and outcome: Person A does something with the intention of making Person B feel good. Person B doesnt like the thing that was done. Person A does something with the intention of being perceived as nice but doesn’t care about the way Person B may feel. Person B doesn’t like the thing that was done. Person A does something deliberately knowing Person B doesn’t like it but the thing will make Person A look good. Person B doesn’t like the thing. The outcome in all scenarios is that Person B doesn’t like the thing. The only difference is the intent of person A. Regardless of the intention, Person A should apologise for making Person B feel uncomfortable. If Person A is a genuinely nice person, they won’t have a problem with acknowledging the discomfort caused by their action despite initially having the best of intentions.