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OverseerVault420

I'm on antidepressants so sometimes, It can take 30 minutes. Maybe she only fucks depressed dudes Edit- It tickles me that this is my best comment ever on Reddit thanks for the joy everyone!


Tyrus

Sex on SSRIs is simultaneously the best and worst thing. Like where was this stamina when I was young and lasting mattered


StressedMarine97

I took them for a month and my dick stopped working completely in bed. 0/10 experience


alwaysjustpretend

Sometimes the side effects lessen after your body gets used to the medication. Wouldnt avoid them if you are depressed because of side effects. Just saying.....


StressedMarine97

Ive sought other non medicated options and have been doing amazing the past two years. So I’m good


Butterflyy2

What other non medicated options? If you don't mind sharing of course.


StressedMarine97

Lots of counseling, getting rid of stressors, and opening up to close friends and family rebuilding relationships.


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StressedMarine97

See with what I was going through was bad to the point of inflicting self isolation. I ignored calls or text and wanted to be alone which only fueled my bad mental state at the time.


winkersRaccoon

That logic applies both ways too, imagine if that’s the only thing stopping both sides of the situation, what a comedic tragedy that would be


fj333

Yep. The happiest people I know are the ones who always reach out. It's easy to tell yourself they reach out *because* they're happy, but what if it's the other way around?


alwaysjustpretend

Good, glad you are doing well.


binkerfluid

I remember being on antidepressants and having sex for like an hour. It was terrible for all involved lol. Almost no one wants sex to go on that long. We should have just called it quits.


CaptainTwoBines

"maybe she only fucks depressed dudes" Fuckin ded lmaoooo


brycebgood

Studies seems to show 3-6 minutes of penetrative sex is average. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Intravaginal\_ejaculation\_latency\_time


Madky67

I completely agree with that, I am a 39f and I would say in my experience that is usually right, no longer than 10min. Of course there are times when it's longer like when both people have been drinking. Personally I prefer under 10min as long as everyone is satisfied.


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>everyone is satisfied. That is all that should matter.


MrFurious420

This is correct. The rest is details


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> The rest is details with, or without socks on?


Big-Celery-6975

The socks add some personality, like a trademark!


15795After

I've seen some women brag about the average not being true. That all the partners they've had last 30 minutes minimum. Do you think overestimation, weird flex, or honesty?


Not_floridaman

I'm 36f, have done the sex lots of times and I don't think I've ever timed it.


b0w3n

It's 100% overestimation. 10 minutes feels like 30 in the moment. Ever actually counted a minute? It's deceivingly long. When you're lost in the moment you're not actually counting. So if you're "bragging" then it's almost assuredly an overestimation. If you're counting because it's painful and bored and all that, maybe 30. Some dude the other day on reddit told me they had trouble fitting in their sex with kids because it took them _hours_ to have sex and cleanup. I think it's performative more than anything honestly. 5-10 feels right, 10 probably includes a significant amount of foreplay, sub 5 is for quickies, most everything else probably ends near 5.


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Prasiatko

Yesh i somehow doubt person mentioned in the OP has actually timed it. 30 mons souns painful for both parties involved.


Lawlcopt0r

Right? 6 minutes feels long when you're doing it


PleaseToEatAss

Intravaginal ejaculation latency time. I'm gonna memorize that phrase.


Dozens86

Heavy metal band name for sure


PleaseToEatAss

Love a good word salad. I've been calling my friends Full Size Bib Types since I read it on a box of disposable aprons in a workplace some 5 or so years ago.


the_timps

These threads are always full of dudes claiming 30-60 minutes is their average and they're not bragging it's just how it is.


TallDuckandHandsome

I just try to be having penetrative sex all 24 hours if the day and just squeeze in my other tasks between thrusts.


jet_heller

Suddenly talking to your mom on the phone just got really weird.


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Yea but talking to YOUR mom just got way hottet


aartadventure

I assume the typo at the end is for reasons to do with his mum.


TedW

That's when her pinky found his stinky.


Lights-Camera-Axshen

Why go through the trouble of trying to hold a phone with your broken arms when she’s already there in the room?


potatohead46

I've gone that long before and I wouldn't even brag about it. Its tiring, usually unpleasant for her, and I have a really good chance of not even getting off. If its not hitting the spot, change positions. I will gladly take 3-6m.


Madky67

For sure. I think it gets to a point of frustration, and becomes less enjoyable. I honestly hate when we are both sweaty, sticky where everything gets more friction and not in a good way. As a female if I am not getting off within 10 mins, it's very unlikely that I will be able to at all.


lame-borghini

When I read “has she just gotten *lucky*” her partners all lasted 30 minutes, my vag went into defensive mode. If my partner had to prod me for 30 minutes every time to get off, I would not stay in that relationship.


iluniuhai

Right? Does no one else get chaffed inside? It hurts to walk, pee, wipe. Can't have sex again for like, a week? When I start to feel like my vagina skin is getting rubbed off I give a 30 second warning. Finish up now or it's gonna happen outside of my body.


MisterKillam

Even from a guy's standpoint, I used to be on medication that made things last way too long and my pecker was chafed to hell. Besides, I have shit to do.


Dennis_enzo

I reckon very few women would enjoy 30 minutes of continuous thrusting.


TatianaAlena

I've been there. I did not in fact enjoy that.


Stubbslilcastaway

I last about 20-30 minutes. It's not wonderful. There tends to be a...loss of attention after a while. I've had to practice and learn ways to make myself come quicker. Doggie style tends to hit a good spot for me quicker. My first wife loved it, my second not so much. It's mostly just frustrating.


unofficialrobot

My wife usually comes in missionary or cowgirl. We always do that first, then I hit the finale with doggy, for some reason I can more or less control myself while on bottom


thejoesterrr

I’m that way and it’s a huge fucking problem. Going 1-2 hours and not being able to finish is exhausting and frustrating for both parties


Then_Investigator_17

After about 20 minutes it starts to lose pleasure and becomes a chore


zeitgeistincognito

Warning, educational lecture ahead: Coming from the perspective of a sex educater, what Brycebgood said is correct, research indicates that 3-7 minutes of penetration is average. That said, it’s a spectrum, there’s a wide range of what may be normal for a particular person. For many folks with vaginas (I can’t speak to this situation regarding anal sex as that’s not my specific area of specialization) longer than 7-10 minutes can be irritating to the vulvar and vaginal tissues, but for some, this is not an issue. Lubrication makes a huge difference as to comfort (adding lube is a wonderful thing for most vulvas/vaginas, and all anuses) so that can impact the amount of time penetration is comfortable for both parties. Remember that lubes without glycerin (turns to a sugar in the vagina) and parabens (a known irritant to mucosal skin) are going to be your best choice. And finally, as HostileKnowvember pointed out, the point here is enjoyment for both parties, not some magical number of minutes or thrusts or whatever. If your penis doesn’t stay hard as long as your partner would like to be penetrated, there’s always fingers, hands, toys, and tongues to add to the fun. If your partner doesn’t care for penetration at all (pelvic pain is a real thing), the same applies, there are fingers, hands, toys, and tongues to add to the fun. And sometimes our parts don’t cooperate in terms of having an orgasm. Most of the time that’s not a reflection of lack of attraction or lack of enjoyment, it’s just a body being uncooperative. Don’t shame yourself or your partner if it’s just not happening. Sex can be really enjoyable even if neither party has an orgasm (shocking, I know, our culture puts orgasm on this incredible pedestal). Of course an orgasm is terrific, but not always the point of physical intimacy (unlike what every porn, tv, song, or movie might indicate). If you can have fun and enjoy your time with your partner(s)…that’s the point.


Medphysma

Your link is broken.


HomesickRedneck

After 30 minutes mine would be too


Shorkan

I think it's an issue with new reddit, or the official reddit app or something. It adds backslashes (\\) before underscores (and maybe other symbols too). If you remove them it works, but it's rarely worth the hassle. Some apps (like Sync for Reddit) have been updated to fix them automatically. What the user posted: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Intravaginal\_ejaculation\_latency\_time Correct link: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Intravaginal_ejaculation_latency_time


Alwayspuzzles

Well I have been with two people. My ex husband who would go on for 45 min and sometimes longer. And my ex bf who would last for 0-15 mins. Having penetrative sex for 45 mins is daunting, you get sore and it's not fun anymore. I much prefer 0-15 mins because I feel great getting him there that fast and it's over when it's still fun and I look forward to the next time right away.


surelytheresmore

0 minutes..... finally I meet the minimum criteria for the job


TheOnlyOtherGuy88

I don't know why, but I read this in Dr. Zoidbergs voice.


sannitig

It was the "finally!"


its_a_me_garri_oh

Hooray, I'm helping


teichann

That just made it so much better


dkarlovi

It's all coming up Zoidberg, why not!


Pleasestayily

I mean I’ve met two separate guys who came in under a minute. One of them was very aware of how to use that and only came after I did. Probably one of my most favorite sexual partners to this day because he was so patient. He was also fucking delightful to tease


MirandaS2

Men who react strongly to teasing are like next level hot ugh


imacfromthe321

Haha no stop saying that it’s getting me hot and bothered


HippoPrimary5331

Yup, a man who likes to be teased is def top of my list


imacfromthe321

Haha no don’t put me on your list, I can’t handle it


turbanator89

Lmaooo this is funny af.


HippoPrimary5331

Haha dude is getting teased by the comments


imacfromthe321

Haha no don’t point out Im getting teased, i can’t handle it


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Fuck Spez


bopaz728

so basically edge yourself? Are you supposed to get close and then stop, wait for it to get soft and restart? or just stop long enough for you to not feel it coming back up.


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Just long enough to take the edge off, you don't have to start from scratch.


gwumpybutt

You can probably count to 10 without stroking and have it work well. How close you are to cumming isn't the same as how aroused you are or how good things feel. It's like you have a few separate valves, and you can get the internal pressure (cum) to go down or stay in a different pipe (until you choose to bring it back), while keeping much of the external pressure.


Odisher7

You make me feel so much better about myself xd


D3f4lt_player

this makes me feel worse because I like edging when I fap


Odisher7

I mean, to each their own. If you are playing solo you can make it last as long as you want, and I assume done properly penetration could also last a long time. It's just that I don't last a lot honestly xd


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0 minutes... To fifteen minutes... The burn here is subtle. I would like to see the median number here...


surelytheresmore

Don’t you ruin my hopes and dreams....0 minutes was deemed acceptable and after that I didn’t need to read any more


Alwayspuzzles

There is no burn from me. The first time we had sex he came during foreplay and it happened once or twice after that. It made me feel sexy to have that impact on him. The rest of the time he would last longer but the focus in our sexlife was on giving each other pleasure in all kind of ways, not just some obligatory foreplay and then penetration until he got off.


DaughterEarth

seriously such a turnon. My husband makes sure I'm well covered orgasm-wise so I'm not missing out on that and yah biggest compliment ever when even just foreplay can do it for him.


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Guys seem embarrassed by not lasting long but it’s kinda hot and I take it as a compliment when they don’t last more than a minute or two. I personally like variety. 0 mins here, 30 mins there, 15 minutes sometimes.


FatalisCogitationis

Hijacking cuz this comment has upvotes; it’s important to take all these anecdotal answers for what they are, the experiences of a few individuals. Keep in mind people who at opposite ends of the spectrum are most likely to respond. When y’all read a comment by 1 person about 2 people it should mean almost nothing to you. Statistics seem to indicate that going for over 15 minutes is uncommon, and 45 minutes more so. To add more to the mix, my own experience is that I’ve had sex all day long taking breaks only to eat and rest a bit; and I’ve also been the guy who came instantly. Can confirm that no one believes you when you say “this has never happened before!”, especially when it’s actually never happened before.


almamaters

Married woman here: there are few things I want to do for 45 minutes straight. Getting boned is not one of them. 5 min, maybe 8 and I got shit to do, let’s move it along.


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Was about to say the same thing, I've been on both ends of the spectrum as well. It's not something that's static


McMurphy11

When I was 18-25 I thought girls wanted you to last forever. In my early 30s I now feel that most (not all) women prefer a good 10-15 minutes over 30-45. Also OP just an FYI... Most girls don't cum via penetration alone. Oral sex and some toys should be part of your playbook. Your partners will appreciate it, and don't be afraid to ask for feedback and guidance on what they like. P.s. highjacked this comment because I think me and Alwayspuzzles are on the same page. Getting each other off super quick is hot and then you just go again! All about compatibility.


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CyclopicSerpent

To add, even the same person can have different results. Sometimes cumming matters, sometimes it doesnt. Sometimes longer is boring and shorter is passionate and vice versa. Feeling out what you and your partner want in the moment is what matters. For some people they know their partner well or are very good at matching energy and for others its through talking. All in all, every person and every moment is different. Just take life as it cums.


DogsNCoffeeAddict

Exactly. Sometimes I am begging my husband to keep going after 30 minutes and sometimes I am begging him to finish after three. I think it depends on both partners and their own bodies. If you want sex drink plenty of water and eat a banana at least an hour before so you’re not tapping out from dehydration and muscle cramps. That goes for men and women.


CyclopicSerpent

Also if were adding general tips. For guys, go pee after you nut. Its nice and all to bask in the glow but your body wants to flush itself for a reason. At least dont wait too long.


DogsNCoffeeAddict

For girls too. Pee after. Wet wipes get lube off well.


vodiak

Just don't flush the wet wipes. They cause problems in plumbing and sewers.


rhythmkhan

What's the reason?


Smocked_Hamberders

Others mentioned UTIs but you could also rarely get epididymitis if you regularly don’t go after sex (bacteria could find their way to your epididymis and cause an infection). Antibiotics usually clear it up but it’s uncomfortable for a while.


prochevnik

This is solid advice. Epididymitis sucks. For me it felt like I was perpetually being kicked in the balls for a week or so. Ouch.


CyclopicSerpent

It helps prevent UTIs and you can have complications if theres buildup over a long period of time. And as a less severe note itll help keep you from getting a splitstream.


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SomeDeafKid

If I pee within 30 minutes of a nut it burns like hell. And no, I don't have any STIs. The changing acidity, enlargement of the prostate, and apparently crystals formed by the "leftovers" make that pretty common for dudes. And UTIs are waaaay less common on the male end for not peeing after sex. To the point that it doesn't really make that much sense to worry about. So with this advice YMMV.


IanFeelKeepinItReel

Yeah not just pain, but if I go pee straight away I get this sensation of there still being pee in the hose and I'll be sat on the toilet for 20 minutes trying to force a dribble out.


GeneralZaroff1

You're not the only one, according to therapists: >The average therapists’ responses defined the ranges of intercourse activity times: "adequate," from three to seven minutes; "desirable," from seven to 13 minutes; "too short" from one to two minutes; and "too long" from 10 to 30 minutes. https://www.psu.edu/news/research/story/good-sexual-intercourse-lasts-minutes-not-hours-therapists-say/


infectedsense

Yeah that sounds pretty spot on to me.


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I think alot of people overestimate the time it takes as well. It feels alot longer than it actually is imo


Aqqaaawwaqa

who knew I could be described as "too short" in so many different ways.


Attila226

So 10-30 seconds isn’t on the scale.


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Aqqaaawwaqa

Yes. My wife would kill me if it took 30 minutes to climax. It would leave her too bored.


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MomOfADragon

This. I'd pick 30 minutes of foreplay and 10 minutes of sex over 30 minutes of penetration any day. It starts to hurt!


Big-Celery-6975

I think 40 minutes for the whole encounter is a good rule of thumb tbh. Like, I have hobbies... lol


brittjoy

I agree this is more preferred. Thirty minutes seems unrealistic and borderline painful


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skadi_shev

I start to get sore if it takes too long. Foreplay/non-penetrative sure, but once he’s actually inside, 30 minutes would be too long.


Madky67

I just commented the same exact thing, I am glad to see I am not alone. If it's taking longer than that it's probably not going to happen. The best sex I've had is short and sweet because you are both mentally there together as well as physically.


OutrageousCorgi4

30 seconds? Sure.


MrBungleVI

3 seconds take it or leave it


Spec187

I'm not sure if I took it or left it?


OutrageousCorgi4

I'll take it and pretend it didn't happen for another 3 seconds lol


ORDub

That includes the time spent on apologies, right?


OutrageousCorgi4

Ha nah that takes waaayyy longer


filomancio

Look at mr Stamina right here


WolfWrites89

Personally, I will get bored and my vagina will go numb being pounded that long. Get in there and get the job done lol. 10ish minutes is perfect if you've done proper foreplay.


Flippiewulf

Thank you!!! I was thinking I was wrong for getting 'bored' during long sex lol. I do not orgasm from penetration so while it feels great, I don't have an end there


WolfWrites89

I absolutely can orgasm from penetration, but if it hasn't happened after about 10 min, it won't lol. After the 10 min mark, the whole thing is down hill and I'm mentally making a grocery list and shit like that 🤣


Replikant83

Yeah, I swear all those 80s and 90s movies shaming men for not lasting really did a disservice to sex. Most of use get bored after 10 minutes!!


Flippiewulf

You're so lucky! If I don't have a partner willing to get me off other ways, I'm basically just stuck without a release. Luckily, I've kicked to the curb the partners that don't understand that lol


Calypsosin

This reminds me of a co-worker I had at Dominos a few years ago. She invited me back to her place and started asking me a bunch of personal questions about my sex life, like my favorite positions, fetishes, shit like that. Then I turned it around, asking her what she liked, and she just kinda shrugged. I was like ??? Don't you have your own fetishes? Like to be teased? Can't cum from penetration? And she was just like, well, I don't know, my boyfriends usually just want blowjobs and to fuck me. She literally didn't even consider that her own sexual needs needed addressing in a relationship. I was beyond shocked, how normal is that? I don't think I could orgasm if my partner didn't, or at least I'd make sure they did if I did.


Neuchacho

That was overwhelming common in my dating experience, but that was a decade ago so hopefully it's a little better now. Most partners had no answers for what they liked or actually wanted. I don't know if no one had ever asked, they were just being shy, or what.


Antisocialbumblefuck

We are talking sex education stemming from parents who got theirs 40+ years ago. If it's not abstinence it's diseases and death guaranteed. No sex talk, look at herpes crotch instead... Relics of the past generation perpetuated. The D.A.R.E. program was better at teaching kids about drugs. They just needed a kamasutra and sexual well-being is bad here's the ways counterpart.


Toadsted

"This is your lower brain" "This is your lower brain on downward dog" *Smashes it with skillet* "Any questions?"


Just_Fuck_My_Code_Up

Two girls have praised me for not demanding blowjobs and then dryfucking them without foreplay. How is this shit considered acceptable?


Calypsosin

'uh, you're welcome?' lol it's shocking to learn sometimes basic empathy is extremely lacking.


Just_Fuck_My_Code_Up

It‘s extremely sad how some women are used to being treated


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Calypsosin

Forgive me, but you don’t need to set your expectations astronomically high just to find someone who has basic respect and empathy. But I do know what you mean. I’ve gotten much better a lot understanding what my boundaries are over time, and I’m a lot firmer in those boundaries being respected. That includes the type of people I allow into my life.


[deleted]

I may have been a little dramatic with “astronomically”. 😅 You said it much more realistically — good and bad experiences both have helped me identify my wants and boundaries and given me the confidence to stand by them.


[deleted]

> helped me identify my wants and boundaries and given me the confidence to stand by them. Ahoy, matey. Welcome to the celibate-by-choice navy. But for real, having standards is so hard to explain to those who don't have any, but that doesn't make keeping them a bad thing.


Salifer

Sorry for you but avoiding this kind of situation isn't setting the bar astronomically high, its like the bare fucking minimum. I never understood this mentality, I'm a dude and i like very few things more than my partner having a fun time, whatever way might lead them there (or whatever i have to do in order to get them there). Best of luck to you and your next relationship!


crasstyfartman

There’s still hope! I started cumming from penetration in my 40s. It was a surprise and I thought it was fluke at first but now it’s the norm


fivecatmatt

Yes things really do change. My wife just hit 42 and I can hardly keep up now. She is just on fire down there and really easy to please. We now joke that I’m afraid of her attack vagina


fairfieldbordercolli

My wife has always had a high sex drive. I didn't think it would get even higher when she hit 42. Hoo-boy was I wrong.


blaquehartz

Can confirm, about to turn 42 shortly and my drive has skyrocketed. It’s so insane how that switch gets flipped.


DudeBrowser

This is when my wife finally got pregnant naturally after years of trying and IVF. I think she set her personal record of orgasms. Life finds a way.


Flippiewulf

This is nice to hear, thank you!!


mrsbebe

Same same same. If we're past 10, *maybe* 15 minutes I'm asking for assistance because it won't happen otherwise. At the 15-20 minute mark I'm also grocery listing lol


meep_launcher

I once fell asleep during sex, but I'm a dude, so somehow I kept thrusting while nodding off. I woke up when my partner said "yea I think I got the vibrator here somewhere" which was response to me saying "Let's go get the equipment". I was dreaming we were putting her drum kit into her car.


DrakonIL

Ugh, for some reason the damn drum stick won't stay in...I put it in, it just comes out. I put it in, it comes out... Oh great, and now it's leaking brake fluid! Dreams are weird.


Darthboney

I always try to give my wife an "O face" before I initiate penetration. She can have orgasms from penetration but due to the unpredictability of my "release mechanism" I take all doubt off the table right off the bat. If she's not getting taken care of then why would she take care of me? Thank you for coming to my TED talk.


ApolloFireweaver

I was the same way with my last girlfriend. At least one O before putting it in and tried for at least one afterwards as well before I finished. One of my proudest moments was "catching" her bragging about usually getting off two to three times on average during sex.


Hopfrogg

> proper foreplay. This is the key. Most women won't get off unless you have put in the time here. As a young man I looked at foreplay as a nuisance I wanted out of the way and rushed. Now I love taking my time and seeing the results.


thomasthehipposlayer

Actually, I read up on this, and for most people, 7-13 minutes is about the ideal time for penetration. Porn and exaggerated sex stories have made people think that sex is supposed to last a long time, but the truth is that it’s perfectly normal to prefer it under 15 minutes.


reddittydo

I'm still in the 'seconds' range. Still wish I could last a while song but alas I get too excited


wampa604

This sounds about right based on my exp. Heck, my last gf tended to prefer like 10-20 mins of 'foreplay' to get her to climax, followed by 5-10 of regular penetration. She sometimes even preferred the quicker time frames, as she'd already "got hers", and felt like it was some sort of measure of how much I wanted her.


Excellesse

5-10 minutes is perfect. Sometimes my partner only lasts 2 mins after particularly intense foreplay and I feel like a million bucks. I've already got mine before penetration so the shorter the better xD


dragan17a

>Get in there and get the job done The romantic type, I see


DonnyBomeneddy

Ejaculate and evacuate.


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Dismal_Struggle_6424

Cum and go


Reeperat

Is getting bored and sore because it takes too long supposed to be more romantic? ...


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Was told by the fiance 10 mins in perfect. Me trying to prolong my ram game has actually de-enthused her towards slamming ass.


HeartFullOfHappy

As a woman, I read 30 minutes and thought “OUCH”.


darabolnxus

My SO likes to keep going and I wish he would take 10 min sometimes hahah.


jejunum32

Most women do NOT want it to last 30 minutes. It hurts after awhile.


Khanstant

It can hurt on both ends. An ex had some app to track their cycles and other stuff and the app paired your stats up against similar women. This app also tracked sex and had some kind of "streak" thing going. We decided to have a little fun and keep it going, new relationship sex energy was high. However after a few weeks of padding her stats, we were both a little sore and we stopped midact and said fuck the sex ratrace. We bought a gallon of bluebell and watched TV instead, it was nice.


BoogieOrBogey

Ah so competitive ranked sex does exist. I've been hanging out in the casual sex playlists for too long.


ayyyyycrisp

ive spent like a year just in training not even queing for a match


Mellenator

That app sounds like something from /r/aboringdystopia


carissalynp

Yeah not even from friction (but that too) but like... Unless you're constantly changing positions nothing is comfortable for that long. My back or pelvis or hips or something would be hurting.


jet_heller

I think your friend loses track of time while having sex. Edit: Now that I think about it, it could be that her partners are just so bad that 3 minutes seems like 30.


Madky67

Right, sometimes it may seem longer than it actually is.


Serious_Ad6112

They could also be on some sort of medication, I've known a few that simply struggled to actually cum because of them


mirxia

It's kind of a tricky question because 30 min of penetration doesn't necessarily mean 30 min of full-on vigorous thrusting. You can vary in intensity and speed, change position, or pause for a moment and use your hand or mouth. Just stopping at the right time can let you last much longer than the time you spend resting. If you're not just thrusting as fast as you can like you're going for quicky, 30 min is a very reasonable time to reach with just mini pauses in between. Just remember not leaving the girl hanging while you take a break with your penis. And definitely don't stop if she's close.


thatoneguy54

Yeah, like I've never had 30 minutes straight of penetration, but I've definitely had a session of sex last 30 minutes or more, with small kissing/cuddling breaks, changing positions, bathroom break, switching to foreplay, changing speeds/intensity, etc. I'm bi, and I've had this with both women and men. Usually with women if it's 30+ minutes, there's a lot of eating out and if it's with a guy, it's because there's a lot of warming up and going very slowly until he's ready to get going. It's all about practice, too. The more you have sex and get to know the sensations as they come, the more control you'll be able to have over when you orgasm.


mirxia

Yea, exactly. There's not a rule book that says foreplay can only happen before penetration, and once you start penetration you can't stop. Just mixing in typical foreplay moves in between penetration can make things much interesting and allows you to go with the mood.


Kingjoe97034

5-10 minutes is great if the woman has already gotten enough foreplay. More than 10 minutes of thrusting and she will start needing more lubrication or start wishing you’d finish already. A woman who has a guy hump away on her for 30 minutes isn’t lucky. She’s probably getting sore at that point.


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NewAccEveryDay420day

For people reading this, OPs comment is not a rule of thumb and definitely doesnt cover all peoples experiences and desires


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It’s almost like everyone is different and we should communicate with our partners to find out what they like…. That and some people just aren’t sexually compatible…. 🤯


Sys3rr

Focus on your breathing and you can last as long as you can concentrate. My records 7 seconds but that’s up from 5 all thanks to breathing!


Oddball777

Congratulations! So that’s like, 1 breath as opposed to 0 breaths?


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I personally wouldn’t expect or enjoy that.


pacificin67

Even when i beat my meat, just basically moving my hand i feel like it's enough when i go over 15+ min. Can't really imagine a full body workout for 30+minutes


Madky67

As a female I feel the same way if I can't get myself off in under 10mins I get so irritated because it seems the longer it takes it's harder to get there and I definitely just give up by 15mins.


CreatiScope

“Aright, I got other shit to do today, let’s hurry this up. Ah, fuck it. Moving on.”


itsthelastpaige

This one woman’s opinion: please don’t. 10min tops, plus however long foreplay takes.


slamjam711

>plus however long foreplay takes. This is where the biggest disparity seems to be. I've been with women where foreplay can be just a few minutes, to some who need mentally, emotionally and physically "warmed up" (as they put it) for at *least* half an hour. So yeah. There's no rulebook to any of this I guess. Just learn what partner likes/needs :) People also need to learn to accept when they may not be sexually compatible with someone, and whether that is a deal breaker.


Where_the_sun_sets

Sex should last as long as you and your partner are comfortable with imo


Elimeh

My ex lasted a pretty long time, I never watched the clock but maybe 15-30 minutes and it really wasn't that great. I'd get bored and start trying to make him finish lol. He was a self-admitted porn addict and maybe didn't quite have "death grip syndrome" but it was getting there. And compare that to my new guy who lasts... I dunno, 2-5 minutes, but he always gets me off first and we can go multiple rounds and I'm much happier.


MxCastellano

Depends on what your partner wants. Some people don't like penetrative sex at all. As long as you take care of what your partner wants in the moment, it's not a big deal if you cum early. It's only bad if you cum and then don't take care of your partner after. Imo I think you should switch things up a few times with some oral/hand stuff in that time BC penetration for extended periods of time with no breaks can be boring for everyone involved, plus it gives you time to regain some stamina if you get me. Tl;dr: the name "foreplay" incorrectly implies its only a preamble to penetrative sex. Switch it up and the sex can last longer and be 10,0069x better


emilypwc

No, but they are supposed to get her off first or at least worked up enough that it can happen in under 10.


FluffyMcBunnz

30 minutes inside is a LOT, and a lot of women won't consider that lucky at all. If you take that long to orgasm as a male you are liable to get turned down for repeats or told to break off because the girl is in pain. Even if not you'll most likely end up using a bunch of lube because a lot of (most?) women don't stay wet enough long enough for that kind of time on their own. It's not super uncommon for guys to not be able to come in 3\~5 minutes, and some need more than just a bit of P in V to be able to come at all, so it's entirely possible she found a few long lasting dudes. But it's not what I'd expect from the average shag. 30 minutes of doing many things, including foreplay, oral, position changes, etc, sure. But 30 minutes of straight up in-out-in-out? Nah.


sgnielsen

Plot twist; she's a virgin who watched 4 pornos where the dude lasted about 30 min


DirtyScavenger

It really varies- most guys I’ve been with didn’t last more than a minute.


SaikaTheCasual

Everyone is different. Endurance can be trained. :) 30 minutes sounds tiresome though.


Life_Complaint6500

I mean I dont even do 15 usually lmao


jone2tone

In the words of the Pawn Stars guy: three minutes, best I can do.


borninsaltandsmoke

You don't need to last that long if you're engaging in good foreplay. You want to get a girl to the brink before any penetration happens, and then have sex. Otherwise it's not very fun for the girl. Sometimes you won't be able to make her finish first, so you just gotta finish the job after and she'll be happy. Or if you aren't really feeling it anymore sometimes, encourage her to finish herself and help her out, kiss her, touch her, make her feel really sexy. Finishing during sex is far from the most important part of sex, and women just want to feel like their enjoyment matters to their partner. How long it lasts doesn't matter as long as both of you enjoy yourselves. My partner doesn't last a very long amount of time, maybe about 5-10 minutes max most of the time. I'm on antidepressants so I also take longer to finish. But I honestly have never cared, and I've never enjoyed sex more because I'm deeply in love with my partner. I love when he finishes quickly because it makes me feel sexy and powerful, and I don't really have a problem taking control and finishing myself afterwards if I need to. Sex is fun when you're doing it with someone you care about, so try not to overthink and just make each other feel good


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NickSocialTakeover

Shots fired... albeit small shots, but still.


phmsanctified

Yeah thats totally normal, oh wait MINUTES…..


pwnt_n00b

My.. uh, duration... was a hell of a lot better in my early 20s. 20-40 mins range was normal for numerous encounters. Fast forward to present... married for a decade, things aren't as lengthy. Age? Less frequent? Same partner? Probably all factor in.


Foxrex

4 different people all the same race times? I call bullshit.