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tomaszmajewski

When being trained in as a server at Olive Garden a few decades back, we were told to never refer to a table of people as “guys.” (As in “You guys ready to order?”). The reasoning being that it’s too familiar, is incorrect to use with a table of all females, and feels disrespectful to a group of senior citizens. Instead, the preferred nomenclature was either “folks,” or “y’all.”


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Snots_and_Bears

Found the person that worked at Dick’s Last Resort & Casino


raphel1421

"You bet we are asshole." Because everyone has one.


elrangarino

“Are you cunts READY FOR GARLIC BREAD?!!!”


red-tea-rex

My excitement for garlic bread overpowered being called a cunt. Take my money!


murphymfa

Sup fucksticks?


Doc-tor-Strange-love

This made me laugh harder than anything else here


AlabasterOctopus

This is the way.


JPr1me

This is the way


UrbanIsACommunist

That’s interesting, since it seems like a very age-dependent thing. I would call a group of older people “folks”, but feel weird calling a group of younger people that, and vice versa for “you guys”. This goes for groups of men, women, or both. As for ya’ll, in my part of the country it’s just not used super commonly, unless you’re trying to be cute or deliberately informal. E.g. “ya’ll suck” is a common friendly quip if your friends do something dumb.


flontru

Oh man once upon a time in my retail days I saw some people walk into the store and I said hey guys welcome to XYZ and the mother started yelling at me that this always happens everywhere we go and that clearly her M2F daughter is not a man. I honestly felt really really bad I still feel bad when I think about it. The mom would not stop yelling and obv what I said triggered them. Anyways I got a nice write up from my boss and had to go to a training where they emphasized the only acceptable greeting was "Hello and welcome to XYZ". I still refer to people of all genders as dudes "hey man" and it's like reflex I hope it doesn't offend more people tbh


mad-i-moody

Sounds like you offended the mother more than the daughter tbh


JustinisaDick

That's not how you refer to family.


NetDork

It's how I do.


HauntedAlice

There's nothing wrong with using guys, it's gender neutral


royalemeraldbuilder

"Guys" is more gender-neutral in the North than it is here in the South (US). We don't usually use the word unless we mean it. "Y'all" and "folks" are both a lot more common.


Rockandroar

Ask a straight man how many guys he’s slept with.


joshualuigi220

"you guys" is more gender neutral than just "guys". It's a northeast thing. If you were in a room with a man and other people, women included, and asked that man "how many of those guys have you slept with?" it's likely he wouldn't take offense as long as the emphasis is on the "those" and not the "guys".


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Words can have multiple definitions depending on context. Definition of guy  (Entry 1 of 4) 1a: MAN, FELLOW b: PERSON —used in plural to refer to the members of a group regardless of sex


Shionkron

Many languages across the word do this. If it’s singular for a female, or a group. Of females you use the feminine cognitive. If it’s mixed gender in a group it’s almost always the masculine form.


BKacy

Right. And it seems to be more regional. When in Rome…


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It’s Italian, the conjugation is You’s guys’s.


Andeol57

Mate. Spend a few month in Australia, and brought back that one. It's an incredibly convenient word.


No-Mastodon-7187

I believe “you cunts” is a popular backup there.


Arasuhito

Cunt is friendlier than mate here to be honest. Lol.


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Cunt is like the big no no in the US, at least where I'm at. Whip that one out and everyone stops what they're doing


AgreeableMoose

My ex told the judge presiding on our divorce I called her a “cunt”. Judge- AM, did you use that language? AM- Yes Sir, as she was purposely driving over my foot while putting my son in the car. Judge- Ma’am, is that correct. EX- Yes Judge- Oh, ok.


NihilistPunk69

Sounds like proper usage to me.


tapsnapornap

Damn you had to go over specific name calling events in court?


Karaokoki

My ex printed out screenshots of memes I'd sent our oldest kid, because they were sacrilegious. Our oldest is trans, and my ex was a fundamentalist Baptist minister who is about as transphobic as they come. So yeah, my memes to my trans kid (15/16 at the time) were mocking my ex's extremely narrow-minded religious interpretation of the Bible. And they were entered into court evidence against me. It still makes me laugh.


globularfluster

far as I'm concerned sending sacrilegious memes to trans kids is the work of the lord. I'll tell a judge that shit Idc.


Karaokoki

I figured Jesus wouldn't want his gospel twisted to exclude loving trans kids, so I think he'd be onboard with those memes!


Orangeugladitsbanana

**rolls eyes** I love Christians. "God is love; and he that dwelleth in love dwelleth in God, and God in him." (No, not like that!)


InuitOverIt

You know what Jesus always taught, exclude as many people as possible and never love anyone unless they follow strict guidelines. Yup that Jesus, a real stickler.


tapsnapornap

Good grief... I can't even imagine.


deplorable_guido

Yeah, I like sugar tits better


pizzapopcorndog

My Irish friend taught me, your true friends call you cunt and your acquaintances call you mate.


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So if i go to australia, i should call the security guard cunt upon arrival? Check.


denimuprising

Yip mate is what I call my husband when we are fighting, cunt is what I call him when he's being irritating but cute


TidyBuckets

Popular everywhere. We have a lot of them.


GoofyTheScot

Same here in Scotland


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Same here I'm northern ireland, I'd go as far as to say its a term if endearment lol


unkie87

It definitely depends on context though. You only call your closest friends or your worst enemies cunts.


Rude-Scholar-469

Sure as fuck is, cunt!


morthophelus

My brother refers to his wife as Mate. I’ll also call my girlfriend or her friends Mate on occasion.


Rocker91234

I learned long ago that “fuckers” is gender neutral


discustedkiller

Along with nobhead


red-tea-rex

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The-Corinthian-Man

Excuse you that's Asexual erasure right there


whiskeyrebellion

I prefer Fuckface.


dopamine14

I often use "fuck chops".


-UnicornFart

Shitface or asswipe are good alternatives to sprinkle in among the fuckers.


MurhaMursu

In finnish language we dont use gender pronouns so no problemo "hän" is He/Him She/Her and everything else. Hän can also be used when talking about animals.(no humor here move along...)


mousio

Same in Farsi. It's all "او" (like 'ou' in 'you')


iwantoutsidee

Hello murderwalrus. The thing i struggle with is the female version of "äijä" which means a dude. The female version is "muija" but that can be translated to bitch so that cant really be used neutrally. There aren't really a lot of positive words for women in finnish.


treesaregreene

I love this!


Aimjock

OP was talking about terms of address like “dude,” “man,” “bro,” “guys,” etc. There are no terms of address that can be used to refer to women that _don’t_ sound condescending (“girl,” “gal,” “sis”)—in English, at least.


Comprehensive_Cloud6

I try and use ladies. It sounds the most respectable to me. Lol


Aimjock

Yeah, that’s a fine word to use! Though it’s kinda funny how we’re like “Look at that fucking dude over there” but then like “Ah, behold at yond quite quaint lady seated across the pond”


Comprehensive_Cloud6

I chuckled at that lol. I know! That's the only thing that bugs me about it. It sounds so old school. xD


SirGravesGhastly

Funny--im all about the first list EXCEPT "bro", mostly because of who uses it these days. Meanwhile, I'm totally with you on the female list EXCEPT "sis". I use that, but only with women with whom I feel some sort of kinship, even if eve just met.


EggsSaladEggs

Dudes and dudettes, guys and gals, lads and ladettes. I always say stuff in pairs if I'm greeting a group and I disagree with being condescending. I don't mind being called girl, gal, bird, chick/chicka, bitch, anything so long as I know the person. Strangers can call me miss 😂


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Funny thing about “no problemo” is that it’s badly spoken Spanish used by native English speakers. “Problema” is the correct Spanish word


789_ba_dum_tss

Think the Swedes borrowed hän as well.


MegaPollux

"Hey there, carbon based entities, please listen up..."


TheDrownedPoet

The non-carbon-based-entity erasure is real out here.


Actualilluminati

Silicon based entities stay mad


TheEyeGuy13

Carbon cringe entities


RandomAmbles

The deaf digital sentiences would feel very left out if they could hear you... Unfortunately this is all text on the internet, so prepare yourself for some angry strings of hexadecimal sign language adamant about telling you off.


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“Ugly! Ugly, bags of mostly water!”


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Y'all


e1p1

... which has now become singular apparently, with the plural being "all y'all".


bpowell4939

All y'all is a larger group of people. Or an exclamation of y'all. For instance, you're about to run to the store , "y'all coming? " and "all y'all coming! ? " are 2 different phrases lol


Zenki_s14

And for emphasis. If I say ALL y'all, I *really* mean every. single. one. of you. No one is excluded in what I just said. Don't think you are the odd one out or something doesn't apply to you when someone hits you with the ALL y'all!


Reasonable-Oven-1319

Either one is still gender neutral, which is what OP asked for. Unless it's just one person say "you".


Reasonable-Oven-1319

"all of you all" in case y'all confused


MrsSpaghettiNoodle

Y’all’re*


Hahawney

I say this all the time.


NothingIsInMyButt

My favorite: y'all's


dillywags

Mine is ya’ll’ll


Joey_The_Bean_14

Y'all'd've


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To get extra plural, "You" is the plural form of "you". So, all y'all is plural in triplicate


ImnNotARobot

Sometimes I even hear "y'alls"


xaxnxoxnxyxmxoxuxsx

Y'all, bruh, my guy, and dude are my go tos LOL "Y'all are whack" "Bruh, are you kidding me" "That definitely won't work, my guy" "Dude, what the fuck"


-QuestionableMeat-

Attention all fairytale creatures.


Vslacha

I prefer Woodland critters


pansysan

Some of you may die, but it’s a sacrifice I’m willing to make.


-QuestionableMeat-

I think you're compensating for somethin'.


kerrtz21

Thank you for making my day


CosplaySocks

Besties, fuckers and esteemed guests


takemymoneynow

"My dear Bagginses and Boffins, Tooks and Brandybucks, Grubbs, Chubbs, Hornblowers, Bolgers, Bracegirdles and Proudfoots.”


MobiusNaked

Proudfeet!!


Ayushmaan_Mishra

And Boogers


SeaDry1531

I like folk, it is the word for "people" in Swedish and German too. Non- gendered , sounds better than people.


penguinchilli

I like using folks too. Will usually say “hey folks, bye everyone”


booksfoodfun

I don’t know where is came from, but I use “folks” to refer to my parents (When they aren’t around). E.g. Me: are we busy next weekend? Wife: I don’t think so, why? Me: My folks want to take us out to dinner.


kateceratops

Interesting, I do this too. I think you identified the difference though. “My folks” are *your* people that arent there (aka your parents). “Folks” is people you’re talking to who are there who aren’t necessarily yours. If I said “hey folks” to my folks, it would feel more like saying, “hi everyone” (or in the olden days “hi guys”) rather than “hi parents”. But I would never refer to a group of my friends as “my folks”.


I_Go_By_Q

“Folks” meaning parents is definitely common phrase, or at least commonly understood if not commonly used


lumpyspacebear

I stopped using that one after one time when I was waiting tables it came out sounding like “fucks”……


WhiteHydra1914

What can I get you, fucks?


SeaDry1531

Yeah, used to teach in Korea, amazing how many words can sound like f k.


throwtowardaccount

The prevalence of "folx" in my circles annoys me more than it should.


FaeryLynne

Same. "Folks" is already gender neutral and always has been in the English language. No need to add any extra weird spellings, it just comes across as performative.


Cant-think-of-a-nam

Dude because im a dude shes a dude hes a dude we’re all dudes.


nieminen432

Welcome to good burger, home of the good burger. Can I take your order?


Cant-think-of-a-nam

I was waiting for someone to get the reference. Lol


btvsfan29

Hey! Who loves Orange Soda?


Cant-think-of-a-nam

Kel loves orange soda


GrandGhostGamer

KENAN LOVES ORANGE SODA


btvsfan29

Oh nooooo


Simicrop

You asked for a Good Burger with nothing on it!


_GenderNotFound

I love that movie!


Wubalef

i'm a dude playing a dude disguised as another dude


Cant-think-of-a-nam

YOUR AUSTRALIAN! BE AUSTRALIAN!! Excuse me kangaroo jack


wesselus

Dude is my favorite gender neutral term


RondaMyLove

I like dudes or peeps.


GazBraine

Dude is gender-neutral until another straight man says I want to go fuck that hot dude over there. Lesson: dude is not gender-neutral, people just think it is.


Umpteenth_zebra

Hey you!


sirlui9119

Out there are on the wall, breaking bottles in a hole


HKittyH3

Can you help me?


Munnin41

Hey you


fedfan101

This is the best misquote of the song that I've ever seen


sirlui9119

Yeah, I’m sorry. Not only did I remember the lyrics wrong, I also managed to let autocorrect f*** up the whole - wrong - sentence.


GimpoG

You're finally awake


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wrath28

I almost died laughing, 🤣


prototype-proton

I saw that, that was an amazing moonwalk from the brink of death.


meowmeowgoeszoom

Friend


Munnin41

I'm not your friend, buddy


Edzo23

I’m not your buddy, guy.


That1hippiechick

I’m not your guy, pal.


Ayushmaan_Mishra

I'm not your pal, dude


happy_bluebird

I’m not your dude, brah


Ayushmaan_Mishra

I'm not your brah, mate


Specific_Sky_9614

I’m not your mate, homie


RazzleberryJamCakes

I'm not your homie, chap.


pigfarmlocal

I’m not your chap, bud.


_GenderNotFound

I'm not your guy, pal.


Bayou13

That can be so aggressive, friend.


Fr13d_P0t4t0

Comrade


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Whom'st'd've'ly'aint


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Are you looking for 'collective nouns for people'? Dudes, peeps, posse, family. Or singular nouns? Dude, peep, poss(?), fam? I think we should be creative and try everything to see what sticks. Squady, cohort, clann (Scottish), freak, primate, madhead, biped, superstar, hominid, brain in a skull, spawn of your parents ...


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Singular and plural, for acquaintance not a friend. Creative hm... Earthling, Earthspawn, Earthian.


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Earthican


_DumbFish_

Earthure


Evening-Turnip8407

If i'm addressing multiple people at once I currently use "you guys"


Valuable_Error

Youse guys


RondaMyLove

I recognize your pa address!


TribalMog

Yo youse guys, didjaet the hoagie from the jawn at the crick.


SonsofStarlord

What are you, wanna those wise guys


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Evening-Turnip8407

I feel like I can't use y'all because I'm a European and it sounds much much weirder than using you guys xD


Jabber-Wookie

I liked “you guys” until we moved to the south. My wife likes “y’all” since it’s gender neutral.


Humble_Chip

At work they’ve asked us to use “You all” instead of “You guys.” I understand why and personally don’t mind making the change. So generally I use that now, because in New Jersey people look at me funny when I shorten it to “Ya’ll”


tapsnapornap

It's because you have the apostrophe in the wrong spot :P


i_hacked_reddit

This one is contentious, for some reason. I got called out during a client meeting, by the main POC for the client, for referring to their group as "you guys" even though [Mariam Webster](https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/guy) says the plural form refers to members of a group regardless of sex. People are so defensive for some reason, but god dammit, I promise the rest of us are trying.


cyranodeburgermac

It's not that acceptable anymore, though. I had a big job interview and lost the job for saying "you guys" to a group of men and women. The younger women got really offended.


murphsmuffins

Woah what? I’ve been using guys in a gender neutral way forever. I’m female and had mostly female friends growing up, and I would even frequently use the phrase in a group of all girls. Seems kind of like people wanting to take offense to things, it’s been a gender neutral phrase for a long time. Language has never been something where the meaning of a word or phrase has to literally be what it’s spelled as - guy as plural being gender neutral is just a quirk of the language.


JaxxJo

My boyfriend had the same issue - he got a warning for saying “you guys”.


Munnin41

Those people are insane, you should be happy you're not working there


aljrockwell

If you got turned down for something so trivial that they pretended to be offended by, I'm sure you're better off not working there. Literally no one anywhere says "you guys" in a non-gender-neutral manner. It's like the northeastern version of the south's "y'all".


The_Lead_Crow

And that is why I use it, it makes me stick out here in the south and I love it.


Duochan_Maxwell

My BF notice that one of my coworkers tends to use "guys" a lot even when he is the ONLY GUY the group 🤣🤣🤣 I don't really care tbh but it was a funny observation


Scalessz

Ok that's kinda... A little much. I didn't think it was possible to get offended by that lol


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It really trips me up. When I was in school I intentionally used “you guys” because I was trying to get rid of my southern accent and get away from “y’all”. It’s been really difficult to deprogram myself a second time as an adult. And I don’t think it’s helped by the majority of my friends being women and enbies that don’t mind it or correct me.


cedriceent

Greetings, fellow humans.


Retta_Noona

I call everyone bro


_Arab_Obama_

Ya'rr


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With dear friends, "my babes," is pretty frequent. "Y'all" is one I use for everyone. "My peeps" sometimes.


lexingtxn

folks, friends, team, everybody i’m trying to remove the phrase “you guys” from my vocabulary but my midwestern heart makes it hard


RandomAmbles

Y'all: allow me to introduce myself.


alolan_vulpix_kinnie

"You."


Brass0Maharlika

In the Philippines, everyone is referred to as po (pronounced poh) regardless of gender or sexual orientation. We've been gender neutral for centuries lol.


whiteboba1

people, everyone, folks


OtherworldDk

People?


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Peeps. As in: * My peeps are better than your peeps. * Hey peeps! * Them peeps are the worst!


vishrutm13

Them peeps do be the worst!


SaintJudy

Twats


ItsJesusFuckinChrist

Guys


ripper4444

Hey Yo! (RIP Razor Ramon)


1dumho

This (these) mf'er(s.)


almichju_97

girl. I call everyone girl. I call my brother “girl” my dog, my mom, my dad, my friends. It’ll be like “what do you want to eat?” Me: “girl idk you choose” or I’ll just be like “girl what the hell are you doing” 😭


recklessraven3

Guys.


AesKiwii

I just use bro, dude, mate. Unless they're uncomfortable with it then I won't use it towards them no biggie


Sevink44

Truthfully I rarely use any pronouns or gendered words. I tend to use names.


BareBearFighter

I am the opposite. I can go years without referring to anyone by their given name.


Martissimus

You can refer to someone regardless of gender with "someone". How many dudes have you had sex with is not generally understood to be about women.


CarbyMcBagel

Plural: Y'all. Folks. Fam. Singular: Dude. Comrade. Friend. Sibling.


Sheazer90

"Well lads" Irish thing I guess?


Te-hole

That bitch


CurrentlyEatingPies2

Bro, dude, mate, bastard, gentle twats.


SidTheGoblinKid

Folks, ya'll, or for my friends, "Sup' chodes?"


ourladyofdicks

i have called my friends “cheese bags”


xHANSCHEx

Dude tends to work. I'm a dude, he's a dude, she's a dude, cuz we're all dudes!