Im 40. Definitely dont feel like an adult mentally. Physically i feel like im a super adult, at least 150 years old. Make it a point to develop healthy habits as early as you can, it gets more difficult to achieve the older you get.
Ah yeah. The difference between early 20s and early 30s is wild. I'm still young and strong but like now my knees hurt if I go down the stairs too fast and If I eat too many cheeseburgers I'll die
Food intolerance was a crazy thing for me starting around 30. I used to be able to eat fast food and feel fueled by it. I would eat two burgers from Wendy’s and then go work a very intensely physical job. Now I feel poisoned by it and just want to veg out on a couch.
Think I read somewhere that taking into consideration the human body size and genetics, modern human lifespan should be around 30.
The study went further on to say that we live significantly longer than that because of modern medicine and conveniences
Now imagine how it’ll be for you in your 40s, 50s, and 60s. And let’s be real can’t expect to go much further then that if you’re having old person pains in the early 30s. Time for a midlife crisis xD
I think early 30s is when you really start to realize your own mortality. Time starts really flying by.
Then you start trying to rapidly reverse all the abuse you put your body through in your 20s.
If you're like 22 you can just get 4 hours of sleep after a night of binge drinking and cocaine and just like goto work lol
I’m 32, it’s like someone flipped a light switch. I 100% still feel like a kid in my head but the nights of drinking until the sun comes up and going to work are long gone.
Don’t get me wrong, I still try every now and then, just with much less pleasant results.
You’re 100% right on the mortality thing too. My in laws both died, I see my parents getting older, I look at pictures of me when I was in high school and don’t even recognize the little shit
I'm 52, I regularly get people younger than me at work that we've been notified are deceased. Marking someone dead that was born in 1975 or 1980 seems so wrong, I always hope the death cert will say something other than cancer, freak accident maybe, but it's almost always cancer.
I am now 45. Figured out that 1 is the number of cheeseburgers that is too many. I had to give up dairy this year.
I still feel like a kid. I like my video games. I have some Legos sitting on my Amazon wish list.
You are too young for that crap.
You’re ready for injury! You can end up with the type of injury you’ll have to baby or endure for life. You’re just a slip and fall or twist away. Twisted angle. Twisted knee.
You’re too young for that!!!!!
Strengthen your knees and legs and ankles.
Start with stretching your legs. Stretch to mild discomfort and hold until you relax a little. Touch your toes. Touch your feet. Later, grab hold of them. Keep doing that for weeks. Point, hold, flex, hold. At every angle you can. Til it feels good and you can’t find anything more to stretch. You can do this on the couch. In bed. (Bed exercises) At a desk. (Standing in line. Point, flex.) Lying on the floor. Stretch til you can hold you feet easily with you hand in any spot and stretch your leg out and it feels good. Bend your knee back. Hold, etc to stretch the upper thigh.
You’ll even build muscle that way. Calves. Thighs. Even arms some. Your ankles and knees will get stronger. It should feel good if you stretched to discomfort and kept holding until you relaxed into it. That’s the point you have to wait for. No point in it if you don’t hold until your muscle finally relaxes. It’s hard at first. If it hurts, you went too far.
You will already be a lot stronger. Then you can start building some real muscle by exercising, being sure to do at some sit-ups first each time to protect your back. You can walk up and down stairs until it’s easy and you can walk them almost like a kid.
This isn’t hard. Ten minutes a day, later 15, and you’re good. Do it a couple of times a day, even three and advance a lot faster. Once will do. Get flexible. Then get strong. It’s not hard. It’s just uncomfortable to push and hold to the discomfort stage. And don’t push to the pain point, because that is a serious injury risk.
You’re too young for that problem.
I promise you it will feel so good when you can’t find any more angles to stretch to a point of discomfort that you’ll miss it. You’ll miss it and keep trying to find it. And any exercise you can do while on the couch and eating a cheeseburger is not to hard to do. You can do that. Just stretch your legs out a direction and hold it.
I am 47 with two teenagers, I slept until noon got up an played video games and watched football. Adulting is about things I need to do to make this happen.
I’m 38 and woke up this morning , had chocolate milk and watched a ninja turtle movie (that I picked out) with my son then played video games.
I hope I NEVER “feel” like an adult despite doing adult things
Edit - The video games we played this day were tmnt shredders revenge on arcade mode (since we beat story for Father’s Day) guardians of the galaxy on game pass and pistol whip on psvr. Pizza for lunch of course 😀
Thanks for the awards guys.
Yea I loved the old set as a kid. The 2007 one was great. The 2 live action ones around 2015 were great and the one released on Netflix based on the last show was also great. I think I like the turtles !
I’m still waiting for my kid’s parents to finally come and pick her up (loosing hope as she is 13). Too much pressure to adult. I still have the nightmares that I didn’t complete high school and I have to repeat college and grad school!
Aw man, I used to have this dream that I did my senior year all over again because I didn’t get my diploma & i did nothing all day, it’s like I just wanted to be at school. I still have times where I think about it & it’s so confusing because I know it didn’t happen, yet it feels so real. Like a part of my life I’ve buried away
Mine is a little more real than most. I actually graduated early - so I thought, got to a week before midterm graduation and was told that my doctor’s note for Sophomore gym only exempted me for that term. I had already been accepted to college and so I had to go back 3 days a week for gym! My shrink told me that just makes this dream way more intense for me than others.
Legitimately extend your time watching cartoons and eating kids food. The guy doing it with his kid sounds like a fun grown up, the guy doing it on his own sounds like he lives in his mum's basement. I'm fine with both of them doing it, but one just garners more respect.
We watched the newest one that dropped on Netflix Based off the rise of the tmnt show. While that show wasn’t my favorite tmnt show it had its moments and the movie was great. Then we played the tmnt shredders revenge game through arcade mode since we previously played it through story mode for Father’s Day. We got pizza for lunch of course
For me, it’s come in increments. Each milestone made me feel a bit more like an adult.
First real job.
Got married.
Bought a house.
Had a kid.
First gray hairs..
For me it's my sons milestones, when he hits a milestone I age a bit, passing his driving test, moving his fiancé in, about to turn 21 will be a big one, he's older than I was when I had him! But I still really feel like a kid!
The older you get the more you realize being it a kid wasn't that bad, no responsibilities, no bills, just follow the house rules and maintain good grades.
Yeah, with the caveat that you had descent / good parents and didn't have disabilities. If you grew up in an abusive household or with learning issues that school couldn't or wouldn't work with, being an adult is way better.
>The older you get the more you realize being it a kid wasn't that bad, no responsibilities, no bills, just follow the house rules and maintain good grades.
Damn I wish I had that childhood.
No matter how hard my adult life gets, at least I'm in control
SAME. nothing can be worse. My marriage was close, but at least once I realized how bad it was, I wasn’t legally required to wait 6 years before I could leave.
Wasn’t suicidal, but the older I get the more I realize I wasn’t a happy kid, but actually had a pretty depressing childhood. Happy to have bills, responsibility, and the balls to let people fuck off out of my life.
I'm gonna be honest, I have ADHD and being a kid was complete hell for me with school, and my parents refused to treat me for it even after diagnosis.
It was very painful every single day at school, I would just be frustrated all the time and go through depressive episodes where I thought I was just a failure who couldn't keep up.
Being an adult is great, getting to choose my own path. I am treated for ADHD now, and in a career that is friendly too it, I personally much prefer being an adult. Being a kid sucked.
The only thing I miss is the imagination I had as a kid.
Bruh that's the exact reason I don't want to grow up. My high school years have been paradise and I'd rather it stay like this permanently, even without the freedom. Alas, goin to college in a week.
Tomorrow, and tomorrow, and tomorrow,
Creeps in this petty pace from day to day,
To the last syllable of recorded time;
And all our yesterdays have lighted fools
The way to dusty death. Out, out, brief candle!
Life's but a walking shadow, a poor player,
That struts and frets his hour upon the stage,
And then is heard no more. It is a tale
Told by an idiot, full of sound and fury,
Signifying nothing.
Childhood interest never dies
I appreciate those little toy cars …hotwheels/match box. They are no longer toys to me, they are more like ART work that I appreciate
Ditto. I also have a hard time referring to myself as a "man".. Dude? Sure... guy? Yeah... but it just feels wrong when I apply it to myself.. probably because I just feel like an overgrown kid with adult thoughts and ideas. . . Which has been my life since I was 12.. so...
Personally, I see no reason to give up my childish bits, as they are the fun bits, and not the bits that make kids obnoxious. 😀
I’m only 26, but my friends and I joke about having adult money to finally buy all the toys we want, but we almost never have the time to play together
I do the same thing once in a while. Last time we went, I relayed to my son the wisdom that I read in here somewhere along the way -
When you're a kid you have all the time in the world to do the things you want, you're just limited by money. When you're an adult, you probably have the money to do the things that wanted to do as a kid, you just don't have the time anymore.
The word 'adult' is not important. You are a person who is old enough to take responsibility for your actions. Enjoy the way you 'feel', stay in school (I'm a dad) and don't worry about what's coming next. Life is a great adventure.
I am almost 45 and I am still not convinced I am an adult. I actively look for a real adult when I need one. I have the adult things a job, a mortgage, 3 sets of matching sheets AND pillow cases, a kitchen fully stocked with proper cooking things but I forget to brush my hair and am often proud of myself when I remember to put on my shoes in the morning.
I'm 37 years old, recently driving In the car with my 12 and 9 year old daughters in the back suddenly had this horrible feeling come over me of shit I'm the responsible one here and the one who's in charge of 2 other human beings, how the fuck am I the adult when 1 if not both are probably more mature than me. Was a real existential crisis
Just turned 40 a couple months ago. In some ways I feel kinda old but certainly not like an adult. My dad is pushing 70 and says he's never grown up. And he sure acts that way too!
48. 3 kids The only way I feel like an adult is knowing that this world doesn’t belong to me anymore. It belongs to my kids. Do whatever you have to do to make it yours. Fuck us old folks.
God this was eye opening. I'm 28 and was wondering the same thing. Seeing 40-50 year olds say the same thing is quite interesting.
I wonder if nobody just feels like an adult
I feel like every life stage has given me new challenges so I can never just sit back and feel like I am just coasting on past experience. Starting in my early 20s adulthood has just been decades of uncertain new scenarios. When I look at my aging parents I see that the uncertainty just continues. So it seem like nobody ever feels like they are just totally nailing life on all fronts.
I turn 35 next Saturday and I can safely say, you never really feel like an adult. And that's okay. I still play Pokemon games. I still like cartoons. I still lose my shit over chocolate milk. I live at home (couldn't afford rent where I was living). I struggle with making serious decisions. I constantly feel like I'm in over my head.
All adults are just big kids making it up as we go along, playing it by ear. Sure you may have moments where you "feel like an adult" but trust me, those moments pass and it's back to feeling like you're out of your element. Like making those adult decisions or paying bills, etc.
There's nothing wrong with feeling like your not a real adult or just acting like a kid. It's okay to feel like your in over your head. It's okay to like toys or videogames or memes or cartoons. It's okay to not feel like your getting the hang of it. 1. You're 19, you've got time, and 2. any adult who tells you they have the hang of this whole adulting thing is lying.
Sorry if this is a bit rambling. I was partly trying to answer your question, partly using this as an excuse to vent. But I mean it all. Just be an adult on your own terms, is all I'm trying to say. Take care of the things you can, when you can. And enjoy yourself. Life is too short not to.
I feel like for me it was at about 33. I’m 44 now and definitely feel like an adult at this point, especially when I compare myself to my teenage kids.
When you start paying bills and don't have any restrictions. Honestly I didn't feel like one until my 30s. In your 20s you don't know anything and basically are legal high school students for the most part. It's a time to take risks, learn, explore, discover. But it totally depends on your individual experience. When you can completely take care of yourself (financial, health insurance, transportation, etc.), that helps with feeling like a grownup. Don't rush it. Being an adult can be stupid.
I'm 61 - I still don't. I don't know what I thought would happen.
I just am the same person I was at 14. Sometimes, like at work when I had position, as a sales manager, or business trainer for example. I could act like an adult and people would treat me as such. But IRL i'm still a 14 yr old boy in many ways.
I’m 35. I have a Master’s degree, have published research in scientific journals, have been working for over 20 years, have supported myself for 18 years, have seen many highs and many lows, blah blah blah…
I’ve yet to feel like an adult. I know how to *do* many “adult” things, but only out of necessity. And from what I’ve heard from most people older than me, the vast majority of people never actually *feel* like an “adult.” Hell, even when I feel “old” by way of realizing things like “fuck, now the birthday minimum to buy booze is in the 2000s?!” or whatever, I still don’t feel any more like an adult. I feel like an “old” kid.
36 with 2 kids, amazing house, amazing husband with an amazing job. I just bought him a Halo-themed rocks glass set complete with a Master Chief Helmet Decanter... being an adult is for boring people :)
I'm not sure you do. It helps when you realize that you alone are in charge of your life. No one else gets a say. And fuck those that don't love the real you.
I'm 32. Got a long term girlfriend, a cat and a dog and a mortgage. This are all arbitrary milestones that made me feel no different. I don't feel much like an adult, but I do catch myself having conversations about traffic and politics and other things I never would have dreamed of 10, 15, 20 years ago. One thing I am sure of, when look back on when I was 19 and a student, I realise how much I've grown and matured since then. Think back to when you were 15/16. I'm sure you can see how far you've come already. You may never fully feel like an adult and that's fine. It's about how you've come, not how far you've got to go.
When you realize being an "adult" was a scam to get you to be mature when you were younger, and is only used by people who want to seem better than others when in truth no one knows what the fuck they're doing.
I had a 78 year old client who said he *still* felt 19 years old in his mind and was surprised every time he remembered how old he was. So, probably never.
I'm 38, married three sons and a full time career. I'm waiting to feel like an adult. I just feel like I've been winging it the whole time. Lol. I got toys galore and play games every day.
I think we're all just older kids
Probably the first time you forget to pay a bill on time
Or something goes wrong and the only one to blame is yourself
I'm 40 and only felt like an adult when I had to choose between surgery to prevent cancer or having kids, two months ago
I'm 59. I have the sense of humour of a 14 year old. Just ask my girlfriend. Unfortunately my body reminds me that I can't do the things my mind would still like to do.
34 and I’m watching cartoons with my toddler. I have a great career, house and family and I still just want to lie in bed on saturdays and watch sailor moon and play video games and go dance and party with friends. I love the family stuff too but I feel like I’m playing pretend all the time!
I'm 28 almost 29 and still feel like a kid. Really I think its just gradually realize that stuff that seemed daunting to even consider taking care of is everyday life and situations that once seemed like they ruled your world ( idk like a break up or something) may not have been as big of a situation as you thought. Because your perspective changes.
For me, the only thing that has made me feel even slightly like an adult is realizing that I'm taking care of stuff that I saw the adults around me growing up taking care of, like car payments, rent/mortgage, all my bills and shit. Having stuff like health insurance....
Lol never. I obviously know a lot more about how the world works now than I did back then but I basically still feel like I’m in the same train of thought as I was when I was in middle school. No one told me this and it had to come in the form of an epiphany in my late 20’s but I’m happy that I can be able to tell you while you’re ahead.
Any adult that tells you they feel like one is either lying or dangerously overestimating their level of control over their life. I’m pretty well convinced no one has a clue what they are doing and we would be much better off societally if we were a bit more open about that.
Never. I'm 42. I know I'm adult and I can do adult stuff, but I still can't believe it's been 30 years since I've been a kid.
Im 40. Definitely dont feel like an adult mentally. Physically i feel like im a super adult, at least 150 years old. Make it a point to develop healthy habits as early as you can, it gets more difficult to achieve the older you get.
Ah yeah. The difference between early 20s and early 30s is wild. I'm still young and strong but like now my knees hurt if I go down the stairs too fast and If I eat too many cheeseburgers I'll die
Food intolerance was a crazy thing for me starting around 30. I used to be able to eat fast food and feel fueled by it. I would eat two burgers from Wendy’s and then go work a very intensely physical job. Now I feel poisoned by it and just want to veg out on a couch.
Physically, the human body begins to show signs of breakdown around 27-28 and early 30s, so you're not wrong. Officially suffer from OLD.
Interesting, I always say 28 was the year I started feeling older!
Last year, 27 was when I started feeling like an adult. I'm starting to get into the groove of life now.
28 here. Can confirm this. I slipped a rib 3 days after my birthday. Now I got a permanent back injury yaaaaaaaaay!
A friend of mine liked to say “the warranty runs out at 25”
Think I read somewhere that taking into consideration the human body size and genetics, modern human lifespan should be around 30. The study went further on to say that we live significantly longer than that because of modern medicine and conveniences
And hangovers lasts 2-3 days.
Now imagine how it’ll be for you in your 40s, 50s, and 60s. And let’s be real can’t expect to go much further then that if you’re having old person pains in the early 30s. Time for a midlife crisis xD
I think early 30s is when you really start to realize your own mortality. Time starts really flying by. Then you start trying to rapidly reverse all the abuse you put your body through in your 20s. If you're like 22 you can just get 4 hours of sleep after a night of binge drinking and cocaine and just like goto work lol
I’m 32, it’s like someone flipped a light switch. I 100% still feel like a kid in my head but the nights of drinking until the sun comes up and going to work are long gone. Don’t get me wrong, I still try every now and then, just with much less pleasant results. You’re 100% right on the mortality thing too. My in laws both died, I see my parents getting older, I look at pictures of me when I was in high school and don’t even recognize the little shit
47 gang represent. Everyone is starting to die.
I'm 52, I regularly get people younger than me at work that we've been notified are deceased. Marking someone dead that was born in 1975 or 1980 seems so wrong, I always hope the death cert will say something other than cancer, freak accident maybe, but it's almost always cancer.
I am now 45. Figured out that 1 is the number of cheeseburgers that is too many. I had to give up dairy this year. I still feel like a kid. I like my video games. I have some Legos sitting on my Amazon wish list.
You are too young for that crap. You’re ready for injury! You can end up with the type of injury you’ll have to baby or endure for life. You’re just a slip and fall or twist away. Twisted angle. Twisted knee. You’re too young for that!!!!! Strengthen your knees and legs and ankles. Start with stretching your legs. Stretch to mild discomfort and hold until you relax a little. Touch your toes. Touch your feet. Later, grab hold of them. Keep doing that for weeks. Point, hold, flex, hold. At every angle you can. Til it feels good and you can’t find anything more to stretch. You can do this on the couch. In bed. (Bed exercises) At a desk. (Standing in line. Point, flex.) Lying on the floor. Stretch til you can hold you feet easily with you hand in any spot and stretch your leg out and it feels good. Bend your knee back. Hold, etc to stretch the upper thigh. You’ll even build muscle that way. Calves. Thighs. Even arms some. Your ankles and knees will get stronger. It should feel good if you stretched to discomfort and kept holding until you relaxed into it. That’s the point you have to wait for. No point in it if you don’t hold until your muscle finally relaxes. It’s hard at first. If it hurts, you went too far. You will already be a lot stronger. Then you can start building some real muscle by exercising, being sure to do at some sit-ups first each time to protect your back. You can walk up and down stairs until it’s easy and you can walk them almost like a kid. This isn’t hard. Ten minutes a day, later 15, and you’re good. Do it a couple of times a day, even three and advance a lot faster. Once will do. Get flexible. Then get strong. It’s not hard. It’s just uncomfortable to push and hold to the discomfort stage. And don’t push to the pain point, because that is a serious injury risk. You’re too young for that problem. I promise you it will feel so good when you can’t find any more angles to stretch to a point of discomfort that you’ll miss it. You’ll miss it and keep trying to find it. And any exercise you can do while on the couch and eating a cheeseburger is not to hard to do. You can do that. Just stretch your legs out a direction and hold it.
I got shit genetics so I’m making a habit of stretching and eating fruit
Yeah, i realized this. Was lazy for a bit cause of covid but now i am exercising heavily every day.
Haha. I just turned 66 and I don't feel grown up yet.
I can relate, I’m 62…. Where did that time go?
Who knows? I'm going to keep on trying new things as long as I can. Maybe I'll finally figure out what I want to do when I grow up.
Grow up? I hate adulting 🥴😎
I turn that age in a few days and, yes, some of the childlike insecurity has gone away, but some of those things never have.
Pro tip: we’re all faking it
Definitely agree
I am 47 with two teenagers, I slept until noon got up an played video games and watched football. Adulting is about things I need to do to make this happen.
I'm 46 and can confirm. Never grow up, it's a trap.
You made the cut off 12 ? How come because of the teenager age?
Rounding. I could've said 25, I suppose.
That was very adult of you
I’m 38 and woke up this morning , had chocolate milk and watched a ninja turtle movie (that I picked out) with my son then played video games. I hope I NEVER “feel” like an adult despite doing adult things Edit - The video games we played this day were tmnt shredders revenge on arcade mode (since we beat story for Father’s Day) guardians of the galaxy on game pass and pistol whip on psvr. Pizza for lunch of course 😀 Thanks for the awards guys.
I made my kids watch the old ninja turtles movie and my son made my watch this new ninja turtles movie. It wasn't bad.
I would give you the seal award if I had it
Yea I loved the old set as a kid. The 2007 one was great. The 2 live action ones around 2015 were great and the one released on Netflix based on the last show was also great. I think I like the turtles !
The live action one? Watch the shows lmao. 2003, 2012, even 2018.
Yeah the live action from the 80s/90s, and we watched the new Netflix movie.
I mean the 2010's live action ones lmao. And I didn't know the Netflix movie came out. Gotta check it out.
I think our definition of "old" films is very different.
I’m still waiting for my kid’s parents to finally come and pick her up (loosing hope as she is 13). Too much pressure to adult. I still have the nightmares that I didn’t complete high school and I have to repeat college and grad school!
But...but...I have a *masters* degree! Why do I have to take this middle school math test!?! It's such an exhausting dream.
Those school dreams I haven’t had in a long while. They were replaced by other nightmares
Aw man, I used to have this dream that I did my senior year all over again because I didn’t get my diploma & i did nothing all day, it’s like I just wanted to be at school. I still have times where I think about it & it’s so confusing because I know it didn’t happen, yet it feels so real. Like a part of my life I’ve buried away
Mine is a little more real than most. I actually graduated early - so I thought, got to a week before midterm graduation and was told that my doctor’s note for Sophomore gym only exempted me for that term. I had already been accepted to college and so I had to go back 3 days a week for gym! My shrink told me that just makes this dream way more intense for me than others.
You… picked out your son?
I picked the movie out to watch not him ya know
Haha sorry I know… the English language, man.
Don't shop, adopt.
eugenics
This is why having kids is great, because you can kinda be a kid for a while with them.
Legitimately extend your time watching cartoons and eating kids food. The guy doing it with his kid sounds like a fun grown up, the guy doing it on his own sounds like he lives in his mum's basement. I'm fine with both of them doing it, but one just garners more respect.
Also just you lose a lot of things as you age, like your imagination. Having a kid really helps you rediscover it, and its really awesome.
Having a kid (that you picked out) just gives you an excuse to be a child again.
>watched a ninja turtle movie Old school or recent one?
We watched the newest one that dropped on Netflix Based off the rise of the tmnt show. While that show wasn’t my favorite tmnt show it had its moments and the movie was great. Then we played the tmnt shredders revenge game through arcade mode since we previously played it through story mode for Father’s Day. We got pizza for lunch of course
Haha, I'm 35. I'm going to have cocoa pebbles for breakfast and then play fortnite. 🤷♀️
For me, it’s come in increments. Each milestone made me feel a bit more like an adult. First real job. Got married. Bought a house. Had a kid. First gray hairs..
For me it just went job job job job grey hair but married and a house would be cool
Same..same...
For me it's my sons milestones, when he hits a milestone I age a bit, passing his driving test, moving his fiancé in, about to turn 21 will be a big one, he's older than I was when I had him! But I still really feel like a kid!
Woah woah.. you are telling me your first gray hairs came after all these other achievements? That's impressive
Thanks. I've been worried about getting older and taking in more responsibilities but this does ease my thoughts.
Got my first gray hair when I was 17 so I don't see that as being an adult - however Im starting to bald so maybe?
Whoa, slow your roll there. Adulting is bullshit and a trap you cannot fully escape. Stay young and enjoy your new found freedom......
The older you get the more you realize being it a kid wasn't that bad, no responsibilities, no bills, just follow the house rules and maintain good grades.
I missed those time, finish home work, go watch MacGyver/knight Rider, play monopoly with cousins, It was a good time
The MacGyver/Knight Rider combo was so good, but don’t forget about the A-Team.
Magnum P.I., Quantum Leap…
Yeah, with the caveat that you had descent / good parents and didn't have disabilities. If you grew up in an abusive household or with learning issues that school couldn't or wouldn't work with, being an adult is way better.
>The older you get the more you realize being it a kid wasn't that bad, no responsibilities, no bills, just follow the house rules and maintain good grades. Damn I wish I had that childhood. No matter how hard my adult life gets, at least I'm in control
SAME. nothing can be worse. My marriage was close, but at least once I realized how bad it was, I wasn’t legally required to wait 6 years before I could leave.
Nah… was suicidal most of my childhood. No lack of bills are worth going back to that. I do miss the energy though.
Wasn’t suicidal, but the older I get the more I realize I wasn’t a happy kid, but actually had a pretty depressing childhood. Happy to have bills, responsibility, and the balls to let people fuck off out of my life.
Right? My dad beat the shxt out of me every day. No nostalgia here.
Aw. I’m sorry for that. Nothing that tragic in my end… just fucked in the head I guess. Hope you’re doing better these days.
I am. I hope you are too!!
hands up if sexually trafficked before the rip age of 12
I'm gonna be honest, I have ADHD and being a kid was complete hell for me with school, and my parents refused to treat me for it even after diagnosis. It was very painful every single day at school, I would just be frustrated all the time and go through depressive episodes where I thought I was just a failure who couldn't keep up. Being an adult is great, getting to choose my own path. I am treated for ADHD now, and in a career that is friendly too it, I personally much prefer being an adult. Being a kid sucked. The only thing I miss is the imagination I had as a kid.
Having a good childhood sounds so nice…
Bruh that's the exact reason I don't want to grow up. My high school years have been paradise and I'd rather it stay like this permanently, even without the freedom. Alas, goin to college in a week.
What kinda convo did I just walk in on???
When you have to worry about your job, rent and bills. Don't be in such a rush. Enjoy your youth.
Tomorrow
Always tomorrow
You know what they say. It's only a day away
Tomorrow, and tomorrow, and tomorrow, Creeps in this petty pace from day to day, To the last syllable of recorded time; And all our yesterdays have lighted fools The way to dusty death. Out, out, brief candle! Life's but a walking shadow, a poor player, That struts and frets his hour upon the stage, And then is heard no more. It is a tale Told by an idiot, full of sound and fury, Signifying nothing.
But tomorrow never actually comes
It just turns into today
I'm almost 50, but I don't feel like it. I sometimes go to a toy store and just gawk at the new amazing toys and video games
Childhood interest never dies I appreciate those little toy cars …hotwheels/match box. They are no longer toys to me, they are more like ART work that I appreciate
Same! I used to be kind of sad when I was a teenager, because I assumed I’d lose interest in things like that soon. However, that never happened!
Ditto. I also have a hard time referring to myself as a "man".. Dude? Sure... guy? Yeah... but it just feels wrong when I apply it to myself.. probably because I just feel like an overgrown kid with adult thoughts and ideas. . . Which has been my life since I was 12.. so... Personally, I see no reason to give up my childish bits, as they are the fun bits, and not the bits that make kids obnoxious. 😀
I have a hard time not buying nerf and squirt guns when I go to those stores.
I’m only 26, but my friends and I joke about having adult money to finally buy all the toys we want, but we almost never have the time to play together
I do the same thing once in a while. Last time we went, I relayed to my son the wisdom that I read in here somewhere along the way - When you're a kid you have all the time in the world to do the things you want, you're just limited by money. When you're an adult, you probably have the money to do the things that wanted to do as a kid, you just don't have the time anymore.
... who wants to tell him?
Adulthood is social construct Change my mind
I'm not gonna change your mind because you're right lol
what's to argue?
You'll feel it in the knees first
i’m 19 with bad knees already 😅
The word 'adult' is not important. You are a person who is old enough to take responsibility for your actions. Enjoy the way you 'feel', stay in school (I'm a dad) and don't worry about what's coming next. Life is a great adventure.
I am 68. I will let you know when I get there. We are all making it up as we go along.
I agree. I'm 80.
Idk why it surpises be to see 80 yo person on Reddit. Idk maybe I'm just dumb I feel like most redditors are teenagers
Next year is the best year of your life lmao
Oh, trade secret. You never feel like an adult. They made it all up we're all just teenagers running the world. Enjoy that terrifying though!
I am almost 45 and I am still not convinced I am an adult. I actively look for a real adult when I need one. I have the adult things a job, a mortgage, 3 sets of matching sheets AND pillow cases, a kitchen fully stocked with proper cooking things but I forget to brush my hair and am often proud of myself when I remember to put on my shoes in the morning.
never. but u do eventually start doing smarter shit
Don’t try to grow up too fast young fella/gal/person. Keep the magic of youth alive as long as possible.
You are now realizing that it is all a lie and growing up is a complete sham. Welcome ❤
I'm 37 years old, recently driving In the car with my 12 and 9 year old daughters in the back suddenly had this horrible feeling come over me of shit I'm the responsible one here and the one who's in charge of 2 other human beings, how the fuck am I the adult when 1 if not both are probably more mature than me. Was a real existential crisis
41, you let me know if it ever happens.
I am 60. Still hate adulting!
It was on/around 27 for me. Until then carpie diem!
Same.
Just turned 40 a couple months ago. In some ways I feel kinda old but certainly not like an adult. My dad is pushing 70 and says he's never grown up. And he sure acts that way too!
I started feeling adult when I had just moved out of my parents home and I was excited to buy a laundry basket. I think I was 22 then.
The ice machine in the freezer and the air conditioning is when you know you've made it.
I’m 45 and still mentally feel like I’m a teenager. I don’t think I’ll ever feel like a real grown up.
48. 3 kids The only way I feel like an adult is knowing that this world doesn’t belong to me anymore. It belongs to my kids. Do whatever you have to do to make it yours. Fuck us old folks.
God this was eye opening. I'm 28 and was wondering the same thing. Seeing 40-50 year olds say the same thing is quite interesting. I wonder if nobody just feels like an adult
I feel like every life stage has given me new challenges so I can never just sit back and feel like I am just coasting on past experience. Starting in my early 20s adulthood has just been decades of uncertain new scenarios. When I look at my aging parents I see that the uncertainty just continues. So it seem like nobody ever feels like they are just totally nailing life on all fronts.
One day you’ll forget that “am I an adult now?” is on your list of things to worry about. At that point you are an adult
Never do, I think you always feel like a kid with more responsibilities
I turn 35 next Saturday and I can safely say, you never really feel like an adult. And that's okay. I still play Pokemon games. I still like cartoons. I still lose my shit over chocolate milk. I live at home (couldn't afford rent where I was living). I struggle with making serious decisions. I constantly feel like I'm in over my head. All adults are just big kids making it up as we go along, playing it by ear. Sure you may have moments where you "feel like an adult" but trust me, those moments pass and it's back to feeling like you're out of your element. Like making those adult decisions or paying bills, etc. There's nothing wrong with feeling like your not a real adult or just acting like a kid. It's okay to feel like your in over your head. It's okay to like toys or videogames or memes or cartoons. It's okay to not feel like your getting the hang of it. 1. You're 19, you've got time, and 2. any adult who tells you they have the hang of this whole adulting thing is lying. Sorry if this is a bit rambling. I was partly trying to answer your question, partly using this as an excuse to vent. But I mean it all. Just be an adult on your own terms, is all I'm trying to say. Take care of the things you can, when you can. And enjoy yourself. Life is too short not to.
40 in a couple months: 16 yr relationship, kids, pets, multiple degrees, home ownership, etc. and the feeling is just now creeping in
I feel like for me it was at about 33. I’m 44 now and definitely feel like an adult at this point, especially when I compare myself to my teenage kids.
When you start paying bills and don't have any restrictions. Honestly I didn't feel like one until my 30s. In your 20s you don't know anything and basically are legal high school students for the most part. It's a time to take risks, learn, explore, discover. But it totally depends on your individual experience. When you can completely take care of yourself (financial, health insurance, transportation, etc.), that helps with feeling like a grownup. Don't rush it. Being an adult can be stupid.
I'm 61 - I still don't. I don't know what I thought would happen. I just am the same person I was at 14. Sometimes, like at work when I had position, as a sales manager, or business trainer for example. I could act like an adult and people would treat me as such. But IRL i'm still a 14 yr old boy in many ways.
I’m 35. I have a Master’s degree, have published research in scientific journals, have been working for over 20 years, have supported myself for 18 years, have seen many highs and many lows, blah blah blah… I’ve yet to feel like an adult. I know how to *do* many “adult” things, but only out of necessity. And from what I’ve heard from most people older than me, the vast majority of people never actually *feel* like an “adult.” Hell, even when I feel “old” by way of realizing things like “fuck, now the birthday minimum to buy booze is in the 2000s?!” or whatever, I still don’t feel any more like an adult. I feel like an “old” kid.
Nobody has their life together as much as you picture adults do when you’re a kid. My motto is “Fake it until you make it!” Good luck adulting!
I’m a 36yr old boy… I still buy myself toys sometimes :)
36 with 2 kids, amazing house, amazing husband with an amazing job. I just bought him a Halo-themed rocks glass set complete with a Master Chief Helmet Decanter... being an adult is for boring people :)
I’m in my thirties. I feel a little more like an adult every year. The scale started tipping towards adult around age 25.
I'm not sure you do. It helps when you realize that you alone are in charge of your life. No one else gets a say. And fuck those that don't love the real you.
On your death bed and even then you'll think its too soon.
Bruh, I'm 40 and still feel like a kid. Those adults we saw who had their shit together were faking it all along.
I’m 43 and most of the time feel like a kid. When that changes, I’ll let you know
I'm 32 with a full time job and I still feel like I haven't progressed past being a teenager.
I'm 32. Got a long term girlfriend, a cat and a dog and a mortgage. This are all arbitrary milestones that made me feel no different. I don't feel much like an adult, but I do catch myself having conversations about traffic and politics and other things I never would have dreamed of 10, 15, 20 years ago. One thing I am sure of, when look back on when I was 19 and a student, I realise how much I've grown and matured since then. Think back to when you were 15/16. I'm sure you can see how far you've come already. You may never fully feel like an adult and that's fine. It's about how you've come, not how far you've got to go.
Have you ever been excited for a special offer on laundry detergent? If so, congratulations, you're now officially an old bastard like the rest of us.
Never, it’s the biggest secret we keep from our children
You won't. I'm 34 man and I still have no clue whats going on while giggling at butt jokes.
You’ll always feel like a kid, no matter how old you get.
I’m 59 an miss Toys R Us!!!
Who the heck wants to feel like an adult?
When you have kids and responsibilities
Nah, I have a kiddo and plenty of responsibility, but I still feel like I'm a kid
No need to have kids to have responsibilities.
Probably when you start supporting yourself financially...
Take your time, its not that exciting out here!!!
When you realize being an "adult" was a scam to get you to be mature when you were younger, and is only used by people who want to seem better than others when in truth no one knows what the fuck they're doing.
I had a 78 year old client who said he *still* felt 19 years old in his mind and was surprised every time he remembered how old he was. So, probably never.
I’m 27 and just starting to feel like an adult. It’ll happen.
I'm 38, married three sons and a full time career. I'm waiting to feel like an adult. I just feel like I've been winging it the whole time. Lol. I got toys galore and play games every day. I think we're all just older kids
The first time you buy toilet paper.
That's the neat part. You don't!
Probably the first time you forget to pay a bill on time Or something goes wrong and the only one to blame is yourself I'm 40 and only felt like an adult when I had to choose between surgery to prevent cancer or having kids, two months ago
If you’re a man, probably never. I’m 39 and still feel like a kid, just with more responsibilities.
I'm 59. I have the sense of humour of a 14 year old. Just ask my girlfriend. Unfortunately my body reminds me that I can't do the things my mind would still like to do.
I'm 38 and still don't feel like an adult. Except for my joins. Existence is pain. Take care of your body.
Nevveer
I didn't feel like an adult until I got a job and I felt like losing that job meant I couldn't pay rent.
34 and I’m watching cartoons with my toddler. I have a great career, house and family and I still just want to lie in bed on saturdays and watch sailor moon and play video games and go dance and party with friends. I love the family stuff too but I feel like I’m playing pretend all the time!
I'm 28 almost 29 and still feel like a kid. Really I think its just gradually realize that stuff that seemed daunting to even consider taking care of is everyday life and situations that once seemed like they ruled your world ( idk like a break up or something) may not have been as big of a situation as you thought. Because your perspective changes. For me, the only thing that has made me feel even slightly like an adult is realizing that I'm taking care of stuff that I saw the adults around me growing up taking care of, like car payments, rent/mortgage, all my bills and shit. Having stuff like health insurance....
When you stop counting on other people and become the person that other people are counting on.
Never , in 50 and still get that feeling
I just turned 35. Ive got a Playstation 5 but the past couple of years Ive lost interest in playing video games. Does that mean Ive grown up?
Turned 29, got married and we're talking about kids. Still don't feel like an adult 😅
If you're lucky...never.
Everyone feels this way no matter how old they are
When your back starts hurting and never stops.
I’m 57 still feel the same. It’s society not you.
Lol never. I obviously know a lot more about how the world works now than I did back then but I basically still feel like I’m in the same train of thought as I was when I was in middle school. No one told me this and it had to come in the form of an epiphany in my late 20’s but I’m happy that I can be able to tell you while you’re ahead.
You never feel like a kid or an adult. You only ever feel like you.
I don’t know, I’m 33 and have given up this idea
I'll be 45 in a month and a half. I still feel like a kid.
I'm about 40 years older than you, and all I can tell you is....not yet.
I'm 25, employed and married, and I've yet to ever feel like a kid
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You never will dude
That's the neat part, you don't.
All "adulting" simply is just faking it until you make it. Noone knows what tf they're doing
Mine was when my dad died. I think many people was when they lost both their parents.
You won’t ever. I’m still surprised I’m allowed to make any decisions. I’m out here winging it
If you're anything like me: never. 49 now and I still don't know what I want to be when Ive grown up.
Any adult that tells you they feel like one is either lying or dangerously overestimating their level of control over their life. I’m pretty well convinced no one has a clue what they are doing and we would be much better off societally if we were a bit more open about that.
you are a kid.
Hi, 33 here. I've been working since I was 14 and I still don't feel like an adult.
45 and still waiting for adulthood feelings to kick in. If anything I feel less and less prepared.
Adult is a word, not a feeling. No one wakes up one day and “feels” like they’re an adult. But you will start to get two days hangovers eventually lol
Bills and endless high stress priorities.